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maleman999

Joined: 2/14/2010

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Getting in a car with a guy from on this site Posted: 5/22/2013 7:39:49 AM
...women get abducted and raped all the time by guys who seemed nice. All the time? So far today, how many women in your town have been abducted and raped? What was the final count yesterday and the day before that?

maleman999

Joined: 2/14/2010

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About to Lose my Best Friend.... Posted: 5/22/2013 6:55:05 AM
Opening post: "I've had this guy friend for a couple of months now. We became super close." What exactly does "super close" mean-especially with a guy you've only known for a couple of months? Are you more close to him than any BFF or any boyfriend? The plans you had with R sounds more like a date-going out for dinner together, sharing yours and his favorite cuisine, and hanging out the rest of the evening-which is maybe why S wasn't pleased with it. And maybe that's why your boyfriend isn't too fond of him. It seems like you got an ultimatum from S-choose continuing to "date" R, her boyfriend, or choose her. Just because you don't see a problem hanging out with other guys while they or you are in a relationship doesn't mean everybody sees it the same way. S assumed that when she started dating him, you would back off from the amount of contact with R. Maybe at some point, your boyfriend will give you the same ultimatum. Are you willing to sacrifice friendships and relationships to maintain your "super close" friendship with R, if it ever comes down to that? Only you can decide who is more important in your life.

maleman999

Joined: 2/14/2010

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Mail Order Brides has anyone tried Posted: 5/21/2013 5:55:32 AM
Does that mean I can't get a mail order bride on eBay or Kijiji and have her delivered to my house in 3 business days? That shoots a hole in my plans for love and marriage.

maleman999

Joined: 2/14/2010

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u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex Posted: 5/21/2013 5:21:33 AM
It would seem like, in many cases, is the people who have a problem with a partner having opposite sex friends are people who had a cheating partner in the past, or witnessed a family member or close friend who was involved in a cheating relationship, which caused trust issues. They might trust their partner, but doesn't want the partner to be in a position where the trust is challenged.

maleman999

Joined: 2/14/2010

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Mail Order Brides has anyone tried Posted: 5/21/2013 4:48:42 AM
It's a business exchange. Marriage is not a business exchange. If it's not a business exchange, why do divorce lawyers go after a minimum of 50% of monetary and materialistic goods for their client? And why do some people demand a pre-nup as a condition of marriage, especially in cases where one partner has a significant amount of assets in comparison to the other partner? And I suppose young, hot looking girls marry rich old men strictly for love.

maleman999

Joined: 2/14/2010

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About to Lose my Best Friend.... Posted: 5/21/2013 4:18:11 AM
OP: Let's reverse the situation. Let's say your BFF spent an evening with your boyfriend, going out for dinner and talking for a few hours and didn't tell you beforehand or invite you. Would that be OK with you? Which brings up another question, concerning that you're going out of town to hang out with this guy 1 on 1 while you have a boyfriend. Did you invite your boyfriend to go with you, or were you determined to have 1 on 1 time with this guy? I don't buy the excuse that the guy's car broke down and the BFF doesn't have a car, so they can't spend much time together, but you can hang out with him since you have a working car. How the guy and BFF manage to get together isn't your concern. That's their problem.

maleman999

Joined: 2/14/2010

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Marriage or nothing? What do I do? Posted: 5/19/2013 10:07:35 AM
^^^Gee dpwesu, with your attitude and views about all men, I can't understand why you aren't in a committed relationship. LOL.

maleman999

Joined: 2/14/2010

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motivated towards pleasure or away from pain? Posted: 5/19/2013 9:55:12 AM
The more I read here and elsewhere about the thousands of things that affect a relationship for better or worse, the more I'm starting to think that societies that have arranged marriages are on to something and know something we don't.

maleman999

Joined: 2/14/2010

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Weight loss seems to be the key to having a real possible relationship! Anyone have stories related? Posted: 5/19/2013 9:43:20 AM
How attractive do you think you will be if at some point, you will have to use a walker, cane, or scooter to get around because your spine can't handle the excessive weight and is causing constant back pain, and/or constantly monitoring your blood sugar level every day to make sure you don't go into diabetic shock, which will affect every aspect of your life? So it's not just a matter of looking better physically, which is itself a huge part of attracting the right person.

