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Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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what goes wrong? Posted: 10/11/2009 7:58:25 PM
OP, I wish I knew the answer. Sometimes I think Relationships, Marriage, and dating have all gone down hill ever since the invention of the internet. I love computers and technology, but the internet seems to cause more breakups than it ever creates, and I wish I knew why that math wont add up, but thats the way it seems.

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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I'm an Idiot Posted: 10/11/2009 7:49:37 PM
Your story reminds me of some of my own. It is clear that what YOU were seeking and what HE was seeking were not the same thing. If it had not of broken up when it did I deeply suspect it would of ended up in a breakup at some other point in time, and very possibly a more painful breakup if it was to continue a lot longer. Your words might of rushed him to a call of judgment though. If I was in his shoes I might would of responded the same way. BUT, your needs did not seem to match his needs. Maybe he had another gal or maybe he didn't. But the fact that he was content on seeing you so infrequently is not most people's idea of a thriving relationship, even at the very beginning stages, imho. You seem to need more attention, and this guy may of had a lot going for him, but if he can not give you the attention you thrive on, then exactly where do you think it would of ended up at even if you somehow managed to of got over this hurdle? You are a good looking lady, and you seem friendly. I would think you can have a lot of good guys to choose from to date. But, that's just me. Some of us can't even get a date on this site, so in my mind, your doing pretty well!

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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Do you ever just accept giving up? Posted: 10/11/2009 6:39:08 PM
whenwillthiswork26: I will change the age settings. The reason I had them set where they are is in the back of my head I used to like toying with the idea of maybe having children someday. Now, the thought of having my own children is pretty much a sure thing it will never happen. I am sorry if the restriction made you feel old, as that was not my intention when I set it up. Gos I have dated ladies older than myself, I am sorry to seem so shallow. Thanks to the other guy-members that know how I feel. Heck if nothing else maybe the guys can get together on here, or somewhere online, just to chat and maybe learn things from each other. (before anyone even thinks it, no- I am a straight guy- lol) I must admit in recent days I have felt very strong pressures of feeling lonely. On one hand I have accepted it. On the other hand it still hurts. All in all it clearly sucks because I can think of no worse person to date than somebody that thinks there beaten down and just accepts it. I hope one can gain points by "wanting to change".

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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Do you ever just accept giving up? Posted: 10/5/2009 10:14:11 PM
Well, it's been over 24 hours since I replied here, I believe that means I can have two replies in a row right??, If I'm wrong about that I am sure the mods will do their part to let me know. I just wanted to say to guyd42: Were the same age and feel the same exact way. Another thing I noticed is that your not the first guy to say he gave up after signing up on this site. I wonder what it is about this site that makes us feel as if this is rock bottom in the world of dating? When I think about it I found more gals to date in chat rooms on other sites. I would find a site with people from my area and just start talking, and listening to the voice chatting as well. One has to put up with Auto-Bots which are often programs that allow mostly young women to lure men to give them their CC# for them to tease a guy on the web cam- I have a strong dislike for gals that do this, but I realize everyone needs to make a living and this is the worse economy by far for me in my life. So given the fact that I have about a 0% ratio of replies compared to the emails I send here, and from what so many other guys say, I just don't think this is a good place to meet ladies. Over the years I made some friends on the phone that are on here, but I could not take a girl out that lived 2,000 miles away from me! Also I can not recall a woman ever sending me an email here..... I have to wonder what the heck are we doing on this site? There has to be a better place to at least meet ladies that talk. In the meanwhile I will remind myself of the bad ides of dating so I do not end up feeling sorry for myself. God knows I have more pressing issues than worrying about women at my age. So I don't know how much longer I will be visiting this site. I never really gain anything by being on here. Chat rooms are not fun places to be, but I sure had better luck meeting real live women there. Over here I just don't know why it seems like a desert.

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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Do you ever just accept giving up? Posted: 10/2/2009 11:15:31 PM
Wow, just maybe a lonely hearts club might be a good idea for us, thanks to CassaGo mentioning it. Of course we would have to agree to meet somewhere near a hotel and all of live so far apart, and a depression piratically on.... I do not know if we could get enough together, but if we got a group of men and women that all share this same feeing, we should have a bond together, it really makes sense. The hard part would be working out all of the details for a meet and the need to raise a litle cash make reservations, then later find that 1/2 changed their minds and never came thus knocking us out of a discount rate etc... I know I started a Kentucky and nearby group get together once, and we got to the point to where we wanted to collect $$ from people for the purpose of getting a lobby and a certain amount of hotels reserved for one night. At first it sounded fairly easy, but everything went up in smoke and thus that get-together in my home state of Kentucky never got past the money stage, otherwise it was not too had to find a date and give people enough time to earn days to take off for personal days etc. How many here might be interested in a Lonely hearts club meeting in the future? And, if so how much would you expect to pay for a single or double (depends on reserves) bed motel room? Computer web cams of high quality can now be bought for as little as $15 and less. If most of our users were on cable or DSL we could use a messenger service like Yahoo and one of us could create a free room, invite everyone that knows the password in, and maybe we would enjoy a inexpensive safe non intrusive CYB-ER-MEETING of The Lonely Hearts here....?? After all if we are all in the same state of mind, would it not be interesting to be able to hear and see each other on Yahoo Messenger? It would be a voice and text chat room along with cams for any 2 people that agree to hook up together and they talk in a private room while the rest stay in the main room. I know Yahoo the best so that's why I suggested yahoo, but many other messengers should work too. Just speculating...

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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Contemplating lifetime estrangement from parents? advice Posted: 10/2/2009 4:55:11 PM
WOW! You have a tough case but parts of your story reminds me of what happen to me when I first moved out. I am now 44 and still am thankful to God that my parents are able to help me too because this rescission is the worse I have ever seen in my life. I swear if a person would of told me that it was possible for a person to be serious about getting a job, yet be unable to find one after a full year, I WOULD of called the person too lazy to work. BUT, now I know better because it's happen to me. At my age I had to work odd jobs, doing yard work, whatever I could get. And I have the ability to troubleshoot and repair Windows based pcs, but despite my background with computers and electronics most of those jobs are now in China which leaves about 1000 guys like me to compete with the occasional single opening in a service job repairing electronics. Never in my life have I seen so many grown adults that needed at least a little help from somebody to get by. When I moved out at the age of 20, I had almost a hate ward to my mother, and I was not crazy about my father who used to use a belt on me, but for many that's not considered abuse. My issue was how he did it- once I was 17 years old sleeping and he awoke me by whipping me with his belt over an issue that I had NO IDEA what I did to piss him off! I still do not recall. My mother really drove me cray as she was an expert at mind games. I felt many broken promises with her. BUT...... After years of barely speaking ever, I finally realized that people die. None of us live forever and I did not wish to lose my parents while I was full of hate and not speaking to them. Over the years I managed to forgive and lose the hate. We started talking. I managed to quit many bad habits I had picked up in the "party generation". The next thing I knew we were adults that got along better than ever. And Thank God for them because they have saved my ass as an adult. They came through and helped me with more money matters than I can count, as they see me trying to find a job, but it is REALLY that bad where I am. And I just do not know where I can go to work. I once ran my own small business troubleshooting computers, and I made out ok with it. Then the economy turned upside down and I had no customers. My point is this: Do not take your parents for granted, sometimes time will heal old wounds. People often can and do change for the better over a course of many years. They are the only parents you will ever have, and if they are like most parents they wont stand by and leave you to walk the streets alone at night. If you can get past the forgiving stage and become as close as you always should of been you may be surprised to see the ways either parent may be able to help you out with all sorts of problems. I am thankful I got a chance to get to know my parents in the way it should of been when I was growing up. But life was too tense as I grew up and I grew up confused and turned to drinking and smoking weed- A LOT. It's been many years, but I am now as clean as ever and I do not really have any urges for the old bad habits. All of this stuff was connected to the HATE I had inside for certain things my parents did to me- they meant well, but I was an emotional child, a musician type, and I could not see they were trying to help me. I got defensive and the walls to communication went up. Nowadays I am so happy to still have them in my life at their ages. And they really do try their best when I have nowhere else to turn. If I had never forgiven them I may never of known what true love from parents feels like. All I can say is try your best to make the most out of your relationship with your parents. If it's just impossible you will at least have the comfort of knowing you tried your best to get it right. If things go well for you they may offer to help you with many problems. Life is not fair, and the older we get the more unfair it seems. That is why I am more thankful than ever for what few family members I have left, I have no wife nor kids. At least now if I lose my parents before it's my time I will have some peace in my heart that despite a most terrible childhood / being a teen growing up, all was made up in my adults years and I will NEVER EVER be able to repay all of the jams they have helped me get out of. And it's all because of love parents and their children (or their child). I wish you all the best, and God Bless you and your loved ones. (Sorry for preaching, I mean only good things for you) Peace, Terry

