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deflection

Joined: 5/29/2006

Msg: 46 (view)

obsession on going out Posted: 3/23/2008 2:41:25 PM
Trolling for a fight are you? Dating in a fiscally irresponsible way is not the norm. Most folx set aside money for entertainment and still manage their finances. It sounds like you are not one who considers this a worthy expense. Why do you feel it is necessary to call those who do insane? Money is important, but not the main attraction.

deflection

Joined: 5/29/2006

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obsession on going out Posted: 3/23/2008 2:11:32 PM
I get pleasure from going out. I enjoy the social interaction with the people around me. For me, it is worth the extra expense to go out with my friends for dinner or drinks, and I go out at least once a week, but I would not call it an obsession. If I was dating, I would expect the first few dates to be public. That is simply a safety issue. They don't have to be expensive, but they must be public. If you prefer to stay in, that is your choice... but going out is my choice.

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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What kind of person are you intimidated by, afraid to date? Posted: 10/22/2006 10:27:05 PM
Im afraid to date men who are prettier than me. If they're lookin in the mirror more than I am theres a problem, and Im not gonna be able to adore them as much as they adore themselves. Really wealthy guys intimidate me by the power imbalance, but really, those type dont approach me anyway. Strangely enough, muscles, warriors, dont intimidate me at all.. true warriors arent actually scary to non-coms. OK, and Im also scared of the really scary biker types that actually wear colors and belong to a gang, or drug dealers et al... the real scary types, but, again, those type dont approach me either.

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Do women prefer men with long hair or short? Posted: 10/22/2006 9:46:07 PM
Long hair is absolutely a complete turn-on.

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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I Love You in the heat of the moment? Posted: 10/22/2006 9:27:12 PM
funniest thing, is that I've had at least two guys say "love you" at the end of a phone call to me.... that I wasnt even dating! these guys were _friends_ not lovers... but they spend alot of time on the phone with their sweeties and get the habit of signing off that way... sometimes the words slip out... happily, I ignored it, and it never came up again.

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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quick question Posted: 6/25/2006 1:38:36 AM
dont sweat it, just buy the pop top cans or use your electric can opener.... its just way too small of an issue to worry about. (better yet, just buy fresh and skip canned foods altogether)

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Friendship...seems to come with an expiry date Posted: 6/25/2006 1:34:26 AM
My current best friend is from highschool... tho he wasnt my best friend then... but he's always kept in touch with me through the years (more than 25 now!) but then, I've completely lost touch with anyone else from high school.

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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What's your addiction? and a thought on maturity issues Posted: 6/25/2006 1:31:41 AM
I have 3 yrs of Psych studies under my belt... but its more from my friends that I know adrenaline addiction exists. I used to be into adrenaline too... tho I calmed down alot when I got a kid... but Im still more likely to yell "yee-haw" at someones crazy driving than to actually get worried. Adrenaline junkies exist. thats why bungee jumping got popular, free climbing when perfectly good ropes exist... all the alternatives... its even the reason for horror movies... and haunted houses ... all the things that give you that fear tingle... and make you happy to still be alive. the adrenaline rush you get from being scared... also releases the same brain chemicals that get you high on heroin or give you that rush after working out... and yes, you can become addicted to it.

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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need some gardening tips Posted: 6/25/2006 1:20:15 AM
could also be your water... if you're watering with icy cold water from your hose... it could shock your plants... plants actually do their most growing in warm evenings with same temperature water.... try putting the water into a container, letting it sit a few hours, then onto your plants (this also lets the chlorine evaporate if you're on city water)... perhaps a few drops of liquid fertilizer if you havent fertilized much yet this year...

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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What do you say instead of cussing Posted: 6/25/2006 1:09:56 AM
I trained myself to not swear when my daughter was young, because she started picking up swear words _EARLY_... then I was working with a horse in sandals (dummy) and the horse stepped on my foot and stayed on it.... and what comes out of my mouth? "oh fudgsicle" my girlfriend I was with NEVER lets me forget that! (there were no kids around... a real swear word would have been appropriate!)

