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tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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How can you tell you are over someone? Posted: 5/20/2009 7:53:48 AM
When you don't even need to find a rebound to get over them. You have thoughts of someone else even while still being with them. You go buck wild with friends out clubbing smiling from ear to ear cause your so happy to be free. When you realize you could do so much better and deserve better. When they try and put you down cause they are mad at you for some weird reason you just laugh and hang up the phone or block their messages online. When there is nothing left to say to them, you shut them out of your life without a second thought, can even look at their photos you two took together and it doesn't even upset you or bring back sad memory's of the good old times. Thats when you truly know your over someone.

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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Is it ok to work out twice a day? Posted: 5/20/2009 7:42:23 AM
Thanks for your help all of you!

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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Is it ok to work out twice a day? Posted: 5/19/2009 3:13:09 PM
I just started a new workout routine and its because Im trying to get back into shape since summer is basically here. (Yes I am so last minute) I am trying to do it as quickly as possible. Anyways I already went to the gym today and also planning on going again tonight. I did strengthening today on for example "the fat huge ball," and some other weird shaped objects, stretching and some cardio on the Precure machine for about 15 minutes, so total my workout was about and hour. Will I see faster results if I work out twice a day compared to once a day? Or should I just do it once daily?

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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Are guys more whipped? Posted: 11/24/2008 10:32:01 AM
^ ^ ^ LOL To RON9 above , to funny on the quote about the 6 year olds , but in so many ways true. :-)

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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question for anyone Posted: 9/19/2008 9:40:42 AM
And you would tell her why? So you can get revenge on him for what ? not telling her himself? If you think your doing everyone a favor your not, your going to be the one hurt in the end, she probably already suspects her bf is cheating and has accepted it, obviously her knowing this means she has no intention on leaving him (if this is the case) you will be the one kicked to the curve because he will leave you instead. He will leave you for getting in the way of what he obviously has no intention on leaving, you are the second best not the first. Why not do yourself a favor and leave the guy alone, dont call him don't bother his gf, ignore him and move on and stop sleeping with other womens men, where are your morals, don't worry about what he is doing, stop and ask yourself what you are doing. Why would you even want a person like this, he would do same to you.

tatalinia

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How do i make him feel better?? Posted: 8/27/2008 12:04:59 PM
Its your life, and I'm not telling you how to live it, I'm just stating some facts. Its awesome that you are loyal, that in itself is admirable, but it is not healthy for you at this age. And you could still be there for him even if not committed, you need to enjoy your youth while you can, trust me 22 won't last forever, and as the years go by the more wiser you get, I'm close to your age and I can tell you even 2 years makes a difference on how you view things. Theres a lot I look back on that I did at 22 and want to kick myself if I knew what I know 2 years later. And same will go 2 years from now and so on, I just don't want you having to kick yourself later on, so ya I may seem harsh in my last post but its cause I know at 22 no one could tell me shit either, I had all the answers. And had I have listened I would be a lot further in life then I'm now. But its your life, and if you think you are happy keep living it, just don't keep asking advice on things if you have all the answers, its no point in telling you anything if you will defend it and not really think about it. People outside of a circle usually see things you can't see, which is why we are telling you to be careful and really look at the whole picture, not just part of it. Best of luck.

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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why are weman the way they are Posted: 8/27/2008 11:44:34 AM
Well didn't you leave her first? You knew it was bound to happen after you left her. Anyways regardless its still ****ed up how she handled it, especially if it was your house and hers then she shouldn't of brought that guy there to stay if you were still a rightful owner of the house without asking you first. Not all women are like this, just the screwed up (I HAVE NO CONSCIOUS) ones are. But then again if you were a woman you could ask the same question " why are men the way they are?"

