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carolyn1960

Joined: 5/16/2006

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all guys wants from me is sex.. but not a relationship... why is that? Posted: 9/20/2008 2:47:28 PM
Too damn right you're better than that and deserve more, we all do. I have found the same problem with one of my ex's, he's dating someone and still wants me in his bed cos I'm, as he says "so good in bed and we fit together", but he doesn't want more than that. Sometimes it's hard to resist when you find you're without someone special in your life, but I believe that ther IS someone out ther somewhere for all of us, we just have to take time to find them. Push them all to the kerb and keep looking, you will find someone who derserves you and will cherish you.

carolyn1960

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 250 (view)

when is a man in love? Posted: 9/6/2008 2:32:42 PM
As someone has already stated there are many levels to love but in my opinion "love is" when he accrpets you with all your faults but wont ask you to change, when he's there for all the bad times as well as the good - not just to make you smile but to listen, when times are hard he will be there for you to depend on. All the other usual things too like sitting at your feet watching you, taking time to make you feel feminine and beautiful, buying simple presents just because he feels you would like them, calling to say he misses you. Mostly, when a guy says he loves you ( and means it ) you can see in the eyes and from the tone of voice whether he really means it. Only you will be able to tell if a guy loves you or not, so good luck and congrats if you've found it already.

carolyn1960

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 208 (view)

Did I overreact? Posted: 8/29/2008 2:11:53 PM
positiveg541.....not very sensible but I just love the act. If she could not be bothered to take them with her she obviously thought so little of them so I would have probably dumpted them in a trash bin somewhere. Having said that it was very funny. Hope you've moved on since then and found someone a little more less bunny boilerish.

carolyn1960

Joined: 5/16/2006

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OMG!!! After 6 months, I finally found my fish!!!!!!!!!!!! Posted: 6/22/2007 2:59:58 PM
Bloody hell!!! Does that mean that I have to move to Florida to find someone on POF? Been on here for over a year and only met 1 or 2 people off here and for the last few weeks not even had a message. Glad you found your soul mate....lol. Good luck to you both.

carolyn1960

Joined: 5/16/2006

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Always a FWB, never a girlfriend!! Posted: 6/2/2007 2:04:08 PM
I am sorry to say that the guys I have chatted to on any of the sites I am on (and thats 3) have all wanted the same thing - which is casual sex nothing more. Today that seems to be all that guys want. Cnan't seem to find one that wants to have a relationship or just normal dating. I keep being told that "someone will turn up" but being 46 - soon to be 47 - I am beginning to think that maybe I should just go with the casaul thing. But then saying that it's not who I am. I would suggest that you talk to your "friend" tell him that you like him more than just a friend and would like to take things further. If he does not seem interested then you have not wasted time on someone who is not committed to you in a relationship. Good luck and hope he turns out to be what you are looking for.

carolyn1960

Joined: 5/16/2006

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STOOD UP BUT WHY? Posted: 6/1/2007 1:51:11 PM
Well I have been stood up 3 times now, twice by the same person. Same as you mystacall, we sent text messages to each other every day and he was full on for 2 weeks before we actually met. Everyday he would message me at least 20 times. Even on the day of the meet and 10 minutes before the meet time he was texting me saying he could not wait to meet me, I got to where we arranged and waited for about 20 minutes. Then I sent 1 message t0 say ask where he was and he sent one back 5 minutes later to say he had to go home as he felt ill. Ok, I thought and sent a message hoping he got well soon. A few days later me messaged me online to arrange another meet. Again he sent text after text on a daily basis with the same thing "really looking forward to meeting you, you look really great, sexy" all that shit. I wait at the designated place for half an hour and then sent him a text saying ok - once again you're a no show - thanks. He had the cheek to message me online, 1 week later, to say I looked nothing like my profile pic - how the hell could he tell that when he never even showed up. The upshot of this was that I sent messages back telling him to get lost. For the next 3 weeks he kept sending emails asking to arrange another meet. Needless to say he was told in no uncertain terms to lose himself up a part of his anatomy. It seems some guys get their kicks out of making arrangements to meet someone then laughing their arses off thinking about them standing around waiting for them, knowing they are not going to show. Do not take any notice of these AH's - they are just not worth your time and energy to think badly of them. Hope you finally meet someone who has the good manners we females have and turns up. Good luck for the future and best wishes. Carolyn

carolyn1960

Joined: 5/16/2006

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I miss her so much! Posted: 3/23/2007 3:54:38 PM
I'm sorry you lost someone so special on a special day for you, and as long as you told her at least once in her life that you loved her she will remember that always. Being a grandmother myself I cherish every word my grankids say to me and tell them every time I see them just how much I love them. The best bits we learn in life seem to come from our grandmothers they have the wisdome to teach us nearly all we need to know in how to deal with things that life will throw us. Hope you find someone to help you fill the whole she has left. Best Wishes Carolyn

carolyn1960

Joined: 5/16/2006

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What do you think about this? Not sure where to post this so .. under what forum .. Posted: 2/4/2007 5:37:07 AM
Hi theone4u2 First of all you have done nothing wrong, someone sent you a message and you replied; requesting detials of who they were. When he replied with the st he did that is his problem and not yours. Secondly - I am afraid you get some jerks on here who have this attitude and worse. Don't let them faze you. Keep doing what you are doing and just learn to weed out the prats and move on. I have had some idiots on here myself and if they start like that then I block all contact from them. Do the same girl. They are NOT worth your time or thoughts. Good luck for the future and hope you don't get any more a*holes like that.

