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HeadTrauma

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What's on your bucket list? Posted: 1/17/2009 8:30:11 PM
snowboarder12 wrote: Skinny dip with a bunch of people Make a snowman See the Smiths- if they ever get back together- in concert How can you be a snowboarder that's never made a snowman???!!!

HeadTrauma

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What is best, showing them you're attracted or keeping them guessing? Posted: 1/17/2009 1:03:13 AM
I just want to jump his bones but how do you do it? Jump. Aim for his bones...

HeadTrauma

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What is wrong this generation of people? Posted: 1/15/2009 8:32:26 PM
Personally I don't think the generations have any fundamental differences. You can can back and find this "What's wrong with our generation" complaint echoing across the decades. I do think recent recent generations are under more stress and pressure in day-to-day life and I think people's decision making skill deteriorate rapidly under stress.

HeadTrauma

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Meditations on Love Posted: 1/15/2009 8:26:21 PM
Quoting from the movie Waking Life: Creation seems to come out of imperfection. It seems to come out of a striving and a frustration, and this is where I think language came from. It came from our desire to transcend our isolation and have some sort of connection with one another. And it had to be easy when it was just simple survival. Like the word water, we came up with a sound for that, or saber tooth tiger right behind you, we came up with a sound for that. But when it gets really interesting is when we use that same system of symbols to communicate all the abstract and intangible things that we're experiencing. What is frustration? Or what is anger? Or love? When I say love, the sound comes out of my mouth and it hits the other person's ear, travels through this byzantine conduit in their brain, through their memories of love, or lack of love, and they register what I'm saying and they say yes, they understand. But how do I know they understand, because words are inert, they're just symbols, they're dead, you know? And so much of our experience is intangible. So much of what we perceive cannot be expressed. It's unspeakable. And yet, you know when we communicate with one another, and we feel that we've connected, and we think that we're understood, I think we have a feeling of almost spiritual communion. And that feeling might be transient, but I think it's what we live for.

HeadTrauma

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What's on your bucket list? Posted: 1/15/2009 8:24:39 PM
See the Aurora Borealis See a Space Shuttle launch. Um, and stuff...

HeadTrauma

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Can anyone help? Posted: 1/15/2009 8:18:47 PM
Dude, Speaking as someone who has had a tendency to pursue emotionally unavailable women I say this to you: Just stop. Not seeing or talking to her isn't going to change anything if you don't let go of her in your heart. Write it all down in a letter. Hang on to it for a week or two and then read it again. Make whatever changes you need and give it to her. Let her go. Maybe she'll change her mind, but hanging around like a puppy isn't going to do it. You can't MAKE her love you. Let her go and learn to be happy without her. Maybe that is part of the problem. I mean I suppose it would be nice to be the sole reason for someone's happiness in life but it's a lot of pressure. Maybe she feels like she'd mess up and make you unhappy and then feel awful herself. Learn to be happy without her and maybe the situation will change.

HeadTrauma

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clarification Posted: 12/22/2008 9:30:26 PM
I'm not sure there is really an answer to this question. I mean, sure, there are some basic things like excessive drinking or anger management problems that should always be a red flag. I don't really think that beyond that there is much you can do beyond committing yourself to getting to know the person. Have you ever read a movie review that said such-and-such movie was awful and you shouldn't waste your time seeing it only to catch it one late night on TV only to discover you really liked it? Finding love means taking a risk of being hurt if things go badly. That painful breakup might really hurt, but at least it tells you that were in the game, not on the sidelines as some sort of emotional spectator.

HeadTrauma

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The Myth of Los Angeles Posted: 12/22/2008 12:17:03 AM
You know, Los Angeles would probably be a much nicer place if people who thought it was so awful would STOP MOVING HERE!

HeadTrauma

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Meditations on Love Posted: 12/21/2008 11:16:23 PM
Some thoughts on love from my favorite radio show: "I was thinking that everyone I loved I still love They are just below the horizonline in my mind's eye, just waiting for them to come up like the sun again. These are the people I pined for, longed for, cried over, would have done anything for. I think that the great challenge in life is to have an experience and not be bitter about it. Love is painful for everyone. To get the full high you've got to pay the full price. What is the full price? It's the devastation of its loss. Allen Ginsberg once said - love doesn't die, it just get buried under fear and misunderstandings, and the accumulation of missed connections and failures to be brave. It gets buried under all that sludge. It's funny that if someone expresses love for us it means they owe us all kinds of things. From then on, once the word love has come up, the other person is on trial."

