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 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
anyone have an answer?
Posted: 11/21/2009 1:59:19 PM

I mean my parents flip out if she is crying and i dont pick her up fast enough when I'm trying to do household chores.Anyone have advise on how to approach this?

I have not and will not do things like my parents.

Try the "this is my house, my child, my rules" approach... or if you aren't in the mood for a disagreement/argument then just let it roll off you.

I personally can't get or keep my house clean enough for my parents' liking. I can live with it. They can not.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
I really dont get it?!?!?!
Posted: 11/21/2009 1:28:41 PM

They want someone like me but not me? As understanding as me , as funny as me... A guy who has the same mentality as me...

You might have the qualities they want.. but there has to be SOMETHING about you they don't like.


If i was a ugly slob ok , maybe I'd understand . wants the qualities of the dude but not attracted to the body.... would make sence . but this aint the case...

And you know this because...???? Some of the most attractive people I know are also the ugliest people I know. Think about that for a min.


You women are so effin hard to figure out ... lol

So are you men.

If you don't want to be her/their clean-up man, then don't have contact with her/them.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Women who don't shave
Posted: 11/21/2009 8:01:25 AM

Her reason was because there is no actual function of the pubic hair

This would be wrong/false. Pubic hair has a function. It contains/concentrates pheramones/scents. It acts like a cushion during sex. It protects delicate tissues from irritation by clothing. Absorbs and distributes moisture.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Male ED
Posted: 11/20/2009 5:07:25 AM
I know more 20/30 yos using those meds then I do 40/50/60 yos... and the 20/30 yos don't really NEED it.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Her Orgasm
Posted: 11/20/2009 5:06:15 AM

I've heard some people say that women are responsible for their own orgasms, meaning they should communicate with their partner and tell them what does or does not "do it" for them.

But then I've heard others say that a man should explore a woman's body and find out for himself what turns her on. She shouldn't have to tell him.

Nevertheless, what do you men think? Do you think women are responsible for their own orgasms?

Not a man... but yet. Everyone is responisble for their own orgasm. Yes... we should explore our partner's bodies to find out the things they enjoy, what reactions we can elicit. I've had partners who have done just that and it's been incredible!
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Conflict in the bedroom.
Posted: 11/20/2009 5:03:24 AM
It's a matter of time and trust. With time she will learn that her boundaries will be respected (so that means you HAVE to respect them, even if you want to push her past them) and she will come to trust you. With that trust you can work together to expand her horizons. Took me over 18 mo before I allowed my guy to tie me down. You are going to have to move at her pace, not yours.

Scorps are pretty wild... be patient and I'm sure you will be rewarded.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Sensitive nipples
Posted: 11/18/2009 7:34:09 PM
My guy had never had his played with until I did it. I've always done it... and met a guy who did not enjoy it (it didn't do anything for him at all) and I was horribly disappointed!!
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
sexual issues with single mother of 15 year old
Posted: 11/18/2009 12:11:37 PM
Mother of two here... 8 and 12... my guy gets irritated by my oldest's behaviour (as do I) and when that happens, out goes the libido. When the kids are around, he doesn't seem to have much interest either. I think he feels awkward expressing his sexuality with them around. I'm their mother after all...
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Genital piercings (good,bad,curious) what do you think?
Posted: 11/17/2009 4:46:55 AM

How about the pain when you pierce the Labia's or the Clit Hood. Do these things rub in your pants and cause irritation. I don't like them but only I am one opinion. To each is own.

Pain lasted less time then when I had my second holes done in my ears or upper helix (more conventional, widely accepted and visible piercings). Yes, they can rub and cause irritation. So can belly button rings tho. Can always just skip the underware and pants if it's a problem. *wink*
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Genital piercings (good,bad,curious) what do you think?
Posted: 11/16/2009 6:40:28 PM
Have, so no longer curious.

Got mine for purely aesthetic reasons. It's non-functioning, decorative only.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
finding a girl who enjoys sex
Posted: 11/16/2009 2:40:14 AM

Where do ya'll hang out??? :-)


Canada.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Female Tool of the Trade
Posted: 11/14/2009 7:00:47 AM
Not this woman. LOL... My toys are rarely used by me on me. I'll let you just think about that for a min. Hehehe..
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Sexually Inadequate???
Posted: 11/13/2009 12:09:51 PM

ok.... i thought you said you couldn't have an orgasm?

so the real problem isn't you but the guys you've been with?

