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hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

Msg: 55 (view)

Is she crazy or am I reading more into it? Posted: 7/24/2009 10:51:23 PM
I see boiled bunnies in your future... Seriously though , Clingy , in my opinion , is a turn off... Yes it's new/exciting/full o butterflies etc but this has a definite weirdness to it , more weirdness than I could take (and wow that's sayin a lot!)

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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What's your deal breaker? (re profiles first glance) Posted: 6/27/2009 9:44:31 PM
no pictures (come on it's 2009!) no content (is it that tricky to write something about yourself?) Separated (sorry , just feels incomplete/unsettled, potential to get messy) frequent drug use/drinking that's just the first glance stuff , as I read a profile there are more...

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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I Caught You Looking: Is looking at a profile a green light to make contact? Posted: 4/13/2009 8:10:10 PM
I thought just being here was a green light in itself.... I get messages all the time like "saw you looking at my profile" and/or "did you like what you saw in my profile" sometimes I misclick (yes it's true) or can't remember looking at a profile , or a picture changed or or or (whatever you get the point) I just kind ofassumed everyone was looking at everyones profile , not that because I happened to look at their profile I was automatically interested...

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

Msg: 187 (view)

Men over 30, unmarried no children Posted: 4/7/2009 9:32:52 PM
awwww man I thought this was a thread promising men over 30 who have never been married and have no kids! drats! jk I don't think anything of them in general , I judge people on a case by case basis. As I would hope they would judge me. I'm 32 with no kids and have never been married so I'm hoping men view this at least semi-favourably....or I'm hoping the right kinda men do anyway!

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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What does a guy want me to say when he says... Posted: 4/7/2009 9:00:08 PM
I think , since some of the funnier (non bitter sounding) posters have chimed in on this one that it does (somewhat) come from frustration. By no means do I get a ton of attention on here or anything but it can be frustrating/annoying when messages you do get consist of "hey whats up?" "hi how are you?" "hey...." or those little emoticon only messages - which for me personally , are just the devil and will never ever get my attention/response. I get that it can be hard to come up with something witty/cool on the spot but come on, give it a try at least! show her that you bothered to glance at her profile etc. Women are also probably guilty of this but on the rare occasion I've popped out a first contact message I've tried to make it at least a little unique..funny...whatever...

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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ladies, how much older would you date? Posted: 4/7/2009 8:24:59 PM
hmm I'm sure I already posted on this topic but I'll do it again ,since I'm older (wiser?!?) .... I'm 32 and my age restrictions (okay preferences) have changed quite a bit since I was in my 20's . When I was , oh , say 25 , I'd say anyone 20-35 would do. Now that I'm in my 30's I can't really imagine being in a relationship with a guy in his early 20's (although I spose it makes for good fantasy fodder from time to time!) I remember being in my early 20's and I was nowhere near ready for a serious relationship of any kind, so I'd say now I'd probably go five years younger and up to 10 years older? (27-42 , okay) would be great if the majority of the attention I got on here was from guys in that age range (it isn't , I tend to get messaged by 19-23 year olds and/or 45+)

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??! Posted: 4/7/2009 8:20:25 PM
I really can't believe that there are so many people out there who have been stood up ..... (I mean I believe it , I just think it sucks!) seriously how hard is it to be an adult and at least meet up , have a coffee and get the heck outta there if you're not feeling it. Aside from the marrieds or those in a relationship looking for a fling that stand ppl up (and I don't count them anyway!) there's no logical reason that I can justify not showing up to meet someone I've agreed to meet. totally a reflection of them not you

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

Msg: 194 (view)

is hairloss a turnoff? Posted: 4/7/2009 8:18:29 PM
not at all but that godawful combover thing sure is!

hapeenurse

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Privacy? why would you ask that after two dates? Posted: 4/7/2009 8:16:22 PM
whatever the reason, run (don't walk) away!! I also like to fancy myself a private person but this just oozes of wife/girlfriend or some other drama, either way, I wouldn't really waste my time on this one..

