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 amazonqueenie
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Today I am......
Posted: 3/1/2009 3:35:44 PM
Did some research for work
Took some time out contact others on here.
Went for a walk and enjoyed the warm sun.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
What kind of music do you like? location? ladies and gents post!
Posted: 4/14/2008 1:31:03 AM
Well being that this post is like almost 2 years old I will skip out on the sharing of name thing hehe. I am from the Inland Empire area and I have a vast array of musical tastes.

I enjoy listening to everything such as rock, metal, R&B, old school rap, country, classical, new age, reggae/dancehall, musica en espanol, other cultural music, folk, bluegrass, jazz, electronica/house, disco, big band, vocal standards from the 20s, 30s, etc. So I basically listen to everything. I am trying to expand in my interests of different artists.

I have been searching for music sites that will let me on new artists and artists coming out with new material to listen to.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 1/10/2008 7:42:52 PM
I have an invisible illness that does affect me, I have Fibromyalgia, so I decided to have it listed on my profile so that a person will know up front instead of later. It affects my mobility at times. I have found that through my experience is that most guys I come in contact with, we talk for awhile and then I finally bring it up and all of sudden they will disappear when hearing that. So I rather just tell them ahead of time, and if they are not interested because of that then good riddance and no time is wasted.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Plans for New Year's Eve?
Posted: 12/23/2007 12:45:28 PM
ignis thank you so much. I saw something in my search about a party going on in that area so I am thinking about going to that one. I just need to see what I have that fits upscale clothing. I am so behind on the times, I have to look up what that means LOL.

I don't have any friends out this way anymore, that is another resolution that I want to work on more, is to make some new friends again.



Hehe no 12 step program needed for me LOL.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Plans for New Year's Eve?
Posted: 12/22/2007 11:44:15 PM
What?! I am not seeking attention. This is a legitimate post as I would like some ideas on what are the fun places to go for New Year's Eve.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Plans for New Year's Eve?
Posted: 12/22/2007 11:33:40 PM
I have been trying to figure out where I could go this year. I have not been out to a New Year's Eve gathering in years, and I would really would like to go to somewhere fun.

I will most likely be on my own, so any ideas?

I know that I will just be looking to sit down for a little while and relax.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
8 Consecutive Harassment Emails
Posted: 12/7/2007 8:08:22 AM
Just block him, it's not that hard, end of problem. He pops up again? Block him. Good luck!
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 273 (view)
 
Why don't tall men choose to date tall women?
Posted: 12/3/2007 2:54:51 AM
I am 6'1" and I have run into men my height and taller and the response has either been yay or nay. The ones that say no, have said that they are afraid I will put on 5" inch heels and will end up being taller than them, and they end up feeling small. I was like hey wait a minute, who is wearing 5 inch heels?! Those are hooker heels! LOL. By the way I don't wear high heels just a nice heel with my outfits, nothing outrageous.

Anyway I would say that it is even now. I don't have a height requirement though, I am more open to learning about the person than their height. However, I have found that many people have different preferences. If they have an issue with my height then I move on. I am sure there will be that perfect man for me who is okay with all of me.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 329 (view)
 
People who just write how are you
Posted: 11/25/2007 10:22:40 PM
Hmm I never saw anything wrong with "how are you." So what would be an alternative phrase to say then that would rock your socks off to reply to that person?
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Why women wont date seperated men
Posted: 11/13/2007 5:58:04 PM
I don't date separated men because they are STILL MARRIED! Duuh!! LOL. When they get officially DIVORCED then we can talk.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Whiny Men
Posted: 11/13/2007 11:34:52 AM
I do not think that you were out of line at all but I do think that he was. To jump to those type of conclusions is just horrid. I guess you got a little preview of what he is like when something does not go according to plan.

I have had a little experience with that. I have a few health issues and sometimes I am having a health issue and cannot call and it is something that is unexpected and if someone cannot understand that, then they are someone that I do not want to have in my life. Things happen in life and may not always go to plan. That is one whiny man and quite selfish too. He has some seriously high expectations that I do not even think that he can live up to.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Sexual content and pics with their kids?????
Posted: 11/13/2007 11:14:54 AM
I have always wondered about that, and I kind of stay away from people like that as it is a turn off to me. It just feels weird. I don't think it is a good idea to have their kids in the picture. There are lots of pedophiles out there that get off on stuff like that.

