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marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

Msg: 196 (view)

Ladies.....is anyone else NOT amused by....... Posted: 4/16/2009 5:51:36 AM
good one Vanessa.....yes they always compensate with the 6 and wide dont they? LMAO

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Ladies.....is anyone else NOT amused by....... Posted: 4/15/2009 7:27:23 AM
I get that question a lot.....and yes I dont find it appropriate on a first chat either. but I usually will ask them how many inches are they packing and see what their response is. or my other response is "i have had no complaints" ....LOL

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Initial Contact: Do's & Don'ts ?? Posted: 4/9/2009 9:44:29 AM
I have to agree on the grammar thing, that really irks me in an initial note. here's a dont....dont send your phone number and just say "call me" LMAO...I dont even know your first name so who exactly am I supposed to be asking for when I call? anything sexual.....big turnoff on a first contact as well..... I do reply to pretty much all of the emails I get. I really like the ones that have something funny,humourous or actually show they might have read my profile.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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First Meeting Place Posted: 1/12/2009 9:00:23 AM
Yes huge red flag for me as well. I have ran across that a few times with guys on here wanting me to meet them at their place or at mine. I just simply say no thanks, first time meeting is always in public. If they wont go for that, there is a reason and I dont want any part of it. Usually coffee is the easiest and simplest first meet. If they cant even meet you in a public coffee shop, i would be curious of the reason.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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should I tell her she's dating a married man? Posted: 12/12/2008 8:08:05 AM
I would just back off and she will figure it out on your own. Sounds like you have already told her about the phone call in the bathroom situation. time to mind your business and move on to something else

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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What do women want? Posted: 12/12/2008 8:04:02 AM
well that is a pretty tough one to answer as every woman is different.....but I would say the top of my list is 1. employed 2. honest 3. not a player...hard to find on this site at times 4. humourous 5. has same common interests as me

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

Msg: 75 (view)

Met this guy on POF - Tell me if I'm right.... Posted: 10/29/2008 11:17:06 AM
sounds like you were right with this one......he brought his 2yr old on a first date. that is such a huge No...and I dont even have kids..... plus showing up late for all 3 dates....and the cellphone...those would be my 3 strikes too. I think you called it right.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

Msg: 56 (view)

Pay more attention to profiles without photos? Posted: 10/29/2008 5:40:08 AM
I do read and chat with people without a picture...but I have learned to nix meeting them if they cannot provide me with a photo either through email or IM. I have done the meet without a photo and wont do that again in a hurry. I figure fair is fair....my picture is there, even when I didnt have a digital camera, I had a friend take a few pics to add online or to send to people. keep fishing....

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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What is your #1 Pet Peeve in Profiles Posted: 10/16/2008 6:16:34 AM
I have several pet peeves but my top two are: 1. Prefer not to say (esp when it is under the single/sep/divorced category..that usually leads me to beleive they are married) 2. No picture but they expect you to have a picture when you contact them...LMAO and

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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New York Broadway Trip Posted: 8/26/2008 9:33:39 AM
I went to NYC and saw a Broadway Show...at the time it was The Odd Couple. We got tickets at the discount place at Times Square. I stayed at the Lucerne Hotel, very nice but the room service sucked. It was close to Central park and the Met. also close to subway. I travelled on the subway which was really easy. I found the site www.nyc.com to be very helpful planning my trip and for things to do. Hope you have a great time.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Best/Worst message Posted: 8/26/2008 5:15:55 AM
I get a lot of nice messages complimenting me about my smile. I say my top worst was an email of 8 questions from some "winner" asking me various sexual preferences......It was so priceless. I copied it and emailed it to my married girlfriends and said this is what us single girls have to put up with.....it was good for a laugh. After that message, I turned him down for a coffee date...thanks but no thanks!