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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How do i make him feel better?? Posted: 8/27/2008 11:18:47 AM
Of all the post you agree with is the one that sounds good to your ears, and that is the one by Mustang065 . A lot of things he said is true but you are only looking at the things you want to hear, ignoring all the red signals that tell you to stop. He is really the only person on here claiming to understand what this guy is going through and stay with him, on the other hand you have more people on here saying stop wasting your life waiting for someone who will have nothing to offer you in the long run. IF you are only 22 years old then you have a long ways to go in life, and though you may think right now you have all the answers I'm here to tell you ... you are ever so so so wrong, your lonely now you will be lonelier as time goes by. And all these male friends that you hang out with including your close friend Lee are going to start looking mighty fine down the road when you realize they are available and your prince charming fairytale man is not. I can understand it if were one year, maybe even 2 years but 6 on top of another 9 is insane. You aren't married to him so I don't see a point in throwing away your youth for one guy. When you look back years from now and see how you look now vs how you will look than you will curse yourself for wasting your beauty on nothing but a mirror and wishful onlookers who never got a chance. Stop being a slave to a guy who is of no worth (ACCEPT PAIN DOWN THE ROAD), and be a slave of a better life for yourself and your future family. You claim to be a strong person, strong enough not to cheat and strong enough to be loyal, but what else are you strong in? If you know something is missing or is not right are you strong enough to let it go? Or to stubborn to face reality ? So how do you make him feel better? Hmmmm question is how can you make yourself feel better? Being a slave to his thoughts and fears or facing your own and looking at the real picture? If he really loves you, he will let you go let you live your life. If you are single when he gets out you two could continue on where you left off, but why should you stop dating and getting to know people because of a guy who screwed his life up? Why should you have to suffer and wait for something you didn't ask for?If you are afraid you will not be available to him if you two aren't together while he is still locked up, then that should be your answer to it all, that you have the ability to move on, and that maybe its not worth it in the end," love comes again. "

tatalinia

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Would you open you marriage to save it? Posted: 8/25/2008 2:55:18 PM
I have to agree with the 1st response by Bigdaddy on this post. But I cannot judge them, I just know I couldn't do it. If a marriage can't be fixed in more sensible ways why keep it going? You shouldn't have to sleep with other people in order to spice up your love life, if you need that than what is the point of being married if you can open your legs up to anyone? The marriage is pointless. " To each their own though "

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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Women proposing to men! Posted: 8/25/2008 2:34:26 PM
I guess I'm old fashion too, I could not do it, now if he took to long to do it yes I would talk about it such as hinting here and there to him , but by no means do I see myself getting on my knees looking up at him asking for his hand in marriage, it just doesn't seem right; a woman on one knee peering up at her man asking him that, way to weird. I think if it were meant for both sexes to ask one another in marriage it would of started like that from the beginning. If a woman does choose to do that then more power to them not saying I would look down on her ,but I know I just don't have the BALLS to do it. ;-)

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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another one bites the dust....... Posted: 8/21/2008 11:30:57 AM
I don't totally agree with everything you wrote but this here is true" Its a shame now a days that so many people are more about getting laid than having a meaningful relationship. Society is really getting pretty sad. " Living in LA I have learned that yes it is more about instant gratification and not something meaningful. People are more about becoming rich and living that fairy tale life they think so many stars live. They don't mind jumping in and out of bed with others but if you want anything more then that they are out the door. Society is sad when it comes to this, but it can't help it due to what is being showed by the media, that this behavior is ok, its ok to screw as many people as you like till you find the right one. I do not agree though about calling her a slut, and saying she just wants to get laid, cause who are you to really judge her? Maybe she is at a time in her life that long term just isn't an option and she doesn't want to drag you around in her drama. I would thank her for not wasting your time and find someone that wants the same as you.

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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is sex everything in a relationship? Posted: 6/26/2008 11:13:15 AM
Sex is not everything of course, but it has been the downfall of a lot of relationships, and it can be the cause of cheating in marriage due to not being fulfilled by partner. Some people have higher sex drives than others, if a partner is not as into sex as their mate it can be a problem in the long run. But by no means is sex everything , there is a lot more to a relationship then just the bedroom. Anyone who believes it is really doesn't know much about love and relationships.

tatalinia

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hooking up with ex lover 38 years later Posted: 6/26/2008 10:45:16 AM
Thats beautiful, almost like a story you read about or watch a movie about. Looks should not matter when love is there.

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out! Posted: 6/6/2008 5:03:50 PM
In some ways you are very lucky, I wish all men had a lot of stamina, most don't! But at same time I can understand how it can get tiresome too, when you find yourself thinking of what you have to do the next day or find yourself wondering off into another world and than coming back to reality and he still is there , ya I would get tired too. LOL I've been there, I know how it can be.

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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DAILY QUOTES Posted: 6/6/2008 4:48:26 PM
You win some, you lose some but you live, you live to fight another day~ quoted from a movie

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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Poem : I Whispered and other random words..... Posted: 6/6/2008 4:46:17 PM
You poem was really nice, good write.

tatalinia

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My last chance Posted: 6/3/2008 11:43:37 AM
^^^ I don't want to live that life at all being the other one your right. I will just go and have fun at the concert because its my favorite DJ playing, but I will end all ties tomrrow night, I didn't decide to go because of him, I just had an extra ticket due to a friend not being able to come, he just happens to like same DJ, so I said well hell its better than going alone.

tatalinia

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My last chance Posted: 6/3/2008 11:37:25 AM
He is marrying this girl because he is the only son of his parents, their only child the only one they could have, he feels as if he will fail them if he does not abide by their rules. In his culture family's disown their own if they do not do what they want.

tatalinia

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My last chance Posted: 6/3/2008 11:28:19 AM
Though the truth hurts I can take it. As far as booty calls go there is none, we aren't physical, as far as he and I go. The engagement he is in was arranged (some cultures are like that), not something that he hand picked. As far as if I no his girl knows if he is going to concert with me or not I do not know that part, I haven't bother to ask because I do not even know their current status of their relationship, I do not ask. I just don't want to look back on my life and think of what if! Thats all. As far as my relationship goes its over with my bf and I, so no I'm not trying to cheat on him. I wrote this post fast before leaving so I didn't write it to clearly, and I can see many interpreted it wrong. I should of written that it was arranged and that the relationship I was in is not current anymore. To many times I hear people regretting things they didn't do in their lives, passing up opportunities because of fear and what everyone else will think, now they all have stories to tell but not the type of stories that light up their faces when they tell them. I do not want to grow up and be that person, regret things I didn't do in my life cause I was a chicken shit, because I was to afraid to speak up, so this is why I wrote this post.

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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My last chance Posted: 6/3/2008 8:53:20 AM
I have a dilemma. Tomorrow night I'm going to a concert with and my ex bf . Its just me and him, we don't hang out much or talk but out of no where he is going with me to this concert. I have been in love with this guy for well over a year now, we split up because of his family, mainly his mother. During our relationship we were inseparable , we did everything together. During the past year since we have been split up I have gone my way and he has gone his, I've been in a relationship and he has his girl. Shortly after we had ended our relationship way back in April of 07 I moved out of state. We communicated back and forth every now and than but I did my best not to speak with him much, after all how things ended hurt me badly. Since moving back I have seen him a few times, I moved back in February 08, the first time I saw him was due to me calling him because my bf and I had gotten into a fight and I wanted to get away, I called my ex cause he was living close by, he came picked me up and took me to a hotel. The next day I spoke with my ex he admitted that he missed me and when he dropped me off that night he did not want to really leave. Let me just say that we had not till that night seen each other for almost a year. I never imagined I'd see him face to face again and than there he was to my rescue. So anyways as time went by a month or so later we decided to be workout buddy's, it was his idea, so there we are running again together on the beach, he is engaged and I'm still in a relationship while all this was taken place. Due to his work schedule and school schedule the working out didn't last long. Through all these encounters I never brought myself to tell him the truth about my love for him, I've always been afraid to, afraid of whats going to happen what he might say, even though he has expressed how weak he is to my touch. I just never had the nerve to go that route with him again. My question is tomrrow night we will be together again after not seeing each other for over a month or so, I feel its my last chance with him. Something is gnawing in my stomach to make a move. I don't even no where to begin with him, when he is near I lose all words and cannot find a damn thing to say, but one thing I know is that music connects us, should I make a move tomrrow night to show him what I feel ? Or should I step back forever and let him go?

