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trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 52 (view)

Exercise Buddy Posted: 7/17/2008 9:30:00 PM
HI KITTY, im very near you actually. On the delta side of 72nd lol..small world. My son is one now and Im out walking every day bored outta my mind just enjoying the sun. i have noticed just with walking everyday for 2 weeks straight 2 dresses.. and 4 pairs on my fave pants fit once again YAYAYAY!!! I too am looking for a workout/ hangout buddy as well to help keep me company and also keep me motivated. I also bought a boot camp dvd..turbo jam and carribean workout tapes but then...I had a son. oh well..email me if you like and others too in my area. Im so BORED !!! I work eves and weekends but Im avail on most weekends if given notice.

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 45 (view)

Emergency room with kids Posted: 1/18/2008 9:58:08 PM
here in bc they have the nurses hotline...its 24 hours and for the last 4 times ive had to take my kids to the er I called them first. They are extremly dilligent and very professional. I list all my kids symptoms...take thier temp over the phone...and when my baby had a severe seisure she told me to call 911 or get to er ASAP. Anytime its after hours and I know darn well my doc is closed i will call this hotline. It saves the wait...it also saves the ppl at the er time to help the truly ILL. I have bee nto the er 4 times in the past 8 months and the last my baby had to stay a week. The er nurses in Bc are the best IMHO...they got me coffee...got me a blanket made me a bed.. called my hubby called my mom for me and even took the baby to sit with them for an hour while a took a rest. after being up for 2 days. I absolutely cannot complain about my er experiences here in BC becasue I have seen nothing but awesome service from fab nurses...the paramedics, and the docs at childrens hospital..

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 46 (view)

Single Parents and benefits. Posted: 1/9/2008 1:10:10 PM
use benifits only as a emergency tool not income, use the resources at the offices to help you get a job, use the daycare subsidy while you have the job. I have zero compassion or empathy for welfare scammers milkers and moochers of socitey that think the world owes them moula. you got 2 legs and a heartbeat theres no reason why ppl cant work and contribute. If you have a medical condition then obviosly you are not a moocher its legit. I honestly dont know why 15 -16 yr olds think its cool to have babies now its the trend..just another check to draw up and deposit. Its pathetic its the im invinsible syndrome...maybe if we only do it once i wont get knocked up?? Yah I learned about BC in school but most teens tok the condoms and blew them up and laughed about them or they got BC pills in secret but were so dumb they missed 4 days in a row like thats going to protect you. So a controversial q for you...as parents would you vote yes that girls get the birth control shot in high school if they asked for it?? maybe it would lower the teen birth rate??

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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What do you wish you asked for in your custody divorce agreement? Posted: 1/9/2008 12:51:57 PM
im going through this crap right now.... if there is any verbal abuse or ourbursts of anger or false allegations from his side that are noted and ducuments then you have evidence that can be used aganst him. The thing I would change or wish for..is no more weekly visits..its too disruptive and they harldy spend time with him that night anyways!! in most canadian court cases joint custody and joint gaurdianship are granted. Primary residence are almost always with the mother. Access visits are mostly every second weekend with the father. Important decicions are discusssed but the final word is mine. With CS.. make it very clear you know his income every year...and have a date on paper like the first or the 15th ect. They will screw you and pay you whenever they friggen want just to piss you off. Holidays are very important and we fought in court over that issue. No judge will allow the other parent to have the kids over the entire xmas holiday like he wanted. Thats ridiculous!!! It has to be split and agreed to. Make it crystal clear too as to who can pick up the kids from school as well. My ex thinks he can pick anyone he wants to get them...over my dead body. The school will not release your children if the mother who has primary custody says otherwise. They need a lawyers note or a call from the mother saying this person can pick up ect. The school can be sued if the contact card doesnt have a pickup person on it and the kids go off with someone else. alwasy always make sure you school contact card is updated and only has the ppl allowed to pick up period!! if gramma ect has to...then call in or write a note!!!!

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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single or together?? have you done a better job and what have u learned from it Posted: 1/9/2008 12:30:27 PM
sooo I think I have done a far better job parenting my children on my own ( for 3 yrs alone) than I ever could when I was with my ex. Im in a fabulous relationship now for 4 years but those first 3 years was a real test of my strength, and character. What I learned was ultimate sacrifice, patience tolerance and my own personal stength. Sometimes a mom really finds out about herself when she is now alone with her children. all of the things you took for granted like having a extra helping hand financial help ect are now gone and you almost find your soul again. Every child deserves happy parents and sadly sometimes parents are happier not being together. It was a real test of emotions ect but the most important thing I learned was that every woman deserves an equal partner. Secondly, life does not end once you are alone, lastly your childrens future is dependant on how you parent them today. If you are in a shitty relationship dont wait it out let it go and parent your kids YOUR WAY the happier way. yes the divorce rate sucks ass but you know what?/ the year i got married there were 6 weddings that summer every single one didnt last. It all bioled down to wrong partner chioces. LOLLL young dumb and in love I guess WHAT HAVE YOU PARENTS LEARNED ABOUT YOURSELVES WHEN YOU BECAME SINGLE PARENTS for the better or for the worst???

