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paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 329 (view)

Dancing Posted: 5/18/2013 12:51:25 PM
A cruiser type bike is built to handle heavy loads and most guys who ride them aren't out for a spirited trip through the twisties. A 400 pound sport bike is a completely different story. One blip of the throttle and no more pillion, LOL.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 19 (view)

Marriage or nothing? What do I do? Posted: 5/18/2013 7:16:16 AM
Personally, I wouldn't accept an ultimatum such as this. Just tell her thanks for your time together and wish her luck.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 327 (view)

Dancing Posted: 5/18/2013 6:44:50 AM
Hmm, a little ol' 120 pound woman doesn't bother my 1000 pound Harley cruiser at all. If you're already riding an overweight brick, adding another person probably won't have much of an effect. Personally, I prefer a machine that can out turn the average aircraft carrier.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

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Forum Posting Violations Please Report Here Posted: 5/17/2013 3:14:10 PM
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts16026781.aspx Thread: What happened to old fashioned men? Poster: babygirl8066 Violation: Redundant Thread

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 31 (view)

Most of those who claim to want a relationship play the most games ugh! Posted: 5/17/2013 11:04:26 AM
This is why the intent question is lame. Every guy knows that if they want women to respond to their emails, they have to choose the "Wants a relationship" response. This advice is plastered all over the internet.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 325 (view)

Dancing Posted: 5/17/2013 10:34:38 AM
I don't want a passenger on my motorcycle. The extra weight completely changes the vehicle's dynamics, and not for the better.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

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Dating more than one man at a time Posted: 5/16/2013 8:01:53 PM
Stop following bad advice. Listen to your heart.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 11 (view)

How To Get Over Being Single and Happy, or Not Posted: 5/16/2013 10:22:56 AM
Why would you want to get over being happy?

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 50 (view)

Men are more about the money??? Posted: 5/16/2013 7:28:22 AM
books on human spirituality including The Way of the Superior Man, Finding God Through Sex, That's all I needed to know. There are no universal roles, just mindless sychophants who swallow this horse bleep.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 47 (view)

Men are more about the money??? Posted: 5/16/2013 6:03:34 AM
Since when is proven scientific theory (evolution) NONSENSE? Since it's neither proven nor scientific. Do you not understand the meaning of the word "hardwired"? I understand that people who use this cliche in the forums are actually just trying to push their opinions on others. lazy? I think you have me confused w/ some of the other women in the forums... A person who refuses to think for themself is intellectually lazy. Please do not TWIST or MISQUOTE Pretty Patterson's words...SHE is a FIERCE FELINE! Have I mentioned how stupid I think it sounds when people refer to themselves in the third person? Get the book, u can get one used on @mazon Nothing makes me run from a woman faster than learning she reads cheesy relationship books.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 36 (view)

Men are more about the money??? Posted: 5/15/2013 7:08:41 AM
Men & woman have things hardwired into them, & by trying to inject equality into sexual/romantic relationships, they neutralize it, creating a confused mess. People who repeat this kind of nonsense are just too lazy to open their minds to other possibilities. Humans are incredibly adaptable beings, but not if they won't allow themselves to adapt. David Deida's primary goal is proselytising his religious beliefs.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 93 (view)

Proper/improper attire? Posted: 5/13/2013 6:44:56 AM
When I'm in the backwoods, the last thing in the world I worry about is whether someone thinks my shoes are ugly.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 91 (view)

Proper/improper attire? Posted: 5/13/2013 5:19:55 AM
Crocs are light weight and serve a purpose. They are worthwhile to have in a backpack for stream crossings and for camp shoes. They also work for beach shoes. Definitely not something I'd wear on a date, though. As long as we're banning stuff, I'd vote to outlaw pants that are pleated on the front. Also cuffs at the bottom. I tend toward more casual dress, but I once had a woman show up for a first meet wearing a pink sweatsuit. It was not a good look...

