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Dating a Single Mother - Advice Posted: 11/20/2009 4:37:15 PM
"You don't get to decide when a truly good woman comes into your life... they don-t always fit a mold... and if you let one go... they aren't easy to find when you just decide you want one. So appreciate her when she does." Now that is a statement I wish I had cut into my forehead with a piece of dull jagged glass, (backwards of course) a while back.... OP 1) You are a deep dude considering everything you have thus far. But you are jumping to the happily ever after way fast. And single mommy or not, respect her but don't kiss her ass. Because you can't respect someone who kisses your ass (and you will be dumped). 2) Hannity's post is brutal. However, I would make sure you are ready to give up many of the freedoms and opportunities he mentioned. There are some valid points buried in there. 3)Getting ahead in your chosen industry at your age is big. Success is good and women seem to like it too. No offense, she's not going anywhere(settled). Make the hay while the sun shines. And as much as I hate to say it, being single can open big doors(I don't mean in sleep your way to the top mode). Especially when companies wish to relocate you. For your sake I hope it works. Your writing is practically glowing about her. This forum could use more happy endings.

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Hes my fallback guy but I want something new. Posted: 11/18/2009 1:19:16 PM
I pray for the day, I come on here and see that someone strings you along and breaks your heart. It is so strange, that moment when the scales turn and ffffttttt, the guy who was a womanizing jerk turns into what sounds like, a decent boyfriend. In my experience this is a woman thing. As soon as he turns into a nice guy, "uhhhh, thanks for playing". Most women, unfortunately, like being treated like sh*t. It gives them something to complain about, live through and strive for. When the guy says "wow, you're pretty awesome, maybe we should make a go of this", it's like "later!". I'm not condoning men acting like richards, but if you look at the score card, sometimes acting like an aloof d-head, is the proper course of action.

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Is the number of acceptable places to approach women offline shrinking? Posted: 11/18/2009 12:42:05 PM
"I've noticed foreign guys are much better at making introductions, idk why" The Borat effect?

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Do You Want Children? Posted: 11/18/2009 12:38:36 PM
When I filled this stupid thing out, I was thinking that I wanted kids. my own biological kids. And when I read a woman's profile and she says yes to kids, that means a baby. Not just raising her kids.

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Well you chose them Posted: 11/16/2009 5:31:44 PM
^^+1 They don't shut up about it. And as a man attempting to forge a new future with you, single mom, the last thing I need to hear is about what a winner the guy who knocked you up was. It also makes me curious what a****I will be when I'm gone.....

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Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot? Posted: 10/26/2009 2:50:04 PM
^^ I was thinking the exact same thing. Man, I have come to the conclusion that this site is just filled with bitter phuckers who want to do nothing but knock others down. The Guy posts about an article (which was blatantly pandering to its demographic) that many men can agree with. I've hit the mid-30's. Have no debt and no baggage. I can date women from 22-42 quite comfortably. I do what I want when I want to. I am gainfully employed and doing pretty well. I'd call that a sweet spot......Then the bitter folks come on. In this case, the bitter women. Talk all you want about balding, paunchy guys. The female equivalent is right there. (I'm not fat I'm Rubin-esque) They litter this site with their sad tales of woe(as do the men). I'm happy and optimistic about the future. Sweet indeed.

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In your early 30's do you find yourself being picky about looks? Posted: 10/20/2009 2:47:50 PM
No. I'm still extremely picky about the type of woman I will date. But now, a personality is a pre-req.

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What gym behavior annoys you the most? Posted: 10/20/2009 2:39:01 PM
^^They have "bellhop's disease" or ILS. Imaginary Lat Syndrome.

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Best Way to Approach a Girl on a Bus Posted: 10/15/2009 7:02:05 PM
^^Why do I get the feeling you were staring back just as hard, waiting for him to "do the right thing". And when he didn't he was an azzhat.

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Best Way to Approach a Girl on a Bus Posted: 10/15/2009 3:38:07 PM
It starts with a trenchcoat and your birthday suit.....

