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Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Do i move on and settle for 2nd best? Posted: 11/11/2009 1:46:04 AM
Hi Amanda, now if you are totally in love with this guy......give him a call and find out if he is okay and where he stands......from the horses mouth.... At least by this you can move foreward with your life. if moving foreward doesn't involve this guy.....then you know he is not the one that will walk hand in hand with you through all the challenges that couples face .....you are young..... be the best you can be.....set some goals....maybe it involves university or other training...but move foreward and don't look back.... wishing you the best.... O:)

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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How to ask the right questions.... What do i do now? Posted: 11/10/2009 2:03:26 PM
Hi cheakygirl, many people just don't get it........'use your words' -have a serious conversation..... tell him you are deeply in love with him and want to have his babies.....no, not that serious...but it is surely better than filling your mind with ummm, he must be thinking this or that...bringing out your crystal ball and worrying yourself silly.... so -ask him!!!!! seems from what you have been saying you have a 'gut instinct' that something is up -usually one is right! so whatever you choose.....seek some sort of closure (for your sake) by asking him how he feels or, by telling him you are looking for a person that has the ability to express/communicate their affection and feelings in a more positive way. Remember that saying that it takes two? Wishing you the best.....you are going to have some wonderful relationships.....be the best you can be.... O:) PS how? just be yourself...

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Trip with Ex - yay or nay? Posted: 11/9/2009 10:38:18 AM
Hi......justlikehoney.... might be best to move forward with your life............to some people it might look like you are leading him on..... So answer to your question ........Nay. final, answer. O:)

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Is he into me, or not? Posted: 9/29/2009 10:33:02 PM
Hi Mama...... give your head a shake and just go with the flow......just let things happen instead of thinking the world is going to blow up.......... at the moment you have a relationship.....he feels you are important enough in his life to want to hear your voice first thing in the morning and last thing at night....end of story..... recommendation is to be the best you can be.....find out and get to know that person you are with and his friends, family etc....friendship is very important....to me anyway.... Seems you want the physical...wait for that special moment when it will truly matter . Yes, of course I understand some would rather have it anywhere and anytime in a house with a mouse in a box with a fox......etc etc.... but, maybe just maybe, this guy is going to be very special for you.... always believe it is...:))) The worst thing that can happen is your heart is broken -and I say that is okay too....but at least you loved...:) now, I have said this before..... a woman has the power to make a man (if her loves her) do whatever she wants him to do....they have the power....lol.... Me? if I love the lady...well, won't give away any secrets....lol.... so, get on with this relationship -if this man you feel is marriage or partner for life material go for it......be respectful if he is old fashioned etc....and get to know him.....love him if you love him....hold his hand.....spend time together....enjoy each other.... Believe me if I could find a woman that I could have those enjoyable and close all night conversations with I would be blown away.....:))) So treasure these times and don't make anything of it.... of course opinions vary.....and I am just one of those old romantic men....hmmmm wishing you the best.... O:) edit: young romantic men

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Question on dating, how to let someone go, gently??? Posted: 8/28/2009 2:31:48 PM
Hi, Tell the truth in a positive way.....no matter what. if he liked you he will be hurt.... What is cruel is if a person continues to lead another on.... I think you will do just fine....it is always nice to thank a person about a special moment that you thought was wonderful...of course that is if you had any...:) Wishing you best on your new journey...:) O:)

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Why did he let me down? Posted: 8/28/2009 2:17:58 PM
Hi greeneyedcutie, sounds like you have a problem on your hand... Seems this guy has put you low on the priority list -not good for a healthy relationship don't you think? Tell him to take a leap next time... Move forward with your life young lady and find a man that will treat you like a queen... simple. wishing you the best...:) O:)

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Strictly platonic... but he wants to date them Posted: 8/28/2009 2:00:20 PM
Hi. best not to waste time on this guy. you state, "...however, find myself feeling jealous when he admits that he would like to date some of his female friends. He says that he won't right now because he wants to see where things will go with me ." Respect is a big part of a functional relationship...here he has none for you.... Move forward with your life...you have the world at your fingertips...:) O:)

Bk2

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why does he keep talking about past dates with other women? Posted: 8/18/2009 7:46:36 PM
Hi , sorry to hear about your situation.... you want out of the relationship.....and you want to figure what is going on in this guys head? Move on with your life and tell him to go and see a doctor....simple!!!!! Wishing you the best! O:) PS some might say he is playing you and maybe others too....

