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johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 819 (view)

Image Problems Posted: 9/2/2007 8:23:09 PM
Depending on the Conduct of the Poster, along with a Promise to upload only acceptable Pics, we'll restore your Privilege, where it had been previously revoked. I promise not to upload unacceptable pics. I didn't realize that showing my eyes in one picture, even though I had 6 others that clearly showed my face would be a violation. Can I please have my upload privilege back? (PS - I got a lot of nice compliments on that picture. How much of my face is required to be in the picture for it not to get flagged?)

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 818 (view)

Image Problems
Posted: 9/2/2007 10:23:44 AM

So...

I uploaded a close-up of my eyes, since it is hard to see my eye color in my other pics.

The other pictures on my profile make my eyes appear to be brown or black when they are actually a vivid blue, so I uploaded a closeup of my eyes so that people would be able to see it. Visible in the picture were my eyes and my nose and other parts (though not ALL) of my face. Nothing remotely offensive.

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Someone flagged it. (I really don't know why, it's my damn FACE, not a cartoon, or nudity, or my dog or something) Now I can't update my pictures at all. So I'm stuck with 5 that are going to get out of date. Is there a point in time that I can request to have my upload ability turned back on? This seems like a completely non-sensical usage of the photo flagging system.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 47 (view)

Lube and Oral Sex - need a suggestion Posted: 8/29/2007 11:48:07 AM
well the cool mint idea sounds better than the saliva idea.. yuck gross.. don't spit on me lol You don't have to spit on someone in order to transfer saliva from your mouth to your partner's genitals. Here's a step by step breakdown (for ladies): Refrain from swallowing your saliva while you perform oral sex on him. If it starts to dry up (before it is dry) switch to using hands-only for a minute. During that minute, don't reflexively swallow. The saliva will begin to build up in your mouth. Now.. here's the (not at all) tricky part: Put your mouth back on his penis. The saliva in your mouth will get it all slick again. No spitting required. For the fellas: Refrain from swallowing your saliva while you perform oral sex on her. If it starts to dry up (before it is dry) switch to using your hands only for a minute. (Lick your finger before starting.) During that minute, don't reflexively swallow. The saliva will begin to build up in your mouth. Now... go down on her again. The saliva is right there, pooling up around your tongue and gums... you're using your tongue on her, so the saliva can easily be transferred from your mouth to her. No spitting required. Saliva isn't gross. It's 99% the same stuff that her (or his) bodily fluids are composed of. If you're down there in the first place, we can hopefully assume that you don't have an issue with those fluids. And it's YOUR SPIT, afterall. It's already in your mouth, no matter what you do. If thinking about it bothers you... don't think about it.

Johnny Prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 36 (view)

Lube and Oral Sex - need a suggestion Posted: 8/19/2007 2:54:51 AM
Most of the time you swallow your saliva reflexively once or twice a minute. When you're in the midst of pleasuring your partner with hands and mouth, make a conscious decision NOT to swallow that saliva. After a minute or so, you'll have plenty to use to re-lubricate your hand when it starts to dry up. While that you're "using" that one, go back to 'not swallowing' to prepare for the next one. If you switch to oral, the added saliva can quickly relubricate the entire area.

Johnny Prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 61 (view)

What does a guy mean by cuddle? Posted: 8/14/2007 12:03:46 PM
I like 'cuddling' if I am attracted to a woman. However, it is MUCH easier to "just cuddle" AFTER sex than it is to do so BEFORE sex. I am willing to hold, touch, smell and kiss a woman without the "need" to have intercourse with her. However, I would be lying if I said that the act of holding, touching, smelling and kissing a woman would not LEAD ME to thoughts of sex with her. It is difficult for me to be in close physical proximity with a woman that I am attracted to without my thoughts leading to sex. I am capable of abstaining until she feels "ready" however. I'm pretty sure the word "cuddling" is not anywhere on my profile.

Johnny Prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 129 (view)

Would you date a bicurious/bisexual woman? Posted: 8/11/2007 1:27:01 PM
I would say that as high a percentage as 30%-45% of the women I have EVER dated have expressed some kind of interest in women. No, I don't go "looking" for that type. (I've even begun to suspect that many, MANY women who don't admit it are thinking about it.) ((what else can I say? everyone is gay.)) I don't have a problem with the sexual desires and wants of my partner, but if we are in a commited relationship I expect her to be commited to whatever standard of conduct we 'commited to'. If she feels the "need" to explore another woman without my participation, I hope she feels ok with the idea of me doing some exploring of my own (and it won't be with guys.) If she agrees that we'll only share that exploration as a couple, I can be amenable to that. If, however, she's some kind of self-styled princess who thinks she can fulfill her "womanly" needs outside the boundaries of our relationship while I remain 100% faithful, she will find herself sitting on the curb on top of her suitcase and her lamp. (Her cat can stay.)

