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 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Call Ya Later....
Posted: 9/7/2006 2:49:15 PM
If you two have just talked for a couple of hours, then I suspect the guy is pretty much talked out. "Call you later" probably means a day or two at least.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
continued funding for the Vancouver safe injection site
Posted: 9/5/2006 11:25:13 AM

Any thoughts on what this will mean for Vancouver or any city that hosts 1 of these sites?


It means stupid, risky, dangerous, behavior becomes stupid, risky and dangerous again. Maybe it will mean people will actually have an incentive to stop doing it.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Simple Remedies to Complicated Problems...
Posted: 9/5/2006 11:03:03 AM
Frozen peas? One word: SHRINKAGE!

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
slightly confused....
Posted: 9/5/2006 10:28:21 AM
It's because most men see sex as separate from relationships. Most women tend to see them as going together. A guy can meet a woman and decide she's not relationship material (for whatever reason), but still find her very physically attractive and sexy and desirable and want to have sex with her. Most guys simply don't see being in a relationship as a prerequisite for having sex. It's how we are wired. At least some women are wired the same way, or there would be no such thing as f*ck buddies.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 93 (view)
 
Who do you blame for Katrina
Posted: 9/4/2006 10:57:18 AM

House GOP Bans County Health Clinics From Providing Birth Control


You just keep moving the goalposts all over the field, don't you. Wasn't this thread originally about Katrina? But hey, while we are on the subject, just because it is the official policy of our democratically elected government to promote abstinence, doesn't mean anyone who wants birth control or family planning services can't get them, legally, easily, or even for free, at any number of places, just not from government funded clinics. Big deal. You make it sound like it has been outlawed or something. It hasn't. You really have no clue whatsoever what life in the US is like. Quit pretending that you do.

And don't think I didn't notice how you evaded answering my questions about whether the laws should apply to the poor.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 90 (view)
 
Who do you blame for Katrina
Posted: 9/4/2006 9:17:52 AM

Presumably, this type of law will be used far more often against the poor and working class than the aristocracy.


While I agree that this is an unfortunate decision by the court, it just clarifies where the jurisdiction is for passing laws that prevent such actions in the future. The Federal Government doesn't have the authority to stop it. Many state and local governments are now passing laws to put an end to it.

By the way, the people in New London don't meet anyone's definition of poor.


The USA is increasingly limiting things like access to birth control, and abortion. Again, the ruling class can afford to send their children to another country for such procedures - or buy things like birth control without any problem.


What limits on birth control? It is available everywhere. All different kinds of birth control. Hell ,it seems like every men's room has a machine to dispense condoms. They are also available in just about every store. There's also the pill and other alternatives for women. So I really don't know what you are talking about here.

As for abortion, that is an issue that, no doubt, will eventually be decided at the ballot box, state by state. The people have a right to decide whether they want abortion to be legal or not. That's called democracy.


I pointed out in another thread about the college program where a drug conviction can cost you a student loan. Not only do the rich need these loans less, they can often afford the best legal protection to ensure the conviction is overturned.

It's the same with drug treatment programs, where American kids are being sent to Canada, in Quebec, for private treatment - off the record. As oposed to a poor person, who has no access to any such program as freely - and it IS on the record, and can affect the rest of a person's life.

The list goes on and on, and reduces this concept of an equal playing field to what it really is .... a myth.


So you are saying the poor should be exempt from the law just because they are poor? He's a doper, but that's ok because he's poor. Abortion is illegal, but since she's poor, giver her one anyway. Is that what you are saying? What's the point of even having laws then?

So what if the rich can afford to go across the country or around the world to circumvent a local law? Does that mean the laws shouldn't be enforced locally? Rich paedophiles can afford to go to the sleazy backwaters of the world to indulge their perversions without fear of legal repercussions. Does that mean we should abolish laws against child exploitation here just to maintain a "level playing field" for the poor? No. People have a right to set standards for what is and isn't allowed in their community.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Is there different types of love between opposite sexes
Posted: 9/4/2006 7:17:31 AM

I am wondering who on here can honestly, truly say they have experienced love - other than the type we all think about when we think of marriage.