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Is this Real or Weird Posted: 8/18/2009 7:29:28 PM
Hi LockyLay, sorry to hear you are uncomfortable with this mans words....:) you must have some effect on him....seems he looks forward to all your correspondence which is nice to know.... is it normal saying love you after a month + couple weeks on phone etc.....well, for you it doesn't sound like acceptable behaviour by the sounds of things even though you both have planned a trip away together in September.... it doesn't matter what anyone else says from this site young lady....if you have that gut instinct that something is very strange/wrong, then one must pay attention to the red flags and keep a heads up... It is important not to get into a situation where you feel cornered or pressured into anything that you don't want to do yourself -like this trip. Now, on to that word called communication -talk to him -if the love yous are uncomfortable and you feel they couldn't be a truly sincere show of love, based on the time factor -ask him to use the 'like' word for the time being....simple.. I would set this relationship on course by telling him you want to take the relationship at a slow pace as you are interested in getting to know him. So tell us about this trip. Would you end an excellent relationship based on a person saying I love you too soon -maybe not but get to know the guy, his background, medications, family history....and just be careful. On the other hand some people don't ever say I love you......lol..... Wishing you the best..... O:) PS if you know you will not marry this guy then don't lead him on....

Bk2

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why is it? Posted: 6/27/2009 10:30:40 AM
Hi Thegossipgirl, question is..... do you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy??? If not move forward with your life.....:)) O:) PS communication is key -talk to him.....

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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WORK RELATIONS Posted: 6/19/2009 2:29:19 PM
Hi Amber, sorry to hear about your problem in the work place.....make sure a witness is there when you say No! Record a trail of evidence...... Some say don't accuse a person without proper cause and witnesses...it could backfire on you.... when he is around you....make sure there is a witness close by....all the time... if he continues to persist contact a qualified lawyer....ask for directions.... he might call some of your associates in for letters..... remember visits to your doctor for stress etc.....tell him the story too....keep seeing your doctor if you are stressed.... he might suggest because it is in the workplace consult your boss with a witness (not by yourself) that has seen this activity......he should have the problem solved rather quickly...... I am sure that it will stop here. If you have notified the person and the company and the guy is still bothering you......after consulting your lawyer he might suggest going to the police (with a witness of course).....and make sure you get a number (complaint or whatever it is called)... But it is key to keep everything updated and there is a trail of evidence -one never knows what will happen..... could possibly lead to a restraining order and his loss of job....etc... If it reaches this point safety is important...so you consult a security company....they will consult with you about safety in and out of the home. People could never fathom that this could of ever happened to them....be safe. Now if it keeps going -your lawyer will know exactly what to do with the company and that guy...... Hope that helps..... I am sure your problem will end soon...:)) O:)

Bk2

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Question about PICS? - Posted: 6/19/2009 2:07:18 PM
Hi 5tarrynight, A pose. It is up to the person interpretting the pose...I am sure both men/women have interesting poses -as you say might be rather suggestive, then, again to another it might not be suggestive at all...lol.... So it is all on you 5tarrynight......lol... If it is very offensive to you then you report it....okay? simple....and have a great day! O:)

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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do guys really like thick girls? Posted: 6/19/2009 1:50:25 PM
Hi Alicia, Personally I prefer..... thick, thin, big and beautiful, athletic, average....... If a person is able to do some physical activity like tennis to a round of golf to walking dogs or horses.... and have that exciting energy - coupled with that great personality and chemistry.....hey, it is all good to me..... health is important too..... So to answer your question -Do 'guys' like thick girls -I can only say I am sure certain men like thick girls. For me again, if I find the person attractive inside then I am lured to the face/eyes/smile/that look then the exterior person too..... but one does have to feel a chemistry. But, on POF....it is different I have a tendency to look at eyes, smile, face.....the profile/commonalities....then the whole picture...:) Alicia, I think you will do just fine - now if you want to be thin....you can do that.....if you want to be athletic or thick..... it is just a matter of time and effort......you can be whatever you want to be......:) Some men suggest putting a head to toe picture on your profile.....I think this will tell the story.... Please use the proper lens.....not a wide angle..... a 50mm will do the job.... Now if you want the best picture profile possible....I would suggest searching some photography sites for free advice on positioning/light....etc... Alicia, go to profile review and they will give you some excellent tips.....:) Wishing you the best!!! Oh, bye the way, you look great!' O:) PS got somewhat side-tracked but I tink I covered it......lol...