Reading Comprehension 101 - FAILED.

The OP said..

My ex had had some issues with my inabilities to orgasm just from sex.


85% of women do not orgasm from penetrative sex alone. They require clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm.

Takes me ages to orgasm. And there are times I don't care if I do or not.

If he's used to a girl that orgasms easily and lots (chances are she's faked it about 60% of the time if not more) and he's making statements like what you posted... he's a f*cktard. If he ties his pleasure directly into how easily or how many times I'm going to orgasm, he's too wrapped up in the things that don't count instead of focusing on the things that do count. I am not his ex. He is not mine. We are different people..

I personally do not measure myself against the standards of others. I will come up failing everytime if I did that.

I used to own a '66 Mustang... standard. My grandfather set the mixture rich and the clutch/throw-out bearing was stiff as all hell. Every mechanic I took her to wanted to adjust the clutch and mixture and I told them no... leave it alone. She's perfect just the way she is. I used to own a '93 S10.. standard. Totally different to drive from the Mustang. And yes, comparisons do happen. Each offered me something different. Each was perfect in their own way. I never once got into the S10 and said.. dayum.. I wish you were an 8-cylinder... I wish you could excellerate as fast as the Mustang. I never got into the Mustang and said.. dayum.. I wish you were as good on gas as the S10.. I wish you could haul a load of lumbar like the truck.

To wish a current lover did things like a previous lover is ridiculous. Somethings can be taught.. like how to touch, kiss, hold, caress, f*ck, etc. Somethings you just don't have control over like how their body is wired, how big their penis is/breasts are, etc. The first time anyone hinted to me that I was *broken* because I didn't orgasm as fast as or as much as their last partner.. well.. that would be the last time they'd have that chance to be with me.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Is it normal for a woman to speak of such things
Posted: 11/11/2009 6:44:19 PM
I don't have to say it to my friends. They all know I am.

I don't typically go announcing that to people I don't know.. or people I don't know well. My guy hears it on a regular basis tho.. makes him squirm when I tell him that I've.. ahem.. "taken matters into my own hands"...
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 88 (view)
 
how many women have orgasms whil giving head
Posted: 11/10/2009 6:39:28 PM

My wife could and my present GF can too. You women who are calling "BS" on this have got to understand that WE'RE ALL DIFFERENT, we get turned on by different things.



Just because you haven't, doesn't mean everyone else hasn't either.

It's happened to me. Short of posting a big long explanation, I'll skip the ooey gooey juicey bits and get right to the heart of the matter. It happened to me not that long ago, but it wasn't the act of fellatio that did it.. necessarily. Happened after a long f*ck session and at least one (cluster of) orgasm(s)... he pulled out of me and into my mouth and as soon as he started to orgasm, I did as well. No stimulation of my genitals at all.

Never happened before.. or since. So far anyway.. *wink*
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Which is it too old or not ?
Posted: 11/10/2009 2:55:27 PM
There are more risks associated to women being pregnant over the age of 40, yes. Anything over the age of 35 here is considered high-risk. That does not mean it is not worth doing.

I'm 41... I'd totally do it again given the right relationship. Until then, I'm taking the precautions necessary for ME to prevent that.

The children drop down is really a multi-part question... Do you have children? Yes(Would you like to have more children? Yes/No). No - Do you want children of your own? Yes. No - Do you care if your partner has children from a previous relationship? Yes. No.

Hard to do flowcharts in linear text.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
If you met someone why not hide or delete your profile
Posted: 11/10/2009 2:48:36 PM
I HAVE hidden my profile when I was dating someone else. I'm still active on the forums, but change my profile to what it reads now... Not single/Not looking. When contacted I ask.. did you read my profile? All of it?? And you know I'm in a relationship, right? My partner is also here and he is fully aware of what I do here... who I talk to, and what is said.

We have an interesting relationship with open and honest communication tho... certainly not a conventional one. If it were to bother him, I would curtail my activities. It doesn't.. and I come and go here as I please.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Foreplay or Actual sex - what is more exciting to you?
Posted: 11/10/2009 1:50:43 PM
Foreplay begins long before physical contact. It's the mental stimulation.. the anticipation of what's to come... my physical response.. his physical response.. the teasing.. pupil dilation.. increase heart and respiratory rates... that first kiss.. that first caress... the first moment of penetration..

