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sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Would you date someone who is on welfare? Posted: 3/9/2007 8:18:30 PM
This is for DrinkUmPretty--way back on page 1. You said Noone should be on Welfare no matter what the situation is!!!!! Boy, are you living in dream land!!! There are very good and honest reasons for some to have to be on Welfare. I'm not sure if that is a sad declaration of our marriage obligations, or just a case of practicality so these people can eat! It would be a nice heavenly place if we all could work and bring home around $35,000 a year, but our lifestyle's; laws; capabilities; and needs are each varied and different. I hope you realize this so that some day, God forbid, if you are sleeping in the streets and have lost your job, you aren't too ashamed to ask for help. Oh yes, I'll take that $10,000 check any time!!!!

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Is old fashioned courtin out of date? Posted: 3/3/2007 8:03:56 PM
It's been a while sense I've been on here and already the first one I read is about "courting"! I can't help but wonder if age has anything to do with this. I just take it for granted that a guy and a gal "court" each other by conversing, by phone, and by dating. This is all a natural part of getting to know each other which is in definition "courting" each other. All the rest is just personal choice if and when a connection is attained. So: to each his own and enjoy the trip!!!!

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Can men and women be friends without sex? Posted: 1/29/2007 7:36:55 PM
Just came upon this post, and do you all realize it's been running for almost 2 years!!! Must be a very revelant situation for a lot of us out here!!! When I first read the question, my immediate response was: of course one can!!! Then, as I began to read the responses, I realized it isn't that simple. I have several male "friends" that will never be sex partners--they are too close as friends to spoil that relationship. Then, there are a couple of other "friends" that I can see having sex with if the situation, attmosphere, and feelings ever caught on. I personally like the idea of having those male friends and not even wondering if sex will ever be brought up--makes a very freeing relationship and one that can be expected to last a long long time. Then again: to each their own!!!

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Is it possible to be in love and not want a relationship? Posted: 1/4/2007 7:28:51 PM
Op, I'd like to know what happen in that 1st relationship that makes him so scarred now. He obviously told you something, in that he said he didn't want to get into another situation as the one he had just come from. Maybe you should rethink what he said, try and understand him a little better and give him space. If it's true love for him, he'll return to you when he's ready to commit. If not, you've learned a valuable lesson---listen to what a man tells you, you will never change a man, you have to accept him for who he is. In his case, yes--it is possible to be in love and NOT want a relationship. In your case, NO, it's not possible. In a nutshell, that is your answer.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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You must have a LOT of women interested in you so I'm not going to compete? HUH? Posted: 1/3/2007 9:09:51 PM
When I first read your opening statement op, I almost just passed on by, too confusing. Then I kept reading out of fasination, and began to think: o.k. if a beautiful woman is your choice but is afraid to date you due to intimidation, (so you think), then why not choose a less beautiful woman because of personality and see where that leads? I also agree with pinebreaze: relax When meeting, talk to her just to find out her personality first. Going according to someones' looks is way down the list!!! I do agree that like tends to follow like. Lawyers/lawyers; Dr.'s/Dr.'s; musicians/musicians; etc. etc. But, us common folk don't have to follow that line of doing, do we? We can break the cycle if we try and find that certain person without staying in those perimiters.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Would you rather be let down easy or hard? Posted: 12/31/2006 6:35:09 PM
This is as confusing as kissing on a first date or waiting for number 2 or even 3.....isn't this a personal preference also? Some men might find an e-mail easier and the lady expected a phone call. Another man wants to do it by phone and the lady shouts at him that he could have said that on an e-mail!!! How do we know enough about one person's likes or dislikes after one brief meeting?? If I'd rather be "let down easy", what does that constitute, and do I tell the man upon first meeting my preference so he'll know what I expect? Or, if I would just as soon me "let down hard" do I tell him that right off the bat? Noone, and I repeat, noone can even imagine what one person wishes so early in a "meeting". Take whatever is dished out with grace and either enjoy or move on.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Waiting till after New Years to say goodbye..... Posted: 12/25/2006 12:22:34 PM
All I could think of during this reading was the time I was the one being "held onto during the New Year bash". He had decided to call it off before Christmas and failed to let me know. We were supposed to be getting married, and I thought everything was fine!! When he told me, all I could think of was how dumb I felt remembering back...all the smiles, laughs, kisses, family times, talk of the future and the time I spent getting dressed up for the parties to look good for him. I thought I was a big fool!!! Then I realized HE was the fool!! He was too immature to fess up and take the consequences like a man, he just brought me home, told me he was calling it off and left....that was that. Please, please, tell her as soon as possible!! I don't think your doing her any favores by hanging on untill then. Maybe she won't feel like I did, but then again, maybe you'll be hurting her more then you know.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Why are older women not into younger guys??? Posted: 12/25/2006 12:04:59 PM
I'm not so sure the problem is older women and younger guys....I'd just want the guy to be able to put a sentence together and spell correctly (or at least close!) Most 19 year olds don't have the life experiences to keep the interest of a mature lady, but then again, if your just interested in a quickie, there are probably several that would be available. LOL LOL