Bk2

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Why does this always happen? Posted: 6/18/2009 12:49:52 PM
JHparkes, Sounds like this guy is after a trophy......I feel you want him too...... Should you write this guy off? hmmmm, if you knew the whole story -what words of advice would you give to your daughter at the age of sweet 17 if you had one? Some might call him a sexual predator.......but opinions vary.... Some have brought up STD's.....does that bother you? My personal recommendation is to put on your running shoes...... but, it is up to you you can continue on this road you are taking or find a higher road -there are some good quality men on POF..... :) Wishing you the best... O:) PS why does this always happen -because you allow it....simple...

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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help!! I'm really confused Posted: 6/18/2009 12:29:17 PM
Hi Brittanyanna, I believe alot of people that have responded in a negative manner should give their heads a good shake -this site is for everyone....this is POF. I have heard some great ones coming from male/females at all ages.....and everyone on POF is hear to help not to etch negativities into a young person mind especially when they are asking for help. Shame. Brittanyanna, I have to think back to when I was a young adult/youth..... at times I was very shy too.... Now you have a crush -I believe everyone at some moment in their life has gone through this experience....can be exciting and at times frustrating....:)))) If he has flirted with you chances are he likes you.....as some have stated....go through the stages of introduction.....and if things go well -might be nice to ask him if he wants to get together to do something....etc........ If not one must face the hurt of it all...but you will survive. You have an interesting life ahead of you.... Let us know what happens..... Go for it...take control of your life and be the best you can be.....:) O:) PS at times we find out that person isn't that person we thought they were.....:)

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Is he interested Posted: 6/18/2009 12:15:58 PM
Hi Christiangirl79, Just ask him out! Simple. If he says no, then move forward with your life....at least you won't be looping trying to figure out what is going on in his mind.....:)) Have fun! Go for it! Let us know what happens when you both break the shy barrier....:)) O:)

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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leading someone on and then ignoring them Posted: 6/18/2009 12:06:22 PM
Hi Dare2bu89, okay, I think you came to the right place.....Ask a Guy...:) So to the 'Why' of it all.....some reasons are as follows: -At times there isn't the chemistry or common interests -It might not be an issue with you whatsoever.. -Some men/women if they don't feel the fireworks happening that's it -personally, I believe that is part of it....:)) -Occassionally, a letter is carefully written with hopes of obtaining personal opinion or information and the response is totally oblivious to what you asked...:) -Of course the deal breaker for me is spelling my name wrong....might seem petty to some but attention to deal is important when one is looking for positive communication. Let me tell you of a little story that a 76 year old beautiful woman told me. She explained, "Bryan, I will meet a man a total of 3 times (dates or whatever) and if by the 3rd date I wasn't sure this man was marriage material I would end it there." She added, "This saves on hurt feelings and gives a person the ability to move forward with their life without the heart break." So Dare2bu89- don't take it personally and don't sweat the small stuff just move forward with your search. As they say, "The more No's you get -the closer you get to that Yes!" Happy Fishing :) O:)

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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How do I know if he really likes me or just messing with me? Posted: 6/18/2009 11:45:31 AM
Hi lillaci, the question might be addressed differently..... " How does he know if you really like him or are you just messing with him?" You say, "I am a very sexual person and sometimes I show my feelings (sexually) pretty quickly in a relationship". So it might be time to sit down and have a conversation -yes, at times some people use verbal communications too as a means of expressing their feelings towards another person. Simple -talk to him! Let us know how you made out....and I mean verbally. Wishing you the best! O:)

