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breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

Msg: 49 (view)

surviving a self focussed partner. Posted: 9/9/2008 7:56:30 PM
Funny, I was just going to post something very similar to yours as a Brand New thread, and went right to yours. I agree. I am amazed at how everything has to be about them, if it is their kid, or their car, or something they want it is urgent. If it is my kid, my dog, my life it is put to the end of the to do list. Don't get me wrong, I would love to see my other half have and enjoy everything he wants. Nine times out of ten I would try and help them get it if I could. But then when you look back on the things that are important to you, or areas of your life you have tried to share with them and they act like they could care less. If you did something good, they did it even better or they are the reason you did so well to begin with.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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Karma.........poem Posted: 3/2/2007 7:20:53 PM
I never questioned anything you told me. I just thought you were my one and only. Gave my whole world to you, I saw my life thru you. You were the love of my life. who would have guessed I had to question, A love that felt so right. Thinking back for instance, to the time you made me promise you I would never leave your side. I never thought that you would leave me, I never guessed it would be so easy, for you to just turn and walk away. A part of me that was given to you, Just went away. Funny after all these years, I have never been the same. So I wonder, Are you happy now? Did you find what you were looking for. You know I hear that Karma, has a way of coming back to you. So, you thought that she loved you? Never questioned what she told you! Never thought she would leave your side. You thought the two of you were forever? She is the love of your life. You thought she would never leave you, You never guessed it would be so easy, For her to turn and walk away................ Guess it's your turn to never be the same. ? Karma coming back to you good and bad?

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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Healing Power of TEARS Posted: 2/14/2007 8:12:16 PM
I think that crying was or is given as a release. However I think the more things that happen in our lives that really hurt us, we tend to build a wall that makes us unable to cry. I am sure that as the years have went by, I have replaced tears with some kind of image that I have to be strong, and the nobody is going to see me cry attitude. I think that it is not the best solution, but for some of us we have been hurt so many times it is what we end up doing just trying to survive emotionally. I hope that makes sense.... Bree

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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Old love Posted: 1/22/2007 9:15:52 PM
My ex use to do that to me, and it was the same thing. He would call 20 times a day and it would go from HOW MUCH HE LOVED ME, then to name calling ect. My lawyer actually gave me the cure. If he calls, go ahead and pick up the phone and set the reciever down and don't talk at all. Have the person at work put him on hold, and leave him there on hold.... eventually he will get the hint when he gets tired of sitting on the phone. My lawyer said that even saying hello opens the door for him to keep thinking there is a chance, or in my case so controling that He could not stand the fact that I wanted nothing to do with him. I also did the restraining order, and harrasement. But the leaving him dangling on the phone with no one on the other end seemed to make it stop.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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Broken Hearted Posted: 1/5/2007 9:02:45 PM
What was it that he said, that offended you? Maybe he feels like what he said was not that bad, and thinking if you are going to react to something like you did, that he is afraid of getting into a relationship. That is why knowing what he said might help decide what he is thinking. Other possibility, is he was just trying to find a reason to end the relationship anyway, and used the hanging up a phone as a way out.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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he loves her but is not in love with her Posted: 12/30/2006 8:23:18 PM
You have the best answer yet.... It is someone who is in a relationship that is not planning on ending, but wants someone on the side as well. A pretty selfish person, who has someone who prob really loves them and thinks they have a good relationship with trust, honesty, faithfulness and look how easy it is for them to look for someone else.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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Dreams and Visions Posted: 11/9/2006 9:09:48 AM
Dreams and me tend to be bad ones. However the other night, I had a very bad dream, and woke up thinking God why can't there be some peace at least in your sleep. I then after about a hour, went back to sleep. I had one of the best dreams I have ever had. It took little bits and pieces of my life, and placed them all in one glorious dream. The one thing that I have always wanted and cannot seem to find, the love of my life. It was in this dream with a man I have never met. In the dream, all I had to do is look in his eyes, and I felt the love he had for me was real. Which I have said many times, that I am looking for a love that there is no question to his love for me, faithfulness, ect. I have never had such a wonderful dream. The places where beautiful, My mom was no longer in a wheel chair but walking, and laughing which she has been in for the last 17 years, My children where at the age of 5 and 7 and running and laughing with total joy. The place I was staying was a mansion, and absolutely beautiful. Flowers and gardens, and then I woke up. Had to go to work, and thought about the dream off and on all day. No idea what it meant, but what a dream

