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 Author Thread: Profile review please
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Profile review please
Posted: 11/13/2009 10:32:00 AM
it's very well done!

only one thing: it's "mojitos".
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Need an explanation
Posted: 11/12/2009 6:24:10 PM
someone that answers your questions, but doesn't ask any of their own = not too interested.
terse replies to your lengthy emails = not too interested.

stop messaging and see if they contact you = empty inbox. stop the silly game playing. after 3 - 5 email exchanges, ask for their number and TALK to them.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Chain emails - Do you pass them on? Check the facts?
Posted: 11/11/2009 8:28:54 PM
this is one of my pet peeves! many friends/family just automatically forward emails, and never bother to see if they are passing on mis-information. i tend to check suspicious items on snopes, then respond to the sender with accurate links. i do not reply to everyone they mailed...not my business, they should look out for themselves, or the instigating party should pass the info along.

incidental gripe: i hate that many of my family/friends send mails to a long list of folk, where all can see each person's email address. i adhere to a strict policy of bcc, so addresses are not disseminated, and wish others would show the same consideration.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
 
I'm a 58 year old guy with young kids (Where is the POF/AARP/K-8 Forum?) Where do I fish?
Posted: 11/11/2009 7:13:17 PM
no, it seems it's an alternate week custody arrangement.


because my two kids, both under ten, live with me every other week.
...
However, on the weeks that they are not with me, something is missing.

i get where parents don't want to introduce their kids to every person they're dating. i just think he needs to say something about what would happen if a true connection were made.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Please remove the Acai Force Max ads from the site
Posted: 11/11/2009 6:56:16 PM
you should post this in the appropriate thread:

Report Here any Annoying/Scam or Offensive (Ads) Advertisements (NOT Profiles)
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts8136598.aspx
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
I'm a 58 year old guy with young kids (Where is the POF/AARP/K-8 Forum?) Where do I fish?
Posted: 11/11/2009 6:46:59 PM


So anyway, I got shot down today by a 47 y/o woman who obviously didn't read my profile. After initiating contact, trading messages and then asking for my phone number, and THEN finding out that I have young kids, she says, "My kids are grown. I don't date men with children living at home." (Maybe a blessing in disguise?)

granted, it would be nice if she'd read your profile. but, once she learned of her deal-breaker, she informed you, so that neither would waste any further time. for that, you should thank her.

So I feel like I'm a bit adrift in this whole internet dating thing, in which men and women look at your "resume" and if you aren't X or Y or Z, or because you are A or B or C, tough buns buddy.

i fail to see the basis for your complaint. i mean, aren't you the guy that has the following restrictions on who may contact him??

Mail Settings (To message lost planet airman you MUST meet the following criteria.)
Female
Live within 75 miles.
Must not be looking for Talk/E-mail
Must not be married
Must not smoke

if you have the right to select who you think is right for you, so does everyone else. if they don't wish to date a man with young children, that is their choice. i would think many with that mindset would indicate it on their profile, but others may choose to address it in email (perhaps because it's not as stringent a rule as they'd have you believe, should the right suitor come along. )

It seems a lot different than real life face-t0-face interaction, in which you actually get to know a persons qualities (or that they are a good actor in regards to their qualities) before some of the quantifiable things are discussed.

sure, it's different. but, someone you meet IRL might have the same deal-breaker, leading to the same result, only after you both have invested a certain amount of time/dates.

In any event, I think that looking at women between 35 and 55 is not unreasonable in my case,

i'd love to hear your reasoning about why it's not unreasonable in your case. i happen to be in your target demographic and, frankly, at 47, you are just too old for me. others may feel differently, but i am hard pressed to imagine a 35 y.o. woman having any interest in someone your age (unless, perhaps, they're seeking a sugar-daddy - - but, that's a whole different thread).

but I get this feeling (not verified by research and painting with a broad brush) that women 45 and older are looking to get to an empty nest ASAP and women under 44 are questioning why a 58 y/o guy is hitting on them or have filtered out guys over a particular age. (Although in truth, I've been a bit shy about fishing on the 35-45 part of the sea.)

you know the old saying: when you ASSUME, you make an A S S of U and ME.
however, i'd say you are correct about the younger ladies wondering why an old dude is hitting on them.

Am I going about this wrong?