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 110 (view)

Women Pushing 40...Or Over Posted: 5/12/2013 9:21:32 PM
Do you somehow magically know which women have younger men’s attention? I would assume those capable of it. If you date women, you’ve got competition. No kidding? Who'da thought. FYI…..that comment wasn’t about you. That doesn't mean I can't respond to it.

paderic

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Msg: 108 (view)

Women Pushing 40...Or Over Posted: 5/12/2013 4:33:50 PM
sounds like someones finding the younger competition a bit of a problem. I agree….sure sounds like it’s rough out there….for some. Competition for something I don't want isn't really competition.

paderic

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Msg: 101 (view)

Women Pushing 40...Or Over Posted: 5/10/2013 1:31:52 PM
I don't see how men who put you down and make you feel like crap are any different than women who do the same thing to men, and I can tell you there are a LOT of women my age who are like that. Why anyone would want to spend five minutes with them is beyond me, but again, not my problem.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 99 (view)

Women Pushing 40...Or Over Posted: 5/10/2013 12:24:26 PM
Cant imagine what the younger mans appeal would be? I completely understand the appeal of younger men and women. What I don't understand is what they see in the significantly older men and women, but like I said, that's their problem. It doesn't affect me in the least. What I also doubt is that there are all that many younger men and women chasing after their older counterparts. But this being the internet and all, I don't expect to find a whole lot of truth in what I read.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 79 (view)

Race is just another preference... Posted: 5/10/2013 11:22:42 AM
I've never excluded anyone because of race, although I do confess that I've always had a weakness for light skinned redheads with tight bodies...

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 96 (view)

Women Pushing 40...Or Over Posted: 5/10/2013 10:49:16 AM
It's no more comical than how riled up some women get about men who don't want them. It seems to be a pretty common reaction when people encounter a stated preference that excludes them. I've learned to not put up with any BS from anyone regardless of how attractive or unattractive they might be. If this plethora of younger handsome sexy men want to shower all of you older women with attention, that's their problem. They're the ones that have to deal with the consequences of their actions.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 42 (view)

nosepicking Posted: 5/10/2013 7:01:49 AM
I can't believe anyone needs to be told they shouldn't pick their nose in public. That being said, we humans are pretty silly when it comes to normal body functions. If someone sneezes on you, it's a major faux pas. If that same person were to kiss you on the mouth in a moment of passion, however, it's viewed in a completely different light. Another example is the fart. Everyone has gas, I doubt there is a person alive who hasn't let one rip. But in polite company, a person having a gas attack has a bit of a dilemma on their hands.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 110 (view)

No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through? Posted: 5/9/2013 11:54:47 AM
Heart attacks and strokes can happen to anyone regardless of conditioning. All it takes is a blood clot.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

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When you have broken nearly every rule in the book. Posted: 5/8/2013 7:03:49 PM
Rules? Book? Wow, all this time and I didn't even know there were any rule books...

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 59 (view)

Shy men are a waste of time? Posted: 5/8/2013 6:33:59 PM
$70K is chump change.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 101 (view)

No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through? Posted: 5/8/2013 5:43:47 AM
I haven't had a mid life crisis. I guess my entire life has been one long, extended mid life crisis.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 309 (view)

Dancing Posted: 5/7/2013 7:12:07 PM
I doubt that very few women 'demand' their SO dance. I can't picture anyone pulling a guy up by his earlobe to the dance floor. No, that probably wouldn't end well. Now their may be repurcussions later... Repercussions can be dealt with. Changing the locks is one method.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 306 (view)

Dancing Posted: 5/7/2013 9:20:26 AM
Person A wants to engage in an activity, person B does not. Person A demands person B participate until person B reluctantly agrees. Could it be that Person A is every bit as selfish as person B, if not more?

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 296 (view)

Dancing Posted: 5/6/2013 8:06:36 AM
Yeah, it kind of morphed into a 'no way in hell would I ever get out there for even a slow dance with you' thread, The funny thing is I don't recall anyone actually saying there was no way in hell they'd ever get out there for even a slow dance.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 26 (view)

CONFUSING INTENTIONS Posted: 5/5/2013 1:14:42 PM
If you don't see the point in spending time with other human beings unless they are certain they want to be married someday, I guess that's your choice.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 24 (view)

CONFUSING INTENTIONS Posted: 5/5/2013 12:56:39 PM
I think that most of them just don't want anything of substance. They're just looking to see what's out there, have a good time and be foot loose and fancy free for as long as they're able to get away with it. If they've had long periods of being single, and a large number of unfruitful, short term dealings, there's a reason for this. Its not that they haven't found the "one"...Usually, its because they don't WANT the "one". I just think it's a question that doesn't deserve a straight answer at that point in time. I'm wary of anyone that would ask it. I think women who come up with this stuff are looking for a sure thing, and there are no sure things in dating.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