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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how do I actually turn off the IM ??? Posted: 8/26/2008 5:10:24 AM
I had my IM turned on for a long time but got tired of the faceless male trolls fishing on here for sex only or cyber sex, so turned it off.....if you are interested , send them an email. I respond to the emails I get and if I want to chat with someone , I turn it back on and ignore the trolls.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Punctuality Pet Peeve... Posted: 8/8/2008 5:36:06 AM
Hey be happy she showed up! How late was she, if it was only 10 mins , then I wouldnt be bothered but if it was 20-30mins every time...that might bother me. After being stood up on meets, I only wait 15mins now for someone, if they havent called....I will call them and if there is no response then I am out of there. I dont waste my time waiting around anymore.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Safety on a First Meet. Posted: 2/25/2008 6:22:57 AM
Ocean...you did everything right......i would have done the same thing.....I think of my own safety first and foremost when I meet anyone online. If they wont meet me in a public place, then that is a huge red flag for me. I often wonder about these guys that are insistent on going to their house for a first date......I always say no thanks. I dont feel safe to have someone come to my house on a first date either........I dont know what they are thinking when they suggest that, and then you always get the argument...I am not going to hurt you, etc..... Dont fret about this guy.......he doesnt sound like much of a keeper to cancel the date before you even got there because you wouldnt ride in the car with him. good luck , keep fishing

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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CBC Marketplace -Warning on dating services Posted: 2/20/2008 7:17:30 AM
I saw it last week as well and what an eye opener. I always get junk mail from Allied Network but I dont even bother to open it , just throw it out. I couldnt believe the prices and the whole paying $1 or $2! wow , I am guessing they have lost a lot of members from that little expose

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Would You Tolerate This Behaviour? Posted: 2/11/2008 9:26:50 AM
I wouldnt put up with it, he is clearly too busy to call or make time for her. SO I would tell your friend to keep fishing.......he sounds like a player.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Is this rude behavior? Posted: 1/28/2008 8:17:57 AM
Yes, I have to agree it is rude behaviour....but I think it has become the norm these days. I always just tell the person by email or in person, whatever the case may be, if I didnt feel any connection.....havent had a problem with doing that or the results of it.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Embarrassing question-whipping it out inappropriately Posted: 1/9/2008 5:23:21 AM
Yes happened to me with one guy.....we were at my house having a cup of tea, a little kissing , next thing I know it is out of the pants and ready for action!!! LOL

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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why are there so many men without photos.......... Posted: 12/18/2007 11:07:57 AM
they have something to hide. have chatted with a few with no photo.... if they dont cough up a photo either on POF or email, chances are I am not overly keen to meet them..............even when I didnt have a digital camera, I had a friend do some pics for me....so come on guys, why so shy!

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Ladies...help the men here...POF events Posted: 12/6/2007 11:22:31 AM
I have been to 3 POF events in my area, I found the same thing....the guys wont approach, or even talk to you.....it was like a grade 9 dance.......but I still continue to go and try to mingle. As a new person to my first event, I was not introduced to anyone by the host/hostess.... I did find that there were more women then men at the events I attended. Might try the new years party, we will see.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Forced fondling Posted: 11/26/2007 6:25:12 AM
happened to me on a second date with this one guy, it was also our first sexual encounter, grabbed my hand , placed it there...next thing I know he has his fly open and is asking for a BJ.....too much! LOL. I agree if I want to play with it , I will do it of my own accord, dont need that much direction.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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He's separated.....BUT is he? Posted: 11/8/2007 6:07:45 AM
sounds to me like he is still with her , just not sleeping together. I would tell him to contact me when he is definitely single and can afford to date. Not that I feel the man has to pay for everything but if he cant afford to take you out once in a while, then what exactly is he looking for.......

