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Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder) Posted: 3/22/2007 7:20:35 PM
Why do people receive diagnoses? Because a set of symptoms, accurately or vaguely described, are apparently interfering with some aspect of that person's life, as defined by that person, and enough people in the psych/medical field have agreed that that combination of experience can be tossed into the DMV-IV. What's up with all the stigma? If there are strategies for experiencing life that someone hasn't yet explored, a label, right or wrong, may be a route to get that experience, that level of conversation, that exposure to being accepted unconditionally ( this includes conflict - which can be useful, and most of clear clear boundaries about where Person A stops and Person B ends).....and the chance to experience what being related to is all about.... People get to change over time. Don't we? My belief is that living makes you an expert on your kind of living. As for BPD...without a label ...that just means living with an unpredictable emotional barometer....sometimes one's inside feels horrendous, and the barometer says it is supposed to be a "bit sad"....that's all the real and perceived abandonment is about... too many "trained" and expert folk throw pianos in the flames to fuel the fire around BPD - most evil clients ever...etc. What's that? Time to take a break, and turn on some music........what happens if a therapist actually believes a group of BPD-like or labeled people are capable ....what if that group is told that anything that is working against them will also be their greatest source of strength in the future.... takes a lot of strength and persistance to continually expect abandonment....and in a long term relationship, persistance just may be a useful little quality to have around. walking on eggshells, living in glass houses....what about just saying its good enough....life is a pleasure, complex. beautiful, but a pleasure....and happy can be a lot of things more than a buzzed out feeling of perfect control /getting all you want. lots is possible.

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Not your ordinary profile Posted: 3/22/2007 3:33:37 PM
It's brilliant.

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Some feedback would be great! Posted: 6/12/2006 1:16:23 PM
It's a kaleidoscope. More I see it - the more I see in it.

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Dating Someone On Welfare ** Posted: 6/6/2006 9:09:24 PM
Dating - as in sharing time, building trust and understanding, emotional closeness - feelin pumped and overjoyed by a person who gets it about me too! - that's a beautiful thing - so, yes to the question that wove this thread. I've always been more attracted to individuals than demographics. .....that's me - The individual described in the initial post - sounds great - says a lot about a person who can see that solution could work personally - comfortable adult company could contribute to quality of life. How much unearned stigma does anyone need. Parents are people - people with children - ....some people take better, more joyous care of kids when a little nurturing comes from outside - that's not an income dependent situation. - here's some figures known to me - goes along with Jenni's point. : $2,400 plus rent/year - sounds accurate for most sole support moms or dads I am aware of. ...rental units available for the $500 that is "approved" for rent ... any bedrooms come with that ? Important to know that low-income families - Ontario Works (welfare)/social assistance - can receive 1/2 to 1/3 less of their baby bonus and support payments are also deducted as income - Think of trying to cover food costs for any infants/kids with food allergies and sensitivities - soy or rice alternatives - think of all the super non-nutritious food available at food banks..... Bring on the love.

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