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MaricocoPSU

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Msg: 29 (view)

And so God said........... Posted: 6/27/2009 7:22:46 AM
I think the concept of love can be simple and beautiful...or complicated and ugly... our choice.

MariCocoPSU

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Dogs are amazing..... Posted: 5/23/2009 10:07:40 AM
Well.. I pretty much agree with those that said things to the effect of "don't date someone with pets if you don't like pets". I think people(including myself at times)have this illusion that people will change in a relationship. they won't. those of us who are devoted to pets will stay thay way...

MariCocoPSU

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Would you meet someone like this in person? Posted: 4/23/2009 10:03:33 PM
I have a friend who says "people are on their best behavior in the beginning". I believe this to be mostly true. So, if in the beginning someone is a "flake"...and I have experienced a few....what will they be later? Do you want to be with them to REALLY experience it?

MariCocoPSU

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Intentional Relationships Posted: 2/19/2009 7:42:19 AM
i would also agree with the "iceman"... why involve children in a dating situation at the beginning? children are already going through emotional turmoil with family issues of separation/divorce...not to mention potential safety issues of an unknown person.

MariCocoPSU

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Intentional Relationships Posted: 2/18/2009 7:38:11 PM
OP... i think, if ANYONE knew any "surefire" ways to tell if relationships were to be successes or flops; WE WOULD NOT ALL BE HERE... have some fun!!! go ahead...

MariCocoPSU

Joined: 6/2/2006

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The last turkey in the shop question Posted: 2/17/2009 9:40:40 PM
Of course "the last turkey in the shop" might end up with the best dressing and side dishes...but you'll never know if you "close the shop"!

MariCocoPSU

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Intolerant Codgers - Tolerant Crones Posted: 11/30/2008 11:52:15 AM
hmmm.... interesting reading it IS! i'd just like to say that i hope there are men...and i KNOW there are...( like me who like to do charitable things, expand their spirituality AND still enjoy hockey,sex, the remote, yada yada yada) i think we really limit ourselves if we overgeneralize....

MariCocoPSU

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Friendship problem Posted: 11/15/2008 5:14:14 PM
hi there... i would have to say the old saying "actions speak louder than words" may have come into play in this situation... you may have to "break contact" with him... just telling him, but being "friends" with him may still be "giving him hope" so, to speak...

MariCocoPSU

Joined: 6/2/2006

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What is classified as a date.? Posted: 10/23/2008 9:24:36 PM
a "date" to me...is when one party requests the other party go to do an activity....picks the party up, pays, etc. or, it could be one party inviting the other over for a home cooked meal... to me a "dating" relationship might also have the possibility of being more than a platonic/friendship type relationship(physical...you get the idea) (the first meeting is NOT a date to me...it's a "meet up")

MariCocoPSU

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Are sigle women handy women? Posted: 10/21/2008 5:44:29 PM
SPC(OP).... i (sort of) understand what you meant about men being the ones who "should" be doing these things, as i really don't know how to do many "handy" things around the house myself...although i know the "should" is a gender judgment... i even feared purhasing my home initially for that reason. but, as some others have mentioned. there is some satisfaction in learning new skills, getting to know neighbors better, etc. there are things i still(try to)get someone else to do(like fix the toilet). even if it's not at the level of needing a plumber yet... some of these things i'd rather NOT learn how to do... and, on the other hand...i'd prefer to clean/treat chemically my own pool and have the money for something else(like a new pair of shoes) nice post/thread!!!

MariCocoPSU

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Breaking the cycle of loneliness Posted: 10/19/2008 9:42:20 PM
i don't know poetic.... sounds like the "doth protest too much"thing to me... you're sounding kinda defensive about your position of "being" happy, fulfilled, content, etc. not sure really why you would need to explain yourself if you REALLY WERE...

MariCocoPSU

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Breaking the cycle of loneliness Posted: 10/19/2008 9:23:55 PM
what the crap are you really talking about???

MariCocoPSU

Joined: 6/2/2006

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untrue profiles Posted: 10/17/2008 8:25:40 PM
I think Chel in IL hit it "right on"... many write in profiles what they "would like to be".... and to some, they may not be lying... heck...some of these people that say they are "athletic" actually THINK they are athletic because they played a sport 20 years ago in high school!

