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Joined: 5/27/2006

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You must be this tall to speed date... Posted: 10/15/2006 10:55:35 PM
wow at 5'9'' I have a negatory ace signal from that dating service lol I wonder what I would be missing, hanging out with a whole bunch of girraffes? lol I wonder why anyone failed to mention if there is a minimum height for WOMEN to use the service, or is the heightism attitude directed inherently towards men.

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HOw long have you been here and how many dates have you been on? Posted: 10/12/2006 9:40:29 PM
Ive been here a couple of months and I have been on 0 dates; with any POF members. No interested contacts either, oh well! I cant saY I feel Im missing out on anything though! Seems like you women are guilty of being wayyyyy too picky online! Get over yourselves. Ask me about real life and I can tell you Ive had a pretty good summer! I dunno Im still iffy about the whole POF thing anyways. Seems like its just a waste of time.... I do much much much better in real life! (Ive come to the conclusion that maybe this online thing is not for me)

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Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers. Posted: 10/12/2006 7:28:27 PM
Personally I dont think sending flowers to anyone your interested in on POF is a good thing. Sending flowers, especially roses, is a powerful message to a girl. The message is as loud as a 50 Ft billboard on the highway --- and in that same vein I dont think any woman does not like the idea of receiving flowers but it highly depends on who is sending them. When you are first getting to know a woman giving gifts, flowers, etc is not a good idea at all... maybe after a couple of dates. The point is that she should do something WORTHWHILE that makes her deserving of the gift.... her just being attractive just doesnt cut it and again receiving flowers from a total stranger is just going to blow up her ego, and not put you in any advantageous position with respect to dating her. Thats if, and only if, she already likes you.

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what is everyones thought on phonesex? Posted: 10/12/2006 12:12:49 AM
lol! I laugh at it. A couple of times some girls I spoke to wanted to do the whole phone sex thing and I actually physically heard them getting off over the phone! Honestly though, it doesnt really do anything for me I dont get where the pleasure is and neither do I feel inclined to pleasure myself either in that situation. Go and make some time for real sex, phone sex is such a waste of time! (And quite silly, again in IMHO)

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Biggest problems in marriage leading to divorce? Posted: 10/12/2006 12:04:09 AM
I cant say, because Ive never been married!

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what is with the never call again crap and why do we put up with it? Posted: 10/12/2006 12:00:44 AM
Look I just say that you shouldnt care all that much. Caring a bit is okay, but you cant ever trust anyone 100% and dont put your trust in anyone too quickly. You know the whole eggs in a basket thing? I say have a couple of baskets in case you drop one or it accidentally drops out of the picture, you get the idea. Seems to me that the more women you lead on a string the more tend to come along anyways.

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what is with the never call again crap and why do we put up with it? Posted: 10/11/2006 12:29:00 PM
Dont take it personally. One of the last girls I dated, she was 23 (not getting into any more details) pulled the same exact thing. Evrything was going fantastic, dated once or twice a week since we met at this club that I usually frequent. EVerything was going fantastic for 2 months, and she even professed how much she liked me. Intimacy and our sex life was great too... cant make any complaints. The last time we met we went out for steak dinner and wine, and a movie. That was the last time I saw her again! The next time we were supposed to meet up, she flaked out by never calling. I ended up calling her 2 days later to reschedule and she made two dates that she wanted to see me in. She flaked on those two days again, and I figured she must be just playing around (or playing ME) lol needless to say, I never called her again, but its not only men who use this flaky tactic women like to do it too. Like they dont owe you any kind of explanation or something. I still dont know what happened, but at this point I couldnt really care less anyways.

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Ready to quit dating yet? Posted: 10/9/2006 6:13:26 PM
Never ready to quit! Every experience whether good or bad, has something to teach you about yourself. Whatever doesnt kill you makes you stronger!

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Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met? Posted: 10/9/2006 6:01:21 PM
No i highly doubt it.

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When it comes to the opposite sex, what is your weakness? Posted: 10/9/2006 5:57:53 PM
That part of her body between her chest and her hips

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Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?! Posted: 10/9/2006 5:52:16 PM
id say the lower the better, sometimes it can make a relationship stronger The strength of a relationship is built on much sterner stuff, IMHO. Number of past sexual partners I believe is IRRELEVANT. Relationships are built on friendship, trust, honesty, integrity, intimacy and loyalty.