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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For older women... Posted: 11/2/2007 8:06:34 AM
If you are old enough to be my child...then it is a huge turn off to me. I find there is a lack of maturity in younger men. I want someone that I have things in common with, we like the same things (music, movies, etc).....dating someone more then 10 yrs younger then me is not my thing.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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STRANGE FIRST DATE REQUESTS Posted: 11/2/2007 8:01:29 AM
thanks for the laughs....have had similar requests, guy was totally obsessed with getting a BJ.......kept asking me to kiss it......gave me and my friends some good laughes. he is still on here though, trolling women for BJ on the first date....I didnt realize meeting for a coffee meant giving out BJs

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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halloween sex Posted: 10/31/2007 8:23:51 AM
LMAO that was a good one....thanks for the halloween chuckle

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number?? Posted: 10/9/2007 10:31:58 AM
ran in to this problem with one guy on here......after a year of chatting still gives his cell phone , no home number, always came to my place, showed up in his gym clothes. I suspected he was married, still do....rarely answers his cell, always blocks it to call my number. Hilarious. He was very vague about a lot of stuff. I figure eventually his wife will figure things out......he does have a landline phone, says he shares it with his sister (yeah right LMAO).... Usually I only give out my cell number, I didnt have one at first and was cautious with who I gave my home number to. Luckily I havent had any problems with giving out my number as of yet. If someone only gave me their cell phone, that is fine at first.....however , if after several dates , no home number, I would raise a red flag.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

Msg: 261 (view)

Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex Posted: 9/24/2007 5:22:10 AM
no way! I consider it all part of the foreplay. Ran in to that situation with one guy from here, definitely a mood killer for me....always wanted oral , would never return the favour.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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My first POF date Posted: 9/13/2007 11:15:53 AM
very uncool and not acceptable to me.....guess he wanted to write off the drinks as a business expense.........

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Exclusive Dating? Posted: 9/13/2007 6:01:24 AM
Keep fishing...obviously that is what he is doing, another one that is searching for the next best thing......time to move on..........meet other people, keep your options open and dont sit around waiting for him to change his mind, that probably will never happen.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Clothes do make the man Posted: 9/12/2007 5:32:24 AM
I dont expect the guy to show up in a tie and suit for a first meet.....just casual , jeans, nice shirt......havent had a problem with that except for one guy who showed up in his gym gear......geesh. I know we met after his workout but I expected him to show up in a pair of jeans/shirt , not his gym clothes. I always make an effort to wear something nice, casual and of course makeup...dont think it is wrong for the other person to show up in something nice and clean and shows they made an effort.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Sept.8th LeSkratch Foam Party Pics/kudo's Posted: 9/10/2007 5:33:15 AM
Great time was had by me and the gang I brought.....thought the DJ was great.....didnt venture in to the foam though. As for there being people of colour there....well gee I danced with a bunch of guys of colour and saw quite a few ladies as well....what kind of dumbass comment was that? Looking forward to the Halloween gathering...... marjabu

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Free Fall'n Foam Bash at LeSkratch, Oshawa Sept. 8,2007 Posted: 9/7/2007 5:20:23 AM
Looking forward to it....bringing a group of friends as well........should be a blast

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Oshawa's new city slogan. Posted: 8/29/2007 11:36:46 AM
Be amazed by what? LOL. where do they come up with these ??

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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why do men lie about their age? Posted: 8/28/2007 11:02:05 AM
have run in to that with one person on here.....said he was 37, actually older then that.....gave no reason or explanation for the lie but if you are already lying about your age you are probably lying about some other things. turned out to be a player big time.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Missing Person Posted: 8/24/2007 5:57:39 PM
glad to hear that you found your brother. I hope things turn out okay for your family.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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How long should one wait at a meeting place? Posted: 8/24/2007 8:16:43 AM
I have waited 20-30 minutes , then I leave.......usually I call them after about 20 minutes, leave a message. If they dont call back, I leave. I usually email them the next day and asked what happened? might give them a second chance, but might not, depends.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Canadian Idol Top 22 Posted: 6/28/2007 10:38:02 AM
I have been watching it and was happy with the picks last night. I even placed a few votes here and there .LOL

