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chicagostyle

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why do people feel like they need someone in their life . Posted: 11/20/2009 7:17:15 PM
While, at the mement, I do like being single, sometimes, it would be nice to have someone special. A partner. Someone that can let the cable guy in when your at work. Or someone to call up and tell them you just got that big raise you were hoping for. Or someone just to talk too, on that other, "not just friends" level, every now and then. Or someone that you like so much, that everytime you hear their favorite song, you get a smile on your face thinking about them. Or someone that, when your out shopping, you remember she loves Rocky Road ice cream, so you call her up, ask her if she's doing anything, and if she just wants to hangout, and so you pick up a half a gallon. Yeah, I think everyone misses someone like that on occassion no?

chicagostyle

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Kissing....... Posted: 11/20/2009 6:23:13 PM
Have you tried talking to the other party involved about how much you enjoy kissing and making out and see how they feel about it?

chicagostyle

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Women who don't shave Posted: 11/20/2009 6:17:32 PM
I prefer trimmed, but at the end of the day, she should do whatever works for her. And if her partner has a preference, maybe then work on a compromise.

chicagostyle

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Why do guys love porn so much??? Posted: 11/15/2009 7:51:28 PM
Why look at porn when Women are so Cute. You know there are women in porn too right?

chicagostyle

Joined: 5/7/2006

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Is porn ruining real live sex? Posted: 11/6/2009 7:36:04 PM
Porn isn't supposed to be used for sex ed or have any moral standards. It's suppose to help people getoff. Anyone who let's porn ruin their sex life has a serious issue within themselve that they should seek professional help for. And yeah, the orgasms are fake. I would think the only ones that are even somewhat real are maybe amateur videos, but I've never watched a video and expected a real orgasm. And for every weird, sick, disqusting, outrageous, and far out there act and fetish that you see in a porn video, there is someone out that that actually enjoys it, otherwise, it wouldn't sell. Sometimes it's fun to watch porn alone and even more fun with a partner that likes watching it with you. And sometimes you just want a good F***ing without the love and romance. Sometimes all you have is 15 - 20 minutes. LOL. If you don't like porn that's fine, but let's not go saying it ruins peoples sex lives. Some people understand exactly what porn is amd what it's for. And some watch it and enjoy it together and continue to have a healthy sex life together.

chicagostyle

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Do some women like being sex slaves? Posted: 10/14/2009 5:31:40 PM
Some women do and some women don't. Some like to have men as their sex slaves. Everyones different.

chicagostyle

Joined: 5/7/2006

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do men like getting more then giving Posted: 10/14/2009 5:07:56 PM
I have dated a girl that didn't give oral at all once. Not sure I would do that one again, LOL. But, I didn't have a big issue with giving and not receiving. It got annoying every once in awhile, but I enjoy giving and therefore, it wasn't really a big issue. I am not even that big on recievong oral, though once in awhile it is nice ofcourse. I do love to give though, with the right person.

chicagostyle

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would you cut a single parent slack for having a messy house? Posted: 9/14/2009 4:30:26 PM
Hi everyone. Ok, this is a repost and I am not a single parent but I am single and live alone and thought I would post my story -------------------------------------------------------------------- I use to clean my house weekly, doing the carpets, the bathrooms, the kitech, mopping, cleaning the mirrors, dusting, etc... I never had a problem letting someone in uninvited because of a mesy house. I was almost a neat freak, but not too anal about it. LOL Then one night while I was shampooing the carpets and cleaning other things around the house, I got a call that my mother had fallen and was being rushed to the hospital where she later passed away. Since that day, I don't clean my house like I use too. I clean ofcourse, but not with the detail that I did before, and there are times when I will let the kitchen get in bad shape before cleaning it. I do still try to keep clean the rooms the people will see if/when someone comes over, but for the mst part, my house is no where near as clean as I use to keep it, and even my brother and neice(she's a clean freak who cleans up when she's bored or can't sleep) have commented on it a couple of times. And for the most part, they noticed when the cleaning, or lack of, started. Once I started to realize this I began (still am) to take steps to get things back on schedule. I think, somewhere in he back of my mind, when I do get into cleaning really heavily, it, for some strange reason, reminds me alittle of that night. I don't know, can't say for sure. But, I use to be more like Felix from The Odd Couple(Just not as Anal, LOL), and was slowly turning into an Oscar after that night, though not as bad. I am slowly getting back to how I use to be. Also, I have talked to people who have a "messy" or cluttered house and in some cases, it's not because they are lazy, but more so because of time issues, or something happened in the past or whatever. Somepeople are plain lazy though, when it comes to house cleaning. Also, I use to work days and now I work nights, which is when I use to do most of my cleaning, and I know that is one reason for the changes . ----------------------------------------------------------------- Things are getting back to how they use to be and back on track, cleaning everything one room at a time.

