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creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

Msg: 50 (view)

Trying a different approach Posted: 11/8/2009 4:45:39 AM
FC=First contact. facepalm I should have known that, too. I hadn't looked at your profile, so I guess I figured that you weren't from down here. Florida, hm? That's a special kind of crazy ;). Then again, so is the backwoods of Georgia. I've never heard of Cape Coral. Is that on the panhandle?

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Trying a different approach Posted: 11/6/2009 1:48:01 PM
1. But that's EXACTLY what DeviantArt is! 2. I just took it out, especially seeing that it's already the 6th, and I haven't even started. 3. Done. 4. Done. 5. I wouldn't exactly say that it's rewarding, but that's a whole 'nother issue. I'll just say that I love it and leave it at that. 6. I'll try to think of something, though I might not use that. It sounds a little condescending to me, even if it is playful. Still, I'll think about it. 7. Yeah, I did. Seriously, I'm working on all that I've got. Maybe I'm just not attractive in them? Who knows. This ain't turning into one of THOSE threads, though, so don't worry. 8. Glad you like it. Still thinking of something for the headline. I'm gonna try an obscure Allen Ginsberg line. I figure, if nothing else, I can go for the "What the heck is that?" appeal.

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Trying a different approach Posted: 11/5/2009 8:31:22 PM
This is what I get for not checking my thread in ages. I just assumed that the thing died and no one else posted, so I went ahead and changed my profile around on my own (I hated what it said before--for mostly the same reasons you all mentioned). DenverSky: Always good to hear from you. In my latest edit I inadvertently took care of points 1-5. For point 6, I just realized that I neglected to do that. I always get cautious about talking about such things, though. I don't want to limit myself by saying that I only want one type of girl. I tend to be attracted to the nerdy, bookwormish types, but that certainly doesn't mean that I would turn down any other type of girl just because of that. Any ideas how I could incorporate that into my profile without being negative? As for number 8, I didn't think it was possible to change that. Maybe it is, and I haven't looked hard enough. Still struggling with the headline, but that's always a battle for me. Lion: I wasn't sure what you were talking about in your first post. You must've been referring to my question about the messages. You're exactly right, though I'm also a little confused as to what you're referring to. By the way, what are "FC Emails"? I never perceived you as being mean. I suppose it helps that I agree with everything you say. I think I just slapped that last one up there because I couldn't think of anything good to write. At least I was able to get a little bit better of a flow with this one. P.S. Down here in the South, we don't go to "Mass." We go to the "meetin' house." ;)

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Trying a different approach Posted: 11/1/2009 9:30:52 AM
Okay, I've decided to change mine around seeing that my last attempt didn't get many results at all. Check it out now and see what you guys think.

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/29/2009 8:53:07 PM
Hmm...Funny. I didn't think anyone actually liked that picture much. That's why I took it down.

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/29/2009 7:44:03 PM
Okay, it's been a week, and I've probably gotten very few responses. Certainly far fewer than I usually get, so I think it's time to scrap my current approach and go for something a little more traditional. I'm humble enough to admit when I'm wrong. I've tried it, so now I know it doesn't work. I'll take some time to draft something better when I'm not already busy with work. In the meantime, I did add a new pic. Well, not new. I've had it on POF before, but I took it off because I thought some girls wouldn't like the hat. But at least I'm smiling in it, right?

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Botany/Agriculture Question Posted: 10/25/2009 12:09:56 PM
Duly noted. I don't own a compass, but watching the path of the sun, I'd guess that it probably faces towards the Northwest. It seems to get a fair amount of sunlight as the sun basically crosses over it and in a direction where the trees wouldn't really be blocking it. I definitely think I'm going to have to condition the soil. It does look pretty red, so I imagine it could do with something to help with drainage.

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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I am a uniformed worker. Posted: 10/25/2009 11:36:40 AM
Just for the record, I don't think it's attention seeking. Not sure why people delete some threads. I don't think, though, that they just do it for fun. Perhaps they just take some things way too seriously. All that aside, I'd agree with the assertions about the environment. At work, there's no way of knowing that you're single, looking for dates, or anything like that. What are you doing when you're showing interest? It could be that either you or they are misinterpreting something. Personally, I think you're attractive on your photo--Of course, that's about all I can go by because I can't understand a word of your profile (I don't speak French), and I've seen girls make a uniform look attractive. I just wouldn't go up to one, though, because they're working, and I wouldn't want to bother one at work.

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/25/2009 9:13:01 AM
Update: Just added a new picture. Not much of a smile in it as I was looking into the sun, but the lighting is much brighter (again, because of the whole sun thing).

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Am I just too geeky? Posted: 10/25/2009 8:47:33 AM
Flowing prose and erudition should be a turn-on, not a turn off. Of course, you and I are looking for two different things, but many of the women's profiles that I see actaully seem to complain that not enough people message them using correct grammar/syntax. I would presume that many of the men feel the same way. As mentioned in a previous reply, you get what you advertise for. Now, it's just a matter of being patient. That being said, you are a little wordy. On one of your pictures, I would remove this line: "(And yes, this caption did include an apostrophe. The site removed it. Lazy coding. I know whereof I speak.)" It doesn't really add anything of substance. And in your profile, I'd take out these lines: "So, this is where I write something interesting." Yes, we know. Don't tell us that you're going to write something interesting. Just write something interesting. That, by the way, does not qualify as interesting. "(Well, anything's possible, but some things are less likely than others.) " Redundant. "(well, it's better than working)." Not too bad, but it interrupts your flow. I vote to remove it. "Actually, I do enjoy writing code." Change to "I enjoy writing code." and maybe move it around to some other parts of that paragraph. Remember the words of Henry David Thoreau: Simplify, simplify, simplify. "As you may have guessed, I'm a little weird. But probably not as weird as I sometimes think I am." Most people would see this as you being self-critical. Take it out. If they think you're weird from what you've written by this point, then they will arrive at that conclusion without you having to tell them so. Putting this in there, though, makes it seem like you might think that's a bad thing. "I want .... What do I want?" Remove this. Keep everything that proceeds it. Hope that helps. Best of luck.

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Botany/Agriculture Question Posted: 10/25/2009 8:15:01 AM
I'm above the fall line in GA, so it's mostly red clay. I've actually considered terracing. All I have are hand tools, but I've got all winter, so I've got time before planting. I suck at math, but I'll take a shot at your equation. 4 inch rise over 12 inch run times 100 means roughly a 33% grade.

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Botany/Agriculture Question Posted: 10/25/2009 7:37:48 AM
Since I presume botany is a science, I figure that a question about gardening would probably best fit here. Feel free to move/delete the thread of this is otherwise. I won't be offended. Promise! Anyway, since it's winter, I'm working on clearing out some brush behind my house to put in a vegetable garden come next spring. I was planning on putting it in one area to the side of my house, but I don't want to dig so close to my septic tank, so I've changed my mind. Theres a part behind my house that still gets a decent amount of sunlight and is reasonably clear of trees. The only issue is that much of it is hillside, and there are parts that, while not fairly steep, may prove troublesome. I haven't learned how to measure grade yet, but at my best estimate, I'd say that for every foot that you go forward, it goes up about 3 or 4 inches on average. My question: Is it possible to put in a vegetable garden on that hillside? Is it just a matter of them not growing as well, or am I going to have to worry about my plants being washed away if a storm comes along? I'm planning on putting in tomatoes, peppers, lettuce, okra, beans, and possibly some corn.

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 10/24/2009 4:35:16 PM
I'm returning to the forums in POF after not using them for quite some time. So, hello, hi, and so on. I teach high school English and currently reside in a small town somewhere East of Atlanta. Don't worry, I won't post any phone numbers or email addressES. ;)

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/24/2009 4:24:51 PM
Actually, I don't think it any one specific profile. I think it's the way I'm writing my messages. They just feel, well, bland. My usual approach is to look over the profile and find something that stands out to me. Either that they like being outdoors, they're from my hometown, they write, whatever. This is easier with some profiles than others. Then, I try coming up with a witty subject line. A lot of times, whatever I think of ends up being too many characters, so I start it in the subject line and finish it in the first line of the message. Then I talk about whatever it is about their profile that interests me. If I come up with any stories from my own life that relate, I might add that in there, too. If one or two of their pictures stands out or I find them to look particularly attractive, I say so. I do my best to make it as clear as possible that I took the time to read their profile and that I didn't just gawk at their pictures because I like for them to do the same thing for me. Still, when I look back over some of my sent messages, they almost sound more like a used car commercial than anything else. I also find that I end up using the same general sentence constructs in my messages. Maybe I'm just being hypercritical, though. By the way, what is YGF?