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Are we as a nation coddling our youth too much? Posted: 6/23/2006 10:42:23 AM
I dont find kids these days to be so bad. My daughter (age 20) is a wonderful person and her friends are great. I work with alot of 20 somethings, most of them are great as well (reasonably good work ethic, good attitudes etc) where are you people finding all these awful kids?

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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What's the right thing to do? Posted: 6/23/2006 10:28:21 AM
old thread resurrected for no particular reason?

sorsha

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The Pitt Bull Dog Breed Posted: 6/23/2006 10:26:59 AM
http://www.realpitbull.com/id.html is a page with the characteristics of pit bull dog breed

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Safe or Sexy, which one? Posted: 6/23/2006 1:18:25 AM
safe and/or sexy is secondary to smart.... I'd rather meet a guy with brains anyday.

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Your date has a sketchy history... Posted: 6/23/2006 1:06:14 AM
yes, it definitely depends on the crime and the person who did it... The lady who killed someone molesting her 4 yr old.... I'd have done the same in a heartbeat... and done the time if I needed to. but at the same time I dont think I'd date anyone who killed someone in a barroom brawl... or a drunk driver who continued to drink... Its gotta be a case by case decision.

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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in need of a womans thought Posted: 6/23/2006 12:49:23 AM
two lost pregnancies is alot to lose. some people would feel like it was actually losing children. long term relationships have been lost to lesser pressures. You need to take some space of your own, you've been caring too much for this lady, she needs space, take the time to do some healing yourself, she's not the only one hurt here. Yes, its normal to blame a recent bf for odd occurances right after the breakup. Know that you didnt do it and go on. Heal yourself. If she doesnt need you right now, then maybe its your time to work on what you want/need.

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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AT MY WITS END....INPUT PLEASE!!!!! Posted: 6/23/2006 12:25:12 AM
if you know anyone with access to legal info... just check what child support he would be paying if she left him... I think she'd actually be better off financially with that! (Canada just has a chart, his income goes in, the amount he pays comes out) She needs help. its very difficult to admit you're in an abusive relationship, let alone leave it. Virtually impossible to prove emotional abuse. (get her a mini tape recorder, and try and convince her to use it) IF she tapes him, and replays the tapes in front of a neutral observer such as a councellor... well.. at least there might be a chance to fix it... if thats what she really wants... otherwise its good if it ever ends up in court. She may not be able to leave just yet. give her the info you do find.. let her know you're there when she is able to make the jump.

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Planning a Stagette in Saskatoon--Ladies I need some help! Posted: 6/22/2006 1:18:28 AM
Overdrive - across the street from longbranch seems to be the favorite hotspot with the 20's age group...

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Why don't you age? Posted: 6/21/2006 11:11:35 AM
I drink, smoke, eat junk food, dont use face cream ... so Im pretty sure its just genetics if I look younger than I am.... (although I am so bloody pale skinned I gave up sun tanning long ago)

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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This is really hard to post about. Posted: 6/21/2006 10:19:12 AM
Im sorry that you ran into that here (or anywhere!). Racism is ugly.

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Dating is all about income Posted: 6/21/2006 2:45:24 AM
To the author: I really hope you didnt post this under your real profile. I cant imagine anyone being attracted to someone with such an ugly attitude. Sweeping nasty generalizations about women, based on a few bad experiences... well, even if you had an impressive income and rockstar good looks... women aren't gonna wanna date someone like that...

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Great date!!!.hurray.but nothing!!!!!!!!!!...why??????????? Posted: 6/20/2006 11:58:01 AM
ok, I dont get it, whats wrong with a taco salad?

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Dating is all about income Posted: 6/20/2006 11:44:33 AM
The dating service sounds like the sort of place that invites women looking for men of status, often measured in dollars or title. If you choose that kind of pond, you're likely to find that kind of fish. What kind of bait you using anyway? If your bait is all about your $$, status or possessions, then you're likely to find the kind of fish that goes for $$, status or possessions.

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Confused Posted: 6/20/2006 11:29:45 AM
ok, so Im like the only female on the thread that finds the butt pic's cute? she got scared ... reassure her if she's worth the effort... keep moving if she's not.