chicagostyle

Joined: 5/7/2006

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How clean is your house? Posted: 9/14/2009 3:34:15 PM
I use to clean my house weekly, doing the carpets, the bathrooms, the kitech, mopping, cleaning the mirrors, dusting, etc... I never had a problem letting someone in uninvited because of a mesy house. I was almost a neat freak, but not too anal about it. LOL Then one night while I was shampooing the carpets and cleaning other things around the house, I got a call that my mother had fallen and was being rushed to the hospital where she later passed away. Since that day, I don't clean my house like I use too. I clean ofcourse, but not with the detail that I did before, and there are times when I will let the kitchen get in bad shape before cleaning it. I do still try to keep clean the rooms the people will see if/when someone comes over, but for the mst part, my house is no where near as clean as I use to keep it, and even my brother and neice(she's a clean freak who cleans up when she's bored or can't sleep) have commented on it a couple of times. And for the most part, they noticed when the cleaning, or lack of, started. Once I started to realize this I began (still am) to take steps to get things back on schedule. I think, somewhere in he back of my mind, when I do get into cleaning really heavily, it, for some strange reason, reminds me alittle of that night. I don't know, can't say for sure. But, I use to be more like Felix from The Odd Couple(Just not as Anal, LOL), and was slowly turning into an Oscar after that night, though not as bad. I am slowly getting back to how I use to be. Also, I have talked to people who have a "messy" or cluttered house and in some cases, it's not because they are lazy, but more so because of time issues, or something happened in the past or whatever. Somepeople are plain lazy though, when it comes to house cleaning. Also, I use to work days and now I work nights, which is when I use to do most of my cleaning, and I know that is one reason for the changes .

chicagostyle

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Do women like gay (man on man) porn? Posted: 8/14/2009 5:46:39 PM
Reading threads on here, "I don't think men enjoy lesbians and many have issues with women period". Say what???

chicagostyle

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Why do women use me for sex??? Posted: 7/21/2009 3:10:02 PM
ApplePieSweetTart! Just lay there, look pretty, and stand at attention. And while we're at it, go to the kitchen and make me a sandwich already. Yes Ma'am Would you like that on White, Wheat, or Rye bread? LOL

chicagostyle

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Can a man be too tall to date? Posted: 6/23/2009 7:24:31 PM
I am 6' 9" and the shortest women I have dated was 5' 4". Itwas alittle weird at first but it wasn't really all that bad. It was actually fun. I actually like a woman in the range of 5' 6" to 5' 8", but I won't turn anyone down for being too tall or too short. But I can understand if she is alittle uncomfortable dating someone as tall as I am.

chicagostyle

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sex change operation Posted: 6/22/2009 8:49:24 PM
I don't think I could date a woman that used to be a man. It would be to weird for me. But, I say do whatever makes you happy and forget those who don't like it or approve.

chicagostyle

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Were you ever so horny that,you wanted to taste your own cum??? Posted: 6/22/2009 8:44:00 PM
Ummmmm, NO. I can honestly say that I have never been that horny.

chicagostyle

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Has this ever Happened to you?? Posted: 6/22/2009 8:24:59 PM
Never happened to me but, I say you did the right thing by putting him on ignore. No need to put up with a horny, attention seeking guy even of he is an old friend.

chicagostyle

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Curious... what is sexy?? Posted: 6/22/2009 8:19:22 PM
Sexy to me is how a woman smells, her smile, a sexy outfit, and her attitude. Attitude is a big part of what makes a person sexy, IMO. It's kind of a turnoff when you meet someone that you find attractive until you start having a conversation with them and they have a bad attitude. But most of all, a woman that feels sexy is sexy, even if the other guys in the room haven't caught on yet.