Johnny Prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 3152 (view)

Old Souls......only Posted: 8/7/2007 4:55:20 PM
All Fall Down Look away, Look around, Throw yourself against the ground. (Who's winning now?) Whatever you think you know, There are ways you make it show, Actions speak the words you don't, Your mouth may lie, But your eyes won't. You shed your skin, Disappear within, Just play pretend, And all fall down again. I found out, Quite a lot, Looking places I should not. Nothing's worse than what you've got, Your greed abhors free thought. (No winning now.) Just shed your skin, Disappear within, You play pretend, And I'll fall down again.

Johnny Prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 43 (view)

Should I Date A Man Who Doesnt Want to Marry Posted: 8/7/2007 11:55:28 AM
EXACTLY!! Can anybody on here actually READ?!?!? I cannot believe that this thread is still going, considering that the OP asked AND answered in the very first post!! READING COMPREHENSION, people!!!! Read what's there, not what you WANT to be there! Heh. But YOU managed to add your two cents in, didn't you? :) (Yeah, I'm aware that I'm doing it, too. It's still funny.)

Johnny Prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 201 (view)

How Do Men Feel About Dating Virgins? Posted: 8/5/2007 9:39:42 AM
I am not shy to talk about my virginity as i just turned 40. If i had a chance to do it all over again, i wouldnt change a thing . Any wimp can have sex but it takes a real man or woman to save themselves. Yeah. If I was a 40 year old virgin, I'd say dumb sh1t like that, too. You judge a person's worth by their ability to abstain. Good for you. Have fun living in la-la land.

Johnny Prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 194 (view)

How Do Men Feel About Dating Virgins? Posted: 8/4/2007 11:14:23 AM
I personally wouldn't care whether she was a virgin or not. It's been several years, but I have dated a few virgins in my time. What I would care about is her level of sexual enthusiasm. I would not particularly enjoy being with a "saving it for my one-and-only" virgin, because then I would have a lot of pressure on ME to try to live up to her fantasy ideal relationship, instead of allowing our relationship to run its course naturally. I'd also be slightly concerned that if we DID fall in love and want to take it to the next level (LTR/marriage) that she might eventually decide she wanted to get a taste of what ELSE might be out there. I'd much rather date a girl who had been around the block several times and therefore KNEW what an extraordinary catch I am, rather than one who wonders if ALL men are as wonderful (or more so.)

Johnny Prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 106 (view)

Sex Posted: 8/2/2007 5:11:13 PM
And that's my point, if one lists a particular faith on their profile should they follow the precepts of their professed faith or just the parts that are convenient like the Moslem males I just gave examples of seeing prostitutes while in England? And my point was that the word "Christian" means something different to each and every person, whether they themselves choose to carry the title or not. I used to consider myself an "Agnostic Christian" or even "Atheist Christian" because I still respected the words ascribed to the teacher the world knows as Jesus, even though I sorely doubted that he was born of a virgin or that he ever performed any miracles. But nowadays, I am content without a label of any kind, so I don't claim one. I still believe, however, that others have the right to any label of their own choosing, and that they are still free to do what they wish. I understand where you're coming from when you said it. I was just interjecting a different opinion.

Johnny Prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 103 (view)

Sex Posted: 8/2/2007 1:29:11 PM
^^^^ Aww... Armouredknight. You really disappoint me. I was waiting for your intelligent discourse on the history of Christianity. I guess you can't handle when your post is intelligently refuted, so you just go back to harping on your tired point-of-view without even BOTHERING to justify it. Funny how you tell people that they ought to study their scriptures and history if they're going to believe in a religion, but when someone points out that you have some studying of your OWN to do.. you conveniently forget to reply. Hypocrites should move out of their glass houses before throwing stones.

Johnny Prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 95 (view)