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sexually frustrated Posted: 10/15/2009 3:31:52 PM
Two words.....gang bang. Since I'm not scoping dudes, I have no idea. I think you are either going to find a guy and mold him into your sex slave, or randomly screw several guys until you find a winner. I don't think you'll be walking down the street and have a "tell" that says "I can go for miles if you know what mean...." EDIT: advertising your future whereabouts on your profile? Sounds like you've made up your mind

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What gym behavior annoys you the most? Posted: 10/15/2009 3:15:23 PM
Posing during your workout. If you're a bodybuilder, go pose in the aerobics room. Did your last set really make that much of a difference that you need to pose? Nah, didn't think so. Also I really enjoy people who stack huge amounts of weight on a bar or machine, do 1/4 of a rep, grunt and act as if they are soooo huge.

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I told her i can't just be a friend... but she didnt wanna hear that.. help Posted: 10/15/2009 2:53:51 PM
^^ He nailed it. Why do women in their mid-20's do this? Because like any woman in any demographic, there will be 2-3 times as many men lined up to take a shot. She's been raised with the new golden rule: She who has the gold (cough, vagina) makes the rules. I think you should f her best friend......

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Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy? Posted: 10/15/2009 2:24:56 PM
Well last time I checked the government hasn't yet taken over dating. So no social, equal opportunity-esque programs for the average guy. Sorry. Women are still allowed to hire and fire based on whatever the f--k they want. Especially the hot ones.

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the odds of POF... STACKED for ladies, discouraging for men Posted: 10/15/2009 9:26:43 AM
According the ladies I've met from here, this site is stacked for women...with a bunch of losers and pervs. I mean who in the hell sends "junk pictures" to women they don't even know? I know it happens, but it really puts a turd in the punchbowl for guys who aren't playing games. Delusional, is perhaps a strong word. But I can see where a guy would feel the way that gent does.

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Understanding the thought process behind the decision-making for when to reply.. Posted: 10/15/2009 6:47:05 AM
All well and good, but I think you answered your own question. It starts with the pic and then on to the profile.

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A real woman Posted: 10/14/2009 8:04:48 PM
"Well, from what I have come to understand, here is the recipe... 1- Become anorexic. 2- Get a boob job... 3- Get a facelift. 4- Blow up your lips with botox. 5- Get the fat sucked out of your thighs and ass. 6- Make sure you are seen and NEVER EVER heard... I am sure I missed something... but feel free to add on to the list! "} 7. A frontal labotomy so you dont have opinions of your own and obey all rules. 8. Have no kids so you can Fvck spontaneously. No I think you bitter hussies have it covered. Now get out the way so someone with these qualifications can post. And for the record, women should be OBSCENE not heard. Burning in hell!

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Do I need to get over my morals? Posted: 10/14/2009 11:56:08 AM
No. Just be aware of the fact that due to a general lowering of standards across the board, you will often be on the "outside" of some situations. Frankly, I give you credit for holding your ground. Unfortunately morals and principles are in short supply for things like looks, instant gratification and general shallowness. This will make you lonely sometimes and make you question your decision. But in the end you will be happier.

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Do guys worry too much about the physical? Posted: 10/13/2009 9:53:25 PM
( c-mon, you've been pounding to pics in playboys and hustlers since you were 10, its ** -do you need a **in road map???) Well according to women I've polled (or was that poled) yes, a lot of men get in the car and have no idea how to start it, much less find the road. Ladies, what say you?

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love and weight gain Posted: 10/13/2009 9:47:42 PM
"If I loved her, I'd stay...but can't promise my libido would be up to where it once was. If she whines "why don't we make love anymore?"...I'd say "well, you gained a lot of weight and I don't find you as attractive anymore". Ohhhhhh boy. I agree with this post, pass shallow, do not collect $200.

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Having a moral dilemma Posted: 10/13/2009 9:34:07 PM
It's not wrong, however, (obviously )you don't feel right about it either. I think you answered this question yourself. You're not crazy about him and still have feelings for someone else. Do this second guy a favor. Level with him. Tell him the truth and let him be.