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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SO if you thought about it, if you looked at your new gf or bf do they actually resemble your ex. Posted: 10/1/2006 9:52:59 PM
lol. Ditto here also.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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Women who Choose not to be in a relationship man haters?? Posted: 9/12/2006 5:12:30 PM
I did the same thing, put my kids, job, building a home ect and did not date for years. One of the reasons, was I did not want to take the chance of having my kids involved in a relationship that I might start, and then get hurt if it did not work out. Well after seven years, I dated someone and feel completely in love with him. My kids thought the world of him. Everything he said he wanted, and how he said he had been hurt before and he would never do that to someone. His ex went out on him for his best friend, and they seperated years before I met him. (seven years to be exact) We dated for a year and a half, and he got me a ring, ect. He was the love of my life, and the old saying the heart loves and blinds the eyes from seeing the truth. So, he was happy and his ex found out about it. She decided she wanted him back. I noticed that every time I turned around she was in the picture. I was given all kinds of reasons, and come to find out he was seeing her. We broke up and within 24 hours she moved in with him. I was crushed.... But not only that as bad as it was, It broke my kids hearts also. I take full blame for that because I am the one who brought him into our lives, and shared my life, home, children with him. I think it had a very bad effect on my children, and to this day I think it has alot to do with their thoughts on relationships, and choices. No, I am not a man hater but I feel that my kids should never have been put in a relationship that they could get hurt so bad. It was not intended, however it happend. So, I think you are doing the right thing.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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just need to let it out Posted: 9/2/2006 8:18:32 PM
I agree with the idea that he resents her relationship with you and is threatend by it. He is probably really jeolous, and she had no choice. Esp if he treats her really bad as you said. I think I would find a way to talk to her, and tell her how you feel. Let her know the truth of how much you care about her. It may not change anything, but atleast you can speak your mind, and find closure.