tatalinia

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This is my story. Posted: 5/27/2008 9:11:25 AM
Wow that was super long but it was so entertaining that I kept reading till I got to the end. Well anyways like a few people said in the above answers girls that age are inexperienced, naive, and don't have a clue . I'm a new 24 and even I catch myself doing stupid things without thinking of other peoples feelings. So if they are younger than you its not surprising why they are acting this way, at that age people only think of themselves and what they want and the average girl in her early adulthood doesn't grow out of thinking that way that till 25 and up. Some string the good guy along till they win their prize or something better comes along, some are to scared of hurting feelings so instead they think they are doing you a favor by ignoring you, some just don't care and will tell you straight up they aren't interest, point is they are acting their age, usually if you want a woman who is a little better with her communication skills you should try dating a little older , you might be lucky and find a few that are semi mature at 22 but don't hold your breathe. I myself date a little older I find guys in my age range to be idiots. But then again the guys older then me find me to be an idiot too when I do a 360 on them(sometimes I act my age) not on purpose and remind them I'm still learning how to cross the street by myself and wipe my ass with toilet paper. I know exactly what these two girls are doing cause I have done it myself nothing I'm proud of but least you can get input of someone who has been there even recent. They dragged you along and instead of being woman enough to tell you they aren't entirely sure about you they make excuses up of why they can't get back to you. Another thought though is that who knows the immature ex bf or whatever he was to that second girl might have stole her phone and it could be why she hasn't answered. Whatever the case move on and find someone who can be wise enough to call you back when you call them or be honest with you from the get and not keep you wondering are they ok or what you might have done wrong. Just my two sense

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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Men don't like TALL women Posted: 1/23/2008 2:49:35 PM
Im 5'8 with no shoes on and 5'9 and up depending on the shoes I wear. I love my height wouldn't change it for anything, 5'8 is the perfect height, and every guy I have dated loves it. Men 5'11 an 6ft arent much taller then me, but I never seem to date a guy taller then 6'1, I guess shorter guys are cuter or at least there are more of them out there. Well technically they aren't short Iam just tall for a female. But being a female and being tall is nice, I love the feeling.

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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Lies, deception and abortion not a miscarriage Posted: 1/18/2008 2:13:36 PM
TO: AceOfSpace MESSAGE 85 you hit it right on the dot, I couldn't agree with you more .

tatalinia

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What are you looking for? Posted: 1/17/2008 6:34:28 PM
The only thing I'am looking for is ME. When I figure out who the hell I am inside and out I will have a better idea of who I want later on.

tatalinia

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Ok..what is he thinking Posted: 1/17/2008 6:10:05 PM
Stop initiating the conversations, stop showing your interested. Two dates is not enough to be wasting so much thought on a guy that obviously isn't doing the same for you. You are way to pretty anyway to be worried about one guy not digging you, so move on there are plenty other dates you are going to go on with other guys and they will be contacting you again and again. Best of luck

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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How to forget a person. Posted: 1/17/2008 12:18:39 PM
Add the class back, don't let someone get in the way of your learning and education. You need to take a deep breath go back into that class room and prove to her you can do just find without her. But honestly you cannot be upset with her because she is being honest with you by letting you know that she is in a relationship, you having feelings for her is not her fault, and yes you may be a very good guy but that cannot make up the fact that she is taken . You need to make up in your mind to get over her and do just that, get over her, but don't run from her your only making it even harder if you run into her somewhere else on campus now talk about and awkward moment that would be Anyways best of luck to you dude, don't forget there are some other nice ladies out there that are single, don't spend much time wasting it on a emotionally non available girl.

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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If You Could Go Back and Fix ONE Thing You Regret .......... Posted: 1/16/2008 1:41:28 PM
After reading over everyones remarks and comments as well as their storys and non regrets I would have to say I agree with DONTMAKECOOKIES post the most. A lot of people on here say they don't regret anything and he made a good point that its just cause you don't think about it. I just listed one of my many regrets, and yes its okay to have regrets as long as you know there is a brighter future and can continue on with your life. I have learned at a very early age that you can learn to live through pain but shoving everything you did wrong in the back burner to forget about it does not mean that it still WONT effect you today. It does! There are things that are going to remind me of things I did in the past that will happen to me in the future and I can sit here and pretend I will have no regrets when I remember these things, but I know as a human and one with a conscious that I will think back to that time. I always go about looking at every situation with a positive outcome and even a lesson learned but that does not for once change the fact that it was what it was even if something positive came from it later I will still remember that it was not something I enjoyed going through at that time in my life. So I' am not buying into half the story's about having no regrets, because no one ever ever ever lives that perfect life even if life is good in the present and may be even better in the future ; regardless of how your past helped make a huge factor in that does not mean it was not a negative experience that makes you shiver when you think about it and make you shake your head and ask why you did not know what you know now back than. I take my regrets I have and fix my future by not making the same mistakes over and over again . The positive thing I can say from past mistakes is that I' am no longer a naive fruit cake to the lies and crap people try to buy you into when your innocent.

