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 Author Thread: Making your sex life better for your partner....
 ozone1979
Joined: 6/6/2006
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Making your sex life better for your partner....
Posted: 6/7/2006 10:22:56 AM
well...
i'll tell ya what..
if u're still dating, make sure that the both of you have the same ideas regarding sex.
when i was younger, i used to feel that it wasn't all that important. Shux, i was dead wrong. Now, I like to talk about sex (in detail) before I even take a person out for a date. And if I meet the person over the internet, before I even see her. Simply b/c I've been with a person who was into something totally different. She "loved" me, but our sex life sucked, simply b/c she wanted something different. No matter what I did (and believe me, I'm good at what I do).. our sex was always weak, until it got to the point that it became none existent. If I have latinas as my preference but I'm with a Caucasian, then I might as well leave the Caucasian alone. Everyone has his or her preferences. And some people are just not into sex. This goes out to people still dating. If you're married already, shux.. pray and do all u can, lol. Been there, done that. And that is why I'm not puttin up with that again. Whatever woman I meet will do just what I like, and she would be needing just what I like to do. And there's many who do. So guys/ladies....
talk about sex with ur "prospects" Don't say I didn't warn you. And if you may feel uncomfortable about doing so and may need some recommendations... IM me or send me an email. I like to see people find what they are looking for. Because I sure like to be happy too. Also... the good book says that the man does not have possession over his own body but that of the woman, and vice versa. Give yourself, don't be so darn selfish with it. Learn that woman and let her know what you like. Because good sex comes from focusing on pleasing that person, while that person is doing the same to you. It's tha BOMB!... lol

Stay cool
 ozone1979
Joined: 6/6/2006
Msg: 85 (view)
 
A player. . . how can you detect one?
Posted: 6/7/2006 10:06:52 AM
I'm with u on that one
and honestly, I have been called a player... even though I've never cheated or used a woman. Mainly it IS b/c of my insecurities (due to my divorce). However, I've dated quite a few times in my life and I've learned what what many women want. I also enjoy giving that to them, b/c it makes me feel special (to make someone else feel special). To detect a player or scam artist...
1st off, make sure that honesty is the foremost condition of ur communication with the person. Use common sense and some reasoning to understand why this person may have certain hangups. And if you don't feel good about it, then don't stick around. Because in the end, if you are hurt, it is only your fault. You would be the only one suffering from it. I got played in the worst way, years after my wife proposed to me, and I bought a house, and had two children with her. I just may be insecure for the rest of my life. But I am not a liar. I stay honest, and always want to one day feel secure again. However, I have a hard time believing promises now. If you consider me a player, I do not care, because I let each woman know that I'm with, how special she is. Moreover, like I said, I am completely honest (it is the best policy). One problem I have with this game inwhich I find myself is that everyone has his or her own insecurities. For example, a woman may think that I'm too good to be true, or she might feel insecure, b/c I'm insecure. And guess what, .. she'll probably cheat or mess around. Because she's still searching for her security or she may be too scared to of how I might one day break her heart.

So my message to all of you: keep the communication going. And if you are with someone who is more than just a sex partner. Then you should be aware of where he/she is at all times anyway. Also, keep in mind... that everyone is free to change his/her mind one day (player, confused, cheater, or whatever). It happens. So just don't put so much stock into people's promises. Enjoy the time you spend together, and always let that person know you will always love him or her, and that if she/he isn't with you 20 yrs from now, then the love they say they have isn't real love, it is just infatuation. Because true love is not an emotion.
 
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