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fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 21 (view)

Bugging your ex Posted: 12/1/2006 7:05:40 PM
And sometimes I do think he'll want me back if I keep sleeping with him The question here is why the hell would you want him? He's bailed on you repeatedly, left for someone else, and now uses you to fulfill all his needs without actually giving you anything in return. I won't say you're a dumb 23 year old blonde but I will say you have a lot to learn. He will never truly commit to you while you give him everything he wants. He knows you will always be there, cook, watch the kids, sex whatever. Why would he ruin such a good thing with commitment? Where do I find a woman like this????? javascript:smilie('')

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 53 (view)

Death vs Divorce Posted: 12/1/2006 6:49:07 PM
What an odd question. First off death is permanent, that person is gone, taken away, suddenly possibly? Something you have no control over. Divorce on the other hand is a decision, it may not be a mutual decision however it was made by at least one party. If the party of the first part (the "divorcee") still loves the party of the second part (the divorcer) I would think then that they would not wish that person dead instead of just out of their life right? It is entirely possible that over time a relationship could continue, albeit possibly not on the level that the party of this part wishes. I'm confusing myself. On the other hand, in a situation like mine, my ex and I get along better now than we have in years. She's a great person, a good mother, and I love her to death, just not as a wife. Now she is someone else's problem. WOO HOO!

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 45 (view)

what scares guys off Posted: 12/1/2006 2:03:35 PM
An abbreviated list Women who are.... Controlling Possessive Trying to change me to be their ideal instead of who I am Looking for a father for their children gold diggers Moving to fast/ pressuring for commitment too soon Jealous Deceitful PETA members That's enough for now but I could go on for hours... funny thing is... I really don't scare easily

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 26 (view)

Cheesy Porn Music Posted: 12/1/2006 1:57:44 PM
Music? I suppose next you'll try to tell me there's dialogue and a story line too? Seriously though, porn music was the main reason for the invention of the mute button!

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 13 (view)

Bugging your ex Posted: 12/1/2006 1:51:05 PM
Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free? Not saying you're a cow... just a figure of speech.

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

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What is it with ladies? Posted: 12/1/2006 1:45:45 PM
Do you need to be rejected in writing to know you've been rejected? I mean, I do understand what you're saying about a little common courtesy but I think part of the draw of these internet dating sites is the fact that it's pretty much totally anonymous until you change that and you can pick and choose who you talk to.

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 13 (view)

Dating a guy paying child support/alimony? Posted: 12/1/2006 1:42:38 PM
BellyDancer, In some state the converse is true also, if the woman remarries and her household income increases the man can actually get the support reduced. Artista, Did I understand you correctly. You wouldn't get serious with a man who DOESN'T have custody of his children? Are you talking full custody or just some kind of custody/ visitation? Unfortunately we still live in a world where the court system (at least around here) favors giving custody to the mother.

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

What to get her? Posted: 12/1/2006 1:20:13 PM
How about a subscription to the jelly of the month club. It's the gift that keeps on giving all year 'round

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 16 (view)

tired of crying... Posted: 12/1/2006 1:12:58 PM
Guys suck! And guys like those give us all a bad name. Don't let them get to you. Move on, be glad it's over and you found out now that he wasn't the right guy and hope the next one isn't a horses ass.

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

Did you ever wonder, Men? Posted: 12/1/2006 1:10:03 PM
Because I like to play devil's advocate. Ever consider that maybe this guy is in one of those relationships where the wife is just no longer interested in him? Maybe there is just no affection from her. (This can happen ya know). Maybe he figures he can go out and get that else where and still remain married so as not to destroy the family and traumatize his children. It is also not inconceivable that he loves her despite the lack of affection. Affection IS a basic human need. Could be he's not interested in her, or he just wants to whore around too. In conclusion... I have no answers but had fun rambling on here.... thanks

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 928 (view)

Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 9/6/2006 8:31:25 AM
Wow long thread so I didn't read the whole thing, this may be redundant but I'll say it anyway. This is the internet. People can be anyone they want. I could be a 60 year old woman using a masculine login name and post a pic of some schmuck I find on the net. Just because you have a pic posted with your profile doesn't guarantee that's you. The pic could also be from when you were 50 pounds lighter or heavier or 20 years younger. I don't have a pic attached to my profile but have no problem providing one to those who ask. I have my own reasons for not having there. I would be leery of someone who wouldn't provide one if you started talking to them, but to entirely avoid a profile that you find interesting just because there's no pic? That, to me, seems like you are really limiting your options. I'm of the mindset that you can never have to many friends, so even if I meet someone here and there's no physical attraction that doesn't mean that we won't have things in common and develop a friendship.

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

Is it okay to say no sex before love? Posted: 9/6/2006 8:07:20 AM
Nos800 and rascal.... thanks for proving chivalry IS pretty much dead. You're a credit to our gender.... geesh.... I must be getting old

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 23 (view)

help guys Posted: 9/4/2006 9:59:02 AM
Ok so being a guy in a similar situation I have to throw in my two cents. My ex and I still live together, although it is her who is not financially able to leave at this point. Our situation is very amicable and I refuse to throw her out on the street. She has a BF and me, well... I'm looking. As for my children, noone will ever come before them. Your profile says you have no children so the concept that kids ALWAYS come first may be difficult for you to grasp. You will always be second best to a guy who has kids (at least one who takes care of them and is a REAL father to them). If you need to be number one you may want to limit your options to guys with no children. A guy who has kids and makes you number one is probably not someone you would want to settle down with and start a family, assuming that is your ultimate goal. Good luck

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

Is this an abusive person and what do i do?? Posted: 9/3/2006 8:42:44 PM
Run, run far and run fast. His possesivness will only escalate and who knows how far. You are already a prisoner in this relationship.