Sex Posted: 8/1/2007 1:36:26 PM
1)Buddhist- Should they read the documenys of faith and history of the movement? They should read the literature if it gives them peace, solace or comfort. Speaking of history, are you aware of the full 4000-6000 year history of the cult of YHWH? Can you give us all a brief history of how YHWH went from being one of many gods (elohim) and became the ONE AND ONLY god? Can you further explain the historical significance of the Council of Nicea? The impact of the Roman Empire on the cultures of the people being ruled? The combination of many previous myths (including egyptian, so-called pagan religions and gnostism? I'm quite sure you'll have no problem giving everyone a nice succinct history lesson on this subject to illustrate your point. 2) Islam-Aren't they expected to read the Koran and should they understand their culture? Islam views any translations of the Koran as mere study guides. The words are meant to be recited aloud, in arabic. So, yes, fundamentalist muslims are probably expected to read the Koran in arabic and to attend services at the temple, and to make at least one pilgramage to Mecca in their lifetime. BUT... anyone is FREE to interpret those words for themselves, and to call themselves by any name (be it buddhist, muslim, christian, jew, etc.) that they (the individual) see fit. 3) Hindu- Should they read everything hindu they can to stay on the path? The earliest Hindu scriptures were written more than 5,000 years ago. They haven't STOPPED writing them. You could spend your entire life reading Hindu scripture and not have read it all by the time you die. Maybe what they should be doing is seeking a relationship with and understanding of God, and not worrying so much about "staying on the path." 4) Jewish-Shouldn't they devoutly read the Old Testament and other documents? Yes, and so should you. You belong to one of many messianic Jewish cults (yours is called Christianity) that happened to be useful annd therefore was subverted by the Roman occupiers as a way of attempting to consolidate power and keep the empire together. There have been many figures throughout history who were said to exhibit traits eerily similar to those of "Jesus Christ" for as long as there has been written history. Of course, you know this, having studied the 'documents of faith and the history of the movement', right? 5)Christian- Shouldn't they study the Bible and investigate documtnts not cannonized? Oh yes. Let's examine some of the Gnostic Gospels that were discovered within the last century. Let's also examine the way these gospels shed light on what the leaders of the RCC were obviously doing during these times. (Consolidating their own personal power, using the words of Yeshua for political and economic gain, persecuting, torturing and killing anyone who held any beliefs that would threaten said power.) But you know all this stuff, right? You've done your homework. You're a GOOD Christian. Aren't you?

Johnny Prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 93 (view)

Sex Posted: 7/31/2007 11:16:26 AM
Women often have numbers MUCH higher than "average" guys, simply because even "average" girls can find a guy who's horny enough to bang them at a moment's notice. The "good girls" are the ones that like YOU, even if your d1ck isn't as big as half of the guys she met before you; Even if your abs aren't as tight as the two guys who used to share her in college; Even if you don't make as much money as that a$shole lawyer she almost married. She likes you anyway. She likes you, chooses to be with you, even though she's had all of that and could have it now. That's what makes her a good girl. (That and regular spankings!) Anything other than that is just plain YOUR insecurities, fella. Sorry, but it's true.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 293 (view)

Why do married men masturbate? Posted: 7/27/2007 11:11:33 PM
This is the dumbest thread, ever. I had a long-term relationship with a woman I was desperately in love with. Problem was, she didn't want to have sex four times a day. (I was lucky to get it four times a month.) I woke up in the morning and masturbated, I went to bed at night and after being turned down, I masturbated. After being turned down a thousand times, I stopped asking, and masturbated. I asked her to watch porn with me, she asked me why I liked certain things. I tried to explain what I liked about those things, but she said they were gross. I tried to explain what I was LOOKING FOR in the porn (enthusiastic women who at least are smart enough to PRETEND to like certain activities) but she didn't want to hear it. So I went in the other room to watch porn and masturbate, because she didn't like it. I felt guilty doing it, because if she 'caught me' she'd make faces and complain, but if I asked her to help me out (with or without porn) she almost always had an excuse. I have never purchased pornography. Not one video. Does this mean that I have an addiction? Hmm. PS - Why is the OP so afraid of her husband masturbating to porn, but seems to have no fear of how it might affect him that she's on this site looking for another woman? It's ok for her to have a girlfriend while she's married, but her husband is cheating on her by watching porn in the computer room? Sounds like a MAJOR double standard to me.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

relationship problem kinda Posted: 7/26/2007 2:03:44 PM
YOu don't want to be the one to catch her when she leaves him. You'll be the rebound and you'll be devastated when she leaves you. Find a new girl who doesn't need to be "saved" and date HER.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 66 (view)

Do guys really have beer googles Posted: 7/21/2007 10:48:49 AM
Even though Amy had given consent to having sex, she pressed sexual assault charges against Todd because she felt she was taken advantage of due to her incapacity. I think Todd would've been smarter to simply turn around and press sexual assault charges against Amy. He was ALSO drunk, so maybe SHE took advantage of HIM due to HIS incapacity.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 37 (view)

Femininity… what is it to YOU? Posted: 7/19/2007 2:55:02 PM
I don't want my sexuality to be perceived solely on the physical level or by just anyone. Period. End stop. I don't want unattractive women to hit on me. Period. End stop. They still do though. And I try to be tactful and let them down easy. I do NOT get offended that they were attracted to me. You skipped over an important part. I asked you: What I don't understand is why you feel RESPECTED if a man looks into your eyes (which are the most provocative part) but you feel DISRESPECTED if a man looks at your breasts (which are pretty nice, too.) Care to explain? If the eyes are the MOST PROVOCATIVE PART, shouldn't you want a man who refuses to stare deeply into your eyes until such time as you are in a commited relationship?

