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joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 78 (view)

Bumper Sticker Could Cost State Worker Her Job Posted: 5/12/2007 4:50:21 PM
I'm a state worker and I agreed with the rules of my being employed by the state. I believe the Hatch Act prevents a state employee from having any promotional material in state offices, but the cars are out of bounds. My friend from Texas had Bush/Cheney on her car and I had Bernie Sanders and we were fine. In this example, we have an extreme reaction to what's going on in the world. I think the bumper sticker is protected by the Constitution and she should not lose her job, however, I have to agree that she is representing her employer and might think about parking elsewhere.

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 890 (view)

New Feature for Women. Posted: 4/28/2007 5:29:27 PM
Everyone is different and may like some of my dislikes. I think this idea is against the spirit of the personals online. I don't write men writing things about me on the internet, and would never do that to them. We all get rejected one time or another; it's part of life's lessons. I simply move on-it was not meant to be.

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

Loosing a child-How do others cope? Posted: 4/14/2007 4:52:44 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss. All of this talk of losing children brings tears to my eyes quickly. I'll share with you that my sister and brother an law lost their daughter at 18 months old to meningitis over 20 year ago. My sister has coped, gotten helped reached out to others. My brother in-law has gone off the deep end and now is not the man he used to be. He's alone and lost in the world, abuses alcohol and has no relationship with his other beautiful now grown daughters. It's a one day at a time thing. I cannot imagine losing my child and having to go on. But we have to honer their lives and go on. Every holiday, every new experience will remind you of what you've lost, but it will get easier as the years pass. If you ever want to talk, please contact me. My heart goes out for you and your little Angel. Linda

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 59 (view)

How do I tell my 7 year old her dad's a jerk? Posted: 4/14/2007 4:39:59 AM
Dear Singlemom, The other parent is never a jerk! Bottom line, we cannot take back what we tell our small children about their parent. As hard as it is to do, we must bite our tongue. Sounds like you've gotten really good at that. For me, I guess I'd take this opportunity to let your daughter know that everyone shows their love in a different way. Some people show it by buying presents and others want to spend time with you. This year at Christmas, my 7 year old, who absolutely loves his big brother of 22 could not wait to see what he would give him for Christmas. I knew that money was tight for big brother so I bought a little something to put big brother's name on. You're right that 7 year old children have a hard time in our society with understanding why someone did not give them a present. So, for me, I took the easy way out and supplied one. We pull off Santa, the Tooth Fairy, the Easter Bunny, so why not a gift from a person who does not know how hurtful the lack of the gift from them. Will I continue to provide this gift in my older son's name? Probably not, but will let him kow that it's been done and he needs to pick up the slack. You might consider something small wrapped from Dad and letting Dad know that this has been done because your daughter cannot understand why Dad is not giving. There is this huge problem though... Do we really want to give our children the message that everyone has to give us a gift if they love us? That's probably another entire forum discussion. Good luck to you on this one. Another single mom....

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

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What kind of drug does your child support check go for? Posted: 4/12/2007 12:36:08 AM
Hmmmm, things are different in VT. How old is your child? Are they clean, fed? Sorry to hear that your reports have not uncovered anything. Unfortunately, sometimes people can skirt the law and be bad parents within the confines of the law. Your child is the one who will suffer until this is either proven or not. Try to stay strong for your child and keep your eyes wide open for any slip ups. I'm sorry, this is really not something I've had to deal with. I wish you and your child the best.

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 56 (view)

Am I alone here? Posted: 4/12/2007 12:24:53 AM
Babs, I'm with you... I'm thankful the girls don't have access to this forum. Wait, they don't right? I think there's a better way to handle this kind of situation between two or three people- Court of law comes to mind...

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

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X's can be friends and both parents are important! Posted: 4/12/2007 12:13:14 AM
Good for you ladygreen. It takes a lot of maturity to pull off living in the same house. I've established a good relationship with my ex and it's really what's best for all concerned, but living together... nope! Bottom line, we are teaching our children tolerance that has become a rare commodity these days. kudos to those who can make it work on some level.