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 200 (view)

What do you initially think when a woman says her kids live with their father? Posted: 1/9/2008 12:14:39 PM
hmm.. first intial thoughts are loser...selfish biotch...every child needs thier mother.. and you obviously messed up somewhere along the way and lost yor childrens effections or your rights to parent them. BUTTTT thats my first thoughts. Until I see the reasons why like for example have you seen BRATCAMP??? some moms there thorw up thier hands and thier kids are sometimes better off living away from thier moms becasue their child may actual do physical harm to them. In certain cases yes some kids are better off with thier father who has the presence and stronger physique to handle a problem child. BUt yet some moms dont want baggage and throw thier kids to thier dads and start thier lives over again... those hos i just wanna throw scalding hot water in thier face!!!

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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Third day of Kindergarten phone call Posted: 8/23/2007 3:36:24 PM
oooh lassi totally agree!!! my grade 6 teacher had it out for me and had the nerve to tell my parents that i was a "complete smartass" she would purposely call on me to answer questions i didnt know on purpose. So... to get back at her i would STUDY and read tons of books to piss her right off by knowing the answers. Some teachers are so set in thier ways, and refuse to lower thier patience levels to help a needier child. They would rather toss the kid in detention or hurl it towards the principal and say HERE DEAL WITH HIM!! While seeing how my son can act, i do have a certain level of seeing it from the teachers POV too. She/ he has a class of saaayyyyy 24 kids and its hard to handle a little fireball over and over. Im grateful my son has a helper shes a godsent!!! but also I had a meeting with the principal, the special needs teacher, and his new teacher beforhand and my sons teacher handpicked him, because of her experience. So if you feel in any way that your son is not getting the attention he needs you must get him switched. Another thing that worked too was my son has fidget toys hes allowed to hold in class that helps him sit still. LIKE A TOY CAR....A LITTLE PET...A POLISHED STONE...A SMALL PLUSH TOY. the teacher lets him hold it as a reward and also during circle time. You can ask the teacher if they will allow that.

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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Third day of Kindergarten phone call Posted: 8/23/2007 9:42:15 AM
hey there, being a mom of a autistic ( high functioning) son and him now entering grade 1 i feel your pain. My son has a full time teachers aid that helps him with certain tasks, like sitting still, keeping on task, helping him with his peers, playing outside and also most importantly keeping his emotions in check. My son has blowouts from one min to the next, and he has also attempted to escape out a door when he was really mad. I was lucky, i got his diagnosis at age 3 plus 2 years of full time preschool, so teachers have already worked with him and he was used to rules and structure. The smartest advice I can give you is find help quickly. Kindergarten is where your child will learn his tools for his future. How to play, how to share, how to handle peers and also how to listen to rules. Do you have a child development center where you are?? also your pediatricain can put you on a list for testing but it can take 6 months to one year to even be seen!!!! ( been there!) also you can suggest integrated entry wich means your child can come in for 45 min or late for a few days until thier fears go?? now, as for taking off.. THATS A COMPLETE NO NO...AND HE SHOULD NOT BE LEFT ALONE WHEN THEY ARE HAVING A TIME OUT. it could be a simple discipline problem, boredom or a hatred of the rules and they are acting out. Kids who are used to having thier way will fight back and take off when they are told no. That could be it too. Lastly...break all the doors down to get help if there is any sign of a diagnosis. its very very scary, and family and friends can help you very much!! It took me over 2 yeaars lots of phone calls hospital visits, hearing tests, child center doc visits and tears once I knew he was " labbelled" but a mother always knows when thier child is not normal. So please dont bush it off, and read up tons. Perhaps read some websites on ADD and ADHD and see if your child has some of the characteristics good luck

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 329 (view)

Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's? Posted: 8/21/2007 10:00:19 AM
john if you are that concerned then if you do HAPPEN to marry a sm, and are terrified to be caught in a financial pickle........SIGN A PRENUP!!!!!!!! This will lay it all out the table.......that you will not be responsible for her children only the biological one is to pay support. It will protect you later if anything vindictive was to happen. but on the other hand...john if you are that paraniod then leave the SM be...they need to be loved with your entire love and devotion...and not to be concerned that you are looking over your shoulder all the time...

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 129 (view)

TV shows you miss Posted: 8/20/2007 7:47:28 PM
airwolf.....a team,............the monkees.....brady bunch.......silver spoons...... family ties.....the muppets......lol...the smurfs!!!!!!!