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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When should you not ask for what you want in a relationship? Posted: 6/16/2009 4:12:01 PM
Hi...... Sorry to hear of your situation and appreciate you sharing..... One thing you have learned is your healthy enough to love someone....some people are just unable to do that... I do not feel you have done anything wrong -so quit blaming yourself and give your head a shake. Sadly, you met someone that you had great chemistry with except he wasn't ready to settle down....simple yes, but it hurts too..... So young lady it could be time for you to put your body in motion......join a gym.....get walking, join a group, keep your mind busy...be the best you can be...and over time you are going to be better and stronger person for it..... When should you not ask for what you want in a relationship? This question is just out of hurt....one must get real....a good solid healthy relationship should have reciprocated positive communication -and one does discuss dreams, fantasies, and hopes for the future with that special someone..... It might be best to move on and when you are ready find a mate that has some commonalities for a partnership that is long term........etc..... Now that you have this one dayer out of the way you might find that lifer in the deeper end of the pool....... Wishing you the very best..... O:)

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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why do guys do this Posted: 6/16/2009 1:02:59 PM
Hi Ilvdrag, Have a sit down with him......communication is key in these situations.... talk to him person to person......you might be amazed at what you find out..... Get back to us and tell us what happens... O:) PS a week to some people might feel like a year to others....don't sweat the small stuff...talk to him and quit looping...

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Sex on the first date. Posted: 6/16/2009 12:45:35 PM
Hi Dorothy, You are who you are....and what happened happened....give yourself some slack and don't sweat the small stuff...... So this guy goes out of town on business or whatever.....If you want to call him call him.....might be nice to say you had a great time and ask him out....simple. Don't let your mind wander or start looping about what he is thinking or what you feel you did wrong, or what he is out of town for....etc..etc.... Remember it took two people even if you were the one dominating.....okay? If you want to see him.....call him......he might still be in dream land..... Just click your heals together and things might happen....:) Wishing you the best!!! O:) PS... be careful of unprotected sex.....recommendation is to get to know the person a tad more before one becomes more physical....

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Where all the gay guys? Posted: 6/14/2009 1:06:04 PM
....is an inappropraite post Andy do a search....check out the help...etc... Navigator...good point..... POF I believe is for everyone..... I also believe that in the gay community...some relationships are male / female based..... ....this is not the place to advertise....I believe the rules are easy to find and to read ..... Happy fishing... :)

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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sleep apnea Posted: 6/14/2009 12:56:37 PM
Hi.... Well let us know what happens..... Be gentle..... Love the one about the tape..... I did that one too.....years ago.... never knew anyone could be as bad as me......:P Best to get yourself checked too...... never know... Have fun! O:)

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Guys, when a woman offers to pay for dinner .. Posted: 6/14/2009 12:51:52 PM
Hi 5..... Not intimidated in the least..... A woman has the ability to do anything a man can do.... paying for a dinner is fine.....asking you for your hand is fine too.....nothing wrong with it.... I feel it is very complimentary........ dutch.... is dutch..... Picnics are good too..... one brings this...the other brings this....etc..... I wouldn't worry about it unless your man gets all up in a knot about it all.......of course this person might not be the one for you....:) Wishing you the best... O:)

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Why would a guy... Posted: 6/14/2009 12:35:45 PM
Hi cutiepie.... Actually POF has many different types....one might be utilizing POF as a stepping stone to just putting themselves out there and holding on for the ride -not knowing what is going to happen. Certain people yes both male/female at times might not know exactly what they are looking for until it hits them in the back of the head. Of course cutiepie, you personally could be looking for a specific person within your own personal select criteria and you might fall head over heals over a person on the opposite side of this fence....welcome to life. Why can't people just take time and be single for a while? Often life doesn't go that way.....lol... Sounds like you are doing a great deal of thinking...... Wishing you the best!!!! O:) PS msg 11 ....the young lady states, "I'm just amazed sometimes of how people get so emotional I know I'm not "banking" finding the love of my life on Plenty of Fish". Funny thing is there are happily married people with children that owe their meeting to places like POF....so be prepared...you could be talking to him now....

