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Why Do women dump men who are nice to them. Posted: 7/7/2010 3:03:06 AM
Nothing wrong with being treated nice. But if you go overboard with niceness it either seems fake or desperate.

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I have never felt pain like this before Posted: 7/5/2010 2:53:08 PM
No friends? A lot of people have no friends. Don't be so shocked. It happens. It happened to me. Never thought it would, but it did. I used to have a ton of friends but over time they moved away, got married, had kids and were no longer available. I was the odd one out. 3rd Wheel, etc...I was no longer included in activities that my friends would have. They only do "couples" things now. It hurts but I try not to think about it. I work independently so I don't have any contact with people in person. So yes, it does happen to more people than you realize.

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Coach me, please: What do I do when I meet ex-BF & his GF? Posted: 7/5/2010 1:15:50 PM
I'd do everything in my power to avoid coming in contact with them period. And I wouldn't hesitate to tell them to screw off if I did see them.

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How Does a Guy Heal a Broken Heart? Posted: 7/5/2010 12:19:04 PM
Why on earth are you dating someone else while you're still lamenting this past relationship? That is totally unfair to the person you are currently dating.

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The Act of Letting Go ... Posted: 6/1/2010 2:32:28 PM
I find it is extremely hard letting go when you have trouble becoming interested in someone to begin with. I HATE dating. I do. I've only established relationships with people I was friends with first. It takes a LOT for me to be interested in people period. It has nothing to do with looks, income, etc...More of a personality thing. If they're my friend first then its so much easier. But I have a hard time making new friends. I work alone and my old friends have moved away so I don't see them. Needless to say I have a very very hard time letting go because I know it will literally take me years to find someone else I might like. The prospect of waiting another several years again is very very depressing.

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Should I forgive a cheater? Posted: 5/31/2010 4:32:40 PM
I think she deserves to carry that guilt around. I think she does too. I wouldn't reply. Let her stew in her own guilt and wonder why she let a great guy get away.

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Is the fairytale impossible after 30? Posted: 5/27/2010 5:52:30 PM
Fairytales never come true. So no, I don't believe it can happen at any age.

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38 and thinking its too late Posted: 5/27/2010 5:44:03 PM
nevermind.

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I'm too old to have a baby Posted: 5/27/2010 5:41:58 PM
Sounds like the two guys you dated were douches. They need to get their facts straight. You can be super healthy and young and still have a baby with birth defects. Sounds like they used the baby age excuse as a lame cop out. Be glad you are rid of both of them.

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what did i miss? Posted: 3/14/2010 6:32:43 AM
Tell him that if he wants to continue with a "friends only" relationship to cut the crapolla bull chitting flirty little statements. Tell him ENOUGH sexual banter and teasing with his own lack of self control. Put HIM in the place he claims he wants to be. He is drawing lines in the sand and then admonishing you for crossing over them. I would tell him to "Go shyt in his hat, and wear it"... but that's just me. I wholeheartedly agree with this. He can't have it both ways.

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Is the fairytale impossible after 30? Posted: 3/14/2010 6:25:10 AM
No, I don't think so.

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911-Unhealthy Relationship, Can't move on! Posted: 3/13/2010 11:50:54 AM
Why waste all that time and energy focusing on someone who doesn't want to be " your official boyfriend" and is critical of almost everything you do?

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Is testing someone's commitment wrong? Posted: 3/5/2010 3:17:06 AM
Sounds like you found a real winner. Good luck.

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So tired Posted: 3/5/2010 3:11:31 AM
i just found out the reason. He learned his ex wife was having his baby so theyre getting back together, i can understand his REASON but he could have at least let me know so i wasnt waiting outside in the rain for 4 hours Sure she is

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How to stop thinking about her Posted: 3/5/2010 2:35:11 AM
nevermind

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Got my heart broken more than a year ago, and still cant get myself to go on a date! Posted: 2/25/2010 9:56:34 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^ OP please listen to clambroth. I wasted 20 years of my life hoping each man I met would treat me like my first love. Never happened. I grew frustrated and stopped dating entirely. This was a stupid mistake. I should have never given up when I was at my best in my 20s. Now I'm in my late 30s and I spend every weekend alone and its my own fault. I should have kept on dating when I was attractive and young. Now I'll never have a family as I am too old to have children at this point. OP Please don't make the same stupid mistakes I did.

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Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 2/25/2010 2:56:39 AM
I think people in this day and age have zero attention spans. With the advent of the internet they know its just a click away to find someone new. You don't have to put in as much effort as before to meet people online. I think when people invested more time in looking for someone they took it a bit more seriously.

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no valentine gift or card on purpose??or mistake?? Posted: 2/23/2010 10:42:25 PM
I know how you feel. I was completely forgotten on Valentines Day. I'd say get away from this man now. Sounds like he's just stringing you along. I wish I could take my own advice.

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Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 2/23/2010 6:10:21 PM
Sometimes, I really wish it were possible to turn off that part of your brain that wants to find that special person, if such a part does exist. I would volunteer for that right now! Well I'd be second in line! Lol. If that were possible I'd feel so much better.

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Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 2/23/2010 6:08:49 PM
I sure do. In the past (when I did date) I tend to attract men who basically want someone to listen to their problems, make them laugh, and provide them with sex until they find someone better. Usually someone younger and prettier. I'm done with that crap.

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Got my heart broken more than a year ago, and still cant get myself to go on a date! Posted: 2/23/2010 6:00:26 PM
Welcome to the club. I've gone about 8 years or so now without a single date. I just can't muster the enthusiasm or energy in meeting strangers. The only people I've dated were through some sort of connection ie school or work. I don't like people enough to risk meeting strangers. I guess you could say I'm not a social butterfly. It is a horrible position to be in. I'm lonely but I don't like lots of socialising. So basically I'm doomed. OP, I'm glad you're getting on top of this now. Hopefully you won't waste years of your life like I have.

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