It's ALL good..
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
What's this I see, he says suspiciously ...
Posted: 11/10/2009 5:35:39 AM
What a perfectly lovely way to start my morning... thanks for the giggles...
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Visitation: Dos and Don'ts
Posted: 11/9/2009 3:44:23 PM

Here in the U.S., joint legal custody gives the non-custodial parent (I am a non-custodial father with joint legal custody) the right to have say and influence in matters of schooling, religious training, medical care and the like.

My time with my son is mine to govern, so long as I do not truly endanger him or threaten his well-being. Sounds like that is true in B.C., too.

Therefore, ultimately, he is correct.

Yes and no.

I have full custody and care & control over all (medical) decisions. While I agree that what the non-custodial parent does with their time is their own choice, I have to say that considering the current situation I would have had a face-to-face conversation with him and asked him please not to take them and explained my reasons for it. It's no unreasonable to do such... and it wouldn't have been unreasonable for him to agree.

I just spent the weekend toting #1 from clinic to emergency dentist to ER because I didn't like the answer I got from our local doc and there were too many *what ifs* that needed clarification. I chose not to call the ex and tell him what was going on until I had an answer and explanation to satisfy any questions he might have. I did call him last night once I got home and we talked about everything. It is not unreasonable for a parent to voice their concerns where their children's health and welfare goes.

It's not about who gets their way, it's about what's best for the kids.

My ex is guilty of letting our then 7 yo watch the full Aliens series of movies... and left me to deal with 6 mo of nightmares. Now I ask that he be aware of and follow the censor's recommendations on movies and games. He's also chosen not to medicate them, and issue that has caused some significant problems between us. Because he hasn't really spent a lot of time with them over the last 5 yrs, he is not aware of everything that could potentially mess them up. Because he doesn't think that those things are bad (violence, sex, foul language, etc) he doesn't think anyone else will either.

WesternRose felt it was best they not attend for this week. I'm not clear, but I don't think she actually voiced this to her ex. Considering there are extenuating circumstances behind her decision, I do not think it was unreasonable. It's one freakin' week.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 160 (view)
 
41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this!
Posted: 11/9/2009 3:16:44 PM
To all of you saying it's just about sex, I beg to differ. I'm 41 dating a 25 yo.. and we've been together for almost 2 yrs. So it isn't always just about sex.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 77 (view)
 
One person clothed, another naked?
Posted: 11/9/2009 3:10:19 PM

I have yet to meet a man that doesn't snag stockings with their hands. They are getting more and more expensive. I take them off hopefully before they are totally trashed any more.


Make him pay for them then.. make him buy you the stockings...
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 91 (view)
 
WTF is up with the double standard when it comes to sex toys?
Posted: 11/9/2009 12:27:49 PM
October_skies -
Everyone knows that women that use toys are typically desperate women. Any good looking woman who can get a man doesn't need a toy, its mainly only loser women like the ones on this date site that need them because its obvious no man is interested in having sex with you otherwise you wouldn't be on this site. You walked right into that one.


Um. I'll be sure to point out your ridiculous post to my BF. I have a whole stash of toys that he uses on me. He bought most of them!!! And.. before you even ask.. yes.. he f*cks me on a regular basis too.

I prefer my fingers...
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
How to do safe cunnilingus??
Posted: 11/8/2009 5:19:38 AM
The dental dams are available in the condom aisle of your local drug store.

In a discussion about this before someone noted a friend of theirs sent an email to the makers of Saran Wrap asking if it was safe to use and the answer came back emphatically no. There are some major holes in the wrap that allow for the transmission of viruses.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
feeling slutty, good?
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:37:26 AM
I enjoy feeling like HIS slut.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
She said im different...
Posted: 11/4/2009 5:21:53 AM
I can't read my guy.. and it's incredibly frustrating for me. Most of the others I have been able to read.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
beautiful women VS average looking women
Posted: 11/3/2009 5:52:05 PM
Define *beautiful* and *gorgeous* please. Everyone's interpretation will be different.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
 
What is it with men & sexually liberated women
Posted: 11/3/2009 2:13:10 PM

Sexually liberated women are for having fun and good times with, not serious relationships.

Oh really? Not all would agree with you.

