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Interpret a text message
Posted: 11/21/2009 6:33:38 PM | good grief.. it means nothing... substitute...
Ha, Ha. Ha....
Gee and I thought only the women way way over thought this stuff. Contact me for an address to hand in your man card.
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Searching preferences
Posted: 11/21/2009 1:07:56 PM | Ok so I am just being nosey back... So if your get 20 replies here from guys of different heights and weight and race and drinking and smoking habits how can that help you.
We all have different criteria for what we search for and weigh each thing differently.
I want a FUN slim cute gal.... So the next guy may have totally different tastes. And we have 10 million members. See how this works?
You have 20 replies here and they may all be different.
We all want someone we feel is attractive (and that varies wildly what one guy thinks is cute versus another) and has similar interests.
How much any individual weights those other factors is purely their personal preference.
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redundancy
Posted: 11/21/2009 10:12:15 AM | Only two forums are capped at 20 replies. The two Ask A sections.
why close a thread that has been asked before From our forum posting guidelines here
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1345738.aspx
THREAD REDUNDANCY
Thread "Redundancy" occurs when the same topics are continuously created. No one wants to see the first page of any forum with the same tired topics. While you may believe the topic is new, it may not be - so please search first (Instructions Here), and simply join that discussion that is in progress, to either gain your answer, or to add your opinion, even if it has been added already. The site likes to keep the forums free of these tired subjects so don't be surprised if your topic is removed. If you don't understand this concept - please read further here Purpose of The Forums and Why Redundant Threads Are Deleted.
Purpose of The Forums and Why Redundant Threads Are Deleted.
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What's up with this?
Posted: 11/21/2009 10:01:56 AM | No exact details on these functions are never made public. Lots of guesses. Probably no better then your own but... they may search for people as you described yourself in your profile ? Who knows...
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posting your general location on your profile
Posted: 11/21/2009 7:59:39 AM | I think a better suggestion then altering your city field, if you live in a small community, might be specifying in the About Me section that you live near XXXXXXXX city and would entertain dating within XX miles of that city.
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Is internet dating more taboo in African/Asian cultures than in Western cultures?
Posted: 11/21/2009 7:36:55 AM |
Do they have internet dating in asian and african cultures?
I find it hard to imagine that a peasant, working on a rice paddy in Cambodia, goes home to a computer and plans to meet a woman he's never met at Starbucks for a first date. She never mentioned peasants in 3'rd world countries. People of many different cultures live around the world. And are still heavily influenced by the culture of their family/heritage.
People for instance of asian or indian cultures (her example) can live world wide today, as they have been heavily migrating to other countries which allow open immigration for economic and other social reasons for decades. They are still heavily influenced by their race and family values with which they were raised, as we all are.
In the U.S. and the UK we have areas with heavy concentration of Hispanic, Asian and Indian populations which are still heavily influenced by cultural beliefs in all areas of life, including dating and relationships.
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Personal protection canines
Posted: 11/21/2009 6:00:41 AM | I disagree on the fact that some breeds are not more dangerous then others. And I have bred VERY large breed dogs for many years.
As advice to you I would say pass on the pitbulls. Add german shepards in their place.
I have seen VERY lovable and passive pits. And seen well trained ones just flip out and do something totaly out of character expecialy around children and other animals. There is something that is deeply bred into some breeds. For purely liability reasons these days just skip on the pitbulls. There is a reason police and military dogs are not of this breed. Use german shepards.
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the new QUICK reply
Posted: 11/21/2009 5:43:31 AM | Just one less click really to start typing and you get less options to include gifts etc... To me it was a redundant feature but many seem to like it.
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Allow others to see if I viewed them-- NOT WORKING
Posted: 11/21/2009 5:42:07 AM | Here is the key question. Did you view them? Most those complaining of this say they never even viewed the profile in the first place. So the guys might be just saying that trying to get a response from you even if the response was "NO I didnt view you".
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uploading pics
Posted: 11/21/2009 4:41:53 AM | A number of site features do not function correctly using a phone based browser it seems.
Best suggestion when you run into one of these situations is to go use a computer. Surely a friend, neighber or family member can assist you for a few minutes if you do not own a computer yourself.
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Body Type
Posted: 11/21/2009 4:18:09 AM | I think your under the misconception that when you make suggestions here, that there is a team of programmers waiting to snap them up and leap right on it.
