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Moral dilemma? Or is it? Posted: 11/20/2008 9:41:39 AM
Wow...I feel very moralistic now. I once stood in line at the post office to return the 2 extra stamps they had given me at Christmas.

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Compliments falling on deaf ears Posted: 11/20/2008 9:37:07 AM
Well, I know that in the past I have struggled with recieving compliments. More so it seemed in my 20's when I wasn't so sure of what I had to offer someone. Now, nearly 40, when someone pays me a compliment, I simply smile and say thank you. It may be as difficult for someone to say it as it is for you to hear it. It is nice to have affirmation sometimes, and I welcome it. I am an equal opportunity complimenter as well...if that is even a proper word.

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Your brain - the sex organ Posted: 11/6/2008 2:00:56 PM
Definitely, sex starts in the brain for me as well.....it is what is between the ears that will keep me coming back every time....and no I dont mean earwax...lol

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Assisted suicide - the right to die with dignity Posted: 11/6/2008 1:55:59 PM
Assisted Suicide...this has been a slippery slope for quite some time, many for and may against. I wrote a paper on this once, and wrote it in favor of.... I have seen many people die long and painful deaths, while family stood by and watched with horror and grief. I have seen loved ones look their family in the eye and beg them to finish them off. People have begged me to finish them off. If someone is mentally capable of making such a decision, then they should be able to make it legally and without intervention from governments, churches, and any other organized group that feels they have a say in how much pain and suffering one human being should sunject themselves. I give praise to states like Oregon and Washington who have made PSA (physician assisted suicide) a viable option. They have controls in place to standardize it, and they have been working well so far. Just my 2 cents

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What side of the bed do you sleep on? do you know why? Posted: 10/30/2008 11:18:58 PM
I sleep closest to the door...hmmmm....wonder why that is....even did it when I was married... :)

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waking up ideas Posted: 10/29/2008 1:45:10 PM
I tend to agree here...the alarm goes off at 6, off to cook breakfast for my son, then the race is on....lol

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INSTANT Turnons Posted: 10/25/2008 5:50:26 PM
A great smile, and eyes that dance when someone laughs...

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As you grow older Posted: 9/28/2008 12:41:20 PM
Hey there Thanks for responding. I do agree that I am more accepting but less willing to invite "drama" into my life these days. Seems I am way too settled and stuck in my ways now to allow that sort of thing to creep in and demand my time. You are right that time teaches you to appreciate the good much more. I have been fortunate, and although still single, can honestly say I am not bitter about past relationships. There are good people left out there yet!!

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a few facts.......... Posted: 9/28/2008 11:30:17 AM
I am glad to be from Newfoundland. Indeed there are many lists of things that identify Newfoundlanders, but what I think of are things like, hospitality, friendly, open, funny, direct, giving, hardy, diligent. I was raised poor, with solid values and a great education. I moved away to the states for 20 years and never lost my "newfoundland ways" despite the pressure to do so. I am proud to be a Newfoundlander and wouldn't change that part of my heritage for anything or anyone. Regarless of what was invented in Nfld, or who came from there, my family did, as do I. Thats enough for me.

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Weird dates??? Posted: 9/28/2008 11:12:18 AM
Wierdest ever: Met a guy once, not off the internet, but through a friend. Seemed nice enough, we went out for a lunch and then on the way home, he siad he had to stop by somewhere real quick..I said ok. We pull into a cometary, and he asked me to accompany him to his destination. It was his fathers grave....Now no big desl, though a bit mobid for a first date. It wasn't until he formally introduced me to his father that I got crept out...like he was expecting a hand to rise from teh grave and shake mine. Needless to say we didn't go out anymore after that.

