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northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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Happiness is... (finally complete) Posted: 2/7/2007 12:00:07 AM
my appologies as the former was incomplete.... m. Happiness is... ...the ability to believe in oneself... ...the freedom to release your own shackles... ...the curiosity to explore an uncharted life... ...the motivation to shout carpe diem from the highest mountain... ...the choice to breathe life into your own soul... ...when life transcends your expectations... ...when the tiniest spark becomes a raging bonfire... ...Shambala.......

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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soulmates not destine to live together..... Posted: 2/5/2007 3:26:27 AM
Thaleana, Having experienced such a relationship once prior myself - I can definately relate (one with few disagreements I might add). We even gave the relationship a second chance (two more years, to little avail).... My personal feeling here is that all souls resonate at a certain frequency... ...soulmates are those so closely atuned to each other that they resonate as one... What can I suggest here... ...Karma Happens... ...all I know; is Karma happens for a reason.... (which may not always make itself apparent to us at the time) All you can do is pick up the pieces and carry on with your life... ...perhaps, if karma and good fortune shine down upon you once again... ...you'll be lucky enough to find that one very special soulmate... ...who will continue to resonate and fill your life with happiness.... Best of luck and keep your chin up....

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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Happiness is... Posted: 2/5/2007 1:06:33 AM
Happiness is... ...the ability to believe in oneself... ...the freedom to release your own shackles... ...the curiosity to explore an uncharted life... ...the motivation to shout carpe diem from the highest mountain... ...the choice to breathe life into your own soul... ...when life transcends your expectations....

NorthShoreGuy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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The Space Thing Posted: 12/28/2006 2:05:53 AM
An old saying goes like this, "Distance makes the heart grow fond." In other words, distance [or "space" if your prefer] can strengthen a relationship... ...up to a point.... At some point [which will vary from couple to couple] - there can also be too much "space". Understand also that people do change over time: the "space" you both may find acceptable now - may not be a little further down the road; as your relationship intensifies and deepens. Best of luck

NorthShoreGuy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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The ex wife and the new girlfriend. Posted: 12/28/2006 1:48:56 AM
Of course eventually when I travelled to see my girls, the new gf would (hopefully) come with. Having your new partner join you for these sleepovers would definately help put things a little more at ease for her. There are two things that need to happen before that though: 1. Your ex [and her new partner] need to be comfortable with this arrangement; and 2. Your little girls need to be comfortable with this too [and that can sometime take awhile]. Also, having your new partner talk with your ex can significantly help matters along... ...but then you may need to consider your own comfort factor here.... As others have suggested, I would be up front with your new g/f about these sleepovers - immediately... ...any delay will surely be seen as "something to hide". Prospective partners need to accept that your responsibilities as a parent don't cease with the beginning of your new relationship together. