But...but...how could that happen? There was only a 3 year age difference.

Let's face reality here people. The MAJORITY of girls on this site don't want old men messaging them. If you can't see that, you must be blind. The bulk of the complaints here are from men. Get over yourselves people. If you want to message girls outside of this 14 year age range, then go to another site. Markus already explained how rare it is on this site for anybody outside of the +-12 year age range to have a relationship. So he went above and beyond 12 years and made it 14. I like it. He answered the exact complaints that women were having.

The 20-40 year old group has sex on their side, but the 40-60 year old group has sex appeal on their side. Nothing is sexier than a smart, witty partner. I love guys, all guys, all ages and I can't imagine a planet without them. But I only date guys in the 40-60 range because the younger ones just aren't sexy to me.

Me: Hello, I was kinda surprised to get your text. I had assumed that I wouldn't be hearing from you again.
Her: You crossed my mind and I just wanted to say "hello'. I had a lot going on over the past few months. I'm glad all is well with you.
Me: Same to you.

All I wanted to be able to spend more time with her so that we could discover new interests/hobbies together and grow.

And what do you think about a woman who says she loves a man but refuses to take his name even though that's a criteria for marrying

I think it would be healthiest but hardest in the short run to cut contact.

(I didn't last night)

My wife has said she is happy. She said she loves me. She said she doesn’t want a divorce. I have found a solution that takes nothing away from her nor requires anything of her. Furthermore, it has quieted my “inner feelings”, for lack of better terminology. If I was conscious of it, it had to have been affecting me on a subconscious level, as well.

I would only care if the man Im dating could potentially have children/lawyers knocking on the door years later because someone dropped the legal ball. So long as this has been addressed legally, it would not matter to me. Just would not be cool to start a new life, set a budget for that and then find out one of us owes thousands of dollars in child support because the couple who took the donated sperm/egg brpke up and the kids become wards of the state/province and the state/provonce wants $$.

1) We did the whole "I love you" thing not too long ago, but he never says it first, and when I say it, he just replies, "You too." We talked about it and he says he does love me, he just doesn't like to say it, and my instinct is to call BS. Am I being petty?

Has anybody dealt with this kind of stuff before?

Should I quit while I'm ahead? I'm really torn, because I could see myself being with this guy for a long time, but I don't want to spend a lot of time in the wrong place.

Perhaps the question we should be asking is, “Why is the destruction of a marriage blamed on the one who seeks to fulfill their needs outside the marriage rather than blamed on the partner who can’t or refuses to fulfill those needs?

posting will never get you in trouble UNLESS what you are posting is wrong to start with...ie you have to be doing something wrong

I don't know about the 4-hour erections haha My only experience with a guy who used viagra was that he complained of a headache for 3-4 days after he took it. Gradually, we just quit having sex because I got tired of his whining. And he seemed perfectly OK with that.

For educational purposes only. I found it interesting, and thought others might as well.

Grandiosity is chiefly associated with narcissistic personality disorder, but also commonly features in manic or hypomanic episodes of bipolar disorder.

It refers to an unrealistic sense of superiority, a sustained view of oneself as better than others that causes the narcissist to view others with disdain or as inferior. It also refers to a sense of uniqueness, the belief that few others have anything in common with oneself and that one can only be understood by a few or very special people.

For those who personally don't like it --just say hey I don't like it but quit trying to make up scary things to make yourself feel better.

This very issue ended my last relationship. From the very beginning, we discussed our long term goals which included eventually living together, and marriage was a possibility, but not a deal breaker for either of us.. After 2 years of dating, the topic became the source of every argument we had. He refused to sell his house, refused to rent his house. I had 2 kids still in high school and wanted to keep them in their school district until they graduated. I suggested he rents his place and we live in mine until the kids graduate and then I will sell mine. He did not like that idea.. I offered to sell mine and we buy or rent one together until my kids graduated.. He did not like that idea.

ALL THIS IS TRUE .... BUT THE ONLY ANSWER THROUGH THIS EQUATION ..FROM EXPERIENCE IS YOU CANT CHANGE NO ONE , YOU CAN HAVE AN INFLUENCE ON THEM TO WANT TO CHANGE BUT ULTIMATELY WE HAVE NOT THE POWER TO CHANGE NO ONE

What I've noticed in my searches for men with higher education levels is profiles seem to be
written on a sixth grade level. Seems like every other Bubba here has a Graduate Degree.

So for the last 3 weeks I have been friends with this girl. She knew that I was very infatuated with her. She made jokes about us having sex etc.
She just broke up with her boyfriend who was a total jerk(sat around watching sports on valentines day) so I thought if I was around and she was ready, we'd end up together.

She took pictures of us hugging to make her ex jealous so I really thought she was into me.

Last week we go out and she brings a guy that I knew she had a crush on. An hour later they're making out and leaving me to be the third wheel. So this random get alcohol poisoning and passes out outside. Knowing first aid I put her in the recovery position and stay with her until the ambulance came. They ditched while I was doing this. I find them at another club later on.

She has made out with other guys while we were out

I no longer talk to her after I yelled at her for using and ditching me. So now I'm done being the nice guy. Another good man turned into a jerk. This is why you don't lead men on ladies.

The only men I have met on pof who don't care for FB (and communicate that rather severely) are not great at navigating online and/or a little (to a lot) rough around the edges in person too.

What are you, on dope? You can stuff an entire hamper under a kid, but it's still illegal.

It's not so much that people don't notice the "obvious"... They do. That's why they write for advice. Things have gotten to the point where the situation feels uncomfortable. People usually want to know what to do to get things back on track.

People who have worked through their relationship difficulties realize that good communication, patience, persistence and a positive attitude about the situation usually are helpful. However, a lot of times in the case of mixed feelings where things could go either way... it seems to me that a lot of people decide to just end things and give up.

I am asking men, because my girlfriend's say for the most part woman are too emotional and eventually will develop feelings with that partner. Would it be settling? I want the whole package in a man but from the dates I have had does not seem that is what men are looking for today. Am I wrong and it's just the men I seem to be finding? Can FWB really work?

I haven't read all the posts but even though she wasn't a good date YOU could have refused to buy the cigs, refused to go out with her after you saw she smokes, or you could have refused to go driving, or just tried to make the most of it and get to know her among her friends and saved the date for another time and considered it a hangout. Your choice, and fair enough. Just don't do something you don't want to and blame her.

Okay Im going for it tomorrow thanks for the advice.... but I told her to change the meeting place, its kinda of retarded to date in a bowling area... I like movie theaters better because its dark and hands move a lot in the darkness hehehe the bowling alley will be a waste of time... lets see what happens.

Well not to brag but I have gotten many compliments on my looks.

Please dont write more again.

okay hon, here is what you are going to do. first thing tomorrow, you are going to find a therapist, make an appointment (tell him or her you are in crisis mode so they can get you in faster) and go and talk to this person. you sound obsessed with getting married. if what you say is true and you have no agenda but just want to marry anyone that will take you, then you do need professional help. this is not what a normal person does. i am not being mean to you honey...i am seriously trying to help you. please do what i say.

Oh dear. This is making me sad. I seriously want to give you a hug.

WT3 ideal situations are perfect but my situation is whenever i love someone he ditches me. This has happened many times and each time it felt like dying. So my only option is to marry first and then love. No matter how it happens with love, with friends help or with money I need to find a husband and i will make my marriage work. I will be extremely supportive of everything and do anything to keep my partner happy. I will be happy too as I would have found my husband. All is well that ends well.