MariCocoPSU

Joined: 6/2/2006

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O.J. Simpson Found Guilty On All Counts Posted: 10/5/2008 9:36:25 AM
People who have ZERO regard for the the safety, property, feelings of others, have NO respect for rules and authority are called ANTSOCIAL PERSONALITY DISORDERS .... they are often the ones who on the most extreme scales are the "sociopaths"...the serial killers, etc. it really doesn't matter whether or not you believe he killed those two people years ago...and, it doesn't matter whether the person was a heisman winner OR NOT.... prison is THE BEST place for them(in my not so HUMBLE opinion)

MariCocoPSU

Joined: 6/2/2006

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i asked a guy out .......... Posted: 10/4/2008 5:47:14 AM
good job for "taking the shot" If he didn't say "can we do it another time?" i would say he probably may not be interested in going out... however; you could be direct and ask him if he IS interested in meeting up at some point(or not), then you can make a more informed decision whether or not you'll want to focus any more time on him. : )

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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feeling pity for someone Posted: 10/3/2008 8:57:32 AM
"pity sexy" WAHHHH HAAAA!!!!! but, seriously... it sounds like both parties in the OP's posting have unresolved issues, and could learn to develop some "healthy boundaries". (easier said than done) but, very worth it...

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Are we all expecting too much ? Posted: 10/3/2008 7:28:12 AM
"DivorceMeLater" makes some VERY good points.... WE all must look within ourselves first.... i think alot of people(myself included)have unrealistic expectations of these sites. and, as i have said in another short post; i truly believe this, as well as everything else in life is what we make of it. if we focus on the losers who only send us jerky emails that say "mmm, mmm, mmm" for instance, and not the nice people. shame on us!

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Are we all expecting too much ? Posted: 10/2/2008 9:02:12 PM
I think ALL of this(online dating experiences) is what WE make of it... I have met some great people from online. And, have run into some very rude, crass individuals... I have not found the "love of my life"... but, it is what it is. An experience.

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Advice on a fresh start? Posted: 9/24/2008 8:22:04 PM
I think smart-blonde...had some smart advice... why not some direct, honest communication that is not threatening? have fun!

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Why do you think Sarah will not speak to the media? Posted: 9/6/2008 6:02:30 PM
that's exactly what i think... i can't wait to see her debate : ) i'd LOVE to see someone fire questions at her...

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Stalkers are sexy... Posted: 9/6/2008 5:54:50 PM
Ah... just fyi...to whom it may concern...he he(that's sarcasm!) i don't wanna "grow a pair" and, i'm not into "name calling" however; i do/and DID own a firearm at the time i was stalked, and made sure the "kook"(not the term i use when documenting on medical records. but, things are different when "personal") who was stalking me got "tipped off" by my neighbors that i was practicing at the range, TOO. i also got law enforcement involved as much as i could...but, they can only do what they can do... um....and i'm educated in a little more than psychology 101...

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Fascist police officers. Posted: 9/5/2008 8:44:46 PM
speakin' of breakin' laws... OP...you are breaking "general posting rule "E" i believe by repeatedly writing back to yourself.... u might wanna look up the "forum rules."

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Fascist police officers. Posted: 9/5/2008 8:02:25 PM
Gee, the name of this thread isn't VERY nice... i also think calling someone a "fascist" for following their orders/directives/ aka "doing their job" is judgmental. but, i also understand that some in this world have not had the experience of "follow orders or get out"

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Why do you think Sarah will not speak to the media? Posted: 9/5/2008 7:59:18 PM
Maybe just a guess... But, I would "gander" that she's best with a script/ possibly something "prewritten" for her. And, she possibly fears the unknown digs that will be pitched her way (and very well she should!)

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Wine........... Posted: 9/2/2008 7:14:19 PM
Why "try" to like something that you don't like?

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Seeking Job Searching Advice From Fellow Professionals Posted: 9/2/2008 7:07:19 PM
i would say exactly the same thing funny girl said... and, if they are contacting you from online search engines/recruiting sites; you could always email or call with specific questions prior to deciding whether or not to go for the interview. good luck out there!

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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I need to let go Posted: 9/2/2008 12:11:46 PM
ohiomama... lots of caring, thoughtful, smart people have replied here... ...and, have obviously given you some good ideas. i have had trouble "letting go" in the past myself. i can tell you that the "no contact" thing makes it easier. in other words: committ to yourself that you will have NO MORE contact with your ex for at least a limited time.(say 30 days). the time will help you to focus on you, your children, gain perspective, etc. good luck and god bless!

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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I need some advice please Posted: 9/2/2008 11:31:02 AM
OP...i am not in similar circumstances, but i have been "stalked" years ago. first...i am sorry to see you have asked for advice /experience here in this forum, and received sarcastic, name calling type responses. second...i see others have already told you that you can only control what YOU do...none of us can turn back time. start with now. i would not suggest any communication of any kind with this ex(sometimes people give the "wrong impression" , so to speak) i can say...in the past, my lack of assertiveness or "being nice" was percevied as "maybe she's still interested". also...you may need to consider backing off from communication from your brother/if he is hanging with this person who still makes you uncomfortable. your brother could be passing info along about you... as far as a "protective order"...they are not so easily gotten. (i know others have mentioned this). i was unable to even get one years ago after someone tried to break down my door. however; i could press charges on the damage to the door. many states do now have laws against stalking. you can do an internet search with your state/stalking/statute. you may even consider seeing a therapist/counselor to help you deal with the stress surrounding all of this. good luck and god bless!