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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Do you ever just accept giving up? Posted: 10/2/2009 3:31:30 PM
LeftofNormal: I think your the first person here That I have disagreed with in almost 100% of your advise, but I would like to thank you for being so nice and taking your time to help me. The thing is, I do not agree I need counseling at all. In fact it was my fiancee that was seeing 2 "mental related doctors" and at least one or two counselors. It became obvious to me that the reason she sited for seeing these people almost daily was NOT what she "feed me" - (that she was still having problems dealing with her divorce of which she left her husband after he got very ill with a terminal disease!!)- It just took us time to get to know each other before we realized we would not be happy together. She suddenly changed personalities on me at least 3 times, and each time she escalated by treating me worse each time. It became clear to me then why she did not stay married and why she needed to see so many mental help professionals. I did make the mistake of giving her the benefit of any doubt at first, I normally trust a person until they give me a reason not too. I could go on and on, but please do not give me this line that I choose her thus I deserved her turning into the anti-Christ on me at random every 3 weeks! Again, thanks for your help, but no thanks to your advise. I would like to thank the bulk of the rest of you. Most of you seem to understand what I am saying. Like, sure it would be great if I could meet that single special woman that I feel that God made just for me- yeah that would be great. But it does not make me a "negative" person to realize the odds of me meeting such a gal now that I am 44 years old and having employment problems. People tell me I am almost too positive sometimes. Sometimes people call things negative when it's simply reality. Is it negative to say we ALL WILL DIE? Of course we all die, and we never know when. But it is NOT negative to state a simple fact of life that is the truth. (for example) I truly hope that if I ever do date again that it could be the results of a couple of my few true friends that I know in person, not just online. Already my friends think they may have a date for me, but it's one of those deals where I do not want to move too fast because she is still married, yet separated and trying to get the $$ for divorce. I rather wait until she is divorced, but OTH they say good merchandise does not stay on the racks very long, but she is dating already, maybe I should ask her out with help of my friends. She is good looking and was always a good stay at home mom....From what I am told she does not mind that I am having job problems as she appears to be seeking a friend to talk too. That's basically the kind of gal I want. But it's true that in my past I have chosen very very bad girls to date, and even marry. But at my age I'm not seeking therapy, I am learning to stay happy living alone but at the same time I am doing my best to hook up a date with a lady that does not ask me where I work as soon as she meets me (lol). My point is, I am BRACED. I am Happy. But I know I would be even happier if I could meet the right lady to share my life with. So until I do meet this lady, I am making the best of every day of my life. With every day that passes I find it's easier to live alone. So I am holding out forever if I must. No more settling for the first woman that looks at me in a Walmart. lol (just made that one up- sorry!! I thought it was funny) Thanks to all of you for taking your time to read my story, and double thanks to all of you that replied with your thoughts and advice. I may not agree with one or two of you, I do find some truth in others that can relate here. Others can feel free to reply here, I will be back to read more. And thanks to all that can truly relate to my situation. Maybe some of us could start a Lonely Hearts Club Band and then really be HAPPY as ever, eh? Peace, Terry:

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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Kentucky Dating Posted: 9/29/2009 7:03:45 PM
I am sort of a transplant here in north/east Kentucky near the big mountains at the foothills. I was born in far eastern Kentucky, yet my parents raised my in mid-Michigan. I moved back down here in 1998 due to the booming economy we had here THEN. So, I find I am kind of like a city guy that LOVES Kentucky and especially the mountains and -parks of Kentucky. I love some things of city life, and I personally talk more mid-western / northern than most locals here do. But I have Kentucky in my blood and this is the state I hope to stay in for the rest of my life. I love this state and it's people (however I do not agree with the politics and many strange laws of this state- it takes getting used too). So, Kentucky ladies, this guy is looking (I'm as single as they get), and it sure would be nice to meet a nice lady that does not live in a far away country 5,000 miles away like sometimes happens on the internet. It would be so much better if we could meet people closer to where we live at. Any ladies live near Morehead Kentucky? That's the closest city to me. I reside in the foothills where we even have bald headed eagles breeding! It's breathtaking here! Terry

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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Beatles Re-Mastered Posted: 9/29/2009 6:42:12 PM
Oh yeah, it's all about making $$ at the same time the $250 VIDEO GAME of The Beatles comes out. Good ole marketing. But I can honestly tell you that I have compared the waves of their music directly on my screen using the programs Gold Wave and Sound Forge and often one can "litterially" SEE the difference in the old vers 2009 versions as well as hear them in headphones. Many songs, for example, have John's vocals mixed in the left speaker, while in the 2009 versions they have him panned a little more to the right. There are sites that show the old and new waveforms along with MP3 samples to compare directly. On many songs one car hear an improvement, especially on their earlier albums. However on a select few on their songs all I can detect is a change in volume, sometimes they seemed to only of turned down some songs. All in all the 2009 Box Set in Stereo or Mono are nice collector items for their fans. But the high retail price and production limits have resulted in many people scalping new box sets for as high as $400- over double the retail cost in most cases. The last I noticed Amazon.com was sold out of the stereo box set, and they did not even have a page listed for the sold out mono set. I have their entire old collection on CDs and I have their new Box Set. I must say I enjoy playing the new remastered set in my car much more than the older one, mainly because many songs sound cleaner. The song Kansas City on Beatles For Sale is a great song to compare the old and new mix together- the new mix sounds way better because it has much less noise in it, but it seems each song was mixed differently depending on the needs that the original mixed posed. It's also a lot of fun comparing their old vrs new songs with musical editing programs such as GoldWave and SoundForge- One can see the music displayed this way.