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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When did asking your bra size become socially acceptable? Posted: 6/27/2007 9:44:06 AM
I get this from quite a few guys that IM me.....a few have asked for full body shots since I dont show my lower half.....I get a lot worse questions then that and usually I just close it down and say thanks but no thanks. I really dont mind the question, if I am having a flirty, playful chat or if it is with someone I have chatted with for a while....although, I will occasionally play along or ask them how many inches they are packing...LOL I wouldnt generalize and say ALL men ask but more often then not they do.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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How much notice before cancelling? Posted: 6/11/2007 9:52:17 AM
it depends, a few hours would be fine with me but not by email. I dont have internet at home and make that pretty clear when I am arranging time to meet. A few hours with a phone call would be fine with me. Life happens....

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Who here has been asked about his/her weight? Posted: 6/11/2007 9:43:52 AM
I get asked this question as well ....I find it pretty offensive and rude. the last guy said "well I cant see your lower half".....LOL. I told him there was nothing wrong with my lower half and provided him my dress size. I also get the bra size....drives me crazy but it seems to be part of the norm around this site. I got a list of sex questions today, pretty offensive, so wont be meeting that fishy for coffee anytime soon.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Having a date meeting you at your house Posted: 6/11/2007 6:45:37 AM
definitely not on the first date. I have had a guy want to me to meet at his place for a first date.....definitely not going down that road. I prefer to meet in public for a first date, somewhere neutral. I hear too many horror stories about meeting at the other's house to make me wary of it for a first date.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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What do women need in order to want to have sex? Posted: 6/8/2007 12:10:39 PM
Chemistry, respecting each other, want to know where the relationship is going ....

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Is oral sex cheating? Posted: 5/28/2007 10:59:50 AM
definitley yes....still considered cheating in my books

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Favorites List????? Posted: 5/23/2007 6:37:54 AM
I find it pretty amusing as well....I think I have talked to 2 men that have me on their lists.....I on the other hand, have talked to the people on my list and usually ask them if I can add them.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Waikiki Posted: 5/16/2007 8:17:00 AM
North shore is awesome, Dole Plantation is a fun trip. Kaneohe Bay was a nice quiet beach. Waikiki was crowded when I went, we looked through the International Market there but did my shopping at the Flea Market at the ProBowl stadium, same stuff, much cheaper prices. Pearl Harbor was a great thing to see as well.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Better than you expected Posted: 5/16/2007 6:07:47 AM
I met a guy from here with no photo, took a chance and he is gorgeous! so sometimes the no photo thing can be a good thing

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

Msg: 71 (view)

to the ladies... what makes a profile really stand out to you? Posted: 5/16/2007 6:02:08 AM
profiles that stand out to me are ones where men have listed interests and about me stuff. I dislike the "prefer not to say" or "ask and I will tell you" lines and tend to avoid those ones.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Home care? - Anyone know anything?? Posted: 5/15/2007 5:24:07 AM
I work in a hospital and we often send patients home at their request. Check with your local CCAC (community care access centre) and they will be able to help you with any questions you have. Going through the hospital social worker is the first step, you can request a family meeting through her. You would meet with the social work, physio, OT, drs , etc and make a plan for discharge. good luck

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

Msg: 55 (view)

singles in the grocery store Posted: 5/14/2007 8:52:23 AM
I usually dont even use a cart, use a basket....shopping for one ......LOL. If I get a cart, I tend to fill it up with stuff that isnt good for me, junk....LOL I usually look for people carrying baskets and figure they are single as well.

marjabu

Joined: 6/8/2006

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Pain in Legs Posted: 5/11/2007 9:24:30 AM
I work in vascular disease and sounds like you could have thrombosis. Get yourself to a proper doctor. A DVT could kill you and goes undiagnosed in women all the time. compression stockings will help with swelling but wont do much for the clot. The aspirin will help, but I would suggest seeing a professional (vascular surgeon). first step would be a Doppler (ultrasound) to rule out that it is a DVT, it could be something else entirely. I am glad I live in Canada where our health care is paid for by the government.

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