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 Author Thread: Living Alone
 roseopal
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Living Alone
Posted: 12/30/2007 11:01:22 AM
When my husband left after he decided he did not want to be married after 15 years, I was 39, with three children 9, 12 and 14 and a mother who lived in part of my house (she had her own apt.) I was so busy working, raising children, trying to please everyone, I did not have time to think about the time that I would be living on my own. After the children were on their own and my wonderful mother had several strokes in 1998 at the age of 90, the doctor said she had to go to a nursing home for the proper care and was there until her death in 2002. Now it has been almost ten years that I have been living alone, I moved to a smaller house, retired, enjoy voluteer work, always had a furry friend to depend on me (always dogs) and altho there are times I get the "blues" as far as sharing certain moments with another person in the house, I must say I have adjusted pretty well because I have my two daughters who live here in the same town so I am around people quite often when I want to be, I come and go as I please and just do my thing. I have dated on and off for many years but for some strange reason, I still think that there is some great guy out there who would enjoy my company and we can do a lot of things together but I dont feel as if I could share my "space" with just anyone but maybe if I met "Mr. Right", my attitude would change- who knows? Anyway, anyone reading this I wish you a very Happy New Year.
 roseopal
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 36 (view)
 
I dont know what to do
Posted: 12/13/2007 12:10:38 PM
I looked at your profile to read about you and to find out your age. You are still a young man with many years ahead of you- you also say you are not religious but in your situation, a little faith would be good for you. Depending on whom you would feel comfortable talking to, minister, priest, I think it would be a good idea to get some advice from the proper person. I don't judge people because at the end of our lives, we meet the Final Judge so all I can say to you is to say a few prayers and keep busy doing things such as volunteering and possibly joining a group in your position or reading a book that could help you. Good luck!
 roseopal
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Getting older & enjoying it
Posted: 1/7/2007 5:44:31 PM
Well, I really don't ENJOY getting older but I accept the things I can't change and make the most of any situation, including getting older. My mortgage and car are paid, I get up when I want, go to bed when I want, travel and only answer to myself. I have been divorced since 1979 and there are certainly times when it would be nice to grow old with another person around, especially if we enjoyed the same things, but if that special person does not enter my life, than at least I tried to find someone to have good times with- I tell myself age is just an attitude and feel very fortunate that I look much younger than I am but I always tell the truth about my age when asked.
 roseopal
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Long hair on older women
Posted: 10/2/2006 1:46:04 PM
This is my what I think, that is if anyone really cares :) once a woman hits 60, I dont think she should wear her hair long or her skirts too short, especially if she looks her age and long hair looks worse when it turns a funny shade of gray. I guess it depends on how good you think you look, whatever length of hair you have- bottom line is, wear your hair in the style that you think looks best on you and who the heck cares what anyone thinks- you can't enjoy life if you try to please other people or give a darn what other people think. DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU !!!
 roseopal
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 9/2/2006 6:33:16 AM
I agree with Irisheyez 100%- AGE IS JUST AN ATTITUDE!! I don't feel that I am getting old,, getting older, yes but one has to go with the flow and not fight it. I have the right attitude, keep active, look forward to everyday and I look much younger than I am because of my youthful attitude toward life. Isn't the 60's the new 50's, 50's the new 40's, etc. I realize that older people may have some health issues but if we try to make the effort to remain positive and take advantage of all the many things out there to help us medically speaking, we can have a better quality of life than our parents and grandparents did. I don't have to LIKE getting older but I plan to keep enjoying my life as much as I can and accept what I can't change, which is not always an easy task but I was never promised a rose garden, you have to accept the thorns that come along with the beautiful roses.
 roseopal
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
DO WE OVER 60'S GET LEFT BEHIND?
Posted: 8/26/2006 10:46:57 AM
Well EastSideEddie, all I say after reading some of your comments is that you sound like a bitter man who has gone thru a very nasty divorce. What is wrong with looking and finding love no matter what our age is and as far as how much time one has, only God knows that answer. Don't dwell on the past or worry about the future, just take each day that you get and give it your best shot.
 roseopal
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Where's Your Happiness Come From?
Posted: 8/21/2006 5:49:00 PM
My happiness comes from not looking back at the past, nor worrying about the future, just taking each day that God gives me and making the most of it. Being surrounded by a wonderful family and great friends who give their love unconditionally brings me happiness. If you truly are happy with the person you see in the mirror, then you are truly blessed. Another thing that brings me happiness is helping others thru volunteering.
 roseopal
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
People, of our age, alone...what do our pets say about us?
Posted: 8/6/2006 11:33:03 AM
