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Dany1180

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The Dumbest Thing You've Ever Done For Love... Posted: 9/2/2007 8:47:54 AM
Nah. Nothing that dramatic. We just talked a bit and it was clear there was no going back.

Dany1180

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I still love you but I am not in love with you..... Posted: 8/30/2007 9:25:03 PM
Well... I've used this line on 2 occasions and it makes perfect sense. All it says is that the romance and passion that kept the relationship strong has fizzled and died (or that you never had them to begin with) but that you still care for them. To OP: No, it's not a line meant to keep you 'attached'. You're free to do as you like. Although I sympathize with you, you're contradicting yourself when, on the one hand, you say he means to keep you attached but, on the other hand, you complain that he acts cold with you.

Dany1180

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Suppose you were stuck single forever... Posted: 8/30/2007 9:08:58 PM
I suppose I'd cope with lots of reading and other escapist fare... And if I still couldn't cope, there's always castration.

Dany1180

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The Dumbest Thing You've Ever Done For Love... Posted: 8/30/2007 8:51:26 PM
Well I wouldn't call it stupid... A very old story from many years ago... After a break-up, she had gone to this club so I went after her with the hopes of trying to to make amends. Some cheesy love song with lyrics along the lines of "Don't let her go" playing on the radio reassuring me I'm doing the right thing. Waited outside in line for about an hour in freezing -20 celcius before I finally got in there. By then I was completely frostbitten. Also, spent $15 bucks on parking, and another $12 to get in, all that just to get confirmation within a matter of minutes that indeed it was over. And so I left that club within 10mn of stepping inside, with a slight disdain for Q92 Radio late night romance songs... Oh wait, that was stupid.

Dany1180

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Is it okay for a woman to hit a man? Posted: 8/30/2007 8:42:41 PM
I love it when I see some males who call themselves mucho and so on, cry with FEAR when they hear a woman has hit a man..... But that same male would not budge when males hit women. To me the COWARD........is probably scared schit being hit by a woman rather than being able to hit her. A real man never hits, his strength and intelligence stops him But a coward hits because he is scared. Hurray for double standards! Judging by your several posts in this thread, your opinion on the subject is quite clear. You're quite the catch I'd say. ;) So how many bruises does your partner have? Oh wait, they're not 'bruises', they're symbols of love...

Dany1180

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Favorite Quotes Posted: 4/27/2007 5:41:04 PM
"Just because your tattoo has Chinese characters in it doesn't make you spiritual. It's right above the crack of your ass. And it translates to "beef with broccoli." The last time you did anything spiritual, you were praying to God you weren't pregnant. You're not spiritual. You're just high." Bill Maher

Dany1180

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shaving your partner Posted: 4/16/2007 10:11:27 PM
Ah yes, I saw yesterday's Simpsons episode too!

Dany1180

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Breaking up is hard to do? Posted: 4/9/2007 2:29:23 PM
Honesty is indeed the best policy. Surprisingly, the self-guilt of breaking up with them and hurting them is far less than the guilt of lying and deceiving them (at least for me). I empathize and feel bad for hurting them, but my conscience is clear and that's what's most important for me.

Dany1180

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Good Places to eat, and good places to take a date Posted: 4/9/2007 2:17:40 PM
I went to "Le Parchemin" once. The girl I was seeing a while ago took me there on our 3rd date and it was an amazingly romantic evening. The ambience, the food, the old style victorian mansion look, it all fit quite nicely to create that perfect evening (and it sure continued that way after dinner!). The fact that she invited me also helped matters. ;-) If you can afford it, I highly recommend it.

Dany1180

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Why are people monogamous? Posted: 4/8/2007 2:33:02 PM
Personally, I think the concept of "Polyamory" is a load of bull. Just an excuse for swingers and those unfamiliar with true love to bring some meaning to the meaningless. My 2 cents.

Dany1180

Joined: 5/14/2006

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What's the biggest mistake you've made IN LOVE? Posted: 4/8/2007 9:25:48 AM
Taking it for granted.

Dany1180

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Why are people monogamous? Posted: 4/8/2007 9:21:21 AM
There are so many "why do people cheat?" posts. This includes "why do guys cheat," and "why do gals cheat?" type posts. I think we should really face this question - Why are people monogamous? Why do we feel compelled to stay faithful to a partner for however long we are together? We have to answer this from a game theory perspective, an evolutionary/biological perspective, and an emotional/moral perspective. Maybe then, and only then can we really answer why people cheat. Are we supposed to cheat in the first place and that it really isn't cheating but following our true nature. How about the poly folk...and the closed group marriages? Why do people pair up in monogamous relationships? Because monogamy, with someone you deeply love, is ultimately more satisfying than meaningless casual sex irrespective of the number of partners. From experience at least, the act of casual sex pales in comparison with making love to someone you really care about. It's like comparing tofu to real meat. (sorry to all the vegetarians out there!)