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 611 (view)

single parents smoking pot Posted: 8/20/2007 7:38:00 PM
PASS THE DUTCHIE TO THE LEFT HAND SIDE""" pass the dutchie...........la la la la...... holy fuuukkkkk are you sure its just wacky tobaccee shes smokin??? pot doesnt make you completly messed up like that!!!!!!!! as for having your children witness thier mother DOING and preparing drugs WTF ARE YOU THINKING????????????????????????? fine.....DO POT MASH YER BRAINS A BIT MORE...........but DOT NOT I REPEAT DO NOT DO IT WHATSOEVER IN THE PRESENCE OF CHILDREN!!!!!!!!!!

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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Oh wow.... Posted: 8/20/2007 6:39:35 PM
holy crap thata alot of stuff!!!!!!!!!!!!! Im thinking at least 70 bucks for each child. Last year my daughter came home with unused school books and pencils. I think that list is over the top. I may be selfish, but im diggging into my hard earned money here, and have to put some aside for supplies. To have to buy extra and have it handed out id be a bit pissed off. Families who are in need should register with the school, and pay a lower fee for a school kit. If it was myself, I would be grateful too but I wouldnt EXPECT free supplies. As for kids going to school hungry, in canada they dont really have a hot lunch program that I have seen. I have heard from my daughter that she sometimes shares her lunch with some pals because they dont have enough... somthing has to be done to help prevent this!!

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 44 (view)

Single mom of one and pregnant again, what do i do? Posted: 8/19/2007 10:20:19 PM
op it seems like almost this entire thread is bending towards the right decision. In my eyes if i were faced with this I would adopt out of love. Not just love for my baby but also myself. life so far is decent with one child so far...add another and it all changes. any chances of you growing up or reaching any sort of goals AT ALL IF YOU HAD ANY...are fukd. you MUST STOP THINKING OF YOURSELF NOW....and think of that child. You are not important anymore..all of you thoughts and decisions should be be for your babies. not parties, not men, not sex, not drinks, not smokes, simply doing whatever it takes do give those kids the best life possible. IF YOU DONT THINK U CAN DO IT..FIND A FAMILY WHO CAN your kids will grow to respect you more for allowing them a better chance at life rather than being a burden dont u think?????

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 117 (view)

vasectomy: turnoff or neutral? Posted: 8/17/2007 9:42:19 PM
When you arrive at THE DOCTORS office you are taken into the procedure room. There you can select the tape or CD of your choice to be played during the procedure. Alternatively you are welcome to bring your own CD which we will be happy to play. You keep your shoes and socks on and simply lower your pants, underwear and athletic support. You lay down on the table, and then your scrotal area is cleansed. An elastic is then gently placed around your penis which is lifted back away from the scrotum. The elastic is then clipped to your shirt. You are then covered with a surgical drape and the scrotum is brought through an opening in the drape. After putting a little freezing solution into the scrotal skin, (not into the testicle), you should not feel anything. The freezing is accomplished using the no needle anesthetic method. This involves an air jet injector that delivers a spray of anesthetic under high pressure through the skin, virtually painlessly and very effectively. Virtually never are oral sedative medications required. Once the area is frozen, the doctor locates the tubes one at a time. He gently holds each tube between his fingertips, and grasps them with a specially designed ringed clamp. With a pair of special forceps, he makes one tiny puncture into the skin of the scrotum. This small line "l" , approximately 2 millimetres, represents the true size of the puncture. With the same instrument he gently lifts the first tube out through this opening. You should be aware that once the tubes have been brought out through the tiny 2mm opening in the scrotum, approaches among physicians on how to block them differ. For example, some procedures involve just cutting and tying the ends of the tube. Others cauterize (burn) the ends. Still others affix metal titanium clips to the ends. Combinations of any of these are also possible the doctor prefers to use a highly-effective and safe technique known as the Schmidt method, developed by American urologist Stanwood Schmidt (description follows). Once the sperm tube (1.) is lifted out of the scrotum, it is cut and the upper end (abdominal) is cauterized. The cauterization on the end of the tube stimulates the formation of a strong scar that blocks the tube. This procedure is carried out on both sperm tubes. * Some studies suggest that when the tube is cut, the testicular end should be left open (called Open Vasectomy), and that doing this may, in fact, reduce the likelihood of post-vasectomy pain. Further studies are needed. The open-ended vasectomy is the technique currently performed at the Pollock Clinics. Dr. then carries out the next step (3.), that some studies suggest increases the success of the procedure, called fascial interposition. This step involves bringing the fascial sheath, or covering of the sperm tube, over one end of the cut tube to create a natural barrier between the two cut ends. Fascial interposition can be carried out using titanium clips or with a dissolvable thread. Dr. preference is to use a dissolvable thread, thereby leaving no foreign metal bodies in the scrotum. Dr. then gently places the separated ends back in the scrotum, and the same procedure is done through the same small opening on the other sperm tube. The opening is finally covered with a gauze pad, and you can pull up your athletic support and clothes. In Dr. hand the one small skin opening is so tiny that it closes itself without the need for stitches or any other skin closure material. This tiny opening heals quickly and virtually without a trace. You can shower after your surgery without any problems, (of course no scrubbing of the surgical area should be done). Everyone seems to wonder what happens to the sperm after their vasectomy. The testicles will continue to produce sperm that will in turn leak out the lower ends of the cut vas tubes. The sperm cells are surrounded and broken down by the body’s waste removal cells into their component parts, which are either excreted or recycled. This process causes no concerns of any clinical significance. To view the entire procedure. Check out the video page. Another hallmark of Dr. has always been a commitment to the most meticulous surgical technique. In keeping with this philosophy, Dr. does all of his no-scalpel vasectomies under optical binocular magnification. This allows Dr. to view every element of your surgery in far greater depth and detail than could be done with the unaided eye. This is just another added feature at the Pollock Clinics that is so helpful in allowing Dr. to perform a virtually bloodless, painless 7 minute surgery. Our procedure is so simple and easy that after having something to drink and relaxing for few minutes, men have no trouble driving home on their own. So at the Pollock Clinics, you do not have to bring a driver with you OWWWCHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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Single mom of one and pregnant again, what do i do? Posted: 8/17/2007 9:35:06 PM
my brother and SIl may never be able to have children due to medical circumstances. They would be the most loving caring wonderful parents I can think of to take on a baby from a mother just like you. Take a step back and see yourself in 5 years down the road with your one child. Now add another to that. WHAT DO YOU SEE?? do you see happiness...do you see yourself as sucessful?? now look again, and see that child 5 yrs down the road with a fabulous adoptive family and he/she is starting kindergarten, new clothes on thier backs...and yummy lunch to eat and thier mom and dad crying because thier baby is growing up. YOU MUST CONSIDER ALL OPTIONS. This isnt all about you and how cute and wonderful babies can be. They grow up and sadly they can become a burden on a young mother who hast felt ready to grow up just yet. yes giving up a baby is torture, 3 of my GF did it and i watched them go through with it. But itsa open adoption, and probally the smartest thing you can possibly do right now. GOOD LUCK HUN