I don't understand why they can't just take a picture of just themselves sans kids.

Aww well.....
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 41 (view)
 
what do you do when you find out your bf is married?
Posted: 11/13/2007 11:01:59 AM
Wow that is a long time and I am so sorry to hear that you wasted a year of your life with this guy. I have had that happen with me from out of state and overseas and promises to meet me and I will set up a date of when and if they could not come up with a commitment in a decent amount of time then I would let them go. I do not know if they were married but I am glad that I let them go. There is no point in committing my life to someone that I have never met even if there was a connection. Real life meeting is what makes it real and seals the deal!

I think the reasons of why he lied are so numerous. He was maybe looking for someone to talk to and maybe feel alive and wanted again out of his lifeless marriage. I think a nice little call to his wife would clear all that up right away.

Anyway, like all the posters have said which I do agree with by the way, this was a whole fantasy, it wasn't real! Get your head out of the clouds and face the fact that this man is married and it will never ever turn into a real relationship. Move on!

Anyway don't waste anymore of your life on him, and move on. You have so much to give to someone that will truly appreciate it and not use you like the way this guy did. Stay away from men that are already taken, they are never going to be able to give you whatever it is they are needed. Plus you will always be seen as a homewrecker and I don't think you want that.

Close off all communication with him. There are more and better fish out in the pond.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 199 (view)
 
Why are we here Saturday night?
Posted: 11/11/2007 2:02:26 AM
Hehe well I could not find a decent date but there is always next weekend.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Kissing Rules
Posted: 11/10/2007 9:03:49 PM
Hmmm I don't like wet slobbery sloppy kisses. Eww! A nice soft gentle kiss. Lightly sucking on the bottom of my lip. No overactive tongue action, makes me feel confused LOL.

Kiss my neck and then....oh wait that is a whole 'nother topic. Hehehehe
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 204 (view)
 
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/28/2007 2:40:14 AM
Sunny,

Well read and decide what you want to do. If it bugs you that much then skip to the bottom and read the testimonial first LOL. it is all up to you.

As for spelling, I am not going to hold it against the person that posted a testimonial with spelling errors. I think that is what I understood from your post. Unfortunately not everyone is the spelling bee champ of the world. They are posting from their heart and what they have seen of that person and thats what is important.

The basic goal of testimonials are to share about the person. What gets shared is what makes things quite interesting.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 303 (view)
 
Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 10/28/2007 2:26:58 AM
That would be the OPPOSITE of sucking LOL



Wow that would suck huh?
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 29 (view)
 
The hottest ways to touch him... there
Posted: 10/28/2007 2:05:29 AM
Hehehe I think that would actually hurt him more than anything LOL.



if you're angry with your guy, place a piece of sandpaper {120 grit] in the palm of your hand...gets him every time!
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
do you ever wish you were asexual?
Posted: 10/28/2007 1:55:36 AM
No I do not wish that for myself. I have a healthy appetite and I hope to share that with the right man for myself in the future.

I think that in a way you can change to be that way but it is a decision. There are times that I do not care about it but it is because I have things going on my life that sex is just not the right thing to be thinking about.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
He loves to talk about sex - he's had with other women.
Posted: 10/28/2007 1:47:12 AM
Hmm well I have unfortunately had a few male friends that were like that. They brought up sex every chance that they got. It got old really fast and I told them to cut it out. Then they would try to creep that sex talk in there. After that I saw less and less of them, and ended that friendship or whatever it was. It seemed pointless to keep someone like that around and they are hurting my ears with that mess.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 201 (view)
 
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 10/28/2007 1:08:55 AM
I do not see testimonials as a turn off but a great tool to be able to learn more about the person. I have a testimonial on my profile from someone that I met on the forums and had to chance to get to know a little better.

If it is not something that you are interested in reading then by all means do not read it. Simple.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 70 (view)
 
Who has better luck in real life versus the web?
Posted: 10/28/2007 1:02:46 AM
I find that online works out better for me. With certain life situations that I have going on for me, I am not able to go out as I desire to meet a man in real life with that type of scenario.