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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If You Could Go Back and Fix ONE Thing You Regret .......... Posted: 1/12/2008 10:14:20 AM
If you could go back and fix one thing "YOU" regret doing in your life what would it be? Do you think if it had been different your life might be different now? Did you learn from it if so what did you learn? For me it is ever losing my virginity, I wish I would of known to save it for marriage. Though I'am 23 and still have a lot to learn in life I listen to others and try and learn from their mistakes as well as my own, so I won't keep tripping and falling on my face .

tatalinia

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Guy wanted to shower with me Posted: 1/12/2008 9:48:58 AM
Is this a serious question? O my gosh to funny! Girl come on now I know you no better! Guys are going to be guys regardless if he likes you or just wants to do you . My word of advice, if you want to know if a man likes you , KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED WHEN YOU FIRST MEET HIM! then you don't have to worry about does he just want you for sex or does he really like you!

tatalinia

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Women are Hypocrites! Posted: 1/11/2008 3:05:53 PM
Can't we all just stop complaining about eachothers genders and just ACCEPT the fact that we are all FU#KING ***holeS TO EACHOTHER, its not going to stop, and posting this is just starting another war between women and men. Each gender has its flaws and men started them way back in time before any of our ass's were thought of because of their laws and breaking of laws, in the end everyone follows after the man and now everyone thinks its equal to be bad to the other gender just cause so and so is doing it. If we stopped trying to get back at eachother there wouldn't be any hypocrites to begin with.

tatalinia

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Should I tell his wife? Posted: 1/7/2008 2:15:24 PM
What goes around comes back around, yes it hurts and it sucks that there are people out there like this guy, but by trying to get back at him you will end up hurting yourself, let it go move on, learn from your mistakes but don't tell his wife, she will find out on her own or maybe she already knows and chooses to stay with the whore. You will be the bigger person by letting it go, and whatever hes out there doing right now trust me it will come back to get him one day soon; it always does.

tatalinia

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Who has it tougher when it comes to dating? Posted: 12/29/2007 10:29:56 AM
I think its obvious who has it the worst, we can argue back and forth on who doesn't but its a fact that men have it harder, women have more of a choice of picking and choosing, and usually when its all said and done its the woman who has chosen the guy, not the other way around, NOT to say that women don't have it hard because we do, but there is no equal ground between the two sexes, men have it worse I think overall men are judged faster then a woman is, as long as a girl looks good a man is happy right away, but a man can have the whole package yet before he even speaks a word we females are already making our accusations about him without even saying hi, so he has to go out of his way to impress us enough to even get us to go on a date with him and not to mention just getting our number. A simple way of testing who has it worse , send a group of girls in a club and the goal is for them to get as many numbers as they can, send a group of guys in as well, see who comes out with the most numbers, hands down the women will. Another way is just send the two groups in and they cannot get numbers from others by asking but can receive them, see who comes out with the most, females will. One thing women don't usually have to do and that is impress a guy, but a guy has to get creative and do something out of the ordinary to impress the average woman unless the woman is just looking to take someone home that night and is willing, but usually the average woman is just out to have fun because we all know at anytime we can take a guy home, a guy on the other hand has to do something totally amazing to get the same affect out of a woman ie. getting one to come home with him at the end of the night. " Just my two sense"

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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Broken Heart from a guys point of view Posted: 11/26/2007 8:29:33 PM
Iam sorry to hear of your heartbreak, trust me we all have had that, and yes you can love again, I know what its like Iam in your shoes too, just I was not married to anyone thank God, but you have not moved on in a long time compared to my situation which has only been since April, I question will I ever feel again either, but deep down inside I know one day someone will knock me off my feet again, but TIME is the best healer and when the right time comes for you to be in love again she will come, she will come knocking on your door when you least expect it. Best thing for you to do is just focus on yourself and your goals, get out there get to know YOU, don't let a woman be what you base your happiness on, let her just be another star in your sky to smile about . Best of luck.