Well, I have several close, female friends that I have known for about 20 years. Totally platonic. I would have to say I love them to at least some extent, though exactly what sort of love it is would be hard to define. I also have an EX I am staying friends with. I would have to say that I do still love her, but in more of a "brotherly" way these days. There's no passion there anymore and never will be again, but we ended on good terms, so romantic love has transitioned into something like familial love.

I'm still looking for that old fashion sort of love.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 53 (view)
 
anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 9/4/2006 6:51:43 AM
Define "age group."

I mean, is it plus or minus 2 years?
3 years?
5 years?
10 years?
Or what?

I think it's probably different for different people.

For myself I find that I get along well with women from about 5-6 years younger than me, up to maybe 10 years older than me. Outside that range we usually don't have enough in common to be anything more than friends. Your mileage may vary.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 88 (view)
 
Who do you blame for Katrina
Posted: 9/4/2006 6:32:13 AM

He paid insurance every single year since that time, and when Katrina struck - they gave him about 1,000 dollars total.


Thing is, he wasn't paying for flood insurance. I don't really understand why people think they are entitled to something they don't deserve.


Any flooding was caused by the breach of the levees by the hurricane, and without the hurricane there would have been no flood. Even at that, the slimeballs in the insurance industry refused countless people the protection they had paid for.


Well, that's for the courts to decide, and they seem, at least in these early days, to be siding with the insurance companies. I don't know how it works in Canada, but here in the States, flood insurance has always been separate from your standard home owner's insurance. Basically it's optional. You usually don't HAVE to buy it to get a mortgage, which can greatly reduce the financial burden on low income home buyers. But not having it means you are gambling big time with your biggest investment. Those people living below sea level in New Orleans rolled the dice, lost and got hammered. A flood is a flood, no matter what caused it. No flood insurance means no payout. If they can convince the courts that a sleazy insurance agent talked them out of buying flood insurance by lying about what their present policy covered, they might have a case, but why would an agent NOT try to sell them additional insurance? That simply doesn't sound plausible. I can't see the courts buying it.


Start giving "poor" people land in disenfranchised areas, construct affordable homes, and then make sure that people are allowed to own them themselves.


The voice of socialism. The problem with this Utopian vision of yours is that to "give" someone something, you first have to take it away from someone else. Whether you outright seize land to redistribute, or just tax everyone to death so that land can be purchased and then given away, either way, you are stealing from one group in order to give to another. Why does one group have more right to land and a house than another? People have the right to that which they can earn, nothing more. The only thing we should be "giving" people is opportunity. If some people don't make as much out of their opportunities as others, that's their problem, not everyone else's.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Do men realize when they do this...?
Posted: 9/3/2006 7:03:41 AM

When you check out a woman, do you notice if she isn't alone? Like....say if she's with her parents...do you notice, or care?


I especially like it if a woman is with her mother. I check them both out (though I try not to be too obvious about it). How the mother looks is a good preview of how the daughter will probably look in a few years.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Who do you blame for Katrina
Posted: 9/2/2006 5:42:19 AM

Not that I totally disagree with that, but I still will not accept that for whatever reason someone finds themself in a life and death situation ( as NO's citizens certainly did AFTER the storm hit ) there is no time for blame then - only action.


Sure you can blame the various local, state and Federal governments for being slow to come to the rescue after the disaster happened. But then that's what governments are, slow. Everybody knows that and everybody complains about it all the time. Were people expecting it to be any different after the hurricane? That's why the government ordered an evacuation, because the government knew it wouldn't be able to adequately protect or rescue people if they stayed. No rational human being should ever put themselves in the position where their survival depends on the government coming to their rescue.


What was eventually done could have been done the second the winds died down. The delay, which was totally a federally caused one, meant people died that did not have to.

No matter what you say, that cannot ever be denied.


