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Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Was I right? Posted: 11/19/2009 7:44:22 AM
Well, now you know. Don't make the same mistake in future. If you ignore someone, then they're going to figure you're not interested, or have moved on. It doesn't matter if YOU are alright with long periods of silence. For most people, it's not a good thing. I can handle such things myself, but I know that for most, it's a problem. And I enjoy hearing from that special someone on a regular basis. A day or two... sure, sometimes we get busy. But, if you don't stay in touch, it seems like you don't care. And there's really no excuse for not contacting someone for more than a couple of days. You're never THAT busy that you can't find 5 minutes somewhere in your day.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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is my situation a turn off??? Posted: 11/19/2009 7:39:24 AM
You're in a new place, full of new friends to meet, and new experiences to enjoy. Yeah, it can be a little hard when moving someplace new. Having to leave that which you're familiar with behind. But it's a chance to learn new things, meet new people, and expand what you know of the world. Never a bad thing.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Hitting On Someone Elses BF/GF Posted: 11/18/2009 9:18:01 AM
Hey, if some guy is dumb enough to hit on my lady while I'm there... that's his problem. I've had ladies give other guys a flat out "NO!", a slap to the face, a knee to the treasury, a drink in the face, and various other reactions. Of course, the ones I always enjoyed most... were when she'd give the guy the old o_O look, point me out, and tell the guy something along the lines of "Hello, THIS is my boyfriend, why on earth would I settle for a moron like you?".

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Suggestions on how to make a girl I'm seeing who's sick feel better Posted: 11/18/2009 9:10:36 AM
http://www.giantmicrobes.com/us/products/commoncold.html Buy her one of these, give it to her, and tell her to hit it until her cold gets the message and leaves her alone. Honestly, the best thing is to just show her you care. You know her better than us, so just use what you know about what she likes, what makes her happy, etc... and think of something to show her you're thinking of her, and that you want to see her happy. I don't remember the store, so you'd have to search... but there was this one place that made custom tissues. You could get her a box of those, with them saying various things like "I hope you get well soon", "You're beautiful even when you don't feel it", "I miss your smile", "I hear chicken soup or warm hugs help a fight a cold, I left the soup at home"... that sort of thing. Remember, laughter is the best medicine. ;)

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Relocation???? Posted: 11/18/2009 9:04:30 AM
My advice avoid LDR altogether. I haven't seen any successful LDRs... they usually fail miserably.... I think they can be quite wonderful. As long as both of you are willing to give it your all. I had a wonderful relationship with Mai down in Colorado. Sure, we agreed that in the end, it wouldn't work for us long term... but while it lasted, it was bliss. And we're still friends now that it's over. As for my lady from Vancouver... well, we had a great LDR for 6 months, chatting on the phone, webcam, emails, etc... She moved here to live with me, and we were together for 2 years. It wasn't till the end there that she'd started cheating on me (and apparently, then cheated on the guy she cheated on me with ). But up to that point, things were grand. :p I think the main problem people tend to have with LDR's, is when one or the other isn't really putting in the effort to make it work. When they're always doing things, and never spending time (in whatever way you can) with their partner. A relationship takes work to make successful, and an LDR takes even more. People say they can't be without someone physically for long periods of time. Well, then it's questionable if any relationship is truly right for them. Perhaps sex is all they need or desire. But even over distance, steps can be taken. I've had plenty of naughty webcam evenings with my lady from Vancouver. We would enjoy ourselves, watching the other do the same, and saying what was appropriate for the time to each other (getting a good desktop mic helps). :)

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Relocation???? Posted: 11/18/2009 8:34:39 AM
Well, the whole not cheating thing is a given. And I'd hope the same would go for anyone you meet. :p As for knowing if you'd be willing to move... yes, it's definitely something you should discuss early. You don't want to have things come to a head only to find out that neither of you is willing to make that move to be with the other (or both moving to a new area). I know for myself, that I could move if I truly needed to, assuming I had met the right person. I may have talked big about never wanting to move south and become an American... but I would have happily moved to Colorado for someone special. Basically, you need to make sure you both know where things might lead, and what possibilities are ahead of you. If one of you cannot or will not move, then that should be made clear from the start. As for who should move... well, that's something you both have to work out. There's a lot of things to consider... friends, family, career, etc. It's a big thing to give up all that you know and move out to be with someone else. I've had an ex move out to live here in Mississauga with me, and she was living in Vancouver at the time. She had to leave her family behind. She worked as a lawyer though, so career wise, it wasn't too hard for her to get in with a new firm over here. And I of course did all I could to help her with the transition. Fortunately, her sister lived in London at the time, so she wasn't totally cut off from family. And I was happy to go on a trip with her back west to visit her folks.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Why do guys tell you to dump your boyfriend? Posted: 9/22/2009 9:05:06 AM
Easy answer is cause you're a goddess, and they want you. Duh. :p Of course, I recally telling you to break up with the guy you were seeing when you told me of the misery he was bringing you. Not because I wanted to break you guys up so I could date you... but because you're my friend, and I hate seeing you getting hurt time and again. And yes, whether or not someone hates driving, they should still make the effort to come see you. I hate driving myself, still came down to see you plenty of times. ;)