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Calling someone Attractive vs Pretty Posted: 6/13/2009 11:35:18 PM
Hi Aet! Both terms are positive ........ I wouldn't start to loop over it..... Happy fishing... O:)

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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Why do men advertise what they have? Posted: 6/9/2009 12:49:57 AM
Hi Kclark, appreciate the post.......... Like some people see it is merely advertising -a person goes out on a day at the lake -takes their camera so they get some boat pics, the love of the ocean, the limo gets in there, and then on the way home the lear just happens to make a nice back drop for another great shot.... Pictures are worth a thousand words they say....:) I think you have an excellent attitude.....looking for love not material worth.... I agree -if it's not for love then why bother? ...... One must also remember the target market and how to make yourself marketable...... Wishing you the best! O:)

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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I have never been approached by a guy before Posted: 6/1/2009 3:29:42 PM
Hi.... Q: Is it because Im ugly, intimidating, or there just plain shy? A: Don't waste you time being confused and by trying to get in every man's head..... just approach the one you feel you have the chemistry with -and approach him with respect and respect for yourself...... Respect....honor..... hard to find these days...... Wishing you the best.....and be safe... O:) PS be aware of the men you are going to attract with your profile.....

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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How soon? Posted: 6/1/2009 11:55:40 AM
Hi, seems you have an idea of when the time is right -sounds like your friends are more a part of you than you are.......you will have to think about that thought for a while...... remember it is you that could be marrying the guy or maybe you have other arrangements..... you don't have to share everything with your friends... when is a good time to intro to friends..... holiday times.....birthdays.... Now if it is to get their approval of him you might be barking up the wrong tree..... Good luck~! O:)

Bk2

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Closed his account. Was it something I said? Posted: 5/29/2009 8:46:10 PM
Hi Mtnchic, thanks for sharing..... I wouldn't take it personally......things just happen...:) Personally, I do not delete my messages.....usually after a person deletes their profile....several days later I will get an almost identical letter again from the same person....lol.....scarios....lol..... Also these messages provide me with a story-line -when I feel they are starting to alter their story I look back at the messages..... Sooner or later with writings a person not telling it like it is will trip up......:) I recommend to keep a record...print out etc....for the ones you feel attracted to.....:)) Wishing you the best...:) O:) PS.... cannot comment on your responses as you never posted them......O:)

Bk2

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Is he just quiet - or not interested? Today's guy... Posted: 5/29/2009 8:23:39 PM
Hi MeohMy....... Key word is 'reciprocation'...... Wishing you the best.... O:)

Bk2

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Can men fall for you after just 2 dates? Posted: 5/29/2009 8:17:22 PM
Hi Suze....... Come on now this must be a trick question......lol.... Okay to keep things simple. Q: Can men fall for you after just 2 dates? Oh, you also including 10-12 very long, deep phone conversations or texts??? You mean with the bouncing banana's, and other POF icons.... A: Maybe....and possibly.... One must realize some people wear their hearts on their monitors and some even stand up and wave to those little yellow faces (icons) that wave and jump up and down.....some are right into it.......and the bouncing banana....the hugs....and the liquor....writing can get down-right romantic these days.......O:) So in conclusion anything is possible in POF...... Have fun..... O:)

Bk2

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Why do guys not call or take there time calling? Posted: 5/29/2009 8:04:51 PM
Hi Cogirl.... don't sweat the small stuff or start looping over this....... If this ever happened to me.....I wouldn't be contacting them.....actually, Buck stated the 2 call rule which I feel is rather respectable..... move forward and don't for one single second look back.......:)) have fun sooner or later your going to catch a keeper.... O:)

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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What am I doing wrong? Posted: 5/29/2009 7:54:07 PM
Hi...... interesting post..... I would imagine the lepricons in your last pic might be distracting and the need for protection when needed might shake a few heads.....:)))) Recommendation is to take it to profile review forum.... Wishing you the best.... O:) PS your cute so thats not the prob...

