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 Author Thread: what is the opposite to love?
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
what is the opposite to love?
Posted: 7/22/2006 4:39:58 PM
Hmm. There are different types of love... Love is a combination of qualities (passion, intimacy & commitment) in varying amounts, but indifference seems to have them all covered.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 211 (view)
 
IMPORTANT --> Spyware - Popups, Homepage Changing
Posted: 7/22/2006 4:02:58 PM
Having worked within the IT industry for about the last 25 years, I'm intimately familiar with viruii, trojans, spyware and the like (collectively: malware)....

Then I would think you would know how to spell "viruses."

One of the most innovative products I've seen in the last little while is McAfee's Anti-Spyware Product.

Heuristics won't protect against any half-decent 0-day exploits. And using Heuristics, even in such a manner is hardly new or innovative.

...and no, I don't work for or sell McAfee products....

I doubt that... not even in the past, or for a partner?
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Why is it guys have to show off their abs?
Posted: 7/14/2006 6:44:42 PM
I don't intentionally go around showing my abs, but have gone shirtless for other reasons (like tanning), and considering the reactions, I can see why lots of guys would do it. "If you got it, flaunt it" I suppose. It does get attention.
Personally, I just don't care if people see me topless. I look good, but there are certainly others better looking than me, so it's not like I'm trying to show off. Meh.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 206 (view)
 
IMPORTANT --> Spyware - Popups, Homepage Changing, etc
Posted: 6/24/2006 2:35:18 PM
That's very odd. Try going to the Control Panel > Internet Options, and changing your homepage to about:blank and see if that helps.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Shy guys
Posted: 6/19/2006 11:55:32 AM

I have no problem telling them all about me in emails and Ims, but when it comes to talking i clam up. I'm in dire need of help here. please help

Why do you clam up?

Shyness can be a problem when it prevents you from doing things, but it's not all bad. Shy people are usually caring and unassuming, unlikely to brag, or be pushy, etc. These are good qualities, and you should have confidence that the people you'd want to associate with would appreciate them. Pretty much the only bad thing about shyness is that it prevents you from doing things you want to do.
You can gain confidence through experience, so seek it out. Which is worse: Doing something you're shy to do and maybe embarrassing yourself a few times until you get over it; or staying shy forever and suffering because of it?

If you have trouble talking, there are a number of things you can do. One thing you might not realize is that being shy often makes other people feel shy too, so just talk about something. Anything. Say whatever pops into your head. Talk about whatever is easiest for you and see where the conversation leads. Find common interests, ask them questions, talk about what's going on at the moment either right then or in your life, tell funny/interesting stories, etc. If something reminds you of something, mention it. Whatever. Think of conversation starters before-hand if it helps. If you don't have many funny/interesting stories to relate, seek to make some.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 85 (view)
 
Linux distros who likes what?
Posted: 6/18/2006 8:02:59 PM
FYI: GParted is better than QTParted.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 203 (view)
 
IMPORTANT --> Spyware - Popups, Homepage Changing
Posted: 6/17/2006 5:27:12 PM
Ever read the Windows EULA? According to Microsoft they basically own all the data on your computer as long as Windows is on it. Fortunately EULAs don't always hold up in court.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Why does the email server replace words like
Posted: 6/16/2006 6:54:23 PM
Ah, well then... you could just censor "nigerian."

I kid! Seriously though, why not censor "bank account" and "funds"? Actually, it's kind of pointless to do such censoring in IMs. It's live, so the sender can see what's censored, and work around it as it happens.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 200 (view)
 
IMPORTANT --> Spyware - Popups, Homepage Changing
Posted: 6/15/2006 9:49:23 AM
BTW, if you don't have a cd burner, you can use Ubuntu which is pretty easy. They will ship cds for free:
https://shipit.ubuntu.com/
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 198 (view)
 
IMPORTANT --> Spyware - Popups, Homepage Changing
Posted: 6/15/2006 6:56:27 AM
You can use Linux on your current computer. It's an operating system like Windows, only it's free and more secure. If you aren't sure what I'm talking about, and you're willing to buy a new computer, you might be better off, unless you're willing to learn a bit.