Actually I can and will deny it. The Federal Government has no authority to go charging into New Orleans, or anywhere else for that matter, until after getting a request from the local authorities. It is well documented that the locals waited way to long to make that request. Even then, the Federal Government is a huge and lumbering bureaucracy that is not set up for quick action in massive emergencies. So if you bet your life on the government (any government) coming to rescue you, odds are you are going to die. I will never put myself in that position. I don't know why others do. It's just nuts. People need drop the entitlement mentality to take a little responsibility for their own safety.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Who do you blame for Katrina
Posted: 9/1/2006 4:12:46 PM
Everyone here seems to be debating how to apporition all the blame amongst all the various government agencies involved. And sure, I agree that there were serious failures at all levels of governemnt and plenty of blame to go around for all of them. However, one group that deserves a lot of the blame for what happened is being almost totally ignored. That's the people living along the Gulf Coast who did nothing to protect themselves.

I've lived in hurricane country my whole life. It's been drummed into me to always be prepared, to have a plan, to have supplies, to get out if they tell you to evacuate, to accept responsibility for your own safety if you choose to stay because the government may not be able to help you. I've heard this over and over and over again. I've listened, and I've heeded those warnings. Twice in 2004 I was ready to evacuate because of big hurricanes that came close to where I live. My van was packed, I had motel reservations in Georgia, the gas tank was full and I was ready to go. Fortunately the storms turned away before I had to leave, but I was prepared to go and would have. Even when I chose to ride out the minimal hurricanes of the last few years that came near, I always had lots of supplies on hand and did it in a house on HIGH GROUND.

For the life of me I don't understand why all those people in Louisiana and Mississippi just blew off the evacuation order and tried to ride out that monster storm with no supplies or survival plan. Especially the people in New Orleans who knew they were living below sea level. It's just crazy. All they had to do was get out of the storm's way for a couple of days. They didn't, and they paid the price. Those people have to accept at least part of the blame for what happened to them.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Gas prices dropping.....why?
Posted: 9/1/2006 3:20:26 PM
I think it really is just coincidental. The Republicans have no direct control over oil prices. Speculators in the commodity markets set oil prices. There are lots of reasons why prices have been so high. Some of the reasons why they are headed down are:

1. The end of the summer driving season. Gas prices almost always drop this time of year because demand goes down and supply goes up.

2. No major hurricanes in the Gulf of Mexico to disrupt production, and fewer hurricanes forecast for the future.

3. The Alaska pipeline closure has turned out not to be as big a disruption of supply as was expected.

4. The end of the Israel/Hezbollah war with no major disruptions to Middle East Oil supplies.

Enjoy it while it lasts. Refineries will soon be retooling to produce heating oil for the coming winter at the expense of gasoline production. Prices will provably start rising again before the November elections. So put away the conspiracy theories.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Pictureless posts... implications?
Posted: 9/1/2006 1:11:49 PM
I tend to assume there are two main reasons why people don't post pictures.

1. They are married and don't want to get caught trolling for their "sumpin on da side."

2. They have a really, really poor self-esteem and think they are too scary ugly to post a pic.

Either way, it's a bad scene I don't want to get involved in.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
now what?
Posted: 9/1/2006 3:44:02 AM
I agree with cotter. If I met someone here and became involved with them, I wouldn't necessarily totally give up POF because it would be hard to give up the forums and emailing friends. However, if I knew it bothered her, and she asked me to, I probably would. So, have you brought this up with him?

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
 
calling guys
Posted: 8/31/2006 6:58:46 PM
I have to agree with Adam. Most Of the women I've met here have either given me their phone number, or asked for mine no later than the second or third email, and we then move on to mainly talking on the phone. I like to write, but I think you can learn so much more about a person from a phone conversation than you can exchanging emails or IMs. So I think that's why they do it. It just seems like the natural progression; email, phone, meet in person, or not, based on how well the phone conversations go. I mean, I think that's why most of us are here on POF, to actually meet people. I phone conversation will really help determine if they are someone you want to meet or not. Much more so than emails.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
THE BIG LIE: ISLAMO FASCISM *sigh* more of the same...
Posted: 8/30/2006 4:45:21 PM