IMO, you need to have more realistic expectations. you're an older man with young kids. some women wont be interested because they think you're too old. of those who might be interested, you're going to lose those who are done w/ little kids. it goes w/o saying that you're also losing those who think separated = married.

lastly, i think it's possible that you don't realize that your profile (specifically, the part that talks about an every other week relationship) is off-putting to women who are also seeking a LTR. Sure, a relationship would start off that way, but there's no indication that it would ever progress to something else. i think you should add in something specifying how that would change, if you met THE ONE.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Some of my rating votes seem to have disappeared.
Posted: 11/11/2009 4:58:49 PM
my guess would be that 3 users who had rated your photo, have now deleted their account.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Nature
Posted: 11/10/2009 11:45:11 AM
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1345738.aspx



Poems and Quotes and Humour - Post your poetry and jokes in these forums, however, do not create a single thread per poem or joke. Create one thread, and add all your poetry or jokes to it. Do not flood the forums with one thread per joke or poem.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Passion
Posted: 11/10/2009 11:16:45 AM
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1345738.aspx


Poems and Quotes and Humour - Post your poetry and jokes in these forums, however, do not create a single thread per poem or joke. Create one thread, and add all your poetry or jokes to it. Do not flood the forums with one thread per joke or poem.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Not Getting The E-mails...
Posted: 11/10/2009 10:30:47 AM

you need to change pretty much everything.

headline - ok. but your profile really doesn't show any personality. (unless "boring" is a personality.)

pics - you get 8, USE 8! show yourself doing things you enjoy in a variety of environments.

interests - list 12 - 15.


About Me
Hey my name is Josh and I am 20 years old. I am 6 foot even and have brown hair and blue eyes. Playing guitar and camping are 2 of my favorite hobbies. I am a big outdoorsman and am a big thrill seeker. Some things that might separate me from other guys is that I have matured alot faster and sooner than most 20 year olds. Ihave been in many relationships where the woman was way less interested and just wanted to be a friend more than anything and that is kinda my fault. When you first meet me I will seem like the perfect "just a friend" kinda guy. I have a really hard time with figuring out when to take the next step. Thats why women usually think im not interested. But I am so dont worry. lol. If life were like a box of chocolates i would definitely be the one youd save for last. I would say im the cherry cordial. Sweet on the outside with a surprise inside. I am the kind of guy that will open doors for you and try to make you feel like the most special woman in the world. I may seem a little old fashioned but thats the way I was raised and I guess thats how I could say that I different from other men my age. I am a big family man. Family is most important to me. I am a very down to earth kind of guy that loves to just be himself. It doesnt matter if you are 18 or 20 or 30 for that matter. If you have a good personality and want someone with one as well then im the man for you. If you seem interested just shoot me an email back.

First Date
The first date might be started off with a walk around town to get to know eachother a little more. After that we could go to a restaurant and grab a bite to eat. After dinner or lunch or whatever a walk to your front door to say goodnight would be a great way to end the date.

eliminate everything i italicized. we know your stats from your profile. don't ever talk about the friend zone. the chocolate analogy isn't working. interested girls will write w/o you telling them to do so - they're not morons.
what you're left with isn't that great or interesting. try to pep it up by telling an anecdote - maybe your last camping trip or your last thrill-seeking adventure.
don't forget to run the whole thing through spell check - you are missing a bunch of apostrophes.

everything bolded goes in your interests section.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 1482 (view)
 
Image Problems
Posted: 11/9/2009 3:19:48 PM

^^^^ most digital cameras come with a software disc that has a program for you to transfer pics to your pc and edit them. they also come with a cord, one end of which plugs into your camera, the other into a usb port on your pc.

refer to your camera's owner's manual for exact instructions.

@1480 - use whatever photo-editing program you have to resize the pic so it is bigger. (you might also wish to remove the 4 non-compliant photos, the ones without you in them, so that you do not lose your uploading privileges.)
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Matches e-mailed to me
Posted: 11/9/2009 3:09:46 PM
re: targeting cougars - - see "cougar" definitions here:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cougar


whereas Norton Corp. A/V (not to be confused with Norton Anti-Virus) will rip out Malware because Business won't tolerate these Security Breaches on their Machines.

which is why i run norton corporate a/v. of course, i still don't download toolbars, smilies, or the like. never did; perhaps that explains why i never had a problem with regular norton a/v.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
help! F*** friends/buddies and/or on/off relationships... what does he really want from me?
Posted: 11/5/2009 10:31:02 PM


Plus i was 15/16 at the time and he was 22.

you were jail-bait, and he was a pedophile.