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Best position for BBw Posted: 12/24/2006 3:24:08 PM
I was ready to toss my 2 cents worth in when I read ChilyPalmer's reply. I have to say that the spooning position is, to me, the most!!! I find it interesting that I've had to explain that to several people!!! Doesn't seem to be that well known, or at least called that. Maybe we do need a book on the subject of "positions"!!!

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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How come we always mess up the right ones? Posted: 12/23/2006 2:43:24 PM
"always mess up the right ones?" I don't think so, he wasn't the right one. First of all, if he wanted to take you to his friend's house, why can't he pick you up? That is usually what happens, especially for a 2nd date! If you had insisted he do that, maybe the night would have turned out differently, or he would have backed out immediately without going thru all these games.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Age gap... Posted: 12/21/2006 6:48:36 PM
I never ever considered the "age" thing. It was just "assumed" that one was supposed to date a guy 2-3 years older. Now that I've matured and learned alot, age has no limitationsin a relationship. I talk to guys 15 years younger up to 12 years older. The ones that have stuck are the ones that are fun to talk with, have things in common and enjoy each other's personality. For the past 3 months a gentleman has been messageing me on a regular basis and we chat quite a bit. He is 39 years old. This was a surprise at first, but I got used to his personality and the fun we have, and have simply forgotten the "age" thing. Sometimes, it's fun to do something a little thrilling and a little bit different; it makes life more exciting and fulfilling. To all my forum friends, may you have a very

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Promise Rings Posted: 12/21/2006 6:22:40 PM
Congratulations Funtastic!! I'm with you and 85032luck on this one. We're in the minority, but to me this type of ring doesn't have to have a "name" given to it. Just as was stated in your explination, a ring before engagment can mean many wonderful and serious reasons. The top of the list is simply that he loves you and wants everyone to know it and that the woman has agreed that she will see only him. In this way, no man will approach her and everyone will know there is a "love" connection, this gives the couple enough time to see if their love grows and becomes a more committed reunion. If it doesn't work out, at least there is no embarresment in reguards to announcing an engagement too soon. As always, to each their own.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Seeing your ex fatter Posted: 12/21/2006 6:02:55 PM
I almost hated to get into this one, since I'm on the large size myself, but couldn't help it!! It just kinda drew me in.....first of all op., have you ever considered that there was a health reason for the gain? It happens, just ask me. Also, you guys who are laughing out there, look in the mirror first. We all have all problems, maybe we could be a little kinder!!