I think you Americans did that same thing to Aristide, Castro, Chavez, Khomeini, Hussein, Abe Lincoln.. Didn't ya? Look in the mirror, pal. America was doing it long before anyone else was. LMAO[/quote[

What in the world are you blathering on about now? Your communication skills leave much to be desired. We haven't defended any of those people for killing people who didn't agree with them (quite the opposite really, and Lincoln doesn't even belong in that group), and we didn't kill any of them for failing to agree with us. Sheesh, most of them are still alive. Khomeini died of old age and Lincoln was murdered by a nut. So your above statement makes no sense. Not that that is unusual for you.


Umm... Can you name me some European welfare states?


You mean you can't? How about France? Germany is about as bad, and so is Spain. Great Britain is headed that way too.


Ummm.... The war itself IS a crime. Ask anyone in Europe or the UN.


What exactly are you smoking? The opinions of people in Europe are irrelevant and The UN has not declared the war illegal.


What you fail to realize is that you believe that AMerica has a "culture." What you believe is "culture" is really nothing more than a passing "fad." There are countries that have been around for thousands of years and have been practising politics for the same amount of time. Why should we or the world hold America in ANY regard when they refuse to listen or learn from historically significant nations.


They may have long histories, but they are pretty sordid histories. And we have tried hard to learn from them, so we don't become like them. If you'd like to compare sordid US history against the sordid history of any European nation you'd care to name, I'd be happy to, because I have no doubt we'd come out smelling like a rose by comparison. Try applying your wonderful historical perspective to those you are defending. By the way, I don't need to be lectured on how young my nation is by someone from a nation a whole hellofa lot younger than mine.


Go to Germany and ask a German about America today, or Great Britain... (Actually, don't go to great Britain... American's are hated there right now.) Go to Switzerland, Sweden, Norway, Denmark, Luxembourg, Russia... Do you think world opinion doesn't exist or matter? Most of the world says: America are acting illegally. The only people who don't believe that are..........Americans.


Like I said above, their opinions are irrelevant. They really don't matter in any meaningful way. I don't care if they don't like us. I don't even care if they hate us. They may have been around for thousands of years, but all they managed to achieve in all that time was to become irrelevant and dysfunctional bit players in the world economy of the 21st century. By the way, if everybody hates us so bad, why are they all beating down the doors to try to get in and become Americans? Why does half of Canada come to Florida to ride out the winter every year? Maybe it's just you and a few other loons out on the far left lunatic fringe, and not everybody. Did you ever think of that?

As for your fishing analogy, well, I hope MY hook in your mouth doesn't hurt too much.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
THE BIG LIE: ISLAMO FASCISM *sigh* more of the same...
Posted: 8/30/2006 2:48:51 PM

repuglican
tobacco chewing nazi
uneducated boers
lemmings like you
Mr. Cheney's penis


What were you saying about ad hominem attacks? Does the word hypocrisy mean anything to you? Do you have any idea how frothy you come across in your posts?


American's like you are the reason for 9/11. Harsh words...


So harsh words are the cause and a justification for 9/11 according to you? You are actually defending people who kill others because they don't like what they say? You need to take a hard look at yourself, son.


Maybe you should look up fascism and you'll see modern America defined.


Anyone who can't see that America is actually rapidly sliding down the slippery slope into becoming yet another European style, socialist, welfare-state is living in a state of extreme denial.


every US and Brit soldier in Iraq that ever fired a shot should be gassed as war criminals.


Sure, but only if they actually committed any war crimes. The war itself isn't a crime. Hope that helps clear things up for you.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
THE BIG LIE: ISLAMO FASCISM *sigh* more of the same...
Posted: 8/30/2006 3:52:23 AM

I didn't write article. I just posted it.


Classic buck-passing dodge. You went to the trouble of cut & pasting it here because you believe it's true. So now it's up to you to defend your beliefs here, not just try to pass the buck back to the original author.


Why is my head in the sand and not yours?