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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Sex on 2nd date - now what, exclusivity? Posted: 4/5/2009 7:32:12 PM
I think we need to just keep it simple here... you're not that into her , so just move on. You'll be doing her a favour.... everyone deserves to be with someone who doesn't have such "misgivings" about them straight out the gate...

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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a relationship with a friend.....help? Posted: 4/5/2009 8:24:19 AM
Lou is an asshat! anyone who gets their kicks by being mean is certainly No friend of mine! friends are there to build you up, make you feel good about yourself, not degrade and embarrass you!

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

Msg: 55 (view)

Are there any people left that date one at a time? Posted: 4/5/2009 8:06:34 AM
I complain about this all the time.... I'm really a one guy at a time kinda gal (wow that sounds dirty , maybe I should rephrase, nah what the heck) I don't like the idea of dating multiple guys and hoping , somehow ,a front runner emerges. I'm more the spend my energy on one guy and see if the chemistry is there ,and if not , move along... That being said , I know thats the trend in dating these days and I fully expect when I hang out with a guy that I'm not the only one he's spending his time with. Would I prefer to meet someone and have them feel the same way as I do about the whole thing? duh of course, but I'm not holding out for it , I realize dating is what it is...

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 4/5/2009 8:03:46 AM
I probably answered this like 29 pages ago but just to say it again, Of course there are!!! lots of good men left, lots of good women left, if only we could all meet and pair up and dance off happily into the sunset, oh wait , life isn't always like that! patience, it's a must , because when that great person comes along you'll realize they were worth the wait entirely. (sounds hokey but it's true, and the fact I just watched 2 hugh grant movies has nothing to do with my romantic optimism at the moment - promise!)

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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How is this any better? Posted: 4/5/2009 7:56:16 AM
I see what you're saying and agree.... to a point. I've never really had trouble meeting anyone in "the real world" but I found that with my schedule and the fact that in my close circle of friends (not too many of them are single anymore) it was tricky to actually meet someone with substance. Yeah you can go out to a bar/pub for a few drinks but I personally have yet to meet anyone there that resulted in anything beyond a couple dates. A friend of mine suggested pof when I was single in 2006 , so I joined, not really expecitng anything , what I got was a few friends, lots of laughs in the forums, and eventually a relationship. It was purely circumstance and it just so happened we started talking here, it didn't work out (obviously hah) but dating is always about taking chances, and I'm all for keeping an open mind when it comes to meeting people and dating. I don't find it "better" but I do kinda like the idea of meeting/talking to people that I may have (fo various reasons - distance, work scheduling, whatever) never had the chance to meet before.

hapeenurse

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I know I'm crazy.. 2000 miles away Posted: 4/5/2009 7:27:29 AM
I can only echo what many others have said here, GO FOR IT!!!!! it's not everyday we meet someone we feel we honestly click with , and I think you owe it to yourselves to at least meet in person and see if that connection is truly there. Otherwise you'll often wonder "what if" and those kinds of thoughts can be torture! I really hope you have the awesome connection in person that you seem to have going on now , nothing beats that feeling when someone "really gets you"

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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Stood up...this sucks! Was it me??! Posted: 4/5/2009 7:22:58 AM
wow can't believe people are suggesting she give him a second/third/fourth whatever chance it will be when he finally shows up. Unless he's in the 0.11 percent of people who are actually in that horrific car crash everyone thinks of first when they are stood up , I'd say just move along. Such blatant disregard for another persons time (if nothing else) is a huge huge red flag, and the complete lack of manners to even make a simple phone call to cancel just speaks volumes about a person. Thankfully I haven't been stood up and I wouldn't stand anyone else up either , come on now , how hard is it really to sit through a quick coffee or drink?