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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what do u think of this Posted: 8/26/2009 11:47:59 AM
What I'm thinking is... why do you care? He cowardly broke things off through a text message. There could be a billion reasons why he doesn't want to be with you. But fact is, it's over. You could sit there obsessing over it, and scaring off any other guy who might otherwise have been interested in you. Or you can get over it and get on with your life.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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what do guys look for when look for a woman/match...........????????? Posted: 8/4/2009 8:22:41 AM
Definitely the profile. I've contacted many women on here who had no photo posted. While it's nice to put a face to the person you're getting to know... it's WHO she is that matters. A well written profile that gives me an idea of what she's like is best. Especially if she really shows her personality in it. Her sense of humor, her outlook on life, her goals. It's a matter of finding someone who strikes a cord in you. Someone who's personality reaches out to you, and seems like a good match or compliment for your own. Saying exactly what it is... well, that's hard to pin down. Everyone's different. And it's generally a mix of things that makes you decide that the person you're reading about is someone you really want to get to know.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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satisfaction Posted: 7/24/2009 11:57:47 AM
Well, from a woman's point of view (mine at least). I agree with you all, but at the same time, isn't it just great to just have carefree mind blowing sex? Now I'm not saying to go out and just sleep with strangers or anything,. I'm sure you all know what I'm talking about. However, I find it hard to find a partner (who is an actual boyfriend) who can deliver. It's best done when there is no love involved. I think there's a time for both. I mean, I love to take the time to please my lady in every way. To enjoy hours of sensual bliss and lovemaking... pleasing her in every way possible, while she reciprocates. And then there's the times when we can just enjoy good old fashioned, wallbanging, mindblowing, passion driven, lust filled, wake up the neighbours down the street, wild sex. :)

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Would a girl ever admit she was flirting with you if you accused her? Posted: 7/3/2009 8:51:00 AM
Everyone's different. Some might try to hide the fact, either because they're embarassed, or they don't want to admit they're interested if you're not showing interest yourself. I've had various situations where I've approached a woman who was flirting with me... I have responded to them in different ways... usually just trying to make them feel more comfortable, and maybe flirt back a little... or just be nice and clear about my interest... "I get the feeling you've been flirting with me all night, but I've been too boneheaded to notice, so I figured I'd make it easier and just tell you that I think you're stunning beyond words and would love a chance to get to know you." "You know, when flirting with me, "accidentally" brushing your hand against mine is always a good approach." "I noticed you can't seem to keep your eyes off me... would you like me to get into any specific pose? Or are you happy just admiring me as I am?" I find it always helps to make them laugh a little. It makes it easier for them. When they're nervous about getting to know you... it's hard for them to be themselves.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Dominant vs Submissive, for real Posted: 7/3/2009 8:19:14 AM
There's countless interpretations of just what makes a D/s relationship. Every couple will have their own rules and guidelines. Everyone will have their limits, their needs and desires. Every relationship is unique. As stated, yes, a sub DOES have power in the relationship. At any point, they can say no. They can decide that they've hit their limit, and a real Dom will never push them past that. Because that crosses the line between a D/s relationship, and abuse. A slave ALSO have the right to say now. However, in that case, it's usually the end of the relationship at that point. But their Master shouldn't really put them in a position where they would have to end things. Any brute can be dominating. They can force themselves on someone, and all of that... but that's not a Dominant, that's just a bully. A true Dom is only one because he has earned the respect and trust of a sub. The sub serves him out of her desire to do so. Not because he "forces" her to. She does everything she can to please him, not because she fears being punished, but because she fears disappointing him. There's a huge difference. The finer details of the relationship, varies in each case. Everyone will have their own limits. They'll have their own rules and ideals. They work out just what aspects of the lifestyle work for them... and just how much control is to be given over. As well as when and where. Some are just in the bedroom, some are in everyday home life, and others take it outside the house as well. If anyone wants to discuss it further... I'd be happy to hear from you.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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When's the right time Posted: 6/30/2009 7:44:09 AM
Just be honest and open about it. Ask them if they've ever tried anything kinky... and just what they think of as kinky. Ask them if they'd like to try out a few things. Let them know what you've enjoyed in the past. It's not something you can force on someone. But if you're open about it, they might be willing to experiment.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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What do you consider clingy? Posted: 6/30/2009 7:23:26 AM
Clingy to me is someone who has to always have your time, and gives you no room to breathe. I love spending time with the woman I'm seeing. Be it going out and about, or just being together, doing nothing at all... But, everyone needs some "me time". Some time alone, or with friends. A chance to focus on themselves. We all have our interests or hobbies that we don't share with our partner (not that we don't tell them about it, but that they don't have the same interest or hobby). And it's something that we enjoy doing alone. Time to ourselves, to think and reflect and all of that. Chatting every day is fine, but not necessary for me. It's more important to me to know that she's thinking of me, and that she cares. A special message or call or letter once every few days is more meaningful to me than just some daily call to make sure I'm still there. It's not about mystery, or a chase. It's about letting someone still enjoy their own life and friends, while enjoying their time with you. It's about finding a balance. If you're ALWAYS with someone, it can start to get smothering at times. When I lived with my ex, we were together all day, and shared gaming interests. So we spent a lot of time gaming together. And that was great. We enjoyed watching various shows. We had wild passion 3-5 times a day. We also would enjoy time together while still doing our own thing. So she might be sat there reading or doing cross-stitching on the couch, while I was sat on the floor in front of it playing some random console game. We were both there, close, could talk and enjoy each others' presence, but still be doing our own thing. And that was wonderful. But there were also days when I'd just be out hanging out with friends, as she would do. Every couple is going to be different. Some want more time together than others. I've met couples who are pretty much attached at the hip, while others have been rather independent of each other. It's just a matter of communication... and finding out what the best balance for you and your special someone is.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Cheater, cheater... where'd you meet her... Posted: 6/29/2009 12:09:16 PM
Cheating is cheating. It doesn't have to be able physical contact. And if anything, emotional cheating is even worse. If someone's having a relationship with someone else, be it physical or emotional (just online, on the phone, etc)... it's cheating. Simple as that. If they're doing something that they won't tell you about... something they know would upset you... then they know perfectly well that they're cheating on you. There's always a billion excuses. But none are ever acceptable.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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How about this one.... Posted: 6/24/2009 8:12:46 AM
She high fived you after sex? I'd take that as a good sign. Better than getting a thumbs down, don't you think? Some people are quite... unique... :) Most I've been with enjoy a wonderful snuggle after sex. Laying there in each others arms. A few have had a smoke. A couple of them have wobbly walked over to the liquor cabinet, still weak in the knees. And had a drink, dazed by how good it was. I remember one woman lay there recovering for a while, I got up and brought a couple of glasses of water. And found her on the phone, talking to her sister, giving her the play by play, and telling her how it was the best she'd ever had. Of course, even just having them lay there with you, and tell you that it was wonderful is a great thing to hear. So props to you on a job well done.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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This is a legit question I think Posted: 6/22/2009 8:55:47 AM
I've made plenty of wonderful friends through this site. Incredible women who I respect and admire, and who I love to spend time with, or just talk to, about anything. Some people are open to friendship, while others ONLY want to find a relationship. That's their call. Depends but I believe most men who want to be just friends want to be more, so I'd be a little skeptical that this wasn't just their way of getting their foot in the door so to speak. Sadly, that situation is true far too often. And it makes most women overly cautious of men who are simply offering genuine friendship. There are a lot out there who try to use friendship as the "first step". And while I do believe that any good relationship needs a healthy foundation of friendship... I don't think that it always has to lead to more. Sometimes, it's just about friendship. It just takes time to see someone's true intentions. Get to know them, let the friendship form... and just don't think about anything else. If they show themselves to be unworthy of it... or if they show that they're trying to use it to weedle their way into your pants... then you toss them aside like the trash they are. But for those honest and genuine people... well, they deserve a chance to show you that there are still some wonderful folks out there.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Do ladies like Swiss Army cologne? Posted: 6/17/2009 4:27:55 PM
So if you buy perfume/cologne to suit your own taste, fine. But if you want a scent to smell more attractive to the opposite sex, ask a member of the opposite sex to help you decide which one to buy. It's true. Just because it smells nice to you, doesn't mean it will smell nice to the person you're with. But again, as I said, everyone has their own tastes. So what one woman might think is a seductive scent, another might find repulsive. My last lady got me wearing Drakkar Noir. Which is actually a scent that on its own, she couldn't stand. But, when on me... had a wonderful effect on her. ;) Personally, I don't care much for the scent. But, the lady friends I have have all told me it's quite nice on me. Though it only works as panty-remover on one of them (upon the discovery of that fact, I've been kind enough not to torture her by wearing it around her). :p I figure I can stick with it for now... and at some point, with my next lady... will see what works best for her. I didn't know about Swiss Army... I thought they just made multipurpose knives? Actually, they make a lot of things. I have a Swiss Army watch (guaranteed for life). Have a Swiss Army laptop bag. My friend has a Swiss Army backpack (I swear I can fit most of my bedroom in the thing). :p