I have tried to talk and ask men out in real person but they seem to get really intimidated by my height, I am 6'1. So I just keep trying online.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
What is he treating me this way!
Posted: 10/21/2007 12:55:42 PM
Well I do not think this man is ready to be involved with any woman at this time. I think that you first had a sign when he told you that she committed suicide like last week. Don't you think that is too soon for him to be involved with someone? I would have run and said oh I am sorry for your loss and have moved on. I think that if you truly care about him then let him go and if it is meant to be then he will come back to you.

He needs time to grieve and is not ready for any sort of relationship. I think maybe being his platonic friend but nothing more at this time.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Will She Ever Message You Back?
Posted: 10/20/2007 5:02:33 PM
The IM messenger does not always work on here. I have gotten IMs with nothing in them at all. I would consider using the email feature as that is the best way to go. Also try to be patient as well and you will do fine.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 496 (view)
 
Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 10/20/2007 4:48:20 PM
I like them, as well as tall men. I am 6'1" so not all of the shorter guys like me. I am haha scary too tall for some of them though (hey that is what some managed to tell me) and for the tall guys, some of them do not want to see me eye to eye LOL. So I just cannot win. LOL
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 759 (view)
 
so, why are you still single?
Posted: 10/20/2007 1:24:35 PM
I am still single as I am doing a lot of things for myself such as goals that I have for my life.

I am also single by choice. I rather be single than be mixed up in a miserable relationship.

I have not met the right man who fits even just a bit of what I am looking for. Brains, a good heart, and lastly some signs of a good sense of humor in addition to also being able to handle my sense of humor. I am looking for a man with substance. So I figure he will show up someday soon. Hopefully before I am 40.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Why She WILL Message You Back
Posted: 10/20/2007 1:10:10 PM
Hmm the "hey sexy chocolate, nice arse" messages I do not reply back to. I figure it is the toddler in their pants that typed that message to me.

I like messages where it shows that they did read my profile, found something funny that I said, or they have something funny to say in their messages.

I also like to take my time in answering messages as I don't like to send just anything to an individual. So although I read the message, I like to spend a little time composing a worthy message back to them.

The you're beautiful and over the top compliments drive me insane, including very badly misspelled messages where I have to wonder what it is that they are trying to say. In this day and age everyone should know how to use a spell checker. I can understand one or two misspelled words but not the whole paragraph.

Also like another poster said the threats in the emails and putting me down. I usually reply to those with an interesting attitude and they get BLOCKED immediately.


 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 91 (view)
 
what do you think of the Viewed Me section
Posted: 9/7/2007 11:22:47 PM
I like it as it gives me a chance to see if there is any compatibility. Sometimes men are shy and are afraid of being shot down, and don't want to take a chance of being rejected. Now I have only had one guy that was mean about it, and I don't think he knew about the feature though haha. I had emailed him as I thought he seemed cool and he proved himself that he was not.
I had some choice words for him after his message LOL.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 95 (view)
 
EEWWW!! THE WEIRDEST YET!!!! in 25 years...
Posted: 6/30/2007 10:21:25 PM
Wow that is priceless and funny...but a very known fetish though LOL
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 23 (view)
 
How did You,I and the other people in thirties get like this?...
Posted: 6/10/2007 7:39:26 AM
Hmmm well that sounds like that is on you, and not others. It is your whole perception of things going on in your own life, than just an age thing.

Most Saturday nights I am out and about going to a movie, or something or sometimes after working and dealing with school, all I want to do is relax, and read a great novel.

Your life is what you make of it, and hehe meeting women at the bar eeeh isn't that the place where you really do not get to meet the best quality of people sometimes?

Maybe expand your horizons and open your mind more. Don't be afraid to go out alone, I used to be like that and I realized that no one but me is able to determine my life and what will be fun for me. For me, even though I may be by myself a lot of times, I will make sure I have some security know about me for protection and go to that jazz concert I always wanted to go to, travel to somewhere fun for the weekend, etc etc. So do not just limit yourself. That is just the worst thing that you can do. I would love to go to places with others and I still hope for that but in the meantime I rather make the choice to go out on my own if necessarily. Plus you may never who you will meet.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Is this a deal breaker?
Posted: 6/9/2007 11:55:03 AM
Not a deal breaker for me, but it would be quite boring, as I like to try different foods. It would make me wonder if they are not open to trying new things in general and look to see if there is a pattern there. If it was only the food then I could live with that, but if it was everything in their life, such as not enjoy traveling, a change of scenery, and things like that, then that would be a deal breaker for me.