I am a flirt. I am open minded when it comes to sex. I am also completely faithful. If someone sees my high drive/need for sex and the fact that I like a variety in the bedroom as potentially cheating on them.. they have some serious issues. I have been accused of it because the guy's previous two GFs cheated on him... *sigh*

BTW... I have out-sexed all my partners... it's hell when you break your playthings... hehe..
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Make Up Sex after a fight. Does it bring out the animal in you?
Posted: 11/2/2009 4:49:32 AM
Make up sex doesn't feel like that for me. That's a perfect description of angry sex tho... at least for me.

*sigh*
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Mature Adults in their Sexual Prime ??!!!
Posted: 10/30/2009 4:36:57 PM

What in your opinion of being with someone significantly younger?

I'm not in my 50's or older... but I am dating someone significantly younger.

Is sex better? Meh? Maybe??? It's certainly different from in my 20's.

Relationships better?? Um.. perhaps in the sense that communication is better. I am better at being able to communicate my needs to my partners now then in my 20's.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:00:36 AM
Mary the reasons why someone likes a particular thing about someone else are as varied as there are people in the world... you should know this... hehe..

I don't go out of my way to find a partner with more meat on their bones, I do have a slight preference for the more athletic/muscley guys, but really.. it's for me it is more about what's between their ears as opposed to what the wrapper looks like.

I've dated the spectrum.. tall and skinny, short and muscley, and my current is 6' and a bit on the soft side. Meh..
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 76 (view)
 
The Cervix andThe REAL Deal about Big Penises. Have Your Say and settle it for all time!
Posted: 10/29/2009 5:08:30 PM
Luck, you took what I said out of context. It related to the quote I'd made in my post just prior to that statement. It is a generalization, but so was the original statement it referenced. Most women tho, can't separate sex and love. Meaning that if they have sex with a guy, or allow a guy to have sex with them, it must mean that person loves them. I know a few guys like that. I also know a few men and women who can have sex without emotions being involved at all. I have been on all sides of this equation.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 72 (view)
 
The Cervix andThe REAL Deal about Big Penises. Have Your Say and settle it for all time!
Posted: 10/29/2009 1:44:26 PM
However, I'm afraid I require a girl who does like a lot of sex..... and I don't care what you say, I think most girls DO like a lot of sex, except it has to be the right kind of sex, but for guys almost any sex is right kind of sex. And if girls don't want a lot of sex, they just haven't had really good sex yet. I've also found that women aren't always honest with how horny they truly are. Now can you answer me why women are like THAT? I think I know the answer already though.


I am. I'm far more honest about it then most I think. As for the why??? That's probably because "good girls aren't supposed to talk about such things"... or some such nonsense. It's a rather antiquated idea that women aren't supposed to voice their needs. Damnit.. this isn't 1940. I have always had a higher drive then the majority of my partners, so I can empathise with you on needing someone who needs it a lot.


If I’m having sex with you early on it’s because I desire you, I like/trust/respect you and want to show you this. Most of my first dates don’t even rate a kiss goodnight.

A couple of my ex-bf’s were taken aback by the frequency of sex I wanted as their ex-wives/gf’s didn’t want it all that much. Once again, if I am “into you” I want you to be inside me and often.

Yup. I agree.


However, just because some men can have sex with whomever because its available, doesn’t mean I can or will. And knowing that some men can have sex just for the sake of having it makes me less likely to just jump into it as I want him to truly want me for ME not just because I have a v’gina.


I have no problem talking about sex and sexuality. Once I've gotten to know you and IF I'm interested in you in that way, I have no problem having sex. And lots of it. Some men (most that I have chatted with) can't differentiate between those two things... they think that just because I'll talk about things with them, it means that I'll do those things with them too. I won't.

Goes back to that saying.. "women need love in order to have sex, men just need a place".. or something to that effect.

As for the douchebaggery, all I will say is that somethings should not be joked about. There is far too much misinformation and I personally prefer to not joke about stuff like that. Obviously I'm not the only one who didn't find the humour in what you posted.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 30 (view)
 
The Cervix andThe REAL Deal about Big Penises. Have Your Say and settle it for all time!
Posted: 10/28/2009 1:34:26 PM

Now.. about elastic vaginas.. Sounds like something from the SexToy store.