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

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Americans prefer dating foreigners? Posted: 11/4/2007 11:38:51 AM
I love foreign men, they are different but most of all they are cultured in ways an american man can never compare. A foreign guy always has a story to tell, and american guy does not tell me anything I have not already seen or done myself in this country. I like to broaden my horizons and I find you can learn a lot by knowing people that are not originally from here. But don't get me wrong " regardless of what country you are from men will be men " they all share that in common. I've seen both sides of the train tracks.

tatalinia

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Desperate Black Men Posted: 10/31/2007 12:22:51 PM
White women can have ALL the black men as far as I'm concerned!

tatalinia

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Every Ghost Has Its Past Posted: 9/3/2007 6:33:20 AM
Had I had known tomorrow would be bittersweet memories of your beautiful smile peering down at me Had I had known when I closed my eyes your face would be there to comfort my nights Had I had known I would love you then maybe I would of also known you would kill the love we had My heart would of been prepared for the fate of our union falling And every ghost has its past I sure have mine and its left lifeless with my last moments with you Siting out by the cliffs I await the day when you will join me here And the mist of our love will be made whole again When your as lifeless as you left me then too will you know what I feel I took upon drastic measures to reach the stars for you and yes I brought you one back Now its up to you to find where I have hid it, in a precious area in my heart, its buried deep Don't come near me to touch me Surely you will fall to your death to soon Stay back where you are your time will come soon enough Don't cry for me I will be alright Your forgiven, I know it would of not happened had it not meant to be That I would be a formless memory for your days ahead without me And when the nights are cold an wet I take it upon myself to warm my soul with the one thing you left on my dusty grave The red blanket you gave me the day before I passed When you think you can't make it any longer without me Look to the sky and you will find me I will always be there with you no matter what you go through the good and the bad And when the sky turns dark with rain Its just my showers of love washing over you, to remind you that I still love you And every ghost has its past I sure have mine and its left lifeless with my last moments with you

tatalinia

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Backburner Girl Posted: 7/31/2007 3:39:20 PM
people that do the dirt always end up running back to the person who actually cared for them more then anyone else would ever care for them, after they have done their dirt and got hurt from it or lost what they thought was worth leaving you for , they come crawling back , don't look at is as always being second choice, look at it as this... you were the good thing in the first place, they ****ed up and realized it, but when they come crawling back its you who can have the last laugh by hanging up the phone in their face and moving on with your life. People always go back to the one who loved them the most, but if you are smart you will teach them a lesson and not take them back.

tatalinia

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Is Settling Really A Good Idea? Posted: 7/21/2007 1:08:07 AM
Never settle, because you will never be fulfilled in that relationship. You will always have your eye open for something better, and you will just envy those who have what you long for. Go after what you want, that way you will be happy and satisfied (at least for a while ) As humans once we get what we want we grow tired of it and wish for something even better, we are never satisfied.

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 165 (view)

Will there be a world war III? Posted: 7/21/2007 12:55:02 AM
to the guy with the profile name Late ^^^ that is honestly the longest reply I have ever seen DAMN! wow

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

Dreams do they really mean something? Posted: 7/20/2007 5:52:53 PM
LOL , maybe i will drink a glass of wine tonight haha. But know im not obsessed with my ex, its just we were best of friends and did everything together, an when I say everything I mean literally almost everything, the break up was unexpected and I knew it was not his doing only ,because just a day before the break up everything was great between us, he had taken me to disneyland for my birthday , taken photos of us together and was constantly talking of future plans between us . Our last day together was the day he took me out for my birthday and then a day later we broke up, and I realized it had a lot to do with his mother, because he was in tears as we broke up. Anyways like I said I dream of him regardless and I have started dating again and enjoying others company, I don't see why hes still popping up in my head while I sleep. But then again he claims he still misses me so much.

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 1 (view)

Dreams do they really mean something? Posted: 7/20/2007 3:09:01 PM
So 3 months ago my ex and i broke up, it was for reasons that aren't as common as most, though it hurt, I have moved on for most part, I started dating others and getting to know new people, even moved thousands of miles away, not because of him but the moving part just happened. But even though I have moved away at night I dream of him, almost every night, and its killing me, I know I still love him, but Iam doing my best to live my life, meet new people, enjoy what is there the best I can, but I still dream of him almost every night. Do dreams have meanings? I dream of him constantly yet not always thinking of him daily or during the day. Its something I can't control, I feel helpless, cause it seems know matter how far away I let myself get from him he is there, to remind me of what we once had. And when I wake up its him there by my side haunting me. We broke up for religious reasons and culture reasons, because the pressure of his parents and his religion group, I have given up and let go , but I still love him, but I know it will never work. He says he still thinks of me and misses me, but regardless why after so long can't I just move on? I have met great people, yet no matter how great they are in the end I still dream of him, think of him constantly . Should I just be honest with him and try and get back with him and work things out, or live my life in misery even though Iam trying my best to move on?