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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sexual hinderences... Posted: 6/17/2009 2:13:04 PM
Squeaky bedsprings or a banging headboard... ... they can be quite distracting! They can be a little annoying. Of course, then I will happily move things to another bed, or the couch, or the dining room table, or just lift her up against the wall and enjoy her that way. There's a solution to any problem. ;)

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Cell Phone Addiction Posted: 6/17/2009 12:59:43 PM
I have a cell phone. And I use it for emergencies. I'll use it to make sure I'm in the right place at the right time. To ask for directions. To verify when my date will arrive, or let her know if I'm stuck in traffic and running late. I DO NOT use it while I'm on the date. I've had my phone ring once in a rare while when I'm out with someone. If I see a friend giving me a ring, then I can just ignore it, and call them later. Cells generally have a call display, and record missed calls. So it's no big deal. It's so annoying to have a date constantly getting calls, and basically spending her time chatting with someone else. Or seeing her sat there texting away all evening.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Bad boys and drama queens Posted: 6/17/2009 12:53:21 PM
tina7578, I love you. Starting a "Why do all men go after the drama queen and not the nice girl?" thread. This is made of win!!! It's true... men and women are both very guilty of making stupid choices. A big part of it being that people bring it on themselves. The "nice guys" and "good girls" who are respectful and kind and boring... letting people walk all over them. Nobody wants to be with someone who won't ever show them a good time. A lot of people go after the "bad boys" and "drama queens" because at the time, given the options, they seem more interesting. They provide some danger and excitment... and often show a lot more confidence... which is something everyone wants in a partner. Unfortunately, they also tend to be the players, cheats, liars, and people who basically turn everything into one huge mess. I don't put up with the drama girls myself. And yes, a lot of them (at the beginning) DO seem a lot more fun to be with than many of the "nice girls" I've met. I've gone out with plenty of very nice women... who are polite and respectful... and will quietly listen to everything I say... and usually never speak up for themselves, never have an opinion, never show any confidence in themselves. And honestly, that's a huge turnoff. If it's a choice between someone quiet and spineless... or fun and crazy, but full of drama... I'll just stay single. I know that I'm a great catch, and I refuse to "settle" for anything less than I deserve. I know I'll find another great catch out there... and I'm quite happy to take the time to do so. I won't settle for Ms Good-enough-for-now in the mean time.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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How can you tell if what they say is real? Posted: 6/17/2009 12:29:31 PM
Well, remember there's plenty of perverts, players, and ***holes out there. Is there a sign up asking for them to treat you like a whore? Well, to some... the fact that you're attractive to them is all it takes. For others... they see you have kids, and figure a single mom is easy prey... Others see you being divorced, and figure you must be vulnerable... Of course, most of the time, it's simply because you're a woman, and it's a chance for them to act like a piece of crap. How do you know if what they say is true? Their actions. Simple as that. Words are plenty... actions tell you the truth. They can say what they want... but it's how they act that will show you their true intent. As soon as they prove themselves to be scum... toss them in the trash where they belong and move on. Simple as that. Because they'll always be out there. You just can't let them get to you. The more you react to what they're doing... the more you will look to them like someone they can take advantage of.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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One for the girls ....... if there was an all male brothel ..... Posted: 6/17/2009 11:58:26 AM
what will be the top female fantasy of all time? The answer to that question is easy... That would be me. Of course, you won't find me in a brothel... but I'm not hard to contact.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Do ladies like Swiss Army cologne? Posted: 6/17/2009 10:35:49 AM
Everyone's different. What one person might love, another could hate. And it also has to do with who it's on. I've been with plenty of ladies, and they've all had different tastes on what smells good. Many have told me how a scent that they LOVED on a previous boyfriend, didn't smell "right" on me. And there have been those who hated the smell of something when just checking it out at the store. But a spritz on me, and I found myself quickly clothesless and being ravaged. So... the best thing to do... is just go with your lady to the men's cologne section of the store... and let her experiment with you. She'll spritz you with this and that, until she finds the one that works for her.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Mistakes most men make in the bedroom Posted: 6/17/2009 10:24:38 AM
Wonderful post widowsdesire. It's far too common to see blame being put on one side or the other. Rarely does it come down to just being the man or woman's fault. Both involved are needed to make things just right. Both have to communicate. Talk about what works for them, what they need and desire. What they can do for each other. Every person you're intimate with is a new experience. You can use things you've learned in the past, but you have to learn what your partner needs. If your "tricks" don't work... learn new ones.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Bj's from girls with pierced tongues.... Posted: 6/17/2009 10:16:12 AM