A man your age should know that a vagina is able to stretch during childbirth and return to normal afterwards. That would make it elastic.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Whats it mean..when a girl looks to the side when you kiss?
Posted: 10/28/2009 5:26:53 AM

everytime we kiss....she cant look me in the eye or turns her eyes to the side lol. Im finding it suspicous...please women lemme know something of that. Thanks

Wow, really??? Paranoid much?

Yes. There's heavy meaning behind EVERYTHING we do.

Ever thought that maybe that's how she does it?? Seriously dude. You're overthinking things.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
The Cervix andThe REAL Deal about Big Penises. Have Your Say and settle it for all time!
Posted: 10/28/2009 5:19:41 AM

Then there's this idea that width is more important than length. Now, I don't check out a lot of guys penises, but I don't recall ever seeing a long penis that is also thin. If it's long, it's thick as well. Not only that, but come to think of it, there seems to be a lot more variance in the length of penis, not so much width. Even small length penises can be as wide, or nearly as wide as a long penis. So why bother talking about the width of a penis? I'm not a woman, to me penises seem to be mostly the same width. Women, are they?

Have you seen a lot of erect penises? Because if you have, I'm gonna have to question why...

No. Not all penises are created equal. Ever heard the term *pencil d!ck*?? There's a reason for it.

What I am about to say is how penis size relates to me and my needs/wants/requirements. It is not meant to be a diatribe on what ALL women want. Goodness knows I don't speak for them all. Just for me.

I like an average length, slightly thicker penis. Here's why:
- doesn't bash the chit out of my cervix (BTDT, pass, thanks)
- I have TMJ (look it up if you don't know what it is) so those monster d!cks aren't gonna get anywhere near the inside of my mouth
- I have a slightly sensitive gag reflex so deep throating is not gonna happen, and puking is not high on my list of fun things to do in bed, and I live giving head
- thick beats length because as I mentioned in another thread there are more nerve receptors at the vaginal opening, so most of the sensation is concentrated there, and kind of wasted elsewhere
- thick gives a more intense sensation of feeling *full*
- I don't need a long penis to hit my gspot, don't really need any penis for that at all, I just prefer them to a toy or his fingers at the moment
- average and slightly smaller than average penises tend to belong to men who have fairly good skills, in my experience, they make better lovers as they are far more attentive then the guys with the big penises who feel all they have to do is unleash their pants python
- in the words of the immortal Shania Twain... that (big penises) don't impress me much
- easier to ride and grind down on without fear of cervical penetration
- better for those nice, deep, hard fncks that I like
- better for anal



Cause now that I think about it, unless a penis is unusually small..... aren't they mostly pretty much a standard girth, and also long enough to hit the cervix, which is as deep as possible?

Nope. There are as many variables in girth as there are in length.


What's the need of a larger penis?

*shrug* Bragging rights??? I was with a guy who had a 9-10" penis. For 3.5 yrs. That boy didn't know sh!t about how to please me, despite my attempts to educate him. I can count on one hand the number of times I orgasmed, and none were caused by him. Just think... I nearly MARRIED him!!! OMG! Yes... I took his massive length. Yay me. Now... gimme my 5-7" penis so I can actually enjoy it!!


Is it just the look of the big penis and nothing more?

All penises are pretty. Each one is unique. None are the same. I pretty much can find something enjoyable about the majority of penises out there. Too bad so many are attached to men that I can't find anything enjoyable about!


Or do some women actually like getting their cervix spanked? From what I've heard, it's quite uncomfortable to get cervix poked, not pleasurable at all.

Some women do enjoy it. I think they might be in the minority tho... but they are out there.

There. Brutal honesty. Questions?
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Oral anal play?
Posted: 10/27/2009 6:27:39 PM

I think a good supply of disposable latex gloves and vaseline are a good way to say I love you, without risking your health.

Except Vaseline is not the lube of choice here. Infact, it's a BAD choice.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 120 (view)
 
Straight men and Anal play - yay or nay?
Posted: 10/27/2009 5:24:19 PM

If my lady wanted to go there, I'd let her, and I'd try to pretend I was enjoying it, for her sake.

Please don't. Faking it is bad. Really bad. Since 90% of my enjoyment is based purely on my partner's responses.. I've had partner's do this and it purely takes ALL the fun out of it. I dislike being lied to. I'd rather hear "this isn't working for me, lets try something different" then "ooo baby!!".. especially if you aren't feeling it.