Most versions of Linux are free to download, and have livecd versions so you can try them without affecting your computer. If you're a beginner when it comes to computers, you probably should only use Linspire or Xandros, but here's a page that will help you choose a version that's good for you:
http://www.zegeniestudios.net/ldc/

BTW, a livecd version lets you try it by running entirely off the cd without touching the hard drive. That way, you can take it out, and reboot and be back into Windows as normal. It's slower 'cause it's running from the cd, but it gives you an idea of what it's like, and if it works well with your computer.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Looking For - Why not Multiple choice ?
Posted: 6/14/2006 5:33:12 PM
Well, noting it in your profile doesn't affect search results, so there is reason to implement it.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 196 (view)
 
IMPORTANT --> Spyware - Popups, Homepage Changing
Posted: 6/14/2006 3:24:31 PM
It's pointless to install security apps for Win98. It's no longer updated, and cannot be made remotely secure. If you can't afford a newer version of Windows, or your computer isn't good enough for it, then get Linux.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Why does the email server replace words like
Posted: 6/14/2006 3:15:34 PM
And the IM censors the word "account" too. It's weird talking about things like MSN and Gmail ********s.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Looking For - Why not Multiple choice ?
Posted: 6/14/2006 3:12:53 PM
Why not make the Looking For part of the profile multiple choice?

Subjected edited for clarity and Search Engine - Forum Moderator
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 153 (view)
 
What browser do you use?
Posted: 6/11/2006 7:29:54 AM
Well, if you click Tools > Extensions you could click the "Get More Extensions" link in the bottom right corner of the window that pops up, but here's the page:
https://addons.mozilla.org/firefox/extensions/
If you want an optimized build, there are some here:
http://www.tweakfirefox.com/builds.php
Used to see this site recommended, but seems to be down right now:
http://www.moox.ws/tech/mozilla/

Linux users can go to getswiftfox.com
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
How can do you get over someone?
Posted: 6/10/2006 4:39:38 PM
Understand why, accept it, and move on.

Yeah, easier said than done.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 150 (view)
 
What browser do you use?
Posted: 6/10/2006 9:26:46 AM
If you don't see much difference between Firefox and Opera, you probably don't use (or know about) the extensions available for Firefox.

There are also optimized builds available for Firefox that are faster, in addition to tweaking settings to make it faster. The Fasterfox extension automates doing some of them.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Was I wrong?
Posted: 6/8/2006 7:23:26 PM
You have the right to be uncomfortable... and there's nothing wrong with expressing it, but for him the issue is obviously a deal-breaker. If you're OK with it (you probably should be), let him know you understand that.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Was I wrong?
Posted: 6/8/2006 7:18:34 PM
If you only wanted him to understand how you felt, then why did you break it off? Did he understand that?
Perhaps it was premature. I think you should have had confidence. He did tell you.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 41 (view)
 
men in thongs
Posted: 6/7/2006 9:28:21 AM
Not if it's shaved...
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Going to Cancun in July....
Posted: 6/7/2006 8:37:37 AM
I've been wanting to go to Cancun for a while. One day I will. This should help:
http://www.allaboutcancun.com/allaboutcancun.htm
If you need more, try this:
http://www.google.com/search?num=30&hl=en&lr=&q=cancun+more:suggested_itineraries&cx=destination_guides&sa=N&oi=cooptsr&ct=col3&cd=1
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Whole Grain v.s. Whole Wheat..
Posted: 6/7/2006 8:22:27 AM
Whole grain.
http://ezinearticles.com/?Whole-Grain-Vs.-Whole-Wheat---What-is-Best-for-You?-Part-I&id=82177
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 39 (view)
 
men in thongs
Posted: 6/7/2006 8:10:27 AM
LMAO!
I've only seen two guys in thongs (fortunately :P), and they were both gay, but... whatever tickles your fancy...
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Help plz, cannot upload pics
Posted: 6/5/2006 6:14:00 PM
Try with Firefox.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Question for the guys about first dates....
Posted: 6/5/2006 11:04:28 AM
People are too concerned about dating "rules" and crap. It's all just stupid games. Just be yourself, and be honest.