To quote Hank Hill (from King of the Hill): "You might find this surprising, but I think body piercing is a good thing. It lets you know that someone ain't right just by looking at 'em." For me, it doesn't matter. People can do what they want with their own bodies. I just like that quote. :p Anyway... as for the question... it's not the piercing... it's her skill. Some women know how to make it incredible... and use their piercing to heighten the experience. Others, just let it get in the way and make it awkward. Of course, those without a piercing, still have differing talents. Some have blown my mind (no pun intended). While others have just been quite bad at it (especially the biters... OUCH!). As for the vibrating barbell, well, it can be quite amazing... if she knows what she's doing. If she's unskilled, she can very quickly kill the mood. However, like all things, giving amazing head takes practice. Which of course, I'm quite willing to give my lady. ;) So I'm not going to expect miracles from the start. I would hope though, that she would at least make an effort to learn. I've been with women who didn't care to try and learn how to make things good for me. I always try to make our intimate moments as incredible as possible. And if she can't be bothered... well... it doesn't bode well for a relationship.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Insecure? Posted: 6/16/2009 9:04:13 AM
Everyone gets down now and then... or needs someone to cheer them up. But if it's the norm... then that can be a problem. If someone doubts themself, or their self worth... that's insecurity. If they have to keep asking if they're attractive... if they have to keep checking to see if the person they're with is interested in them... that's insecurity. I've had relationships end over that. Either because I couldn't put up with their constant need to be told that they're someone who is special, beautiful, smart, or whatever. Or, because they sabotage the relationship. I've had a number of girlfriends worry constantly about whether or not they deserve my love. They tell me how I'm "too good to be true". I treat them wonderfully, I give them love and respect and excitement and passion and romance... and they don't know how to handle it. They're terrified that it's all going to disappear. Or they worry that they're "not worthy" of my affect... that I might leave them for someone "better". Which is stupid of course. If I tell you that I love you, that means that I love you. Period. It's not that I love you "for now" or "until someone better comes along". My heart is yours, as long as you respect it. And if someone's constantly doubting their self worth, or worried that because I'm so wonderful, I could have anyone I want... and convince themselves that I must eventually leave them for another... it's not only horribly insecure of them... but it's insulting. I've had a few relationships end because of "pre-emptive breakups". My lady was so insecure and worried that I couldn't possibly be satisfied with them, that they broke up with me to prevent the heartache of my leaving them. They sabotage the relationship. That's the sort insecurity that will scare men off.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Men over 30 and teenage girls Posted: 6/15/2009 1:24:10 PM
If someone's of legal age... then it's legal... no pedophilia. And when they are at the age of consent... anything they do, is entirely their choice. Lots of people make stupid moves. It happens. It's part of life, and you learn from it. As much as parents hate to admit it... at some point, their kids have to live their own lives and make their own decisions. And deal with the consequences. You can give them advice... but you can't control them. As far as the age difference... well, it depends on those involved. Some young people are a lot more mentally and emotionally mature than others. Some CAN make the right choices at that age. While others just go on impulse and let their lust control them. So say that an older person with someone younger like that (man or woman, it doesn't matter) is just some pervert or pedo is just ignorant. You have to look at the pair of them, look at their choices, why they are together. There's plenty of older people who will love and respect someone younger... not just want some "hot young thing". And plenty of younger people are perfectly able to make a great good and well thought out decisions.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Sex in a long term relationship!!! Posted: 6/15/2009 8:48:37 AM
LOL! I know of people who complain that sex seems like a chore. But that's usually because their partner never does anything special. It's more mechanical and routine. Usually the guy just getting off quickly and then rolling over and going to sleep. :p Making love to your partner should be anything but routine. Every moment should be one of passion. Be creative, be adventurous... and do everything possible to please them in every way (while they do the same for you). And the passion shouldn't only be in the bedroom. In my relationships, the love, desire and passion is always there. Even when just out grocery shopping, my lady always knows how special she is to me. We joke, I make naughty comments, I kiss her, hug her... I do things to make her happy. And she does the same for me. There's countless times when we couldn't wait to get home... and a number when we decided we weren't going to wait. ;) Sex would only be a chore if your partner stopped trying to make it something special.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Long Walks?? Posted: 6/15/2009 8:27:29 AM
A "long walk" will mean something different to everyone. I love long walks... preferably along the beach, or through a beautiful park... enjoying the natural beauty around me... as well as the beauty at my side, while we're having a wonderful conversation. But, walks downtown, just exploring, can be wonderful too. I like them because they're a chance to just enjoy time together... talking... finding out things about each other... Sometimes private (beaches and parks) and sometimes not (when wandering the city or malls). But the important thing, is that I get to spend time with her. That we get to just talk openly and enjoy being together. Sometimes, it might be for half an hour to an hour... other times... well, I've had walks that lasted all evening, and even into the early morning. :) Usually, they're not "hikes" through the hills or anything. Just mostly flat, each to walk along surfaces. :)