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/24/2009 4:03:57 PM
By the way, You go first, I took a look at your profile. "Yard puttering" made me smile.

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/24/2009 4:02:50 PM
I did at it into my interests, and at some point, I will try it as an interest search. I did use Buddhism in the religion field once a few nights ago. Would you believe that I only had two profiles come up? This is also with painting with a pretty wide swath with all of the other qualities, too. Changing it to Christian-Other, on the other hand, gets me about 626 results. Welcome to the Bible belt. Not that there's anything wrong with that. In fact, the Bible teaches many of the same precepts as Taoism, just from a different perspective. I just don't believe in the exclusionism that infects much of the religious viewpoints down here. But maybe this is one of those "not at the dinner table" topics, and I don't want to end up going off topic on my own post. Then again, some of the best, most enlightened conversations I've ever had with people were "off topic." In other news, I kinda wish that there was a "Message Reviews" section on here. I know that the messages often are hard to fix because they're on a person by person basis, but I actually looked at a few of mine that they sent out, and, well, I can't put my finger on it. There's something about them that I'm just not satisfied with. As if they're not my best writing. Would there be any complaints if I posted a few sample ones up here for anyone to peruse real quick to see if they can provide any insights?

creativedisco

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/24/2009 2:58:02 PM
Well, thanks for the help. I've sent out several messages, but so far, I've had either "Read Deleted" or the worst, in my opinion, "Read" but no response. That could be from a number of factors, though, so I'm not letting it get me down.

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/22/2009 8:53:39 PM
PS, whatever happened to the dude with the moustache? Majic or something or other. Did he get banned?

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/22/2009 8:52:48 PM
I'll certainly keep you in mind. Always happy to talk to a fellow wanderer, especially since I'm still pretty new to Taoism myself.

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/21/2009 8:25:46 PM
By the way, I just made it to the end of that last thread HT posted. Hope we all don't get banna-nated because we went off topic or something. 'Cause that wouldn't be pleasant.

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/21/2009 8:13:57 PM
Holy God Mother Mary Allah Buddha Space Jesus, Halftime. That was just...well...just. Yeesh. Then again, welcome to teh Internets. I'd tell you I'm surprised but, well, I've seen how my students behave. Moreover, I've seen how my students' parents behave. When we have to drag two mothers out of the school in handcuffs because they were going to get into a fight with students and THEN turn around and get into a fight with each other, well, nothing surprises me anymore. One could do worse and still remain employed. In fact, they might even promote me to administrator. Maybe then, I could start doing LESS work for MORE pay instead of the other way around. But you don't want to get me started on that little tirade.

creativedisco

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/21/2009 6:54:00 PM
Couldn't be much worse than mine.

creativedisco

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/21/2009 5:48:15 PM
Many thanks, dichoTommy. I almost wish I could show this whole thread to my students to show them how writing is a collaborative process. Then again, showing them a forum thread from a personals site is a bad idea on several levels. Still, thanks for everyone's help thus far.

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/21/2009 5:04:53 PM
So BC measures their temperature in Celsius? Wonder what that looks like in Kelvin. Always wanted to visit somewhere up north. Is it nice up there?

creativedisco

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/21/2009 4:58:20 PM
It's chilly here. It's even gotten down to the 60's right now. I'm sure all of those folks up in British Columbia are rolling their eyes at me. Made a few changes. Any other parts that sound like a parent lecturing?

creativedisco

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/21/2009 4:32:37 PM
I managed to get the photo uploader to work and I've added a new picture along with some more information in the About Me section, so hopefully that'll get some results. Give it one more once over and tell me what you think. If you want.

