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HalifaxCutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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Beware of Russian bride scams Posted: 2/9/2006 2:50:17 AM
STAY TUNED FOR THE NEXT EPISODE OF THIS MEDICAL MELODRAMA BROUGHT TO YOU BY YOUR SPONSOR, CHERRYTREE1 LOVES IT! I have received messages via Yahoo messenger in the past from a guy (who apparently forgets who he is messaging when he changes his ID after the last time he was 'found out')...he wanted me to be his Canadian agent in his quest to get back alot of money he invested with a Ontario contractor for some building project he conducted last year...millions of dollars...he lived in Afghanistan, but because of visa problems, he couldn't come to Canada to get the money...yada yada yada...included the name and number of a non-existant company and wanted me to give him my tracking number and account information for my chequing account so that the money could be transfered to me, blah. He was very insistant, and got flaming mad when I asked him common sense questions, like---are you retarded or something?--- While it's fun to string these bozo's along...it's gonna take more than a Yahoo instant message to get me to part with my chequing information/money/etc...lets just say the strings on that purse are tighter than...well, you get the picture. I love that they get so mad at you when you reveal that you aren't the dummy they think you are...it's almost worth the time wasted to respond to them! Good luck with that, Cherrytree...I'm waiting for the next installment! LMAO

HalifaxCutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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The Dreaded V Day... Posted: 2/8/2006 1:37:46 AM
Hmmm, the dreaded VD: Kids, you too can be rid of the evil VD...penicillin works wonders for this! Bwah! No, seriously...v-day has to be the biggest (yes, even bigger than Christmas) money-grabbing 'holiday' in existance today, and it targets the hugest vunerability we all have: Love. What we wouldn't do for love. Love for sale...and companies know that we would do 'anything' for love...so why not pour it on with the fervor of madmen?!? You have DeBeers Diamonds, the biggest supplier of diamonds in the world spending millions of dollars in advertising, knowing that they will get that back 1000 fold in 1 month's time--kinda worth it to them, eh? And he we are, either expecting or trying to find out how to meet our significant other's expectations of this holiday, fueled on what companies say we should be doing for our loved ones (or perhaps you just don't LOVE them that much)...makes me wonder if the loving gestures by our mates on Valentine's Day aren't any more genuine than the commercial that he or she saw on TV that spurned the gift idea in the first place. I for one hate this 'holiday'...if someone wants to buy me a 10 carat yellow diamond ring set in platinum (note to all the single guys out there who are struggling to purchase that something special for me, btw) why does it have to be bought on Valentine's Day? Crap, give it to me 3 weeks from tomorrow, or next month, or whenever you are feeling that "God, I gotta buy her this, she'll LOVE IT!" Showing affection, warmth, or love should not be expected or demanded on February 14th...it should be shown whenever the mood strikes you and it shouldn't be dictated by the media or companies who have a quota. For all the couples who celebrate this 'holiday'...conformity is a nasty concept...being spontaneous is more appreciated than a forced show of love, IMHO.

HalifaxCutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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Is it normal to feel extreme hate towards your ex? Posted: 1/27/2006 1:34:27 AM
Not sure if you want a woman's point of view here, but...here goes (lol) In my opinion it is very normal to feel hatred towards someone that had so much power over you to hurt you so badly. To open yourself to someone so completely only to have that someone stomp on your soul so hard that you want to kill yourself...yeah, hatred would be a pretty normal feeling. In my experience, I wanted to trot over to my ex's house with a vat of hydrochloric acid and dump it down his &$@#!%@ throat while I stuck bamboo shoots into his eye balls, hoping for a slow, excrutiating death--no shit, I hated him with a very scary passion---the thing I was able to do is restrain myself first (yeah, no good sitting in jail for it...lol) and then I learned to become indifferent to him. That, again in my own experience, was the only way to rid myself of the sheer hate I felt for him (that and a wonderful group of fantasies that had him suffering in OH so many ways...lol) Actually, becoming indifferent to someone who has so badly hurt you is more harmful to the person you hate than any bodily harm could do---showing them that you have moved on and have healed yourself is the best way to get back at anyone. Not an easy thing to do, but...much better than the alternative. Good luck!

HalifaxCutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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Valintine's Day alone... Posted: 1/26/2006 12:32:28 PM
Valentine's Day...yuck. There is nothing worse than a day that FORCES people to step it up a notch and show their affection towards someone else. I mean really, buy me a card because it is Thursday, not because there is a day designated for buying me a card...do it because you want to, not because someone says you have to (and that someone is only after your hard earned cash in the process---they don't love you!) I'll be alone on Valentine's Day---going about my normal routine. A day to eat chocolates? Cripes, that was last Sunday while lounging around my house on my day off from work. See, its just that easy! (lol) Sorry to hear you are having a hard time with the ladies, Le Roi...I wish you all the best.

HalifaxCutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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BBW With Broken Heart! Posted: 1/25/2006 2:05:47 PM
if you are looking for marriage and are not sleeping around until a fling turns into a person you could be with..then start in church or a local soccer team, or maybe at work I can see it now...all the women who feel hard done by will now flock to their local churches and stalk the pee-wee soccer fields looking for those elusive men who aren't looking for a fling or a 'booty call'... Call me cynical, but some of the worst hypocrites in the world are found kneeling on a church pew, IMHO...saintly as they may seem on the outside, they aren't perfect and they certainly aren't set apart from the rest just by virtue of their faith. Case in point--I belong to a Catholic church here in town, and 3 weeks ago there was a very handsome man sitting next to me during mass rubbing his crotch while looking at me in a "come hither" way, mouthing "wanna fuc!". So, in my experience...the church thing or the work thing just don't work. (Funny it was, though...gotta give him kudos for trying...lmao) And I don't believe that my experience was just a one time event, or a fluke or whatever---you find these bozos everywhere. The hard thing is to not act desperate, not get offended when they only ask you for a 'fling', and to be smart enough to know exactly what you are looking for, and what you are willing to settle with. It's like that with everyone..fat, skinny, and everything in between...it's not an isolated case of target groups.

HalifaxCutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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BBW With Broken Heart! Posted: 1/25/2006 1:32:42 PM
Nothin' like that wind in yer hair, eh? lol

HalifaxCutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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BBW With Broken Heart! Posted: 1/25/2006 1:25:45 PM
Fill yer boots, keed...if calling yourself a SBW blows your hair back, then you go girl! Whatever makes it good for you! :)

HalifaxCutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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BBW With Broken Heart! Posted: 1/25/2006 11:21:12 AM
I'm not sure it is as cut and dried as 'hatred against men', that is a sweeping generalization usually reserved for women who actually do hate men (for whatever reasons they may have)...this thread directly deals with those men out there who will message anyone just to get a quick lay (and yes, there are men out there who do that, contrary to popular belief) and some overweight women who take great offense to the fact that they are feeling like a side of beef, rather than a woman worthy of affection and love. Unfortunately, the nice guys get grouped in as well...call it guilt by association or bad luck or premature assumption---whichever the label, the bottom line is that the guys who are only out there looking for a piece of azz generally muck it up for those who are genuinely sweet and nice, who are looking for a nice, honest, loving woman (and trust me when I say that women are no different, this is not gender-specific). Some men ARE animals...and there is no use denying it. Some men ARE the enemy. Some, but not the vast majority...but, it only takes one or two bad apples to ruin the whole entire barrel...sad but historically true.

HalifaxCutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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BBW With Broken Heart! Posted: 1/24/2006 2:07:35 PM
sexkzy: agreed 100%

HalifaxCutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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BBW With Broken Heart! Posted: 1/24/2006 12:35:22 PM
You definately don't strike me as bitter..just smart! Bitter is usually the label bigger folks get when they have a positive or constuctive comment about a thread that relates to themselves when the original poster isn't interested in correcting his or her own situation. Just thought I'd clarify it...lol As far as getting into trouble for telling those 2 to get off their a***s and do something about their situations...let them take offense...it is the biggest truism to be spoken on this thread, meaning, if you don't like it...CHANGE IT. It is that simple. The fact that they laid into you for saying it just leads me to believe that they are just lumps on a log waiting for that one true love to sweep them off their feet so they can live happily ever after. Just a bit of information, Chubby and Just a Girl---It doesn't work that way, even for skinny people, so let me crush that fantasy out of your heads right now. You can be overweight in appearance and still find love...but, if you are fat in your head as well, you'll be lonely for the rest of your life. And if you don't know what I'm talking about, perhaps you should sit back and think about who is to blame for where you are right now.

HalifaxCutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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BBW With Broken Heart! Posted: 1/24/2006 12:22:42 PM
of course, not that I have ANY bad habits...lol :)

HalifaxCutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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BBW With Broken Heart! Posted: 1/24/2006 12:15:28 PM
Bigleafsfan...thanks, sweety, I appreciate that. I get tired of watching bigger women boo-hoo about how they aren't getting dates, post it here, and then get all wonky because someone offered up some advice that they didn't agree with. If bigger folks want to jump on a bandwagon, let it be for something other than what some well meaning stranger said to maybe give them a different direction or a different point of view. It is sickening. Noone here force-fed those 2...if they want to wallow around in the mud that is their own sad existance...its not anyone's fault. If you want some sound advice by people who maybe have gone through the same thing...use it to your advantage. I'm a bigger gal..I love who I am, and it wasn't an easy road...but, there are some bigger people that all they do is complain and whine and cry rivers of tears about how big they are and what they aren't getting because of it. I'm here to tell Chubby and Just A Girl that you can change your 'lot in life'...get off the couch/away from the computer and put this good advice to work for you. I'm not a bitter person...quite the opposite. I've just been around a block or two and take responsiblity for my own self and don't lay it onto other people. If that makes me a biatch or a mean spirited person, well...I guess I'll deal with that in my own way, but I'll never blame anyone else for the way I look or any bad habits I may have that put me where I am. :)

HalifaxCutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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BBW With Broken Heart! Posted: 1/24/2006 12:04:24 PM
I agree with you, Enigma...no matter what you look like, if you have the right 'parts', someone out there is gonna msg you for a quickie, regardless. Luckily, we as people have the right to ignore their "wanna screw" messages OR message them back with a time and place to meet for that screw. It's very easy, the delete/block button is a great thing! Just because someone has a few extra (or in some cases, alot of extra) pounds on them, doesn't mean that they have to fall into the suggestions of a quick lay. It's a personal choice. So it would be my opinion to say that if you aren't into those types of situations, ignore the message and move on! Not everyone LIKES bigger women (or men) and it is a personal choice, and whining about it in a forum (after some nice people offered up some practical advice) isn't going to get them the dream date they are longing for. If anything, it will just turn people off to you.

HalifaxCutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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BBW With Broken Heart! Posted: 1/24/2006 11:38:31 AM
If you don't want to get any feedback (good, bad or indifferent) then I suggest you not post a question to be answered on any forum space. Once you post something, it automatically becomes open for everyone with an opinion to comment on (yeah, funny thing...everyone has an opinion, and is entitled to express it! funny that, eh?) I think that chubby and just-a-girl need to take a deep breath and listen to what others have to say, rather than picking out one word and taking offense to it. It is almost as if you are looking to bash someone, and figured that starting a thread that has always been very divided opinion-wise would be a great way to start a war. Sweettreat, Sexkzy and the others who offered comments were not bashing either of you, or the whole BBW community...get a grip you 2 and either learn how to post on a forum, or channel your hostility to the last box of Dunkin' Donuts you scarfed down before wiping your fingers off to type. It is people like the 2 of you who give bigger men and women a nasty name on these dating sites and in 'real life'. Oh, and btw...BBW here, not desperate, and not blaming my current situation on the comments of other people. Not all bigger folks are whiners and looking to start shiat because of our body size. Learn to own who you are, love yourself, and you'll get alot further in life...trust me.

halifaxcutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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Moose are Loose! Posted: 5/10/2005 8:40:20 PM
Apparently, our Moose friends choked BIG TIME tonight... It was nice while it lasted...maybe next year

halifaxcutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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it's all about the looks Posted: 3/16/2005 6:04:17 AM
Hi... I have to agree with you to a certain point as well...looks seem to be most important here...but, it's not any different than being in a bar or a singles dance, or whatever. A growing majority of people are superficial and base their attractions FIRST on what a person looks like. I'm of 2 minds that way. While I'm not prize myself---and while I don't only message back people who are waiting for their photo layout in GQ...looks DO play a small part in the way I 'see' people. Thankfully, I am aware that I'm not a beauty queen, and I quickly look past someone's appearance (because to do anything else would suggest that I was a hypocrite and very shallow) but...with that said...sometimes, in some instances, you can't look past a person's appearance and judge them JUST on sight. Thats the dilemma alot of people have, I think (and that is only my opinion) and I don't think that it is shallow behaviour...in some cases, I think that it's just societal conditioning that allows us to judge before we get to know someone. I dunno---it's a fine line we all cross (and yes, I believe that we all do it to a certain extent.) Cheers! Lynn

halifaxcutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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~ PLEASE GIVE YOUR OPINION ~ Posted: 3/16/2005 5:22:55 AM
Hi Sweety... You have quite a little pickle here. Don't screw around with this guy's feelings about you...if you are looking at this guy objectively, not judgementally (there is a difference) and find that in your heart of hearts, regardless of how awesome he treats you, you just are too shallow a person to realize that his looks (especially since you are not perfect yourself) are too much of a boundery for you...then don't let it go any further. You'd only be humiliating the man, and making yourself miserable. It would just be you settling for the first person who shows you any kindness and genuine admiration. It would be a shame, though, if you allow your shallowness and your fear of what everyone else is going to think about you and he together (like that really matters anyway) to get in the way of something that could very well be the best thing that you've ever had (or not, but you'd never even know.). Lynn

halifaxcutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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Are you afraid of growing Old alone? Posted: 3/15/2005 5:45:44 AM
Oh, I already know what my kids are gonna do once I am old and decrepit enough to need round the clock care......... Their gonna toss ole Ma into a nursing home (they've already told me this..now, whether they are joking around, or totally serious...that remains to be seen...lol) But...I'm gonna make it hard for them while I'm in the nursing home. I'll be the little old lady dressed in stylish clothing (slit up the back for easy in/out) sitting in front of the nurse's station in my wheelchair...yelling horrible swear words at people as they pass, throwing food and anything (really) that I can get my hands on at people walking by....practicing my 'Houdini" routine and making the staff of the nursing home hunt for me for hours at a stretch.... Oooooooh...that'll pay those ingrate kids back for putting me in a nursing home. My My...I can't wait to grow old... LOL

halifaxcutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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What age bothered you? Posted: 3/15/2005 5:40:18 AM
I am having a meltdown over 40. And I do mean meltdown. I'll be 40 in 7 months---and I am freaking out. I know its only a number, and I know that you're only as old as you feel....but, the number itself is enough to make me freak. I am very youthful looking...I can very easily pass for late 20's early 30's...I haven't one wrinkle on my face (I always joke that I'm gonna stay BBW so that I don't get wrinkles on my face once I loose weight there...ha ha ha) and despite being overweight, I am quite healthy. So, what do I have to worry about, you say? lol...I'll be 40 in 7 months. Never had a problem turning any other age ever.

halifaxcutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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Is it me, or is it the women? Posted: 3/15/2005 5:16:05 AM
I gotta ask ya dude... You say that throughout the entire 2 weeks you dated her, she used you for free parties and free drinks... If she was that intense that could allow her to milk you out of all that cash in just 2 weeks time, didn't you SEE it coming? Didn't you SEE that in her demeanour when you started dating you? Didn't alarm bells start ringing for YOU once you took her out on a date, and she DIDN'T devote all of her attention to you and ONLY you? Darlin..for as much as she is at fault here..you too share the blame in all of this (I know, who wants to hear that the one who was hurt was also responsible for how bad things got) but...for whatever reason you have, you enabled this girl to use you (maybe you didn't want to believe that this person would screw you out of money, she was so nice, she would never do that, etc) Maybe this is just a big lesson learned.

halifaxcutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 3/14/2005 9:14:15 AM
Hi folks... I'm Lynn...39 from Halifax...I've been here for a bit, met some excellent people so far...looking forward to meeting more! Cheers! Lynn

HalifaxCutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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A Few Extra Pounds Posted: 12/7/2004 1:00:33 AM
On the contrary, Mystical...My note was not written in anger, nor was it bashing...as some ppl would have taken that as a compliment (who? I dunno, maybe the same people that would have taken your comment "lost any weight lately" as a compliment, eh?). Apparently you did not...so you see, Mystical...one person's compliment can surely be misconstrued as another person's insult. There is a sure fire way of eliminating the problem before it even begins...keep the sarcastic jokes about one's features and appearance to yourself, and only post what is relevant to prove your point. I agree with alot of what you said about being honest...I am a big girl, and I am (and have) always been honest, and I personally think that you SHOULD be honest, it is only fair to the person who has grown interested in you. However, your additional commentary that stepped over the line (why is it OK for YOU to be lewd, but when someone happens to be offended by it, it automatically becomes an affront towards you personally? what is the difference?) completely erased, for me, all the things that I agreed with you about. I've always said that the only people who are allowed to make fun of fat girls are fat girls...and I say it as a joke alot of the time...but it does ring true when a middle aged man comes up to the plate, stating a very valid case, quickly becomes one who has derogatory things to say about overweight women that are so cliche and gouche that it makes THIS nearing middle aged woman think she is back on the school yard with the mean bullies that hang out at the swingset with cigarettes dangling out of the corner of their mouths, just waiting for the big, dumpy girl to walk by them so they can ask her if she's lost any weight yet. Luckily for me, I used to beat the snot out of those boys...(LOL) so that only happened to me ONE TIME...but it still stings. And while your comments weren't directed at me personally...on a public forum, anyone can respond. And here we are...going around the same mulburry bush. I'm sorry if you were offended...but I was also offended. Lewd is not OK, and expect to get some of it back, if you're going to dish it out. Elle

HalifaxCutie

Joined: 9/15/2004

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A Few Extra Pounds Posted: 11/30/2004 12:24:59 PM
> Obviously, I am coming into this debate waaaaaaaaaay late...but mystical...you are showing your true colours by asking this gal this question. I don't think it is has anything to do with the size of one's body for you...but perhaps maybe you are just another HNG who has nothing better to do than sit at your computer, cruising the dating pages looking for a nice set of knockers to make your 55+ years seem less intrusive to you... Yes, you are going bald. Yes, you are old. Yes, I am fat, and NO, I won't be sending YOU an unsolicited message begging you to change your criteria so that you'd give me a mercy f***...even if I were 'weight and height' proportionate (yes, thats the way you spell it, FYI) I wouldn't even give you a second glance... One has to wonder how much Real life action you're getting in Montreal...the fact that you spend all this time online would suggest to me....probably none. Good luck finding someone who meets your standards...and god help her if she happens to gain a few ounces while she is with you.

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