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why is it Posted: 9/28/2008 11:07:53 AM
I think that for a man or a woman to post chest pics and things of that sort is actually a bit degrading. If someone is going to go out with me because I have big hooters or lack thereof, I dont want him. In turn though, I would not decide to go out with a guy because he has a great chest or lack thereof....I am more inclined to be drawn to someone because they have a goofy look or a great smile, or mischief in their eyes. But to each their own....live and let live

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Reloaction!!! Posted: 9/28/2008 11:04:55 AM
I would have to say no. I have been struggling to make it back to the rock for the last 20 years. I am finally going to do it. You would need a jackhammer to break me away again. :) Hmmm..maybe some strapping man with a jackhammer could convince me. LOL

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Anybody else have this happen? Posted: 9/28/2008 10:58:45 AM
I have been stood up...sometimes I wonder if it is because they are truly shopping, have several prosepcts, and you are not the number one pick, but ok for a backup.... I have never stood anyone up personally, even though there were meetings when I kept one hand on the car key. :)

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As you grow older Posted: 9/28/2008 10:50:32 AM
As you grow older, do you find that what you are searching for in a partner differs now than 20 years ago. In my case for example, I am now more inclined to welcome someone into my life that has life experiece behind them, perhaps a base for us to establish a better connection, as opposed to 20 years ago when what I was looking for was "fresh and untouched". As well, 20 years ago I was all caught up in excitement and defiance and perhaps recklessness...yes I will admit it. Now I am still after fun, good times, laughter, but nowhere near as thoughtless and dismissive as I used to be. Age has made me more compassionate, friendly and accepting.

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Can a man and woman remain friends after a relationship? Posted: 9/28/2008 9:32:05 AM
I think so. My ex and I of 7 years are still friends. We have both moved on, and he is very happy in a new relationship. I respect the fact that they have built something great, and it meets their needs. The both want children, I have already had mine. That being said the face of the friendship changes, but we are stillv ery comfortable around one another, and I actually like his new partner. They fit well together. I would not call on him to rescue me or to step on their newly formed relationship, respecting of course that they need time to grow and develop. But if I really needed him, or needed his guidance or thoughts on something, I would definitely reach out and he would respond.

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Just a question...how do you feel about the word Newfie? Posted: 9/28/2008 8:57:47 AM
I too have been called a Newfie on more than one occasion. However, it has always been positive, often coupled with adjectives that were extremely positive such as hard-working, honest, funny, solid.... I know solid doesnt seem too positive, but anyone I have ever befriended has been drawn tot he fact that I am a Newfie, direct, honest and tells it like it is....

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Need Help! Posted: 9/28/2008 8:48:15 AM
If you are still needing help, I would reccomend reaching out to the local hospital or RCMP. They should have someone who can assist you with this, a social worker or someone in that capacity famaliar with the laws surrounding this issue.

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why dont people reply? Posted: 9/28/2008 8:47:08 AM
My good manners make me reply. If indeed there is no spark and someone then starts tormenting me with unwanted questions, I simply email and say this. " I responded to you so you would not think I was rude. However now you are being quite rude yourself, and I have done nothing to deserve this" Then I hit block.

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Do long distance relationships work?? Posted: 9/28/2008 8:45:06 AM
I think that if you are financially able to arrange visits frequently, and life allows it, there is a chance it will work. For me personally, long distance simply does not work. I like to have that special someone in my life involved on a fairly regular basis, whether it be for a quick cup of coffee, a game of cards, or an evening out, I like to have the option to do so.

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Favorite phrases!! Posted: 9/28/2008 8:42:53 AM
I will try anything once as long as it doesnt kill me or get me thrown into jail...

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what part of the rock you from Posted: 9/28/2008 8:40:19 AM
I am a baymen as well, living away still, coming home next year..Burin Peninsula is where it all started though.

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Are more guys interested in bigger girls but are just afraid to admit it? Posted: 9/28/2008 8:36:33 AM
Being a bigger girl, I would like to yell the answer "yes". However, over time I have learned that just like guys we women have our preferences as well. I think it boils down to personal preference. For example, myself, I tend to be attracted to men taller than myself, with smiling eyes and strong hands....if that comes wrapped in a package that is 6'0 and 200 lbs great, but if it comes wrapped in a package thats 5'7 and 240lbs, still great. We as individuals all have characterisitcs that draw us together, initial chemistry, but I firmly feel that it is the development of a relationship that makes it solid, whether the paeticipants are tall, short, fat, thin, young or old. As long as our lifestyles are similar enough to facilitate social outings and time together, the package is just a bonus.