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CONFUSING INTENTIONS Posted: 5/5/2013 9:14:43 AM
"What are you looking for in a relationship?" I ask men before meeting. When men repeatedly reply, "I don't know," it's a big red flag. I have found that these men lack self-awareness about their own intentions. It's a waste of time to meet them. Ha! I would respond that at this point, I'm only looking for a date. A relationship would come later. Women who ask this type of question are a big red flag. I've been on a lot of dates that didn't turn into relationships, I don't consider a single one of them to have been a waste of time.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 405 (view)

(Older) women and motorcycles? That many, really? Posted: 5/5/2013 8:46:37 AM
It is a response to someone locally who says she live here and there are no motorcycle deaths. Anyone who said that would be an idiot. Where there are motorcycles, there will be motorcycle fatalities. Just like where there are automobiles, there will be automobile fatalities. But I recall the comments, and that is not what was said. What was said is that people do not ride in Toronto year round, so there are many days that there are no motorcycle injuries. It's called winter.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 402 (view)

(Older) women and motorcycles? That many, really? Posted: 5/5/2013 6:00:50 AM
Shall I post every auto accident report in my local news?

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 35 (view)

going on 10 months, should I love her or leave her? Posted: 5/5/2013 5:47:09 AM
Having feelings of doubt is pretty normal, as is looking at other women. It's what you do with those feelings that defines what kind of man you are. You need to decide if you see a future with this woman, and let her go if the answer is, "No."

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 276 (view)

Dancing Posted: 4/28/2013 6:43:22 PM
I'd be cool with miniature golf. I wouldn't be constantly looking over my shoulder to see if we're holding up the group behind us. I don't understand this need some people have to share everything with their SO. I've always found it works best if we share some things and leave others to be pursued alone. I typically skate on bicycle paths. There simply isn't room to skate side by side. It sounds like a good way to get hit by a bicyclist.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 310 (view)

People who are here only for the forums Posted: 4/28/2013 6:15:21 PM
Sticking around forums on a dating website while "taken" means there is a danger when, instead of dealing with generalities (especially), you are trying to promote your own individual perspective, of "what works for you," because it denotes a self aggrandizing desire for an individual connection with other people. IOW trying to fish for a personal, intimate, connection or expression, trying to find a relationship with something or someone that fills what is lacking in your IRL relationship. Wow. I'm not sure which is worse, the gibberish in this or the nonsense.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 272 (view)

Dancing Posted: 4/28/2013 5:17:36 PM
FWIW, I'm a low handicapper. I would never encourage someone I'm dating who doesn't golf to take it up. If she were to decide on her own that she'd like to learn, I would point her to a qualified instructor. We'll play together after she gets past the raw beginner stage. I'm also a decent skater. I do inline, and I skate outdoors. I haven't been to a roller rink since grade school. I think I could adapt (I recall more stepping over instead of turning by just leaning), but I don't have a whole lot of interest in that style of skating. I primarily skate for fitness, there isn't much hand holding.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 32 (view)

First date Posted: 4/28/2013 10:53:24 AM
Not to worry, the thread on "Going Dutch" was deleted (about two minutes after I predicted that it was about to be deleted). This one will suffer the same fate if it follows the same pattern.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 261 (view)

Dancing Posted: 4/28/2013 10:41:55 AM
I'm not dating you, so I don't have to care if you appreciate it (note that I am using the singular form of the pronoun "you"). Nor do I have to reach a compromise with you. I'll save all of that for the woman I am dating, if and when it comes up. VVVV If you want to view me as uncompromising, so be it. You might consider for a moment how much it breaks my heart to read it. (sarcasm /off)

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 93 (view)

is this normal? Posted: 4/28/2013 7:31:07 AM
I guess I don't understand why people immediately assume that anyone who maintains a friendship with their ex is having sex with them. I'm sympathetic with this guy's position. The connection could actually be with the dogs, when they die he may stop spending time with his ex. Or he may not. I don't know the guy, so I can't say. I can only say that I would hate to lose my dogs in a breakup. Regardless, a woman who insists that a man sever all ties with his female friends before she will be in a relationship with him is giving an ultimatum. She thinks she will get her way by giving it. The thing about an ultimatum, though, is that the person giving it has no control over the choice the other person makes. Weak minded people might cave, but I tend to think that someone who uses this tactic is not a person with whom I even want a relationship. Buh-bye! Note: If the genders were reversed in the above, my thoughts would be the same. Except I don't pursue intimate relationships with men. Not that there's anything wrong with that...