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 23 (view)

GUYS: Why the fascination with auto racing??? Posted: 9/3/2006 8:12:47 PM
Drive fast, turn left..... Talk about edge of your seat excitement. I don't get it.

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

Is it okay to say no sex before love? Posted: 9/3/2006 8:10:02 PM
Ok so maybe I'm a bit old fashioned but it seems to me that if you are looking for something long term having sex without any kind of emotional attachment defeats the purpose. It just starts a relationship that is built upon sex. in my experience those types of relationships, although fulfilling in their own way, are rarely ever lasting commited relationships. So in short... of course it's ok.

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 385 (view)

guys who don't like blowjobs Posted: 9/1/2006 9:32:42 PM
A guy who doesnt like head? Just when I thought I had heard everything! Guess it's possible, I have met a couple women who said they didn't like oral.... Odd creatures....

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 179 (view)

Duration of intercourse Posted: 9/1/2006 9:16:10 PM
Who's watching the clock? I'm done when she's in a quivering ball unable to complete a coherent thought.

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

Girl + Girl ...Is this understandable? Posted: 9/1/2006 8:03:27 PM
fIf the present BF isn't on the same page as you then you better make a decision. You need to decide what's more important the girl/girl relationships or the present BF. If you don't want to live without the girl/girl thing you better find a guy that is accepting of it.

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 100 (view)

Is this torture to a guy? Posted: 9/1/2006 6:39:03 PM
This is insane! No it's not torture. You told him up front what the deal was. If he was that frustrated and it bothered him he would have gone to the couch himself. Guys (at least a few of us from the looks of it) can actually be close to a woman without the need for sex. It is certainly ok after only a couple dates to lay those boundries. Having him in bed with you lets him know that hey, I really like you, I really want you close but I'm just not ready to step it up to the sex thing yet. A mature man can handle that, or at least be honest and say, umm... no too much sexual tension my erection and I will sleep on the couch. And what's the big deal being made out of the bed here? I've had sex on my kitchen table does that mean I can't have a woman over to dinner without her being dessert? One of my ex's and I decided we were going to hold off on the sex thing for a bit and the sexual tension was just insane. We slept in the same bed and there was a lot of foreplay but we stuck to our decision and waited (well not as long as originally decided upon) but anyway, that was torture, however I gotta say that the anticipation made it some of the most incredible sex we had ever had. Maybe you should just ask HIM if it was too much.

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

Not sure what to do..help Posted: 9/1/2006 5:07:10 PM
Guys that just "fall off the face of the earth" give us all a bad name. I'd like to think that if he wasn'y interested he'd be able to say that. He hasn't totally disappeared so maybe there is still hope but I do agree that if he was REALLY into you he would make time for a quick chat. However, I work a lot and can certainly understand not having time to think straight. Yeah... I'm rambling and waffling.... geesh... shutting up now.

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

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Not sure what to do..help Posted: 9/1/2006 2:44:01 PM
My suggestoin here is to give the guy the benefit of the doubt for now. It is entirely possible that he IS busy and just hasn't had a lot of time to chat. I would give him a call and just say hey, I know you're busy get in touch with me when you can. See where it goes from there. If you continue to call him/ IM him constantly he may get the impression you are needy and or pushy and he may back off. Give him a bit of space and see what happens. If you don't hear from him in a few days or a week you can probably bet that he isn't that in to you (sorry....). Hope it works out for you.

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 12 (view)

now what? Posted: 9/1/2006 2:25:33 PM
Two dates does not a commitment make. Slow down. The easiest way to scare him off is by getting pushy for commitment. You'll probably make him feel trapped and possesed. Bad idea. I firmly believe that men and women differ in the whole intimacy realm. Guys (most? some?) find it easier to have intimacy without commitment than women do. At least on the whole. If a serious commitment is what you are looking for I would recommend keeping your pants on beyond the first few dates to see what his true intentions are. Just my 2 cents.... Good luck

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 24 (view)

Paying a compliment to a guy Posted: 9/1/2006 2:09:50 PM
Well if he asked you out in the past he obvoiusly had some interest. Chances are he may have assumed your excuse was a nice way of saying no thanks. Possible he is now trying to decipher whether your compliment was flirtatious or just simple, friendly conversation. Being a bit shy myself, I always question whether things said are interest or just friendly conversation. Pretty much have to smack me in the head and tell me straight out how you feel or I just don't get it. Moral of the story, go up to him at work, smack him in the head and ask him to join you for a cup of coffee or something. Ok, you may want to skip the smack in the head part. Good luck!

fireguy2993

Joined: 4/22/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

How Many? Posted: 8/31/2006 7:07:56 PM
Well this is great. First message in these forums and I have to get on my soapbox. You say he's a good person and a great dad, why would you keep your kids away from him? Everbody makes mistakes, unless they are the kind that put the children in danger you have no right making the decision to keep them away from him. Even fathers who are abusive (in some states) still have supervised visitation. Kids need both parents! Why do women think they are the only important parent? Sounds to me like the mistake you are making will do more damage to your children than those he may have made. Using your children as pawns to hurt your ex is selfish and, in it's own way, abusive to the kids. If I were him (luckily I'm not!) I would have you in court fighting for full custody and pushing for supervised visitaion for you, sound like you might be a flight risk. Might have wanted to consider whether or not he was fit to be in their lives BEFORE you got pregnant. What a way to start off my first post huh? Sorry..... Tirade over

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