HeadTrauma

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How do you spot a good guy or a good gal? Posted: 12/18/2008 9:08:06 AM
impresaria said, "It is good for the survival of the human race, but bad for female virtue that many women do not seem to be especially well-set-up emotionally to refuse men." Most of the women I've dated were exceptionally capable of refusing men... And yes, how could I have overlooked Petered? He is truly the yardstick of love.

HeadTrauma

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How much of a role will race play? Posted: 12/17/2008 11:01:08 PM
I dunno, kinda sounds like an honest and thoughtful guy seriously evaluating your time together for long term relationship potential. I'd be inclined to cut him some slack... er, if I dated guys... but if he was a she, then I would cut her some slack. Yes, I would definitely do that.

HeadTrauma

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Depressed and confused Posted: 12/17/2008 10:41:22 PM
"You know the people you just hate normally without them doing anything stupid or saying anything to piss you off?" Huh? Doing something or saying something stupid is usually a prerequisite if I'm going to bother to hate someone. Just curious why you hate him then? Might it simply be you're feeling jealous?

HeadTrauma

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is he avoiding me? Posted: 12/17/2008 10:30:23 PM
Yeesh!!! Why are you asking us? We don't even know the guy! Yes, maybe he's really not into you. Then again, maybe he got sick, or maybe something completely unrelated to you put him in some sort of grumpy mood (does he have kids with an ex? Ex's seem to excel at making each other grumpy) and feels like if he talked to you all he'd do is put you in a grumpy mood too. You've only been seeing the guy for a month, give the poor guy some caveman time to sort his thoughts out.

HeadTrauma

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I need an answer!!!! Posted: 12/17/2008 9:42:03 PM
He is... the SHADOW!!! When you least expect him... expect him!!!!

HeadTrauma

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How do you spot a good guy or a good gal? Posted: 12/16/2008 3:39:47 PM
Keeping your quote in mind, I would say look for someone thoughtful and respectful and capable of empathizing with those different from them. Funny and interesting and loving are qualities that seem that come along naturally with those.

HeadTrauma

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Myth Posted: 12/16/2008 3:18:46 PM
I do think there are some differences rooted in biology between men and women however I think those differences are only the seed around which the crystal of identity grows. We share more similarities than differences although at times it may not seem like it.

HeadTrauma

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I need an answer!!!! Posted: 12/16/2008 3:03:52 PM
You can't make someone love you by what you do. They will, or they won't, love you for what you are. If you persist in trying it will only lead to more frustration. Don't become yet another "Bitter Nice Guy", it really kills your mojo.

HeadTrauma

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Baghdad Shoe Dodging Posted: 12/16/2008 2:50:29 PM
Bin Laden's objective in attacking us was to draw us into a guerrilla war and bankrupt the country. Sure is lucky Bush didn't fall into that trap, isn't it?

HeadTrauma

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Prop K, will this mean SF's very own Bunny Ranch? Posted: 12/14/2008 7:46:12 PM
I would never argue prostitution is a positive thing for either it's customers or it's practitioners. People engaged in it have emotional or financial problems (and I don't mean that in a pejorative sense). But I don't think outlawing it is going to solve their problems nor is running them through the criminal justice system going to ease their suffering.

HeadTrauma

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LA to the bay area... Posted: 12/14/2008 7:29:31 PM
> it does ocasionally make a chugging sound when going up steep grades. I drove my 1979 Ford Pinto to SF when I was 20. The grapevine grade is kinda tough on it, but once you get past that it is flat, flat, flat so hopefully no chugging sounds. If you're not entirely confident about your car's mechanical wherewithal I have two pieces of advice. One, join the AAA or make sure you have emergency towing taken care of. If you don't, breaking down will cost you a lot more than a plane ticket would have. Two, drive during the day. Dealing with a breakdown is WAY less stressful (and dangerous) during the day.