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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The Longer You Go Without Posted: 12/10/2006 8:30:14 PM
Amen to what cdn guy said! I totally agree, and I've been on my own for 8 years!! Sure, I miss companionship, but I'm not going to seek someone out just for that. I have plenty of friends and a faith that sustains me just fine. I believe I'm an optimist, keep that smile on no matter what and just play the hand that is delt to me on a daily basis. After all, today is the only day we can manage, yesterday is gone and tomorrow hasn't come yet. If that special someone should come into my life, great!! If not, I will continue to live and do with my life what I like to do.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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No sex in a long time .. good or bad? Posted: 12/10/2006 8:20:05 PM
No sex in a long time? How about almost 10 years!!! An ex that found someone else more tantalizing; a long divorce; then an illness; then getting over the hurt...long time. Now, I'm meeting new people and am getting into the dating thing...I'm not even sure I'd remember how!!! LOL I've been told it's just like riding a bike, I sure hope they're right!! I used to ride a bike pretty good!!!! LOL

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Ratings and saying hello Posted: 12/3/2006 7:36:44 PM
Kevin, I'm not into the ratings war, but, if I were you, just a nice casual thank you would be nice. If that person is interested in you, the person, not just the picture, she'll let you know.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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How Can We Overcome Arbitrary Age Limits on Relationships? Posted: 12/3/2006 7:33:33 PM
David, I wish there was one answer to "how can we overcome etc." The thing is we can't make such a thing a law, so therefore, we go back to the individual prefrences. When I decided to get back into the "dating", "looking", or just "chatting" phase, I was thinking like I had as a 20 something. A possible mate should be 2-5 years older, because that is what I was raised to think. Well, I'm a mature lady now, and I've learned that age has nothing whatsoever to do with compatability. It's the conversation, the thrill of adventure you share, the love of reading (or whatever), the laughter, similar food appreciation, the ability to fight fair and make up strong, all the little things that go into loving someone. Age is only a number, if trust, truthfulness and a terrific personality is what your looking for and he/she is either much younger, or much older, why pass up a chance of happiness just because of that one little number? And yes, I've taken my own advice.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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enlightened intimacy Posted: 11/28/2006 3:30:17 PM
I'm also hoping this one goes on and on and on!! It is such a refreshing idea, wonder how many could actually accomplish this feat? There are some religions here in the states that also heavily "request" that couples do no more then hold hands during their courtship (even unto kissing) and only become intimate upon marriage. Very old fashion idea, but hey, it used to work very well. Just thought I'd insert an American idea here. What the op expresses is very interesting, might have to give this one a try!!!

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Body type preference Posted: 11/27/2006 11:02:59 AM
I'm also mostly into personality, but I do like someone with a B & B size. I've always liked the larger guys, but they should be tall also. I'm 5'9" and a BBW myself, so I always feel more comfortable with someone around the same size as myself. I'd go for the extra tall and muscular if they would go for me!!! LOL But, any man would still have to be able to make me laugh, discuss topics of interest to both of us, and be a good lover!

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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does past matter? Posted: 11/27/2006 10:50:07 AM
Past matters only if the person revealing it has a guilty consious. We are a part of what we have lived, and hopefully have learned from it. As for myself, noone need know "everything" but if you get into a relationship, I've found that sometimes a little self explaination helps him to know why you act the way you do. Then you two work it out and then forget it. With maturity comes a new confidence in who we are, the past, good or bad, as helped to shape that.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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can you stay friends with an ex? Posted: 11/21/2006 1:38:15 PM
Speaking for myself, yes. My 1st husband and I decided to divorce because we made better friends, then partners. We were right! We're still friendly and his wife and I are friends. We all raised our kids together, joining in on all the celebrations, etc. Tried to do the same with the other one, but he had moved on to another wife and family and left this one totally behind. So, it really depends on the people involved.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Is it possible to be in love with more than one person at the same time? Posted: 11/19/2006 8:16:03 PM
I have to go with the "yes's" on this one. We all live and learn according to our own experiences, so in this respect, it can happen. The thing I have to say next is: sex is not brought into the equation, for that distorts everything. But different men or woman can bring different qualities to a relationship. We may rely on one for stability, one for humour, and maybe even a third for being our best friend. Any of these qualities can be combined, but the cruxt is: being in love with more then one is possible if certain aspects of these qualities, (or more) is introduced.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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rejection at first sight Posted: 11/5/2006 1:07:05 PM
I've just gotten back into reading the forums and picked this one first!!! The longer I read this one, the sillier it got to me!! I was about to write my opinion when I read what southn guy and hayitsdoug had to say and "they" reflected what I was going to say. Doesn't anyone look at pictures? e-mail or message first? Hopefully, even a phone call or two just to see if you can stand the "potential" one's voice!!! All of this, in my humble opinion, should be the preverbial horse before the cart!!!! Personally, I have met for coffee, for lunch, and just a talk meeting. All of these were comfortable and fun because we knew enough about each other first!!!! And yes, there have been 2nd's.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Where are the women from indiana? Posted: 10/11/2006 2:25:23 PM
Hey op! All you have to do is look up the "my matches" to find women from here. There are alot of us; just depends on what your looking for. Good Luck!