Our relationship is pretty complicated and I'd say our relationship is that of a "f*** buddy/friend" type

not complicated. you are a fvck buddy. what you are doing is complicating the situation by maintaining a relationship w/ a guy who is not interested in a long-term relationship, marriage, and kids - which is the opposite of what you want.


whats does he really want from me?

he wants things to stay the same - no long term obligations, a nice friendship, and all the sex he wants. that is all working out quite nicely for him.


any thoughts? suggestions?

stop trying to make this into something it's not (ie, a real, committed relationship). accept it for what it is (fwb), or decide it's not enough, and move on.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Why to worry about when to give sex?
Posted: 11/2/2009 10:30:44 PM


Do you folks really believe if you slpeep with someone very early on he or she is going to walk away because you are really suck in bed?

no, since i don't suck in bed.

Or come accross as a whore when you do not look or act like that?

no, since i am not, nor do i act or look like a whore.

Would you guess that it is because there some other issues/not sexual preferences/choices (why stuff may possibly not to work) on the plate on his/her part that would still be in the pic if you would wait for 6 months or 10 dates?

generally, i find it is a matter of lack of respect. it is demonstrated early on...say, between date one and three. same usually puts the kibosh on any more dates, so, it's way less than 10 dates or 6 months. said lack of respect is generally of the unacceptable groping/feeling up variety. i decide who touches me, when. and, i must add that groping me in a public venue demonstrates both a serious failing in judgment and taste.

for those that make it past the first few dates...yeah, i demand std testing. and proof. anyone who is not similarly concerned and discerning, is likely a poor risk.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Sending a gift?
Posted: 11/1/2009 7:15:10 AM
cheesy pof gifts are easily ignored. it's what you SAY that counts.

ps - it's Sugar Land. 2 words.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Searches should only return people you can contact
Posted: 10/30/2009 10:43:18 AM
"intimate" is one thing; "intimate encounter" is quite another.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
POF Matches
Posted: 10/30/2009 8:23:24 AM
try adding "must live in US" to your mail restrictions. i believe the restrictions affect the matching algorithm.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Searches should only return people you can contact
Posted: 10/29/2009 9:51:36 PM
if a forum user receives a message from a member with an IE profile, they may reply with impunity; replies don't trigger the filter, only first contact messages do.

however, it would be prudent for a forum user to check the "looking for" status of other forum users they wish to contact privately, in order to avoid running afoul of triggering the IE filter.

as far as i'm concerned, any regular forum user (ok, ANY user) should be aware of the forum rules and familiar with the faq. i would be unsympathetic to claims of, "i just contacted these IE profiles to discuss forum topics". famous saying, "look before you leap" applies.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
add original message to replies
Posted: 10/29/2009 1:24:29 PM
do you NOT know how to scroll the page up and down??

i'm sorry, but what you're asking for is already there. it's not like scrolling the page up and down requires much effort.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Someone else has changed my password!!!!!
Posted: 10/29/2009 12:34:02 PM
you posted, which suggests you know the new password. create a new mail address for your profile, and change the password of your account.

if you open any mail in your inbox, you will see "users i blocked" at the bottom of the page. click it, and you will see them. the most recently blocked are at the bottom. that'll be your best clue as to "when".
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Opinions appreciated
Posted: 10/29/2009 12:22:09 PM
frankly, i think you are way over-thinking this. you have her email address and you know her name. now, you don't know if that was a throwaway address or not, so if you want to contact her, it might be best to send a message to FB or my space (whichever she was on most recently). just explain the events, apologize, and ask if she would like to start over. the worst she can do is ignore you or say, "no thanks". you could add what you think was her email address and ask if it is correct, and provide your own.

i can't say what all women would do in this event. i would assess the situation, the mitigating factors, my own circumstances, and then decide what to do.

here's an anecdote: guy contacts me online, we take it to personal mail, then phone. asks for date, says will call that night to make a plan. never calls. i move on. over a yr later, he contacts me again online. exchange a few mails there. explained that was a strange yr he had. wants to go out. i say, well, if you still have my number, call me. he didn't. result: he did not get my number again. why? not a good enough excuse, especially considering i still had all of his contact info in the original emails.

