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RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 43 (view)

flouride? what's the deal Posted: 5/29/2007 4:18:32 PM
I think everyone should stop complaining. A hundred years ago or less, the average life expectancy was around thirty years old. They didn't have the modern things we have such as medicine, surgery and easy access to nutricious food. OK some of us will die from cancer because of stuff that shouldn't be in the food.....in our senior years, which for most of us will be into our late seventies or eighties, not our thirties or fourties like our great great grandparents. Despite all the things everyone complains about, we are all only imortal for a limited time and the average lifespan is INCREASING, not decreasing! Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

nope, this site beats all others, hands down...here's why Posted: 4/30/2007 11:26:27 AM
It's FREE, there is NO charge. The webmaster does this out of the goodness of his heart. Even the advertising on this site, although sometimes it makes me shake my head, is not too far out of line. He doesn't sell mailing lists, to my knowledge at least, and ANYONE, within certain voluntary restrictions, can contact anyone else. I'm even beginning to use it occasionally as an online email service with friends and dates. OK, it's all about what you make of it! I send out hello emails a couple times a day, and I might get a response once for every ten or so emails I send. Of those responses, a lot are of the "thanks but no thanks" variety. I don't mind them so much, because even though I think it's a bit shallow to reject someone out of hand, at least they didn't leave me hanging, so I often thank them for their courtesy. HEY even that can sometimes lead to an online friendship, or more. Are you expecting instant gratification? You won't find it in a singles bar, and you won't find it online here either. If you want instant gratification, try the yellow pages. Say hello with the intention of expanding your circle of friends. Whatever happens after that is bonus. Would you expect any different if you met a woman in a singles bar? Of course not. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 18 (view)

Ex-Girlfriend Issue--Please Help! (I would appreciate it so very much--you have no idea!) Posted: 4/15/2007 10:19:43 AM
OMG...I read this, started thinking this guy is definitely inexperienced because he's so easily manipulated...THEN I read that you're only 21...ok...that explains that. I had also been thinking that the girl involved was definitely a player, imature, doesn't know what she wants, and is only using this guy when there is nothing better to do....ok THEN I noticed she is only 16. WELL, in many places you being 21 could get you into some SERIOUS legal trouble persueing a girl her age...nuff said? You're young and inexperienced, and I hate to say it, but a bit gullable. MOVE ON. Go see a therapist if you're still obsessing over her. It's not healthy and it will get you put in jail if you're not careful. Let her have a couple years to mature. When she's 18 or 19 maybe give her a call then. She'll be more mature, and LEGAL. RandyL

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 111 (view)

The Sex Mistake Posted: 3/3/2007 9:48:09 PM
I think this author has finally nailed it. If you advertise sex, of course you'll find it. If I don't find you sexy, you're not going to be persued, but what do I find sexy? I'm not even sure. I do know it's as much mental as physical, in fact probably more so. As an example, I hope most men couldn't bring themselves to take advantage of a beautiful, but low IQ...could you? Once the "conquest" has been fulfilled, what's left? There has to be personality to fill the inbetween times. I believe that it's likewise for women as well though....my goodness relationships are complicated! One day at a time and I'm sure the right fish will swim my way....someday......soon??? On the other hand, we're both adults and if there's a mutual attraction, having sex tonight doesn't mean we automatically have a relationship, but it doesn't automatically preclude it either. Now I'm more confused than ever.....arg...lol Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 42 (view)

Looking for (enter age range) Posted: 2/24/2007 10:06:25 PM
The dating age is an elimination, not a qualification. If I say 18 - whatever, it means I don't want contact with anyone under 18....for understandable reasons. It doesn't mean I'm hoping for an 18 year old....only that I don't want to have a relationship with anyone not of age. Odds are that I'll focus my actual SEARCH on women closer to my own age. RandyL

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 33 (view)

No women want controlling men? Posted: 1/15/2007 1:18:05 PM
I think it's important to realize the difference between being dominant and being dominating. Like being bossy doesn't make you the boss either. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

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please review and tell me what to change... Posted: 1/10/2007 9:34:39 PM
Thanks for all the input! Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

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please review and tell me what to change... Posted: 1/10/2007 8:31:58 PM
Thanks for the giggles....I'll take it under advisement...you had some good points. I truly suck at self descriptions...lol