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

Femininity… what is it to YOU? Posted: 7/19/2007 1:50:37 PM
The eyes are the most provocative part of the human body anyway I agree, as it happens. What I don't understand is why you feel RESPECTED if a man looks into your eyes (which are the most provocative part) but you feel DISRESPECTED if a man looks at your breasts (which are pretty nice, too.) Care to explain? I understand how you might feel uncomfortable if a man you find un-attractive was making aggressive passes at you or behaving strangely. But I don't understand why you'd be offended if someone you met noticed and seemed to appreciate your body. I certainly don't feel "violated" if a woman looks at my butt in passing. (They often whistle and cat-call, just like men.) Even if I'm not attracted to them, it doesn't BOTHER me. It's still flattering. When a woman brushes up against me, or puts her hand on my arm, or comments on my eyes or whatever... I understand that they are doing what is NATURAL for them. And if I'm interested, things progress. With women, it seems like they have double-standard for this sort of thing. If the ugly, nerdy guy gets caught looking at you, he's a creep. If the guy in his forties gets caught noticing a beautiful young woman, he's a dirty old man. But if the handsome guy in the expensive shirt gives you the once over, you light up.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 95 (view)

No virgin....but saving self for marriage now.... Posted: 7/19/2007 1:06:14 PM
So, I think that if the makeout sessions are hot, and the fooling around part is hot, then the sex will be too. um. What do you mean by 'makeout' and 'fooling around'? I don't want to "makeout" or "fool around" with a woman unless it leads to something more. I certainly don't want to spend months or years "getting to know" someone and going home with a painful erection every night, so that I can masturbate to fantasies of what our wedding night might be like. Don't rub against me in a sexually suggestive way if you don't want sex. It doesn't have to be intercourse. Your hand or mouth will suit me just fine. But stay away from my genitals if you don't want something sexual to occur. (If oral, anal and mutual masturbation count as "fooling around" then I MIGHT be willing to wait for marriage for the "sex".)

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 53 (view)

Do guys really have beer googles Posted: 7/19/2007 12:59:55 PM
Some of my friends want to sleep with someone new as often as possible. Because of this desire, they will sleep with women that even THEY don't find attractive. Their rationale is "SOME pssy is better than NO pssy." Since I have more discriminating tastes (and kinks) I'd rather find someone that is compatible AND attractive to me, or I find I am frequently disappointed, frustrated and annoyed by the sex. The reason that people are less discriminating at 3am when they make "last call" is NOT necessarily that they're drunk (though that may be a factor.) It's probably that because, it's 3 am, and all the people they found attractive passed them by... and they've gotta go home with SOMETHING.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 32 (view)

Femininity… what is it to YOU? Posted: 7/19/2007 12:41:28 PM
"You aren't going to demean us both by even thinking of dropping your gaze are you?" Men don't always make a conscious 'choice' to look at your breasts. I have never once been talking to an attractive woman and thought "uh oh! She's making eye contact -- better look at her tits!" However, if a woman is wearing clothing that accents the shape or form of her breasts in an eye-pleasing way... my eyes are 'drawn' to her breasts, quite against my will! I can realize what i'm doing and snap my attention back up to her face, but -- depending proportionally to the amount of attraction i am feeling to her -- my animal forebrain will continue to send signals to my eyes to take a gander at the goods. I have learned to be less obvious about it as the years go by, however. To complain about it or feel demeaned about it is to misunderstand mammalian biology.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 27 (view)

Does astrology factor into your search for finding a match? Posted: 7/18/2007 11:01:54 PM
No. I am aware that the everpresent desire for humans to know what is going to happen in the future is rampant, and I am also aware that for thousands of years, humans have been tracking the events in the sky and attaching all sorts of predictions to their actions. I have seen no credible evidence that the alignment of the sun, moon, stars and planets have anything whatsoever to do with the kind of person someone will be or the events that befall them. Life is much more beautiful and mysterious than that.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

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Read Deleted, after meeting. Posted: 7/18/2007 10:53:04 PM
I just don't understand it at all. I'd at least like a well you were nice but not my type msg You were nice, but you weren't his type.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 33 (view)