final word: keep in mind, you may only be a distant memory, at best.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
'New users' problem
Posted: 10/29/2009 11:30:41 AM
i can't help but notice you both live in the same area of UK. is it possible that there just aren't that many females signing up as new users on a daily basis?
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Searches should only return people you can contact
Posted: 10/28/2009 5:52:53 PM

i think you are a bit confused. it's not a moderation issue, at all. what you post to the fora has no effect on your ability to send mail. you can post about sex, or about being a sperm donor, or whatever you like. as long as you follow the posting guidelines, you'll have no problems.

your problem stems from messaging users w/ IE or other relationship profiles. it doesn't matter what you said. it only matters that you sent messages to at least 4 users with those profile designations. that is what tripped the filter. the result is that now you can't send messages to those who choose to employ the IE filter.

"other relationship" is a vague term. but here is why admin included it to trigger the filter.
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1800336.aspx#1800835
you might also find msg 8 illuminating.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
'New users' problem
Posted: 10/28/2009 2:22:31 PM
i think the problem is on your end.

i tried with firefox and ie8, and both resulted in 51 pages of new users. random testing of multiple pages with each browser shows usual profile blurbs and photos, in the standard format.

i would offer the usual suggestion: clear your cookies and cache, reboot, and see what happens.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Send Quick Message
Posted: 10/28/2009 1:56:31 PM
yes, i noticed the new quick message feature. there's also now a quick reply box when you open a message.

i'll concede the utility of the quick message - one can compose a message while looking at the profile. but, i fear it will promote only more of those short notes some of us receive ("hey, beautiful", "wanna chat?", and the like). on the other hand, those who are inclined to send those notes already exist, so, perhaps, it will make no real difference.

i really don't see the utility of the quick reply - it only saves you one click.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Interests Issue
Posted: 10/23/2009 6:43:52 AM


when someone emails me, I get a list of stuff we have in common

that is likely because you and she have both taken the relationship &/or chemistry test. you'll have to check profiles to be sure which one is triggering these lists.


How do I fix this?

you can't.
you can:
a) ignore them.
b) delete profile and create a new one, and don't retake those tests.


I don't recall seeing such a list of interests whenever I get mail here.

that would be because you didn't take the silly tests.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Intuition vs Paranoia?
Posted: 10/21/2009 8:59:38 AM


how do you decipher feelings about someone new that you meet?

decipher?? what's to decipher? they're my feelings, and i am quite able to recognize them. on a first date, it's either like/don't like, attracted/not attracted.

For example, if I meet a guy who is overly attractive I tend to assume he is a player, and I know that's an unfair assumption to I try to squash that thought. But then, I've had a few of them prove to me that the thought was right in the first place. I'm just wondering how some of you have dealt with this issue?

i don't deal with this, because it's all YOUR issue. in my world, people are judged on their own actions.

Is there a way to NOT be paranoid but still listen to your gut instinct?

yes. 1) stop being paranoid. 2) learn to judge people based on their actions, or an "honest" gut instinct. for now, you will have to go with actions, as you cannot trust your gut instinct, since it is clouded by paranoia.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
lost email
Posted: 10/18/2009 6:38:22 AM
op, type your password in a word doc or some other application, copy and paste it into the password box.

falling - learn to type the "most important document of your life" in word or some other word processing program, save it, then copy and paste into a pof mail.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Fling.com Why can't I load the page (it's advertised on Fish) ?
Posted: 10/18/2009 6:20:51 AM
err..nope, no clue. but, ya know, there's always google.

search will get you here:

World's Best Personals for Sexy Adult Dating Fling.com!

thanks for outing your true intentions to the masses!!
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
The percentage rate on compatibility in the search engine.
Posted: 10/15/2009 8:11:19 PM
i've gotta wonder why you're asking this now??

you're the guy who states your interest is
As of Oct 13 for now The fish I just caught here


if you caught a fish, what difference does it make how the compatibility search works? unless you're saying this gal is only an 80% match and you have your doubts?
does the fish know you are still hoping for a better match and, thus, just marking time with her?

imho, i think it best to rely on my own acumen to locate potential matches. i have never taken a single test on pof (except the one that certified that i was an acceptable candidate for becoming a "serious member", and that was only to answer a question in this forum). i don't need any pof test to screen candidates for me. i am quite able to do that myself.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Please explain ONLINE information.
Posted: 10/15/2009 7:58:47 PM
online now - means the person is online right now, or within about the last 15 minutes.

