I think you may be better off dating a man without children.

Are these people who post or say these things, shooting themselves in the foot so to speak...?

would you want to have a relationship with someone who might always think of her or his ex as "the best sex ever"?

We kissed passionately, cuddled and some other things (all initiated by her), but we didnt have sex and I made it clear to her (as I wasn't expecting to go to her bedroom - it was a shock), when we were making out

I notice that a lot of men's profiles on here talking about wanting a woman to be spontaneous and I don't understand quite what they are looking for when they say that. Hm does that mean they want someone to be constantly active and wanting to do things all the time? To me that would be emotionally exhausting.

onto here to see if he was on, of course he was. I was pissed but going to let it slide because we hadn't talked about what we were. I got a message from a guy and I like to respond to everyone because I know how it feels when someone doesn't respond so I just messaged back hey how are you today.

Are people really that ignorant?Are there that many people out there that don't know that these rights are only guaranteed in the public arena, that these are protections from government and are NOT extended to private dwellings, businesses or websites? Have they stopped teaching civics classes?

Has this become the go to excuse to try to do whatever you want whenever you want wherever you want, when you're told that you can't?

Normal: easy going, into sports, has knowledge of a wealth of topics, knows what he likes and sticks to it (with some flexibility to try new things), is willing to do whatever a woman wants to do (within reason), naturally curious and likes to explore things as they present themselves. Has some quirks and things that may be annoying but he is comfortable and accepting of them, does not strive to have someone change him, and does not want to change anyone either. This is what I define as normal in a man. The good outweighs the bad (that's the awesome feature of normal).

Seriously. Can one MALE give me an opinion on the male perspective of dating and still looking. I know that men don't commit to one woman right away, that is why it is called dating.
But what I don't know (because this is all new to me) is how to best deal with it. and what is a mans perspective

No, we didn't have sex. And I find it pretty strange that he would spend this amount of time and effort trying to get it from someone who didn't even live in his immediate area. Seems like a lot to go through...

The next thing I knew I got an email notification that she had posted a date review about me. I don't have access to that feature. I don't even know this woman.
I reported the incident to POF

Does anybody here actual have a "definition" what the Big Fish deems to be "sexual language"?

am an attractive mixed-race (black & white) woman who keeps herself in shape and presents well, both in dress and how I carry myself. I have never had an issue attracting men.

however, there is such a lack of contact compared to how it was. No banter texts etc. I can go 4 or 5 days sometimes without hearing anything from him. To me, this seems like a total lack of interest and effort. He doesn't seem bothered when he next sees me again or makes an effort to know what I'm up to.

seeing a man for awhile now and he hasn't had the best luck with women.
His ex wife cheated on him and ultimately left him. Leaving him a little emotionally scarred

Maybe for your second post you'll give out some pertinent advice.

he feels like he should date as many people as it takes until he finds what he's looking for (did not give specifics), and that he is "trying to figure out how to love deeper"

He responded that he can't say what his relationship goals are specifically, but that he feels like he should date as many people as it takes until he finds what he's looking for

Young women roll their eyes and move on. But when they see a guy that challenges them, is yes, sarcastic, negs them, taunts them, they sleep with the guy.
So what is the lesson these guys get?

we exchanged a hug and I backed away because I didn't want to rush anything. We said goodbye and about 15 min later I get a text saying he had a good time while he was on the way back home. I responded and said the same and that we should do it again, he agreed. A little later, I said goodnight through text and he said I'll talk to you tomorrow.
Long story short, I had to text him the next day (probably shouldn't have) and he was really short

Does anyone know if the other person can see this information?

somewhat attractive and I rarely get approached out in the real world. In my opinion, online dating, with its pros and cons is one of the best ways to meet someone you would not normally otherwise meet.

To ease some sensitive members apparent consternation, a simple Semantics CHANGE is requested:

Click to Flag Message for Nude Images -------> Click to Flag IF Message has Nude Images

Is it difficult for women to find 'emotionally-healthy' single men who also want LTRs and are ready for them?