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is there anything wrong that women cant reply to emails..yes or no thats all u have to say Posted: 9/28/2008 8:31:28 AM
Personally, I always respond to emails from either gendre. Then again, my email is not blowing up with several messages a day, not like some I have heard on here. If someone has the courage to drop me a line, or share a thought, the least I can do is respond, even if I do not see a "connection" so to speak. It is how I was raised. Bear in mind of course that I also was raised to speak to people as I met them on the road as well...perhaps a different upbringing.

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Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 9/28/2008 8:26:31 AM
Hey, I am Nicole... I left Nfld in 1988, and have been wanting to come back ever since. I have visited over the years, but am reloacting back in June 2009 once my son finishes this school year. I am from out around the bay but will be living in town....cant go back all the way just yet. Looking to meet some folks my age, as most of my high school contacts (20plus yrs ago) have gone from the area and I need to build a new friend base. Interested in all sorts of things, outdoors, darts, music. Miss the simple ways that we seem to carry on as Nflders...definitely not like that anywhere else I have ever been. I am distinctly a Newfoundlander, strait forward, direct, sarcastic, and often funny.

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St. John's 30-plus club Posted: 9/28/2008 8:20:19 AM
And how did the dance go......I am coming back next summer and wondering ig I will be stuck in the house until I am 80. I am almost 40, but not quite dead yet. :)

nicnewf

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What the hell am i doing wrong Posted: 2/9/2007 6:41:48 AM
Jay..dont fret, someone good will come along that deserves all you have to offer. Not to sound like an ole bag here, but at 21, you have a lot of that in your future...in my opinion it is in your best interest to let it slide and know that someone not willing to give you a chance is not worth your time.

nicnewf

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Why many of men and women are living separated? Posted: 2/9/2007 6:39:41 AM
I agree with Peterbiltcowboy...not divorced, just seperated tells me that the person isn't ready for the world, let alone me...

nicnewf

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single minded people on single mothers Posted: 2/6/2007 6:40:44 AM
Keep on doing what feels right..anyone who judges you for that is not worthy enough to be in your life, male or female.

nicnewf

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How to avoid falling in love Posted: 2/6/2007 6:22:51 AM
You are hilarious...

nicnewf

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phone games Posted: 2/5/2007 6:00:22 AM
Regardles of who plays the game, it is wrong, whatever happened to mean what you say and say what you mean....if I say I am going to call, I will. If I cant make the call at the designated time, I will give a quick call to say that...treat someone as I want to be treated..fair is fair...

nicnewf

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How to avoid falling in love Posted: 2/5/2007 5:37:34 AM
You are too funny

nicnewf

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what was your inside joke? Posted: 2/5/2007 5:36:21 AM
Good on ya...an ex and I used to joke about things that were almost impossible and one of us would inevitably answer, goodon ya kid if you can make that happen..funny how life is, I thought it was only me that did that.

nicnewf

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Here's looking at you kid.... Posted: 2/5/2007 5:33:27 AM
I am more worried by those that dont answer the married question with "prefer not to say"

nicnewf

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I don't get it Posted: 2/5/2007 5:30:05 AM
I agree there needs to be no mean spirits here, it is an honest question and quite perplexing. It happens to me too, people that I never hear from have me on their favorites and I just remove myself. The rules are varied starsfan, hold true to what you believe and eventually you will run into like minded people. It all takes time...some of us take longer than others...Happy Fishing, Nicole

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be proud to be a newfie Posted: 2/4/2007 9:33:07 AM
We are good folks, I miss the rock and am pleased that you have actually ventured there thatguy...I would have messaged you directly but I am an expat living in the states and it wont let me. :( Nic

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how do I say no to a relationship without hurting her? Posted: 1/26/2007 1:19:48 PM
Be honest. Always be honest. And be nice. How would you want to be told? How would you want to be treated? Better yet, how would you want your lilttle sister to be treated if this were her? Do the same......Good luck

nicnewf

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Don't be like the blind girl.....(insight) Posted: 1/25/2007 6:43:52 PM
I am not surprised something like this came from you...at all. :) Nic