Because the post is utter BS for the reasons I stated and for lots of others. I can see that, but obviously you can't.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Just turning 40
Posted: 8/29/2006 5:16:42 PM
Guys are simply looking at different things on her than you are. They might not even notice those little lines that you are talking about. How does her skin look otherwise? How's her body? How are her legs? Instead of dissing her, you ought to be trying to figure out what she is doing right, so you get the same reaction when you are her age.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 111 (view)
 
Men & Premature Balding
Posted: 8/29/2006 5:05:20 PM
As far as I am concerned, premature balding is any hair loss before I die of old age. And yes, I am a sufferer of premature balding.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Study shows 1 in 8 Americans are living in poverty...
Posted: 8/29/2006 4:52:32 PM

The last time poverty in the US went down was the last year Bill Clinton was in power


Poor Americans are only poor in comparison to rich Americans. Compared to most of the rest of the world, even poor Americans are rich.

America: The country where even the poor can afford to be fat.


I love laughing at America.


That's funny. A citizen of a dysfunctional and irrelevant country laughs at the last superpower left standing. Well, whatever helps you get through your pointless existence I guess.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
THE BIG LIE: ISLAMO FASCISM *sigh* more of the same...
Posted: 8/29/2006 4:35:00 PM

President George W. Bush made a point last week of using `Islamofacists’ when recently speaking of Hezbullah and Hamas – both, by the way, democratically elected parties.


Hitler was democratically elected too. So what's your point?

Get your head out of the sand and face facts. They are fascists.


The neocons screaming fascist the loudest, are the true fascists themselves.


I don't see the conservatives in Washington beheading people who refuse to believe the same way they do. Son, you seriously need to get a little perspective. There are a lot of Islamo-Fascists out there who would much rather kill you than try to co-exist with you. People like you preaching tolerance and understanding would be the first against the wall, in spite of you welcoming them with open arms, because Islamo-Fascists allow no tolerance of alternative views.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 322 (view)
 
What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/27/2006 12:06:50 PM

Is it physical features or something else entirely?


I think it's a lot of different things. By the time a woman reaches her 40s, she's spent 20+ years of her life perfecting her look. She knows which clothes, hair styles, makeup, etc. work for her and which don't. By then she's also lost the youthful awkwardness. She's developed the grace, style, wisdom and confidence that can only come from age and experience, but she is still young enough to be very physically attractive. As far as I am concerned, a lot of women are at their peak of attractiveness from their late 30s to their late 40s.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Lets be HONEST
Posted: 8/27/2006 9:07:20 AM
Well, even if I still loved her, but I knew there was no chance of us ever getting back together, then sure, I'd eventually move on to seeing other women. It beats being lonely and miserable for the rest of my life. However, if I really loved her, and I actually thought there was a realistic chance of us getting back together, I wouldn't. I'd wait it out and try hard to reconcile.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
How picky the guys are???
Posted: 8/23/2006 5:08:26 PM
In no particular order:

Nasty teeth.
Bad breath.
BO.
Rat's nest hair.
Dirty and/or rumpled clothes.
Way too much makeup.
Overly strong perfume.
Visible tattoos.
Piercings (other than ears).
Wildly unnatural hair colors.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Why the vanishing act?
Posted: 8/23/2006 4:51:55 PM
Thanks for all the replies. In answer to some of your questions:

Yes I did consider that she might have been called out of town suddenly. She told me she had an elderly parent living out of town that she often had to go visit. That wouldn't explain not returning my calls to her cell phone though. Women don't go anywhere without their cell phone.

I did consider that she might be dead or in a serious accident. It was a pretty far-fetched notion though. It was the one excuse that would have made me feel really bad about being mad at her though.

I did consider that maybe she just didn't have as much fun on our dates as I thought she did and was just too polite or too afraid of confrontation to say so. However, she is no shrinking violet. She is very up-front with her likes and dislikes and expectations. It was one of the things I liked about her.

After not doing so for about 5 days, I see she has begun logging in and checking her mail again (I have her on my favorites list, so I can tell when she last logged in). Still no attempt to contact me though.