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Why do men do the diappearing act? Posted: 10/8/2006 8:45:55 PM
Doesnt this happen more often then an Opera rerun? .. and women do it too! Ask them why they do it

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Number of sexual partners! At what point does this seem a lot?! Posted: 10/7/2006 12:12:54 PM
Number of sexual partners? Thats really none of your beeswax! (And it shouldnt matter anyways!)

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My Overclocked Core 2 Posted: 10/7/2006 10:15:14 AM
My Rig: E6400 Intel Core 2 Duo (2.13GHz) @ 3.28GHz Asus P5W DH Deluxe (Bios 1405) FSB@410 MHz 2X Ati Radeon X1900XTX Dual 512MB Crossfire 2 Gig. Dual Channel OCZ Platinum XTC DDR2 @ 820 MHz (5-6-6-18) 160 GB WD HDD + 60 GB WD Raptor RAID 0 Benq FP93G X 19" 2 ms 500W Nikao Cool Power Running Windows XP Pro SP2 and Warcat XG Drivers for my Vid card(s) Please post any questions about INTEL system tweaks here! Ill be checking this pretty often and will try to answer your questions as quickly as possible!

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Overclocking Posted: 10/6/2006 11:50:39 PM
The thread to discuss system modding and overclocking! ~ Please post your system information when making your post (ie: chip type, motherboard, RAM, Video Card, O/S, etc.)

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Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!! Posted: 10/6/2006 12:03:24 PM
Do you really believe that this does not also happen in the real world? Whether you realize it or not, you are also being judged on appearance out there in the real world also ...unless you are walking around with a bag over your head? Of course you are pre-judged based on your appearance in real life, everyone knows that. In my case, I dont think but know, that I look much better in real life then I do in pictures. I know how to dress, usually appropriately for any given scenario. But what Im trying to bring into focus is that if a woman is not initially physically attracted to you in real life, depending on what comes out of your mouth you can turn the scenario around in your favor. Its all in what you say to her, and you DONT need an initial attraction from her side to get her to feel attracted to you. In the online dating world, once your not attractive enough she doesnt care what you write or say. You can be as eloquent as Shakespeare and that aint gonna get you anywhere. So how is this any different than dating in the real world, apart from the fact that out there they are seeing you in person, instead of in a picture? This is different from real life because you cant pick up on someones chemistry right away. Without being around the person or making eye contact you have no hint nor clue of where you stand in her books. (Its easy to tell in real life if someones attracted to you) Simple enough. The only advantage I see from online is the ability to make connections with people you would otherwise never have an opportunity to meet. Attraction is not restricted to internet dating - who in the real world would date somebody they are not attracted to??? You wouldn't date somebody you are not attracted to either, whether from the internet or the real world "whether you want to admit it or not". Attraction can stem from a variety of different things. That initial magnetism that attracts you to someone based on looks fades very quickly. Obviously, no one would date someone they were not attracted to, but dont ever confuse that if someone was not physically attracted to someone initially, that they never would be because I can prove you wrong several times over!