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 34 (view)

Revenge? Yes or No? Posted: 7/17/2007 5:08:22 PM
Those who have wronged you, in the end the pain they once caused you will come back to haunt them( not always in the same way, but in a worse way) . What goes around comes back around, thats not a myth its a fact. If you do not want someone to flake on you with money you have loaned them don't do it to them, cause sometimes things come back in a worse way when you call yourself hurting someone. (do unto others as you wish them to do unto you) See once you give back the money (WHEN U CAN) you will have a clear and clean conscious, you can say you were a good woman to him. In the end he will look back one day and regret what he has done to you, it always happens. But by then you will have moved on Iam sure of it.

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

i`ve been seeing my boyfriend for 4 months Posted: 6/28/2007 7:03:58 AM
wow, can't believe your ruining your life for someone like that, you are so young to be having a child, you shouldnt be having his child. 4 months is way to short, you are stuck with his seed for the next 18 years plus. You should think that through before having his baby.

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 1 (view)

THINK ABOUT IT Posted: 6/25/2007 7:01:37 AM
Passing through the lively hood of the dawn and we look back and wonder what could have been done pieces falling into our hands now with answers but when needed in the past nothing made sense Passions of over turned unions bliss into view Over thrown ruptures of candy coated follows as we set forth for a day in the sun with clouds looming over Scratching your head you ask does it make sense, this? But does any of it make sense When waking up daily and wondering couldn't there be more When tossing and turning in the night uncomfortable with your life you ask," why worse then better?" One moment happy but most part sad When you planned things so carefully in the past at least you had When goals and dreams were high as a kite you gloated happily with your life But now after overachieving it all you lay here in silence due to your fall and wonder in the end is unhappiness all that your owed after working so diligently to get to where you are Seeing this daily as I analyze many walking back and forth with their little black suite cases little black coats and jackets of success and then they go running back home for a glass of liqueur And you ask so this is finesse? Young and naive to maybe what is true I sit here in wonder of what I can do Do I follow the rest ? Or stand up for what is a dream and fight for what I see It can't be covered in ice cream and goodies Nothing is easy, but happiness can be sought If doing in what you truly believe? So in wonder I ask myself follow the pack Or follow my back? Will I be placed six feet under with memories pasted above ceilings of all times with glory? Or another dead family member with flowers thrown reluctantly over my grave in pity? So maybe difference is good , the uncommon ones But in the end they are the ones who are remembered And not just another dead soul being laid to rest with nothing left to show but a bunch of kids and a bank account filled with stress due to overworking yourself which in turn, returned you to dust a.s.k

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 1 (view)

Reasonings Unknown , Why Things Can't Be Posted: 6/23/2007 12:33:38 AM
So this is what its like to grieve like losing a loved one to death each day fighting to stay intact with what is real what we can feel in our lives of the moment thinking back to the yesterdays when nothing mattered in the world but our two beating hearts in the dark as we shared our moments with eachother So I say I have moved on found a new lover as you have done but not for one moment do I forget who you are what you were in my life not for a second do I forget what its like to look into your eyes and turn away with blush because you entrance me by your stare My dreams haunt me in the night causing me to toss and turn as if I have done wrong tears have stopped falling because I found my true calling and have drowned myself in my new love for life, my new love for another While all is great and dandy there you are still walking beside me in my dreams no words to express the silence we share your thoughts go unheard but yes you're still there I flushed you in the back of my mind covered you up with new memories are you dead already and Iam in denial? Is this grief of losing you? I don't recall you being six feet under Of all the things said in the end how will it feel? Do we turn from what we know to rejoice in what is here can I bare to understand the reasoning behind it all? Is love sometimes thrown away because of tales untold and we must obey what our role is in this life and who we are? So hard at first to understand but now I know the truth behind it all, the reason behind our fall When all is said and done don't look back don't look back at me for I'am your stumble don't want to be held responsible for unhappiness don't want to bear bringing up what was once there So with one last tear I share "Ashes to ashes , dust to dust " I take what was once walk it to the edge and let it go As we sit by the cliff and watch the wind sweep the past away don't for one second think its all okay, for as the death of a lover or a death of a friend memories stick with us til the very end So we walk back into our personal lives start living again, smiling,laughing,crying all of the above one thing is for sure ; if found in the same room once again be it I with him, and you with her our eyes will sweep into a lock of memories gone unheard and no one will know of that past accept you and me as we continue on trying to live out our misery For reasons unknown due to our daily commands we never know why life chooses our fate for us and never once leaves it in our hands