After much thought, and review of our email, phone and in-person conversations, my own theory is that her ex bf is back in the picture. I suspect I was just someone to kill time with until he came back and made up with her.

Thanks to everyone who responded.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Would You Date a Woman in a Wheelchair?
Posted: 8/22/2006 8:32:46 PM
This question falls into the same category as all the other similar questions like:

Would you date a heavy woman?
Would you date a woman with kids?
Would you date a woman with a disabled child?
Would you date a woman who smokes?
Would you date a woman who is separated?
Etc.
Etc.

The answer to all these questions is the same. It depends on the woman.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Where does the attraction come from?
Posted: 8/22/2006 8:22:14 PM
This is something that varies a lot from man to man. Years ago I worked with a guy who wouldn't settle for anything less than absolute perfection in both face and body. He's probably still sitting home alone waiting to meet Miss Perfect too.

For myself, a pretty face beats out a great body every time. I don't think I would be attracted to a woman with an ugly face no matter how great her body was. If a woman has a really pretty face though, I'll overlook lots of bodily imperfections.

Personality is very important too. I've known some really beautiful ladies who were really ugly on the inside. A crappy personality is a deal breaker no matter how pretty they are.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
I plan on moving out of state in three years. Is it right for me to date local women until then?
Posted: 8/22/2006 8:06:12 PM
Great question kc8475. I'm in a similar situation. I live in Florida but will probably be moving to Arizona in a few years, and I always let the ladies know this up front. I will be watching the responses you get.

knopper
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Why the vanishing act?
Posted: 8/22/2006 8:00:45 PM
I'm hoping some of the ladies here can provide me with some insight on something that happened to me recently.

A lady here on POF contacted me. We emailed back and forth for a while. Moved on to talking on the phone. Arranged to meet. We had a great first date. I had a good time and she said she did too. We had a second date which also went very well. Again, she said she had a really good time and was looking forward to getting together again. We made plans to meet again last weekend but she was a no-show. She stood me up without so much as a phone call or anything. I tried calling her, several times. Left messages. Nothing. It's like she's vanished off the face of the Earth. I was hoping some of you ladies out there might have some possible explanations for her behavior because frankly, I'm at a loss.

Thanks in advance,

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Why do men do this...?
Posted: 8/21/2006 7:06:13 PM
Well, assuming you are both looking for a relationship, and not just friends, if you don't really hit it off, where is there to go from there? Back to the pond for more fishing is about the only option. Why keep plugging away at something that didn't work out?

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Why don't men cut their toenails?
Posted: 8/21/2006 6:28:58 PM
I keep mine cut. I hate the feeling of long toenails, and I hate them poking holes in my socks. Besides, I have memories from childhood of my grandfather barefoot at the beach with his long, yellow, talon-like toenails jutting out from ends of his sandaled feet. SHUDDER! It took years of therapy to get over that. I vowed I would never let that become of me.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 66 (view)
 
Guys How Can we Get You To Listen?
Posted: 8/21/2006 2:45:33 PM
Strip naked and stand between him and the TV. Once you have his full attention, just ask nicely.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Turning off the computer all the time, a good or bad thing?
Posted: 8/20/2006 11:25:55 AM
If you are using Windows, you need to shut it down at least a few times a week. Windows gets flakier the longer it runs due to problems called memory leaks which are rather technical and I won't go into here. All versions of Windows suffer from it. But restarting the computer fixes the problem. Shutting the computer down every day isn't a bad thing at all. One big killer of computers is overheating caused by either heat sinks getting clogged with dust or seized bearings on fans. Shutting down the computer when you aren't using it will greatly prolong its life because the fans won't be running, sucking in dust and wearing out their bearings.

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Guilty pleasures
Posted: 8/20/2006 10:47:49 AM
Edy's cherry chocolate chip ice cream.
ABBA (but if you tell anyone I'll deny it)

knopper3
 knopper3
Joined: 4/25/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Setting the standard
Posted: 8/20/2006 10:40:01 AM

Obviously, if you're no longer with that (oh so perfect) person, we can assume that you really weren't all that compatible, right?