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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E-mails and IMs Posted: 6/20/2006 11:20:35 AM
I wont meet someone I havent established some communication with, emails and IM make a starting point... see if there is anything in common .. if this is anyone I even want to meet. Already dealt with way too many men who "start out" a communication claiming they want to be friends... but once you start communicating... you realise all they're really looking for is an erotic encounter at best.

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Weird Question Posted: 6/20/2006 11:06:10 AM
Men can be raped, its a crime of violence. The perpetrator does not need to be fat or ugly. Strangely enough, men can produce erections when they're scared. This happened to a friend of mine. Its not funny.

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Controlling or Respectful??? Posted: 6/20/2006 10:56:21 AM
I think AnimalMagic has it right, you've got a lady there who needs massive space. BUT: It IS controlling to "call her on it"... you would have had much better results if you'd discussed a monogamous relationship with her FIRST, if she'd agreed to monogamy.. she probably would have left the dating site/quit messaging men as a matter of course... you never gave her that opportunity

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Please define Normal Posted: 6/20/2006 10:15:12 AM
The trouble with normal is it always gets worse... (Bruce****urn 1983)

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Internet chat -- some thoughts Posted: 6/20/2006 10:10:27 AM
I actually dont mind internet chat .. its easier sometimes than an exchange of emails, depending on the person.. but i do get annoyed at people who will ask a question that takes some thought to answer... then get all annoyed that it takes a lil while to reply.. I type 50wpm and rarely have more than one chat window open at a time... anyone who's getting impatient with me is just way too impatient.

sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Psychoanalize yourself...Check it out... Posted: 6/19/2006 10:48:34 PM
ok, so I screwed up right off,... figured if I was walking in the woods I'd rather have a dog with me than a person, now a puppy is the most important person in my life... I've got squirrel sized problems that scold me... and theres wine and cheeze on the table for me, so I guess Im happy. I filled my ceramic cup with wine and swam the lake... so I must be horny

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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How is your INNER CHILD? Posted: 6/19/2006 10:33:38 AM
*Your Inner Child Is Naughty* Like a child, you tend to discount social rules. It's just too much fun to break the rules! You love trouble - and it seems that trouble loves you. And no matter what, you refuse to grow up! Hmm... does this mean I need a spanking?

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Just plain rude..... Posted: 6/19/2006 1:47:58 AM
oh dear, Im quite prone to putting smiley faces on the end of each sentance

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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The Problem with THONGS Posted: 6/19/2006 1:41:44 AM
Actually, I find thongs quite comfortable.... perhaps you've got one thats too small...

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Male Contraceptive Posted: 6/17/2006 3:10:29 AM
I love the 'blue beer' idea... imagine how much fun it would be for a group of us ladies to buy a round of "blue beer" for a table of guys.....

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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A comment on women in the job place Posted: 6/17/2006 3:03:14 AM
yes, but how many of those men paying child support would give up the kids just to not pay support.... most of them will see the value in their children, even if you do not.

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Sex and the whole package Posted: 6/17/2006 2:03:38 AM
Most people want a partner to go through life with, not merely for sex. Someone to comfort them when they're down, share joy with them when they're up, and hold them while they sleep. The fact that you've reached a point in your life where the only use for the opposite sex is for sex is your place to be right now... but a majority of people want a partner to share their live with. (admittedly, the duration of relationships seems to be unstable as well)

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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kaiser night? Posted: 6/17/2006 1:02:56 AM
is it the 3 of clubs? the 5 of hearts? Im getting kaiser mixed up with hearts I think....

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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kaiser night? Posted: 6/16/2006 11:45:46 PM
Hmm... far as I remember... Saskatchewanians are WAY more competitive over kaiser than poker... scary competitive.... Im still in.. pity my partner...

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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poker night Posted: 6/15/2006 12:06:34 PM
Im still interested in this, lets get a few more people on the list....