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Do guys worry too much about the physical? Posted: 10/13/2009 9:18:19 PM
You're on the right track. But don't forget that some well timed/placed physical techniques make good lovers, ggggrrrrreeeeeaaaaaattttttttt!!!!!! Or so I've been told......

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Virginity keep it or blow it??? Posted: 10/13/2009 9:11:15 PM
Well if a woman blows it, she can keep it, for a while longer at least.....no?

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The unoffical rules of dating a single mother. Posted: 10/13/2009 9:09:11 PM
Talk about revisionist history. Those aren't the rules I was referring to.

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What does I want to be by myself means? Posted: 10/13/2009 7:33:56 PM
^^ This guy nailed it. She needs time to be by herself.....with her new boyfriend. Roll on sir!

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Favorite MMA fighter? Posted: 10/13/2009 3:54:25 PM
I agree with the comments on the old school guys. Say what you will about Gracie, Severn or Shamrock but they were awesome. Those guys who fought in no weight, no time limit matches and fought multiple fights in one night. The fighting intel that exists today was extremely limited. You had no idea many times, what they hell you were in for. In reality, the UFC of yesterday and today are vastly different beasts. Both compelling. But very,very different. I think a lot of guys today, fight not to lose by the other guy's strength. (If that makes any sense). Whereas Keith Hackney went out there ,mullet flying, attempting to knock your block off....

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WWE needs a legends title Posted: 10/13/2009 3:43:52 PM
I love the old guys, but nothing is worse than watching the old has beens hobble around the ring and do their (often unspectacular) signature moves at half speed. I had a lot of respect for old Ric Flair. He really wrestled pretty well for a long time. He was one of the few old guys who did a pretty good job of keeping up with younger comp. But Hogan, Foley and Nash? Please. Waddle around on your decrepit knees and then give a big leg or something equally ridiculous? no thanks. I have no idea what WWE is thinking. CM punk with the title? Geez it took edge 10 years before he got a shot. Jericho has the title for what, a few days?? Personally, TNA still has some of that old school, side show, (for lack of a better term) "white trash" element.I like that. More true to its roots. Whereas the WWE has tried to distance itself from its roots somewhat. Sure they trot out old guys once and while, but for the most part, aside from the fans, the heart has been removed.

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What is a Real Man? Posted: 10/13/2009 3:08:11 PM
"My opinion of a real man is one that knows how to take control of a bad situation." That's the general consensus over in the single parents forum.

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Why do people always want more pics , even tho you already have like a million on your profile Posted: 10/13/2009 2:49:48 PM
I was all set to post one response and then I looked at your profile.... You have good pics that show off your body a little. Guys are just pervs.... I have seen plenty of women who have pics which are very strategically taken. Taken to hide their true body type. Your first pic is the classic "average girl" pose, hiding the rest of her. But, alas, I was mistaken. If I see 5 head shots and maybe some cleavage, I know what I'm looking at.

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The unoffical rules of dating a single mother. Posted: 10/13/2009 2:40:30 PM
Where is mchurch when you need him to post his informative piece on single moms? Seriously. You need to ask yourself, "Can this woman have an adult(no dating w/kids, dates that revolve around kid activities )dating relationship independent of her children?". (So you can take the proper time to get to know her and make sure you like her enough to deal with her situation). There then has to be a period of getting to know the kids. Because if you move forward you will have a new set of expectations. My experience has been that many cannot make enough time for dating and getting to know each other. I don't turn single moms away, but a few conversations are all I need to hear to know whether we can have an adult relationship away from her kids. Obviously, if you walk that plank you will have responsibilities, but I need time to see if WE are compatible. There must be an "us" before there can be a "plus". If you are like most guys, you don't want to walk into a relationship as #2, 3 or 4. And you will be at least 2nd.

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Chemistry and Feelings versus just a piece of @ss. I don't get it. Posted: 10/11/2009 6:49:28 PM
^^+1 But you should take some pride from the situation. In my experience,most women don't sleep with a guy multiple times unless they do something for them. Booty call or not. Perhaps you have some skills her Adonis doesn't possess.