You let him know you're interested, nothing wrong with that. Now back off so he doesn't get the impression you're desperate and see if he expresses any interest. If he does, great. If not, consider moving on.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
experiment complete...naked body shots do work
Posted: 6/5/2006 5:11:47 AM
Of course. And there's lots of other things that will attract people too, but you need to ask yourself if it attracts the people you want. Consider that if you're looking for something long-term/serious, you might be attracting something other than what you're looking for. And those who are looking for long-term might be turned off because they might think you're not serious about looking for something long term, etc. There are lots of things to consider.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Just some numbers to think about
Posted: 6/5/2006 5:00:36 AM

There are 10 types of people in the world, those that understand binary and those that don't.

No, there are 10 types of people in the world: Those that understand trinary, those that don't, and those who mistake it for binary.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Hmmm how do you know when you are blocked?
Posted: 6/5/2006 4:22:58 AM
It would be nice to be able to block someone before they message you. Why was the feature removed?
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Do men agree with this one?? I know many women do!!
Posted: 6/4/2006 8:07:01 PM

If a man wants you, NOTHING can keep him away.

Not really true. I'm not going to pursue someone who's not interested. Unrequited love will turn some people into stalkers, but that's an extreme case.

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Also not true. A lot of people will stay for various reasons. Most involving sex.

ST0P making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Yeah, I'm sure he can do that for himself. :P

Allow your intuition or spirit to save you from heartache.

Understanding is the best cure/preventative for heartache, IMHO.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's NOT meant to be.

Erm, it's great to be happy with yourself, but there's nothing wrong with change either. But if you're going to change, do it for yourself, not someone else, or it won't last.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as
you deserve then HECK NO, you can't "be friends".
A FRIEND WOULDN’T mistreat a friend.

Duh.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be MAD at
yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

Good as a general rule, but there are always exceptions. As always, it depends.

The only person you can control in a relationship is YOU.

Unfortunately not true. Most people do manipulate others even if only subconsciously. In a healthy relationship this shouldn't be an issue though.

If something bothers you, SPEAK UP.

Definitely.

You cannot CHANGE a man's behavior.

Sure you can, but if it's going to last he has to want to do it for himself.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...
even if he has more education or in a better job.

More games. Joy.

If he CHEATED with you, he'll cheat on you.

Obviously if he cheated with you, he doesn't have a problem with it, and it's a safe assumption. He may eventually learn better, but I wouldn't hold my breath. Cheating is dishonest, plain and simple, and personally I'd rather not associate with someone I couldn't trust. If it's not working, you should work it out, or split.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

WTF? Hardly.

All men are NOT dogs.

While that's technically true, I think it should read, "Not all men are dogs." ;P
If your experience is that they all are, well... I'm sorry but there's only one thing in common with all those relationships, and that's you.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...
compromise is two way street.

Duh.

You need TIME to HEAL between relationships...
DEAL with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

Yep.

When a man ALWAYS knows where you are, and
you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

Hmm, sounds like more games. Maybe.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Is Early Affection In Emails A Bad Thing?
Posted: 6/4/2006 7:36:30 PM
It's words in emails. If it's not hurting your feelings, it's harmless. Some people are very bouyant like that, and it can come off differently online. A lot of communication is lost in IMs and email. There's even been studies done that show this. Consider it a possible red flag and take appropriate precautions, but other than that it may simply be an expression of interest. Don't get too worked up over it either way.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 10 (view)
 
He likes me...but wont touch me??
Posted: 6/4/2006 7:29:53 PM
Perhaps he would rather just be friends, and if he's been honest with you, there's no reason not to still be friends. Seriously, you're asking the wrong people. You should be asking him. Go do it now.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Playing by The Rule Good? Bad? Right? Wrong?
Posted: 6/4/2006 7:14:20 PM

Substitute "Rules",for "Games".
Now, ask yourself if you really still wanna play.
Whatever happened to respect and honesty?