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

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What kind of drug does your child support check go for? Posted: 4/12/2007 12:07:56 AM
Is it really about the money? Just wondering if you truly think your ex is spending your support checks in this manner, why is your child with her? Is the issue truly about buying drugs and gambling or really about what behaviors your child is being exposed to. My measly support goes towards buying food, clothing, food... I would not tolerate my ex using drugs and taking money away from supporting my child. Maybe the better question is what are you going to do about a parent who has these behaviors?

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 469 (view)

Reporting And deleting Main images Posted: 4/11/2007 11:59:30 PM
My picture was deleted which was a sunset of a New Zealand skyline. I'm so sorry this was offensive to ADMIN. Some days, I just don't feel like having my mug front and center! Now do I want to see random body parts of others? not really, but it certainly says a lot about the profile and what kind of message is being put forward. What was my message? Like sunsets, walks on the beach...

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 329 (view)

How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help? Posted: 4/9/2007 3:05:12 PM
It is sad that we have an entire generation of children missing a parent. We can't help this because as the saying goes, "you an bring a horse to water, but you can't make it drink". I consider myself to be very lucky. I raised my 22 year old by myself with no involvement at all from his Dad. He wanted nothing to do with him, threw a few dollars at us in the beginning, but then went away. Now that I have a 7 year old with my ex, I've had perfect opportunity to decide if being single from the start is better than when they turn 4. Drum roll please.... For me, and my selfish need to be organized and on top of my game, being single from the start was much easier. I had no one interferring with how I raised him. No one second guessed me and no one ever took him for me. We were all alone. For him, this was hard. He has no desire to know his father because he's never really known him. Part of me still wonders could I have done things different to make him a more self-assured young man in today's world. And now, with my 7 year old, I have full legal and physical custody and get support payments automatically deposited in my bank account and every other weekend from Thursday to Monday absolutely free. I'm a wee bit older, so I look at everything different. I've worked really hard to have a communicative and friendly divorce and I have achieved this. We don't fight and are able to both be involved in the raising of my 7 year old. Is it better than being single from the start? Yes. I have support and back up if I ever just need a break. I'm a much happier mommy. You learn to be strong in whatever situation we are forced in- us truly single parents, have strength that our kids count on.

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 143 (view)

Do you ever just get tired of dating? Posted: 4/7/2007 4:51:34 AM
Dusty, You've blocked women of age 49! You may be letting someone slip away... When we put limits on our drop dead "have too's" we limit our choices...

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 142 (view)

Do you ever just get tired of dating? Posted: 4/7/2007 4:47:29 AM
After being married most of my life - I tried the dating “stuff” and ran right into the - “sex is just part of a date” crap. Three gals of that thinking right in a row - I just stopped. I was just another pecker in a sea of peckers ........ no thanks. Thank you for the laugh. From the female prospective, it's the same. It seems to me that you have one small finite amount of time to meet all of the qualifications of the person you're dating or they are on to someone new. I'm sick and tired of the shallow people in the world. I know, rose colored glasses, but I can live with myself much better. I'll hold out for the real deal.

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

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Refusing to Date Childless Women Posted: 4/7/2007 4:39:51 AM
Possibly your filter is clogged? Some women may not want to have children for the same reasons you don't. It would be a shame to pass one by because of this prejudgement you are making. "does not want kids" in your profile will get rid of the women who are looking for kids. You can explain in your bio that you like kids, but just see no future in bringing more into this crazy world. And if someone rings all your bells, adoption is a very worthy thing to do. Good luck...

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 317 (view)

How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help? Posted: 4/7/2007 4:34:36 AM
You rock! All of you parents who have put aside everything to be a parent are the best and will receive your rewards from here on out. Anyone can be a parent, but only those who look at those little beings as the most important job they've every had, are the true parents. Kudos to you Kissxoxo84 and everyone else who stuggles day to day to make a happy and secure life for your kids!

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 279 (view)

How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help? Posted: 3/22/2007 4:47:16 PM
I agree with your policy on never bashing the other parent. Kids are smart and can form their own opinions. You are showing them what it means to be a true and kind human being.

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 278 (view)

How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help? Posted: 3/22/2007 4:45:59 PM
ok, I hope you are sitting down. I have a 22 year old and a 7 year old. My 22 year old's dad was never a part of our life and now my 7 year old's dad is part of his life. I have to say that it was easier when I did not have to make decisions with anyone, but now, it's so nice to have someone else there who loves this little man as much as I do and takes him a fair amount of time. There are pros and cons to having the other parent involved. It's a hard job being a single parent all alone. I consider myself to be very lucky now. I don't know many people who are all alone with their children, but maybe in your case, it's a good thing. I hope they have some positive female role models in their lives as well as you. Keep up the good work-it's worth it in the end.

