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alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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guys/gals: let's help each other out: our lessons learned for better dating/relating Posted: 6/15/2006 1:31:48 AM
Lnstarkiss, you are so very insightful! It was such a pleasure to read your thoughts on the subject. I agree with you completely..............Al, your pal

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Different Marriage Rules? Posted: 6/14/2006 5:56:53 PM
I think it is stupid and it sucks. Al, your pal

alyourpal

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Do you love/hate/dont mind the metal feeling, with pierced nipples ? Posted: 6/14/2006 3:21:10 AM
As long as I am getting some, I will take whatever I can get! Actually, I find it kind of cool myself. Al your pal

alyourpal

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Multiple Os Posted: 6/14/2006 3:18:48 AM
And you call yourself "Princess Naughty"? Dang, girl! Do it to yourself first and then find a good partner. You should be able to do it to yourself. Just take your time and relax.................................Al your pal

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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27 MINUTES Posted: 6/14/2006 3:08:36 AM
I find true love everywhere I go.......................I hear ya man. Sometimes I am so shocked how quick I can fall in love..............Al (your pal)

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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What's the fastest you've ever fallen HARD for someone?? Posted: 6/14/2006 3:06:25 AM
Ten minutes....................................I think it was when she slid down that pole..........that really moved me........................Al (your pal)

alyourpal

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Should someone change how they think and who they are? Posted: 6/14/2006 1:25:04 AM
I have to say that this thread made me need an emisis tray......................Al

alyourpal

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I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... Posted: 6/14/2006 1:21:55 AM
Don't worry, we aren't attracted to you either ..................LOL ,Al We like younger women that can handle us LOL..................Al

alyourpal

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If a leader or a follower, do you wish you could change, and why? Posted: 6/14/2006 1:18:29 AM
Hell no! I love me just like I am! I change for ..........................no one! Al (your pal)

alyourpal

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What if you don't like the person but the sex is great?? Posted: 6/14/2006 1:17:02 AM
I just won't leave as much money on the pillow when I leave................Al (your pal)

alyourpal

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What's the number 1 thing in a woman's personality? Posted: 6/14/2006 1:15:13 AM
That they are crazy about me LOL naturally.............Al (your pal)

alyourpal

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Gender-based profile and emailing discrepancies Posted: 6/14/2006 1:10:18 AM
Verygreeneyez, the reason that you haven't done well on this site is because your profile is soooooooooooooooooo goofy! It is obvious that you aren't interested in a real date with a real man or even a hillbilly! You can't expect to catch a fish with rocks, so you can't expect to get a date with a profile like you created. Al (your pal) Just trying to help (because you really either need some help or maybe some medication)

alyourpal

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Do you think this is odd and what could it mean? Posted: 6/13/2006 6:57:28 PM
bucsgirl, you get too "scared" ! My God! How do you even drive a car or step outside? Do you wash your hands fifty times a day because your "scared" your going to catch a disease? You can't be afraid of the world, you have to take charge. My thoughts? Ride the horse awhile and see where it takes you, and absolutely horses can smell fear, so don't be a chicken shet like old bucsgirl, go for it! Al (your pal)

alyourpal

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Do you think this is odd and what could it mean? Posted: 6/13/2006 5:04:24 PM
it sounds like he is crazy about you girlie

alyourpal

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Gender-based profile and emailing discrepancies Posted: 6/13/2006 5:01:51 PM
In my case, everything that bye David said was inaccurate, so I say WTF

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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WTF! Seeking Advice. Posted: 6/13/2006 4:57:46 PM
If I was you, I would say to him: "yeah, and thanks for being honest" I would appreciate the fact that he didn't lie to you and he told you what he was feeling. You now have the information to make an informed decision. You can decide to keep him and hope he develops more feelings for you or tell him to hit the road. Honestly, it is nice that he told you straight up!

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Do Men REALLY Like to Cuddle? Posted: 6/13/2006 4:45:40 PM
We are all human beings and if we are with someone we care about then absolutely we enjoy and want to cuddle and then later we want to get naked and pet the kitty, and make it purrrrr..................

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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What do I do? Posted: 6/13/2006 4:43:02 PM
You are a very attractive woman. You should not be afraid to "make the first move" on any guy. It depends on where you are as to what you should do, but communication is the key ie; talk to them and make them feel special in some way. Just talking to some guys makes them feel special.

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Gender-based profile and emailing discrepancies Posted: 6/13/2006 4:38:58 PM
Bye David, you have absolutely no idea what you are talking about. People that make blanket statements are always stupid (that is a blanket statement). Pardon me while I reach for my emisis basin.

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Question for the Guys Posted: 6/13/2006 4:33:00 PM
It means that he isn't sure of your relationship yet. He wants to remain on POF until he feels like he is in love with you. If he really loves you, then he will take his profile off. Lots of times people take their profile off and then their new relationship hits the skids, so why take it off and then put it back on again. He is just being smart to wait until he knows for sure. It is your option to have yours up too. If it bothers you that much then just put yours on here too and see if it bothers him. If he says something about it, just tell him you are keeping your options open too, but tell him if he takes his down you will take yours down. Everything should be equal in a relationship.