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 293 (view)

Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's? Posted: 8/16/2007 6:50:42 PM
redhead readhead here tooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i dont know what it is about us....more feisty?/ more talkative and speaks our mind more??? good lord my mother is a firengine red and shes VERRRRYYY DIRECT!!!

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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vasectomy: turnoff or neutral? Posted: 8/16/2007 5:14:13 PM
yeeahh wtf?????? how come its always the women who seem to have to get tied???? most men dont realize its easier for the men to get sterilized than the women, we have to have actual surgery!!!!! grumble grumble....buttt as for the ops q..it can be a turn on if the woman is done child rearing..

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 287 (view)

Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's? Posted: 8/16/2007 5:09:39 PM
OOWWWCHHH ill never forget that time when in my fave pub, overhearing 2 men talking about me. One said to the other "stay away from her shes got babies at home" and then laughed as they imitated a chain on the leg. I ran to the bathroom in secret tears. The pain of that was so intense it took me a few months to proceed and date after that. You men dont realize that your naivete and your shallowness really really hurts. You shake it off or make jokes, and dont see the pain in our eyes. My fiance got out of a long sad breakup before me, where he was a stepdad figure, but he took a chance on me and im so grateful he did. All of you could be missing out so much if you continue seeing us in a bad light.

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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am i right to be mad about this? Posted: 8/13/2007 8:58:25 PM
hmmmmm no way would I allow it. I have taught my kids that thier body is private and only thier mom dad, grandparents are allowed to help them with bathing issues. If you are completely comfortable with immediate family leave it at that. The only way I would allow a non family member to see my child would be a potty accident or something along those lines. Even then thats for ther dad to handle not his gf and she knows this. IMO i would definitely make it clear not to happen again

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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judging moving on Posted: 8/13/2007 8:28:21 PM
very good... but snap judgements without knowing the whole story is rude IMO... opinions are ok...we dont have to like them and everyone is entitled to them. I know myself, I know my story and ppl can say what they wish. Its how I take in everyone opinions and judgements that the real issue here. Some ppl see only the surface, and judge based on that alone. Some ppl take the time to open up the book and read whats inside...then decide what to say. I think thats the smarter approach. And i didnt ask for judgement on myself, i stood in front of the mirror already and liked what i saw...Im asking OTHERS on how they perceive themselves, and when they felt that time in thier lives.