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 12 (view)

talking to the ex Posted: 3/22/2007 4:36:22 PM
OMG, were we married to the same man? My ex could sell a refrigerator to an eskimo, but when it came to personal relationships, nothing doing. It was not until his older daughter, from a previous marriage, told him on her 21st birthday, via letter, that she hoped she could know him someday and that there relationship was lacking. He called me crying that he had really been impacted by that. Since then he's come a long way in being able to communicate with the kids. He's not perfect, but an older child pointing out your flaws when you are 50 years old, is bad. As to your 14 year old twins- this man is obviously onto his new life with his new relationship and these children you have are back burner items to him. Personally, I would have a conversation with him and ask him if he wants a relationship with your children. It's almost over for him and in a year or so, they are not going to want to be around him if he makes them cry now. I feel like our kids need to be protected from everyone and sometimes that includes their natural parent. We are getting them ready for adulthood and he's not helping matters at all. Children need to feel accepted and loved by their parents. The worst thing we can do is to make them feel like there is something wrong with them when they are growing up. It will follow them forever. Hang tough and keep those two children close to you. They are forming their own opinions about who is there for them. I'm glad you are.

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 20 (view)

helpless with a side of lonely.. Posted: 11/25/2006 3:03:58 PM
Hi Stacy, You've really touched a point that makes everyone reflect on their lives. I concur with most of the replies that you are a beautiful young woman and have your entire life ahead of you. I cannot tell you that I know how you feel, because I don't. I can only say that I've had my share of "bad" and have taken a long time to feel like I'm a worthy person. Hard times are there because someone thinks we are capable of the challenge. I think learning this for me was instrumental in my feeling good about my place in the world. You are so young, have so many opportunites. Please don't contimplate suicide. From the looks of the pictures you have posted, you are important to many people. I wish for you the strength to look for positive in life and create a place for you. Seek your happiness in places you may not have thought of. I would like to offer you my hand in friendship and to be here for you. These are not just words, but from my heart. Lynn

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 231 (view)

Do you AGREE or DISAGREE????? Posted: 11/21/2006 3:26:53 AM
I think the point is missed in this post. When you love a child, 10 minutes away is too far. Of course a real parent will drive to see their child, but the bigger issue here is does the new relationship across the border have legs to stand on and will be lasting? My ex dates a woman in Canada and drives to see her, but gets annoyed at driving 12 miles to pick up his son. It's really all about how important where you are going and going to see in his eyes. This just provides me with reinforcement as to why I divorced him. Sounds like the Dad in this story really cares about being with his child. I've not read every post in this forum, but wonder if anyone has mentioned that little think called territory in parenting. I'm talking about the territory of being the parent. It's one thing to move your child by distance, but to actually have another man living in what a child sees as his family, can be threatening to a parent. When they are little, you are their parent and what this mom is trying to do in making herself happy is changing the the "parents" in his daily life. That can sting as a parent to know someone else is having that time with your child while you wait for the visitation. I think we need to applaud this Dad for caring enough to speak out. I hope it works out for him as he truly shows his desire to be a parent.

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 173 (view)

Agree! Posted: 11/18/2006 8:11:18 AM
Two people sharing custody should have a written agreement in court regarding their arrangement. Married or not, both parties have legal rights. Dad could get an attorney to try and prevent her from moving. From what you have said, it would seem that mom is thinking of her needs before her child's needs. I know some will say she has a right to a life of her own, but geeeez this young child did not ask to be put on this world and have a mom and dad only for them to fight later on when they could no longer put his needs in front of theirs. I'm in the same situation, but have full legal and physical rights over my child. At times I've thought of moving to other parts of the country, but ultimately, it's the relationship between his father and him that's my main priority. I can put my life on hold for my small child. He is what is important, not my needs to have a relationship badly enough to move him away from everything he knows. This can be so mentally damaging for any child. Finally, we have a huge problem today with children and their parents not being parents. This needs to stop. We need to stop being so self-evolved with our own needs and desires and be adults and take care of our children's physical and emotional needs and it that means putting your life on hold, so be it. One disclaimer to all I've said: If the other parent is abusive and is a horrible influence on the child, all bets are off and the saftey and well being of the child become priority, even if this means putting distance between the parent and child...