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Tell it to me straight Posted: 6/13/2006 4:27:23 PM
Devastating truth.................always.................I HATE prevaricators, with a passion!

alyourpal

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People that love their pets Posted: 6/12/2006 3:29:22 AM
I would love their pets too if possible. It is a package deal isn't it?

alyourpal

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country or city folks Posted: 6/12/2006 3:22:51 AM
I like educated country folks, but I would settle for a city woman I suppose, if she was crazy crazy in love with me.

alyourpal

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sneaky, stupid or toughtless ?????? Posted: 6/12/2006 3:17:44 AM
dump his bun, absolutely. He is a worthless piece of cake

alyourpal

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Girlfriend or Motorcycle?? Posted: 6/12/2006 3:15:54 AM
Keep the bike....................dang, it isn't that expensive to have both. Motorcycles use less fuel than a car? Take her on rides...........dang, I have had bikes my whole life and it doesn't cost that much.

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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For the guys Posted: 6/12/2006 1:35:01 AM
Well, now that you ask...................some other guy on here was really talking down about marriage and he said he was really reading a lot about why a man should NOT get married and he even told of a site by a name , let me think..............I think it is no marriage.com? Anyway, it lists all the reasons why a man shouldn't get married and it has really got me to thinking..................I am not so sure I do want to anymore. There is not really good reasons to get married now-a-days for men. Men always get screwed in the end, so why do it?

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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The Good Life Posted: 6/11/2006 4:17:38 PM
It is oh so simple: Are you happy? You should wake up each day and be thankful that God blessed you with another day. When your eyes open and you can see.................you should feel grateful and happy to be alive. When you can hear a bird outside singing, you should take a moment to enjoy his song with him/her. When the simple things are oh so special to you, then you know you are living the good life. When you open your wallet to pay for anything and there is money in there, you know you are living the "good" life (that God blessed you with). In all things give thanks to the lord

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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43 percent of American women are either non-orgasmic or will be non-orgasmic for a significant period in their lives Posted: 6/11/2006 4:11:42 PM
Well, I think the number is really high. Every woman that I have ever been with has had at least one climax, but usually multiple. I think the 43% number is arbitry (sp). In case I spelled arbitry wrong I will say it this way: I think the 43% was just pulled out of someones hat. I have NEVER met even one woman that I couldn't make cum............so I find that number way out there. But let me say this about that LOL.............Women aren't all about the climax. If a woman couldn't have a climax then I promise you that she would enjoy the closeness, the tenderness, and just because she didn't have a climax doesn't mean that she doesn't enjoy it. Women really aren't that shallow. They enjoy relationships in many more ways than just the moment of climax.

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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men at bars Posted: 6/11/2006 4:05:06 PM
I think you can meet them anywhere, like I said in another thread: the key to life is moderation, so if you find out that they go to the bar everyday after work and drink liquor everyday, then you might want to reconsider if they are the "Man of your dreams", unless the man of your dreams comes home and beats you and the kids before passing out, just to do it again tomorrow.

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Anime & Video Games: Gain/Lose Points? Posted: 6/11/2006 4:02:20 PM
I think it is just another form of entertainment. I would just not want a woman that I was involved with to want to play it hours and hours on end. The key to life is moderation

alyourpal

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so are there still marriage minded people Posted: 6/11/2006 3:57:25 PM
Sure, there are lots and lots of us out here in the real world

alyourpal

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Why Do Some Men Deny Their Children? Posted: 6/11/2006 2:00:31 AM
Come now, let us reason together: For as many questions that you can come up with, there will be a man that has his own reasons for what he does. Men just like women, or animals have their own brain individually, so the rest of us can't answer for the minority who do the wrong thing. You would be much better off to ask each man that makes a choice to do the wrong thing as to why he made the choice he did, then to ask a mixture of men and women on the internet. I can give you a ball park answer: Men don't lay with a woman and think about children. They lay with a woman for the pure enjoyment of it. If a man could know absolutely if this time or that time would produce a child, I wonder if he would do it? I would hope that he wouldn't unless he was willing to take the responsibility for the childs next 18 years. Also, I would imagine that the majority of men that have never seen the child don't really think about them as a human being that needs money/love/direction etc. just as many mothers nowadays don't think that the child they abort is a human being. Both require some sign of mental acuity in the parents brain. "Scotty, beam me up"

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Uh oh I like their friend (advise) Posted: 6/11/2006 1:50:10 AM
Ever heard of "the grass is always greener"? At some point in life, you "should" decide that you like what you have and you will be so much happier. There is always gonna be someone thinner, cuter, more your type............................It is all in your mind. You have to make a moral choice and quit thinking single at some point. Be happy with what you have.