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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judging moving on Posted: 8/13/2007 7:54:31 PM
oh good lord this is why I hardly ever come here anymore totally judgemental rudeassed ppl. and i have been on this site for 5 yrs ok ever since it first began. i was a mod for 3 yrs, and I have lots of friends that keep me here. I began the single parents section so get over yourselves. Please stay on topic.

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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judging "moving on" Posted: 8/13/2007 4:43:30 PM
how does one clasify themselves as OVER IT....I HAVE MOVED ON....IM SOOOOOO OVER HIM....IM SOOO OVER HER.. Its really annoying me that ppl "assume" that a simple rant about someones ex automatically classifies them as not over them. So id like to know what all of you think of yourselves when did you feel that you crossed that hurdle?? I feel its when you are emotionally unnatatched to them. That your future is not dictated over the past. That they have lost thier power of preventing you from moving on. You feel good about yourself, you have new confidence, you feel ready for love again not unnatractive and neglected or not good enough. You feel good in your skin, and not crying over losing them and hopeful about the future. To me that means you have won and you are ready to move on. If you have children, you have learned that you are a better parent being alone and happy than sad with your partner. To simply rant about ones frustration DOES NOT classify them as not having moved on. I have met, fallen in love, had a new baby and engaged again. To me thats moving on thank you....

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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children and parents re-marrying Posted: 8/13/2007 4:32:42 PM
i watched garth brooks and tricia yearwood, and thier wedding was gorgeous.They had the girls in wedding dresses too because all of them were getting married. In regards to did i know if my fiance is my soulmate ABSOLUTELY. Its insulting to me to even have to answer that. When you are young you think you are doing the right thing. You dont see the BIG PICTURE or you brush that persons faults aside or under the rug till later and then it come up to bite you in the ass later. Im sure lots of us ladies can relate to that heck even the men!! Once i crashed and burned I knew what i deserved from a mate, I knew how I wanted men to treat myself and my children and i found it. My exes new GF is I guess lovestruck, and I really hope that she will tame my ex and help him to mature. She has 3 kids of her own that dont get along with her. I dont want her hurt like i was. She is kind and if all goes well, perhaps we can build a good relationship that will benifit everyone.

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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children and parents re-marrying Posted: 8/12/2007 9:47:45 PM
umm ok????????????? lol at the half dingalings... young love blinded lots of us until we were mature and grown up enough to see ppl for who they truly are. He was once my YOUNG LOVE AND NOW HES SOMEONE ELSES FUTURE I grew up and he didnt follow. Im not going going down memory lane and its nobodys business. Im seeing life as it is today. Im dealing with situations as they come in the best way that i see fit. Millions of ppl chose the wrong mates and like me now, I have found my soulamte Im the only one it seems sometimes that thinks of the kids and that needs to change. While over the course of 6 yrs my prayers have yet to be answered, that thier father will grow up. And yes he has been a DBD and now the courts is helping with that. While life swirls crazily around the kids, I have kept on a strong front, kept the kids out of it until now. How this adjusting will happen in the next few months is essential to the kids future relationships down the road. I want to absolutely do the right thing.

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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children and parents re-marrying Posted: 8/12/2007 11:49:06 AM
thank you babs for your good perspective on this. I like your ideas, and I believe thats a great idea about the dress, ect. If I show that im at least showing some support on my side it will make for a happier extended family. If I can be mature about it perhaps thier dad will follow my lead.

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 202 (view)

Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's? Posted: 8/11/2007 10:40:55 AM
I have to agree with this, if you arent going to love honor and respect that single mother for all that she is, then stay the hell away from them. Its not only her that you date, but her children too. If a man cant love all of them respect that she is a mother and has commitments to not only you, but her family then you have NO RIGHT TO DATE HER. It takes a REAL HONORABLE MAN to fall in love with a SPM and find true bliss.

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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children and parents re-marrying Posted: 8/11/2007 10:35:08 AM
thanks pkg deal. I know i cant control what goes on or my kids reaction to it. I know that ppl move on, things change and we all have to live with it. I also beleive its unfair to not involve the kids in the plans either. To me that would be cruel to them. Im glad that finnally my ex has settled down at least, and all i wish is that his new woman treats my kids with respect love and courtesy. Im confident she will she has given them praise to me personally. I think the only issue I have is making sure the children know and understand things are going to change, and that no matter what they will always be loved, just by more ppl now. With my SO we have been a family for 3 yrs, so we are in a married like situation and my kids have already introduced him as "my stepdad". In regards to my ex, hes only been with is GF for less than 1 yr. I thinks that rushing, but hell i cant stop them!! and yes, sadly he has been a DBD for almost a year but the courts are taking care of that

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 200 (view)

How many single dads actually take care of there kids.. Posted: 8/10/2007 11:52:33 PM
you men have my fullest respect. Its men like you that i hope OUR SONS will grow up to be like. Men who take responsibility, who step up to the plate and know how to be an all star daddy. Im so glad that your children have at least one fantastic parent to love them. right on guys

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 200 (view)

Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's? Posted: 8/10/2007 11:39:16 PM
yes... very true.. if all women beleived what thier friends told them about child birth the world would be an extremely small place!!! you take the risk and then reap the rewards!!!