Hmm maybe something is happening I managed to send a message to a friend ..got a reply ..then was stopped again ...could there be a U turn in the offing ..or just a glitch

my other one was deleted!
I only created this when I managed to forget the password of the previous one...so I didn't break the spirit of the rules!
And besides, that has nothing to do with the issue in question!

Markus explained in one of his posts, today, that all married people will have their accounts deleted.

Explane my friends nuking?

can't possibly imagine why a younger woman would date someone older. I met a 27 year old on here last year, she contacted me, she was emotionally mature and we dated for several months and had a great time. Now I wouldn't date the 19 year old that was hitting on me at a party

Allow emails (first contact) from users without images on their profile: Yes No

It would cut down on the

"Hey"
"Hi"
"Hey sexy"
"Hi"

.... and so on and so on in the inbox. These aren't users that are bad enough to send to a mod, but irritating enough when you have a full inbox and want to concentrate on people you ARE interested in.

flagged and sent to moderation. If other users agree the rules where broken you account is suspended for 30 hours. The third time you do this your account is deleted from the system. I'm not sure exactly what okc's rules are but i know they flag on this stuff. Thoughts?

It's funny how Markus is saying that this will only affect about 2% of the pof population, and yet half the regulars on the forum are coming in here complaining about it.

A forum user is a special kind of user.. I no way does the forum population represent POF population in any way.

go "o hell yes I want to talk to her..... nah... not more of that again, is it really worth it?" and walk on. (alone into tha night, again...)

"that's the wrong attitude, unattractive, why would you do this it's so unjustified! you are in a sad sad state, go get help...." yada yada yada. The fact is, a LOT of decent people feel this way, so it's worth thinking about.

If: women say guys are confident when they hit on them,
Then: do they think they are "not" confident when they "don't" hit on them?

letter from Markus, nice positive forward moves. But I wonder if getting rid of the Intimate Encounter option will really clean it up and send the less ingenuous to another more appropriate site for their hook-ups.

Give date feedback
Posted: 5/16/2013 9:01:33 PM

We don't know how it is envisioned or set up to function yet, BUT
I will imagine how it SHOULD be set up to work:

When you fill out that form for someone you have exchanged emails with and actually met for a "date", then hit "send",
they should get an email notification that you have rated them on a "date", and an offer to verify that you actually DID go on a date with them or not.
Also a reminder that you ought to rate THEM, if you actually did go on a date with them.

Then if someone accumulates ten or twenty separate very bad ratings, they may get an email advising them of that and to change their behavior pronto or be booted off the site.

Any abuse by rating many people that deny they ever met you on a "date", and you get notified of your abuse and that you will be booted off if it continues.

Meanwhile, the owner of this site may accumulate mountains of data about each members date behavior and how others see them from all those coming ratings, and more specially targeted advertising dollars will be flowing his way.


"But if someone is going to get a bad rating, they may be inclined to lie and say they didn't have a date with the person rating them."

I think basic default human nature is such that when you know someone is rating you, good OR bad, then most people would be motivated to RATE the person back- not falsely deny that any date actually happened.

I am going to clean up this site a lot. There are a few hundred thousand users using the site dailly that really shouldn't be.

he would hate to see me with another guy.
My question is, does he like me too? or he just pretending that he care since he want sex?

lost, you really believe that don't you? I don't believe that. I think people should think more like me, then there would be more people like me who would finally enjoy the thought of marriage. Why? Because it would be a union of truth, respect, and dignity that is why.

Men who exercise regularly, eat right, maintain a healthy body weight and cut out unhealthy lifestyle habits are more likely to be interested in sex and able to perform, even as they grow older.

I imagine its to boot off members that are abusing the site.
However (as mentioned), it can be used by disgruntled dates with a vengeance.

But if someone is going to get a bad rating, they may be inclined to lie and say they didn't have a date with the person rating them.