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Just being friends Posted: 9/2/2008 6:46:41 AM
I think your last sentence kind of "summed it up"...telling her you don't want to be friends, nicely. I have found that direct communication works best... Like..."It would be best for me not to be in contact with you, but I wish you the best."

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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How do you define Athletic? Posted: 8/31/2008 5:40:42 PM
I agree with most who have posted here... in that, as far as checking the "body type" on POF...athletic means to me NON FAT and ACTIVE. i'm an active person and athletic, but still overweight...and unfortunately still more than "a few pounds" overweight. and, i really don't buy into the BBW concept...so i check "prefer not to say". i have seen several on here who have listed athletic, and i was thinkin' "who did they see in the mirror?" i do plan on checking "athletic" when i "get there", or maybe i'll be off the site! in my not so humble opinion....you looked "athletic" to me OP. : )

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Meds - for bipolar and depression Posted: 8/30/2008 10:13:21 AM
there is so much that has been said here... and, i would not pretend (or want to be perceived)to be giving out medical advice over the internet... but, first i would suggest the OP see a mental health professional(psychiatrist or psychiatric nurse practitioner) for the diagnosis and medication managment. so many people are getting psych meds from the "family doctor" or pain doctor, etc these days...i wouldn't see a cardiologist for my knee. i will say as others have here. if a person truly has biploar disorder ; antdepressants can precipitate mania. some good mood stabilizers are: lithium, depakote, lamictal, topamax, trileptal, tegretol(and some of those are used "off label", in other words, not FDA approved for bipolar disorder) and, as others have said...a 2nd opinion never hurts. i think people sometimes are underinformed on potential side effects of medications... good luck with all of this

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Do animals get reincarnated or just cease to exist? Posted: 8/26/2008 6:18:06 PM
I can't say I "know" since i Haven't experienced these things firsthand... But, I like to believe my little animal friends have souls. I DO believe in an afterlife and HOPE there is one for animals. I guess that's where faith can step in...

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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help! Posted: 8/25/2008 7:06:41 PM
hey OP... hats off to her to say she was having anxiety(expressing herself) vs acting "kooky" ,"mean", being dishonest, just distancing without communicating, etc. sounds like you both are keeping the lines of communication open. maybe this is all she can handle right now... only YOU can decide what to do. people (like me) here online can give you ideas, share experiences, etc. but, at the end of the day; you decide what happens(or doesn't) i wish you the BEST!

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Using Supplement 7 Keto Posted: 8/24/2008 11:41:50 AM
thanks for the response.... (if there were "magic pills" for things. i would have them all...ones to get paid same thing not to go to work...one to not get old/wrinkles.) as someone who's been 60 pounds less than i currently am, and 60 pounds more; i am acutely aware there's NO magic pill for wt loss. however; i asked IF anyone had used the supplement. your answer didn't seem to include anything related to THAT.

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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My breakfast for the past 10 years... Posted: 8/24/2008 10:47:46 AM
a yummy one(won't be great for the "organic types") 8oz carb down chocolate milk one scoop chocolate whey protein powder one frozen banana splenda to taste (about 250 cals with 18 grams protein) the milk has 5 gms fat. not sure of carb breakdown

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Using Supplement 7 Keto Posted: 8/24/2008 9:37:25 AM
Hi there... I was wondering if anyone out there in POF land has had any experience with using 7 Keto as a supplement to assist with weight loss/increasing lean muscle. I have read a few things online that talked about fat loss being increased with taking a dose of 100mg / 2x/day. Of course this is with eating less/ exercising more. But, I have not actually spoken to anyone who has used the supplement. Any experience with this out there???

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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POF needs a weirdo button Posted: 8/24/2008 7:46:37 AM
Praise to Bob (or whatever your name is...since i haven't sent you an email yet) I like the concept. I've had some loser introductions/inquiries to say the least. And, polite declines, or ignoring these things have NOT always done the trick. Subsuquently it ended with "blocking"...

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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How to grade your dogfood Posted: 8/13/2008 2:09:31 PM
Thanks for this thread/post. I know someone who just started making her dogs ' own food. I used to feed my one dog the solid gold brand. they allege it's human grade food. but, when i got the second dog, she couldn't eat the fish or whatever was in it, so i changed them to nutro. i will have to grade it. :) coco (gabbi and zoie, too)

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Do abusers end up alone? Posted: 8/13/2008 1:58:14 PM
OP.... despite my "stripper" screen name"...i am a psychiatric professional who has worked with both victims and offenders of domestic violence (i work for a law enforcement agency). and, although i am capable of forming intelligent opinions; sometimes i just "don't wanna". i can tell you that the "abusers" that are in jails/ prisons are alone when they are in solitary confinement anyway!!!