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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sex on the first date Posted: 6/12/2009 4:40:39 PM
It's not quite so easy. For one, you can't just generalize all men. Everyone's different. Now, remember that if the two of you are having sex on the first date... then BOTH OF YOU are responsible for that. He's just as much of a whore as you would be. LOL! I find it amazing how people seem to think that things like this are because of one side or the other. It takes two to tango. If you're sleeping with a guy on the first date... then don't expect anything more out of it. There won't be a relationship. Because he wanted sex, as did you. He got it, as did you. He's done and will head off for the next victim, or string you along because the sex was good. But he's not interested in a relationship. He got what he wanted. And most of the time, he's done with you. I don't have to wonder if a woman I sleep with on the first date is "girlfriend material", because I don't sleep with someone on a first date. Simple as that. If I did, then it would be a mute point. She'd have just as much reason to wonder if I'd be "boyfriend material". :p If someone is willing to sleep with you on a first date... you have to wonder... how many other "first dates" are they going on? How many people have they slept with in that week alone? Hell, possibly even in the same day! If they'll sleep with you off the bat, then chances are... you're nothing special. You're another notch on the belt. Just like everyone else. And don't EVER expect that to change. A lot of women seem to convince themselves that "this time it's different". Well, IT'S NOT! You're a quick f*ck just like all the rest. And you'll be treated like crap just like the rest. I take the time to get to know someone. To see if there's a connection there, beyond simple physical attraction. Sure, there's women I've gone out with, and have had incredible desire for. And yes, if the connection is there... I'd love to mess up the bedsheets with them. But see, it's called self control. If they'd sleep with me on the first date... I probably wouldn't have much respect for them... figuring they're doing it with every guy they meet. Of course, at the same time... I'd lose respect for MYSELF. When I make love to a woman... it's because she's someone incredibly special to me. Because she's someone I care deeply for, and want to be with. I could get random one night stands with ease. But those are meaningless. If I just wanted "release"... well, I have the net. :p Love making should be something special. Something intimate and meaningful. And I treat it as such. If you want a real relationship with a guy... then you should too. Otherwise... expect to just be used and tossed aside.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

Next Move? Posted: 6/12/2009 2:23:16 PM
And if MEN could reply instead of women that would be great. By forum rules, you're not allowed to make posts for only one gender to respond to. If there's anyone out there who isn't judgmental, and willing to comment, that would be refreshing. So, basically everyone who's being sensible and pointing out that you ARE basically acting like a slut, by definition... and pointing out that it's stupid to expect anyone who you sleep with on a first meet to actually think of you as anything else... they're all wrong right? You just wanted to come here and be told how it's not your fault. How he's a creep. How we feel soooo sorry for you. Yeah... tough... life's not like that. You make a stupid decision, you have to deal with it. We're not here to coddle you. Welcome to being an adult. If you really got to know someone before having sex with them... you would have a good chance at a relationship, if you're compatible. If you really make sure you have a connection... a REAL connection, not just some lustful desire... then things can be wonderful. If you just meet up with someone cause you're hot for them... and jump in the sack... that's all they're going to see you as good for. You meet up for sex... you'll get used... and then tossed aside. That's how it works. Next time, take the time to get to know the man. Spend time with him. Date him. And keep your legs closed until you feel that he's someone special. Otherwise... well, you're just some f*cktoy they'll have some fun with and throw in the trash. After all, if you act like trash... you'll get treated like it.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

introvert Posted: 6/12/2009 1:36:39 PM
Well, never been a fan of someone who won't let me get a word in edgeways... But, the "shy quiet types" can be wonderful. Some people might take your quiet nature to be a sign that you're not interested. Thinking that if you're not saying much, you must not want to know about them. You just have to show them otherwise. You don't have to be "chatty". But you can just let them know that you're interested, and that you're enjoying your time with them. I wouldn't try to force you to talk. If you're quiet, you're quiet. But I would hope to have some sign of interest on your part. It can be a silent one, a touch, a hug, something to let me know how you feel.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