*Ding-ding-ding!*

Following such rules is ultimately somewhat self-defeating. They're designed for the sole purpose of manipulating people into desiring you. They're NOT designed with you or your ideal mate in mind. It's nice to be desired by people, but it's better to find someone who's right for you, who can make you truly happy. Best to try to be desirable to your ideal mate. A healthy relationship is an honest one. If you're playing games with each other, you don't have that.
Obviously many people are satisfied just pursuing sex, and equate it with [sufficient] happiness. If that's you, then sure, read the Rules and play the Game. They're sure to work on some people. If you want more, be yourself, and be honest. What you should do depends on what you want. This stuff should be common-sense. But I'm only 24. What do I know?
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 54 (view)
 
who create god
Posted: 6/1/2006 10:55:11 PM
Godless Heathen, I think you can omit the part about consciousness. The mere act of creation is a change of state which requires time.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Atheist setting
Posted: 6/1/2006 8:58:46 PM
Because atheism is not "Other Religion," which is what displays on your profile.

Non Religious would be your best bet
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 146 (view)
 
What browser do you use?
Posted: 6/1/2006 2:57:15 AM
There's an extension that'll let you use IE in a Firefox tab so you can technically do Windows Update in Firefox:
https://addons.mozilla.org/firefox/1419/
Or, if you only want to use Firefox... you may or may not be comfortable trusting a 3rd party site, but it works:
http://windowsupdate.62nds.com/
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Scientific Evidence Of god
Posted: 6/1/2006 2:44:02 AM

Before we can begin looking for scientific evidence for or against God's existence we'll first need a scientific theory of God. The God Theory, like any other theory, must make testable predictions.

Actually, we just need a definition. The best definition for God is simply, creator of the Universe.

The more study i do of science, the more clear god becomes. I find it hard to believe that things so intricate as seratonin reuptake inhibitors happened as a mistake from a big bang and an amoebea who was brave enough to walk out of water!

There can be no scientific evidence for the existence of God because everything in the universe can have a natural explanation.
Complex things are a result of emergence, not design. I don't think an amoeba has any concept of bravery, nor the ability to walk, LOL.

I don't understand why people believe that God and Science can't live together? who says one needs to disprove the other?

Science is not something to be "disproven." Science itself is a method for determining the nature of reality. "God did it" is not a satisfactory explanation. It explains nothing, and has nothing to support it over alternative explanations that do.

Since science has discovered that all matter is basically materialized energy. It would stand to reason that there is a SOURCE for this energy and since there is some order to the universe then more than likely there is an intelligent source.

That's a logical fallacy. In a number of ways.

since our experience is that everything...and I mean everything that comes into existence, has a beginning, then of course we humans cannot grasp the idea that the universe always existed.

It has nothing to do with our experience. People cannot grasp it because it's illogical that the Universe has an infinite timespan. Same as the rational behind the existence of God: "Everything is caused by something, so what caused the existence of the Universe? Must be God." "What caused God?" "Well, God is causeless." Then why can't the Universe itself be causeless? Irrational.

"New Scientific Evidence for the Existence of God"

http://www.cosmicfingerprints.com/audio/newevidence.htm

Here's a quote from that page:

As Steven Hawking, one of the three authors, boasted many years thereafter, we proved that time was created. We proved that time has a beginning. But through his contacts with certain Christians like his wife Jane, who's an Anglican, as a friend of mine from Cal Tech, Don Page, who had daily Bible studies with Steven and Jane Hawking while he was doing research pointed out, if you prove that time has a beginning, that it was created, it eliminates all theological possibilities but Jesus Christ.

Of all world religions, only Judeo-Christian theology says Time has a beginning

Why? Because if you were to open up the Holy books of the religions of the world, only one of them would describe God as a being that creates the universe independent of time, space, matter and energy.

The other Holy books describe God as creating within time. The Bible states that God creates independent of time. That's the difference.

Logical fallacy. Validating a claim of the bible does not validate the whole bible (which is impossible anyway).
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Atheist setting
Posted: 5/31/2006 10:02:20 PM
I seriously doubt you'll get many atheists bugging for different types of atheism to be listed. It is an entire missing category though, with a significant enough number of people who fall under that category. Non-religious covers those who believe in God as well as those who don't, and we ought to be able to seperate them.