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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Why is it so rare? Posted: 4/4/2009 10:30:09 PM
I live in a huge city and I see both situations too. I think as humans we are just geared to notice beauty/attractiveness in general , so you notice the good looking person and then (by your standards of what is pretty/hot/whatever) the partner doesn't just seem to match up. Everyones idea of beauty is different that combined with the fact we all have different preferences in a potential mate , explains it all.

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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The fine line between friendly and too friendly - where does the favour end? Posted: 4/4/2009 10:20:50 PM
hopefully ya'll were not watching a disney movie at least!!! it's funny but also a little creepy.... maybe he thought you had been into the alcohol you wouldn't notice??!?!

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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Just plain UGLY Posted: 3/29/2009 7:25:07 PM
her attitude is downright fugly..... as with anything POF is a smattering of the population in general - which means the good the bad and the ugly (no pun intended) she's shown herself to be an idiot in her very first message to you , at least you didn't waste a lot of time on her sorry a$$ right? carry on , rejection sucks, rejection + downright mean really sucks but you wouldn't want to spend your time on such a stupid loser anyway right? RIGHT! consider the source and rise above it..

hapeenurse

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I hate it when it rains and pours too Posted: 3/29/2009 7:20:53 PM
just my opinion but.......... NO you should not tell his wife anything and you should: stop all contact with him , period. delete his # , email/whatever silently thank him for showing his true colours so early on enjoy the fact that you're moving on to the next guy who will hopefully be worthy of your awesomeness! continue to do the things (mani's pedi's shopping) that make you feel good , do them for the sake of your own happiness. consider the source and rise above it (standing someone up is just bad manners!) laugh at the fool who lost out on you! cheers!

hapeenurse

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Being seperated but no divorce in sight Posted: 3/29/2009 7:13:43 PM
I hear people say the money thing all the time and I just don't get it... if you wanted to be out of the marriage bad enough to go through a separation why on earth wouldn't you want to do it officially/legally? a few hundred dollars would seem worth it to me, then again I've never been married. I just don't date separated people, personal choice and preference like any other....

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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POF words of wisdom....seriously! Posted: 3/28/2009 1:12:51 AM
"Love life and life will love you back. Love people and they will love you back." "what you permit , you promote" "the one that's worth your tears won't make you cry" "What everyone wants from life is continuous and genuine happiness." "Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live." "Living well is the best revenge" "Love doesn't make the world go 'round; love is what makes the ride worthwhile." "Where there is love there is life."

hapeenurse

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Are there ANY women who don't CHEAT? Posted: 3/28/2009 12:57:28 AM
nope , none, zero , zip, we're all cheating beeyatches!! hope that was reassuring! now wheres that pesky little rolling eyes smiley when I need him? oh oh there he is... good

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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Would you date someone who is dying? Posted: 3/28/2009 12:53:18 AM
firstly I admire the courage it took you to post this question , good on ya. Second, of course I would date someone who is dying ..... sounds cliche but we're all dying every.single.day. You may have six years left (and I'm hoping it's many many more than that!) some of the rest of us may only have six days, six hours or six minutes....... point being - you never know exactly when you are going to die (despite what those late night infomercial type pyschics will tell you). I hope someone wouldn't judge me based on a medical diagnosis, illness doesn't define people.

hapeenurse

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The answer to I am to busy Posted: 2/21/2009 12:32:09 AM
the whole "I'm soooo busy" thing is usually just an excuse , a cop out so the person doesn't have to be honest and say "I'm really not interested in spending time with you" that being said ,there was a time in my life (a few years ago, during the SARS out break no less) that I really was too busy to date. I had met someone and wanted so badly to pursue something with him but between working , school and a family issue I knew I couldn't devote the time I would have liked to in order to make a relationship grow. those old cliches are true for a reason , because they've been experienced so many times! "never make someone a priority when they only consider you an option"

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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How many dates have you had of the Internet and still remain single? Posted: 2/7/2009 4:14:10 PM
mmmmm since 2006 met - 8 second date - 7 third date - 5 "relationship" (lasting anywhere from 4mths to about a year- 2 before all that, I was in a long term relationship.