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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When you shouldn't dig for the truth. Posted: 9/29/2009 3:43:24 PM
I once had a mutual friend of my ex wife and me TELL me to get a keystroke program to see what my wife was up too. He would not tell me why. Well, you better be prepared for some heavy stuff if you ever spy on your mate in such a way. I had trusted her until this guy clued me in. I'm good with computers so I had her password in no time. In her trash bin I found the smoking gun. She was talking dirty, trading XXX pictures with a man out of state as she painted me out to be a monster. We had only been married about 10 months and already she was doing me this way. It only got worse after that, and the marriage lasted 3 years which is longer than it should of had- but I'm the type that tries to make a relationship last no matter what, but it only prolonged the agony. I had another girlfriend give me her password and often tell me she had nothing to hide. I never doubted her. So one day I was off work and she was gone I noticed evidence of a zombie-computer virus. I had to check out emails to see if the computer was sending out email without our knowledge. I never meant to pry, and she had often gave me her password and I never looked but that one time. Before I knew it I was reading about some guy she had sex with in a hotel and she was going off on him because she found out he was married....... Well chalk up #2 times I peeked into my gal's email and found strong evidence of lies and misconception in a most unfaithful way. Two different women, one was my wife one was a live in girlfriend. Both times I found emails that all but ended each relationship- even though I tried to make each relationship last as long as possible, but there was no way it was meant to last. So anytime we spy via computer on our mates/friends we should only do so if we strongly feel we have been done wrong and need the answer, or otherwise have good evidence that were being cheating on etc... AND always be prepared to read stuff about yourself from your loved one that you never ever thought you would learn. It can be a most shocking experience. I generally do not wish to spy on anyone. It has to be an accident, or I have to have very good reason to do so. The pain of reading such emails can really stab you in the heart.

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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Do you ever just accept giving up? Posted: 9/29/2009 2:48:52 PM
Just to be clear, the first thing I thought in the past was it had to be me, I had to be doing something wrong. And when I was about 20 years old I can see where I was not as good of a boyfriend as I should of been. However the past few relationships have done nothing but reinforce this notion that I keep picking women that are not very compatible with me. I looked inside myself for years to improve myself, and I finally got to a point in which I honestly feel I have done all I can do. I base this not only on my own views, but also on what mutual friends had to say about such relationships. It seems like every time I would introduce a new girlfriend to friends and/or family that I normally would get funny looks and later I would sometimes be asked what I seen in the girl etc... So I reached a point in which I gave all I had to give, and still it would be rare for things to last more than 3 years. So I finally figured I am seeking women that I really have little or nothing in common with me. I have no understanding as to why I have been this way my entire life. So after trying over and over so many times, it's not that I fear a relationship nor that I feel by swearing off that will mean I will find somebody. I know better than to believe that age old argument that "when you give up you will find the right person"- HAHA, yeah right. There is little logic there, but I suppose it happens to some people. Like I said before, I do get lonely, and in the back of my head I like to believe it's possible to find the right woman to spend the rest of my life with. I am so sick of first-dates and relationships that start of with sparks, but end up in pain and bitterness. But my logical side of my mind has accepted the idea I will most likely be single for the rest of my life. The key is not to get depressed over it, to accept it and to be thankful for what one has. All I need do is think about how bad my past relationships ended up, no matter how well they may of started, and I feel peace not being involved any more. A few years ago I would of never thought it would of been possible for me to feel this way, but it sure beats feeling sorry for yourself! haha.. So I am thankful for the family and true friends that I do have, and I will remain thankful for what I have in life and no longer feel bad for being by myself. I know in my mind that I have tried my hardest. I have no idea why some of my past relationships turned out the way they did. All I know is I have got to the point I feel it's no longer worth the worry and work of living a life in which one feels they have to be with another in order to be happy. Finally I am happy being alone and I am thankful I am no longer with any of the ex-gals of my past because I know the pain was too much. Life is good now. It's true I would not be on this site if I was not hoping to meet a cool lady here. But I really do not expect that to ever happen. It's sort of like trying to pass a test and being braced and expecting a poor grade while hoping for an A. I do not feel any pity, and one reason why is that I am truly thankful I got away from the past few long term relationships because they turned into something so painful and hateful. One last thing: In my original post I mentioned a hate-mail (email) letter I got from a woman I was going to marry. We had a date set and she had a ring from me, it was all to happen. But she had some mental issues and was seeing at least 2 or 3 doctors and/or counselors. She led me to believe she needed this help because she had a very hard time getting over her long term marriage of 20 years that ended up in divorce. However, a few weeks before the wedding she had already sent me a couple of totally UNPROVOKED emails that were pretty mean. But the last straw was her third hate-email she sent me that told me off every which way one can imagine, and she suddenly advised me she was against almost everything she knew very well that I cherished and was important in my life. It was as if she was doing everything she could to hurt me, and I did not say or do anything to her (I thought it over many times) to provoke such a letter, I was in shock. At that time I seen the pattern of her extreme mood swings, and this was by far the most mean letter that she had ever sent me that I swear was totally unprovoked- I may never understand what triggered her to turn on me.... It was almost like a person that was Bi Polar times a million! I was very relieved that we never married because it would of been bad. - Thus a major reason I'm happy being single again.

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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Do you ever just accept giving up? Posted: 9/29/2009 1:37:51 AM
Once I was married and it was pure hell for 3 long years. Thank God we never had children together. Otherwise I have dated and have had a my share of girlfriends in my past. It seemed like each time I thought it was the right lady, and I often would think about getting married. I have been engaged more than once and after awhile it seemed I would always see a very bad side of my mate (sooner or latter) and the wedding plans would be called off along with the relationship. I'm truly at the point I have so often heard others speak of. That is to say, I think I am finally accepting the idea I may never find the right lady. I am 44, no kids of my own, having some employment problems, so things have gone better in the past for me. I am not mad or bitter about it, however I do get lonely sometimes. I miss having that special person in my life, but I have spent my life picking the wrong gal. I normally try to make a relationship last, but very often there comes a point in which I see a very bad side of a girlfriend and I discover I can not stay with her, or maybe she feels that way about me. I honestly do not feel I am that picky. Sometimes I feel maybe I should of been too picky all of these years. But at this time I'm at peace being single. I even came close to getting married this year, but in the end the woman sent me one single hate-letter (email) saying some of the most hateful things I have ever been told. I could not believe what she said, I could not even finish reading the letter it hurt me so bad. I was in shock and I quickly realized that we could not marry. I always have been one to try to improve and be the best guy I can be, but it seems most of my relationships have resulted in me getting hurt in the end. So I finally figure it's just easier to accept being single and go on with life. I know myself, and I don't think I am a guy that is hard to get along with or anything. But for whatever reason after all of these years I have never been able to find the right lady, so I have learned to accept life as being single. Sure in the back of my head I still hold out hope, but from a logical side I simply do not expect it to ever happen again. It's weird, I have heard so many others talk about getting to this stage, but only now do I actually feel the same way. I am not sadden, nor bitter. It's almost like a sense of peace just by knowing one does not have all of the tension and problems of trying to keep a relationship together. I know I tried my best each time, but it just was not meant to happen. I stay positive and happy and live each day to it's fullest. I figure this is the way I should of been living many years ago. So many years I wasted on ladies I thought I would one day marry. Now I feel I have all the time in the world to do everything else. It's really a peaceful feeling. I am happy for all of the couples that seem perfect for each other. But I no longer feel each of us have to devote such a large chunk of our lives trying to keep a relationship together. I feel almost as if I had a burden lifted off my shoulders. It's really not so bad. Does anyone else relate to this feeling? I have heard others describe it to me before. Surely there are others here that understand what I am saying. My best.