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/20/2009 8:50:32 PM
It's time for bed for me, so I'll have to let your suggestion about adding more "all of you" into the prose simmer for a bit. I did change the "cheapen" line. In the end, it's better to be careful with these things. Again, having troubles with uploading pictures. I'll have to give it another shot when I'm possessing all of my mental faculties. Goodnight all. I'll check back in the morning to see if anyone's added anything. A little misbehaving precipitation is a wonderful thing. Though, as most Atlantans have learned over the past couple of months, a whole lot of it can be downright catastrophic.

creativedisco

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/20/2009 8:45:37 PM
You go first: I encourage you to read the Tao Te Ching sometimes. Lao Tze sees it differently. "The world is shaped by the Tao; It cannot be shaped by the self. Trying to change it, you damage it; Trying to possess it, you lose it." #29. You'd be surprised, though. Most young men recognize the difference between lyrics and poetry and still revel in it. It depends on the student, though. And ultimately, that is the disservice that education has done to us. We all learn to enjoy poetry through a young age. Nursery rhymes, songs, and such. Even Dr. Seuss and Shel Silverstein were masters of poetic voice, and their audiences were primarily children. Then, somewhere along the line, some fool starts imposing various rules of order and starts telling those kids that it has to look like this and that, or it's not good enough. The high school version of that is "It must be like this, or you'll fail college" or "It must be like this, or you'll never get a job." So we lose touch with our inner poets. Other than contemplating life and its beauty, what else is there?

creativedisco

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/20/2009 8:07:56 PM
DenverSky: Greetings! I hope this evening finds you well (at least, it's nighttime for me on the East Coast). I can imagine it's probably cold in Colorado. I heard that it got down to the 30's or so here, which is generally unheard of for Georgia this time of year. Has it started snowing there yet? Also, your suggestion. is. freaking. brilliant. I'll take it. I hadn't thought of it that way. Thanks for showing me my profile in a new light.

creativedisco

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/20/2009 8:00:31 PM
I appreciate your compliments as well as your careful consideration of my profile. I need some clarification, though. Was my explanation enough or should I use more of my words? Also, I'm still getting error messages when submitting my pictures. It's in a JPEG format, so I don't see what the issue is. Ideas?

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Please review my profile and help me find a good username! Posted: 10/20/2009 7:54:20 PM
Let's see. If I were you, I'd take out the second paragraph. It just seems a little self-deprecating to me. Same thing with the "I know it's a bit nerdy" line in your fourth paragraph. There is nothing wrong with learning, and I'd appreciate it if you not berate self improvement in such a manner ;) Oh, and take off your last line. It seems a little bit trite. Hope that helps. Namaste, Travis

creativedisco

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/20/2009 7:33:31 PM
On second thought, after some reflection, I've decided to go for some middle ground. I'll keep the poem up, but rather than explaining it (for reasons already explained), I'll just add a blurb at the end about me and about what I believe. Hopefully that will at least take care of what I need. In other news, I've tried uploading a pic from my cell phone, but it doesn't seem to be working. Guess I'll have to think of something else.

creativedisco

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/20/2009 7:12:42 PM
HalftimeDad: I was hoping you'd stop by. Always a joy to hear from you, and I hope all is well. Your previous comments were very helpful. I'll try to get some better shots, but at the moment, I'm limited to the camera in my cell phone. I posted a few of those up the last time, but was advised to take them down b/c they didn't seem very flattering. Still, I'll try again. Mr. Economist: Always great hearing from a fellow poet. To be honest, I can't stand "Easter speeches" as I've heard them called. If you ask me, the only ones who should be allowed to take time to explain their work should be those who are already well established and/or published as poets. Still, those are simply how I see things, and I'll take your thoughts into consideration. Give me a little bit to check back and forth on this thing, and I'll see about giving your profile a once-over. By the way, I'm a little more with Blonderoses on this. I don't believe that you intended to hijack my thread, though, but understand that not everyone on here would be as understanding as I might be. Blonderoses1: Actually, that 3 year thing tends to be a little misleading. It does not say whether or not I've been in any relationships within that 3 year span, whether I've gotten any contacts, gained any friends from this site through my profile, been complimented multiple times on writing my profile, etc. All of these things have taken place within 3 years, though I admit that the latter could not have taken place without the extensive help of the reviewers here. It also doesn't explain that this is my first attempt at using a poem in my profile. As such, I hope you'll forgive me for at least trying it out to see what happens. I'll give it a week. If it works, then it works. If it doesn't, then I will happily admit that you were right all along and revert back to my original approach which is actually closer to what you recommend. Of course, I'll admit right now that you're right. Still, I'd like to try it and see what happens. As I mentioned to HalftimeDad, I'll get to work on the new pics, especially ones with better lighting. I've only got a cell phone camera right now, so that will have to do unless you have any other recommendations. As a side note, you seem somewhat frustrated in your message. I hope that I didn't do anything to upset you in any way. If I did, I apologize.