maleman999

Joined: 2/14/2010

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The my place date Posted: 5/19/2013 9:26:08 AM
I've read replies along with your concern and it baffles me that no one talked about the health issue. How do you know that your would-be-intimate partner has no communicable disease? What does that have to do with where a couple has sex-whether it's at someone's home, a hotel room or in the back of a van or truck?

maleman999

Joined: 2/14/2010

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Marriage or nothing? What do I do? Posted: 5/19/2013 7:24:47 AM
Msg 34: ...the woman is looking for a commitment. She wants to know that the relationship is going to go to the next level, is there really anything wrong with that? Yes, there is. What's wrong is the programmed mind set that the only possible way to show commitment is to have a wedding ceremony. How well has that commitment worked out in about half of marriages and the majority of people here? Next level? Is the next level upstairs or downstairs? What button do I push in the elevator? Are people who have lived together long term and even have and raise kids together without the socially pressured need of a wedding any less committed than people who go through the standard route of marriage? Ask divorced people how well commitment and the next level has worked out. I think the OP is being level headed and realistic about the situation. He knows marriage to her is a stupid idea. The girlfriend is under the assumption that a wedding ceremony will solve all of their problems, will stop all of the fighting, and they will live happily ever after in la-la land in a castle in the sky, exactly like it is in fairy tales. Unfortunately, a lot of people have the same theory-a wedding ceremony will solve all of their current problems, until they end up in divorce court and reality starts to sink in.

maleman999

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Marriage or nothing? What do I do? Posted: 5/18/2013 1:12:55 PM
Another way to make the girlfriend think twice about marriage, instead of just jumping into it blindly, is to say to her that if you two are going to get married, you want her to sign a pre-nup. It is a reasonable request, but since a lot of people are not reasonable when it comes to marriage, it would be a good idea to get one, especially under the circumstances. She gave you an ultimatum-marry me or leave me-so now it's your turn to give her an ultimatum-no pre-nup, no marriage. I'm betting she won't go for it because she's only interested in the fairy tale fantasy of a wedding.

maleman999

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Marriage or nothing? What do I do? Posted: 5/18/2013 9:15:29 AM
you really care about her walk away clean, or marry her and get it over with. "get it over with": That sounds like a fantastic reason to get married. lol. If I was the OP, I would suggest living together for a few years and re-evaluate the situation after that. At least that way, he will know for sure if she is only interested in the wedding and nothing more. Unfortunately, a lot of women are like that-the wedding day is more important than the guy and the relationship. As another person posted, don't cave to ultimatums. Ultimatums belong in children's games.

maleman999

Joined: 2/14/2010

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Did I already mess this up? Posted: 5/17/2013 8:30:21 PM
There's probably a 50/50 chance he'll forgive you and get back together. There's probably a 100% chance he will never say "I love you" again, whether drunk or sober, knowing how that worked out the last time. Personally, if someone dumps me, especially for a stupid asinine reason, there is no looking or going back. Do you think he is really going to be comfortable talking with you now or in the future, knowing you might dump him again if he says anything that you consider wrong? It would be like walking on egg shells, not knowing what will set you off and go into dump mode. By the way, what's OUIL? I heard of DUI and DWI, but this is a new one.

maleman999

Joined: 2/14/2010

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You find out he lied about being married Posted: 5/17/2013 11:13:32 AM
If you knew of a married woman who was having an affair, would you feel obligated to inform the husband of her affair? What about the scenario where two people who are both married, but not to each other, were having an affair, which happens a lot in office romances among co-workers. Would you feel obligated to tell both his wife and her husband of the affair?

maleman999

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You find out he lied about being married Posted: 5/17/2013 8:57:41 AM
^^^Totally agree with debydu z. I don't know who is more screwed up. A married guy who lies about his marital status and dating or an extremely vengeful woman when a date doesn't into a fairy tale "happily ever after" situation, but uses the excuse that it's their duty as a woman to stick their nose into people's personal life and save other women by helping to destroy their marriage. These women are strictly looking for revenge and nothing else, and are hoping the woman will leave the guy right away and take him to the cleaners in divorce court. It has nothing to do with "saving women". If these women were so concerned about saving other women, why aren't they living and working in third world countries where women are nothing more than a piece of property and have no rights, and try to save them? I never hear of guys playing these stupid games of tattling on a woman who is married, but didn't know until after a coffee meet, and then have immediate thoughts of getting revenge by trying to destroy her marriage. Why is this a woman's specialty?