I have been around dogs, all my life- grew up with****r spaniels but for some reason I got attached to larger dogs when I got my first german shephard- she was really smart and wonderful with the children- loved to go swimming with me in the local lake. Now I have my second doberman, very, very smart, friendly and a wonderful companion. My other dobie was a male, did not bark as much as the female that I have now and loved to go swimming with me but this female, forget it, hates the water but does like getting a bath- she will not go swimming with me but it's nice to have someone waiting for me when I am out and about and to depend on me as I am a very loving person. I would not even want to be around people who don't like animals because I think they are selfish and don't want to be bothererd with the extra work and money that they require- in return you get unconditional love. Of course, having a two legged companion would be wonderful so I will keep fishing and hope for the best. Thank God there are many of us who realize what great company our furry friends are to us.
 roseopal
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
WHAT DO YOU THINK OF SPEED DATING?????
Posted: 8/3/2006 2:40:51 PM
I am curious as to what you fellow fish think about speed dating- I have never tried it but I would think that it is better to meet someone right away in person and then decide if we want to pursue a relationship. I have been trying this internet dating for quite sometime now and I think a lot of time is wasted with a bunch of emails and talking on the phone- it's when you actually meet in person that you realize if there is any "chemistry" or not. I would like to hear your opinions on this subject- thanks! By the way, I never see speed-dating for people in my age group because I guess the younger generation think we should sit in a rocking chair all day and wait to push up daisies but I still have a lot of living to do.
 roseopal
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Silver Foxes -- Who Are Our Really Inspiring 'Older' Role Models?
Posted: 7/23/2006 10:29:24 AM
I agree with RileyRouser 100% about Sean Connery and the gal who mentioned some other hoties- Paul Newman, Richard Gere, Harrison Ford and last but not least, I would def. add James Brolin. I don't really look at them as older role models but they sure can hold their own as far as looking great for their age. For women, I must add some of the beautiful women in their 60's- Raquel Welch, Linda Gray, Donna Mills, Tina Turner, Ann-Margaret, Stefanie Powers, Cher, Linda Evans and Jacqueline Bisset, even if they have had some work done, they can well afford it and since they are in the public eye, they really depend on their looks more than the average person. Even at my age, people think I am at least 10 years younger but I never lie about my age because if one lies about age, people will wonder what else they are lying about. I certainly don't like being among the "seniors" but one has to go with the flow and accept the things we can't change -- having a positive attitude and living life to the fullest sure helps one make the most of their age.
 roseopal
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Why do people think older people are pervs?
Posted: 7/13/2006 6:26:29 PM
Just giving my opinion, like it or lump it- you took marriage vows which included IN SICKNESS AND HEALTH- I suggest you take a lot of COLD showers and take more daily naps so you can dream about sex with women young enough to be your daughter- also get more hobbies and do some volunteering so you won't have the time or the energy to be fishing for young chicks- you old rooster you!!!
 roseopal
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Experiences in Downsizing Lifestyles
Posted: 7/5/2006 12:44:12 PM
Here is what I did- I lived in a large house for 34 years- had three children and enough room for my mother who lived in her section of the house for many years --after my dad died, she came to live with me in 1977. I was in the big house from 1965 until I moved out in 1999- after my mother passed away and my children were already out on their own. Since 1999, I have never been sorry that I moved into a small house- cheaper to maintain as far as utilities, lower taxes and just fine for one person and a large dog (doberman) and the best part of all is that I have a great fenced in yard, which my dog loves- wish she could help me with the mowing :). Over the years I also have gone from a large income to a small one BUT one has to adjust to ones changes- when one has less income, one spends less but I am just as happy now as when I had the large home and large income. I am now retired and because of my low income, I am eligible for different programs that the state has for seniors and I can devote my time to do volunteer work, which I love and which can be very rewarding. THe bottom line is you must do what is best for YOU -- consider other people's opinions but in the end, you have to decide on any change of lifestyle you are willing to make.
 roseopal
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 12:54:22 PM
Well, I am going to put in my two cents worth- I personally don't think it is a good idea to bring a complete stranger to your home, whether you live alone or not- I think it is giving him the wrong idea- also knowing where you live, he could turn into a stalker. When you first meet someone, no matter how long you have emailed or talked to them on the phone, they are still a STRANGER. One should get to know the person before you invite them to your home- better to be cautious than sorry. Whoever reads my comment, good luck in your search!
 roseopal
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 43 (view)
 
dating[is meeting for coffee a date?]
Posted: 6/18/2006 6:29:48 PM
Meeting a total stranger, no matter how many times you email each other and talk on the phone, can't be considered a date- it is just two people meeting to see if there is any chemistry, if there is, they make plans to go on a date.
 
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