Need help with the women i love. Please, serious advice only :( I cant live without her... Posted: 7/18/2007 10:45:37 PM
Anybody else wanna chime in and add there own piece of advice or better yet personal experience relating to whats happening with me? Yes. Stop trolling for posts on this whiny thread and start doing pushups. Build yourself a nice new body and watch the world change. Getting your heart broken is a real bummer. You have three choices: Choice #1 - wallow in your misery, really suffer for your lost love, just to prove how real your love really is. Show her what she's missing. Live in pain at the whim of a person who doesn't have your best interest in her heart for the rest of your miserable, unfulfilled life. Choice #2 - quickly find someone -- anyone -- else, latch onto them and don't bother thinking about what happened or what your role in it was or grow in any way. Repeat this cycle for another 3 years, until the infatuation runs it's course, and girl #2 becomes 'the one' who broke your heart. Choice #3 - do things to take your mind off of her, things that improve you as a person and make you a better choice as a mate (exercise, go back to school, start a business, learn a new language, travel the world) and watch how, when you're ready, you'll magically attract someone that's just perfect for the 'new' you.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 41 (view)

Are you guys socialized to be passive-aggressive? Posted: 7/18/2007 10:27:04 PM
In a womans mind, she IS the centre of the Universe, for various reasons. Children, relatives, friends, depend on her. I'm beginning to understand why we always clash on these forums, Goodewitch. I have no children, but relatives and friends have been known to depend on me from time to time. I also have been known to anticipate and fill the needs of my friends, relatives and romantic partners prior to their making any mention, simply by observing their behaviors, wants and needs. I am quite capable of many 'domestic' (traditionally female) activities, as well as a variety of other skills. And while I am sometimes arrogant, I am much too humble to assume that I am the center of the universe. Although she is trying to nurture, she is still the centre of all that. Then along comes a man,.. she tries to do the same,.. she's bossy, shes self absorbed,.. shes nagging. Nurturing? I'm comfortable with that. It's the "bossy, self absorbed, nagging" that I can do without. So what you seem to be saying (please correct me if I've got it wrong) is: "A woman (wrongly) assumes she is the center of the universe, so therefore she (wrongly) assumes a bossy, self-absorbed attitude and nags others, in an attempt to nurture them." She sees that her sense of being important is knocked askew by the fact that the man only wants her in very limited roles. You men do this too. You want sex, you want space, you want freedom. You make her universe a very small space. She feels shes only being appreciated on small levels. "She notices that the man isn't buying into this 'center of the universe' stuff and that makes it very hard for her to keep pretending that she IS, which causes her sense of importance to suffer." I ask the question, can men be emotional in relationships? See that guy over there? The guy who works 60 hours a week? The guy who's idea of a "big weekend" is getting a chance to finally clean out the garage? Notice how he's not chasing down attractive women and spending his paycheck on them? Notice how his family has decent clothes, abundant food, a leak-free roof? Notice how his wife isn't much to look at anymore, and thinks she's the center of the universe, and nags at him all the time, but he stays, and keeps supporting her? That guy isn't emotional? Really? I feel a variety of very powerful feelings all throughout the day. But when I make decisions, I try to analyze my own feelings honestly in order to avoid over-reacting. I do this because in the world I live in, there are consequences for doing the wrong thing, even if it would've been very satisfying to do it. If the negative consequences are worse than the positive effects of my action, I do my best to avoid it. If I were to give in to my emotions and allow them to run my life, I might grab that guy who cut me off while jabbering away on his cellphone, pull him out of his car, and beat him to death. But what happens is logic kicks in and says, "Even though you detest this sort of behavior, you have done something similar at some point in your life. Who are you to judge this guy?" and then... boom... anger's gone! and I'm in a good place again.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

A very Taboo Subject- Posted: 7/18/2007 9:30:01 PM
I've never had a woman who claimed to WANT to do this (it's called "pegging" by the way) so it's never come up. I'm certainly not looking to MAKE it happen, but I suppose if I met a woman who was really into the idea and she was willing to try the things I want to do, I'd let her give it a shot, if I liked her enough. Statistically, most men who want to dress up as women (crossdressers) are straight. (No, I'm not one of them.)

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

A Serious Problem for a Serious Guy Posted: 7/18/2007 9:23:08 PM
I've dated several women who decided I was "too serious." What this seems to have meant was that I didn't fall for the stupid games they tried to play. Consider it a compliment and be glad you saved yourself from a lot of grief.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 59 (view)

Do any guys actually like pessimistic girls? Posted: 7/18/2007 8:57:57 PM
Where'd you get that line from ???...... "Angel" reruns ??? Nah. I was just looking for a contrast to "happy fluffy marshmallow bunnies."