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 256 (view)

Dancing Posted: 4/28/2013 6:24:29 AM
As I said previously, it's not a debate. I don't enjoy dancing, I'm not likely to ever start enjoying it, and I avoid women who try to guilt me into doing it. Period. If you don't like my opinion, tough beans. Whether or not I choose to "suck it up" and dance with someone to make them happy is also my choice. It is also not a topic for debate. It's not like I'm going to change my mind because of anything posted to this thread.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 117 (view)

downgrading to lower education or profession on profile Posted: 4/27/2013 8:21:08 AM
The minute a guy finds out I have a master's degree and am professionally employed, he runs. Suppose for a moment that he does. What's so valuable to you about this guy? I admire people who hit the nail so squarely on the head this succinctly.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 68 (view)

Being a lawyer/doctor doesn't give you an edge... Posted: 4/27/2013 8:16:41 AM
OP, if you are choosing your career because you think it gives you an edge with women (and I am not saying you are doing this), I would urge you to reconsider.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

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Shy men are a waste of time? Posted: 4/27/2013 7:44:43 AM
LOL, don't give up. You're a beautiful young woman. The reality is that some men will be reluctant to approach unless they see an opening. Men are no different than women, they all have frailties despite their best efforts to hide them. I'm only trying to suggest that you avoid making snap judgments about people.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 39 (view)

Shy men are a waste of time? Posted: 4/27/2013 7:38:00 AM
OK, I have to ask this. If you are frustrated by these assumptions that men make about you, why are you so determined to establish a stereotype for shy men? In doing so, wouldn't you be just as guilty of assuming things about them that may not be true?

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

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First date Posted: 4/27/2013 6:28:33 AM
When I was dating off this site, I avoided alcohol on my first meets. Even on the first date (after having met), I kept it to a minimum- Like a glass of wine over dinner.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 242 (view)

Dancing Posted: 4/27/2013 5:56:47 AM
You don't need a partner to hiking. It takes two to tango. Yet again, it is problematic to come up with an analogy that fits well with dancing because literally anyone with legs and arms can slow dance for three minutes. Some people might not have the fitness level, or the time, to go backpacking for "several nights". Another useless, invalid comparison. I'm not going to get into the details, but there is a distinction between hiking and backpacking (I'm not referring to the European usage of the term). Regardless, I have never done either alone. I have always gone with at least one other person. For one thing, it's safer. You're right about fitness level, I suspect most women my age lack the fitness to complete a trip. (That happens to be one reason I'm not interested in most women my age.) If you're interested in an activity that requires a partner, I suggest you partner with a person who shares the interest. Good job searcher, I really think we're winning this debate. LOL, it's not a debate. How I choose to live isn't open for debate.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 227 (view)

Dancing Posted: 4/26/2013 12:45:25 PM
I'm going to a baseball game...

paderic

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Msg: 225 (view)

Dancing Posted: 4/26/2013 8:55:35 AM
Do YOU want to be right, or do you want to be single? I don't want to be married, that's for damn sure.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 220 (view)

Dancing Posted: 4/25/2013 6:33:31 PM
I do remember how that story ends. It was supposed to be a funny reference. I haven't said I never compromise, nor have I said I wouldn't do anything to please my woman. These are just silly attempts to paint me (and others) into a corner. I have only said that I don't like dancing, I'm not going to start liking it, and a woman who does enjoy dancing would not be a good match for me. She would be better off with a guy who dances, and I would be better off with a woman who doesn't.

paderic

Joined: 2/23/2010

Msg: 218 (view)

Dancing Posted: 4/25/2013 6:21:23 PM
Once every 3-4 years would be too often for my taste. It's not about effort. It's about enjoyment. I do not like them in a house. I do not like them with a mouse. I do not like them here or there. I do not like them anywhere. I do not like green eggs and ham. I do not like them, Sam-I-am.

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