I like to go out when I can and see the sights.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 74 (view)
 
May all the immigrants accept my apologies for americas
Posted: 6/8/2007 2:53:33 AM
Apology accepted but may not be needed. However, in thinking about immigrants technically every single person came from somewhere, viewing their ancestors, came from another country at one point to emigrate to the United States, which has been long known as the "land of opportunity", or to another country for a better life or opportunity to achieve.

I am not sure about South America, and Central America but there seems to be still a major interest to go to North America? Your thoughts please.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 116 (view)
 
If you've had cancer or an illness at what point in a relationship do you tell
Posted: 6/8/2007 1:32:49 AM
This has been a really touching thread to read and I must say that I have a few chronic illnesses that I deal with which are Fibromyalgia, and Chronic Fatigue that I deal with and have been ill with for the last 8 years. I look absolutely normal as well but physically I am going through a lot and it is unpredictable. So I tell the person usually in time to let them know of what it is that I have and all that it entails, and I encourage them to also do research on their own about my ailments too if they want to know more information.

Anyway I have been trying to decide whether to tell them early on or wait until down the road when things begin to get serious. That is where I really need to make a decision about that soon and how to handle those type of things. In my past I have found that in when things do get serious and I tell them they end up running for the hills, and so I feel that time was wasted when I could have told them in the beginning of things and just get it out of the way. So I have no idea what to do now about all of that.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Whats a girl to do when the only guys that seem interested are the bad boys?
Posted: 6/6/2007 10:50:24 PM
I know you are probably going to not like what I am going to say but this is norm and it takes you setting up your boundaries and what you will accept and not accept.

Basically put your foot down and if the guy shows the signs that he is just interested in sex, and then he gets kicked to the curb or lightly placed on the curb, which you will then move on to meet someone that will fit more of what you are looking for.

That is really just the norm of what you will find whether online or offline dating.

Also you are young and still have time for all of that type of stuff. So enjoy yourself and have fun as well.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Sex in the afternoon
Posted: 6/6/2007 8:22:50 PM
Nope you are not the only one. But it has been so long since any of the fun stuff. That is where the search continues for the right man for me *blush*
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 23 (view)
 
THERE'S A SPIDER IN MY KEYBOARD!!!
Posted: 5/14/2007 11:52:40 PM
I understand all that you feel, and the vacuum is the best way to go. I hate all things creepy crawly. LOL.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 67 (view)
 
Ever seen a mail order husband?
Posted: 5/13/2007 2:54:04 AM
Hehe hmm now that site is hilarious! Now to the person that said anyone woman that can get any man, and that is true if you don't have anything that you are looking for LOL. So meeting up with someone that could be toxic and bad for you, likes to pick food out of his teeth with his super long toenails, and the lists goes on, etc. Uh yeah it sounds REALLY easy to find a man with quality.

So anyway I don't think that I would get to that point to order a man LOL. I think that the right man for me will pop up when I least expect it. Not THAT desperate to go order a man lol.

 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Dating a guy who is 5'3
Posted: 5/11/2007 12:05:15 AM
Hmm well I am 6'1 in height, soooo in my experience I have mostly been out with men who are shorter than me, and a few were cool with it and some were not. Then the taller guys well some get a little fearful that I can look them in the eye, and not able to carry me around on one arm like how it is with the vertically challenged ladies LOL. So I just cannot win!

I have been out with the guys taller than, and it was a weird experience LOL. So I am open in the height department. Whoever that special guy is for me will come in different packages.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 379 (view)
 
Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/10/2007 2:59:34 AM
Hehe laff very funny and good observation there and nothing with still posted about it, as it will help to prevent others with posting the same topics over and over.


Here's an interesting thought ... this message was posted almost 2 years ago. The OP is no longer on this site, and people are still giving him advice!



 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 378 (view)
 
Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 5/10/2007 2:56:24 AM
Eeeyikes! She has trust issues. I had that happen with a guy I chatted with, and I was like uhh we have never met and I don't know you that well. He later said he was kidding, and I asked him then why did he ask?

Anyway that is a bit of privacy issue there. If you want to give it to her, then do it and then change your password LOL.