creativedisco

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Trying a different approach Posted: 10/20/2009 6:33:41 PM
Since I do write poetry, I figured I'd incorporate that approach in my profile writing. Think it might work? The main thing that I wanted to get across was just my general approach to life: the fact that I take things as they come, much like a leaf that drifts on a stream. That, and I believe in being true to myself and my potential before anything else. Tell me what you think. I did save my other profile on my computer in case this one just absolutely does not work.

creativedisco

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Please help Posted: 9/20/2009 1:39:45 PM
See above. As an English teacher, I'm going to add that you take out "Hi there! Let's see, how would I describe myself?" It's redundant. We know that's what you're going to do, so do it. To supplement what Dad is saying, perhaps it would help if you went into detail about some of the things that make you truly unique. Most of the people on here are easy going. Perhaps you could write about an accomplishment that makes you proud. You could tell us about something that makes you happy, maybe talk about where your favorite restaurant is, whatever. Details are your friend. Happy fishing!

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Putting it up for review Posted: 9/20/2009 10:27:19 AM
Thanks for the response and honesty. Could you please clarify what you mean by the pics being bad? Am I just unattractive in them (tell me if I am), are they at bad angles, do I just need a shave? What? Next, I don't understand this reference: "Your profile is the guy in the movie that Sandra Bullock or Reese Weatherspoon falls in love with." It's probably because I'm not really familiar with very many movies they do. I'll change the First Date section as soon as I get a few more responses, but I'll definitely take your points into consideration.

creativedisco

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Putting it up for review Posted: 9/20/2009 6:48:58 AM
So, here you go. Let me know what y'all think. This thing's asking for 200 words (characters), but all I'm doing is putting my profile up for review. You folks will review it, and hopefully give me feedback. Etc. Etc. I'm not sure what else to put. I'm not one of those to complain on and on about how no one messages me or anything like that, so I can't do that. I'm not one of the nice guy types, I don't think, so that's out. I don't really know what else to put. So...review my profile? Yeah. Oh, here's something. Whatever happened to them posting our forum posts on our profiles. Did POF stop doing that? All right, that should be enough words. So, on to the critique, eh?

creativedisco

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white collar woman, blue collar man. Posted: 9/13/2009 1:59:39 PM
It all depends on what the other person is looking for. Education/job-wise, my last girlfriend and I were about the same. She was living in, though, and was used to a more upscale neighborhood north of Atlanta. It was a very white collar, upper-middle to upper class, soccer mom and CEO sort of area, and, for whatever reason, she loved it there. I grew up in a small, rural town in GA. We ended up having more than our share of discussions about our differences and, in the end, we didn't work out. Truth be told, it tore me to pieces. Some days I still feel the effects of it. Still, I know it wouldn't work out. I couldn't understand her way of living and she refused to try to understand mine. Can it work? Yeah. I'm a firm believer in the fact that you can make anything work out if both people are willing to try. Also realize that it can go the other way around, too. Let's not assume that only women are golddiggers.

creativedisco

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Profile review...changes made. Posted: 8/23/2009 11:39:18 AM
Okay, so I've made some changes to my profile. I updated the text and added some very recent photos (as of today and yesterday). So, how is it now?

creativedisco

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Profile review, anyone? Posted: 8/20/2009 1:41:43 PM
I removed the two pictures (Do they really make me look like I'm almost 40?! Holy cow, I do need to do something about them, then. No wonder my students keep assuming I'm older than I actually am). I also took off the last line about the glasses and I moved the acreage to the middle of the profile and adjusted it a little bit, but still kept it in there because I think it's very important that potential matches understand that I am perfectly happy being out in the country, and I don't enjoy being out in the city very much. Mind taking another look to see if I did an okay job this time? BTW, a huge thank you to everyone who's already reviewed my profile. More importantly, (esp. to QuiteCute40), thank you for your bluntness and honesty.