breznthunder

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Approaching an anniversary or remembering day that someone close to you passed away.... Posted: 9/2/2006 8:12:58 PM
I lost my dad a little over two years ago. I find myself missing him all the time. My everyday life finds me remembering alot of things he said as I grew up that helped mold me into the person I am today. Just the thought of him, brings tears. Not being able to pick up the phone to just say hey, I love you.... Then, I think about my children, my family and how lucky I have been to not have lost a brother or a sister, or a child. I think it makes you learn to appreciate relationships you do have a little bit more. I don't think I will ever think of my dad without having the tears in my eyes, I think a parent, is just someone that you have always had, and they are a part of who you are, and there is no getting over that loss. It makes you realize just how special being able to pick up the phone, and say hey dad I love you, and him to reply I love you to really was.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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A guy on here Posted: 8/14/2006 2:18:51 AM
I only have one thing to add to everyone else, Don;t you think he knows whats up since he can read this also.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... Posted: 8/6/2006 7:40:14 PM
I agree with you. I talked to my ex a couple years ago, and we got on the subject of dating. I told him I was seeing someone younger than I was, and he said something like " reb eling against my age. I said, NO it is just that most of the guys that are my age have a beer belly, can't see their toes, and Just are not attractive to me. I said you know it's funny when we are married and have kids, the men are like when are you going to lose that weight, but if it is a guy past 40 they think it is alright to gain fourty pounds, and nothing be said about it. I honestly, look at the profiles, and it is true. Guys my age I am not attracted to. I can't help it, but it is the truth.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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Guys who will not leave you alone, and then when you finally say ok to go out Posted: 8/5/2006 8:29:54 PM
Is is a new relationship, and I do not date very often, But He is the one who kept trying to turn it into something other than " Hey how are you do". As far as the plans for steak, He is the one who said you still have that steak, I have something to do it won't take very long and I will be back. I will call you when I am on the way. It is now 11:30 no call, and I pretty much am going to tell him when I do talk to him, friends are fine, and I dont want to have it go any further. I am just sick of games.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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disapointed and confused,,, Posted: 8/5/2006 8:14:44 PM
I was pregnant with my second child and not married. After the child was born he used all these things against me to make me feel bad like, You are depriving our child from hving her father around, ect. I gave in. It lasted three months, and worst time of my life. Please think about it, if he is already treating you different, Make sure this marriage is not going to just be based on the child. It there is that big of a difference in your and his relatioinship, than maybe it is time to sit down and point blank ask him if he wants out. Better now that to get married and have to go thru all that with the baby. and courts.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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Guys who will not leave you alone, and then when you finally say ok to go out Posted: 8/5/2006 8:08:24 PM
Just jab, Not at all. I would just expect a phone call saying never mind, and he has something else to do, while in the meantime I have ribeye steaks sitting to be cooked. And for us much as he keept asking me to go out with him, that he would have a little more respect. To me, I think he is just a player. a Man whole believes you are just suppose to sit around and wait for their call like they are Gods gift to women.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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Guys who will not leave you alone, and then when you finally say ok to go out Posted: 8/5/2006 8:03:48 PM
A guy keeps coming on to you. You laugh it of and say thanks, but your are not interested. He still keeps coming on to you, and you decide to give it a try, Then when you do, He says. He will get ahold of you in a little while, and planed on cooking steak on the grill, for instance. That was at noon, and it was past midnight whem he called and said he was ready for steak. Says nothing about why he did not call five hours ago, and just exspects you to start cookin, which is not going to happen/ The next night he says lets do the steaks, and you say ok and it is 11.19 and no call no show, ect. Why would a guy think you are going to just sit here waiting for call at 11. after you know from the phone call the other night he was in a bar. What makes guys think you are just going to hear the phone ring, and they say i am ready to come get that steak..; I am like, ya right// kiss my a../ Arri. how is that, help you understand any better

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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Guys who will not leave you alone, and then when you finally say ok to go out Posted: 8/5/2006 7:50:49 PM
What is your point. What is a more comprehensible form of English? Seems pretty straight forward to me.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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Guys who will not leave you alone, and then when you finally say ok to go out Posted: 8/5/2006 7:02:06 PM
Why do guys push and push to say they want a relationship, and then when you think well he seems sincere, and then they play this game about telling you they have to go do something for a little while, and they will get back to you in a little while/ Then little while ends up going from noon, till 11 or 12 at night, and think they are going to get something going on at midnight. says nothing about not getting ahold of you for the last 12 hours, and act as if they have not done anything wrong. I don;t get it.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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MY SISTER broke my heart... Posted: 8/1/2006 2:50:25 AM
My sister has treated me like I was some bum living off the streets my whole life. But if it is my children, well she would and will do anything for them that they want. Bad part is, while I was sitting back and letting them have a relationship because my sister cannot have kids, and it was the right thing to do, she has taken every opportunity to put me down, and side with them when they are in trouble. ect. I cannot, and will not live my life trying to be a friend, or sister to her anymore. I am done. If she is low enough to take the most important thing in my life, after raising them on my own all these years, and try and turn them against me and make herself look so good, Then I don;t want any part of a relationship with her. I have wasted to many years trying to figure out how to be friends and figure out what the hell I did that was so bad that she treats me like a bum off the streets. I have no answer. I do however have a choice to move on, and not let it bother me anymore.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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Breast Implants Posted: 7/31/2006 9:47:48 PM
First Question? Do you like sleeping on your stomach, Then Breast implants are not a very good option, you will never sleep as comfortable as you did before you got them. If you do not have any reason to get them, and your own look fine, dont get them. No matter what people say, they do not just feel natural. If it is not a medical reason, I would honestly say don't get them.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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how to lose a guy in 10 days? Posted: 7/31/2006 9:37:41 PM
Pretend like you have multiple personalities, and one of them happens to be someone who likes to use whips on her bad little boy.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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how to lose a guy in 10 days? Posted: 7/31/2006 9:34:19 PM
Didn't you watch that movie? Pricess sophia.