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Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!! Posted: 10/6/2006 11:24:17 AM
I think the main problem is that too many people come on these dating sites with a set stereotype in their head of what their looking for. If you don't fit this pre-conceived ideology then its as simple as you not having a chance with that person. Heck, theres plenty of people out there who aren't as photogenic as others. What are you supposed to do when your just somebody who just cant seem to photograph properly? Further, I find that in real life you are able to determine much faster what kind of compatibility you have with another person (whether sexual, purely platonic, etc). Less waiting, less time wasted and of course much more efficient if your good at reading people. Personally I like that playing ground better because it saves me the time and energy writing elaborate messages to complete strangers online, only to have a majority of them ignore you because you aren't perceived by them as physically attractive enough. In a real life setting the attraction is something you can determine within the first 1 minute of communicating with someone (does anyone not see an advantage here). The way into a woman's heart is through her brain, and i must say here in the online dating world if your picture is not up to par with her standards then this equates to nix communication, which drops your game to zero, regardless of what you have to say. At least in a real life environment, intelligent conversation and comments go a much much longer way. Personally it has never happened to me that I approach a one or a few beautiful woman in a bar or a club (8's or 9's) and I get a cold shoulder or get completely ignored on the get go. In these situations body language and composure is much more important then your looks. You have something good to say to her, and OF COURSE she will listen. Once you have her attention, half the battle is already over. Thats why you see so many attractive women with men who may not be up to the same level of looks as them; but then again if you think about it, it makes sense. All anyone really needs out there is a good dose of confidence, and of course just be yourself. Another very difficult thing to identify online -- who is being sincere with you and who isn't. How are you supposed to be able to tell that unless you invest all the time and effort to exchange emails, and eventually work towards a meeting with that person? Who has time for that? I certainly do not. Im not some kind of chump, I have plenty of experience with women and have absolutely no problems scoring dates any day of the week, or meeting women anywhere for that matter, and sure, I have pretty high standards! Personally I think I can tell how honest and sincere someone is within a short time of being around them (reading eyes/body language/picking up signals), so again Ill take my chances in real life. Good luck to everyone else in fish land though.

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I feel Stupid, I was scamed Posted: 10/6/2006 11:01:44 AM
You barely knew the guy, and gave him a 500$ gift? I think I know who the smart one was in this affair....

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Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!! Posted: 10/6/2006 1:11:43 AM
Leave the other 99% where they are! I like my odds better there! Ive tried the internet thing and this site is alot more superficial then others Ive tried. Nothing beats making real life connections though. At least your not getting judged based on a picture! (which is what everyone does on dating sites, like this, whether you want to admit it or not)

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Ignores sexual advances.....wassup? Posted: 10/5/2006 7:46:15 PM
I guess we could say both parties are happy.

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Ignores sexual advances.....wassup? Posted: 10/5/2006 7:42:27 PM
I think that its great that you have found someone who is actually willing to take their time with you. Consider that a rarity in of itself. Should make the actual thing something worth looking forward to!

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Everybody's got a Hungry Heart Posted: 10/5/2006 7:15:19 PM
Ive got a hungry stomach after reading all that

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Smart pretty women, alot are actually not good catches Posted: 10/5/2006 7:07:58 PM
I am TOTALLY feeling this thread, and many of you bring up some very good points. These high maintenance, highly educated superwomen are a different breed. No warranty. LOL no guarantees at all! They dont need you as much as a forest fire needs water to keep flaming. If anything, its her whos bringing you into her 'world'. Thats the mentality and ideology. If you cant play hardball (or by her rules) you strike out real quick, because shes up there on the food chain. Primo date material. But shes probably got multiple interests at the same time, to peak her interest. And then most of them kind of flake off for the more down to earth simple women who most of us guys adore and love. Maybe shell come down to earth when shes 40, dateless and single. Great life shell have then... but hey! Shell always have that solid career.... to go brag about on her own. Maybe she can always record herself to assure herself of how 'great' she is.. yeeesh

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What are the secrets to keeping girls interested? Posted: 10/5/2006 6:28:44 PM
Secret to keeping her interested? Act like you dont really give a shit.... it tests her to see if she actually does. I think the less emotional involvement on the mans part the better.

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Was This A Game??? Posted: 10/5/2006 6:25:33 PM
Its all a game. Whos playing? Everybody!

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So Is Dating Fun For You? Why Even Date At All? Posted: 10/5/2006 6:19:35 PM
dating is fun but internet dating is kinda whacked. its hard to set yourself apart from the rest of the fish, and no matter what it seems that your judged solely on your picture anyways!

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Ever get an email like this....??? Posted: 10/3/2006 7:39:12 AM
I have never heard of anyone writing an email like that anywhere; on any dating site. Wow! If its a way that the guy is looking for some sympathy, it sure as hell worked.

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No Games? Bullshit. Posted: 9/28/2006 4:17:19 PM
Internet dating is whacked out. Dont make this like your only option fellas! Like anyone reeally takes the fish thing seriously

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What kind of Anime/Manga are you? Posted: 9/28/2006 12:33:25 PM
Jin Kazama ...from Tekken

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If you where a cartoon character who would you be Posted: 9/28/2006 12:31:38 PM
Id be Mighty Mouse

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tattooing a name on your body Posted: 9/28/2006 12:06:46 PM
I think its a bad idea.... Id never do it.