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Do guys like sweet & innocent or naughty girls? Posted: 10/5/2009 5:54:11 PM
Most guys can't handle a truly naughty woman, because their feeble minds can't deal with how she got that way. They get all insecure and go back to dating boring women because, like Lt. Caffey, they can't handle the truth.

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Personality matters - only if they're hot? Posted: 10/5/2009 5:47:31 PM
Do you look at the hotness of a woman, before considering her personality? When dating?Yes. I know that this makes me a shallow loser in the hearts and minds of many, but I don't care. I want to be attracted to my mate. Anyone I date is smoking hot, in my opinion. Now, once I know I'm attracted, then personality comes into it. Will I want to spend time with her? Do I like her? Can I stand her? I have to kinda giggle too at the idea that this is a "white" thing. I don't know any human who doesn't want to be with someone they find attractive. And the idea that only men do this, please. You need to read some women's profiles. Shallow like a birdbath.

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Men in their 30s... Posted: 10/5/2009 5:19:45 PM
I disagree. If a man's aim is true, (meaning he's not just trying to score some tail) then age is just a number. Most women are more mature anyway, so the 14 years seems huge, but in reality it's not. My parents are 14 years apart. My father met my mom when she was 24. He was 38. They are still happily married, 40 years later. I wouldn't rule it out but I'm not actively looking for someone significantly younger.

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Are most guys afraid of really pretty women? Posted: 10/2/2009 6:41:48 PM
You might want to stretch out a little...... I'm afraid you may dislocate your arm patting yourself on the back.

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Men and Dating and Looks... Posted: 9/28/2009 6:55:05 PM
I believe there's some truth to the initial quote. I have long maintained the fact that most of my friends married the first woman they perceived as "better" or "hotter" than themselves, who gave them regular sex. Their college "f buddies" seem to be their second wives. But I've seen the same phenomenon with women......They ignore chemistry for qualifications. I don't know. I see some couples around and I have to admit, they are a good looking couple. The gorgeous date the gorgeous plenty. I have to admit, that the guy secret released earlier is true. But there also comes a time, when you realize that your friends are idiots. And it's about finding the person who makes you happy. You just hope to hell that she's smokin'.

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Dating advice for a single mom.. Posted: 9/28/2009 6:35:23 PM
"sidenote: You will NEVER find someone who will agree never to be #2(edited) in your life. Would you want to be with someone who always put you down on his list of priorities? Why should you expect more/less from someone than you can/are willing to give to a relationship? Don't worry, when you really ARE ready to be in a relationship with a man, you will not insist that he come second/third/fourth, you will be healthier and have better control over your life and your priorities and everyone will take their turn being #1 in your life as circumstances dictate." One of the Best posts ever in this forum. This should be required reading the second one checks "yes" to children on their profile. This forum would dry up, but would likely stop a hell of a lot of heart ache/break.

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What’s your secret to success?? Posted: 9/28/2009 6:21:57 PM
"But, since you brought it up....IMHO ladies are a lot less superficial when it comes to the "looks" of a man. The word "attractive" is often mentioned by men in their profiles...that they are "attractive", that they want an "attractive" woman to date. It's also in women's profiles, but much less so. That's been my experience." ^^Women are just as hung up on looks. You've never checked out your fellow ladies' profiles. Men put "attractive" it's probably the least offensive way to say "don't contact me if you're hideous". Women can say that, verbatim. Because some dude will still look past that sort of unattractiveness to her body, looks etc. The better looking she is the more she can get away with, usually. Many of your fellow ladies will mention specific physical characteristics. Height, weight, hair, income tattoos. Very rarely will you see a man describe a woman in terms less vague than "attractive" "Fit" "active" All words that are code words for "hot", "thin" "will stay thin" . And yep. they're in my profile too. Wanna succeed? Like a good ad agency, good pics and catchy copy. It works.

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Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend? Posted: 9/23/2009 4:30:33 PM
She is so banging him. Don't believe anything she says.

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Heels or no heels, that is the question. Posted: 9/23/2009 4:24:44 PM
Two things: 1) Wear heels. they make your ass look better. 2)This is just another variation on the "why don't the people I want, want me?" theme. Go stand over there with the BBW's, single moms, short guys and other dating victims. Or start going to more basketball games.