Wrong. There is ONE programmer and ONE employee of this site actually who also owns this site and is our Admin for a website with 10 million members. As you can imagine he stays busy with many things keeping this site running day to day.
Changes to this site come SLOWLY in incremental changes over years. And changes suggested here, I am sure are reviewed from time to time and prioritized and evaluated by him on their merit in HIS EYES.
A suggestion here is just that and nothing more. It is your idea for a change. No guarantee it will be implemented ever.
Your suggestion here has been duly noted! Thank you so much for taking the time to share your ideas and suggestions as always. We appreciate your input.
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Etiquette for friends 1st meet, dates, etc
Posted: 11/20/2009 2:22:15 PM | PLEASE start doing a thread search before startinga redundant topic.
Go search for the words "pays" . I wa sgoing to link you here to a thread with 300 replies since this one would of been capped at 20 anyway.
But this one
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts8762007.aspx
has over NINE HUNDRED replies to a similiar question and in the course of its discussion it answers your exact question many many time.
As a man always be prepared to pay and ALWAYS do short CHEAP first meets. Those are not dates. Many gals will offer to split that first one. Some would never ever think of doing that.
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How do you think dating issues are different for those over 45 than for younger people?
Posted: 11/20/2009 12:16:27 PM |
I do think we need our own little corner in PoF where we can freely discuss issues affecting us and not have some 20-something tell us how wrong we are.
Won't ever happen. Any age and gender can post in any forum here.
Starting threads in this forum with valid subjects is only part of the current problems in this forum.
The constant off topic chat is killing to many valid threads as you get off topic and all chit chat to each other in off topic posts. From the rules at the top of this forum section which many of you never bothered to read or just choose to ignore
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Important: This Forum Is Not A Chat Room
The only valid topics permitted in this forum are for issues and discussion topics THAT ARE SPECIFIC and EXCLUSIVELY experienced by members, Ages 45 and Over.
In Other Words - IF the topic or issue can be experienced by any age group, then it does NOT belong in this forum - post it to the one of the other general forums.
Understand that simply tagging on +45 to your subject does NOT make it a valid topic for this forum - Re-Read the first point and then ask yourself if your thread can be experienced by any other age group - If the answer is yes, then post it elsewhere.
Realize that this is not a forum for only 45+ members to "hang out" in - anyone may participate and give a valid opinion or contribution.
Any topics that do not comply with the Posted Rules and Guidelines will either be deleted, or moved providing they are not redundant.
If you persist in chatting, it will be removed along with deminished posting rights.
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Every post in any forum here has to strictly address the OP's topic never another poster. And always stay on topic. Every post should ADD VALUE to the conversation.
"ditto" or "I agree" etc.. does not cut it. If you can't add something to the discussion just don't post.
This forum is very very different then any forum I have ever seen or heard of ! I post on 8 to 10 other sites forums every single day. Because they allow that friendly off topic chit chat that this one does not!
All of you should seriously read the forum posting rules here
Forum Posting Guidelines
Acceptable Use & Posting Rules
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What do you think about cougars?
Posted: 11/20/2009 10:01:03 AM |
OK I just cleaned over 3 pages of off topic insulting and flaming posts from a half dozen individuals. This thread better get back on track here or I am gonna nuke it.
And if I do I am handing timeouts for bad behavior all around.
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Time commitment
Posted: 11/20/2009 9:40:13 AM | Huh??? Questions like this make no sense. Everyone would be different.
The only answer that matters would be from women your trying to date.
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Pictures
Posted: 11/20/2009 7:49:10 AM | If it is on his back, then does this not also fall under the "No Shirtless Male pics" ban on this site?
I have always went by msg 1 from the Admin and he seems to state no shirtless male pics are allowed.
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts3686293.aspx
Now I want to be clear here that I wish this site was more consistant as far as posting these rules exactly the same in all locations so it would always be clear what the rules are. We should not be depending on an old post made years ago to go on here, and the image approval/rejection screen should be consistant with the image uploading screen and reflect this post I linked also, if it is still in effect for example.
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Three pictures of members above my favourites list
Posted: 11/20/2009 7:29:25 AM | Bottom line is no one knows the answer to that one. The question has been asked here often and never answered. Admin has not released any criteria for choosing those people. Mine vary wildly from gals I have contacted to just cute gals in my area.