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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Do you play any unusual musical instruments? Posted: 9/29/2009 1:01:10 AM
5-string banjo in a slow alternative self-taught style. I never was a big fan of Bluegrass but loved the tone of a banjo since a kid. However I try to play my banjo more like a guitar, and it's a fact that I actually invented "heavy metal banjo" back in the 90s. I installed humbucker pickups and used guitar electronics such as tube amps, wah pedal etc... Also I had to invent a special mute to make it possible to over-drive the distortion. I still have a few mp3s of the tone, which were converted from tapes made on a cassette deck in the 90's. There were a few more tricks involved, and it took me about 5 years to perfect the hard rock guitar distortion I was seeking out of my Gibson RB250 banjo. But I finally proved my point, that a banjo can indeed be modified to sound very much like a heavy metal guitar. Used to one could google "heavy metal banjo" and find my full story, but I'm not sure it still gets hits or not. Now I play a slower acoustic style on banjo that is my own sound. It's an old hobby of mine and when I was younger I truly thought I would make it big with my banjo. As far as I got was some air play for my solo instrumentals on an internet radio station and plenty of mp3s for download.

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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Beatles Re-Mastered Posted: 9/29/2009 12:47:20 AM
I got the Stereo Box set and have been playing The Beatles in my car for weeks now. I went to The Recording Workshop in Ohio and know a little bit about mixing music. I compared some of their 80's CD songs to the 2009 remastered ones and learned some things with headphones on. On some songs there is much less noise. Sometimes reverb can be heard, and even over-all song "room reverb" on a track or two. The volume level was sometimes mixed higher than the original 80's CD while other times the volume was mixed lower. In some songs it looked and sounded as if the only changes they made to a mix was to either increase or reduce the volume levels, with maybe a little reverb added. I feel that some mixes of the late 60's were pretty darn good to start with so they felt they had to change something, so they made maybe just a slight volume adjustment, so that way they can still re-sale the song as being "remastered". I liked comparing the song Kansas City, as it looked and sounded much better in the 2009 mix. It is the one song I believe people should compare from old mix to the new mix. I read about the MONO set and how they contain some musical changes not heard in the stereo mixes often. However I was stunned at how fast the MONO box set sold out, I really never expected to see that happen. Over all, I feel the 2009 mix was an improvement, but for the most perfect collections I would combine some of the older mixes with the newer mixes because I honestly thought a few songs had the most perfect mix to start with, while the early albums shown the biggest improvement to me. -Just one guy's opinion.

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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At what age do you Just Give Up? Posted: 9/29/2009 12:33:54 AM
For me I never really picked a magic date and said it's too late. For me is was more of a slower realization. At first I did not want kids and I got into a practice of doing my best to not have any children. However like many of us there were times for me that I could of got a lady pregnant. But those times were the exceptions. I have been a foster/step dad a few times and enjoy it. However I am now 44 years old and still do not have a stable enough life that I feel it would be a good idea to bring a child into this world. So, I now just pretty much accept the fact it was never supposed to happen for me, as far as having kids of my own. But I now take it one step further, and this is still on topic in my mind: I have got to a point in which I have accepted the fact that I will likely never re-marry, nor maybe never really date again. It's not that I am bitter or anything, but I think about the one marriage I had for 3 years that was pure hell, we fought everyday. Then I think about the girlfriends I had, and I now see that I don't have a lady in my life. So not only have I accepted the idea I will never have my own children, but I also have given up on even finding a girlfriend. At 44 years of age I figure something is wrong, either with me, or in my expectations of others. So, I never really give up on meeting another lady, but I fully do not expect too find the right lady, nor have any children of my own.

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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disclosing cronic illness on profile Posted: 9/29/2009 12:04:02 AM
That's a good question. In my personal case I suffer from Chronic Pain from a botched surgery that I can not prove in court, So I am in mega pain 24/7 yet I am not on disability, I have to take my share of meds to be able to function however. So I rather fear that if I put this on my profile it makes me look like a complainer, after all we all suffer from pain. So I prefer to wait until I get to know a person before I tell them about my chronic problem. After all chronic illness is not contagious, but it is part of my daily life and it impacts my ability to find full time employment because where I live many employers look down at employees that are prescribed pain meds for chronic pain. There is a lot of misinformation about how such meds help people in chronic pain and are NOT abused. So sometimes when I explain my situation another person sometimes gets the idea I am a drug abuser and nothing could be further from the truth. In fact I am drug tested by my doctor as part of the treatment and I don't even drink except maybe on News Year. haha I think the jury should remain open as to if a person should put their medical problems on their profile. After all, we are here to meet people and by talking about all of our medical issues we sure could scare others away in a hurry. It could easily be misinterpreted.

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My Fairy Tale Girlfriend's Been Killed In a Car Accident Posted: 1/12/2009 8:42:13 PM
Your story is one of the saddest ones I have ever read. It makes my problems pale in comparison. Some people believe that things happen for a reason, but I must admit that's a lot to believe with what happened to you. The only good I can see that came out of it is the lesson it teaches ALL of us how precious such moments really are, you know, those times your with a person that you REALLY have chemistry with and your proud to be seen with them in public and do everything together etc... You are very lucky to of been able to live that life while you did because many of us look back at our previous relationships and find that we have NEVER had such a true romance! You are very lucky in that respect. But, my heart goes go out to you nevertheless. Terry

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Morehead Kentucky? Posted: 12/21/2008 7:13:33 PM
I'm back. ' still living in Morehead, working in the big city of Lexington. I haven't really been trying to pick up a gal, but tonight I thought I would surf over here to see if anybody is alive in this area on this site. Needless to say, I'm looking now. I guess it has something to do with starting a new job in this bad economy.... I feel a little more secure now. It would be a good time for dating, but I don't really expect to find the right lady on this site. I'm old enough to know the odds of that are pretty slim. But, for what it's worth, I'm out here. I think my profile is up to date, but you know how that goes. things change everyday, and there may be something on profile that's not the same. I better check. Love to meet a lady near this area. I'm not a pervert, I'm honestly seeking friends, or a friend to chat/talk too. I wrote off some of my so called friends of my past because of the way I was treated. Thus, I'm seeking TRUE friends, and I know that takes time. I harbor no grudges or hate, no axe to grind. I'm just a single.. well, divorced guy with no kids that would like to find the right gal. I think I have only had one date in the past 5 months. Thats what happens when a guy doesn't play the game right. I guess I should send out sex PMs first, and latter on seek out a friend. haha.. (just kidding). If my new job works out, then I will be in a better position to move on. So, if any ladies in this area is reading this please pm/email me from this site. Thanks.

Jammer40351

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High Price of Fuel Impacting Your Dating Life? Posted: 5/13/2008 12:46:16 PM
Oh, I agree. But what I can't understand is the lack of members that admit it's a factor in their dating! If the average Joe makes $10.00 or more likely LESS, then how on earth can guys afford to drive 50, 100 or more miles just to meet somebody. Gas just hit $3.95 in my home town today, despite the fact I keep saying it will go down at any time- haha I'm almost to the point of giving up. All the good ladies are on the other side of this state, and almost off the women are taking on this side of the state. I don't have the funds to spend hundreds of $$ just to meet a stranger, or go to a get-together etc... Now if I could get people to come to the lake/camping area right near me, then I would be one happy guy. But everybody wants to hold meetings close to where they live and that just adds to the dating gridlock we currently have. I just wish more people would admit the obvious. I don't care how much money a person makes, $4.00 a gallon is a chunk of change to spend on any trip.