And as I pointed out, people can't restrict their search results by it if it's only in their About Me section. Personally, and I think most others would agree, I'd rather not have to address it in my About Me section, and just have it listed above.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Atheist setting
Posted: 5/31/2006 6:14:47 AM
Putting it in the About Me section does not affect search results where religion is specified. There should be a list item for atheist.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 48 (view)
 
What is perfect?
Posted: 5/31/2006 5:44:59 AM
Perfect is when you're happy, and feel like you couldn't be happier.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 79 (view)
 
Linux distros who likes what?
Posted: 5/30/2006 5:27:33 AM
Ah, well maybe no reason for you to switch. I lost track of the intent of your question by the time I got to that part of my post.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Block for sex or intimate encounters (Huh?)
Posted: 5/29/2006 7:25:06 AM
It seems the only reason they'd be unwilling to explain how the block works is that they actually believe in security through obscurity. I need only point to Microsoft for contrary evidence. If it goes by scanning messages for certain phrases, it's going to have false positives in addition to being flawed by design. It would be better to just keep seperate profiles for users seeking "Intimate encounters."
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Thai food
Posted: 5/29/2006 7:13:56 AM
Hmm, thanks. I'll have to try that.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Thai food
Posted: 5/29/2006 5:15:42 AM
I'm interested in trying some Thai food, but I have no idea what to get. I can't tell from looking at it what I'd like.
I can list foods I don't like, but I'm not sure if it will help. Can anyone recommend anything?
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 76 (view)
 
Linux distros who likes what?
Posted: 5/29/2006 3:15:40 AM

OK, I don't want to come out like an elitist here, but most GNU/Linux distro users who didn't hack kernel, built his/her own with LFS docs, fork off distro and hacked few source code seem to favor a distro with good functionality and usability of distro which just "works" off the install.

I would think an elitist would also want such a distro. That way they can focus more on making valuable contributions and useful progress, and you know... making use of the whole open source development model and reusing existing code rather than redoing what's already been done. People switch for many reasons. If you need to ask why, you didn't give it much thought.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 67 (view)
 
I'll review profiles...no promises that I'll be gentle
Posted: 5/29/2006 2:32:19 AM
layer3switch, you don't seem to have read the rule you quoted.
If you don't like constructive criticism, don't ask for it. Need I point out that others clearly are asking her for it?
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
anybody's advise will be welcome
Posted: 5/28/2006 11:55:24 PM
I'd recommend you reword your interests as some people search by interest. Instead of "I like watching movies" and such, just put "movies," "drawing," "fantasy novels," etc.

Instead of saying you don't know how to make interesting conversations... well, I'm sure you'd be happy talking about something you're interested in. Say you're not good at small talk or something. Try to reword things to put them in a positive light, or omit them.

If you're geeky, leave it. Some people like that. Maybe decide for yourself whether you're a geek or not, and either say you are, or explain why you think you're not.

You may also want to loosen your message restrictions. Even if you don't have the means to travel very far, the other person might. Also, people might message you in response to forum posts.

BTW, I'm a Piers Anthony fan too, and always wanted to read the Dragonriders of Pern series... just never got around to it. :)
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 63 (view)
 
I'll review profiles...no promises that I'll be gentle
Posted: 5/28/2006 11:37:16 PM
Flying rat booty!

Me too please.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Suggestions?
Posted: 5/28/2006 11:22:44 PM
LOL, thanks. :)

Ask yourself whether you want mail from people who really think religion is evil or whether you want mail from people who (as you have indicated) enjoy a good debate. Seems more like bait to me.

Well, if someone agrees religion is evil, that's great. If not and they want to debate it, that's fine too. But if they disagree and aren't willing to discuss it, then it depends. It's only bait if you want it to be. Religion teaches people a corrupt sense of ethics, and makes them irrational. If one isn't very religious and aren't too influenced by their religion I can overlook it. But if someone is very religious, and not willing to discuss it, it would likely be an issue.
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Suggestions?
Posted: 5/28/2006 5:46:33 PM
I've done a bit of tweaking, and changed my pic. Any more comments and/or suggestions anyone?
 Tanath
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Suggestions?
Posted: 5/28/2006 5:49:12 AM
Intimidating? LOL. I'm a very nice guy in person. :) The other pics I took didn't turn out as well. I'll get better ones, thanks.

I have a bit of an interest in pretty much everything, but some things I have enough of an interest in to single out. It's intended to indicate that I can enjoy just about everything. This was explained in my profile.
 
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