It may be based somehow on people getting a lot of page views and thus appear popular but WHO KNOWS really. That was just a wild guess.
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Finding Out How Interested He Is...And Why
Posted: 11/20/2009 6:16:58 AM | Because men have given up on ever understanding women? (smile)
Darlin if you could actually write a book that men would read and teach them to understand women it would be a best seller. It would not be posted on top our inbox on a free Internet dating site in an article. And you would be RICH and sitting on a beach somewhere, sipping fruity drinks with little umbrella's in them with scantily clad cabana boys serving them to you. And that would be money just from women buying the book for their guys after seeing you on Oprah talking about it!
But that is not happening. Want to know why? Because guys are pretty simple I hate to say. I can write a an article in two paragraphs that would teach women to understand most men.
And women are beautiful and mysterious because of their complexity. I could write volumes and volumes and never adequately cover the subject at all. That's what makes women so wonderful. And why most men will always be frustrated and never understand women at all. (wink)
Be realistic here... The average guy on this site can't even be bothered to read your entire two paragraph profile before writing you to ask for nude pics, and you want them to read a long article about understanding women in general? Yeah right... I think I need a shot of tequila. Let's make it a double OK?
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smoking vs non-smoking?
Posted: 11/20/2009 4:38:20 AM |
If the mail settings affect the search, I'll have to change them every time I do a search.
Read what Ticket said again. If I understand correctly YOU don't have to touch your email settings. Is is based on OTHERS email contact restrictions not your own.
If you are a Smoker, and any given non-smoking User has restricted Contact, then they will not show up in your Searches.
So when you search and you have your profile set as a smoker, then if a non-smoking user has restricted contact fom smokers they will now show up in your searchs.
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Can someone who is not a member view my profile?
Posted: 11/20/2009 4:09:58 AM | Yes of course. This is a free internet dating site. Being a member is required to send messages and have a profile. Anyone may view any profile that is not hidden.
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Best way to turn a guy down?
Posted: 11/19/2009 11:43:10 PM | Don't reply. You just open yourself up to abusive emails from frustrated guys.
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back in the dating world
Posted: 11/19/2009 7:42:49 PM | No way we can answer this for ya. We don't know the gal YOU do. Everyone is differant. Tell her you enjoy texting during the day and ASK HER if she enjoys it.
These are questions to work out with her as what we think does not matter here.
What she thinks is all that matters here.
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My posts
Posted: 11/19/2009 1:01:26 PM | Number 1 cause of thread deletions in 45+ forums are those invalid because
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45+ Forum Rules
Important: This Forum Is Not A Chat Room
The only valid topics permitted in this forum are for issues and discussion topics THAT ARE SPECIFIC and EXCLUSIVELY experienced by members, Ages 45 and Over.
In Other Words - IF the topic or issue can be experienced by any age group, then it does NOT belong in this forum - post it to the one of the other general forums.
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So beside not being a chat/list/poll/redundant thread and having a valid discussable topic like all other forums THAT forums topics must ONLY APPLY to those 45+
A number of invalid threads have been removed from that forum as well as the 30+ forum recently.
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blocking users without photos?
Posted: 11/19/2009 11:55:51 AM | Go to mail settings above your inbox... 3'rd from the right, second row from the top.
Go down to the third section (sort of) and about 3 or 4 lines below where you enter your email address it says "Allow emails (first contact) from users without images on their profile: "
Good Luck
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blocking users without photos?
Posted: 11/19/2009 11:48:31 AM | You can block contact from users with no photos but not from viewing your profile.
Remember this is a free website and anyone (not just members) can view your profile.
Your other option would be hiding your profile.
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Zip Codes users
Posted: 11/19/2009 10:50:10 AM | Honestly I look at tons of profiles on this site and have for years. This is not that common a problem. My own opinion here is if this is your biggest complaint (having to occasionally google a zip code) then your doing great here.
Sometimes those folks are in small towns and don't want to advertise exactly where they are because based on profession and other interests they might be recognized.
Just respect others boundaries and their right to privacy.
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Woman who think you are Hot - function
Posted: 11/19/2009 9:59:03 AM | Not sure why you ever assumed they had ever even viewed your profile. No details have ever been released as to how those people are selected.
I would just ignore it if your unhappy with the results. But quit assuming anything about how any of this sites feature work. No details are ever revealed on how the matches are made on this sites features.
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