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

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please review and tell me what to change... Posted: 1/9/2007 7:46:55 PM
Thanks for the feedback everyone. I probably went overkill in the OTHER direction now, with too little info...lol....can you NOW tell me what you think AGAIN? What else should I add? Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

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please review and tell me what to change... Posted: 1/9/2007 6:05:42 PM
Hey ladies, I'm an intelligent, employed, financially stable and independant, laid back, nice guy, who is feeling rather ignored on POF...is it me, or is it my profile? I'd like some candid feedback as to why I keep getting ignored or turned down when I take the time to say hello. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

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MEN ARE MESSES! Posted: 1/6/2007 8:11:33 AM
There are only so many hours in a day. Lemme see..I work 60 hours a week sometimes, have three dogs, renovate, look after children, persue multipe "other interests", friendships etc....hmmm...you're right, having a messy house must be unforgivable.... Do you want a guy who has other responsibiliites and actually prioritizes his time, or someone who has nothing better on his plate than to keep the house "clean". I would also point out that MY definition of "clean", is not likely the same as yours....I kinda doubt anyone's is. I do however, have "clean" periods....you have to watch for them cause they don't seem to last very long....lol Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 47 (view)

finding one's equal Posted: 1/5/2007 11:32:55 PM
Ironically, by the time they saw the cat, it was gone....sorry...maybe we should have let this one alone....lol Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 344 (view)

Cheating- can you forgive? Posted: 1/5/2007 11:26:45 AM
Is the cheating emotional of "just" physical? I could and have forgiven "just physical", but could hardly forgive the betrayal of an emotional relationship, even if it's NOT physical. If she came home pregnant, or gave me an STD, etc, that would be different, and would be a lot more difficult to forgive. You really can't ignore the statistics, that both men and women cheat. It's amazing how many children are busy calling the wrong man "DAD", and he has no idea either. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 105 (view)

Snoopy, spying B/F....WTF Posted: 1/5/2007 11:18:55 AM
RUN...don't walk. You obviously don't trust him. That's all you need....he could be GOD himself, but if you're not comfortable, don't be there....why keep beating a dead horse? Find someone else....there are, after all, plenty of fish out there. You won't find the "right" fish if you're not fishing. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 37 (view)

finding one's equal Posted: 1/5/2007 10:32:21 AM
Intellectual equal is a big plus, emotional equal is pretty impotant as well, but do I want to have a relationship with myself? I DON"T THINK SO. We should be similar enough that we can tolerate and understand one another's thoughts and ideas, if not actually agree with them from time to time, but we also need to be able to respect each other's differences. I suppose we can't be TOO different, but we have to have some personality traits in common. Like gears in a transmission, you have to mesh. If you clash too often, things will soon fall apart. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 339 (view)

are all the guys on here looking for sex? Posted: 1/5/2007 10:10:34 AM
Of COURSE men think about sex....don't YOU? If it wasn't for sex, there wouldn't be a human race in the first place. I think your question might be; Is that ALL men want? In some cases I could ask; Is that all WOMEN want? Well, maybe some people, but I personally think that most people are hoping for a sexual "relationship" that includes a whole lot more than just sex. If all you wanted was sex, why waste your time here? There are many "working" people willing to accomodate someone with that kind of morals. Personally, I've never been that desperate. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 203 (view)

Sex on a First Date - Does it Kill a Potential Relationship? Posted: 1/4/2007 9:33:41 PM
another thought occurrs....what if the first date lasts a long time, say it starts as coffee in the morning, a hike in the afternoon dinner and a movie etc....now, you've only had one date, but you've had enough time to get to know her well enough to know if you're interested. Would I jump into bed with someone I don't know, or have known for only say, fifteen minutes? NO NO NO Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 201 (view)

Sex on a First Date - Does it Kill a Potential Relationship? Posted: 1/4/2007 9:23:12 PM
We're all adults and if we both see the first date progressing to the point of sex, then so be it. I don't EXPECT sex on ANY date, and if it happens, so be it....all the better. I also believe that sex is a variable throughout any relationship though, regardless of how old the relationship is. Sex is not the defining activitiy of the relationship. OTHER factors will eventually be more important. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 52 (view)

i am broken into a million pieces... Posted: 11/13/2006 8:30:07 PM
Your story brought a big lump to my throat. I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I worry that my goldens might get out of the yard, cause my 14 month old is still traffic stupid. He scared the *** out of me a while ago when a kid across the street caught his attention, and he bolted over to say "HELLO", as goldens are wont to do. RandyL