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Do you need to understand in order to move on? Posted: 1/25/2007 8:11:36 AM
Well, I think we need to understand ourselves...I gage it this way...you cant make someone love you back but you can love them with a whole heart and without conditions. I was once in a situation where someone walked away from me with no warning and no explanation..I was hurt, and felt tremendous grief. I had to grieve to get over it, I did and even then, even now, years later, I am not sorry I spent that time. What I gave to him, I gave honestly and with a pure heart, no one can take that from you regardless of the outcome. Move on knowing yourself, don;t let past hurts and failures alter you that much, but learn from the past and take something good from all the folks you interact with on even the most basic of levels.... Nic

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Good ole' days of Black and White Posted: 1/25/2007 7:55:15 AM
Nice writing and very true...things need to be simpler.

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Maryland, {Baltimore} Posted: 1/13/2007 9:26:42 AM
Are we going to try and do something??

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what part of the rock you from Posted: 7/16/2006 11:28:10 AM
Lawn, Placentia Bay, now in the USA since forever it seems

nicnewf

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a question 4 the ladies Posted: 6/14/2006 2:18:52 PM
A good question....the no self confidence thing might be a bad thing...uncomfortable in a crowd, well alot of us suffer from that one... Why dont you have any self confidence in a crowd..hold your head up, your a newf, thats a big plus.

nicnewf

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How about Southern NJ? Posted: 3/26/2006 1:39:27 PM
I am in Delaware, but would be interested in a get together with a local group...please keep me posted, and let me know if i can do anything to help.. Nicole

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New years message for the broken hearted Posted: 1/1/2006 10:17:46 AM
Don't really know if it is my emotional state, but I really found some inspiration in the positive postings of you folks.....seems that sometimes things are dark, but you find solace in the smallest of things...Thanks alot guys and gals....Happy New Year.

nicnewf

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Maryland, {Baltimore} Posted: 7/10/2005 4:10:42 AM
i am only 45 mins or so from Baltimore...so yes

nicnewf

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Would you date someone with a sibling into crime? Posted: 4/19/2005 11:04:13 AM
I am a law abiding Canadian citizen living in America...however I do have colorful friends..and I try not to judge them based on their habits, just on how they interact when I am around. If I am uncomfortable in a situation, I tell them, and I either leave or theystop..simple. I guess the same could be said for a dating situation. I would not dismiss someone because of crimes committed as a young punk, if they are now grown men and cleaned up their act. This of course is only if there are no major character flaws that would suggest repeat behavior in the future. We all make mistakes, some of us just don't get caught.

nicnewf

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How many here even approach real life women Posted: 4/18/2005 4:05:00 AM
Being a woman, when I am approached, I am flattered. It makes your day to think that someone finds you approachable..and regardless of what I think of that person's looks or their reasoning for talking to me, I am always friendly and return the conversation. You can never make people feel totally comfortable in such a setting, but if the conversation is flowing and I feel comfortable enough..I often invite them to my favorite local pub where friends and I regularly go to hear music or eat dinner. The group setting removes all pressure while allowing yourself and the new person the time to interact for future possibilities. It has worked for me in the past, and a friend of mine found her husband that way..although it wasn't her he tried to speak to initially, it was a friend of ours, but coming to have a social drink with the group brought them together initially. I guess after all that the advice to men is..Approach, never give up....

nicnewf

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Does the heart grow too cynical with age? Posted: 4/17/2005 7:09:35 AM
Wow..well said....

nicnewf

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Does it always start with the eyes? Posted: 4/12/2005 7:09:49 PM
Yes...it has to for me

nicnewf

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The far apart love Posted: 4/12/2005 7:04:44 PM
Far apart lust..far apart friendship..things you can love about someone...but to fall in love completely...I don't think so. Meeting would be a prerequisite for me I think..develop friendships with those attainable, if there is alot of lust, friendship, and things you love about them, plan a meet and go from there..

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