breznthunder

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What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart?? Posted: 7/31/2006 9:31:33 PM
I believe that each of us, has our own level of tolerance to what we can deal with emotionally. A broken heart can bring down the strongest of men and women. The feeling of loss, hopelessness, hurt, rejection just takes over and in some cases there is just no coming back. There are people who have literally stayed in bed for weeks, because the loss was so devastating that they had a emotional break down. I believe a broken heart, or lets say the broken love that you felt you had inside for someone, and held a degree of security, dependency on that person. It is a daily fight, to make yourself think of something else, not dwell on it, and do what ever you can to move on and accept it. But some just cannot get past that Broken heart and loss.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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my wife has no sex drive Posted: 7/31/2006 9:08:30 PM
I think the counseling thing is a good idea, I might be wrong but I thought womans sex drive actually increased at about that age. But my suggestion would be, to think back to the little things you use to do for her, Flowers, a romantic walk, holding her hand and walking barefoot in the sand at the beach. What ever you can remember you use to do, that you may not do any more. A call in the middle of the day to just say, Hey I love you. Or better yet, ask her if she would like to go on a romantic getaway for a weekend, and where would she like to go. Make her feel special again. and I would also have her go to her female doctor and see if maybe there is a reason that it is not happening so much. Maybe there is something that makes it uncomfortable, or a hormone problem. Maybe she just thinks it is normal, and nothing is wrong. Just my thoughts

breznthunder

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SO if you thought about it, if you looked at your new gf or bf do they actually resemble your ex. Posted: 7/31/2006 8:59:23 PM
I am curious as to peoples opinions on this. I have heard this several times. You break up with someone, and you finally meet someone and start dating them. ANd then one of your friends, or one of your relatives points out that they act, look, talk like the ex. And before they so kindly pointed that out, you never realized it until then and they were right.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 7/31/2006 8:53:02 PM
This is funny, My sister who is older than me, and would never ever be on a dating site...... Kept talking to this guy who she knew thru work, and talked to him on the phone. He kept asking her out, and well finally she gave in, never seeing him before. They meet at the restaurant, and They say there hellos and he smiles and he is missing his front teeth. OMG ( You would have to know my sister. )I am sure she was trying to sink under the table, and prayed she did not see any one she knows. They get done eating and they get up from the table and she starts walking to the door and he puts his arm around her shoulder and strolls to the register to pay. They get out in the parking lot, and he says you never know you just might get lucky and I will ask you out again. Then he gave her this big old kiss, and she was like pushing him away saying ok well I gotta go. lol................ Oh to be a fly on the wall,,, When she told me about this, I laughed so hard I peed my pants. So, I would never go meet someone with out a picture. lol

breznthunder

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Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..? Posted: 7/30/2006 10:37:57 PM
depending what you call cheating is.... ? I don't think I have ever known any other definition of the word Cheating, in a relationship.

breznthunder

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African-American organization speaks out against illegal immigration Posted: 7/30/2006 9:15:43 PM
This is a question that I just have to get the answer for. Maybe you can help me understand, and I am not being a smart ass, It is just something that crosses my mind every time slavery is brought up, and statements like you made about mexicans and then your race would be left alone. History has many terrible things that has happend to all people. Yes it is important that we know what happend, and learn. But we are not those people who lived it and had to endure it. Our hearts can go out to all those people who were treated wrong, But it is just what it is, "History". So why to this day is it brought up as if you lived it, or you were part of it and use it as if you were the one that was enslaved, And for me, that I am the one who did to you. When do we move on, with what our lives are now, today, and be thankful that the human race has learned from their mistakes, and changed. I am not saying that you forget it, it is History. I am not saying it was not awful for all people who were slaves. BUT put it where it belongs, and live today. Don't hold this generation, for past generations mistakes. And...... If we have learned by our history, why would you want the mexicans to be treated badly. I don't understand.