So, please to 'splain. Why do we let failed relationships be the 'bar-setter' for future ones?


Good question. My ex gf would compare my to her ex husband and ask me why I couldn't be more like him. I'd aways reply that you liked the way he was so much that you divorced him, so why would I want to act like him? It was never the answer she was looking for. That's just female "logic" at work I guess.

knopper3
 knopper3
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Msg: 16 (view)
 
Would guys
Posted: 8/20/2006 10:20:42 AM
Stretch marks aren't an issue with me.

knopper3
 knopper3
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Msg: 5 (view)
 
Top few things that turn you off about women
Posted: 8/20/2006 10:13:20 AM
1. Constant complaining about her job (or about having to work for a living at all).
2. Comparing me to her ex(s).
3. Saying she loves me as I am, then trying to change me.
4. Expecting me to be able to read her mind.
5. Not following through after saying she'll do something.
6. Procrastination.
7. Laziness.
8. Self-pity.

knopper3
 knopper3
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Msg: 46 (view)
 
Do you think you're better?
Posted: 8/18/2006 3:41:43 PM
Um, no, not really. Sure, I'm pretty good in some areas, but there are a lot of people in the world. There are probably quite a few who are even better at most, if not all, of the things I do well.

For instance: I'm much better at doing the things my job requires than anyone else in the company, but certainly not better at it than everyone else on Earth. A lot of other people could do my job and some could even do it a lot better. Of course they'd probably want a lot more money, so my job is pretty safe.

I certainly hope there is someone out there who is better than me at dealing with my ex's issues than I was. I wouldn't want to see her alone and miserable forever.

I'm ok with the fact that I'm (probably) not better than everyone else at anything. I don't need that to be happy with who I am.

knopper3
 knopper3
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Msg: 31 (view)
 
Any worth reading books on relationships?
Posted: 8/18/2006 3:26:09 PM

So we all have a "perfect" relationship book to recommend. (as do I)

Yet we're all out here in the pond.

Interesting. VERY interesting.


Yeah, we are all just a bunch of people home alone on Friday night asking for dating advice from other people who are home alone on Friday night. What's wrong with this picture?

Seriously though, if any of those books actually worked, everyone would know it and would be using them and getting great results. Instead, it just seems to be getting harder and harder to hold together a relationship these days, in spite of all the advice in the books. Relationship books are like diet books. They come and go as the fads change, but people just keep getting heavier.

knopper3
 knopper3
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Msg: 24 (view)
 
What could a woman do to let a man know he is appreciated?
Posted: 8/18/2006 4:16:26 AM

Other than just telling him


What's wrong with just telling him? Simply come out and say it. Sometimes it seems like all we men get from you women is nagging and criticism and complaints. If you really do appreciate us, just say so once in a while. It will be special.

knopper3
 knopper3
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Msg: 17 (view)
 
anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 8/18/2006 3:37:56 AM
I prefer someone close to my own age. Maybe plus or minus five years. At some point I lost touch with "youth culture." I have very little in common with people more than a few years younger than myself. I don't get them, and they don't get me. I can identify better with people older than myself, but for dating purposes, I wouldn't be looking for more than a few years older. That said, I wouldn't automatically dismiss anyone who is outside my preferred age range, but I would tend to see them as more likely to fall in the "friend zone" than the "dating zone."

knopper3
 knopper3
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Question for Atheists:
Posted: 8/17/2006 8:05:03 PM

That being said, my question for the atheists in the audience would be do you care if other people share your opinion on the subject of religion? Do you actively try to enlighten others to your point of view and ever get frustrated with the sheer idiocy and repetion of arguments against you with holes so large you could sail an oil tanker through them?