Dany1180

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How do you deal with people who have BAGGAGE Posted: 4/8/2007 9:08:56 AM
How do you deal with people who have "BAGGAGE" You don't.

Dany1180

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Food Posted: 4/8/2007 9:02:56 AM
First, looks like something's wrong with your keyboard hells bells. Plenty of chinese restaurants around downtown that aren't expensive at all, but the quality can vary.. I particularly had a (very) bad batch of General Tao yesterday at Wok. Complained about it to the waiter but all I got was a confused look.. But a good chinese place around the area would be "Soupes et Nouilles" on the corner of Du Fort and St. Catherines. I've never been disappointed or felt sick after eating there... yet. I can name a few others off the top of my head: Kanda (sushi), Chateaubriand, Shwartz, Nickels, Mike's, Buffet Maharaja...

Dany1180

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Good/cheap language schools? Posted: 4/8/2007 8:57:14 AM
Any advice regarding good but cheap language schools in Montreal? I'm interested in broadening my knowledge of languages, but within a modest budget. In particular, I'm interested in learning Japanese and Chinese, followed by either Italian or Spanish.... if time ever permits. :P

Dany1180

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POF Montreal Area Film Club: Please Vote On What You Would Like to See! Posted: 4/8/2007 8:19:10 AM
I'd definitely be interested, especially since I've become quite behind of late when it comes to films.. Just not enough time. When's the next one? Sorry I missed out on the last.

Dany1180

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Any Japanese anime fans here? Posted: 4/8/2007 8:00:22 AM
Just finished both Gundam Seed and Gundam Seed Destiny series and the animation and music in both are just fantastic. Moved on now to Bleach and One Piece and I'm liking both so far. And thankfully, Naruto fillers are over... they were just painful to watch.

Dany1180

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men's picture Posted: 3/30/2007 5:50:00 PM
I just don't like to smile in pictures. In real life I'm practically smiling all the time but if I see a camera in front of me I just don't feel like it. The best I can do is a smirk, bordering on a smile... Plus, it looks so much more mysterious this way, doesn't it?

Dany1180

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What do you miss the most about being in a relationship? Posted: 3/30/2007 5:45:44 PM
Miss going to bed and waking up with that special someone beside me.

Dany1180

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Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It? Posted: 2/18/2007 2:35:20 PM
Caller-ID is a cellphone user's friend and they should become familiar with it. Voicemail is another nice feature... Not EVERY call is important enough to be rude to your date, but some cellphone users simply do not have self-control and must pick up every single call... And this doesn't only apply to dates. It happens all the time in many different situations, such as picking up when getting in an elevator knowing full well you'll be saying "hello?... hello?... HELLO?" - look at phone - "hello?... hello?" almost every time, or when trying to pay a cashier and there's a cellphone stuck between his/her ear and their shoulder the hold time as they struggle to get to their wallet/purse. When I see people like that, I feel glad I didn't keep my cellphone for long. And yeah, if and when it happens on a date (hasn't happened recently but it has happened before) it's an instant turn-off and it's a sure-thing the date's countdown timer gets activated on my end.

Dany1180

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Is oral sex cheating? Posted: 2/18/2007 2:21:46 PM
Is this a serious question?

Dany1180

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guys if i found the rite girl should i wait for it? Posted: 2/18/2007 2:14:21 PM
4 words: Go With The Flow. Let's things happen naturally, without expectations or planning ahead. I personally don't have a "schedule" in my head when I date someone, like some do (1st date: gotta do this, 2nd date: gotta do that, but not this etc.). With some, I've slept with them on 2nd or 3rd dates and others I'd be on my 6th or 7th and still nada. Of course, I will take the initiative but if I can sense or feel that she's not ready for it then I don't push the matter any further and just resume with the.. ahem.. regular activities. Basically, some people take longer to get comfortable than others and you just have to respect that and go with the flow and give her the time she needs to feel comfortable. And it's ok to take some initiative when your instincts tell you to but don't force the issue and stop (and understand why you need to stop) if you feel at all that she's uncomfortable with it. She'll appreciate the fact that you were considerate of her feelings, and perhaps will even like you more as a result.

Dany1180

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sex with the ex part II Posted: 2/18/2007 1:44:50 PM
i peeked in his phone and found 2 girls phone numbers, neither one of them he had called recent ZOMG!!!1111!!!1one!one11! He has two girls' numbers in his phone!!! Seriously though, just because he has two girls' numbers on his phone is not evidence enough to suspect this. However, I do agree that you should have held off from sex until after you were 100% certain things were heading in the right direction (after he moves to your city). If it's the worst case scenario though, at least you slept with someone you had something with prior instead of some total stranger, so it's not a total disaster and you shouldn't feel too guilty about it. It happens.