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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children and parents re-marrying Posted: 8/10/2007 11:35:22 PM
hmmmmm i see it differently.. I want my kids to 100% comfortable with the whole experience. On both sides. To be involed and valuing what the children think is so important. It means thier opinions matter and they are being heard. I didnt see that, and I need to mention that to thier dad. I want to make sure that he has talked to the kids, that they understand whats going to happen, that they are happy with thier new step mom and also that anything they are worried about they can alwasy know thier dad will listen. I think the excitement overtook him and now its time to hear what the kids think. as for me i dont give a flying crap if he moved on. He jumps out of the plane before he puts on the parachute, but thats the way he is. I moved on far more than him. I want our kids to love us and thier stepparents but i want the kids to be involved ON THER TIME AND NOT TO BE FORCED TO LIKE IT.To me thats just plain selfish.

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 356 (view)

Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers? Posted: 8/10/2007 11:25:31 PM
EASY ANSWER TO THE QUESTION.....STEREOTYPING we have been cast in the dark light as lepers of society, and sooo many men have met the trashy ones who used and abused, that it makes the other WONDERFUL ONES cast aways. snap judegements are killings us i swear. We are not all the same chocolate chips in the cookie bowl you know...some are mint flavored....butterescotch....peanut butter...dark.... semi sweet... Im so SICK AND TIRED of hearing about well i dated some hobeast with 12 kids that treated me like shit took me for all i had so ill NEVER EVER EVER date a single mother again!!! ARRGHHHH!!! ill say it a hundred times you crash and scrape your knees it bled and it hurt but do you sell your bike?? do you throw it in the bush?? NO... you shut the fuk up and try again.

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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children and parents re-marrying Posted: 8/10/2007 11:15:14 PM
welllllll its been 5 1/2 yrs since my ex and I travelled to splitsville and both of us plan to re-marry our S/O in the next yr or so. LOL>>> i already know the dingalings wedding date lol. While i feel deep in my heart that his relationship wont last ( long LONG story) My kids have already asked questions about my fiances and i wedding and if they will be involved. My ex has taken our kids to where his wedding will take place, and I have to say I was a bit unhappy about it. I beleive that the kids should be told properly, asked thier opinions on it, and also if they EVEN WISH TO BE PRESENT!! My kids are still young enough but i dont think this should be forced on them. Its going to a hard transition, and also to involve the kids in any future wedding plans on both sides. Have any of you gone through this?? I persoanlly think its unfair to force the issue on them

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 32 (view)

How do single parents meet that special someone? Posted: 8/10/2007 11:06:24 PM
easy...the net has TONS of SP meetups in your area you just need to investigate. There was one cool one i found a few yrs ago it was SP holidays. They had beach days.. camping trips, trips to disneyland, the lake, and even the carribean once a year. Now that is a fabulous idea if you want to meet lots of SP in one place is one huge meetup!!!

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 198 (view)

Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's? Posted: 8/10/2007 11:01:53 PM
if ppl didnt learn to face thier fears it would be a very boring world wouldnt it?? I was petrified to re-enter the dating world. But 3 yrs, a new baby and an engament later Im happier than a tornado in a trailer park!! But you could be right. Fear has ALOT TO DO WITH IT. Some ppl have been so jaded from thier past they sentence themselves to never date or avoid those ppl again. They have no idea they could be missing out on a potential soulmate if they are too afraid to take that chance.

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 195 (view)

Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's? Posted: 8/10/2007 10:51:50 PM
i dont think its being shallow. Its all a matter of preference. Some like it some dont. Some have horrow stories from thier past that they dont wish to repeat. I think i speak for alot of us women when I say lots of us married young, for what we thought was for the right reasons. Our parents taught us to look for our life partner and when you fall in love the natural thing to do is get married and have children. Love can blind us sadly, as i can attest to that. Sometimes you have to crash and burn and rebuild in order to make us open our eyes up wider. There are soooooooooo many of us that find it VERY VERY HARD to move on from these awful relationships from the past that it keeps them from trying again. Some men dated a single mother and it was horrible so they will NEVER EVEN DO IT AGAIN!!To me thats absolute bullshit!! Some women date only men with kids now because they beleive its the only thing that can work for them.BULLLLSEEEETTT!! I SAY!! everyone, you have the rest of your lives to find love and you are sentencing yourself even before you have the chance to be judged. I had 2 kids and found ultimate love with a childless man...If i can do it so can you.. PERHAPS ITS NOT SHALLOWNESS PERSE', but naivete'????