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 1 (view)

SEE YOU ON THAT DAY Posted: 5/23/2007 9:16:56 AM
Can I find it in my heart to forgive Each day fighting with breaking down I try so hard to forget your ways They haunt me when I sleep I do not want to be afraid But inside Iam dying from what you did You took a piece from me my love and I don't see you returning it anytime soon They say revenge is not for us to decide But if you died tonight I would not shed a tear Anguished by the misery you caused I toss and turn in my bed Ready to explode , but I remain calm Please I rather love you then hate you But I cannot control my fury you caused And knowing my situation is unfixable You have left me so helpless I lay here cut by your sword Crippled with anger , I wish you could see me while I lay on my death bed But you ran away to afraid to look back Knowing you would crumble from your mistake You bury your pain by destroying another so you leave me breathless and run away Im tired and my time is short I only look to the sky in hopes that one day , one day soon you will see what you did to me was not forgotten And that someone above was looking down Your time will come but I won't be around For its time I move on And thanks to you I shed my last tear Because never again will I feel this pain Of a twisting sword in my heart "Beautiful , Beautiful stars above Do not forget me, do not let me go forgotten And at night when he sleeps Let the pain he braught me drench him in sweat if happiness never finds him again that is sweeter then any womb he ever gave That truly is greater then any pain I give" Relief at last I breathe my last breath Im cut, but cut by the grace of revenge and no sooner have I drifted away I will look over to see him laying by my side A.S.K

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 41 (view)

PLENTYOFFISH VEGAS WEDDING... LIVE!!! Posted: 12/12/2006 2:17:33 PM
congradulations!!!!!!!!!

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 98 (view)

how many emails do you girls get? Posted: 11/27/2006 10:32:51 AM
Way to damn many, I try to be fair and answer them all but almost impossible. But can't complain because there are many who get nothing.

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 1 (view)

Emptiness ( A poem) JUST ONE OF THOSE DAYS Posted: 11/3/2006 1:58:26 PM
EMPTINESS Im in a state Im in a trance I need to get away an hide What have I done that Im so far down in a dungeon Where is it that I made a mistake so vast that I deserve this life? Why is it that I only see you on the inside and I look in from the out? So this is it, I stand alone Alone an plead my case The jury ready to give its verdict And I await shaken of my punishment Running my fingures through my curls I look up and ask God why me? Sleeping through half my life Stead of fighting the challanging roads ahead I let it all slide thinking I had time Now shaken by the reality of it all I realize where I fell short and where I will fall Tears of regret dribble down my face Empty handed with nothing left but my mistakes I lean on time and hold on hoping for a miracle Im young you say with many years ahead of me Yet why do I feel like an old lady with nothing left but my past The only smile on my face Was when you stepped into my life Wiping yet some of my pain away But even your day will come where you will leave me standing In the middle of the ocean with no boat awaiting And we all know my fear is of drowning

tatalinia

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 1 (view)

The Mistress Posted: 9/30/2006 11:20:13 AM
frieghtened like a feather picked hen i stand awaiting the day of my nightmare coming true layin awake in the middle of the night time tickin away doom day comes left with only one decision to make walk away from what i love , you i was just the moment til the true love of your life came home to set you free i was here holding the key til she takes it out of my hand now left stranded on the side of the road she takes my life an walks into the sunset with you to just let it go with accusations you claim it would never be this way but my intuition will have no other way i can not wait for the day to arrive packing my small heart into a suitecase i try an carrie on with my life so many options so many choices but what i chose was to love you can't imagine living to love again after this you lay sleep next to me as i write our goodbyes on a sheet of paper please forgive me as the tide comes in i go out into the deep sea away from all i knew an that was you sorry i leave no notice behind but i never asked to be the mistress THE EVENTS OF THIS POEM ARE FICTIONAL

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