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 53 (view)

Do any guys actually like pessimistic girls? Posted: 7/18/2007 2:06:30 PM
Uhh yeah it is. Yeah. I totally can't wait to get into a LTR with someone who thinks like that. I can be miserable on my own, thank you. No need for a girlfriend to add to that mess, unless I want to accellerate my own plunge toward suicide. Your thoughts and beliefs about the world affect your perception of the world. Your subconscious mind will look for evidence of whatever you currently choose to believe. I choose to believe that there is much suffering in this world, generally with fear at its root. There is also much beauty and wonder in this world, generally with love at its root.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 33 (view)

One for all the guys here.... Posted: 7/18/2007 1:44:00 PM
In my last relationship, the way I showed my affection was by: Holding her when she was sad, or sick or unhappy. Rubbing her shoulders when she got home from work. Rubbing her temples when she'd get a (frequent) migraine. Getting up early and doing things around the house, even while she slept. Waiting until she woke up to think about eating something, even if I woke up hungry. Compromising with her on what to eat, even though she was incredibly picky and these discussions often lasted an hour or more. Going to the store (alone) to get whatever she decided she wanted to eat while she got in the bathtub to soak. Coming home, preparing all the food, and then waiting for her to be ready to eat it. (then re-heating it once she was finally ready.) Knowing what sort of things she liked and did not like, and doing my best to give her the things she liked whenever possible. Hours and hours spent working on plans for a future together, where we could have everything we wanted and needed, without having to work 90 hours a week to have it. Avoiding the looks, touches, verbal flirting and even outright propositions from female coworkers, groupies, etc. because I "didn't want to screw up" my "perfect" relationship. Masturbating a whole lot so that she wouldn't have to be bothered to notice that I had sexual needs that were being unfulfilled. Thinking about leaving her because I wasn't getting much out of the relationship for ME, but not wanting to make her cry, feel abandoned, or lonely. Feeling guilty for wanting out. Feeling like a "real man" would stick it out, suffer anything for 'true love'. Being kind and loving and respectful while she was dumping me for someone new instead of venting about all the pain it was putting me through. Still talking to her ocassionally, even though it tears me up inside, because she desperately wants to "still be friends." I know all of the above makes me sound like a doormat. I am NOT a doormat. I simply MEANT it when I said "forever" and "whatever it takes" and unfortunately, she didn't. Perhaps the next time will be better.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 18 (view)

Femininity… what is it to YOU? Posted: 7/18/2007 1:27:56 PM
Personally, I am attracted to quiet, shy, librarian types. I am also attracted to abrasive, loud, nose ring and purple-mohawked types. I am also attracted to supermodel types. I am also attracted to cuddly "girl next door" types. I am also attracted to tattooed biker chicks in leather halter tops. So... for me... feminine means that she is equipped with breasts and a vagina, with a lack of a penis. (I'll supply that.)

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 51 (view)

Do any guys actually like pessimistic girls? Posted: 7/17/2007 1:45:25 PM
why be pessimistic? Because being optimistic just disappoints me in the end. How about just being realistic instead? Life is not a bundle of happy marshmallow dancing bunnies. Life is ALSO not a cruel, cold, harsh, unbearable suffering in the depths of hell.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 60 (view)

No virgin....but saving self for marriage now.... Posted: 7/17/2007 1:41:37 PM
Scorpiomover's post #54 sums up my feelings on this subject very well: Imagine that a man told you he has fallen for women in the past, but then she left him for someone else, and now he doesn't want to fall in love with anyone until marriage. ... That is how men feel when a woman takes this approach. I have known several women who were 'saving themselves' for marriage which meant that traditional penile/vaginal sex was not allowed. However, if you were "the right guy" (often NOT her respectable, marriage-minded boyfriend) you could have access to her hands, mouth and backdoor. If you've already had sex with multiple men over a twelve year period (I think that's what the OP said) I'd say the days of viewing your sexuality as a "precious gift I am saving for my one and only" should be in the back of the closet with your teddy bear and your stocking for Santa. Save your LOVE AND DEVOTION for your one and only. That's the part that counts.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 11 (view)