carolyn1960

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

Help a single guy that can't cook out Posted: 1/30/2007 12:04:13 PM
You could cook sausage casserole, spag bol, chicken kiev, currys, in fact anything you want nowadays, either from scratch or with the help of some cook in sauces.

carolyn1960

Joined: 5/16/2006

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Falling Hard..... Posted: 1/29/2007 1:25:55 PM
I have been in this situation and girl you need to get out now before you all hard. I know it will be hard, I still suffer coz we are still "good friends", but in the end he is not going to commit while he knows he has someone to fall back on. I appreciate how you must feel about him but in the long run, being a bit hurt now and leaving, to being devastated when he ends it will hurt like you cant believe. I hope you have the strength to do what you must to stop the heartache before it gets too bad. My thoughts are with you. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

carolyn1960

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 119 (view)

Women on POF have standards way too high Posted: 1/3/2007 12:16:00 PM
I must say that any message I get from a guy on POF I have responded to - I did make the mistake of doing a bit of housework to delete some old messages and inadvertently delete a message that I had not looked at and the guy sent me a couple of mails worth of abuse. God anyone can make a mistake...ok. It does not take a few minutes to reply to someone and if after chatting you dont like them then just say so and move on. After all - is that not the reason we are on here - to get messages from guys! Hang in there Roberte1971 I am sure someone will be nice to you.

carolyn1960

Joined: 5/16/2006

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Anyone care to explain this one? Posted: 1/3/2007 12:11:29 PM
Why worry aprincelyfrog, girl like that is just not worth your time. I agree with you if I dont like a profile I do not send them a message telling them so, but can see how annoying it would be to get one. So if anyone out there does not like my profile, skip it unless you want to see yourself on a forum... All first dates should be over coffee/tea whatever - nice and simple. Hope you find your princess.

carolyn1960

Joined: 5/16/2006

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Wanting more than just casual sex on a first date. Posted: 12/30/2006 3:49:36 PM
All the time I have been on this site all I seem to attract are guys who either want to meet immediately for sex or after you have spoken to them for a couple of hours they seem to say "gotta go now, speak to you later" then you don't hear from them again. What is going on. Do we have to give it up on the first date or agree to it before we have even met you. Are all guys so shallow like that? Why can't we talk on here, get a pic, arrange a meeting then see whethere we like each other first before getting into bed. Hope someone can give me the answer to this coz I am starting to doubt that I have anything to give to anyone any more. Happy New Year to anyone who reads this. XX

carolyn1960

Joined: 5/16/2006

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I need to survey your impressions of this, please? Posted: 12/29/2006 10:55:21 AM
I'm sorry to say this Penpalgirl but he says he loves you and is committed but his actions prove that once again a man will say what he wants to get what he wants. Some men are true to only saying they love you when they really mean it, but some say they love you but really mean they love being, talking with you but - and this is the best bit - they are not "in love" with you. With all that is going on in your life I would suggest that you concentrate on getting your schooling over with and the health worries of your father do take priority over this man who has no idea of what "being a friend" means to a woman. I hope you have the strength to deal with this and wish you all the luck I can send at this, your most desperate time. Keep strong girl, you are worth it.

carolyn1960

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 290 (view)

are all the guys on here looking for sex? Posted: 12/29/2006 10:33:08 AM
I agree with you Branlynn - the only guys I have met on here so far are only intersted in a one night stand. As long as they get what they want they are not interested in getting involved with a woman, suppose they are just too SCARED of us. Would be nice to think that someone on this site will take our searching seriously and commit to either meeting, or sending a pic with a view to maybe going further than just a quick one night fumble. But I won't hold my breath. Come on guys - prove us girls wrong if you dare.

carolyn1960

Joined: 5/16/2006

Msg: 141 (view)

Why are older women not into younger guys??? Posted: 12/24/2006 10:18:41 AM
Hello Bomber Well it depends on ow old you are going out with. If you are looking for someone in their 20-30's then probably not too much of a problem if the woman is ok with a younger man, but if you are going for older then probably to do with the fact they may have children of your age and would seem wrong. For myself I do not have an issue with younger men but me being 46 and if a guy was 19 and wanted to have a relationship it would be kinda weird. Hang in there Bomber, you will, in time find someone who does not see the age but the person behind it. Good luck and happy hunting. Merry Christmas and yes I have the green banana.

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