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Why men don't date strong women... Posted: 9/28/2006 5:27:17 AM
When a woman says she is "strong", the question isn't how we define strong, it is how she defines strong. Thanks to the feminists, strong woman has become a code phrase for "hostile towards men". they can take the hostility and shove it! I cant stand women like that

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Why men don't date strong women... Posted: 9/28/2006 5:12:34 AM
I dont date overconfident career women, for good reason. I dont find overachiever women that attractive, because it seems like they are always trying to put one up on me (either by trying to get their bank account bigger then mine, always trying to prove that they are smarter then me, seem to play more psychological games, etc) In fact its the same way around. Smart guys usually date women that are a little dumber then them while smart girls usually tend to date guys that are dumber then them. 2 smart cookies and you always have someone trying to outsmart the other. One smart party and you have someone being manipulated without them even knowing it. Usually thats because the person being manipulated is too dumb to figure it out. (Sound evil?) Interestingly enough, I read this story in an article based on dating dynamics, as well it states that independant career women usually have the most difficult time finding a suitable mate. Thats because their standards are usually ridiculously high and they usually try to pick out your flaws first rather then focus on the good in a person. I have a few female friends who are like this and they dont have an easy time in the dating jungle, usually dating men temporarily who are no where near their level. (eg: I know this one girl who went into corporate law and right now is dating an ex-con drug dealer gangster kind-of dude, and another MBA chick I know is dating a male stripper) They usually dont date the men who ARE at their level, because usually those men are not exciting enough.. gOooooO figure! I have a theory for this. Thats because strong independant women usually lead such boring and mundane lives that they need some excitement from somewhere! Get this, it also states in the article that strong independant women are the most likely target group to engage in one night stands. Id love to hear a response from the women regarding this.

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How nosy are you? Posted: 9/27/2006 7:30:58 PM
Absolutely not, people are entitled to their privacy and if I had any concern even the slightest bit concerning trust the issue would be out in the open because theres times when bluntness is the only way besides tact

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 9/27/2006 11:20:50 AM
You can't tell if you're even sexually compatable with your new love if you've never crossed that threshold with her. So, it makes little sense to abstain for a year or two, spend countless thousands of dollars on a wedding/honeymoon, etc, buy a house w/2.5 car garage, and then 3 years later, you find the relationship isn't working, for whatever reason that may unfold. If cupcake decides, after three years, that she's no longer interested in you, guess what? You're gone, and the law then becomes her servant to assure her of her piece of mind. . If children are involved, she gets the house and kids, and you get an invoice for the next 18-20 years. And in some cases, you still get to pay for the house, not to mention pay the bills. All this because you were sold on the notion that your cupcake (and sex with cupcake) was going to be the best thing since sliced bread. I agree with what you are saying here somewhat. Its like taking a car for a test drive. No one wants to end up driving a lemon which is going to need some serious maintenance later on! Thats the best analogy I can think of! But seriously though what i said was under the quandra that you have actually found the RIGHT woman, because personally I dont think I have met anyone like that yet (plenty of right nows...lol) Now that I think back I dont think I have really ever been in a relationship that didn't involve sex. I think what one needs to do is really look to communicating with their partner if someone in a relationship wants to wait to be intimate. I never said there was anything wrong with waiting, though, and I still dont. But what I would be concerned about is the motivation my partner has for which she is saving herself for marriage. One other thing Id like to add; I dont think Ive ever heard of this but 'born again' virgins dont fly with me. (Like if she had a really stupid reason to wait like uncomfortable with the whole act because of a previous lover, etc, then I would start to question how much she is actually attracted to me)

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Was This A Game??? Posted: 9/27/2006 6:13:02 AM
Well hun I can vouch for telling you that in my experience whether you like it or not the whole dating thing is still a game and always has been since the inception of human beings on the earth. Either you play the game or you dont; lock yourself up in a cellar and be a nun. lol

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Break up once and its over.... Posted: 9/27/2006 4:47:10 AM
I live by the same tried and true doctrine once its over kid, its over. Moving on can sometimes be hard, but it is sometimes necessary. Theres got to be a better reason to go back to someone other then sex, IMO

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No Idea Posted: 9/27/2006 4:30:30 AM
If or when to have sex with someone. I have had sex with people in the past then they have dumped me and I have also had sex with people and dumped them, whats the answer?? a grown mature woman like yourself should know the answer to this question.