Msg: 5 (view)

Women.......Uggghhh Posted: 6/12/2009 12:31:35 PM
Oh, I've been used. It happens to all of us. Hell, I've been through some horrific moments. But that's life. You deal with it. There were times when I can clearly look back and see the signs I should have spotted... but were blind to for whatever reason. And there's those I look back on... and still couldn't believe what an amazing actress she was. :p I don't sleep with people right from the start. I believe in making sure that the connection, that the feelings... are genuine. To be "in love" before making love. The thing, people have to own up to their own mistakes. When you screw up, learn from it... and try not to let it happen again. When I see those people complaining about how they slept with someone on the first date, and then got tossed aside... it's just shameful. How stupid must someone be to think that getting together with someone for sex is somehow magically going to make a relationship form?

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Next Move? Posted: 6/12/2009 12:10:18 PM
You let him into your pants. What else do you expect? You started talking with the guy to cyber... and ended up knocking boots. He's had his fun. You were easy prey. He's not ignoring you... because he wants to keep the possibility of using you again sometime when his other f*cktoys get wise to what he's up to. If you want to get nailed and ditched again... and have no self respect, by all means, keep hopelessly chasing after him expecting a guy who you hooked up with for sex to actually give a crap about you. It could happen... highly unlikely... but, stranger things have happened. :p Personally, I don't think you should expect anything out of this. You can let him use you for sex some more at some point. But, it seems quite obvious that you can't keep your emotions in check. So that might not be a wise choice.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

Would you be freaked, or cool? Posted: 6/12/2009 10:00:43 AM
She's already been nice and said hi. It might not be anything more than simple politeness. But there's no harm in just trying to strike up a conversation. If she's interested, that's great. If not, then you just wish her a good day and carry on. At least that way you'll know. I've been in that situation. Remember jogging along the paths near my house. Seeing a lady every day, always going the opposite way. She was always smiling and waved at me. One day, as we were crossing each other... I just started jogging backwards, and struck up a conversation. I couldn't see where I was going, and ended up misstepping, and fell over. Took a nice tumble down a short slope. She came running up, making sure I was okay and all. Very concerned. I just laughed, and told her "In case you haven't noticed, I've fallen head over heels for you. Would you like to join me for dinner?". She laughed with me, and gave me her number. There's never any harm in trying. It's better than not knowing. And who knows... maybe things will work out. :)

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

Msg: 2 (view)

Fickle Posted: 6/12/2009 9:43:21 AM
Well... are you happy being "good enough for now"? How long until they find someone "better" and take off again? They showed their colors. All that matters now... is if you have any self respect. :p

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

Msg: 5 (view)

Relationships a Distraction? Posted: 6/12/2009 9:32:44 AM
Our purpose in life is to continue and improve the species. To procreate and pass on good genes, and provide a good environment for our offspring. To teach them well and prepare them for life so they can do the same. We are animals after all. Now, as for personal goals... that's another matter. Be it a successful career, advancing science, writing a best seller, leaving words of wisdom that will last through the ages... that's up to the individual. Everyone has something they seek. Some have grand plans... others just want to live a simple life with someone special. Are relationships a distraction? Not at all. They're essential for continuing the species. Of course, while we could just "mate" with someone healthy who will help make good children... we as humans (usually) seek more than that. We want someone who truly captures our heart and soul. Someone who makes every moment something spectacular. Someone who will support us while we're down, and lean on us when they're in need. Someone who will help us learn and grow and be better people. I think that relationships bring out the best in me. I'm a gentleman and romantic. I'm also very skilled at pleasures of the flesh. And always keep my lady satisfied, in every way. I do all that I can to make her happy, and enjoy it as she does the same.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

Msg: 7 (view)

legally blind with question Posted: 6/12/2009 8:08:58 AM
Being blind isn't that much of a handicap. Yeah, so that was bad. LOL! Ahem My best friend's blind. And he met his fiance on PoF. Okay, admittedly she's his ex now (sorry Mike) but, hey... they were together a good long time. His being blind (he has partial light perception, but that's it, so he has less sight than you) didn't slow him down. I think making a comment about your sight wouldn't hurt being in your profile. Just make sure that it's not the focus. Because many people with some form of disability, will drone on about it, or basically make a profile that apologizes for them being who they are. Which is nonsense. Your profile should reflect yourself. And if you're happy with your life, and enjoy who you are... then that should be evident in your profile. If you make one that sounds like you're feeling sorry for yourself, or that you're "less than whole" because of your condition, then women will not want to waste any time with you. There's always going to be those who are ignorant, or simply judgemental against anyone with any form of disability. But then, you wouldn't want to waste your time with someone like that anyway. Someone worth your while, will want to know you for who you are, and aren't ever goinig to think about being stuck as your taxi. Best of luck to you.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