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 85 (view)

Is it wrong to leave your child in your apartment for 5 minutes to collect your laundry.... Posted: 5/13/2006 11:30:17 AM
OH thank you for that very entertaining visual! RandyL

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 82 (view)

Is it wrong to leave your child in your apartment for 5 minutes to collect your laundry.... Posted: 5/12/2006 2:44:19 PM
OK, I'll wade into the deep end of this one. I was a single dad since they were two and three...they're 19 and 20 now.... Sometimes you have to leave them in a diferent room than you. Don't you ever sleep? What do you do with them when you are asleep? Aren't they in a crib or playpen where they aren't going to get into anything? What if you are living in a house and the laundry is downstairs...surely you don't expect her to drag the kids AND the laundry basket up and down at the same time? Now, the politically correct answer is "never leave them alone" and no one would fault you for that, but sometimes you have to realize that life happens. don't be gone across the street for coffee, or next door, or whatever. Don't leave the building unless there's a neighbor watching in on them etc. You have to be aware of the things that come up, like the elevator stuck, or....you locked your keys in the apartment.... No matter what, be careful, but keep the kids safe as best you can. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 44 (view)

Bad first letters and replies.. Posted: 5/11/2006 12:13:10 PM
I just want to give your photo a hug.....aww, I think that one is really cute... RandyL

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

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Victoria! Any one interested... Posted: 5/8/2006 1:00:40 AM
I'm in, as long as someone lets me know it's coming Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 36 (view)

Weak Moments Posted: 5/7/2006 11:38:01 PM
I can really feel your pain, as I have a 19 and a 20 year old with special needs. the older one has adhd and odd, while the 19 has cornelia de lange syndrome. (Mild mental disabilitiy) I don't know exactly what to tell you ecept to work on the voluntary fostering arangements, and possibly try to convince her to have her tubes tied to prevent future pregnancies. Good luck, as it seems like a no win situation. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 32 (view)

have you ever done it? Posted: 5/7/2006 11:18:00 PM
I think I was driving that Grayhound....I've seen more than one couple having a good time in the back seats....they think we can't see in the little mirror....well, I'll tell you, you really have to squint, and sometimes you have to turn on the lights to get a really good look.....lol... Then there's the times you see two people go into the bathroom...or one goes in and it's not empty yet... Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 18 (view)

Where do you go when........? Posted: 5/7/2006 10:57:55 PM
I take the dogs for a hike, or work on the house. If I'm really feeling lost, I get on my bike and go for a fast ride down a long twisty road, like West Saanich rd, or sooke road, maybe even the hat to clear my head. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 25 (view)

When driving do you ............ Posted: 5/7/2006 10:49:55 PM
OH I Have to share.....I glanced at a pretty lady driving through Mill bay today as I was passing her, and WOW, she got my attention.....well, I passed her again a few minutes later, and she caught me checking her out, mostly because I really liked how animatedly she was talking to her little guy.....anyway, she wound up following me into Timmies, and I got her phone number....and boy did she ever have a great reason to be happy....it had nothing to do with me, but she made MY night....lol Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 14 (view)

Landlord Benefits Posted: 5/7/2006 10:25:10 PM
btw, you can also write off wear adn tear of a rented stove, fridge, carpeting, paint etc.

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 13 (view)

Landlord Benefits Posted: 5/7/2006 10:23:27 PM
if you're renting 30% of your house, you can use 30% of the INTEREST on the mortgage as a tax deduction. Also, 30% of hydro, garbage, water etc. You can't write off any of the principle of the mortgage. Anything above 30% of the interest is taxable income. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 21 (view)

Large spontaneous purchases… Posted: 5/7/2006 6:32:39 PM
I'm sure that to an outside observer, my large purchases are spontaneous, but more often than not I've been thinking and researching and talking about it for months weeks days before hand. When the oportunity to buy a house, or get a good vehicle at auction, etc comes up, I'm usually ready to spring. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 32 (view)

Do you have children? Prefer not to say Posted: 5/7/2006 5:53:57 PM
I think it's a lame way to try and protect your kids from potential pedophiles....the thinking being that pedophiles target women with children. It may be true, but peds will just keep lookin till they find a woman with kids, and no dad around. It doesn't really acomplish much except waste the time of men not interested in women with children. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 51 (view)