picture - means they have a pic on their profile. all you see is the pic. no pic means they don't have one. so, you see their username and age.

time listed - had to go 5 pages to even see what you are talking about. say it says 20 min - that means they were online 20 min ago (still, possibly plus that 15 minute nebulous zone).

do with this info what you will...
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Cant send messages to anyone
Posted: 10/14/2009 10:31:53 PM
i would suggest you clear your cookies and browser cache, then shut down your pc, then log in again, and see what happens.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Making the Site More User Friendly
Posted: 10/14/2009 10:01:27 PM
c'mon, op!

are you saying you are not computer-savvy enough to know how to copy the url in your web browser and open a second window (tab) where you can view the contact history, and then switch back to the tab where you are replying??

sheesh!
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Mass msgs
Posted: 10/12/2009 9:02:38 PM
no, they're not mass messages, and you can't screen them w/o opening them. the only mass messages permitted on the site are those sent by party hosts to those members who have agreed to recieve such messages.

what you are describing are form letters, designed to be vague and hopefully generate a response. if you don't care for that, and desire a more personal interaction, ignore them or delete them, and wait for one who contacts you with a mail that has something to do with you or your profile.

also, be wary. as a guy, such form letters are likely to be from a spammer - once you reply, she'll ask you to sign up for her website. which, of course, costs $$$. unlike spammers, the vast majority of real women do not send first contact mails, and those that do, tend to send personalized mails.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 1458 (view)
 
Image Problems
Posted: 10/12/2009 8:19:12 PM
the problem is that YOU are not visible, aka, recognizable, which is what the site rules require. the pics are dark, making your face unrecognizable. and covering your face with hair makes it unrecognizable. people can report your profile for this, even if not your main photo. face it, some people are bored and have nothing better to do, and posting on the fora makes you a bigger target.

i can't speak as to your friends, as i have not seen their profiles. maybe they don't understand the photo rules any better than you do.

all i know is i have my photo uploading privileges, although i do note that the flash uploader seems to be gone. guess it wasn't working out.

your mods are found here:
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts70399.aspx
i'd suggest trapped or puddles, since ticket hasn't been seen in a while, and aadmin doesn't reply to most mails.

incidental query: why hasn't cowboy been added to the mod list???
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
ATTENTION: Markus. Broken search engine.
Posted: 10/12/2009 4:54:40 PM


- It uses drop-down lists instead of check boxes, which reduces customization. For example, if the user wishes to search by both Hair Color Black and Brown, well, they can't do that.

the user can customize all they like. they might have to do it in separate searches. but, some of the fields do allow for multiple selections.

- The Newest Users option doesn't work. When used, I see the same women from months or years ago.

works for me. it's possible some of the women deleted themselves and recreated their profiles using the same picture. i just saw a guy who's been on here for at least three years - new profile, same pic.

- Advanced Search is limited to 700 results of thirty-five pages. If not already, the user should be able to search as many pages as the site'll allow.

35 pages is as many as the site will allow.

- It displays many of the same women on almost each next page, so the user gets only half of the 700 maximum results.

really, it's only 3 per page, so the max repeats is 105. which leaves a total of 595 fresh faces. and usually, after page 20, you're talking about people who haven't signed in for more than a month.

Markus, I know you think you can run POF lone-wolf, but you can't.

uhh...yes, he can.

Sure, you can code, but you need a professional partner with eagle eyes to report bugs and make intelligent suggestions. It's obvious the site has many bugs that I know which you and your other users don't. I wrote you last year proposing that you hire me so we can professionalize POF but never heard from you. Please reply to this message. Markus, people judge you by the quality of your work. You have a great thing going. I just want to perfect it.

i expect you'll get the same response you got last year.

Nobody hates unprofessionalism more than me.

uhh, yeah. it's REALLY professional to beg for a job on a public forum.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 1456 (view)
 
Image Problems
Posted: 10/12/2009 4:37:29 PM
if you have lost your browse button, it means your upload privileges have been revoked. this usually happens after a user has uploaded unacceptable photos several times or has had their photos reported often enough.

i'll note that your 9/30 photos may have been reported as they are very dark, and the second one also has half your face covered with hair. what that means is, not visible.

you can email a moderator, and they can tell you if you've lost the privilege.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 32 (view)
 
my picture was deleted
Posted: 10/12/2009 3:51:58 PM


I had the same problem TWICE!! It was 2 diff fully clothed headshots. One was deleted and last week I recieves a one time warning about a nude pic!!

one might think you'd learn after the 1st time. 2nd time gets you the warning. third time gets your upload privileges removed.