chicagostyle

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i like phone sex Posted: 6/22/2009 8:02:28 PM
I have tried it a few years ago with a girl I was dating who lived about 35 minutes away, so we didn't get to see eachother as often as we liked. It was fun. You get to really use your imagination, and get a chance to communicate things that a lot of people are shy about face to face. It's not for everyone but for some, it can be fun and a good way to kill about 15 - 20 minutes. LOL

chicagostyle

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For The Ladies: What Do You Think About A Guy Friend Going Down On You When You Wanted/Needed It? Posted: 5/19/2009 4:29:03 PM
While I do enjoy going down on a lady, sometimes without her returning the favor, I don't see myself doing it to anyone at random. Even a friend, because, you still don't know whoelse is going down on here or in here when you can't. In a relationship fine, but someone who only wants to hookup just for that purpose? That's taking a big risk.

chicagostyle

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Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ? Posted: 5/14/2009 7:20:53 PM
Unless she mentions in her profile that you are out of the range that she is looking for or your age group is restricted, I don't see why not. If you don't have a problem dating someone who is 9 years younger than you I say email her and see what happens. She may or may not reply, but it doesn't hurt to try. You simply never know till you try. She may be thinking the samething about you.

chicagostyle

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Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you? Posted: 5/14/2009 7:13:47 PM
I'm 34. Would date as young as 25. I would date as older as 40. When I was 29 I dated someone who was 20. I didn't know she was 20 at first and actually thought she was 23ish at first. It was only weird for a minute once I found out her actual age but we ended up having a lot of fun.

chicagostyle

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Does ignoring a guy really get his attention? Posted: 5/14/2009 7:05:37 PM
If someone were to ignore me after I said hello, sent them an email, or called them on the phone, I would assume they were interested and move on. I'm alittle to busy for games. And if she is just busy with schools or kids, etc... That's understandable, but maybe it's not a good time to be trying to go on a date with her anyway, seeing as she is so busy, and/or too busy to reply.

chicagostyle

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Do you hesitate to contact someone with zero roses left? Posted: 5/14/2009 6:35:13 PM
I don't even notice how many roses someone has left when I look at their profile. And if they had none left, from however many they get a month, it's not really a big deal to me. I would just figure maybe they are going through the profiles, see a nice one or a nice picture, and decided to send a rose to say hi and/or break the ice.

chicagostyle

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Need some advice..... Posted: 5/14/2009 6:19:39 PM
I would move on. Sounds like she is basically keeping you on the back burner incase she cannot find a guy she likes better. Or, you could just date other people too and just have fun, but personally, I only date one woman at a time.

chicagostyle

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Need advice on a relationship please.. Posted: 5/14/2009 6:15:00 PM
Sounds like she misses you and the good times of the relationship and maybe she's having second thoughts. Personally, I would continue to try to move on and just let it go. Based on the first part of your story, sounds like she is very unsure of what she wants and it's possible she might end up splitting again once things aren't perfect. If you have or are in the process of moving on I would continue to do so. Go to the wedding, hangout out on Friday, after that, go your seperate ways. Aside from the buying a house together part, almost sounds like what happened to me a few years ago. I to would get the random, "hello" texts. I replied to be nice but I never saw her again as I knew I wasn't going to be getting back together with her. Goodluck.

chicagostyle

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Can we talk about relationships without sex? I'm not talking ''a little'' sex I mean none. Possible? Posted: 5/14/2009 5:20:39 PM
I don't thonk sex is the end all be all in a relationship but if you are with someone that you trust and connect with and in a relationship with, why wouldn't you want to have sex/make love with them? I don't see why anyone would want to be in a relationship, but not have sex/make love if they were able to. Unless there is a medical issue or you simply just don't like sex anymore. I don't think I could be in such a relationship. Maybe for awhile but there will be a point later on where I would become and issue. And, if you are with someone that doesn't want to have sex and you do, it's obviously not a match.

chicagostyle

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Were you ever so horny that,you wanted to taste your own cum??? Posted: 5/14/2009 5:06:34 PM
Nope. I have NEVER been that horny. And don't think I ever will be. But, whatever turns you on.

chicagostyle

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chicken spaghetti Posted: 1/12/2009 7:57:04 AM
Hey everyone. THANKS for all the recipes. I made the Chicken Spaghetti. Well, actually, I used a different type of pasta, bu it came out pretty good. I will try to mix things up with the recipes some of you have provided. THANKS again to all who posted.