 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 153 (view)
 
Why do women like Jerks
Posted: 5/9/2007 1:07:28 PM
Well grouping up all women together I tend to not pay attention to threads like this. Generalizations will get you nowhere. Anyway I don't like jerks, and all of that. I see that some of the alleged nice guys are really wolves in sheep's clothing. They act nice, and the whole approach is nice but that does not mean that they are a nice guy. That is the problem, what is a nice guy? What are considered the qualities that map out a nice guy? I have yet to see what others determine what those qualities are. I have my own ideals and what I like, but I know it is different for each person.

It comes down to recognizing certain red flags and all of that stuff. I have in the past dated jerks unfortunately but I see it as a lesson learned and what I will not tolerate and stop the pattern from occurring in my own personal life.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Can't be friends
Posted: 5/9/2007 12:41:48 PM
Well from what I have learned is that some people do not want to be friends, they want a chance for romance, hey that rhymed! Anyway, they are on a mission and desire to be able to meet and have a special connection with you and if that does not work out then they move on. Mind you it works both ways for men and women.

You did not say whether the friend factor was previously established or not while chatting with the person. It sounds like it wasn't, just assuming the person would just stick around like that. I would never assume or set expectations for someone that I do not know very well to do that sort of thing.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
why do men ask u out just 2 stand u up
Posted: 5/9/2007 12:25:36 PM
Hmm it has been awhile since I was last stood up, probably a year ago or more. However, I have things that I do watch out for so to ensure that does not happen.

Now you did not describe anything further about what things happened, and if there was a drop in communication. I am not saying it was your fault or anything just need the rest of the story, like if you have not heard from him in days before the date, and all of that stuff.

 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Why does every guy over 50 act like Stanley Roper?
Posted: 5/9/2007 12:14:48 PM
HAHA now that is funny and for some reason I was thinking of Mr. Furley or however you spell as he was a bit a ladies' man, or well he tried to be. The eyes, the eyes!!

Funny the 50 year olds I run into are like him, not Mr. Roeper though and lots of Larrys LOL

 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 211 (view)
 
Fake Pictures
Posted: 5/9/2007 11:59:50 AM
Hmm well I have been through that recently, and one was like oh yeah by the way I do not look the way I look in the photo anymore and then showed me a photo, and I said umm okay but with the dark shades LOL he did not have the same facial features as before. I also talked to him on the phone, there was no accent and when I met him in person all of a sudden he had a thick accent. It was beyond weird and yes he is is still on here with the fake ole picture. LOL. He lied too and said he was not a smoker when indeed he was.

Well it was a bit crazy and all but it just does not make any sense WHY people do that but I figure they have nothing else better to do and rather just mess with people which is cruel and I HIGHLY believe in karma.

Nothing like a welcome back to dating with a first date like that.

I threw him back in the sea and I think a piranha got him, not so sure LOL and I keep fishing LOL.


Oh yes my pictures are real! I am actually interested in meeting someone kewl off of here if possible.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Today's Joke,.......Never Argue With A Woman Who Reads,....
Posted: 5/9/2007 4:36:40 AM
LOL oh my gosh now that is hilarious hehehehehe
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 235 (view)
 
Paying for dinner date with 2 for 1 coupon. Will she be impressed?
Posted: 5/9/2007 12:58:59 AM
LOL oh my gosh that is funny and yes very tacky. I would only see that as acceptable if they were going out regularly and he let her know ahead of time. No surprises!
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
The Mystery of Changing Ages
Posted: 5/9/2007 12:49:03 AM
Hmm welcome to the world of internet dating! I have experienced this a lot and well people are just willing to do whatever it takes. I have found that happens when people are trying to work the system, and try to get on my favorites list, emailing me, or whatever is going on.

I don't have time to waste in all of that mess though. I figure if they could not be truthful with that, then we will not work out very well.
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Taking care of Grandma
Posted: 5/9/2007 12:30:06 AM
LMAO Now that is really funny hahahaha. I needed that laugh hehe
 kewlwest
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
This internet is a dangerous thing
Posted: 5/8/2007 11:44:43 PM
Hi Faithless,

You know what? There has been some wonderful advice given and really in the end it is up to you to decide but let me tell you this, do you think that you deserve this type of treatment? I don't, and I will tell you, that being alone, well there is nothing wrong with it.

At least you will have the peace of mind of being to be free from that mess. You have so much to offer to someone else that will truly appreciate you.

Also you are young, and I know you probably hate it when people say that, but his bum has to go, and you need to go and be able to have some fun being single.
 
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