breznthunder

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Should I call a girl from my past? Posted: 7/30/2006 8:41:23 PM
ctyoe, It seems that you truly cared for her, and that she hurt you. I think that if you called her, you would end up getting hurt all over again. I think her age has alot to do with it also. You both are so young,. I guess it would be a question to yourself, if you want to go thru the same thing again after already going thru it with her already. Best of luck in what ever choice you make

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..? Posted: 7/30/2006 8:35:19 PM
Scubee, I agree with your statement, that once the trust is broken the relationship will NEVER be the same. You can try picking up the pieces and start over again, but you can never forget, and it will always be there in your thought process. Cheating takes away a very important part of a relationship, where you once would have said, My husband, boyfreind would never cheat on me, our relationship is to good for that to happen. I would have sat right there in the last relationship and would have bet my life on that, and really thought we had something fantastic. Boy was I wrong. After that when he would contact me, or I saw him regardless of the conversation, or reason I was thinking the whole time "He cheated on me" my heart and mind was thinking how could he do that. AND at the same time, how can he not no how bad he hurt me. And he would act like he dropped a piece of glass and it shattered, NO BIG DEAL, and never said he was sorry. That ideal of what you thought you had has been taken away, and the only thing left is the reality that He would go out on me, and He really acted like it was no big deal. Sorry for so long of a post,,, But my Number 1 saying is Once you take away the trust, it can never be earned back. The relatonship will never be the same, and unless you are a really different type of person you normally could never really forgive the betrayal, the hurt, or the loss of respect you use to have for that person. On one more relationship that I was in, only married to him and pregnant and found out he was cheating on me, and I left him. He tried to talk to me a couple times, and at one point almost had me convinced to go back to him until he said this one sentence. " See I know you couldn't leave me and stay away, because you love me to much! " Well, it hit me like a ton of bricks and my answer to him was this. Yeah, and because you think that I love you so much, you think you can go out and cheat and no matter what you do, or how bad it is you think I am going to be sitting here waiting for you. I grew up more in that conversation, and found my self respect more than I ever have. I knew at that moment it was OVER. Bree

breznthunder

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YOUNG SINGLE PARENTS Posted: 7/30/2006 7:41:36 PM
I am going to add something to this post, because I once was where you all are not so very long ago. My kids were my whole world, and I was a single mom their whole life. I had this idea in the back of my head that I would make sure that they would have everything a two parent home would or could give them. I bought a house, with a inground pool, a huge back yard with a tree house. I worked, and at times worked two jobs. I did not really know anyone my age at that time so was pretty much on my own. So, I am going to suggest you try and find other single parents to really communicate with. The other thing I think is really important, is that I believe now providing the four bedroom house, and working my butt off to keep it, and the stress of making it on my own at the time seemed the right thing to do. Now sitting here by myself in a four bedroom house I find that the four bedroom house and working all the time, will never make up for the time that I should have spent with them. They grow so fast, and they really need your attention alot more than they need any material thing that would or will keep you away from them. Talk to them every day, and ask them questions about their friends, school, problems, and make them see you really care how they feel. Sometimes it gets so stressful, you might find your self hearing them talk, and not hearing what they said because you are so busy your mind is on 101 things. Then one day you wake up, and you have all this stuff sitting around you that you provided for them, and they are gone. Then you have memories of the moments or times you wish you could go back to and do it all over again. Bree

breznthunder

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How do you involve your kids in your dating? Posted: 7/30/2006 7:29:23 PM
Witty Fool, I waited over six months after dating a guy, before introducing him to my kids. I did that because of course, I did not want my kids getting involved and then not having it work. I did not date for a very long time before I met this particular person, and he had been seperated for OVER 7 years from his wife. His wife left him for his best friend, and His ex lived with his best friend for seven years. So, I really thought I was safe in introducing him to my children, letting him into my world. Both of my girls adored him, treated him like their real dad. They joked around, and they even gave him a new name that lasted for over a year. Jimmy Joe, .... Well he bought me a ring, and his ex found out about it, and heard how happy he was and she left her live in boyfriend of seven years, and got him back, I was devastated, First time I really understood having to learn how to breath without that special someone in your life, and the "How am I suppose to live with out you, ect. BUT THEN, there was something even worse than that. He broke my kids heart. For that I still blame myself and was the reason I had not dated for so long. Because of my two daughters age at the time, I feel it really had a impact on them, and even on how they feel about me to this day. He hurt them, so I am the one who brought him into their world, so I hurt them too.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