Sure, I care that others don't share what I believe to be the only rational view. However, I have come to realize that people don't think rationally on the subject of religion. You can't argue people out of their faith, no matter how rational your arguments are. I gave up trying to convince others that they are wrong for believing in their nonexistent god(s) of choice long ago. Because, after years and years of debating the subject until I was blue in the face, I never convinced a single believer to take a rational look at their own beliefs. All that arguing just served to further polarize people and further entrench people in their faith. Any criticism of a person's religion , no matter how minor or how rational, is always seen as an attack. When someone thinks their religion is under attack, they always just retreat deeper into it. They never look at it critically.


I tend to believe that humanity will not be better off until we eliminate the foolish belief in a higher power and start working together as one people, so I would say I do try to 'enlighten' others of my opinions.


I felt the same way in my youth. I was quite a militant atheist in my youth. I was the kind of person who would have called to remove "In God We Trust" from our money and "Under God" from the Pledge of Allegiance. I'd debate the subject at the drop of the hat with anyone who showed the least bit of superstition. All I got out of it was a lot of frustration and a few enemies. No converts. I have mellowed with age. I now realize that people aren't going to give up their superstitions in my lifetime, and probably not in many lifetimes to come, if ever. These days I'm much more of a live & let live atheist. Experience has shown that just because someone chooses to follow some irrational religion or other doesn't mean that they aren't otherwise ok people who I can live and work with without any real difficulty.


I do know in a sense this is hypocritical, since religion does much the same thing, but then again it is not this part of religion which I stand against.


You can't convert people to atheism. It's not just hypocritical, it's impossible. People have to come to atheism on their own. Any attempt to convert others just makes them retreat further into their religion. Besides, what does atheism have to offer that can compete with the notion of 72 virgins in a never-ending paradise, angel wings, harp music, etc., etc. All we have is the certainty that we aren't wasting our real lives by living them solely for the purpose of meeting the requirements for getting into some non-existent after-life. It ain't easy being an atheist. There isn't much to attract converts.

knopper3
 knopper3
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Msg: 18 (view)
 
Barbara Boxer for President 08
Posted: 8/14/2006 6:21:06 PM
Sure, run Boxer for Pres. in 08. I'm all for it. It will guarantee the White House will be in Republican hands for at least another four years.

knopper3
 knopper3
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What is up with my guy??
Posted: 8/14/2006 5:54:35 PM

I know about him needing to get back on treatment (for depression)


Well there's a whopping big clue right there. Nothing kills the sex drive like a serious bought of depression. It could also explain a lot of his other behavior. Depression manifests itself differently in different people. Not everybody who is depressed sits around moping, crying and uncommunicative. Guys can get moody, irritable, and short tempered when they are depressed.

knopper3
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Msg: 17 (view)
 
Sex books ever read em???
Posted: 8/14/2006 5:27:53 PM
No, I learned about sex the old fashion way. I picked it up on the streets and fumbled awkwardly through my first few encounters. If it was good enough for my parents, it's good enough for me. Besides, real men don't read manuals. Haven't you noticed that the first thing a guy does with a new piece of hardware is toss the manual in the trash and proceed on dead-reckoning alone? A manual just takes all the challenge out of it.

knopper3
 knopper3
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Msg: 26 (view)
 
when a guy does not call
Posted: 8/11/2006 3:40:46 PM
Why aren't you calling him? Maybe he's not calling anymore because he doesn't think YOU are serious.

knopper3
 knopper3
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Work mate obsession
Posted: 8/11/2006 3:37:03 PM
Think twice before dating a co-worker. We've all known the temptation, but it really isn't a good idea. Your company may even have rules against it that you aren't aware of. Check the rules first. Even if it is allowed, it still isn't a very good idea. If your relationship ends in a messy breakup, you'll still have to see and work with each other every day. If the office tension gets too great, the bosses will most likely show one or both of you the door in order to restore peace and tranquility for everyone else.

knopper3
 knopper3
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Msg: 13 (view)
 
Have any of you had a girl tell you you're lying about your age?
Posted: 8/11/2006 3:43:01 AM
It hasn't happened to me on POF yet. It has happened to me in real life on several occasions though. I've always looked older than my real age. A couple of times I've had to whip out my driver’s license to prove I'm not older than I say I am.

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