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CAMPING MAY16-17 LIVE MUSIC Posted: 5/13/2008 12:37:59 PM
I wish you the best of luck. I explained my reasons why I can't go in your other thread. I swear, if gasoline was as cheap as it was in the 90's I would likely go. I really do wish I could swing it, heck I'm even a musician that might could entertain a tiny bit. It really sounds fun! But I live right beside a large lake on the eastern side of the state in which camping and music is a very common thing in the summer. It would seem strange to drive so far when we have such things almost in my front yard every summer. My best to you and the party. Terry

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Kentucky Dating Posted: 4/26/2008 3:13:48 PM
Good points made on many sides of this issue. I think that men and women have more in common than we have different. Fact is, I feel most of us want somebody at least "more perfect" (for lack of other terms) than our last mate/partner etc. But that doesn't mean were all looking for models and movie stars either. I think many are trying to find the right person to date in a hurry though. And many are simply trying to avoid getting into anything painful too. My last breakup felt like it tore my guts out, so I'm really getting picky as to who I send an IM/Email too on this site. Even so, I rarely get a response back, and I have gotten to where I just expect that here. I think one problem with dating in eastern Ky is that the ladies here often settle down when their very very young, often under 18 years of age. So it's true that some people are married and try to pretend otherwise, I have seen this happen a few times. One has to ask a million questions before ya can figure out if the person is actually married and pretending not to be. Then we have the problems with both sexes looking for a partner with a lot of $$. I think we have a little too much emphasis on making money and not enough on romance and true chemistry. Its truly sad. But I'm not giving up, and I'm keeping my head up. I know somewhere is the right gal for me. Terry

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Is Van Halen truly over and done with? Posted: 4/26/2008 2:22:24 PM
I didn't realize that Valerie Bertinelli and Eddie had broken up until just a little while back. At least they are both going on with their careers, thats something I was starting to think would never happen to Eddie again. I just read where Valerie was quoted that her and Eddie both cheated.... So sad, I always thought they were a cute couple.

Jammer40351

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More Like a Depression Here! Posted: 4/26/2008 12:00:41 PM
I think much of what we have is determined by our location. I know people, and have some family, up in Michigan. Michigan currently rakes #51 by some studies for having the highest unemployment rate. The auto industry got hit hard. In that state I have a first cozen that has a four year degree and is a good guy. Him and his gal BOTH have 4 year degrees, and neither one can find a job that pays much over $7.50 an hour- which is around that state's mim. wage. Here in east/northern Kentucky it seems more like a major depression has suddenly hit here, in 2008! Sure we have the hospital and education jobs here, but even those jobs are mainly in the largest cities in this state. The mid size and smaller cities seem to be in a hiring freeze right now, it's really hard on some. There are sometimes job fairs here that crack me up because they are made up by temp employers, radio stations looking for free help, and a few companies that are located about 100 miles away that have lost some of their work force due to the high cost of fuel (So, instead of raising their paying wages, they travel further out to find people willing to drive a long distance, but nevertheless the cost of fuel can eat up the paycheck). Thousands in Kentucky have been used to driving as far away as 100 miles to work so they can live in the country or the hills. Now people are forced to move or hopefully find a closer job. I'm very serious when I say this is the worst I have ever seen the local economy here. I used to make good money just repairing computers on the side here, now that business is bust and there are very few electronic tech jobs in this state that are open or pay more than $8.00/per hour. Oh, with the handle Lot Lizard, I am reminded that they are always hiring for truck drivers, even here. The owner/operators that were already under contracts got pinched hard with the high fuel prices, but the other trucking jobs still pay good. The only issue I have with truck driving is that under Federal law they are extra strict about any medication a driver may be prescribed. So anybody prescribed certain meds are forbidden from driving a big rig, but they are still allowed to drive a car- go figure? ' sure do hope and pray things turn around here, and soon! Terry

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High Price of Fuel Impacting Your Dating Life? Posted: 4/25/2008 10:42:15 PM
As gasoline prices for 87 octane are nearing $4.00 in Kentucky it got me to wondering. Since I have lived in Kentucky I have came to learn the life of thousands of people that work in the bigger cities and drive far to the beautiful country to live. For many years it's been a way of daily living for many fine people that I have meet in this state. Now it seems our economy has seen better days, and I'm hearing about people quiting their jobs because they can no longer afford to make the 100+ mile drives to the country and back to work in the cities. So people are talking about moving closer to their jobs, or the lucky ones are taking on lower paying jobs that are much closer to their homes. Honestly the mid-size town I live near has almost 0 job openings, even the unwanted jobs are taking because of the amount of people that do not wish to move from this beautiful area. So, I was thinking it would be nice to read some honest feedback on this subject. If your a single person in Kentucky that comes to POF for help in your dating life, have you had to make changes to how far you drive on dates? I think it has mad me less likely to travel over a predetermined amount of miles, for even a first date. Terry

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Ladies without Pictures Posted: 4/25/2008 7:24:25 PM
NotWithThis: Not all men are that shallow! Just because a guy wants to see a picture first does not make him out to be like the guy you described to us. I know I DO look at the pictures of ladies, but I first look at where they live and I read their profile at least twice before I choose to pm/email any lady here. Honestly, I think the first thing I look for here is how far away does a single lady live. $4.00 gallon gas and climbing, it has to be a major impact on many of us here. So I first see where women live at, then I glance at their photo. Then I normally go ahead and read their profile. One thing here that I have noticed is that on average the ladies with ANY sorta picture posted will get many more responses than a guy with a picture posted here.... Well, I'm sure the model looking guys get their share of mail. But check out how many ims the average guy member here sends out and then see how many respond back. I think my ratio may be something like 10 IMs I might send out (ahem, I have not sent out THAT many in a very long time, I'm rather picky), and I'm lucky if I get a single reply. I'm actually great full to just be able to read my send folder and find that a gal has read my letter/IM without deleting it. So, it's not exactly fun and games being a man on here that is already cautious of turn-downs and getting hurt. It's not too much to expect a guy to want to see a picture. I think it's even better when a lady posts her good and her BAD photos- it gives guys a really good insight to her personality when the ladies do this. Terry

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Yahoo Messenger Posted: 4/25/2008 7:12:47 PM
I have read a profile here that claims the POF messenger never worked on her computer. I have yet to try the POF version myself. I hope I'm not missing anything. (be my luck- lol) Terry

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Substance free ladies out there? Posted: 4/24/2008 5:51:50 PM
There is a computer monitoring system in Kentucky being used to snag pill mills and pill heads. People doctor shopping, or any doctor over-prescribing pain killers now show up like a red flag on their radar screens. Now all anyone can blame is the use of the internet to break these laws in Ky. The same can not be said for most other states. Also, a big thanks to the NEWS MEDIA for always showing eastern Kentucky as big a bunch of poppers. Funny how the tv news stations in Lexington can not see their own street drug problems in their own back yards. They have far more drugs in Lexington, yet they always hunger for those hillbilly drug stories to make up their "Big Story". Shesh... (Sorry, had to vent again) Peace

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KENTUCKY! Posted: 4/24/2008 5:29:39 PM
I think Cave Run Lake near Morehead at the foothills would make a great meeting place, or at least a good place to take a date.