Cat Problem.. HELP Posted: 5/7/2006 5:32:29 PM
install a cat door that is collar activated, so only your cat can enter Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 22 (view)

Why would someone tell you they love you when it isn't true? Posted: 5/7/2006 5:28:26 PM
Maybe he did fall in love with the person on the internet, and on the phone, but the face to face wasn't what he was looking for. Chalk it up to diferent expectations and move on. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 32 (view)

Losing Friends Posted: 5/7/2006 1:44:49 PM
I find that now that I'm single again, old army buddies, and people I used to hang out with are coming back into my life. I guess relationships can really envelope your whole life. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 18 (view)

Dating VS Relationship Posted: 5/7/2006 1:42:36 PM
some people think that sleeping together means relationship...not me, but it certainly eliminates one possible stumbling block to haveing a relationship. Until that happens, the game is really at maximum velocity. Once you have slept together, everyone relaxes, cause they know they've been "accepted", and the real getting to know you starts. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

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Dating VS Relationship Posted: 5/7/2006 1:32:39 PM
I think the best relationships are the ones where you've been dating or just meeting and starting to spend more and more time with one another, and one day you wake up next to her, and say HEY! We're in a relationship! That's really cool......kiss kiss kiss....lol.... Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 49 (view)

Biggest NO NO Posted: 5/7/2006 1:29:26 PM
Negativity, Verbal or physical abuse, non-tolerance of my parenting style, drugs of any kind, lies, lack of ambition, subversive gossip....hey I like to hear gossip just like the next guy....dumping on the ex constantly - hey we all have to vent sometimes, but if that's all you've got, it gets tiersome. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 54 (view)

Can a guy really be just friends with an ex girlfriend? Posted: 5/7/2006 11:13:01 AM
I have mostly managed to keep in touch with old girlfriends. My last ex had a very low self esteem and a jealous streak to boot, which made it dificult to maintain contact, but I don't believe you can care that deeply for someone and just "walk away" without checking in on them from time to time. My last always insisted that if we were ever not together, we could not be friends. That may have made me stick around longer than I should have. Who knows. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

Postie caught with his pants down!! Posted: 5/7/2006 1:44:02 AM
I heard about this on the news, and likened it to the guy who takes an extra half hour for lunch....he should be disciplined, but HOW THE HELL did it become national news??? Like I really care that some guy got caught with a hooker on company time. What if he got caught with his wife on company time? Was he paying her with postal money orders? Come on. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 32 (view)

Why do guys message other guys? Posted: 5/7/2006 1:00:10 AM
I agree...I'm looking for friends, and I say so in my profile. Now if a nice lady wants to be my friend, of course I'll be hoping for more, but no expectations and if a guy sees we have similar interests and just wants someone to motorcycle, or fish, hike or whatever, I can't tell you home many times I've just wanted someone to go to the bar with, but everyone's busy. I see no problem with that...just don't insinuate that I might be interested in anything else. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 42 (view)

Cheating question !! Posted: 5/5/2006 12:31:52 PM
maybe, a majority, but the number of children calling the wrong guy dad is about 15 to 30%....ever watch maury? What a joke. Those same guys are paying child support for those kids who aren't theirs. That's a pretty significant effect if the minority of cheaters are women. Look at the effect of cheating and lieing on the husband. Randy

RandyL

Joined: 4/28/2006

Msg: 224 (view)

WHY ARE MEN SO MEAN Posted: 5/5/2006 9:59:30 AM
Nice guys appreciate a meaningful overnight relationship sometimes as well. It could be that that one night was enough for him to realize that you're not the girl he wants to settle down with. Call it an evening of mutual exploration. If you weren't into it, why sleep with him. If you were into it, so be it, but don't kick yourself or anyone else for it after the fact. Life is too short to take things like that personally. When things click, one night will lead to another and to another and to another, and eventually HEY, how come I'm only dating one person, and he's dating everyone else, or only me or..... you can't control anyone but yourself, and you have to do what you feel is best for yourself. Personally, I don't object to a meaningful overnight relationship, as opposed to a one night stand, but you have to take it one day at a time. Sleeping together once does not mean you're going to get married in this day and age, nor does it automatically mean it's an exclusive relationship. You have to discuss these things. If you want to read my profile, I'm looking for a long term relationship eventually, when I find the right lady, but I plan on meeting a few people along the way. What happens on that road is between myself and the people I meet. Randy

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