how is it some guys expect sex on the first date even when.. Posted: 7/17/2007 1:23:04 PM
I thought i made it pretty clear in my profile that im looking for a forever relationship not an easy lay and yet guys i have dated seem to walk away like it was a big waste of time going out on a date. I dont wear short skirts or low cut tops. Women like to create a picture of themselves "as they wish to be seen." That's what makeup, fashion, plastic surgery, panty hose, etc are DESIGNED TO DO. So, of course, a woman who is looking for a real relationship often tries to portray herself as the kind of woman SHE WANTS TO BE. I have not been on thousands of dates with thousands of women. I have dated more than 50 and probably less than 100 women in my time.* Most of those dates did not lead any further than a handful of dates -- whether or not sex was involved. [While I have dated (and slept with) a reasonable amount of women, the majority of my time has been spent in monogamous (from my end) relationships lasting three to six years, each.] That being said, probably 95% of the women I have dated have made it very clear to me prior to meeting (if it was online) that she was NOT "that" kind of girl. She didn't just give it away to just anyone, by golly! Here's how a large percentage of those dates turned out: "You know, I never sleep with guys on the first date....." she says as she looks up at me with big, sincere eyes. "Of course you don't!" I reply, trying not to smirk. [I'm not smirking because I'm just SO cool. I'm smirking because I've heard this same story before - many, many times.*] Then she does. These dates do NOT involve me forcing myself on her, making overt sexual overtures or usually even INITIATING CONTACT. After we get done, she usually repeats that she usually doesn't do these kinds of things. I tell her, "Hey, I just did it, too! I'm not judging you." The reason men don't take you at your word is because, in my experience, YOU don't take you at your word. (I'm not attacking you.)

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 3 (view)

What is with guys with US as their geographic area Posted: 7/17/2007 1:01:08 PM
maybe they're from Nigeria, and they're waiting for you to take the bait before they tell you about the 40,000,000 dollars that their dead father left in a Nigerian bank and if you can only pay several escalating fees in order to get that money for them, they will happily provide you with 20% of the cash once it finally shows up. Or... maybe they're truckers? :) They have no fixed address?

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 31 (view)

Does he really like me... Mixed Messages... Posted: 7/16/2007 11:38:54 AM
I'm a big girl... just tell me like it s... why do some guys tell you shit and string you along? Sometimes people are just liars. My ex, for example, is currently living with a woman she met at MY work. We broke up so that she could be with this woman. My ex knows this. I know this. I've told my ex that I know it on 4 different occassions. She still insists to ME (when we talk, once every 4-6 months) that she is single, not seeing anyone. She is LIVING with this person. I KNOW ABOUT IT. I tell her "I know you're with her." She says "No, we're just friends." I say, "Are you sure you aren't just trying to spare my feelings?" (I say this KNOWING they are together.) She says, "I'm not seeing ANYBODY right now." We broke up a year and a half ago. There's been no pursuit. I've told her about the women I've dated since then. She has no reason to lie. But she still does. Some people just lie. It's not a strictly male or female thing.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 28 (view)

Why do guy's say this to there ex? Posted: 7/16/2007 11:04:44 AM
then he said I still care about you.. and I don't hate you.. and if we are meant to be together then we will in the future.. I have not idea what this means.. I'm gonna guess that what it means is.... If we are meant to be together, then we will in the future. If it's "fate" then nothing you do can stop you from being together. If it's not fate, then you won't be together, and you weren't meant to be.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 189 (view)

Why porn? Posted: 7/16/2007 10:51:29 AM
The day I meet a woman who wants to wake up every morning and give me head, wait for me to come home and then give me head, wait up for me in bed and then give me head.... ...I will probably still like porn. She's bound to want to SLEEP some of the time. Even when I am in a regular relationship with someone, she rarely wants to have sex as much as I do. Should I deprive myself until such time as she feels ready for it? (If so, I propose that we outlaw "shower massagers" so that I can be sure she isn't getting any on the side. If you can have your shower massage, I can watch porn.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 64 (view)

Are all men only looking for one thing on this site? (SEX) Posted: 7/16/2007 9:30:14 AM
one even admitted to me that men wont travel 2 hrs to meet someone and just get cup of tea etc, how shallow is that !!!!!! im no bombo or b***h either..... Damn. It's shallow to not want to travel 2 hours just to get a cup of tea with a girl and then drive 2 more hours back? Color me shallow.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 18 (view)

Has a girl ever tried to stick a finger in u? Posted: 7/13/2007 11:12:50 AM
Im sorry but the whole male anal area is a horrible place to visit.....all that hair and crumbs and odors and such.......at least us women keeps ours pretty and clean and shaved and delectable. SOME men DO shave and bathe. Some women DON'T. Way to generalize! Go stereotype!