HeadTrauma

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Haiku - Continuance From Previous Thread Posted: 12/14/2008 7:14:19 PM
A thread lost in time Must count all my syllables thoughts wander onward

HeadTrauma

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Something you're happy about TODAY! Posted: 12/14/2008 7:10:32 PM
I'm happy that I got one more day to ponder life's mysteries...

HeadTrauma

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Do you feel complete? Posted: 11/27/2008 12:37:38 AM
Can anyone ever really be complete? Life is a process, a journey. If you're complete you are finished, static. Would I want to date someone who described themselves as "complete"? Probably not. I don't want to be some sort of emotional bauble that they find amusing for the moment. I want to be someone that brings something into their life. Something they are searching for. Something they need. You don't search for something you already have.

HeadTrauma

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Garlic, Posted: 2/23/2008 9:06:29 PM
Pffft!!! Garlic is NOTHING! At my last job there was a guy who everyday after lunch would virtually bathe in aqua velvet or old spice or something. Everyone within 50 feet of his cubicle got a headache...

HeadTrauma

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It's not just emails that are rude Posted: 2/23/2008 9:03:14 PM
I was reading some of the earlier posts in this thread and noticed there were a LOT of users who posted here and then deleted their profiles.

HeadTrauma

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lookin for some advice ladies Posted: 2/21/2008 11:45:31 PM
Sorry, I'm no lady, but saw this under your "first date" section: "Well, how about somethin fun like grabbing some food somewhere and then goin go-karting. Then maybe a walk on the water (I'd say beach but who am I kiddin, the beaches around here suck)" I think you meant "by" the water. My first thought when I read it was, "Jesus is on PoF?" Advice from a old guy: If some woman decides you're not worthy of giving a chance then it really speaks volumes about her and her issues, and almost nothing about you. Just move on and don't worry about it.

HeadTrauma

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Are you the 1 Posted: 2/21/2008 11:06:05 PM
One time my first real girlfriend were sitting in the car and the radio was playing. I remember thinking how the song that was playing was just awful. Just then, as I was thinking that, my gf declares that this was "our song" and suddenly I knew we weren't "the one" for each other.

HeadTrauma

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Have you really ever felt really lonely? Posted: 2/21/2008 10:46:15 PM
Andre de Silva: You like my country's music, right? I can tell there is a little bit of Brazil in you. Erin Castleton: Oh yeah? Andre de Silva: See, you are sad and happy. You don't smile but you are content. You are sad and happy at the same time. In Brazil we have a term for that - it's 'Saudade'. It's like ... melancholic, nostalgic; it's very Bossanova. From the excelent movie, "Next Stop Wonderland". At one point the main character, Erin, says she doesn't feel lonely when she is by herself but that she feels that way when she is in a crowd. I think I'm that way too.

HeadTrauma

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Baby Boomer profile reviews...get 'em here! Posted: 11/14/2007 6:29:30 PM
I'm not in love with myself. We're just friends... :)

HeadTrauma

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Baby Boomer profile reviews...get 'em here! Posted: 11/14/2007 2:48:20 AM
I'm going to be revamping my profile in the new year. Looking for some feedback as to what to toss and what to keep....

HeadTrauma

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Creative Writng: The Creative Process Posted: 9/27/2007 6:58:08 PM
Um, I read about halfway thru that then my mind suddenly went blank.

HeadTrauma

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Deep thoughts Posted: 9/27/2007 6:42:46 PM
Here is a way to entertain yourself: 1. Get a large pickle 2. Put it in the microwave 3. Set timer for ten minutes 4. Press start 5. Walk away and forget about it When you come back you'll be surprised by the large (and now smelly) pickle in the microwave. And you'll wonder to yourself: "How did a pickle get into the microwave?"

HeadTrauma

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leaving socks on during sex Posted: 9/26/2007 11:54:56 PM
I'm having sex even as I post to this thread. checks for socks I only have one sock on, the other got hung up in the trapeze...

HeadTrauma

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Would you want your hot girlfriend to put a picture up on here? Posted: 4/10/2007 11:25:26 PM
No, I want your hot girlfriend to put a picture up on here. Preferably something sexy. Like licking a melting ice cream cone or something... um, in a bikini....

HeadTrauma

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Wedding Vows - Shouldn't we change the words? Posted: 3/25/2007 7:37:48 PM
I don't recall Adam and Eve getting married...

