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Joined: 6/1/2006

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Is my profile to detailed? Posted: 3/14/2007 6:59:32 AM
Profile review please, appreciate all comments. Judging how so many profiles are so long im wondering if Ive put too much detail into mine. Just to the point of people not intrested in chatting somply because they know too much.

Joined: 6/1/2006

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What would you do????? Posted: 11/11/2006 6:32:16 PM
give her another chance. Just make sure that this was the only thing that went on

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did women kill chivalry? what do we need to do to bring it back? Posted: 10/23/2006 7:52:57 PM
I havnt read all the reponses, just the first page yet I feel a need to say something. Some guys have done notthing to help the fight the death of Chivalry. But also I personally believe women fought to have it killed and men simply retreated from the line. So yes in essence women killed it. I see it this way because of the way I am, I honest to god get impulses to do things that are very reminiscent of old chivalry. Im not just talking opening doors here but farther back, knights and the like. To me one of the highest compliments I feel I can give a women is to just kiss her hand. Now Part of the reason I do not follow up on the impulses ever, is that its simply embarassing. If I did something like that, to anyone but a significant other or very good friend. Then most likely the woman would ratract her hand very quickly, of whatever it may be and almost evryone would laugh. Now as I write this I feel embarassed but I feel a need to speak this because its how I am. But its not just a matter of women not letting us to open doors or pull out there seats or cover the tab. To me this are very supeficial levels of chivalry that were simply the last to die. BUt its simply that alot of women no longer appreciate it, or so far thats been my experience. I mean you ask where all the nice guys are? you ask where chivalry is? The nice guys are hiding, until they become callous enough from rejection they can simply move about the social light and actually interact. Where is chivalry? its been killed, ridiculed to death or un-appreciated into its grave.

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How Important is body language? Posted: 10/19/2006 8:04:58 PM
Honestly while I may worry, I try not to let it bother me too much. Anyone I meet I try and make them aware of it relatively early. Thanks for the compliment quickdraw In general part of the problem I have with going out of my way to learn body language actually has to do with an aspect of both my learning disability and my own code of ethics. In learning body language to physically imitate, no matter how small the repetoire, I'd feel guilty using it. I guess I feel just that since im not displaying what everyone else may to demonstrate what kind of mood of mind set their in I feel like im being deceptive if I were to display everything consciously. That im giving them a false "reading" prevents me from trying to learn much to display, so I try and keep most of it as neutral as possible. This just tends to arise in problems of ppl thinking im not paying attention or getting the impression I dont care about what their saying, which tends to be false. I say it has to do with my LD because to me what I consider major false hoods tend to bring on a sense of anxiety and a great deal of nervousness. I can bluff well enough in poker because I can keep myself neutral, but when it comes to things like meeting new ppl I just cant keep it from showing up. BTW: for ppl, Aspergers and a Non-visual learning disability while similar tend to be different. I have a friend with Aspergers and we tend to discuss similarities and differences every once in awhile. So ya, im messed

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How Important is body language? Posted: 10/18/2006 5:44:08 PM
For those wondering, I have a Non-verbal Learning disability, and from what I know its similar to Aspergers. Even in martial Arts I cannot read body language, this is why ive developed my style to be very aggressive. As for reading, I cant really practice what I cant see. Ive talked to ppl who are quite good at it and even everything they tell me one things looks like another. A hand gesture here, a hair flip there. This is also combined with a number of social situations lead to me being very anxious, thus even something so simple as approaching someone or offering to buy someone a drink or something mundane where I perceive myself as bothering the other person tends to cause a near anxiety attack every time. Its not easy to get used to an anxiety attack everytime you do certain things, so I tend to avoid these situations unconsciously. As for my own actions being bad with body language, I simply havnt learnt unconsciously what alot of ppl have. So when talking to someone I become acutely aware of just about evrymove I make, a scratch of the nose, and eye rub, leaning forward or backward, whatever. When your aware of it you cant relax and allow it to become the unconscious signal you need it to be and if you dont know what is read as what you cant reproduce it to help the other person be aware of yourself. As for you quickdraw congrats, but I dont tend to have any kind of hope a situation like that will arise with me, and while I realize that ppl can view things either way and everyone reacts differently to whateve BL you display at the same time when the main body language you display is blanik it tends to make ppl simply ignore you or not see you except as part of the background. Even ppl who state "I always talk to the ppl hidden in the background first" or even friends tend to do the same. Either they wont notice im there or they'll talk and then find something more intresting and forget they were talking to me. This isnt depression or cynacism this is simply how things have been most of my life.

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How Important is body language? Posted: 10/17/2006 4:06:10 PM
Because its always been this important thing, everyone mentions it. Problem is I have a learning disability that affects my ability to consciously and unconsciously pickup on body language. As I tell ppl if they ask, I am for the most part illeterate. As most of my friends can attest I am thick as a post, I have a problem picking up on if certain ppl are mad or happy. Let alone the sublties of flirt, dislike, like. Its why I tend to find a very common ground with ppl on the internet there pretty much on the same level as me that me asking for certain clarification or ppl's often natural over-clarifications seems normal. Its pretty much why I dont often enjoy a number of social situations though and why I tend to be more anti-social, though I realize that it sounds like im relying on my learning disability as a crutch to avoid social situations most of the behavior was there before I learned about it. I just see why its so prominent as I read more and more on it.

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How Important is body language? Posted: 10/17/2006 2:37:51 PM
This is dis-heartening. I have no skill at reading or even displaying body language. Yes I realize displaying body language is unconscious, but not esecially for me.

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What is the ideal way to approach someone online? Posted: 10/17/2006 2:35:08 PM
See thats what I have usually done, it just results in no response. Im just looking for as many generic methods as possible, and if theres no difference I can maybe narrow things down.

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What is the ideal way to approach someone online? Posted: 10/17/2006 1:53:46 PM
When looking to actually meet someone eventually, what would be the best way to send that first message? To striaight out ask for a meet? Suggest talking online first? I honestly have no clue so I put forth the question looking for help in this.

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How Important is body language? Posted: 10/17/2006 1:48:07 PM
How big a thing does body language count for when meeting someone new? How well can you read it?

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So I recently overhauled it, tell me how bad it is. Posted: 10/12/2006 2:35:08 PM
some of this sounds a little harsh, but whatever. I will try to fix some of those things. Others I dont know how their taken in the context youve stated so ill still try to fix it. Thanks for the review though.

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So I recently overhauled it, tell me how bad it is. Posted: 10/12/2006 2:23:38 PM
Allright, all fair. I shall do my best to make the proper changes. As for emplyment, I knew I forgot to fix something.

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So I recently overhauled it, tell me how bad it is. Posted: 10/10/2006 8:57:53 PM
Let me know, message me or whatever let me know what you think.

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Allright let me know Posted: 9/25/2006 9:14:42 PM
I know I didnt write a good profile, But I can think of nothing else to put in, or any otherway to write it. Maybe some help please? let me know what I messed up with it? Thankyou in advance, please be gentle.

Joined: 6/1/2006

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what does the guy think of the woman - after sex? Posted: 9/25/2006 9:09:21 PM
For myself Its this, "mmm, happy... cuddle now, happier..." then i cuddle up to them if there is talk I enjoy talk, if not i like to fall asleep with the woman in my arms. Boht of us happy. I know this about myself for sure simply because I know that in any kind of sex I may have there will be some form of bond, I cannot have a one night stand and if offered I would honestly turn it down in the end, no matter how tempted. But thats just me, im told alot of other guys(not all) are not like me.

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