Bk2

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don't know much about cars and need help please Posted: 5/26/2009 10:41:13 PM
Hi lonely, sadly the burden of proof is on you...... read your warrantee..... what are the reasons??????make of car.... subie? for instance.....the motor could of overheated -head gasket -cracked head or block issues......and someone failed to stop the vehicle when the temp guage went up.....or the coolant hose broke and someone kept on driving and the motor was severely damaged.....many try to put blame on operator negligence so.....the key is your mechanics word....talk to him about the why of it all....and what he feels should be done....they probably know a bit about the extended warranty company.... Read over all extended warrantee....including the manufacturers warantee....recalls....etc...... your insurance company has nothing to do with this unless the vehicle was in an accident...flooded or bridge gave out and you ventured down the river/lake.....of course you might have special insurance I know nothing about... I sort of feel they sold you a vehicle with an issue or two.... Insufficent information young lady.....some warrantees provide a free rental vehicle while your car is getting fixed..... Wishing you the best.... O:) PS when all fails get the appropriate lawyer to write a letter and sue them.....do everything in writing...document everything.....same thing with mechanic...written report... edit...guess you got a msg in before me....lol..

Bk2

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Meeting after only one message/mail....why? Posted: 5/26/2009 10:10:42 PM
Hi paininda... interesting post... What is wonderful about this POF site is you have the control over the selection process -who you correspond with....who you meet.....:) Now if a guy is aggressive in his approach...then by all means you have the control to block the person -simple~! If a guy is not to your liking then you tell him how you feel then continue on your journey. If he chooses to retaliate in a negative manner....there is no need to become upset....just block him....isn't POF great.....:)) I do believe there is a time to meet.....some write back and forth for a few weeks at times longer....then they progress to the phone to get a better feel for the person....then there is the meeting -of course it is mutually agreed upon in a public place....:) If you don't feel the chemistry at any stage there is no need to meet.....simple. So back to the question.... ....".....why guys assume that If I reply to their first message that I automatically want to meet up. Or they try to lock me into saying yes to an offer..............................." Personally, if a lady wants to meet with me after a couple messages Red Flags pop up too......... one could list all the reasons and never come up with the Why of it all..... I believe you have the right attitude -this is the opportunity to get to know who you are corresponding with.....their writing skills and content have a lot to tell about the person....and yes, many would be in agreement with you over how awkwardness of meeting right away.... So.....keep being safe and remember to block the crazies of the world.... I believe there are rules of engagement...lol....steps to safe internet dating.... You should abide by these -again be safe. Wishing you the best.... O:) PS ....the more No's you get the closer you get to that Yes

Bk2

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Stuck in a pickle... Posted: 5/26/2009 9:34:43 PM
Hi Rachel... great being young...but it is tough when we experience love no matter what scale it is at..... when a boy talks of marriage and he is with his X.....he might not love you in the right way sadly to say....and you are with your X...hmmm, does one call that cheating at that age? I think you all have some growing up to do....even some of us older folks are still growing up.... I feel it is best to get your life in order....setting some goals whether it is short or longterm but move forward in your life. A person your age should be free of all this 'Drama' ....... get your education if that is on your list...join a gym or a club, work on an excellent career so you are self sufficient with your life. The times have changed young lady. Tell them all to take a hike....and move forward with your life..... Wishing you the best... O:)

Bk2

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Invite to home means yes to sex?? Posted: 5/26/2009 12:31:28 PM
Hi Lady... No -Final answer. Wishing you the best. O:)

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

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nervous to flirt with a good-looking guy Posted: 5/26/2009 12:07:14 PM
Hi soaked.... seems you wrote a couple posts for the guys....similar in nature.....appreciate the posts. I feel you have an issue even before you ask these questions.... You state, "If I keep flirting (or even if I am starting the flirt) I am afraid he is laughing at me because the ugly, fat, boring, or lacking sex appeal is flirting with him. " Now if you feel this way about yourself how can you move on to more questions...? Soakedempress, I feel it is time for you to sit down and look at your life and yourself....if you are upset about the physical -do something about it -be the best you can be....but don't start beating yourself up in front of a forum. So, what should one do? Set some goals, surround yourself with positive people, start an aggressive exercise program, self help programs, find out your colors, makeup, the dress...etc...talk to someone and get over this negativity......get positive! and get positive about yourself! Now getting to your questions.....if you follow some of the above suggestions...(opinions vary)...you wouldn't be asking those questions....simple....but, life changing. Get started -be the best you can be..... Hope that helps..... O:) PS ... if you don't know how one feels....just ask.....