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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How many times should you e-mail someone? Posted: 10/4/2006 7:17:25 PM
I've said before that I learn something each time I read the forums. I'm not all that new anymore, but, being the eternal optimist, always assumed all e-mails were answered one way or the other. If one connects with more e-mails and messages, it's a wonderful life; if there is no connection, sometimes I'm sorry, other times, I figure it was meant to be. I've never hesitated to message someone twice, figuring they just didn't have time to answer. Now, I'm not so sure if that is the case. I have severl friends on line, those I never hesitate to e-mail whenever I want, or when I need to let them know I'm back!! If there is no response from now on, I won't message anymore; because I'm NOT despet, nor do I want to appear to be chasing. I would like to add here that I got the impression from some of your male respondents that they are bitter about no responses. Maybe, you've just set your goals a little too high. (?) Try some that are more approachable!! Thanks for the lessons. Untill next time.....

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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A question for the Christian ladies and gentlemen. Posted: 10/1/2006 3:37:13 PM
I also agree with stoneside. However, I've never read or heard of anywhere in the Bible where it says that a person of faith is "good". A person of faith simply has accepted Christ and tries to live by His example. It is hard at times to do this, but that is what makes us different from a non-believer--the trying. On a site like this, one can only learn if a person has that same belief is by talking, talking, and more talking; then meeting if you feel the same. Who knows, one of these times you might just meet that exquisit mermaid you've been longing for.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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what makes people cheat ???? Posted: 10/1/2006 2:19:47 AM
I find it amazing that any topic on the threads that resemble "sex" generates such attention. To me, this topic is one of the more realistic questions. After reading the previous responses,all I want to add is that immaturity has alot to do with anyone cheating. This can be age; anable to resist a spir of the moment impulse; dissatisfied love life, and afraid to do anything about it; unable to realize what trouble this causes; the "why not?" mentality; all, and probably many, many more examples of immaturity thinking and why one should stay away from any form of a committment. An after thought: "what makes people cheat???" Nothing "makes" people cheat, they choose to; probably because of one of reasons listed above. Not only mine, but most of the previous listers.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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How many is too many? Marriages I mean . . . Posted: 8/17/2006 7:30:44 PM
Sorry, I forgot to put in here that I agree with iRocket totally. Judging people is in poor taste and doesn't say much for your own personality. (got involved in my own story, and wanted to add that to the above.)