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Do abusers end up alone? Posted: 8/13/2008 1:19:05 PM
wowsad... all i can say is "wow, that WAS sad." coco

PuppyLuvCoco

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Stalkers are sexy... Posted: 8/6/2008 4:46:56 AM
I'd definitely have to agree with others here... Doesn't really sound like "true" stalking. Sounds like someone this lady may have wanted to be "caught" by..... As for the title "stalking is sexy"....Well, it definitely caught my eye because I HAVE been stalked for REAL before and it was definitely NOT sexy. And it was before there were laws against it. Coco

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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what now? Posted: 8/3/2008 3:26:42 PM
OP.... I guess you would have to decide if this is something you WANT to live with... And, if you decide...it's NOT (or have decided). Did you tell him this will not be okay? An objective party like a therapist may be able to help. (IF this is something BOTH of you want to do). Or, you could go by yourself for some assistance to help YOU make some decisions. All the best, Coco

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Why am I jealous? Posted: 7/11/2008 1:59:56 PM
Maxi... it doesn't sound like YOU are insecure. but, want a monogomous relationship. maybe BOTH of you don't want the same things... you MAY feel insecure in THIS relationship...as it sounds like you and her aren't on the same page. good luck with this... Coco

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Why am I jealous? Posted: 7/11/2008 11:22:27 AM
I don't think your feelings are unwarranted. 1) this is a man that your current serious relationship has been physically intimate with 2) she refuses to introduce you to this person. SOMETHING IS OFF HERE. sounds to me like your instincts are RIGHT ON. (in my NOT SO humble opinion) coco

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Domestic Violence Posted: 7/6/2008 5:36:03 PM
llynass... it does sound like you are depressed. i'm glad you are seeing a threapist. it is awesome your daughter is going to go to court to support you. :) i hear you feel embarrassed about the terrible things she will hear, but that is the victim in you... remember...she is going to be a mom, too now. she may be alot stronger than you know, and she obviouslyWANTS to be there for you. what a blessing! who knows...this experience she goes through in court with you may shape something she or her unborn child does to help others someday...you never know. hang in there...and god be with you! coco

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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why do women give eveything in a relationship Posted: 7/6/2008 4:39:50 PM
well... i think quite a few people had a lot to say here... i'll just put two words for you in capital letters for you to think about: DENIAL THERAPY coco

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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when did it become wrong to express ones feelings. Posted: 7/6/2008 10:06:21 AM
Southern... as a personwho is involved in the medical field as well as a law enforcement environment. i can tell you that "showing too much emotion" can be perceived in the professional world as "being out of control", or not being able to "stay in charge." however; i stil think there are VERY important times to show caring and compassion(a death/person dying/ getting news of a fatal disease) while still remaining in the professional role. even having "feelings" about what is happening to a client/patient is healthy;if expressed appropriately. i think some of the BIG distance was created was when people like psychologists who slept with the patients came out, or teachers who are having inappropriate relationships with students came to light. some of "bad apples" so to speak, make it difficult for good, caring people to express genuine concern for a student or patient with a hug in fear of being accused of something wrong/sick. i hope this makes sense... coco

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Puppies on Prozac Posted: 7/6/2008 9:54:17 AM
loved the "joint" comment...tee hee..."we" including the dogs don't do anything illegal in our household as i work for a law enforcement agency:) artful...good point!(thanks for reserving the "editorial" comments...i think) i actually switched "little ms. hyper" back to a puppy food for the higher protein content, and keep protein percent in mind for treats/biscuits. and, also have to be careful because my other dog has a sensitive stomach. sometimes i wonder if i'm being as careful with MY DIET(i know the answer...savethe editorial comments here please) actually, the vet said my dog is more "hyperactive" than anxious...so the meds may,or may not work... coco

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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COMMUNICATON, CELL PHONES, ETC Posted: 7/5/2008 9:04:49 PM
Are you saying you "talked" to someone for 6 weeks without seeing a picture??? WOW...

PuppyLuvCoco

Joined: 6/2/2006

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Puppies on Prozac Posted: 7/5/2008 7:33:02 PM
thanks so much for the replies all :) nordic...i read some of the info and will read more. i have done some training with my dog and she is much better about not barking at herons, egrets, etc behind my house and when other dogs are barking outside. i have read/thought about the electronic collar training in the past, but would never do it without a trainer/ behaviorist showing me how to do it properly. am gonna try the meds/but am most likely going to have a consult with a veterinarian/behavioral specialist....aka a psychiatrist for my doggie, too. coco

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