Bk2

Joined: 4/23/2006

Msg: 12 (view)

What's Going Through His Mind? Is It Even Worth It? Posted: 5/26/2009 11:45:15 AM
Hi Rainbow... thank you for sharing.... Communication is one of the most important parts of a relationship -and being truthful and honest are key. Here you say, "...On the way home I started having tears run down my face and I told him it was because I miss my ex...I didn't want him to feel awkward about the real reason..." You lied like a few others noted. Not bright silly. So here is a guy you really love and you put on a show that uou are still into your X...... I think you best give your head a shake. It is best to clear that up as soon as you can. You could meet with this guy and tell him the truth and how you feel about him...that is simple....I think you will find out where you stand. Please remember if he chooses to hang around with all these women (x's) that want to win his heart -you might be best to move foreward with your life....you don't need this 'Drama'.....of course opinions may vary! So to your questions: Q: What's Going through his mind? A: Talk to him...simple. Q: Is it even worth it? A: I think you know what to do all ready! Wishing you the best of luck! O:) PS... get....

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Msg: 14 (view)

What is going on? Posted: 5/26/2009 11:24:00 AM
Hi sxysingle, Move foreward with your life....don't make something bigger than what it is ......this might involve distancing yourself from this guy -sounds like a flip flop to me...something that could end up haunting you..... Luckily for you you are on POF.......where there are some great people.... Wishing you the best... O:)

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Msg: 15 (view)

Confused Men Posted: 5/26/2009 11:13:19 AM
Hi RLPhi, A confused Man. A confused Woman. Glad you moved on........a great learning opportunity in what we call Life! Wishing you the best on your new fishing trip! O:)

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Msg: 14 (view)

Response time and interest? Posted: 5/26/2009 10:48:39 AM
Hi Jen, You say you are a writer -so this says to me you are a fast reader too.....allocate a certain amount of time to go over messages... Seems you care for people too and want to send a reply -for those that have no commonalities/chemistry -send a form letter....simple....-for those of interest -hey, you are a writter.....don't tell your story to just anyone (learned this by experience)....at times I write to a person 2 weeks after their msg....here lies the selection process. I believe it could be beneficial for you to go to the POF profile review....could list the criteria you are looking for in a person -simple..... If you are more into the selection process yourself -take your pic off your profile and only send to men of your choosing..... Jen, you don't have to change -just be yourself. Don't sweat the small stuff -might be good to respond to those men that make your heart skip a few beats or become overwhelmed with that butterfly feeling.... okay, getting corny here but, just food for thought. Wishing you the best and welcome to the site! O:)

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Msg: 10 (view)

Whether to email a guy after he stands you up for a 2nd date Posted: 5/25/2009 9:15:08 AM
Hi Shesakeeper! Seems you have written enough.........move forward with your life.....forget the silly responses....leave it at that... At times situations arise that make it impossible to remember or respond to a person.....sounds like something happened on his side....might be dealing with his son and/or the sunday afternoon stroll which he probably went on..... Just to note you also state, " He's very reliable, trust-worthy and has stuck around for 3 months, so this is VERY strange." One thing you said sticks in my head..... you say, "....No "sparks" for me, but that's ok." If there are no sparks why even bother to lead the guy on....move on....lady. If your mail box is full all the time....then find a man that lights up your life....end of story....simple. Hope that helps.... O:) PS if you don't feel the chemistry don't waste your time...make sense?

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Msg: 10 (view)

Can It Be Love At First Site. Posted: 5/20/2009 9:40:16 AM
Hi Nola, I would imagine anything is possible in this crazy world but for about the 95% of people (could be higher) this would send up red flags everywhere. The point is.....not if he loves you but, if you love him..... Anyway, be very careful and use all safety precautions for dating a new person.... Wishing you the best! O:)