And I can promise you that a lover playing with your ass is NOTHING like a prostate exam given by a doctor. A prostate exam isn't supposed to be arousing.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Fetishes - Friend or Foe ?
Posted: 10/27/2009 11:54:34 AM
Ahem.

fetish - 6 dictionary results
fet⋅ish  /ˈfɛtɪʃ, ˈfitɪʃ/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [fet-ish, fee-tish] Show IPA
–noun 1. an object regarded with awe as being the embodiment or habitation of a potent spirit or as having magical potency.
2. any object, idea, etc., eliciting unquestioning reverence, respect, or devotion: to make a fetish of high grades.
3. Psychology. any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation.

fet·ish also fet·ich (fět'ĭsh, fē'tĭsh)
n.
1. An object that is believed to have magical or spiritual powers, especially such an object associated with animistic or shamanistic religious practices.

2. An object of unreasonably excessive attention or reverence: made a fetish of punctuality.

3. Something, such as a material object or a nonsexual part of the body, that arouses sexual desire and may become necessary for sexual gratification.

4. An abnormally obsessive preoccupation or attachment; a fixation.


fetish
Having a proclivity for something in a sexual way- especially something not inherently sexual. Examples: latex, rubber, spanking, specific smell/odor, dangerous situations, etc. A fetish can often heighten sexual satisfaction or even become obsessive and needed to reach sexual satisfaction. A good fetish is like a good woman: once you find one, you will quickly tire of it/her.
The fetish of one person for people with amputations was as sick as anything I had ever heard.
Or...
An adult in a diaper and sucking on a pacifier is a real turn-on fetish for me.
get this def on a mug


Fetish
A new, broader spectrum, definition of a classically defined word.
A fetish in this case is one of two things;
Either, an enjoyment of any deviance from societies percieved normal, of any nature.
Or an over-enjoyment, over-indulgence in something which is widely accepted as a normal within defined limits.
Or an action which is performed above and beyond normally expected limits, in any circumstances.
Over-enjoyment "Dude, you like your new xbox 360 WAY too much, i didn't see it before, but you've got a fetish"
Action beyond normal limits "That was some FETISH goal man, screamer from way outside the box!!!"
Enjoyment of deviance "Marriage? at our age? You've got some kind of fetish for weddings!"
Over-indulgence "2 Tubs of Ben and Jerrys ice-cream straight!? You've got a fetish mate"



Foot = fetish... yes.
I don't consider anal to be a fetish, as it's an act, not an object, however.. it might qualify under the *preoccupation or attachment* end of things.
Domination and humiliation again fall into acts, not objects.

I think the majority of us have things we like and need in order to acheive sexual satisfaction.

I have several friends who are not of the vanilla persuasion. A few have confided in me the things that really get them going. Some are pretty simple. Some are not. A really good friend of mind told me his and my immediate response was.. ohgodnofreakinway. Then we talked more indepth about it. The more I learned about why he was into this particular thing, the more interested I became in giving him this thing. That's how it works for me. I need to know why it works for you, and what it does.

But then.. that just brings out the sadist in me. *wink*
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Oral anal play?
Posted: 10/27/2009 9:33:15 AM

Anal is a much higher health risk than vagina.why do you think when you wipe yourself as a femaile you are suposed to wipe from front to back not the reverse. It's so you don't wipe bacteria from your ahole to your vagina as this can cause infection. Also if you are having anal sex you are suposed to wssh up before going back to vaginal sex. The vagina also naturally cleans itself so it is bad to wash out the inside of the vagina as this effects it's natural cleaning cycle.

Ooo... a man who knows stuff!!! I'm impressed! Altho if you wear a condom for anal, you can slip it off and continue vaginally (or switch to a clean condom)... *hinthint*

As for licking... call me a hypocrite. I enjoy getting it. 'Nuff said.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
How do you tell your lover they`re too loud in bed?
Posted: 10/26/2009 4:56:39 AM
Move your sleepovers to HER place.

As a noise maker, I have learned time and place. Sometimes it's hotter to grunt and groan instead of scream... the effort it takes to keep quiet is intense and focuses that energy back into the orgasm instead of out into open air.

Tell her you love the noises, that the neighbors are starting to complain, and since you HAVE to live there, she needs to tone it down, or you are moving to a different venue.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
 
A divorce order to allow kids to move from country??
Posted: 10/23/2009 1:41:09 PM

And, OT, a parent can't even get a passport for a child under fourteen without the other parents signature, even if divorced.