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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How many is too many? Marriages I mean . . . Posted: 8/17/2006 7:26:15 PM
Really didn't want to throw in my history here, but after reading some people's ideas of "why" you shouldn't re-marry, just had to. I can only speak for myself, because that is the only one I know about. When my age group was young, we were expected to marry and have a family--I did. THEN I grew up. We parted as friends, still are; we make better friends then we ever did marriage partners. Fell madly in love with someone, got pregnant, married (I know-out of order). but he couldn't stand being in a marriage with 8 children, yes, I said 8. I loved it, he hated it. Never came around, slept at friend's homes and finally moved out & left me to all 8 children and no money to help. He filed for divorce. Much, much later, met a man that truly loved children, put me on a pedistol and for a while, was terrific. Then, the manipulations started, the verbal, mental & emotional abuse, then the affairs. He filed for divorce to marry one of them. He recently died and it really bothered me, guess you never really get over love. I've been on my own now for almost 10 years and do not want to marry again, but miss companionship and having a guy to laugh with and cry on his shoulder when I need to. Someone I can open up with and talk to is really missed. If this makes me a bad person, or unworthy of becoming your friend, so be it. But, do not judge me untill you've walked in my shoes.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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DO you think there is someone Posted: 8/13/2006 12:35:04 PM
I do believe there is someone for everyone--but, the trouble is--sometimes we "choose" the wrong person. Alas, confirmed by divorce. Now, if the question is one true "love" for everyone, I'm not so sure. Alas, double marriages, sometimes thrice. But in the end, there is someone for everyone, after learning all our lessons, we just have to wait for the cream to rise to the top. Hopefully, he is on-line at the same time as I am!!!

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Has anyone started a relationship in a thread?? Posted: 8/13/2006 12:28:11 PM
This is interesting!! I did contact someone and so far, we've had a very nice friendship from it. It is an interesting place to get to know someone's true self--on that, I agree. So glad you thought of this. I also like the idea of having a state by state intro. I know there is one on the US forums, but this would be different, according to locations would be ideal.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Inner person vs Outer person Posted: 8/6/2006 11:34:07 AM
Op: might want to check out topic: is this it..is this what it's all about.....similar question.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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is this it, is this what its all about Posted: 8/6/2006 11:17:40 AM
Thank you, thank you, thank you; if you've read the forums, you may remember my referring to the same things a couple of times. Sex isn't the end all; just an important part. Putting others down usually means that person is only trying to make themselves feel superior. Not always, but most of the time. The other side of the coin is that we ARE on here to either find friends, or a "soul mate", so we always tend to put our best foot forward. Unfortunately, this at times, means we exagerate our good points and say what we "think" the intended prospect wants to hear. Thank goodness, I've learned thru experience to not do this and just be myself. Hopefully, this is good enough for "someone" out there and we can match up and have compatability on a true level. Trust, honesty, conversation, fun, laughing and love come as a priority to me; sex is a plus.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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I figured it out, and its spooky! Posted: 8/5/2006 10:46:13 AM
You talk about spooky!! I was just figuring out how to put this into words when I read this site! My thing is similar---do we date someone we really have alot in common with, or do we "fix" it so it seems like we have alot in common. When we first meet, or read a profile, it's hard to "know" much about them; after just meeting once, do we agree with everything they've said and try to adjust our likes to meet theirs?? If we do that, then we really don't give them or ourselves a fair chance--after two or three meetings, we have a better understanding of ourselves and of them. So, I guess I've finally learned that there is more to a person then we can ever know on a first date, they need more time. More importantly, we need more time to be ourselves with them instead of a clone to their likes and dislikes.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Why wont women date nice guys Posted: 8/3/2006 7:30:31 PM
I had an earlier oppinion on this subject awhile ago. Then, a really nice guy and I started to see each other; I thought, wow, there are nice guys around!! After about a month, all of a sudden, no more calls, no more meetings, and to top it off, no explaination. Is this the way "nice guys" act? I don't think so. If you are a truly nice guy, you are untill the end and at least explain why it is the end. We weren't "in love", nor in a committed relationship, so no hard feelings, just puzzeled. Maybe this is why women don't date nice guys.....they start out nice and end up being inconsiderate. Guess this is just one more thing to get used to in this new form of meeting and dating.....