hapeenurse

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Attraction: outlook bleak -or- a kid in a candy store Posted: 2/5/2009 4:35:41 PM
I guess I fall somewhere in the middle. If we're talking purely physical attraction , sure there are all kinds of guys out there I see and think "okay , cute" or whatever but when it comes to personality atraction I find , these days anyway, a bit let down. I don't think I'm meeting guys that I have a ton in common with , so for me that kinda kills the attraction. as with most people (I think) , physical attraction grabs your attention , personality/attitude etc keeps your attention.

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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What do you think of a man (or woman) who comes on really strong right away? Posted: 2/5/2009 4:32:43 PM
I end up hearing the music from the movie psycho in my head (regardless of whether they deserve that or not!) and I tend to back off quickly.... it's annoying and creepy!

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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Rotten luck Posted: 2/3/2009 2:03:57 PM
well obviously he doesn't eralize he made a mistake if the title of his thread is "rotten bad luck" , does that imply someone understands the error in their judgement? are we all supposed to just say "yeah man tough break" ?

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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Cum placement Posted: 2/2/2009 7:05:51 PM
I just want to vote for a sexier thread title! cum placement sounds so , well, clinical like where on the map of the body are we going to place the cum kinda dealie..... actually on topic , anywhere but my fallopian tubes

hapeenurse

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wedding sex !!! Posted: 2/2/2009 7:03:21 PM
two words : open bar two more: hotel rooms I've never had the wedding hook up but know a lot of ppl who have, definitely not that uncommon.

hapeenurse

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Rotten luck Posted: 2/2/2009 7:01:46 PM
more like rotten bad judgement batman!

hapeenurse

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Is it wrong to settle temporarily, knowing it likely won't last Posted: 2/1/2009 10:51:56 AM
although I see no point whatsoever in a situation like this, I suppose if both parties are aware of the fact it's going to go nowhere okay , two consenting adults and all that business but I don't settle and would hope that a guy wouldn't think he was settling when he was hanging out with me!

hapeenurse

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Did you ever HIGH FIVE your partner after sex? Posted: 2/1/2009 12:27:49 AM
If you can't have a little fun in the bedroom, with laughter and jokes, then what's the point? AMEN! since when does sex always have to be so serious? so it's immature and a little silly ,so what? I certainly don't want an overly serious ,never silly guy in my bed! better to make me laugh than to have me lapse into a coma out of boredom!

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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Did you ever HIGH FIVE your partner after sex? Posted: 1/31/2009 11:26:17 PM
U must be kidding! I think that is the most immature thing I ever heard! I would never talk to a fool again if he did that! I don't think I would be in the company of someone though that would ever do that. I don't do silly things after sex. I'm in a romantic passionate mood and want more! Who acts silly? wow, just , wow. (and not good wow either) sure sex is supposed to passionate and romantic and the like but what's wrong with seeing the humour in it too and sharing a laugh with someone? intimacy isn't just about passion and romance, it's about being relaxed and comfortable enough to be yourself, silly high fives and all.

hapeenurse

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Why do women date mutiple guys at once? Posted: 1/31/2009 3:48:55 PM
same reason guys do methinks.... I've never been good at dating more than one guy at a time but thats kind of the idea these days, Ideally I want to find one person I click with and go from there but I'm guessing that it takes dating around a bit for that to happen, Spose I was just lucky in my past that compatable guys happened to come my way without much effort on my part. (not the case these days wahhhhh hah)

hapeenurse

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What do you love about being single !? Posted: 1/31/2009 3:46:30 PM
coming and going as I please, not that I date guys who are possessive etc but sometimes when you're in a relationship you have certain obligations you need to accompany your partner to etc. more time for my own hobbies/interests (although I'd probably swap that out for more making out with the right guy , so maybe it doesn't belong on this list exactly) Each time I'm around a friend who is having a problem or some silly drama with their significant other I am silently thankful that I don't have to deal with any of that right now....