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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interracial couples Posted: 6/15/2006 11:18:23 AM
I agree with DigitalSanity and tim3step but then, Im in canada, black-white racism isnt the same here at all, I think its very different in the US, especially the southern states., there are different hurdles to jump there.

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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How to deal with cell-phoners Posted: 6/15/2006 11:12:52 AM
Several of my friends are always on their phone, usually doesnt bother me. Sometimes on a first date its handy to carry one and have a friend check on you (although Im not talking 20 minute conversations) I like my daughter to carry one in case of emergency. I know I should carry one but I dislike people having that easy of access to me, I'd rather they left a message on my landline. Besides, whenever I have carried one, it always rings when Im driving and Im trying to juggle a stick shift and cell phone and I never really got the knack of that.

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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She dresses to the hilt Posted: 6/15/2006 10:57:10 AM
Women like to dress up hot. When my daughter goes to the club with her girlfriends they put on their lowest cut shirts and figure flattering clothes, lots of jewelry and makeup etc... but they are doing it for themselves, not for some guy. Most of them have boyfriends, but a night out with the girls is fun, and dressing up for it is fun, and they say no to the guys who wanna dance because they're there to dance with each other. Men, get over yourselves, if a woman at a club is dressed hot, that doesnt mean she's dressing up for YOU. And if you are too lazy to find a way to get her attention, sour grapes are completely unlikely to make her suddenly notice you.

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Any Plans for a Saskatoon Get-Together?? Posted: 6/15/2006 1:48:48 AM
I work till midnite thur... but if I know where you all are at, I could show up late

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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What would make you completely happy? Posted: 6/13/2006 1:03:08 PM
I'd like a new project, something that paid well, kept me busy and active, meeting people, perhaps travelling, a partner to share the project with, and had lots of shorter term goals in it so I could feel like I was accomplishing something every day. (OK, and romantic dinners every night with the partner)

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Tips on Initiating Sex Using Only Non-verbal Posted: 6/13/2006 12:10:21 PM
I once had a bf I that I actually had to have a similar discussion with.... but with him it was that he kept wanting to make "appointments" for sex in the most unromantic way. We'd be talking online about friends/weather whatever, he'd suddenly ask if he could come over for sex, or worse, suggest that he buy me a meal and then we could have sex... It was an instant turn-off, because it was so cold. It doesnt need to be non-verbal, but it does need to be SEDUCTIVE. Dont say "lets have sex after the date" ... try something like "I had the naughtiest fantasy about you, perhaps I'll tell you about it after the date, maybe even show you if we're in the mood"

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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poker night Posted: 6/12/2006 11:41:13 AM
Would you allow complete amateurs who need a refresher on the rules of texas hold-em?

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Should someone change how they think and who they are? Posted: 6/12/2006 1:56:20 AM
You seem like both a true romantic and a gentleman, the shell is a lil tougher now than it used to be, but still a softy inside. You cant leave your morals behind without losing respect for yourself. This is certainly not worth losing your self respect over.

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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What would you do if you witnessed a hit and run & saw the ( suspect) as you drove 2 yr fav eats Posted: 6/11/2006 12:58:53 PM
Sounds like you did the right thing, getting the liscence plate # and reporting it. Phoning 911 is a good idea as well. The only thing I can think of otherwise is to go back to the scene and check the womans condition and let her know the liscence #.

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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You don't have to pay for sex! Posted: 6/11/2006 12:28:13 PM
quite likely the OP's attitude rubbed off on the date. any guy who believes hes "buying" his dates time/attention... is likely to communicate it.. and get this sort of response. I find men with this attitude quite distasteful, and they dont usually get a second date, she may have decided to play him a bit... her choice, maybe he looked like he might be fun in bed even with his sh*tty attitude

Sorsha

Joined: 5/29/2006

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Can you find a woman more attractive with clothes on than off? Posted: 6/11/2006 12:12:25 PM
I feel more attractive in lingerie than nude.. lets face it, when we're more confident... it shows.. and Im not hiding any scars or anything... I just think lingerie looks good. Im not shy about my body or anything.. wander about the house nude no problem... but when I want to be attractive/alluring... sexy clothes help...

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