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 268 (view)

Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man? Posted: 11/18/2006 7:58:54 AM
Hey Duwadity- Romance is a two way street and when you really feel for the person you're with, it's a natural thing to want to please one another. I do however, love the "look" that you describe until you are noticed. That so melts me...

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

What do people think about women without children? Posted: 9/23/2006 10:31:22 AM
[Just because one can...doesn't mean they should.] There are so many kids out there that need adoption. Women who continue to have children for the welfare check, are lonely women who are filling a need of their own and have been taught that this is ok. Don't judge them, but try to understand what in their lives made them think that this is an acceptable way of life. What's not apparent is sometimes the key to why we do things....

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 34 (view)

What do people think about women without children? Posted: 9/23/2006 10:27:23 AM
Somedays, I'm jealous... Other days, I wonder what it would be like to be childless. I respect women who choose not to or have not had the opportunity to have children. I don't think anything bad about women without children.

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

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Is it enough of an Apology Posted: 9/23/2006 10:24:30 AM
And quite possibly, she scanned the entire room and found that you were the best catch and you were about to leave the party. What will one dance hurt? Then again, are you interested...

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 20 (view)

~Men in birthing rooms~ Posted: 9/23/2006 10:19:53 AM
If a woman is modest before giving birth, she'll not be after the birth. When you love someone and you have created a life together, you both deserve to welcome this baby into the world. I went through 19 hours of birthing my last child who turned out to be 10#. My ex was there the entire time holding my legs and had a bird's eye view. I was considered a high risk pregnant woman so was bedridden the entire time of the labor. I would not have changed the event for the world, but this day, he's never thanked me for what I went through...pushing out a 10 pound baby is not an easy task. Guess that's why he's my ex, but he's a good father to his boy.

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 13 (view)

What are some good movies that my fiance & I can see? Posted: 9/23/2006 10:05:52 AM
"Little Miss Sunshine" Best movie I've seen in a long time. Not one that you can guess what's going to happen. I laughed till I nearly cried. I think you have to have life experience to enjoy this movie. I heard a 10 year old that said he did not get it. As the mother of teens, and a young one, with a less than perfect childhood, I was thrilled to see this movie. I may even see it again.

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 56 (view)

What touches youre heart ? Posted: 9/23/2006 9:57:30 AM
Sorry, hit post twice!

joy2me

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Msg: 55 (view)

What touches youre heart ? Posted: 9/23/2006 9:57:24 AM
Many things really.. Life is full of heartfelt moments, but sometimes we miss them. Human kindness, the smile you have the ability to bring to someones face, the wilted flowers my 6 year old brings me. The time my two older kids (when they were 6&7) walked down to their grade school and picked me a bunch of flowers that had been planted. This was mothers day and they had asked me for paper and sissors. When they handed them to me, I knew exactly where they got them. It was hard to tell them picking the schools flowers was wrong, but the thought was so heartfelt.

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 16 (view)

what is the world coming to? Posted: 9/23/2006 9:46:09 AM
[I think everyone who reads this thread should try to give something nice to someone each and everyday. even a smile. people seem to have forgoten how to smile. ] We are living in a society which shows little respect for one another. We've gotten into this "all about me" lifestyle. Say what you want about Bill Clinton, but he tried to promote a society that promoted being a citizen, part of a community and caring for one another. Hillary's words of "It takes a village" were right on. Having children, I've seen how adults treat teens, especially teen boys. We seem to stereotype them as being no good, lazy, worthless nothings" and then we wonder why some seem to have no connection to anyone and turn to violence out of pain that they have endured through lack of connections. I'm not excusing the violence of these children, but as a society we need to take a hard look at how our young people are being raised, schooled and made part of their community. People this is my career passion. I hope to promote caring for our communities and helping one another. I know this seems "pollyannish", but it's so simple and so effective. Studies show that kids who tend to be violent have no family life, no connection to any adult, and feel hopeless in the world. "people have forgotten how to smile" and for a reason. Stop and say hi to some kid today- As him/her how they are? Show them that it's not us against them and we do trust them with the future. This is my rant...