Jammer40351

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Good Places to eat, and good places to take a date Posted: 4/24/2008 3:30:34 PM
In eastern Ky I would say AppleBees, or most any of the leading steak houses can be real nice places for a first date. If trying to save money, some of the Pizza Huts are some laid back places that still leave enough $$ for a nice drive.

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where are all the OLDER MEN..?? Posted: 4/24/2008 2:26:00 PM
Interesting thread, I have so many opinions that I don't know where to start. For starters, I'm currently 43 years old, and most friends tell me I look and act much younger. Also, I too am and older man that has NO children, and some of us like to be with a lady thats young enough to still want to have children. But, then there is that chemistry thing too. I'm simply not attracted to women my age or older than me. I have tried, and dated a few ladies my own age and the chemistry was never there. I have discovered that some ladies in their early 30s seem a much better match for me. I know there are some young women that truly prefer older guys. But I'm always on guard for the women that seek an older guy in hopes he has a high paying career. Sure, I don't blame anybody for wanting to date somebody with lots of cash, but so far I have yet to get rich, so that leaves me out of that game. Also, I must agree with all the fellows that mentioned the pain of getting hurt. Man, my last relationship breakup felt like it ripped my guts out! I'm sure in no hurry to repeat that mistake again. So many of us are very cautious at this stage of our life. One last thing: Where I live at it is extremely common to see much older guys with younger ladies. I have seen my share of couples in which the guy was over 20 years older than the woman! It's really common around here. Nevertheless the older singles are out here. Were just a little more cautious about starting communications with women that may lead us down another path of hurt. Having said all of that........ Cheers Everyone! Terry

Jammer40351

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Hello Posted: 4/24/2008 1:52:31 PM
My name is Terry. I first became a member here a few years back, but I stopped posting for a few years while I was involved in a long term relationship. Well, after about three years it is safe to say it didn't work out. So, I hope it's ok for me to re-introduce myself. Generally, I live in the north/eastern area of Kentucky. I figured with the current high gasoline costs it helps to tell people what side of the state one might reside at. I have a fairly long profile, and I think it covers about everything. My hobby is rather obvious based on my pictures, but when it comes to work I have really had my share of jobs. Anyway, I just wanted to say Hi to the locals here. I'm interested in meeting new friends that don't live too far away. I have no children of my own, but I like playing step-dad to the kiddies that otherwise don't have a full time father figure. (I hope that came out right) lol Feel free to email me here. I don't bite, and I try and check my inbox over here fairly often. Terry

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Bit Torrent - How Big a Threat Is It For Hollywood ? Posted: 11/26/2007 11:30:15 AM
Its true that the average mp3 is not as good of quality as an original commercial CD. However if you encode at 320kbps you will be hard press to tell any difference, and save file space... If 320 is still not good enough, then try some of the lossless formats, the most popular being FLAC. FLac has been PROVEN not to jeopardize ANY loss of quality, both heard an unheard. However FLAC does NOT save one as much file space as an mp3- FLAC songs are often about 1/3 the size of the commercial Wave file from the CD. But, nevertheless FLAC DOES save one 2/3 of file space when compared to the 16bit ripped wave from from the CD, AND it's been proven to show NO degrading of audio quality- It's the same as CD. Hmm... I seem to of derailed my own thread here. We need to get back on the Post subject about Bit Torrent and Hollywood.

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Yahoo Messenger Posted: 11/24/2007 5:22:46 PM
Yea I got an old version from OldVersion.com. But recently I tried Yahoo's latest messenger and it seems the bugs are gone- it's working fine except for the chat room bots and the ability of hackers to boot ya out of a room! Is there any FREE programs to keep people from booting you out of a chat room? Y!Tunnel is one, but is no longer Free, and I don't wish to pay for it. One user told me to get YahElite- So I went to their forums and finally found the otherwise download at another site. I dont understand whats up with using YahElite because for me it's far more complex, and not user friendly at all- the opposite of it's selling point. So far everyone I asked about using a messenger has had a Yahoo Id. Weird, I have yet to meet anybody that only used MSN or another type- not yet anyway. Me

Jammer40351

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iTunes-What Am I Missing Here? Posted: 11/23/2007 12:38:14 PM
I HATE IPODS!! As a matter of fact, last year on another site me and some other banjo players got into a big debate about Ipod vrs CD-Rom with MP3 format. I say I MUCH rather burn MP3 CD-Roms and play them back on my cd-rom mp3 player in my truck. The others were trying hard to convince me that Ipods were the rage. It got to the point that a total STRANGER to me SENT ME HIS 20 GIG IPOD FOR FREE!! He was sooo sure that I would change my mind after having an Ipod that he gave me his old one for a X-mas gift!! Well, after owning this Ipod, I am now more certain than ever that I'm sticking to MP3 CD-Roms to store the vast collection of music I have. As a matter of fact, I have DVD-Data Discs full of mp3s! Does anyone realize how many mp3s one can stick on a blank 4.7 Gig DVD disc in data format?? It's like a weeks worth of music! No sir, Im a muscian that even HATES Ipods! The video Ipods are cool, but not the regular music only Ipods. They are a waste when compared to a inexpensive MP3 CD Rom player. There is no comparison. Me

Jammer40351

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Yahoo Messenger Posted: 11/22/2007 5:06:44 PM
guy_in_toronto_28: Are you aware of all the "Bots" used in chats these days? I'm no fan of chat rooms either, I much rather call on a phone or use email. The big problem with yahoo chat is the huge amounts of porn-Bots. These are programs that are fairly inteligent. They say things to get you suckered into a private chat then they try to lure you to a pay website, or worse yet, they try to lure you to install some VIRUS type software. From what you describe, thats what it sounds like you have came across with. Once I found out how to tell the bots from real Females I found chatting to be a lot more easy on my nerves! Im a musician and Im using my mixer and microphone to hook up for a sound chat. The cam will have to come latter. But Im eager to try your all's universal messenger's to see how far they have came along. Thanks for the advise, and please keep it coming. Me.

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Yahoo Messenger Posted: 11/22/2007 4:17:28 PM
Is that one of those messengers that is supposed to work with all the other ones? So far I have had bad luck with the universal ones, but I have not tried the one you listed. I'll have to check it out. Thanks

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Yahoo Messenger Posted: 11/22/2007 1:26:38 PM
Just some questions about this popular messenger: #1: How common is it to use Yahoo Messenger here to chat with members of the opposite sex for the first time chats? It's the only messenger I have used in about ten years. I have never liked AOL or MSN. #2: Has anyone else had the problem of being given a Yahoo ID to use and never have the other party approve it for use? - This has happen to me a couple times already. I have been gave a yahoo ID, and I add it to my friend's list, and after a couple weeks they never get online an approve the ID. Is this a new method of being stood up? - Just curious #3: I seem to find myself hating the newest versions of yahoo messenger. So I go to an Old Wares (legal) site to find versions of yahoo messenger that are over a year old. Has anybody else had issues with the newest yahoo messenger being way too intrusive (too much spying) and hogging up too much system resources (RAM Memory)? I have more questions, but it's Thanksgiving and time to eat!! Yum Yum!! Me.