hapeenurse

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are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married? Posted: 1/31/2009 1:44:50 PM
no! I embrace them! send them this way! I'm leary of guys (in general) who seem to have committment issues , and guess what , A lot of those kinds of guys have been married (and divorced etc etc) case by case basis, it's how we should all look at eachother...

hapeenurse

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Did you ever HIGH FIVE your partner after sex? Posted: 1/31/2009 1:41:35 PM
I'm guilty of this.... I find it's a cute way to relax and lighten the mood, nothing like being able to share a stupid joke, giggle or high five with your sig other!

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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Are you lonesome tonight? Posted: 1/30/2009 7:01:53 PM
I miss all of it ! the comfortable silence when you can just sit and enjoy eachother movie nights in , walks outside being someones last call of the night the butterflies the hugs the kissese the hand holding the stupid inside jokes and dorky nicknames the moments of feeling lonely are better than settling and not being happy with the one you're with , so I'll be patient (I'll still b*tch from time to time but I'll be patient!)

hapeenurse

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Over 30 -- What is your biggest turn on Posted: 1/30/2009 6:59:18 PM
hands....something about hands.... I can't explain it but ahhhhhhhhh hands! (the kinda rough but strong hands mmm) and of course the usual , nice eyes/smile and a really really big......... brain actually it just comes down to a guy comfortable in his own skin , a guy who knows who he is , what he wants is so sexy!

hapeenurse

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WHY ARE WOMEN OVER 30 A FAILURE WHEN THEY ARE SINGLE AND CHILDLESS? Posted: 1/30/2009 6:45:50 PM
because as advanced as we think society has become there are still ideals in place from the 1950's etc that people have a hard time getting over. I'm a lot of things ,a failure isn't one of them. I prefer to call myself smart for not settling just becasue and ending up a depressed divorcee, because it's only been in the last 2-3 years of my life that I've realized I would like the whole marriage/kids thing and that I'd be damn good at both of em....

hapeenurse

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dating for 3rd shifters Posted: 1/30/2009 6:43:03 PM
admittedly it's not easy , right now I'm doing straight days for a year and my dating life is slumping worse than it did when I was on my beloved straight night shift (oh how I miss thee!) go figure.... anyway , point is , you have to make an effort to make the time. I found the following worked well, because I worked 12 hour nights I had lots more days off , so that helped , but ,in general: you can do some great day time dates - breakfasts were always something I looked forward to, did the afternoon movie/museum thing too. on my nights off we'd do dinner and movie nights at home I had every other weekend off so we always did something fun (like getting away from the city) on those days. it may not be easy if your work schedules conflict but I've found a lot of ppl don't work the straight 9-5 shift these days.... thankfully!

hapeenurse

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Finding the right girl, after choosing the wrong girl. Posted: 1/25/2009 5:14:36 PM
thats the challenge everyone has right? how do you move on from a disaster while keeping in mind that the next one will be better, has to be better god I hope it's better!! keep the faith , get out and meet people , have fun and chances are you'll meet someone great - you may also meet some more weirdos but that will make you appreciate the sane one when you meet her! Remember our errors in judgement and mistakes help us not repeat them! So far so good on your end!

hapeenurse

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how did dating change for you when u turned 30 Posted: 1/25/2009 5:11:00 PM
I got the attention of 18-21 year olds, thats how! aside from that slightly weird change, I actually find it much the same. I know myself fairly well and know what I will and won't accept in a person and am fairly confident that I bring a lot to the table or to a potential date/relationship. On the flipside, it's getting a wee bit trickier to find "appropriate" (whether it be age,location,whatever else) guys to date, harder to meet (hence the whole pof thing I s'pose) and there is sometimes a disconnect between what I'm looking for at this stage in my life and what some of the guys are.... But basically it's still fun , and tedious ,and it's reassuring that those butterflies didn't fade with time!