maleman999

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Most of those who claim to want a relationship play the most games ugh! Posted: 5/17/2013 6:26:08 AM
I still don't get why sleeping together first date =wrong. After 5 dates = right. Women measure guy's interest in her by way of how much money he spends on her. After 5 dates, the guy has spent enough money on her to be rewarded with sex. It's as simple as that. It's a subtle, socially acceptable form of prostitution.

maleman999

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Most of those who claim to want a relationship play the most games ugh! Posted: 5/17/2013 6:15:27 AM
Msg 17: For the males who believe they need to try out the merchandise.. well we not a cars and do not want our tires kicked. We are not an article of clothing you need to try on to see if we fit. So if you hate having sex or if you're lousy in the bedroom, you expect guys to overlook that or not know anything about that and be cool with it. Using the same logic, I suppose you have no requirements when it comes to dating guys. Most guys will take a car for a test drive and check the tires before buying, and a lot of guys will try on clothing in a store before buying.

maleman999

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Dating more than one man at a time Posted: 5/17/2013 5:12:30 AM
What's strange is if a woman dates multiple men, it's regarded as the search for Mr. Perfect/the One/Must kiss a lot of frogs to find the prince. But when a guy dates multiple women at the same time, he's regarded as a player who is just looking for sex.

maleman999

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Most of those who claim to want a relationship play the most games ugh! Posted: 5/17/2013 4:53:04 AM
Msg 9...these men claim to want a relationship, say all the right words, do a romantic full court press, and as soon as they get you into bed... WHIZ! Off they go to the next woman. This happened to me three times. Sounds like the common denominator is YOU. Maybe the guys weren't impressed with your bedroom skills or felt the hoops they had to jump through to get to that point wasn't worth it. I wouldn't date a woman who thinks her vagina is a carnival prize to be won by making guys jump through hoops and spend oodles of money to get near it.

maleman999

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How To Get Over Being Single and Happy, or Not Posted: 5/16/2013 6:54:07 PM
Like the saying goes: Misery loves company. Are these people who are telling you you need to with a man in happy relationships themselves? The biggest problem with idiots who think they what's best for you is they will never let up or shut up. If you met a guy and started dating, you will get the non-stop chant "When are you getting married? What are you waiting for?", even if it's after one or two dates. If you were to get married, 2 second after the wedding ceremony, there will be the zombie chant "When are you going to have kids. You have to start right away before it's too late." If you have a kid, the chant starts up again "When are you going to have another kid? Kids should be close in age", and so on. A lot of people get peed off and really mad if you're not as miserable as them.

maleman999

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Why do Men of a Certain Age HATE Facebook? Posted: 5/16/2013 9:18:46 AM
"I simply haven't found a good reason to be on Fakebook." My sentiments exactly. If a person can't get in touch by phone, in person, e-mail, or snail mail, they can't be all that interested in keeping in touch. I feel the same way about texting. Texting is like having a pager on you at all times, being on call 24/7. There is no down time with it. I wish it was legal to run over people who cross the street into on-coming traffic who are so involved in checking for text messages or sending a text message, they are oblivious to traffic and the rest of the world. These idiots should be Darwinized.

maleman999

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Face book- are you interested- serious fun ? Posted: 5/16/2013 8:53:34 AM
This is from 2008....jes sayin Some people are slow readers....jes sayin

maleman999

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My Boyfriend's Dog Posted: 5/15/2013 7:22:11 PM
Buy the dog a big rawhide bone or bone from a butcher shop, and the dog will be content and chew on it for hours, as long as you don't allow the dog to bring it to bed. The bones get slimy with dog saliva after a while.