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

How close were you? Posted: 9/23/2006 8:45:10 AM
Doc, You have a clear example supporting the need to disgard "no chemestry" as the reason we don't get to know people. You give me hope! Joy

joy2me

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Msg: 54 (view)

Touchy subject...single fathers in family court!!! Posted: 9/22/2006 9:19:50 PM
I agree, the kids are our future and if we don't try to make our divorce more about the kids, our society will continue to decline and be controlled by the government and the legal system. There are so many man out there who are caring and loving fathers and sometimes are better parents than the woman. It took me leaving my marriage and relationship of 15 years to get my ex to understand the importance of a small child and what they truly need from their family and parents. Today, he has come full circle and is doing very well as my child's dad. They have a better relationship and we coparent together. I'm not saying every relationship can end and have a positive outcome, but for cryin out loud, put your needs aside and the kids first. As parents, we are forming the people who will be in charge when we are single. Do we really want to piss them off???

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

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How close were you? Posted: 9/19/2006 5:08:17 PM
I thought I was weird because I cried over a lost love. I think these are hard lessons in life that we go through and at some point, we will see the reason for it.

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 50 (view)

Touchy subject...single fathers in family court!!! Posted: 9/17/2006 6:38:15 PM
Unconditional, I'm sorry family court gave you a hard time and sterotyped you with dead beat dads. I've seen a lot more Dad's getting custody because Dad's can do just as good a job. My ex did not even challenge me when I said I was going for full custody. It's what is recommended in the states for legal, physical purposes. He has become a good Dad since we separated, but does not want his son full time. My hope is that judges and courts will look for the best parent and not automatically side with the mother. You know that there is a stigma for women who let their husbands have the children. They are apt to be judged by other women as abandoning her children. I wonder how this weighs in to the entire problem. Good luck to you.

joy2me

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She's baaaaaaaack. Posted: 9/17/2006 6:28:04 PM
Thanks for giving her a second chance at being your daughter. Our kids make mistakes. How many of us would dread being 16 today. I would. One day at a time my friend. Stick to your guns and make sure she knows that you mean business. She really is looking for boundries and knowing that you care enough to give them to her. Kudos to you!

joy2me

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Msg: 39 (view)

neglectful parent? Posted: 9/17/2006 6:24:50 PM
The only think I wonder Sassy, is where is she now and are there folks still keeping an eye on her. My heart goes out to these kids who have to witness this crap. It makes me very sad that parents can't take care of their kids. I'll take them all!!!!!

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 43 (view)

How do you involve your kids in your dating? Posted: 9/17/2006 6:17:45 PM
Thanks Sassysiamese! We only get one chance to raise our kids....

joy2me

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Msg: 36 (view)

neglectful parent? Posted: 9/17/2006 8:12:34 AM
Yes we have good samaritan laws here as well. There are little situations where this law does not apply.

joy2me

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Msg: 35 (view)

neglectful parent? Posted: 9/17/2006 8:09:51 AM
Yes, this does appear to be abuse and I'm pretty sure the fire dept will report it to social services. The other day I was picking my child up from daycare and I notice across the street a woman who had just picked up her 18 month old child. I look across the street and the little girl is on top of the hood crawling around and the mom is no where too be seen. I yell across the street and she pops her head up and says I'm here. I yell that leavin gher child on top of the car like this is really dangerous. She waves and takes the kid down. Sorry, can you say "not thinking"? We are all responsible for the saftey of children. I think the stories in the media show us that there are some less than desirable individuals parenting and they don't have the skills needed to care for children. Why is it we get a manual for our VCR/DVD but nothing for raising children. It takes a village people!!!!

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 40 (view)

How do you involve your kids in your dating? Posted: 9/17/2006 8:00:01 AM
I totally agree with you. It's hard for our kids to go from mom and dad to mom and dad and their new relationships. I've been single for two years now and I'm still very careful about my 6 year old and what he knows. Dad on the other hand is on his third girlfriend and they have all met my son. My ex only has his son every other weekend so I think that he could wait to have to be with someone, but that's not the case. He needs to pull a woman into his life to help with the child as soon as possible. He cannot be alone. Me, I'm destined to only introduce him to a man once I know it's the right time. Call me crazy, but I think my job is to protect my child and keeping him from the dating world is how I do that for now.

joy2me

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Help, ex feeding my babies garbage and need advice Posted: 9/17/2006 7:54:13 AM
Hello, I think if you keep an open discussion with your children about the topic of eating well for good health and providing them with good choices, they will have this in their mind as the right thing to do. Kids learn by example and sounds like your example is one of health and his is the easy way out of processed/fast food. Hold you your position. Keep them active and talking to you and hope that this becomes their way of thinking as well. Good luck.