Dany1180

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The I'll call you Posted: 2/18/2007 1:28:02 PM
If you go for more than coffee or a quick drink when you don't know a person that well yet then you are sort of asking for it. Don't spend a lot of money on a complete stranger, that's just common sense. By the time you are spending more than a half hour and $10 on someone, you should already be past knowing if you click and consistently getting calls. True that, and I make sure to do that most of the time. But I'm just addicted to sushi and sometimes, without thinking and in the spur of the moment, that's what I'd propose we go do... especially when I start suffering from withdrawal. :-P Sometimes it's worth it and sometimes, well, my wallet just gets that much thinner.

Dany1180

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The I'll call you Posted: 2/18/2007 10:44:25 AM
What I can't stand is when your date only lets you know after you've paid already for the first one. If you don't feel any "click", say so before I get the bill! Now if it's just coffee, it's no big deal, but when I end up paying $40+ I'm not just doing it because the person graced me with their holy presence for that one evening. And I admit, I do say "I'll call you" as well sometimes, but still if after 2 days you still don't get a call just take a hint.

Dany1180

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My ex is a bigger control freak than yours... Posted: 2/18/2007 10:36:35 AM
Just some ordinary restaurant, but she believed that's what a man should always do. Not to mention the dozens of other things she expected of someone that made you go "wtf?". And there was plenty more where that came from. It was a tortuous 1.5 years with that person, believe me.

Dany1180

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The "My ex is a bigger control freak than yours..." thread Posted: 2/18/2007 10:26:07 AM
Thought I'd start a thread like this to hear all the possible horror stories. So I'll start it up with the worst of my exes in the controlling/possessive department: We were at a restaurant and we had just finished our dinner and were about to leave. She said she had to go to the bathroom so I'm like "sure" and she goes. When she comes back she's hopping mad at me and tells me that as her man I must escort her to the bathroom and wait for her there in order to make sure she'll be safe. And I'm like "wtf?" Aahhh the memories. :) Look forward to hearing others.

Dany1180

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shooting at Dawson College - Montreal Posted: 9/14/2006 3:29:07 PM
Ah geez. Another gun freak.. (referring to the pro-gun poster here). Such an event is tragic enough. No need to make it worse by advocating the loosening of restrictions on guns. But again what a tragedy. May the victim who died rest in peace. And wish for a quick recovery to the injured. And Kimveer Gill can rot in hell (I guess that's where he wanted to go anyway), the bastard.

Dany1180

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Blocking Posted: 9/3/2006 8:52:18 AM
Blocking someone shouldn't delete all the mails from that person.

Dany1180

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When was the last time you fell in love? Posted: 8/24/2006 11:22:00 AM
7 years ago. Seems like an eternity.

Dany1180

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Have you ever had a passionate kiss that rendered you unable to walk? Posted: 8/22/2006 8:18:49 PM
Hey jffbuis, Now that I think of it.. perhaps you're right. It makes perfect sense. I didn't initially think that any of the things you correctly mentioned played a role... However, what about the chloroform? Do you suppose that's also a factor? I didn't think so but now I'm starting to wonder if it may... ;)

Dany1180

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WOMAN WHO NEED ATTENTION Posted: 8/22/2006 8:38:16 AM
I don't particularly fine the link above to be all that bad, it shows an attitude for sports and isn't all that tastless from my point of view. The link is just a joke, meant to poke fun at those types.

Dany1180

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WOMAN WHO NEED ATTENTION Posted: 8/21/2006 9:05:49 PM
Here's an image that properly describes this: http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v481/turtle777/attention_whore.jpg

Dany1180

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What is the dream message you want to see in your inbox? Posted: 8/21/2006 2:07:05 PM
"Hey there. I liked your profile and I'd love to go have sushi with you" Oh wait.. last time I got a message like that I got burned.

Dany1180

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Have you ever had a passionate kiss that rendered you unable to walk? Posted: 8/21/2006 1:49:29 PM
Not to boast or anything (ok.. maybe a little ) but I've sometimes kissed women so passionately that when it was over they'd lose their balance a bit and wobble. I've always found that amusing to watch. :P

Dany1180

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Just some pointers or insight Posted: 8/10/2006 3:37:48 AM
You seem like such a gag nice guy and a gentleman and why did you end up on this sour note. Just curious. What was the gag reflex for? :)

Dany1180

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Just some pointers or insight Posted: 8/9/2006 6:01:57 PM
Well I just took those pictures in haste. The camera had just arrived in the mail that same hour I took those pics. :P Eventually I'll be putting up new ones as I make them.