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Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles Posted: 9/23/2009 4:16:49 PM
Gotta reel 'em in somehow. It's marketing 101.

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why do men always have to look at other women!! Posted: 9/23/2009 3:58:19 PM
^^+1. (msg. 578) Shoulda really tested that security and and asked for the threesome!

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godspeed, mary travers Posted: 9/23/2009 3:47:08 PM
My hippy mom used to play PP&M regularly. What a great loss. RIP.

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How important was Brian Epstein? Posted: 9/23/2009 3:45:22 PM
For the record, when Epstein was going to write his book, Lennon quipped that it would be called "Queer Jew". When Eppy called it "A Cellar Full of Noise", Lennon called it "A Cellarful of Boys". Epstein was instrumental in their success, but was a naive and short sighted business man, IMO. They most certainly would have been nothing without him though. But he didn't realize that he could've called any shot he wanted and gotten it from 1964 onward. That is if the Beatles agreed to go along with it. If you really want to know who was important, let's discuss George Martin. Now without him, they would've been good, but not the icons we see them as today. Yesterday with no strings? Tomorrow Never Knows w/o tape loops? Mr. Kite w/o the chopped up fairground music? Strawberry Fields w/o the edit?

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Fear of Generic Pop Music Taking Over... Posted: 9/23/2009 3:32:59 PM
Why fear what has already occurred?

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was kurt kobain very clever? Posted: 9/20/2009 11:40:03 AM
A mulatto An albino A mosquito My libido I'll take this nonsense over "Living on a prayer" any day. That's all I'm saying.

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was kurt kobain very clever? Posted: 9/18/2009 3:45:26 PM
I am a Nirvana fan. However, one listen to the Melvins and sprinkle some Pixies in and viola, nirvana. Ginn and later Rollins had the teen angst thing figured out in 1981 (and before). Was he clever? In his own way. Perhaps not in the voice of generation sense. But what he was saying had a hell of a lot more resonance then some ass clown like Bret Michaels (and for the record, I like him as a person. His music was for sheeople). Cobain's success was all about timing. By the time Nirvana was signed all the college journalists who used to blow J Mascis (another favorite of mine) were now taking jobs in the record industry. These indie bands were touring and had ready made followings. When people finally (and correctly) decided that the world didn't need White Lion or Trixter (or fu-king Bon Jovi for that matter), the record industry looked for something different. Some of the indie bands delivered that in spades. Especially Seattle music. The music was close enough to classic rock that your Marlboro men could get it, but it also drew in a bunch of people who knew that hair metal and empty vee wasn't speaking for or to, them. It was rather hilarious to watch these hair bands try to become alternative. Flannel and no hair spray. Here's looking at you, Motley Crue. What really pisses me off is how it created two new genres which suck equally as bad as hair metal. Emo, which is all the sensitive, skiiny jeans, cut myself, wimp shyte and this new "metal" that does nothing but talk about "the pain" and how people "take things away from me" sung by idiots with shaved heads and bad tribal tattoos. Mopey music with some kind of supposed depth .These jerk offs are the same tools that had they been born 20 years ago, they would grow their hair out and sing power ballads.

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How important is a THREESOME??? Posted: 9/11/2009 9:48:32 PM
women are multiorgasmic and men are not..... Um you are clearly misinformed.

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My profile is working, but my messages aren't Posted: 8/22/2009 3:01:33 PM
Let's be clear here as well. Your pic is working. If your profile was working, you would be getting responses. But lemme ask you this: who are you messaging. I'm gonna go out on a limb here.... I am willing to bet the women you are messaging are receiving a ton of mail. These type of posts are usually written by people who are messaging the best looking, most sought after folks on the site. Guys have to expect some rejection here. The ratio is supposedly 3 to 1. I'm thinking it's closer to 10 to 1(overall, geographic differences notwithstanding), but the head fish would never confirm this as the audience would leave the show.

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Looking For College Students 18-21 Posted: 8/22/2009 12:53:59 PM
Likely because they are the first generation to grow up with internet and most have no social skills other than facebooking and texting.

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