It wasn't mine and I don't do those things. I would say to the moderator, administrator, whoever--have proof and know who it is before accusing someone of an indiscretion.

you don't do those things?? uh...the proof is right there on your profile. 2 pics of you - those conform to site rules. then 3 that don't have YOU in them. fyi - your car, your son and your mom are NOT YOU. those shots violate site photo rules. within a couple of hours, your profile will be reported a bunch of times, and the next thing you know, those shots will be gone, and so will your upload privileges.


My next move is to sue for slander or defamation of character.




Also watch these users. I met a guy in summer at a POF picnic. It's bad enough he put a pic of him with some woman hanging all over him, but I found in my Yahoo IM a pic of another woman's boobs. He sent another one MMS I can't get off of my phone too. I deleted this guy.

you realize this doesn't make you look too smart, right? i mean, where's your judgment? you gave him your im addy and phone number.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
deleted photo
Posted: 10/12/2009 3:21:01 PM
if the photo of you and your dog that is presently on your profile is the one that got deleted, i can tell you exactly why.

all photos are to have YOU VISIBLE in them. visible = recognizable. for a main photo, that standard is applied stringently. there is more leeway if it is not a main photo, because most who vote on the photos understand that you may be showing an activity or something, and they know your main pic will have your face.

your face in the dog photo is so small, that it is not visible, nor recognizable.

there are several threads in the faq pertaining to requirements for appropriate photos.
also, there are many faq that explain why threads get deleted, and others that explain the posting rules. go have a read.

doubtful that your problems are related to any scamming. given your contention that you didn't break the photo rules, and the evidence that you did, i'd say both of your problems are related to the fact that you did not understand the rules.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
my picture was deleted
Posted: 10/12/2009 3:54:08 AM
waaaaaah!

are you guys done crying, now???

your pics were voted off by the user base, since they were not "visible" face shots of you. go get some compliant pics, and you'll have no problems.

@ed bear - your "hidden" pic was likely reported when visible. that's more likely than 2 people reporting it after you hid it. weird contacts or whatever were the likely reason for getting reported.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 96 (view)
 
E-mailing of passwords
Posted: 10/2/2009 10:08:47 PM


Well, it'd be interesting to see if the "Serious Member' thing fell within the same definition.

it probably doesn't, as a "transaction" would have occurred. however, collin does not have standing to make such an argument, as he is not a "serious member".

even so, in the expectation that someone out there is...said claims would be obviated by the provisions regarding consent and/or implied consent...since all agree to the tos when they sign up to pof.

again, it comes down to accepting personal responsibility. you sign up for a service, you agree to it's terms and conditions, and can't come back later and complain about something you agreed to.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 93 (view)
 
E-mailing of passwords
Posted: 10/2/2009 8:29:11 PM


Maybe you should try reading the law before saying no laws were broken. The law states a good number of requirements in sending out commercial emails. One obviously being consent, but that is not the part I believe POF is breaking. One of the other requirements says that if you send out regular commercial emails you MUST provide an Unsubscribe option WITHIN the email. POF does not do this. This does not regard consent...it is its own requirement.

maybe it's you that needs to go back and read the law. or, maybe you need to get a law degree. whatever...

per the definitions of that law,

“commercial activity” means any particular transaction, act or conduct or any regular course of conduct that is of a commercial character, whether or not the person who carries it out does so in the expectation of profit, other than any transaction, act or conduct that is carried out for the purposes of law enforcement, public safety, the protection of Canada, the conduct of international affairs or the defence of Canada.

i submit, that a free online dating website does not meet the requirements for "commercial activity". hence, pof is exempt from this law.

try another argument. this one has just met a brick wall. thus, it is unnecessary to even address the "consent" or "implied consent" issues. even if this law was germane, it would be obviated by the implied consent provisions (remember, those pesky TOS provisions that all members agree to, when they sign up).
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
recreating an account
Posted: 10/2/2009 2:35:48 PM
if you get your original user name, i think you can use the same email addy. but, if you have to use a different name, you will need a new email addy.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Ex-GF on the site and I dont want her to see me
Posted: 10/2/2009 2:32:19 PM
with no pic, how would she know it's you??