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Does a woman withholding sex in a RELATIONSHIP cause you to find it elsewhere? Posted: 8/2/2006 4:31:26 PM
I just got back from vacation; so "bare" with me, maybe I've missed something here. WHAT contitutes a "relationship"?? Is it one date, three dates, or is it discussed first and decided that this is a committed relationship. Once a committment is made, sex is a part of the equation for both the man and the woman. Just "a" date or two, doesn't mean that sex has to be involved at all, afterall, we're just getting to know each other during this time. I have run across men, tho, that think sex is involved "every time" they date. So, here again, what is the definition of a relationship to most of you, mine is strickly after a committment is made, but if you think I'm off in La La Land--let me know.

sunshineladi

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Where do you live? Posted: 7/22/2006 7:51:55 PM
Born and raised in Indiana; now on the west side of Indy

sunshineladi

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How long did it take to get your life on track again? Posted: 7/22/2006 2:38:34 PM
Back on track? I think I'm still on the siderail, but gently merging in. I've been on here for almost 4 months, and I think I've learned more about relationships and personal growth just from reading the forums and chatting with some really great people. Even have dated a couple & hope to continue. I was on my own for 10 years before I actually even considered trying it again. I had been "with someone" for all of my adult life, and I was scared, and honestly down on men for awhile. Then I realized that a relationship, marriage, or whatever the break up is, is the same as a death that has occured to you. So, I got mad, grieved, forgave both of us, accepted the fact, and then I was able to move on. I like myself now, I think I've alot to offer someone and if we find each other on this train of life, wonderful!!! If it doesn't happen, I'm happy with my life as it is.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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One minute your in, then your out... why????? Posted: 7/19/2006 7:30:21 AM
This happens alot on any dating site. I don't think I'm speaking out of line when I say it has happened to almost everyone. One of the best explainations I've heard came from a guy: he said "that all the woman he contacted that stated they wanted "long term" seemed to have been on site for a year or more! How can that mean they want long term and still keep looking"? The grass is always greener when more and more new people show up for you to investigate! Just hang on and one of these days, that guy that says he likes you and can he call you will do just that!

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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i tell the truth to emails Posted: 7/17/2006 11:08:48 AM
I'm not sure there is one true answer for this one. I've had guys message me with"well, at this time I'm seeing another and want to give it a chance". Then,there they are back on line trying to get a date. If a "little white ly" makes one feel better, I guess that is their choice. I guard myself now with a preface on any message I may send out: such as "after reading my profile, if you aren't interested, I understand and I wish you luck". This way, if they are never heard from, I feel like at least I won't be lied to about it.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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If you've had cancer or an illness at what point in a relationship do you tell Posted: 7/14/2006 11:48:03 AM
Boy, freebird6333, this hit home with me also. I guess everyone who has a chronic illness has to chose for themselves how to handle it. For me, because I'm on this site, I decided to be up front from the get-go. I listed my problem in my profile. I thought if they get past that, they are worth getting to know, if they can't, it's their loss, not mine. LOL I'm a neat person, (I think) & yes, I have a problem that isn't going away, but, I can still live, love, and share with another person for many years to come. I wish you luck in finding that special person, you sound like a "neat" guy yourself.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Weekend Relationships Posted: 7/13/2006 10:32:14 AM
Isn't this, once again, one of those personal choice questions? It always takes two to make a decision whether to see each other 6-7 days a week/ or just 2. At the start of a relationship, I find the week-end thing ideal. It leaves time to keep your life as you know it, and yet try and figure out if this relationship is something you "want" to committ to. A week-end to me may be in the middle of a week as appossed to the tradiitional Sat. & Sun., due to work schedules, etc. Either way, untill there is a committment, my time is mine; and the time I spend with a friend/lover belongs to the both of us.

sunshineladi

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relationships Posted: 7/4/2006 11:44:37 AM
092074; Just wondering if this thread is for you to find out something that you can use for yourself, or asking because after x # of dates, the "guy" gives you one of those, "your great, but...." lines. What do men really look for? That depends on the man, just as all us gals look for different things, so do men. Can't please um, tease um, or love um all!!

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

Msg: 133 (view)

Hi! I am Gary. Posted: 7/4/2006 12:49:59 AM
Hey Gary! Sounds like you and I "might" have a few things in common!!! Why not give me a call!! Or, if the batteries happen to "run down", you can always find me on here! LOL WWII huh, sounds interesting! Quilts? too much to believe! Sound like a nice guy, maybe?