chicagostyle

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chicken spaghetti Posted: 1/4/2009 11:17:44 AM
THANKS for the recipes. I just started cooking for myself not too long ago and I do like to experiment and try different things. I will be giving some of the recipes you posted a try hopefully someday. I am going to try making my spaghetti today with the chicken chopped up inplace of the groundbeef. I hope it turns out good.

chicagostyle

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chicken spaghetti Posted: 1/4/2009 10:28:56 AM
sorry, chicken breasts. I will bake them in the oven first and was thinking of chopping them up and just adding them to the pasta sauce(Prego) along with some onions, mushrooms, garlic, etc.... Basically I will be using the chicken breast instead of groundbeef and wondering if anyone has every tried it and how good did it turn out.

chicagostyle

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chicken spaghetti Posted: 1/4/2009 9:59:23 AM
Anyone ever make chicken spaghetti? I am thinking of trying to make some today. Only thing is, everywhere I look online shows making it with chicken soup, chicken broth, etc... I was thinking of making it just like I make my groundbeef spaghetti, only replacing the groundbeef with the chicken and that's it. Still using the same pasta sauce. I am just wondering if anyone has done it before and how did it turn out. Also, any suggestions?

chicagostyle

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First Date... Posted: 12/31/2008 6:28:57 AM
You said he got you drunk? Did he knock you out and pour the drinks down your mouth? Did he spike your drink? Shouldn't you know when you should slow down with the drinks to prevent you from doing something you might regret?

chicagostyle

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The Ex Who Never Goes Away Posted: 12/27/2008 1:19:54 PM
I think once you were out of their life, they realized what they had and lost. They wanted it back. It is a common mixture of emotion. Loss, regret, ect. I agree 100%

chicagostyle

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The Ex Who Never Goes Away Posted: 12/27/2008 1:18:54 PM
I have an ex that usually calls me atleast twice a year, usually text me more than that. She told me she regretted letting go and all that. I have no plans to get back with her but try to be nice when she does call/text. We broke up in '03. Good thing she lives 30 -40 minutes away and there is no real chance of us running into eachother...

chicagostyle

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My woman reads my text messages Posted: 12/27/2008 1:13:02 PM
If you didn't give her permission to read your messages or even to use your phone and she did anyway, you have an issue right there that needs to be discussed. Sounds like a lack of trust issue. My way in dealing with someone not trusting me is to move on. if you don't trust the person your with and keep thinking they are cheating or whatever, is it worth it? Have you tried talking to her and telling her how you really feel about it all?

chicagostyle

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Why do women have sex and then complain about it? Posted: 12/27/2008 1:07:40 PM
Just a few things I would like to point out.... No offense but the cell phone for 3 days test seems kinda stupid. If you don't trust someone that much why even bother? What about the guys and girls who are not looking to get married? You can be really in love and committed to someone without the marraige part. And, not everyone is looking for a serious relationship , both men and women. Some want a casual relationship and simply want someone to have fun with, which yes, includes sex. Just because you label it as something precious and God given doesn't mean others agree with you. You sound alittle jaded.

chicagostyle

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Are you the type of person that rings the bell or calls her on first date? Posted: 12/27/2008 8:36:24 AM
Park the car, get out, walk to the door, ring the bell, wait for her to answer(assuming she gave you the correct address, LOL). Unless she lives in Manhatten or somewhere where you cannot park the car... I would think a girl would feel extra special if you did those things for her on the first day and the dates that followed. Don't forget to open the car door. Girls love that kind of stuff I've been told...

chicagostyle

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Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women? Posted: 12/27/2008 8:28:04 AM
At 21 - 24 or so, the last thing I wanted in a girl was classy and witty. At 33 I would be more than happy with those qualities. And just because you think you are classy and witty doesn't mean everyelse does.

chicagostyle

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Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women? Posted: 12/27/2008 8:26:54 AM
I once dated a man that I had to dumb myself down for. He got very angry at me for using "big" words. LOL. I shouldn't have dropped my vocabulary temporarily but I should have dropped him permanantly (which I later did...not soon enough). I'm getting better with the red flags now. LOL. I've been there before.

chicagostyle

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when should i expect a commitment from him? Posted: 12/27/2008 8:19:01 AM
^^^^ Wow, I didn't know he was only 22. (sorry, I missed that part) In that case, you really should take it easy and just enjoy what you two have at them moment. Why rush things?