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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taking the child outside the country Posted: 8/3/2007 4:37:41 PM
passport...birth certificate...care card and a letter from the father saying you have permision to travel with your child. im going to disneyworld with 3 kids in october thats a hyge headache lol. You MUST have a passport if you are flying in/out of canada if you are crossing borders pix id birth certificate care card will do because they are government issued. My aunt is a travel agent and told me the kids need pix id so go to any ICBC motor vehicle branch, its 35$ take all kids id with you. Do it soon because the wait is 4 weeks or more. if you go the website government of canada under consular affairs you will find all the info you need about travelling outside of canada and the steps u need to take

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 448 (view)

How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help? Posted: 8/3/2007 4:25:00 PM
may I ask the moms why they never went after the exes for support?? Too much trouble...better off without him>> or him in their life?? When it all boils down to it the loser men win. They can take off scott free without owing a penny..all they did was drop thier "deposit" and fled the bank. Its horribly unfair I went through this myself when my ex just up and decided he didnt want to pay anymore. I gave him 3 months to cough it up then had no chioce but to summon him to court. Its a hassle...a headache and sad to go through but these men must realize they have to grow up and be responsible. To flee from thier responsibility is childish and immature..that is not a man...IT IS A SAD LITTLE BOY RUNNING AWAY FROM THE FIRE HE STARTED!!

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 34 (view)

leaving the kids in the car :( Posted: 8/2/2007 11:08:11 PM
I had to call 911 in the mall parking lot a few yrs ago, some couple left a baby in the car while they shopped. The baby was asleep but I saw i through the window when I parked my car. I stood beside the car for 10 min thinking some dumb broad would come out "in a min" but then after 15 min I had no chioce. Security smashed the window when the baby woke up and started crying and then police arrived.The dingbats were more pissed about the fkn car window!!!!!!!!! I didnt stick around long enough I was in tears and disbeleif. Family, strangers or not NO CHILD DESERVES TO BE LEFT ALONE BECAUSE THEY ARE THOUGHT TO BE A NUISANCE 30 seconds or less is all it takes for a kidnap.. breakin.. or the child to unlock the door and wander off.

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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families/ renting homes bad combination?? Posted: 7/31/2007 5:26:43 PM
EXACTLY.... the owner told me most ppl who were interested in his home were single men 3 or more to share. now i would smell trouble right away. But thats the evilness of stereotyping. We simply DO NOT KNOW who is the more responsible one. My neighbor has a family of 5 and are a landlords nightmare. absolute SLOBS and thier kids are like pigs in a pigpen. I cringe every time I walk in there, and then there are perfectly nice and quiet men/or couples who are students ect that are a landlords dream renters. siigghhh oh well we will see

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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CRUISE SHIP PARTY INTEREST Posted: 7/31/2007 5:19:33 PM
alaska cruises start in may i beleive that would be awesome something i have always wanted to do!!!!!!

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

Msg: 42 (view)

as my childs step parent what rights does she have? Posted: 7/31/2007 5:03:56 PM
hmmmm i think only in particular cases where there is an absentee parent. (like a zero parent or adoption scenario) too many steparents step over the line and in fact hurt the other blood parent by thier actions. My ex had several boneheads that loved to play mommy to my kids and it hurt VERY BAD. They didnt realize there are boundaries, you can be a good friend to my children, but telling them what to do...disclipline... and making important decisions only belong in the hands of MOM AND DAD. my ex has a so called "FIANCE" lmfao she doesnt have custody of her kids and i feel that she trying to live vicariously through my kids now. Thank goodness i havent heard any complaints from my kids YET.. if she hs crossed the line yet. BUTTT my kids are still too young to know the differnce yet it will happen when they grow up in a few yrs or so...

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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families/ renting homes bad combination?? Posted: 7/29/2007 11:52:55 AM
thanks everyone... the house we want has been completly renovated and had hardwood throughout. No worries about carpet...i hate carpet anyways!!! The kitchen is completly brandnew.. and also my kids are old enough to know not to damage anything anyways. They respect thier things and other ppls things too. Ill let you know what they say

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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families/ renting homes bad combination?? Posted: 7/28/2007 1:24:18 PM
yes you are right those bad apples spoil it for everyone kwim... it seemed the only thing the owner really cared about is wether or not we smoked. We were insistant we dont smoke at all. Ill call him tonight to give him some more references. All I can do is pray... I think another smart thing to do is have my parents review the place one more time with us...they are realtors and would make a really great refernce too.