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Bit Torrent - How Big a Threat Is It For Hollywood ? Posted: 11/22/2007 1:02:16 PM
Thats a good point about the Writer's Strike. I understand that the one thing there fighting for is roylities from internet downloads. Now, I'm a bit puzzled over this. Because as it is currently there are not a lot of high quality downloading of brand new movies that are legal....are there? So either the writers are pissed about the ileagle downloads if dvd rips and the like, or maybe they are looking down the road into a future in which many more people will download movies and tv shows (or stream them) via legal payment system. It don't seem to me that the TV and Movie companies seem to care/worry too much about the downloading of their material online. The RIAA sure showed us a much bigger fight than HollyWood is currently doing. Maybe Hollywood is afraid they might draw too much attention to the practice in fears it might result in increased piracy. (just speculating) - I think in the early days of Napster that the RIAA had the same reasoning... they simply wanted to shut their eyes in hopes the practice would go away. But suing their own customers was simply bad business and the wrong approach (imho). Yes action is/was needed, but it should be carefully weighed with public and media reception/reaction. Bad P.R. is Bad P.R. and it's a lot easier to avoid it than it is to fix it. So, Bit Torrent may be playing a major role in the writer's strike. Can anybody advised if Bit Torrent has came up in the negotiations of the Writer's Strike? If I was a TV Show writer I think I would be VERY worried over Bit Torrent. Many people think nothing of downloading TV shows like House MD, but will never download block buster movies- all due to the fear of getting popped. I know a bunch of folks with these views- they seem to think TV shows are FREE, although the commercials have been removed before placed on the p2p networks normally. Thus the major companies HAVE to be losing money on these things like Box Sets of entire series of TV Shows for download on Bit Torrent without even a single commercial in them. Me.

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Bit Torrent - How Big a Threat Is It For HollyWood? Posted: 11/19/2007 10:55:49 AM
I refuse to pay rental prices for anything I download; it's compressed and the end quality is shit compared to the DVD; that's why I refuse to by MP3's, I know better. I can buy a real CD for twice the price, rip at the quality I want with the format I want and get far more in the bargain in that regard. And anyone of that mindset (which I'd bet is most tech-savvy people) are going to see it the same way. It would seem many agree with you, but if a MP3 is produced the correct way it really should not sound any worse than the 16bit waves on a normal CD. See, I offer mp3s for sale, as do some of my inde artist friends. -One guy has over 20,000 downloads and only admits to selling TWO mp3s! Myself have had almost 6000 FREE downloads, and I have only sold a handful of mp3s so far. But I dont feel the lack of mp3 purchases is due to the lack of quality.... When I make an mp3 of my own music (solo stuff) it's often the result of a direct transfer from a 64bit wave to 192kbps, 320kbps or high end variable bit rate mp3s. Using headphones my friends and I can not detect any difference in the mp3s encoded at 192kbps or above. Personally I know a few people, including myself, that indeed, CAN hear the difference in a 128kbps encoded mp3- so I say NO 128kbps MP3s for me, there OUT! Also the high end VBR (variable bit rate) mp3s sound as good as a 256kbps (imho) and use less file space on average. Other wise if we really seek perfect CD quality music, then I always go to FLAC which is about 1/3 the file size of the 16 bit ripped wave file from a commercial CD. The thing about the Ripped DVDs though is how high the quality has gotten recently! There are some Xvid-DivX DVD rips of movies that look almost exactly the same as the original DVD did (imho). Thats why I wonder if Hollywood is gonna get bit hard by bit torrent. As of now there not too worried, but these dvd rips are getting better in quality everyday. For example: I have a friend that bought the entire series of the orginal Star Trek. He decided to rip his own DVDs and see what he could do. It took him like a year to do, but in the end he had every single Star Trek episode ripped in Xvid-Divx format.. I think two shows filt on a single CD rom, and about 12 episodes fit on a DVD-Data disc. When I seen the quality of the copies he had made it was breath taken. I could barely tell any difference in quality at all. So he managed to take over 50 dvds and put them all on 8 DVDs in Xvid DivX format... but it took him a loooong time to do. (This is legal to back up one's own DVDs, right?) So, my worry would be the quality of the new dvd rips being so good that they take a big bite out of Hollywood. But the prices of movies and box set tv shows seemed to have came way DOWN in price. I actually seen some box sets of old westerns at Walmart for $5.00 last Christmas!! So, I suppose Hollywood is fighting back by lowering their DVD prices a lot. (mostly their older stuff) Peace.

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Sound problem: advice needed Posted: 11/19/2007 10:31:23 AM
Yea, although I don't use one, I have to admit that a GOOD surge protector with a battery back up (UPS) is they way to go. They have gotten pretty cheap in price recently too. I seen a few for less than $50.00 recently, but there made in China and we all know were taking a chance in quality on that (at least thats what I believe). A UPS is far better than those simple and cheap power strips with a breaker on them- this is a mistake many customer make. The regular power strips can not handle a surge any better than a computer, and sometimes the circuit breaker it's self will get fused together during a high enough surge (thunderstorms often cause this). About a power lag- We were taught in an electricity class that a power lag is normally proceeded by a short power surge as soon as the electricity kicks back on. Either way if one sees their lights going on/off getting dim/bright etc then it's best to power down the computer and unplug the electricity wire and modem (if used). If the computer is locked up try using task manager by hitting Control/Alt/Delete at the same time, then choose task manager/Shut Down... if no luck on this just turn the computer off and unplug it. When turned back on one may need to click Start/Run and type "chkdsk" to be sure any bad sectors on the hard drive are repaired by Windows. Often Windows will automatically run Chkdsk, but if you don't see it upon bootup (before the desktop is loaded), then run it upon every cold shut down. (power button used to turn off=BAD) haha Cheers.

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Morehead Kentucky? Posted: 11/18/2007 2:38:56 PM
Hi folks. I searched first and found no other thread about Morehead (please don't laugh). So, I guess I'm the first one to start a Morehead Ky thread. If there are any singles in or near this area PLEASE post in this thread, even if it's years after it's started. It seems this Kentucky area of the forums is very slow moving, so I expect it will take some time for things to get kicked off. I currently live just south of Morehead very close to The Daniel Boone National Forest and Cave Run Lake. This area is one of the most beautiful places I have ever lived at, and I never wish to move far from here. However it's tough to find any singles here in the foot hills of the large mountains. I do not like going online to seek a date, but I hate bars and have very few options left to me. So, please post here if your a local to the area. It would be great to get a pool of friends on here from the same general area. Cheers.

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About the ads that covers profile pics Posted: 11/18/2007 1:57:17 PM
Yo Da Man Ticketoride! Thanks!

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How Many Seek Love Over Sex? Posted: 11/18/2007 1:52:01 PM
Jammer Develop a questionaire and present to any gal that you may be interested in. See if they pass the test or not... other than that...heck if I know.. Yea, I guess what I'm asking can sound like a pretty silly question. But I'm willing to bet that other singles are sometimes asking themselves the same question. And, I'm sure some relationships have been ruffled up because of just such differences on bedroom stuff. I guess people have to resort to their gut feelings on such a subject before the relationship develops too far. I speculate that it might all boil down to body chemistry. I can't see a woman filling out a form on a first date about this stuff. lmao -Perhaps the body chemistry of a first date is enough to let on to such private matters. Who knows? Peace.

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Men and Women and Anticipating Needs Posted: 11/18/2007 1:39:51 PM
Men are incapable of thinking well, or acting properly, in any and all circumstances, because as has been pointed out repeatedly, we think with our penis and we are clumsy with emotions and not too bright otherwise. If you look at random any 100 things men and women do, women will do them better, if men even do them at all, probably not, the *stards. Women are romantic, men are not, women are loving, men just want sex, women tend to their partners, men are selfish and stupid in relationships, women communicate, men grunt and scratch (Ahem) I had to post for the record that THIS man is NOT like the description above. Sure, some men are, but not this one. LMAO!!!* You may now continue with the thread.