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 14 (view)

Suggestions on how to keep a 3 yr old busy! Posted: 9/17/2006 7:49:20 AM
How about if he helps you with his sister? You can give him little chores that make him feel part of taking care of her. Maybe he needs a playgroup with kids his own age? There are some great websites with ideas. Put small children and activities or homemade playdough in as a search engine... There are also some great websites for his age group. Try Disney and Nick jr.

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 13 (view)

Suggestions on how to keep a 3 yr old busy! Posted: 9/17/2006 7:44:49 AM
Pudding painting.. homemade clay... library-kids section and playing outside. Keep him moving so he will settle into crafts when you want some quiet time. 3 year olds love anything they can touch, play with. If he's advanced, get him some big beads to string or cheerios. Get an appliance box and make him a door in it. He will be occupied for hours. Make a fort with sheets and blankets in his room. Think outside of the box when it comes to what he can do. Have fun!

joy2me

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Msg: 199 (view)

One third of older women date younger men Posted: 9/17/2006 7:37:37 AM
Kd2003, I'm not so sure I buy that. Age is a number and what does it matter if someone is older or younger. Attraction is attraction. I've dated both younger and older men and can actually say that the only difference is the number. I'm a young 48, but think like a much older woman at times.

joy2me

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Msg: 76 (view)

Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships? Posted: 9/17/2006 7:24:34 AM
I think age does bring us peace in our decisions and choices. I'm with you- why settle for someone who kind of meets your ideas. I'll hold out for the love of my life- thank you. Being alone is very healthy.

joy2me

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Msg: 8 (view)

sperm bank Posted: 9/16/2006 5:55:55 AM
There are too many children out there who need a parent already. Adoption is easier...and more rewarding.

joy2me

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Msg: 139 (view)

Ladies, your thought on men in Speedos Posted: 9/16/2006 5:54:36 AM
yeah, that's what I'm taking about!

joy2me

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Msg: 138 (view)

Ladies, your thought on men in Speedos Posted: 9/16/2006 5:53:55 AM
I find them very unattractive. There is something about a man that attracts me and it's not the speedo type. Speedo's in my opinion, represent show off, see what I got, behavior.

joy2me

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Msg: 50 (view)

juggle Posted: 9/16/2006 5:44:44 AM
Juggle, Not to mention that the value that you place on education when you choose to go instead of have to go. I love it and when I don't feel like taking a class, I take a break. Defer to death is my creed. Lynn

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 49 (view)

Going back to school? Posted: 9/16/2006 5:41:07 AM
The first time I went back to school, was ten years after high school. It took me some time, but I eventually finished my bachelor's degree. Now I'm slowly working on my graduate degree. I have a six year old, a very demanding job and take one class at a time. It's what makes me happy. I'll admit it gets crazy, but I enjoy the talking in the class from people all over the place. I'm in an online program. The discussions are very stimulating and are another road for a single mom to get adult interaction without having to leave home. If you want to go to school go, but if you feel like you should go, maybe you should write a list of pros and cons to help you decide. Good Luck.

joy2me

Joined: 5/13/2006

Msg: 95 (view)

Women and makeup Posted: 9/16/2006 5:35:27 AM
I grew up watching three older sister apply tons of make-up before school. I decided that I would never reach that level. I feel dirty if I use makeup. It's very un-natural and bad for my skin. Sometimes I might wear shadow, mascara and clear lip gloss, but that's a rare moment. Perfume---YUKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK I always wonder why males and females needed to mask themselves with so much smell. I for one would love the world to ban perfume in places that are closed in- much the same as smokers are banned. However, there are people who feel that make-up and perfume or aftershave is what makes them who they are. I'll accept that if others will accept that I will never fall prey to heavy make-up. Take me as I am!

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