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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families/ renting homes bad combination?? Posted: 7/27/2007 5:34:47 PM
we are saving up to buy a home that is why we are renting for the next 2 years. No offense taken... we figured we would pay off our debt in the 2 years and then buy. The smartest thing to do. I had 2 friends who went bankrupt from bying at the wrong time. And i have seen plenty of good and bad tenants. i ran into old landlords at the grocery store asking us to come back becasue we were the only tenants they trusted. Now they have nothing but huge headaches and clean up from shitty tenants. What can ppl do if they feel as if they were told no simply for the fact they have kids?? nothing has happened yet but if we dont get this beautiful home we like we have to move on and keep on trying to look.

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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Nude Babies And Small Children. Posted: 7/27/2007 3:52:05 PM
lol...my kids dart out the bathroom like lightning to get thier clothes on. My daughter is 9 and she is quite shy and tries to hide and she will peek her head out of the bathroom and then streak . I too HATE seeing nude kids at the beach or swimming pools. There are faaaaarrrr too many sick wacks out there to risk exsposing your child to. It may seem innocent at a toddler age but its still not safe at all. Even when we are out my daughter gets compliments "what a beautiful girl...you have to watch this one!!! ahahaah!!!" i cringe up and the hairs on the back on my neck curl...grrrrr I hate that..I feel as if they are looking my daughter up and down and i get the HEEBIEJEEBIES...

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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families/ renting homes bad combination?? Posted: 7/27/2007 3:43:13 PM
soooo I have seen this come up this month. With my neighbors and also myself. We are all in the process of trying to move into bigger homes and i have noticed apprehention to families. These of course are "family" homes and we saw one last night. The owner was very nice but kinda cringed at the mention of our kids. i told him thier ages....that they were in school all day and that my fiance and I work all day and only home at night. Once i come off mat leave of course. There was an older man living downstairs and he wants a quiet couple family ect. Are you serious?? who else would want to rent a house but A FAMILY?? no one can be quiet as a mouse for gods sake. Can landlords/ owners be in trouble for discrimination against families?? If i was an owner the only thing i would make clear of is no smoking...no dogs and clean responsible working adults. If there were children i would make sure they were clear about damages to the home. have any you been discriminated against ?? It only happened to me once and we are hopeful we get this house soon the owner will get in touch with us soon..im crossing my fingers..my toes and my legs lol..

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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follow up on people's success stories Posted: 7/26/2007 10:08:19 AM
happiness and success happens to those ppl who open up thier minds and hearts and allows the happiness to surround them. If you fate yourself to "this s*^% doesnt work" then you have closed the door before someone even gets a chance to walk down your lane. I wasnt looking at the time but i always had an opportunistic mind and let the events unfold. The smartest advice I can give to ppl here is KNOW WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR alot of us have "been there done that" dont want to do it again right??? also it takes confidence in yourself too to feel that you deserve the very best love has to offer. Thats why alot of us were treated shitty and had bad breakups, because we settled for ppl who didnt love us enough to stay with us forever. NOW..I FOUND LOVE AGAIN.. and god willed us with a gorgeous new baby boy after 3 yrs, and marriage too. yes we may have done it assbackwards....but whos perfect right??? i wish all of you the very best success in finding your true happiness

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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follow up on people's success stories Posted: 7/22/2007 12:05:19 PM
hell i met my man here 3 years ago, we now are parents of a gorgeous new baby boy, and will be getting married within the next year or so. wonderful stuff can happen here...i left it up to the FATES and i was super lucky i guess

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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moms/kids summer outings?? anyone up 4 it? Posted: 7/17/2007 7:59:06 PM
one more thing.....my kids are ages (almost 9) girl ....age 6 boy and a newborn baby boy 9 weeks. They both interact with everyone like crazy and are dying for more playmates. So absolutely im game and would love to meet all of you...

trikersbaby

Joined: 6/6/2006

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moms/kids summer outings?? anyone up 4 it? Posted: 7/17/2007 7:26:41 PM
hey im game for anything too....im sick of staying home bored outta my mind with NOTHING to do and also whining IM SOOO BORED....THERES NOTHING TO DO... i cant continue wandering the mall anymore to stay in the air conditioning. Last wednesday I went to bear creek park and had a great time!!! Also i have an entertainment book I need to start using as well. So anyone who is hard up or having dificulties finding cash to go do cool fun stuff we can also share the coupons as well. I dont mind picking anyone up either im pretty flexible with travelling to and from any events as well. The summer is going to waste and I think its high time we began to hook up some parents and kids here... fun time for the kids....a few hours of fun time for the moms and dads too... i say BRING ON YOUR IDEAS... its too bad the weather will be crappy for the next few days. my ideas are the aqaurium...imax theatre...a day at granville island...the treetop adventure at capilano bridge...a picnic at the park...spalshdown park....or a day at alice lake even!!! so mail me or whatnot and also im up for simply a nice day of coffe and shopping too...look forward to hearing from all of you..

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