chicagostyle

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would you date someone who has nothing Posted: 12/27/2008 8:15:16 AM
By nothing do you mean, no job, no car, no home, no fancy clothes? Depends on how much of nothing she has I guess. I have dated someone that didn't have a job or a car and lived with her parents with a 2 year old and we had a lot of fun and I even helped her find a job. It worked out because I knew she was trying to find a job and better herself, not necessarly look for a handout from me or anyone else.

chicagostyle

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What does it mean when she says.... Posted: 12/27/2008 8:09:58 AM
Just because you remind her of an EX doesn't mean she wants to hookup with you. Think about it, maybe her EX use to make her laugh, despite whatever bad qualities he had, if that were the case, and maybe you make her laugh, therefore, you remind her of him. Try not to read so much into it.

chicagostyle

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We're dating but she never calls me Posted: 12/27/2008 8:05:13 AM
I'm not a phone person either. I can go for days without calling someone/anyone on the phone but can text/IM someone every day. I prefer to see them and hangout with them in person. Maybe she is like that and simply doesn't like to talk on the phone. try asking her and if it really bothers you that much, you guys mught want to have a little talk, face to face, about it.

chicagostyle

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when should i expect a commitment from him? Posted: 12/27/2008 8:00:05 AM
I would say wait until he offically tells you he is ready. Sounds like you two are having fun and moving at a pretty good pace so I think you should just go with it and see how things go in the next few months. But honestly, you sound pretty lucky seeing as you have only been dating for two months and everything so far seems to be going so great for you two. I would say no need to rush but have fun right now. If time passes and you feel he still doesn't want to commit to you or whatever,talk to him about it then. Maybe he is simply having fun too and doesn't necessarly want any pressure.

chicagostyle

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How do you guys deal with a girl who you meet, and like but she is squeemish regarding sex? Posted: 12/27/2008 7:41:33 AM
Sounds like you two aren't compatible sexually and you aren't happy. So, I would say it's time to have a long talk to see where she really stands and decide if you are willing to put up with things as they are now and maybe help her overcome her issues with you and sex and try to work things out or maybe the two of you should think of moving on. Why should you not be happy in any relationship?

chicagostyle

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Titties: real or fake? Posted: 12/27/2008 7:35:52 AM
I prefer real. Size isn't really an issue but have seen some that were fake and looked fake from a mile away. But, if there fake and still look decent than fine with me. In the end, it's whatever makes yo and your partner happy, not the rest of us.

chicagostyle

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Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs? Posted: 12/4/2008 1:24:39 PM
I could deal with not getting them but why should anyone have to deal with not getting something they enjoy in an intimate relationship? Ofcourse I can understand there are something your patner simply won't be into, but other things, you two should try to discuss them. And if you can't talk about sex in that kind of way with your SO, maybe your not really ready to have it with them yet?

chicagostyle

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IM SEX Posted: 11/10/2008 6:53:18 AM
Maybe "he" was a "she"???

chicagostyle

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a guy who only wants oral? Posted: 11/2/2008 7:21:32 PM
Why even put up with it? If you are unhappy and he is only willing to receive oral sex from you but not give you anything in return, why not simply tell him it's not working out and simply move on. Sure he may be a nice guy and all that but if you are not happy, or atleast not happy sexually, is it worth it? In the end, I would say you have a big decision to make. I know what I would do......

chicagostyle

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internet porn. Posted: 10/15/2008 10:41:54 AM
I think most guys tend to look at porn on the internet. It's free and you can find just about whatever you want. As far as what's normal. Who's to say what is and isn't normal? I think how much a guy looks at porn has a lot to do with his sex drive and how much he is getting from his SO if he is with someone. That said, I would think that staying up till the wee hours on your pc to the point where you aren't getting enough sleep and need a nap at work would count as too much internet porn. Have you thought about watching it with him? Do you like porn at all? Is it affecting his time with you?

chicagostyle

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Space- HELP! Posted: 10/5/2008 3:10:40 PM
Hangout with your friends Read Workout Learn to cook a new dish Call an old relative that you haven't spoken to in ages Redecorate your house Or......... What she said What did you do before you met him? He isn't going to be attracted to someone that doesn't have a life, so I am guessing you had one before he met you. Get back to your normal routine. Remember, sometimes when a person breakups with someone and says the reason is because they need "space", it might me true. No one wants to be smothered.

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