Do you think this is normal? Posted: 6/12/2009 7:32:19 AM
Could be that they've just taken a liking to you, and what they read in your profile. It happens. <div class="quote">though I doubt they'd contact someone twice THEIR age I've contacted women as young as 18... and I've contacted women in their 60's. Age is just a number. If I like what's in their profile, and the person they show themselves to be, then I want to get to know them better. If there's the possibility of a relationship, that's wonderful. If not, at least I might have another friend I can respect and admire. What's wrong with that? If you're really uncomfortable with dating someone older, then you can make that clear to them. But I don't think you should just shrug off anyone older than you as some "dirty old man" who's just chasing an 18 year old girl for a fling. I've had some wonderful relationships with women much younger and much older than myself. Everyone's unique. And I'm not going to judge someone by the number of candles on their cake. ;) EDIT: All of that having been said, I dont see how an 18 year old woman could possibly offer a man over thirty a realtionship of any substance, short of physically substantial. I am not saying that young woman are somehow undesirable, just that at 18 years old, you still have alot to learn about relationships, and how the world works so to speak. Typically, (although not alwyays, as with any generalization) a person, be it a man or a woman, that is 30+ is going to be on an entirely different maturity level than an 18 year old. Yes and no. As said, everyone's different. I've met some 18 year old women who were far more mature and capable of a relationship than women I've known in their 40's and 50's. People mature at different speeds... and a lot has to do with their background, their environment, and their experiences.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Watching porn and having a girlfriend? Posted: 6/12/2009 7:19:40 AM
I think it depends on why he's watching it. If it's just once in a while for "inspiration" so he can jerk off... well, that's just normal. If he's doing it because they're not being intimate as often as he'd like, and he's using that to satiate himself... well, that's something they should discuss. If he's feeling sexually ignored by her... same deal. There are a few who simply become addicted to it... and that can be a problem. Personally, I'd much rather have the real thing. ;) I've enjoyed a little once in a while. And it's been quite wonderful when I've had girlfriends who would enjoy it with me. Made for some quite interesting nights. ;) Watching porn isn't a crime. And if your girlfriend's all bent out of shape because of the occaisional viewing... that's something they need to work out. If she's feeling left out... does that mean that he's doing it more than he's being with her? I think there's more to the issue than just his watching porn now and then. EDIT: Well, if it's a constant thing, and he's ignoring her to spend time enjoying porn... yes, I can see that being a big problem. If my lady's with me, she's my priority. If he can't pull himself away long enough, then he might need help. It can be an addiction, just like anything else. And some people need outside help to overcome it.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

Would you ever consider being in a relationship with someone who is into BDSM? Posted: 6/11/2009 12:48:32 PM
I don't think I could bring myself to inflict pain on a woman It's not about pain. Please don't fall into the same stereotypical ideas of what BDSM is about. There's plenty of sites out there where you can do some good research, and really learn what it's about. As for dating someone in the lifestyle... well, that's tricky. For most in the lifestyle, someone who's vanilla just doesn't cut it for them. They either need someone to serve, or seek someone who will serve them. They have needs that many vanilla people can't understand. Sometimes they will try to teach others what it is that drives them. But it's not always something that someone can learn. I know many subs who have tried to help teach their vanilla partner to dominate them. But, it's something that has to come from the heart. It's not just something that's easily picked up. As for the pain... it's not about inflicting pain... it's about inflicting pleasure. EDIT: I'm not that meek or controling. Again, a HUGE misconception. Trust me my friend, most submissive people I have known, have been ANYTHING but meek. Submission is not about being "weak". It's a choice. It's a comfort. It's something they desire deep inside. They don't serve someone because they've been forced to, they serve because they WANT to. The Dom has to be worthy of their respect and submission.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

Msg: 39 (view)

Random compliments not a good thing? Posted: 6/11/2009 8:42:49 AM
I think it's a sad sign of the times. Everyone seems to be so "on guard" at all times. I've seen many people react downright rudely to others for no reason. Even when the person was being kind. I have no problems giving someone a compliment. I've given them out to people at supermarkets, at clubs, gas stations, restaurants, etc... Usually I get a blush and a thank you. From time to time, it will lead to a conversation. They'll thank me, and start talking about... whatever... Once in a while, I do see those who give me an evil look, or cuss me out as if I just called them a whore or something. :p I've gotten random compliments myself. Most commonly I'll find a woman gazing into my eyes, and compliment me on them. I will thank her, kiss her hand, and usually compliment her back (I usually don't have any trouble finding SOMETHING to compliment someone on). ;) Sometimes, sure, I can see that someone's complimenting me as a pickup. There's a noticable difference (at least for me) when someone is giving a heartfelt compliment, and when they're just schmoozing. :p I still take it kindly and thank them. There's nothing wrong with someone thinking you're attractive enough to come on to. There's no cause to treat them like they're a rapist or something.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

chatting Posted: 6/11/2009 8:07:20 AM
They want to take the time to get to know you. Simple as that. The longer you spend talking to someone, the more you learn about them. And in some cases, the more chances to have to verify information. I've had women chat with me for a time, and once in a while, will re-ask certain things... just to see if I respond the same way twice. Because some people will just make up tales as they go, to try and win someone over. And if a week or two down the line, they're asked the same thing... sometimes, the liars are found out simply because their stories suddenly change. There's not really much problem with that. If they're cautious, it's understandable. But it can be frustrating at times. If you're really into who they are, and are hoping to meet them... being constantly put on hold can be trying. But you have to respect their comfort level. At the same time... if their insecurities and fears are preventing them from leaving the safety of keeping another person behind a monitor... then you have to wonder if they have the self-confidence to actually be in a relationship. I've had relationships end because of the insecurities of the one I was with. They were terrified that I would leave them for someone "better". That I seemed "too good to be true". They couldn't believe that I could truly love them and want to be with them. And their own insecurities got in the way of the relationship. I need someone who is sure of herself. And there's a difference between being "safe", and being afraid.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