maleman999

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u can't have a platonic friendship with opposite sex Posted: 5/15/2013 10:17:42 AM
Msg 955: My friends are both female and male and I treat them EXACTLY the same regardless of gender. Does that mean if you're in a restaurant or bar with a guy friend and you need to go to the bathroom, would you take the guy friend with you, since it's rare for a woman to go the bathroom by herself in those places?

maleman999

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Breaking up over email..right or wrong Posted: 5/14/2013 8:07:02 PM
The people who think breaking up by e-mail is wrong think that way because it doesn't give the person who is being dumped the opportunity to fight back by hurling insults and screaming a barrage of name calling aimed at the dumper. People use the excuse they want to be told in person for closure. That's total BS. What people really want to do when being dumped is go totally nuts on the dumper to make the dumper feel bad and try to make him/her regret the decision. How many people have said, after being dumped in person: "You're absolutely right. I am not good enough for you and I have too many issues. Thank you for telling me. Hopefully you will find someone who is good for you"? Maybe in fairy tales, but that's about it.

maleman999

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FWB and new BF Posted: 5/14/2013 7:41:14 PM
Anyway, we love each other dearly as friends and we're able to successfully go back and forth as friends and lovers really without strings attached. Did you tell your new boyfriend this part-going back and forth with this friend you love so much-from friends to lovers and lovers back to friends at the flick of a switch with no strings attached? Who do you love more-your boyfriend or your FWB? It sounds like you're not ready to have a boyfriend yet. You have too much baggage to clear up.

maleman999

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u can't have a platonic friendship with opposite sex Posted: 5/14/2013 6:35:37 PM
I don't understand 38 pages of nonsense when the issue is very simple. People who don't want to date someone who hangs around ex's and close opposite sex friends are free to date others who share their views, and the same with people who have close opposite sex friends-they should be dating people who have the same lifestyle. It's called preferences-just like height, weight and income.

maleman999

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Blocked but still sending messages? Posted: 5/14/2013 11:24:17 AM
OP: You got further than I did one time. I got a message saying "Hi. Would you like to chat?" So I was sending a Yes reply with a couple of sentences, and when I clicked Send Message, I got a "recipient has blocked you" message. WTF?

maleman999

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moving in after 3 days...can it really succeed? Posted: 5/13/2013 9:14:28 AM
Three days is way too fast. For me, I would wait at least four days. It's kind of an odd question to ask people who have spent months or years getting to know someone, for the sole purpose of looking for red flags before taking the plunge, and it ends up in failure anyway. Maybe a lot of people are color blind. There are a lot of people here who are looking for total perfection and won't settle for any less, even if they have flaws themselves, so it's no use asking them what's too fast. And obviously what you think of it OP, doesn't matter.

maleman999

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I'm a damn mess-sucked into the drama, need help out. (Long) Posted: 5/13/2013 7:59:42 AM
When I break up with him...he won't let me go. I "break" up with him like 3x a week I stopped taking this thread seriously when I got to this point. Here's an idea OP. If he won't let you go, call the cops and get a restraining order against him so he can't keep in touch with you. Oh yeah-you would miss all of the drama you feed off of. The "boring" normal guys you dated won't feed your addiction to drama and crazy, childish game playing. When we're together it's fun-after his initial stress wears off-at first he acts weird and ADHD which he kind of is.. Obviously, a lot of people here have CCWS mental disorder: CCWS disorder is Can't Comprehend Worth Sh1t. People are interpreting the OP's statement "acts weird and ADHD which he kind of is" as an accurate medical diagnosis from highly trained professionals in the field of psychiatry.

maleman999

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19 and never had a boyfriend...is this normal? Posted: 5/12/2013 7:51:00 PM
If you were in some third world country, by age 19, you would have been married for the past 4 or 5 years and be pregnant with your fourth or fifth child. So in that world, it would not be normal to 19 and not attached.