hapeenurse

Joined: 5/5/2006

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30 and never married? Posted: 1/25/2009 5:08:05 PM
I'm sure in my internet geekdom I posted on this one but I'm too lazy to look and I feel the need to revisit this since I am recently 32 (ahhhhhhhh!!!!!) and never been married with no kids. I remember turning 30 and thinking "wow I'm a bit of a personal failure huh?" then it dawned on me , only in that year had I even entertained the notion of being ready for marriage and a family. Maybe a bit of a late bloomer, maybe wanted to get the career thing in order ,maybe spent my time with the wrong person/people but regardless of why , that explained it. I think that realization has made me a better person in general and certainly a better person to date. So if/when I do go that route, I'm fairly confident I can see it for what it is and work hard at it to make it work.

hapeenurse

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Living with mother over 30? Would it make me Untouchable? Posted: 1/25/2009 5:04:31 PM
I'd have no problem with this situation, the problem I have is entertaining the idea of dating a guy who has never left his parents home . I think you do a lot of growing when you are on your own and having to be a responsible adult etc. It's a reality these days with the economy/aging population that many of us will be in the same situation. Heck I'm facing it myself actually , my mom who has been a hardworking contributing member of society for umm ever is facing job loss and since she's in her mid sixties who is going to hire her? I told her she always has a home at my place and if needed to just say the word and she's in.... it's the right thing to do ,and anyone who would judge you based on that alone probably isn't worth you time in the first place...

hapeenurse

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Do you feel comfortable dating someone who is seperated Posted: 1/25/2009 5:00:26 PM
too bad they don't allow simple one word posts here, for that one word is the most applicable answer to this question........... NO! I did it once against my better judgement and it ended up being the single ugliest relationship I've ever had , and yes , say what you will about not all situations being the same , but a good chunk of the problems stemmed from his "status" namely : * "ex" using that term to try to get him back (the divorce isn't final yet , lets give it one more try etc etc) * ugly custody/visitation issues (these don't seem to happen with someone who has been divorced for awhile , possibly because of the legal stuff that comes with divorce? who knows?) * the feeling deep down that he wasn't quite ready to be divorced yet (in relationship limbo if you will) but not sure he wanted his ex back (is this fair for the new person in your life? no!) * bonding with a child that isn't yours , only to never see them again if/when said separated person goes back to their ex (hey it happens) could go on and on but , I'm just not comfortable putting myself out there again to someone who isn't ready to date ,and I think people need time , a break ,after a serious relationship ends (I know I did , and I wasn't even married!) before they start to date again. JMO

hapeenurse

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Do you believe a woman when she says ... Posted: 1/25/2009 4:52:21 PM
faking an interest in something is what you do in junior high to get that cute boy to like you , so yes it happens but I'd like to think as we get older and really discover who we are as individuals we don't have to make up lies to find some common ground with someone. Sure it may still happen but I kinda like it when a guy I'm interested in has his own hobbies/interests etc, this way we have stuff in common but also other things to do with our friends or solo etc. I love hockey and shopping, so go me!

hapeenurse

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WHY DO MEN WANT TO SLEEP WITH YOU, BUT NOT DATE YOU? Posted: 1/25/2009 4:50:06 PM
^ smart cookie this one! I'm too old and too tired for that kinda BS so if he just wants a F*ck Buddy then he can find someone else. When you break it down , ppl should look for someone who wants the same kinda things they do , if two grown adults want a strictly sexual relationship that's fine , the problem comes (no pun intended, I swear!) when one wants something more , feelings get involved and then it just gets ugly. Without coming across too seriously it's a good idea to find out (generally) what someone is looking for , I've had men ask me this and I usually just keep it light by saying that I want to find someone cool to hang out with/date and see where it goes, that I love being in a relationship but all that good stuff comes later, you have to hang out a bit and get to know eachother first before jumping into anything serious.

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