but, if you're saying you'd like to post a pic (almost have to w/ an IE profile), your only option is to hide your profile. hiding = hide from all. the people you message or add to your faves list will be able to view your profile.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 1449 (view)
 
Image Problems
Posted: 10/2/2009 12:22:28 PM
you want put in vaginal canal gonorrhea???

will wonders never cease?
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 86 (view)
 
E-mailing of passwords
Posted: 10/2/2009 10:03:03 AM


Companies with dedicated security teams fall victim to hackers so to think POF, a site supposedly run by 1 or 2 guys, could be compromised really isn't that hard. So then what?

maybe you missed it a few weeks back? when admin discontinued imeem because imeem got hacked, and the hackers tried to breach pof? and he sent an email to those whose profiles were compromised and anyone who had viewed those profiles, telling them to change their passwords. even if he's only one guy, seems to me he caught that pretty damn quick! and took measures to safeguard his users.


How many people do you think use the same email on POF as their email? I'm going to bet a decent percentage...but even if it were less than 1%, that's over 100,000 people.

i think you're wondering how many use the same password on their email and on pof. in truth, it's probably more than 1%.


How many of those people do you think have banking information in their email? Amazon login info? Ebay info? Etc Etc etc. All of these places store your credit card info.

i'd hope that number would be smaller, but it's probably not. if someone signed up for pof using their real email, as opposed to a throwaway address (hotmail, gmail, yahoo), and further used that mail for banking, and everything else they do on the web, with the same password, well, it's likely only matter of time before they get burned.


It wouldn't take long for all of these people to be taken advantage of and put into financial devastation. Just because you and myself may be smart enough to use different passwords everywhere, doesn't mean everyone is.

there's this little thing called personal responsibility.


I inform to help make this site better and to help keep others on this site safe.

thank you, Sir Galahad!

sadly, you're about 3 1/2 years too late on this one. note 4 pages to this thread, plus multiple other threads, averaging 1 every 2 weeks x 3 1/2 years, pointing this issue out. note also, the lack of any change. draw the logical inference - it isn't going to change.


Certainly there is one other reason and that is for a more self centered reason...which is that as a person in the web development industry, it upsets me that other developers could ignore the security of their site and open their own users to very real threats. It's one thing if you try your best to patch all the holes and protect your users in every way you know how, but fail.....but when somebody shows you an open threat and you chose to ignore it!?!? That's not acceptable to me.

you've given it a shot, now let it go.

get used to it: you can't fix things that are out of your control.

cheers!
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Date joined
Posted: 10/2/2009 9:13:03 AM
^^^ when it says three days, it means exactly 72 hours from the time your profile was created.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
what am i missing from my profile??
Posted: 10/1/2009 6:57:30 PM
then you could explain that that is your view of relationships.
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
what am i missing from my profile??
Posted: 10/1/2009 5:50:32 PM
dude, it's a PROFILE, not a text message.

Grammar, spelling, punctuation count. Capitalization is important, to make a good first impression.

are you really looking for friends? or is that a euphemism for dating?

most of the stuff you have should be listed as interests (running, nature, walks, music, psychology science, politics, etc).

most of what you say is found on 1000s of profiles. to get any notice, you need to be different and interesting. what you have now is neither.

go read the profile writing tips threads (titles are in green). then give it another try. salvageable bit to expand on is the find path/spirituality aspect. maybe add an amusing anecdote from work, or a recent adventure - that lets the reader see you in a snapshot.

whatever you come up with, write it in a word processing program that has spell check and grammar check.

also - you get 8 pics, use 8 - show yourself in different settings, doing things you enjoy. you might want to remove the bathrobe shot. it may get reported as a shirtless pic (plenty o' bare chest).
 the_humormonger
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 1447 (view)
 
Image Problems
Posted: 10/1/2009 10:55:04 AM
^^^ best guess - they are being rejected by the user base using the rate photos function.

why? 2 shirtless pics, face not visible in t-shirt pic, sis' face in profile (= not visible, and the voters don't know if it's her profile or yours, so, out it goes). each photo breaks the images rules.

go to the faq, photo section, and you will find several threads which discuss appropriate photos.
 
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