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 11 (view)

do men assume sex if Posted: 7/12/2007 10:32:03 PM
I once dated a woman who told me on the phone prior to the date that she had to shave her legs first. When she arrived, she was wearing jeans, and I knew I was getting laid. If a woman wants to come back to my place, I assume she is interested on some level in having sex with me. I won't force the issue, however. I'd rather hang out and watch a movie and cuddle on the couch, even if it doesn't lead to immediate sex that night. But I won't think less of you if it turns into sex. I certainly don't ever think of anyone in terms of whether they are "easy" or not. All women are "easy" with the right guy.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 546 (view)

Is oral sex cheating? Posted: 7/12/2007 9:23:35 AM
Well, after these posts, I have to laugh, I have stated that when I was in a relationship, it never bothered me if he went out and received oral, and the reason was because we had an open relationship I'm thinking that if you had mentioned THAT part (in bold) in the OP, this thread would only be about 5-10 posts long, and the people who chimed in would be saying things like "if you and your partner agree to be open, it's not cheating." But, you wanted to get lots of page views, so you stuck with "is oral sex cheating?" Now you're complaining because your disingenuous post has gotten lots of page views, and lots of replies. What were you expecting? Oh yeah: JMO---------let the flaming begin!!!!!!! That's what you were expecting from the beginning, isn't it?

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 44 (view)

Will my married lover ever leave his wife? Posted: 7/11/2007 10:19:59 AM
Ignore some of these ignorant comments people are making about you and your character. It's okay poke a little fun now and again, but some of us go too far, usually due to some type of insecurity on our part. Yeah. I would understand where you're coming from (a little) if I didn't read her post: I am attractive, blond , 26yrs old, and have been seeing a married arab for over 5 years. He is in his late forties but is in an arranged/boring marriage with 3 kids. he travels to see me regulary, spends thousands on me, but WON'T leave his wife. Or her profile: I have a strong desire to meet a man a bit older this time for stability and security that i crave. Someone with a tendency to spoil me I love Dubai, anything middle Eastern and exotic. In fact I like my men like I like my chocolate, dark, smoothe and very rich! That's where I got the "whore" comment. A whore is someone who exchanges sexual services for financial benefit. Seems apt, here. There's not a word on her profile about love, honesty, trust, etc. There are lots of words about money, security, gifts, and being 'spoiled'. You make the call. I stand by mine.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 10 (view)

Caught him... now what? Posted: 7/10/2007 9:14:32 PM
Go to his profile. At the bottom of the profile, there are little boxes where you can fill in the name and email of your friend and she'll get an email that says: "I think this guy (link) is perfect for you." That'd be about the most tactful way I can imagine letting your friend know.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 27 (view)

Will my married lover ever leave his wife? Posted: 7/10/2007 3:01:51 PM
No. He's not going to leave her for you. He told you that, himself. But, hey! Look on the bright side! At least you're getting paid for being his whore. Most women on the side don't even get that. But then, I guess most women on the side don't have profiles on dating sites looking for rich middle-eastern men to exploit them. [edit] I better not get banned for calling a troll a whore.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 7 (view)

Help with my Same Sex Relationship..straight people can help too. Posted: 7/10/2007 2:27:41 PM
If you aren't deliriously happy with him AS HE IS RIGHT NOW... you don't want him. You just want the thing that he represents for you right now. If you need your partner to change in order to be your partner... you haven't got the right partner. Chemistry is wonderful. Have your romance if you wish, but know that no matter how long it may last -- it will end in heartbreak for you.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 22 (view)

Need a male perspective on this situation Posted: 7/10/2007 1:58:58 PM
I don't know what to think. Should I give him another chance? Or should I blow him off? I appreciate any thoughts. Stop fooling around and 'heavy petting' with guys if you don't want to bang them. Quit playing power games with your vagina. Even the nice guys, who are totally wonderful and worthwhile want to sleep with you. If they didn't want to sleep with you... they wouldn't be taking you on dates. If you didn't want to sleep with HIM... you wouldn't be 'heavy petting' and spending the night. So either trust him, have some sex... be vulnerable and open... (and maybe get your heart broken) (but maybe find true love!) ... or ... continue to play games and view any man who shows sexual interest in you as a predator, and grow to be an old, bitter husk. Choose wisely, now. There's a word for two people who like each other a lot but don't want to have sex. It's called friends.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

What exactly are curves? Posted: 7/10/2007 1:48:56 PM
In the real world, curves COULD refer to Salma Hayek, as she was 10 years ago. Online, curves refer to Salma Hayek 2 months ago, or more. I've dated some very thin, very petite women, and -- rest assured, they have curves, too. Gentleman who prefer 'large girthed' women are going to try to flatter those women just as much as gentlemen who prefer 'slim' women. So they say "Looking for a woman with curves." When the big girls see this, they know he's talking about them.

johnny prophet

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 32 (view)

a beautiful woman with an average guy, or a handsome guy with an average woman? Posted: 7/10/2007 11:03:27 AM
If your partner feels they can do better than you, they will often treat you disrespectfully. If your partner feels that you're the best they can do, they will often put you up on a pedestal. It has more to do with self-confidence than it does with looks.

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