creativedisco

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Feedback, please Posted: 8/19/2009 8:53:54 PM
Your main profile looks pretty good (then again, what do I know?). I would change the first date section. The general consensus in most places seems to be that they would want you to be assertive in choosing somewhere to go. Where you would want to go on a first date reveals something about who you are and what you enjoy. So, go ahead and suggest something that you would probably enjoy. After all, if a girl wants to go watch a Florida game and you happen to be a UGA fan, that's something to watch out for, right?

creativedisco

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Profile review, anyone? Posted: 8/19/2009 8:47:30 PM
...or as the immortal Joe****r would say, (quoting the Beatles, of course) I think I'd "get by with a little help from my friends." So I've apparently got to write 200 words here. So, here goes. Erm...please review my profile. Please. PS, you know POF is getting a little too strict when it's filtering out the name of one of the most well-known rock legends of all time.

creativedisco

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Should I move on? Posted: 8/19/2009 2:05:18 PM
Yes. Next question.

creativedisco

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A Dead Serious Question about the Importance of Breasts Posted: 8/1/2009 3:53:09 PM
I don't really know of a good answer to this one other than some guys are understanding and are perfectly cool with it and others aren't. I will say not to write yourself out of the picture simply because of what has happened, and I definitely disagree with your friend. Will it take more persistence to find the right guy? Possibly. Is he out there? I would say so, yeah. Sorry if it's not a very helpful answer. In other news, perhaps someone should sick a band of rabid monkeys on the first guy who botched the surgery.

creativedisco

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E-Mail Writing Advice? Posted: 3/29/2009 9:11:48 PM
That one's a riot! I love it!

creativedisco

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Need closure!! Posted: 3/29/2009 8:45:27 PM
Closure...something that we all seek, but rarely obtain. When we do get it, it's often painful, anyway. Personally, I had to teach myself to stop waiting for closure. I learned that it was one of those "don't ask a question you don't want to hear the answer to" sort of things, and after enough times of hearing answers I didn't want to hear, I decided that closure really wasn't all that important, anyway. Make your own closure. The Summer of your lifetime ended, the guy said he'd be back soon, and soon is now long gone. The way to move forward is to make up your mind that this is the way it is and start looking for someone else. Or you can just wait around a while only to discover that the reason he never came back is because he hooked up with some hot blonde over in California and they now have two kids and a dog. I say let last Summer go, and go ahead and start working on making sure next Summer is even better!

creativedisco

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E-Mail Writing Advice? Posted: 3/29/2009 8:31:28 PM
Just in case, since it didn't create a link, you'll just have to copy and paste the link I posted and put it into your URL bar. ...but I'm sure you already knew that, right?

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

E-Mail Writing Advice? Posted: 3/29/2009 8:30:26 PM
Perhaps it would help to actually give you a link instead of just telling you to search. Here you go: http://www.plentyoffish.com/betterprofile.aspx?Guid=1913193&SID=zoguamez4irog4fbefz0jk55 This can actually be found in one of the links at the bottom of your inbox. As another thought, get used to seeing "read/deleted." It sucks, but it happens. There's just too high of a guy to girl ratio for you to have much luck otherwise. Also, take some time to at least edit your message to some degree. Would you go meet a girl for the first time without looking in the mirror to make sure that you didn't have any boogers hanging out of your nose? I hope not. The same thing goes for your email. Give it a once over to make sure there are no boogers and send away!

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

Msg: 7 (view)

patterns hard to break Posted: 3/29/2009 8:19:07 PM
I make my own luck. As patterns go, I would say either getting bored too easily or letting emotions / panic get the better of me. I'm doing better at that, though. 10 months with this one and going strong!

creativedisco

Joined: 5/18/2006

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Let's pretend Posted: 3/29/2009 8:15:50 PM
I suspend reality every day. It's called "teaching high school." Ahem. Anyway. First of all, while things may have been different when I was younger, if I'd shown interest in this girl that much, and she didn't return my affections, then all bets would be off. You had your chance, and you blew it. Simple as that. Still, if I just happen to be single, then perhaps I could make other arrangements. My preferred way? Perhaps talk me into meeting for drinks or something and then let it come up in casual conversation like such things normally do. It doesn't have to be anything complicated.

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