Dany1180

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Just some pointers or insight Posted: 8/8/2006 9:02:12 PM
Should've probably done this long ago. Any feedback welcome. Any changes I should make? Any pics I should remove? Thanks! p.s.: and yes I realise the mirror needs to be wiped. Those only showed up with the flash. :)

Dany1180

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when you guys send emails??? Posted: 8/7/2006 9:35:08 PM
With all due respect, online dating shouldn't have to be like a job application. But if you read the last sentence of my previous post, I do see the other perspective as well. I understand that getting a 100 "hi"s by different guys will make it a bit hard to choose between them, but that's what the profile is for, isn't it? I mean, even in the real world, if you see a girl you find attractive you just go up and say "Hi" and try to strike up a conversation. If she's interested you pursue the matter further. So how come it can't be the same here? Furthermore, you're already more exposed (in terms of what you've already put in your profile and the messages you post in the forums) than in the real world so the person you're messaging should already be fully capable of forming an opinion about you without the need to "impress" her with a long, lavish email. A simple "Hello" should suffice ideally since so much about you is already known by the other party (provided you're being honest of course).

Dany1180

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when you guys send emails??? Posted: 8/7/2006 5:15:34 PM
My 2 cents: I don't want to put all that effort and type something long and original only to get shot down or see the dreaded "Read: deleted" outcome and all time and effort gone to waste. So at first I just try to initiate some kind of first contact by keeping it short and sweet and find out if the person finds me interesting... because I assume that person will at least check out my profile and judge me more on that than on the message itself. If I get a response back, THEN I'd be willing to put the time and effort in starting up a real conversation and being original. That's my take on it. But I can see the other side's point of view as well. If you get a hundred messages by a hundred different guys, all just saying "Hi", I can see how it can be hard to pick and choose from among them.

Dany1180

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Gross? Posted: 8/7/2006 4:53:52 PM
Sometimes it is cool, but you know when a girl does that, that's she really into you, WE don't just pick anyone! I agree. I certainly did feel flattered by her...ahem.... popping my zits. How come that doesn't sound right?

Dany1180

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Ladies i have come to set the record straight Posted: 8/7/2006 4:39:56 PM
See? It can be funny. :) So no hard feelings eh? And on that note, this concludes yet another interesting POF forum thread. And with a happy ending to boot! (Sniff) I love happy endings. (Sniff)

Dany1180

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Ladies i have come to set the record straight Posted: 8/7/2006 4:34:21 PM
I didn't call you a lesbian. I simply suggested it. It's just you and Angelfacelo seemed to get along so well and you were both united at bashing Steve (well, not anymore though... which is good actually. Finally some maturity has sprouted.). Oh well, this thread should die anyway.

Dany1180

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Ladies i have come to set the record straight Posted: 8/7/2006 4:26:48 PM
Yanno dany... that is not just offensive, it is rude. Do you have no couth? If you have nothing valid to add to a thread, take a nap or something ok.. Add something valid to this thread? This thread has already degenerated into juvenile behavior long before I posted, so I thought I'd add a dose of humour to it. You know what a sense of humour is, right? If you hurry I think you can still find some on sale at the nearest Costco.

Dany1180

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Ladies i have come to set the record straight Posted: 8/7/2006 3:21:39 PM
You two should go have dinner I agree but with a slight variation. See previous post.

Dany1180

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Ok...how many relationships have you had and what was the outcome? Posted: 8/7/2006 3:00:40 PM
3 long term and a bunch of shorter ones. The first one (and the only one in which I truly was in love) fell through after it turned into a long distance relationship when I moved to Canada. The two others ended because I wasn't in love with them (although I did like them and cared for them) and never felt they were the "one". And the shorter ones were just flings (by mutual consent) and therefore were predictably short. And by "fling" I don't mean "one night stand" because I don't do those.

Dany1180

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Gross? Posted: 8/7/2006 2:35:51 PM
There was one girl I went out with a long time ago who liked doing that... But I thought it was gross and would always try to get her to stop. ::shudder:: In the end I gave up and just let her. Thankfully, I never needed to return the favor.

Dany1180

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Ladies i have come to set the record straight Posted: 8/7/2006 2:26:44 PM
Heh, what an amusing thread (and yet kinda sad). I think Brandilicious and Angelfacelo should hook up together and become lesbian lovers. It would be a perfect match and a hilarious end to this sad affair.

Dany1180

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girls looking for soulmates Posted: 8/7/2006 1:43:26 PM
Welcome to the shallow world of online dating.

Dany1180

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Are there any local film buffs on POF? Posted: 8/6/2006 8:28:52 AM
A google search yields: http://www.chom.com/moviesinthepark

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