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Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..? Posted: 7/30/2006 7:19:47 PM
I never have, and never will. I just couldn't do that to someone. However, I have had it done to me to many times. Guess because it has happend so many times before, is why it is really hard for me to open that door to trust. It is a shame for the person who has never done anything to you, and you have walls up from past experiences. I am trying to deal with that, but can't say I have been able to remove that wall yet.

breznthunder

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CAN HE DO THIS!?!?!? ADVICE NEEDED VERY BADLY!!! Posted: 7/30/2006 7:13:57 PM
To the OP saying it is pathetic, What are you talking about? Your post makes no sense!

breznthunder

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CAN HE DO THIS!?!?!? ADVICE NEEDED VERY BADLY!!! Posted: 7/30/2006 7:10:29 PM
Actually you can have the police escort you his or your place to get your personal belongings. If it is items you can prove that is yours. But if he says it is his stuff, like couch ect it will prob have to go thru small claims, ect. If that is the case, then even if you pay what he is asking you to pay, he still might not give it to you. It might be worth going to a small claims court to protect your rights, and get what is yours.

breznthunder

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Not Too Proud To Ask For Help Posted: 7/30/2006 2:57:04 PM
This is a manz world, hmmmm You said that a couple times..... So, I guess you can do it in this world the way you want to, But plan on doing it alone. IF you don't have any more respect for a woman, esp the one in your life than Go have fun in your mans world

breznthunder

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Not Too Proud To Ask For Help Posted: 7/30/2006 2:53:38 PM
1. Showing her you love her without a doubt 2. Honesty, 3, faithfulness 4. Friendship 5. Nothing is more important to you than her.

breznthunder

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African-American organization speaks out against illegal immigration Posted: 7/30/2006 1:17:14 AM
I agree with you druid lawyer. I have worked with Mexican's while creating a fiber route. They would work harder than anyone else on the job. You have three in a hole they are digging with shovels, and when it is time to take a break for lunch, one would get out and eat, and then one of the other two get out and do the same. I never once heard them complain about being told to do something, they took their direction, and did it. They do not have the attitude that alot of Americans have, which is " You would neve catch me doing that job ", because they feel they are above doing that type of work, or never had to work that hard. As far as the black part of the issue, it is not a black issue, it is a American issue for all americans. Why take as it is just against blacks?

breznthunder

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a seagull and our scrapes of food, this is so funny Posted: 7/28/2006 6:20:06 PM
Regarding my post, sorry for the spelling errors, it was suppose to fact not face, and it was suppose to be lake not lack. Guess I better proof read from now on!

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

Msg: 33 (view)

You suddenly find yourself on your death bed tomorrow... Posted: 7/27/2006 6:27:49 PM
I would wish that I would some how have known what the best decision was when dealing with my kids, what was the right answer or response to make them a better person, or to have more self confidence, or to know what and what not to do in their lives,.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

Msg: 11 (view)

Anyone else hoping to experience love at first sight? Posted: 7/26/2006 6:28:14 PM
I absolutely believe in love at first sight. Have heard to many great stories not to. Happens more than you think...