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 9/27/2006 4:26:17 AM
Personally, I think finding the right woman and having sex with her are two completely different things. And I believe that 'doing it' at the wrong time can spell doom to the relationship because there is nothing more to look forward to. (Thats usually the case if things just happen way too quick... getting to know someone fantastic and building up from there and then getting intimate with them is loads better then doing it just for the sake of it) Theres no set time to do it or not do it, either things fall into place at a certain time and place or they dont. Nothing wrong with waiting! But I think this is largely dependant on a case-specific basis so its best to find out in advance what your intentions are and why one or both parties chooses to wait. Communication is the best remedy here.

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How much sex is too much sex Posted: 9/27/2006 4:08:00 AM
IS there such a thing as too much sex? I doubt it...

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How often do you just smile at somebody ? Posted: 9/27/2006 3:39:13 AM
very often. Especially since Im single, and also since smiling is the number one weapon in your arsenal when tackling women! Positive energy is key!

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Is it appropriate to ask her to test? Posted: 9/27/2006 3:17:15 AM
It is moronic NOT to ask her to go get tested with you. I wouldnt call it moronic, but a very good preemptive measure! Now that I think about it I dont think Ive actually gone with a new partner together to the clinic to do the bloodtests; I believe its fine as long as you do the tests at the same time but not necessarily together, IMHO

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Reply To #1 Posted: 9/27/2006 2:51:03 AM
Never under estimate a woman for the moment you turn your back on them they will be stabbing it. I actually have the exact same thing written in my journal somewhere Yoda has spoken

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NATURE LOVERS........are you one? Posted: 9/27/2006 2:46:29 AM
I absolutely love the outdoors! whether its boating, camping, hiking, backpacking, 4wheeling, whatever! Animals and nature is like second nature to me. I like my area where I live because Im lucky to live near a lake which is nice setting to bring dates on occassion! So many outdoor dates I cant even put more details here but I guess the most memorable was going white water rafting with a whole bunch of people and a previous ex, which was all about chilling out, maxin', relaxin' and a whole lot of freekin' (when no ones paying attention! )

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Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles? Posted: 9/27/2006 2:42:34 AM
of course I read the entire profile. The second I read or pick up the hint that its all about 'ME' 'ME' 'ME', gee whiz someone else can haver her! lol thats like the biggest turn off... doesnt matter how one looks

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From San Francisco to Toronto...just for sex?? Posted: 9/27/2006 2:30:17 AM
thats an awful long way to come down 'just for sex' .. when you arent even sure what your sexual chemistry would be like with another person... even that aside, sounds like the dude was pretty desperate. Internet dating can be whacky at times, and this yet another whackjob to go into the history books. You live and learn!

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What guys do girls find attractive? Posted: 9/27/2006 2:23:34 AM
women like the 'bad boy' image get over it cuz nice guys finish last! (oops! this may turn into a whole new thread)

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Is it appropriate to ask her to test? Posted: 9/27/2006 1:57:29 AM
Absolutely Getting tested prior to unprotected sex with a new partner = pretty safe / smart... no matter how much anyone convinces you how clean they are, dont do it without protection!

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What is unconditional love to you? Posted: 9/27/2006 1:50:12 AM
Love is something that you believe that you feel because you are preconditioned to believe that strong emotional attachment equates -> love, but as such I do not believe unconditional love exists

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Unbelievable Posted: 9/27/2006 1:42:37 AM
No big deal. She thought it was a nicer way then to say to your face that there was no chemistry from her end, and that happens quite often. Remember that this is the internet! And internet dating can be whack! (Although I cant bash it altogether, I have seen examples of meaningful relationships come from the internet, but sometimes people have a lot of expectations when they first talk to someone online, and when they finally meet them they are expecting sometimes a little too much which sets them up for dissappointment)

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