maleman999

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CONFUSING INTENTIONS Posted: 5/12/2013 7:38:39 PM
The problem with the question "What are you looking for" is the person who is asking is actually asking "What are looking for in ME that I can provide you with in a relationship?" If a woman asks a guy what is he looking for, she doesn't care what he is looking for in another woman he dates. It's all part of the word and mind games and manipulation people play in the dating world. A person is more likely to know what he/she DOESN'T want rather than recite a standard list of good qualities they want in a person. If a person answers the question by telling you they are looking for someone honest, funny, sincere, and so on, does that really tell you anything about the person? Players will say all of those things because they are well rehearsed in telling a person exactly what they want to hear and there a lot of stupid people who will lap it all up as being truthful. I would rather have someone tell me honestly they don't know or aren't sure what they're looking but will know when they find it, rather than a lot of well rehearsed BS to play into their hidden agenda.

maleman999

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CONFUSING INTENTIONS Posted: 5/12/2013 9:40:42 AM
I ignore the profiles for friends. This is a dating site & I'm not looking for friends...IMO, those profiles are a complete waste of time, for me. At the other end of the spectrum, I am not looking for Miss Total Desperation whose only purpose for living and being on dating sites is to get a ring and wedding asap, and the only requirement is the that the guy have a pulse. IMO, those profiles that scream of desperation are a complete waste of time for me.

maleman999

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Can't Believe this Happened Posted: 5/12/2013 8:53:30 AM
"Omg! Facebook message?" Agree. The funny part is they work together, so they see each other all day almost every day-probably five days a week. So what's up with facebooking with someone you see in person all of the time?

maleman999

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u can't have a platonic friendship with opposite sex Posted: 5/12/2013 8:39:33 AM
Msg 868: Yes, my best friend is a male and also an ex...My SO is very close with his ex wife. He has gone to his ex for advice and I have gone to mine as well. From my perspective, this has dysfunction written all over it.

maleman999

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Can't Believe this Happened Posted: 5/12/2013 8:13:53 AM
Before that he'd sorta asked me out but I turned him down, didn't think he was serious... I have mentioned I don't take him seriously What's the problem? He wasn't serious when he sent a message on facebook. Why should he be when you don't take him seriously? I think your tiara is on too tight. I agree with the title of the thread-I can't believe someone would start a post about such childish nonsense.

maleman999

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moving in after 3 days...can it really succeed? Posted: 5/11/2013 11:34:25 AM
Basically his ex is kicking him out in a week and he needs a place to go because he's too poor to get a room locally even though he has a job. This is the shady part of the story. Is this ex his wife or girlfriend? If he and his ex jointly own a home, how can he be kicked out with a week's notice with no place to live? Or is it a case of moving from a woman's home to another woman's home, and getting kicked out of their homes? If he's working, he could at least afford a room somewhere until he gets established. But if the girlfriend is willing to overlook all of this, there's nothing to do or say and let the chips fall where they may. There's always the chance he'll make up with the ex and move back in with her.

maleman999

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Ex stopped talking to me Posted: 5/11/2013 11:14:54 AM
OP: Would the issue that drive you two apart still be there if you two got together again? Can you put that issue behind you and never mention it or think about it ever again? If not, break it off for good.

maleman999

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Ex stopped talking to me Posted: 5/11/2013 9:53:39 AM
OP: Have you told this "fantastic" guy you have gone to a dating site to figure out what to do about him? It amazes me when people are in a relationship-or in this case, hoping to get back into a previous relationship-and there is a hiccup in it, and there first instinct is to run to a dating site.

maleman999

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moving in after 3 days...can it really succeed? Posted: 5/11/2013 9:15:47 AM
The notion of someone moving in so quickly as a bad idea seems to blow the law of dating many women live by: the law of instant chemistry-where women see sparks and fireworks and know in a fraction of a second if the guy she just met is most likely the One. Then there's love at first sight. Maybe either one or both had something to do with it.

maleman999

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I'm a ex convict, should I tell the people I date Posted: 5/10/2013 7:51:13 PM
What a guy who has a conviction should do is on the first date, get her a gift. The gift being an Elvis Presley CD with the song Jailhouse Rock on it and let her figure it out.

maleman999

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I'm a ex convict, should I tell the people I date Posted: 5/10/2013 8:24:20 AM
I also agree with those that said timing is everything. But what would be a turn-off, as well as the crime, is the excuses for committing the crime, like the one mentioned in the opening post: " I ran with the wrong crowd." YOU chose to run with the wrong crowd. YOU chose to commit the crime. Therefore. YOU are responsible for your actions and the consequences associated with it. Stop blaming other people in the "wrong" crowd for decisions you made.