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

No response Posted: 6/25/2006 10:58:25 AM
Are you reading the rest of the forums? You said no one responded and all women want are the hot model types. What a crock!! It's been said over and over that we are all different and some of us even prefer the taller and bigger guys! There is plenty said on here regarding that subject. I've responded to a couple of yours, so you can't say noone answers your threads either. Maybe you should consider what advice some are giving instead of finding fault with nothing.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

Msg: 126 (view)

Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 6/18/2006 4:45:28 PM
Sorry, I guess I messed up and forgot to do this first!!! My name is Jan. I've been on this site for only about 1 month now. Personally, I like it and have found some very nice gentlemen to talk with. I'm a chat person actually, might date if the right guy is found. Must have a sense of humour-very important. Would like him to be fairly intelligent and talk on most subjects, or at least some, with some insight. I'm a BBperson and would love to meet a Big and Tall gentlemen; not a requirement, just what I'm attracted to. Interests: love history--Civil War; WWII; and Indian history and read alot; hand quilting--I've made about 30 quilts, and several wall hangings; love to watch movies at home--I have about 140 of all kinds, my favorites are: Serendipity; Murphy's Romance; BenHur; Independence Day; Splinder in the Grass; The Firm and about 50 others!! In the Fall, by favorite thing to do is take long car rides to see the beauty & color of our southern Indiana landscape!!! So, if this sounds like you and you have some of the same interests, just message me and we'll see where it takes us. I live on the west side of Indy.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

Msg: 21 (view)

Why wont women date nice guys Posted: 6/16/2006 8:32:43 PM
First time to read thru this one; so I found it interesting that the men really picked up on this topic and I, for one, learned alot. I'm wondering tho, what are the ages of most of the guys on this forum? They seem to be mid to late 20's and maybe into the 30's. Didn't notice any "older" guys answering or giving an opinion. I'd sure like to hear from some of them.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

Msg: 5 (view)

NOT slime,slender,athletic,fit,toned,average.....now what???? Posted: 6/10/2006 12:24:51 PM
I was just reading thru the "matches" for my age group (55-66) and was overwelmed with the men that want: nice, kind hearted woman; intelligent woman; women that can hold a conversation; good hearted woman; a woman that doesn't lie or play games., etc, etc,.etc. But then, read on!! early to late 20's//to mid 30's wanted, slim to attractive only need reply. One who is physically fit, etc.,etc.,etc., Why can't women be all of the above, but NOT slim or particularly fit enough to ride a bike; or take a long hike. Men never get the chance to meet us and find out we are faithful, we are kind, intelligent women, we can hold a conversation, most of us don't play games and we need a shoulder also!! We can either change to be what "they" want; or be ourselves untill the right man comes along that can accept us for the loving and beautiful people we are. I hope you make the right choice upallnitetoo; I hope I am also.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

Msg: 14 (view)

Why do wives/husbands cheat? Posted: 6/9/2006 9:47:15 AM
In one form or another, all of us have been here. The thing I kept remembering when reading your plight was a lesson taught me a long time ago: the longer you dwell on a lost relationship, the longer it takes to get over it. We will probably never know or understand "why" something like this happens, and it may be best if we don't most of the time. First: accept the fact Second: get mad Third: forgive yourself for feeling that way Fourth: forgive them Fifth: start living again Sixth: don't be afraid to ask God, your best friend, or a program to listen to you. Seventh: STOP relaying all the details every time you meet someone new. It's in the past, live for the future. This was the only way I was able to do it, I hope it helps you.

sunshineladi

Joined: 4/23/2006

Msg: 2 (view)

Learning a lesson from the past Posted: 6/7/2006 11:41:08 PM
The number one response I can think of is: you can't change the past, so greive your loss just as you would a death; get angry, then forgive; not just the other person, but yourself also, then you can move on. Be yourself from the get-go; too many of us tend to put our best "foot" forward all the time and then, when the "real" you is exposed, it is much harder to explain and reconcile with.

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