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Another willy thread Posted: 6/10/2009 1:24:53 PM
If you "don't mind" other men seeing you... then it's a nice sign that you're not homophobic. You if "want" other men to see... well, that's another matter. I can understand what you're saying though. It's like being at the gym or the pool. When you're in the showers, and there's other men around... most men could care less. It's just, random guys. But the thought of a woman seeing them makes them nervous. It makes them more self concious. Myself, I could care less. I've been in co-ed showers, nude beaches and other such places. People are people. Just because a woman sees me naked, doesn't mean it's something sexual. Not to say that I go out streaking... but, in the shower... it's just a shower...

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

what does the mystery of goodbye for?? Posted: 6/10/2009 11:00:11 AM
You are aware that it's against forum rules to make topics for only one gender or the other, right? Anyone's free to reply. As for your problem... you want an honest and brutal answer? You love drama, and aren't bright enough to get out when you should. You went out, and he disappeared when you wouldn't sleep with him. Right then and there it should be OVER. Finished. You never contact him again, and block him if he tries to contact you. But no, you let him back in... because you wanted to enjoy your little soap opera infatuation (there definitely is NO love there, on either side). And you don't respect yourself enough to kick some jackass who won't treat you right to the curb. He kept coming back because he knew you were dumb enough to listen. If you had any self respect, you'd never put up with his shit again. But, he saw how much control he had over you. He'll just keep coming back trying to f*ck you. It's a game to him, you're just a challenge for him to overcome. Once he bags you, he's just going to move on to the next victim. Why did he send you that parting shot? Because he knew it would get to you. He knows you are too hung up on the drama to just ignore it. Otherwise you would have been ignoring him from day one. But every time he gets in touch with you, he gets a reaction. And I'm sure he's loving how you're humiliating yourself here. Making a topic that shows you as pathetically trying to cling to a player who's laughing at you and how sad this who situation is. You need to forget about this idiot. Completely. You need to focus on yourself, and realize that nobody deserves to be treated the way you have. EDIT: Hooray! He's weakening your defenses. Good for him. I wonder if you'll cry if he manages to sleep with you without becoming your boyfriend. Yup. He's having this much impact... and will slowly chip away until he gets in your pants. Or he gets bored and finds someone else to torture. :)

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

Msg: 12 (view)

women only please Posted: 6/9/2009 9:02:29 AM
Well, I've dated single moms who had 3-4 kids. And basically little to no time for themselves. And we never planned things... when a moment came up that we could enjoy some passionate time alone... we took it. Sometimes they'd get a sitter, and we'd have a wonderful day with each other. Doing... whatever... sometimes wild sex... sometimes just laying together cuddling on the couch, enjoying the peace and quiet. Never let it be routine. The few times I've been with women who tried to "schedule" sex... it ended up feeling... artificial. Besides, if it's something special, what's wrong with planning a "special night"? I like spontaneity too, but sometimes you need more than an hour for what you might have planned. Once in a while, yes, a nice romantic (or sensual) evening can be planned. And that's not a problem. It's when that's all it ever is. Your "weekly sex". At that point... the passion dies, and it just becomes mechanical.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

women only please Posted: 6/9/2009 7:29:55 AM
women only please You are aware that by forum rules, you're not allowed to make topics for one gender or the other only, right? will you and him have sexual relations BEFORE you go out for the evening or when you RETURN Making love to your partner should never be "routine". When things are just "planned" they lose their magic. It happens when you feel that flash of desire for each other. When a simple touch ignites that fire in you, and you just can't hold back. Passion can happen at any time. When sex is planned... well, it's just sex. And becomes dull. And when it's expected of someone, and not appreciated as an act of passion... it common for people to lose interest. who will initiate the sex: him OR you? Either or. One person doesn't always want to be the one making the first move in a relationship. That makes someone feel... undesired. If you're always the one who has to start things, then you don't exactly feel like your partner has that burning desire for you. I might initiate things... or she might. Usually, we'll look each other in the eye, and both lose ourselves in the passion we have for each other. Which is how it should be.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

Msg: 5 (view)

Girls who scream load in the bedroom !!!! Good or bad!!!! Posted: 6/9/2009 6:57:14 AM
It's always good to know that I'm doing a wonderful job of pleasuring her. And knowing that she's enjoying herself. :) When a woman just lays there silently... well, it doesn't exactly inspire greatness.

Adam Taylor

Joined: 5/11/2006

Msg: 4 (view)

is chivalry dead? Posted: 6/5/2009 12:04:11 PM
Chivalry isn't dead. It's more than just opening doors for a lady, or buying her flowers for no reason other than to show her you care, or helping her into her seat... It's about respect. Self respect, and a respect for others. It's about treating someone "right". Showing them that they are special, and deserve such treatment.

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