maleman999

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Women Pushing 40...Or Over Posted: 5/9/2013 7:45:25 PM
This thread reminds me of two different occasions, where I've talked to women on the phone who were over 40 who have daughters in their late teens/early 20's, and they professed that when they are out with their daughters, people don't know who is the mother and who is the daughter. What I immediately thought to myself is: If you were to stop dying your hair to hide the gray, stop the botox treatments and pancake make-up, would it be hard to tell who is who? You never hear guys saying "When I'm out with my son, people don't know if I'm the father or the son."

maleman999

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Any advice would be appreciated... Posted: 5/9/2013 3:37:10 PM
OP: Do what a lot of people do when they know a person isn't the ONE, but don't want to completely sever all ties to that person. Friend Zone her. Tell her you like hanging out with her, but a relationship wouldn't work, and it would be better to remain as friends only. The ball would be in her court to accept that or not.

maleman999

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Dont know what to do Posted: 5/9/2013 9:22:45 AM
...she used to always put x's when texting me now she either puts none 2 or 3. Gee, that is so heart breaking. Brings tears to my eyes (tears of laughter). I always use the number of X's in a message as an accurate gauge of love. lol. I will say what everyone is thinking, which is: Why is a school kid on a dating site? You're currently in an environment where you will meet more girls your age than you will ever meet when you get out into the real world.

maleman999

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Had my first POF date last week. What happens now? Posted: 5/9/2013 8:52:07 AM
Maybe get thee out to yer local dog-park several times every week and watch all tha social interaction there, amongst all them critters and even tha two-legged ones. Over a few months of regular attendance there will likely be a few who you will feel like kissin.. Tha two-legged ones I mean. The first thing those critters do when they meet is sniff each other's butt (the 4 legged critters). I don't find that appealing among 2 legged creatures. "To me kissing is so intimate that I have to be in the moment and be sure we are connecting on every other level before showing my tongue down their throat." It's very obvious that women who are extremely anal about kissing on a first or subsequent date have no clue what goes on in the rest of the world, outside of their neighborhood-yes, it's hard to believe, but the rest of the planet does exist beyond your city block. In a lot of countries, kissing is a common form of greeting someone, whether it's meeting a stranger or greeting a friend. Even men kiss each other in some countries. No, it's not tongue to tonsil kissing. It's usually a peck on the cheek. But in North America, giving someone a peck on the cheek could land a guy in court on charges of sexual assault.

maleman999

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Any advice would be appreciated... Posted: 5/9/2013 8:17:53 AM
This sounds too much like high school drama. It's hard to believe an educated adult would be involved with a train wreck as bad as this and wonder what to do-and all within a month. This post has got to be from a teenage troll. The first clue is not knowing how to use paragraphs when writing a story. The second is moving the relationship so fast in a few weeks and wondering about their future together, which is a teenager specialty. The only advice I have is stop feeding the troll.

maleman999

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Can anyone explain this to me? Posted: 5/8/2013 2:16:28 PM
It's no wonder so many women here will be single for the rest of their lives. If a guy doesn't pay for dates, he's a cheap SOB and not worth dating. If he pays for dates, he's a control freak and needs to be avoided. Have fun all alone with your cats. Actually, you women did me a favor. If I take a woman on a date, I will pick the most expensive restaurant in town, order the most expensive item on the menu, and order the $300 bottle of wine to impress her. When the bill comes, I will tell her: "I don't want to give the impression that I'm controlling you or buying your affection, so I will let you pay the bill to prove I'm not a control freak." Thanks for the tip.

maleman999

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What's with this Take Time To Heal advice? Posted: 5/8/2013 1:56:43 PM
So yes, I believe "time to heal" is a real necessary thing for people. Which begs the question, how do you know if you or the person you meet on a date is fully healed and date worthy? There is no definite black and white "You are now ready" or "You are not ready yet" line to cross or specific time frame. It's bad advice to tell someone to take time to heal unless you have a very specific one-size-fits-all definition of "heal".

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