HeadTrauma

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Falling in Love: Posted: 3/23/2007 8:58:57 PM
Love is a speeding truck whose driver doesn't see the ball that has bounced into the road.

HeadTrauma

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Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary? Posted: 3/23/2007 8:27:32 PM
I think women respond better to something that makes them believe you actually read their profile and found something about them aside from their genetics interesting. Then again, I'm sort of a kook.

HeadTrauma

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Dating and Starbucks ? Posted: 3/23/2007 7:58:37 PM
C.) Everyone "passes" an IQ test. You cannot "fail" - an IQ test only measures your intelligence. I.Q. is a vector not a scalar. People are just smart in different ways. Well, mostly. You get the occasional null vector, even at Starbuck's.

HeadTrauma

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When does it come off? Posted: 3/23/2007 7:50:31 PM
The instructions on the box say to take it off right after sex with your partner.

HeadTrauma

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is it possible for a diamond to be too big Posted: 3/18/2007 9:45:43 PM
Astronomers conjecture that on Jupiter heavy carbon has sunk to the center of the planet and the pressure has created a diamond the size of the entire Earth. As a practical matter, I think that would count as "too big" for a wedding ring.

HeadTrauma

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Thrill of the chase!.. Posted: 3/18/2007 9:34:12 PM
I think the whole "chase" thing is over-rated. One time I chased a woman and when she finally stopped and turned around to let me catch her I couldn't slow down fast enough and we clonked heads and crumpled to the ground. Now you might think laying on top of a woman would be a good time to make your move but I had a slight concussion and the head clonking thing made her change her mind about the whole "being caught" thing so she just kept jabbing her knee into my ribs until I rolled off her and she stormed off. I am older and wiser now and I've decided winking from across the room is a lot safer for everyone.

HeadTrauma

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does a girl have to be a porn star to please her man? Posted: 1/25/2007 10:32:11 PM
I suggest you sit down and watch some gay porn with your boyfriend one evening. After it's over break out a strap-on and I think he'll suddenly understand that maybe not every act in porno movies should be something you two have to engage in.

HeadTrauma

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would you share your toothbrush?? Posted: 1/25/2007 10:24:34 PM
Normally I wouldn't have a problem with it, unless she had really bad breath. Which is ironic since that is when she would need to borrow it most.

HeadTrauma

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My Boyfriend flerts Posted: 1/25/2007 10:22:04 PM
I just flerted. Someone light a match...

HeadTrauma

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the most powerful creature Posted: 1/25/2007 9:50:01 PM
Obviously the most powerful creature is the Tyrannosaurus Rex. With dozens of razor-sharp, 6 inch long teeth it could tear off a couple hundred pounds of flesh in one bite.... Wait, the options in this thread are limitted to male and female homosapiens? Hmmmm, I'm going to say men in that case because they can bench press 245 pounds. Unless the men have penises, in which case I switch my answer to women.

HeadTrauma

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Don't see any sparks Posted: 12/20/2006 10:15:45 PM
talista, does that mean a quadruple negative make a double positive?

HeadTrauma

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Don't see any sparks Posted: 12/20/2006 9:36:57 PM
If there are sparks then as a couple you are a fire hazard and you would be guilty of code violations and could be severely fined. Even if you could find a suitably fire-proof location there is always the danger of setting one another on fire. Spontaneous human combustion can be ruinous to a relationship. Also, at the wedding, people will keep throwing buckets of water on the bride and groom. Smoke detectors will keep going off, 911 will be called, the ice sculptures will melt, other members of the wedding party risk being set aflame, and chaos will ensue.

HeadTrauma

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keeping a relationship together when 1 person works grave yard shift ? Posted: 12/18/2006 7:56:00 PM
Necrophilia...

HeadTrauma

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why are single people such authorities on relationships Posted: 10/9/2006 8:31:31 PM
"When you go looking for something specific, your chances of finding it are very bad. Because of all the things in the world, you're only looking for one of them. When you go looking for anything at all, your chances of finding it are very good. Because of all the things in the world, you're sure to find some of them." -- Daryl Zero, world's greatest detective

HeadTrauma

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Key Lime Recipe? Posted: 10/9/2006 8:23:26 PM
Anyone have a good recipe for Key Lime pies? All the recipes I find on Google look pretty bland.

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