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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About the ads that covers profile pics Posted: 11/18/2007 1:35:26 PM
Just a quick question- I realize that advertising is needed for any site to make money. So I normally never have a problem with advertising at all. And I hate to rock the boat, but.... ... I noticed that when I'm reading a profile that sometimes when I hover my mouse pointer over a thumb nail pic that the resulting larger picture that gets displayed gets covered up by a larger advertisement. I can still make out part of the picture, but a good proportion of it gets covered up by the ad. Ok, I'm not complaining, honestly. All I want to know is there a place to click (other than on the ad) to get the advertisement to remove itself from covering the picture? Or is the only way is to click on the photo and get it displayed in the large default picture area? (maybe I answered my own question there, I'm not sure) Sorry for asking a silly question, I guess it's a slow day for me. Thanks.

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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Men and Women and Anticipating Needs Posted: 11/18/2007 1:23:09 PM
This post reminds me a little bit of my thread about love vrs sex needs.... But your post is much broader. It's often puzzled me to discover so many gals that expect a man to call after a date, or a guy to call them after a first long phone conversation or chat etc... I used to ask myself why a gal didn't call me back- haha and I would finally call and the first thing I would hear was "Why didn't you call me back before now??". So, from my experience, the ladies in my neck of the woods fully expect a guy to call after the first date if he has any interest- the women almost never calls the man in such a situation. I can remember my ex wife had some old fashion views of what a husband and wife should do for each other. She always wanted me to open the car door, or any door really, for her and had some views that a husband had to back his wife no matter what. I'm the type where if I disagree with my wife (past tense) I see no need to defend her. And I can understand that holding a door open for your partner (man for a woman) might be a nice thing to do, but I feel it's an old fashion practice that should not be expected every time of a man. If I'm in a good mood I'm more than happy to hold a door open for my date, or even for a stranger for that matter. But it should not be EXPECTED of a man on a first date. (just for example) Peace.

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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Have you ever clicked on a profile, only to find.... Posted: 11/18/2007 1:04:13 PM
Oh yes. I told my ex about this site when we broke up, so I should of realized she would be on here. I haven't seen her on the forums though, she is more of a chatter, not a forum poster. What gets me is when I click on the link within our profiles to see who has last viewed our profiles and I find my ex-gal staring right at me in a pic. But we don't hate each other, we sometimes cross paths and keep things friendly. If we were on worse terms I feel it would really suck bad to keep finding our Ex pop up upon a search for a single in our areas. Is there not a way of blocking out a single user so they don't show up on a search (sorry, I only scanned this thread, perhaps this has already be answered). Cheers.

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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How Many Seek Love Over Sex? Posted: 11/18/2007 12:53:16 PM
I had a conversation with a guy on POF about this recently - sex isn't as good with someone with whom you have no connection i.e. feelings for, or care for. But that being said, in a relationship you have to match each others appetites or in my experience it doesn't work long term. If you are talking months you can somewhat get around it, but years, no way. What comes first is the connection in my book. What comes later is acting on feelings. I agree with that. I can remember my first so called "love"- it wasn't love really at all, it was "lust". And, for me lust with a person one has no chemistry with is terrible... it makes me feel very low and dirty feeling. But sometimes people can make their partner wait a very very long time before considering sex. I mean, I can understand and respect Christians and Church people that wish to save things for marriage- thats cool and understandable to me. I consider myself a Christian, however I admit to being a sinner and not exactly living by the Book currently (please, lets not debate religion here!) ..... But otherwise, I just can't understand why some partners string the other one on for months sometimes before making love- This actually happen to me once with a gal (I think it went about 6 months after we had our first date, and she kept telling me it was best to get to know each other first, I thought I was gonna blow up! ). Then after it happen she still would put me off for many months at a time.... I knew she had a bad marriage to an ex-husband that she claimed rapped her in the bedroom. I often told myself that her ex-husband was the reason she almost seemed scared of sex, and she was in her late 30s when I meet her..... So, in some cases, perhaps sexual abuse can explain some woman's lack of interest in sex.... but it likely will not explain the few men out here that put sex on the back burner while dating. I feel like a normal healthy man, but when I talk to other men my age they almost always seem to have a stronger interest in sex than me... Shucks I have seen guys older than me almost drive off the road trying to get a good look at a young woman's ass as she walked beside the road. haha Anyway, I do agree with those that seek love and love-making. But the issue is how do we find a partner with the same sexual appetite as our self's? Peace.

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

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Bit Torrent - How Big a Threat Is It For HollyWood? Posted: 11/18/2007 11:00:03 AM
What I'd like to see is an HD compatible box that connects to a server, so I can download and watch a movie at my leisure. Pay for what you would normally pay for renting a movie, watch what I want, when I want. Not anything associated with the cable or sattelite providers, because they just charge WAY too much for that. I love your idea but it reminds me too much of the current Pay Per View channels we have. As long as the same group of people control the movie rights, I can not see a legal option that would be very much cheaper than standard pay per view. With this current writer's strike being mostly about royalties on internet downloads for the writers, the price might actually be higher than current pay per view (in the future). Although, I agree that it would certainly be a cool way to go.... say 50 cents a movie or something REAL dirt cheap. If they would allow prices that low they might be able to take a big chunk out of Bit Torrent because middle income customers could afford it (after they pay $3.10 for per gallon of 87 octane GASOLINE).

Jammer40351

Joined: 9/16/2004

Msg: 11 (view)

Bit Torrent - How Big a Threat Is It For HollyWood? Posted: 11/17/2007 7:39:01 PM
There should have been criminal charges laid against the CEO of SONY BMG and anyone else that worked for them that was involved in the creation and authorization[corrected for spelling] of their rootkits - and that's on top of the civil charges. Not to mention that the internet itself is grey area; if they can sue us for "piracy", we should be able to sue them for spying on us, plain and simple. I have to agree with you there. Actually I'm rather surprised Sony got away with as much as they did with their root kit stuff! As much as it pissed off Windows users, one might of expected a lot of action on a legal level. I also LOVE the idea of us being able to SUE them for spying!! hahaa. Why not? Most countries have some sorta privacy laws on hte books... ' seems to me that spyware is spyware, even if they keep trying to change it;s name to "adware". lol I'll never call it ad ware because it almost always does more than just slap one AD on top of another. It's just buried deeper in the bundle somewhere. And while on the subject, Im, very surprise to see that GATOR is still alive as a business! I thought surely they would get the legal shaft. One has to wonder what side of the law our politicians are on. Take America's Spam laws. I have a yahoo addy that averages 400 plus spam emails a day. Yes I realize how things got that bad, and I continue to use that address as my "spam box" and keep my primary address secret from most any company or person that is not a close friend of mine. I have my Yahoo account set up so everything goes into my inbox. Everyday I quickly scan all of the SENDER names and usally next check "check all" and next click "SPAM" and wala my inbox is empty for less than 60 seconds before another piece of junk mail arrives! Yahoo is supposed to take the information people like me lablel as SPAM so they direct it to other member's SPAM box. I like to do my part to keep spam in it's place. I go over every piece of email, and I try my best to never label anything SPAM unless it truly is. Anyway, back to the topic on hand. IS Bit Torrent going to become a bigger threat against Hollywood??

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