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Msg: 7 (view)

please help me i cant take it cant longer Posted: 5/17/2009 1:38:56 PM
Hi Brittanynicole, sounds like your heart is broken.....good news is -almost everyone on this site has had theirs broken at one time or another.... from what you have said Brittany this guy does what he wants to do whenever he wants to do....breaking up and getting back together all the time isn't considered a consistent relationship -could lead to some emotionally problems that could get etched pretty deep inside you. so this guy got a girl pregnant.... and during this relationshp as she goes through probably one of the roughest time in her life [loss of a child] he bails on her????? and you, know of this and you except him back????? Brittany, if you think this is proper and are accepting of a person like this then I would say you probably both deserve each other. Now if you slowly start to clue into this in terms of respecting other people and what is considered a functional relationship -then, I would have to say - set some short and longterm goals which might include obtaining an education with the hope of achieving a great career. There is so much that you will learn. This could give you some stability in your life especially if you have a child with a guy like this ...seems these types have a tendency of cheating and bailing out on their partner when the time gets rough. Advice? Your going to do whatever you are going to do no matter what anyone on this site says.......My recommendation is to give your head a good long shake and get this nonsense out of your head and move positively forward with your life. Again, simple to say as it will break your heart -but it might be what saves your life and your future childrens lives... Wishing you the best.....have you talked with your Mom and Dad? O:) PS ...... PSPS ...... might be best to get checked up by your family doctor too....be careful...

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Msg: 5 (view)

Pet names Posted: 5/16/2009 9:17:53 AM
'Dear' 'cutiehoneybunch', This is an interesting post.... :) O:)

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Msg: 19 (view)

Stood up Posted: 5/16/2009 9:04:57 AM
Hi d1a, I don't know how you two were talking...none of my business -but if you exchanged email addresses and just asked him to slow it down (nothing more)and he did....sounds like he was listening.... Now missing your meeting sounds like the deal breaker here.....what was his reasoning? Could be many reasons or, did you block him right after the no show? Personally, if a person has a credible reason they call out of respect-hopefully a day or so before the meeting and re-schedule. Now, is there remorse? If he totally blew it and felt this way, there is always hand and knee begging for forgiveness -with the couple dozen roses and chocolates, poetry, and the 100 pages filled with a forgiving sentence hand written... Well, if you get the writing that might be a deal breaker too...lol... Anyway, if there was a good excuse you might be forgiving and give him another chance -if he forgot....to the curb with him.... Hope that helps... O:) PS You are still calling him a gentleman?

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Msg: 19 (view)

Has Nothing To Do With Dating....Car Question Posted: 5/16/2009 12:40:27 AM
Hi BlueeyedCC, good first move....many types of fuses and flashers too.... You must start from scratch....test lights, ohm meter, power, ground.... electrical schematics -follow the little black lines....lol....American Jeep Cherokee forums online [probably a common problem]..... Nothing to do with dating....hmmm, great icebreaker with a machanic that has success with electrical systems...lol... Invite him over and have a picnic basket waiting...it would take him probably 10 minutes or less to trouble shoot it....lol... Have fun with it.... O:) PS just bet a machanic he isn't capable of fixing the problem in under 30 minutes....

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Msg: 5 (view)

Would you want to know? Posted: 5/15/2009 7:34:37 AM
Hi roquesould, good question and not too many people understand the love and dedication that a mother has for a special needs child/person. I believe truthfulness is key in any relationship but I believe in your case and with others personal information in this manner could be left to discussion at a later date or, including this information on your profile. You state in your question, "......I feel like I can't win here......" I feel if a person is up front about it you will attract that specific man that is accepting of the complete package. This will definitely filter out the men that are not interested in the criteria in your profile. For your information there are some special men out there that would be more than happy to jump at the opportunity to get to know you. Here is another note - at times certain men/women could use any excuse to end a relationship and let another person down easy. Some might use a special needs son/daughter as an excuse when really they do not feel a connection with the mother/father. Would I want to know? Yes or No..... why? Because if I fall in love with a lady and she has the chemistry and common interests that I am looking for I am willing and capable of accepting the complete package. My recommendation is go to Profile Review -create a profile that is positive and selective of the criteria you would enjoy in a man.... Remember there are ways of expressing one's dislikes in a positive manner....:) In your situation I would note that you have a special needs child in your profile -you might receive less inquiries but the outcome might be more to your liking. Is it going to take a while to find that special partner? - of course, but, I am sure the wait will be worth it....... I wish you all the best in your search!!! O:) PS remember profile review - excellent help there...

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