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

Msg: 101 (view)

Trust! given or earned? what is your opinion based on your experiences and wisdom Posted: 7/26/2006 3:39:25 PM
I have always given and unfortunately they usually do something that ends up making them earn it back. But, that is a pretty hard thing to do. In my experience once the trust is broken, it is never the same.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

Msg: 1 (view)

Chat on plenty of fish. Posted: 7/25/2006 8:32:22 PM
I sent a question to tech support, and asked why there was not a chat and they replied But I have not figured it out. Can someone tell me how to get the chat, so you can talk to a bunch of people all at once

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

Msg: 1 (view)

a seagull and our scrapes of food, this is so funny Posted: 7/25/2006 7:33:43 PM
We were sitting in the car by a lake. Seagulls where every where, as this is where alot of people go and eat thier lunch cuz it is so peaceful. We of course throw out food as we eat and they all gather around. Well there was just a little bit left in my friends bag and I threw it out. Not thinking about the face he eats jalopins (sp) which are really hot. There was one half of one thrown out, and one seagull ran up to grab it, got it and droped it instantly and left, the second seagull grabed it and flew a couple feet away/ As I watched him., he droped it. turned his head left and right, and then picked it up again. This time he dropped it. He did not fly, however took off running to the nearest water puddle and stuck his head in the water like a ostrich. Then came back up like he was spitting water out of his mouth and then stuck his head back in the water again. Then he picked his head up, and made a bee line to the lack and completely jumped in. I felt bad, but this was so funny watching him that I laughed till I cried. Lesson learned do not ever throw out jalopinos to Seagulls.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

Msg: 12 (view)

When you are talking to someone via email and Posted: 7/25/2006 10:12:53 AM
Thank you for your opions. Learned my lesson. If I ever meet someone it will be at Starbucks. I have only ever met one person since I have been on line, and he is on of my best friends, Soooo, I will take your advise and never do that again. Bree

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

Msg: 38 (view)

Guys, Opinion's please I am really interested in this what this answer is going to be. Posted: 7/25/2006 10:08:40 AM
Actually I believe I was asking Guys what they think! As far as my picture there is no intent on making it all about my boobs, which the question is pertaining to . I am not being a hypocrite. There are alot of women who have a large chest, and clothing complements them, in a femanine way, and then those who turn it in to trashy. But, I am getting a good response to what I was wondering, and that is What Guys think about it.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

Msg: 13 (view)

You Will NEVER Believe this but it is TRUE SO BROKEN HEARTED) Posted: 7/24/2006 7:46:11 PM
I am sure this is hard to deal with, but I have to tell you. I have raised my kids on my own for the last 21 years, and I would have fought to keep them no matter what. If a man were in the picture, and he was not mature enough to deal with my kids, and the crazy things they do as kids, then I would say hit the road. I would not give up my kids for a man, or even think about it. I mean come on,. You remind me of my ex husband, who did not see his daugter for eight years and then out of the blue decided to move thirteen hours from his home town to where I live because "he said" he wanted a relationship with his daughter. I left that decision up to her and what she wanted to do and felt. Even after all the years he had no contact with her, she wanted to see him. That is understandable, he is her dad. flesh and blood. But then he gets here, visits her often for the first three months, got a girlfriend and she would not here from him for months until he and his girlfriend broke up. Then she was all important again. A couple months later, again a new girlfriend, and again no contact with his daughter. Your child needs you in there life, you are part of who they are, and who they are going to become. Geez, I would have kicked her to the curb the first time you realized she did not like your kids, and you are all upset about losing her. Thats just wrong.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

Msg: 11 (view)

Guys, Opinion's please I am really interested in this what this answer is going to be. Posted: 7/24/2006 7:02:49 PM
I appreciate your answers. I guess I just would never beable to do pictures like that, cuz I would be really embarrased. Yet have seen profiles where all 7 or more pictures that tend to be focusing on the boobs, butt, with shorts on and so short you see most of the butt, ect. Then I read a post that asks Why are guys only after sex? I think that the photos pretty much are saying that is all they are after. Thanks again for your response.

breznthunder

Joined: 5/22/2006

Msg: 1 (view)

Guys, Opinion's please I am really interested in this what this answer is going to be. Posted: 7/24/2006 5:57:55 PM
Guys, When you see profiles from women who appear to be poising for a girly magazine, and have their boobs hanging out, and pushing their boobs together with their hands and posing as if it if for play boy, How serious do you take their profile, as being your future love of your life? This is not meant to be against anyone, just want to know what a mans point of view is on the post

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