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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What Has Been Your most Romantic Memory????? Posted: 6/11/2006 1:46:40 AM
My first romantic kiss when I was 14 years old and she was 15. Now that was a kiss. Our "romance" lasted one full week of church camp. One of the best weeks in my life. Wish I could live that part of my life again........................

alyourpal

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<----> Age gap... Posted: 6/11/2006 1:44:26 AM
Ten years either way..............

alyourpal

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only one Posted: 6/11/2006 1:40:46 AM
In my life I have found that some women can just wear you down. Some women decide that you are "the one" so they win you over through presents, your stomach, the bedroom etc etc, and before you know it they are either living with you or your married to them. Yes, sometimes the feeling in your heart (call it love, I don't know)grows and other times the heat comes from your engorgement and then still others it is lust at first sight. Wait if you want, but it can be found anywhere and anytime. It is mostly a matter of location location location or maybe just a focus of the brain (some say the heart, but the heart is just a pump)

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Katherine Hepburn told Jane Fonda the woman picks the man? Do you believe this to be true? Posted: 6/11/2006 1:36:06 AM
I believe sometimes it is true and sometimes it isn't.......................nothing is absolute.

alyourpal

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love and weight gain Posted: 6/10/2006 10:05:14 PM
I always hate it when people start with the weight threads because there are so many out there and they know who they are that say stuff like ............I eat less than my thin friends.....There is such a thing as a slow metabolism! Oh my God!!!!! How many "fat" people came out of the concentration camps ? If you don't know, I will tell you...........zero, none! Do you know why? Because they weren't sitting in front of the tube eating Mcfat bars and downing Mcfatter fries and washing it all down with McBiggestfattiest Giant Gulp ! America quit making excuses! Get off your bun and get moving and lose the weight so you can live and love................

alyourpal

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Strippers Posted: 6/10/2006 8:05:07 PM
I wouldn't want my girlfriend (if I had one) to go out a few times a year to watch male strippers, so I wouldn't do it either. If I need to watch a woman strip, I would hope my girlfriend (if I had one) would strip for me. (and naturally, I would do the same for her if she wanted me to.) Al (your pal)

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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What are the 3 least important things in a relationship? Posted: 6/10/2006 7:56:14 PM
1. If they "salt" their food prior to actually tasting it. 2. What color their car is. 3. What their favorite food is. You can't get more "least" important than that LOL!

alyourpal

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Approaching Posted: 6/10/2006 7:41:07 PM
Just go up to her and start talking and don't even consider the race thing and most likely, if you don't act weird, then she won't either. Treat her just like you would any other woman that you would like to date. Black women are just women, so just treat them nice and its all good! Al (your pal)

alyourpal

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PMSing!!!! Posted: 6/10/2006 7:37:45 PM
Hey, I was married once and I have dated a million women and this is what I know absolutely: Women can and do control their urge to kill them all and let God sort them out or just take no hostages! It is called holding it all in and we all do it. When we are with people we care about sometimes they suffer because both women that are PMSing and just anyone having a bad day tend to not hold it in when we are with people we don't mind showing the evil side of our personalities to. Al (your pal)

alyourpal

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nervous men Posted: 6/10/2006 7:31:42 PM
My friend decided he needed to start somewhere with this "HOLE" dating thing so decided to introduce himself. Now, that was soooooooooooo funny! I am wondering about that slip, ie; "hole"? It could be a double meaning thing but I think you really mean the other "whole", unless your friend is looking for a "hole" women LOL.................sorry I am having trouble getting past that one! Actually a few women like the "nervous" virginal type, while others prefer the self assured type. There are all types of women just like there are all types of men. My advice is "don't sweat the small stuff" and almost everything is a small thing. Al (your pal)

alyourpal

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Hairy Guys Posted: 6/10/2006 7:26:28 PM
Oh now.....................there are women that like hair and women that don't. Just search out women that like hairy guys. Some women like to run their fingers through the hair on a mans chest and in my case, it doesn't take very long LOL..............Al (your pal)

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Need advice.....(cheaters) Posted: 6/10/2006 7:24:10 PM
Once a cheater........................always a cheater! Run as fast as you can girl! Come now, lets reason this out: He was seeing you all the while he was seeing her? Did I get this right? I thought I did! And you are now asking for advice? Girl, you know he is worthless as tits on a bore hog. Go find a man that will treat you right! Al (your pal)

alyourpal

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love and weight gain Posted: 6/10/2006 6:56:30 PM
Hell no! If they don't have enough respect for themselves to keep the weight off, then they don't deserve me! Al (your pal)

alyourpal

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Deal breakers, what sents you running for the exit? Posted: 6/10/2006 6:53:43 PM
Deal breakers, what SENTS you running for the exit? what "sents" you? hummmmmmm I don't think I have ever been sents. If you mean: Deal Breakers, what "sends" you running for the exit................maybe a bad eggroll? Al (your pal)

alyourpal

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Women Like Tall Posted: 6/10/2006 3:34:23 AM
Some women look for tall and some men look for tail..........six of one or half a dozen of the other. Al your pal

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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He has been married 4 times.........a danger sign or what... Posted: 6/10/2006 3:33:20 AM
Danger sign? yes, for sure! Al your pal

alyourpal

Joined: 6/2/2006

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tell me....is it wrong? Posted: 6/10/2006 3:32:11 AM
Yes,it is way wrong, get a divorce first, then get a girlfriend. Al your pal

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