Not true. I got passports for my minor children this summer without their father's signature. We are divorced, and I have full/sole custody as well as care and control tho. I'm nice and informed him I was doing it tho. All they asked for was the divorce papers (presume they were looking for custody arrangements) and birth certificates. I could probably have done it before the divorce was final based on the requirements they asked for. The separation agreement stated I had custody and care and control.

My mother moved us from the Southwest USA to Eastern Ontario when I was 6. She had my father sign saying she had his permission to take me out of the state as well as out of the country. She remarried and he was in Ontario, so we moved to be with him.

I left the province with my children when my ex asked for the divorce, before there was a formal legal agreement... I think I had him sign a letter and have it notarized.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
STD's
Posted: 10/21/2009 4:08:51 AM
I tell them all I want to see their current vet certificates. Everyone laughs. Then we have a serious conversation about sex. I've never had someone refuse to share information with me. If I did, information is the ONLY thing we'd be sharing.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
How do girls feel when the guy can't finish?
Posted: 10/21/2009 4:04:58 AM
Please, for the love of *insert your choice here*, please do NOT fake anything. Ever. What a horrible disservice you do to yourself and your partner then.

I have a hard trigger myself. I've come to accept it. First times suck, so unless you are a complete d*ck in bed... not orgasming the first time with someone isn't going to be a deal breaker for me. If you're having fun, and enjoying yourself, it's all good baby!!

For myself... just be honest.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
diffrent way's to get him in the mood
Posted: 10/20/2009 12:14:28 PM
Assuming he's around your age... you shouldn't have to do more than look at him and breathe to get him in the mood.

Your best bet would be to talk to him and ASK HIM what he needs... or explain that you want more and see if he's up for the challenge.. hehe..
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
condoms...for real
Posted: 10/19/2009 5:50:48 PM

I'm just surprised how many people actually DON'T choose to use them irl, compared to how many people brag about using them on here.

Um... if you hate them as much as men say they hate them, why would you expect them to willingly put one on? Seriously. If you don't hold them accountable for their actions and *just don't think about it* then you are just cruisin' to pick something up.

Go buy them. Put one in your purse. Tell them they either wear it, or you leave. Their choice. At your age, regardless of how long you were in a relationship for, you should know better!

First thing I did when I got separated.. ok.. not the first thing, but one of the first things I did once I got my head screwed back on straight was to go out and buy a box of condoms to have on hand. Just in case.

I actually prefer to do it as opposed to leaving it up to the guy. That way I know how old they are and how they've been handled/stored. The old expired ones get used on the toys.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
How can i help him cum???
Posted: 10/17/2009 11:46:25 AM
Ladybugg.. is he on antidepressants by any chance?? Those often have the side effect of inhibiting orgasm.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 41 (view)
 
do men like getting more then giving
Posted: 10/16/2009 4:49:09 PM

"I don't really give my partner much choice. I just climb up on his face and he gets the hint."

"That's one lucky guy there...But seriously, that's the way to do it..."


No doubt??? Damn....I've been out of the dating scene WAY TOO LONG! lol.... I almost want to start a thread just on that subject? REALLY? Just climb right on up there and he'll comply??? lol

In my case, yes he will. But that's the kind of relationship WE have. YMMV.

I've also bee known to send him text messages along the line of... "I want to cum on your tongue"... that seems to work too.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
do men like getting more then giving
Posted: 10/14/2009 4:42:06 PM

Give me head or give me death! But I'm not licking the oyster!
...but what do I know?

Really??? Seriously???? You won't go down on a woman? REALLY?????!?!?!??!!!

I don't know a single man who doesn't like to eat a woman out.

OP, I can't answer your question because I am not a man. However, I won't not give a man oral just because he's reluctant to give it back. I don't really give my partner much choice. I just climb up on his face and he gets the hint.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
woman i met here hasn't O'ed in 1.5 yrs.
Posted: 10/14/2009 2:45:55 PM
Not everyone is going to react the same way you do. I have a GF who up until a few years ago NEVER touched herself. She'd barely had an orgasm. Now.. she's a fiend.

As for your lady friend.. you are going to have to ask her what her reasoning is behind the things she does.. or doesn't do in this case.
 
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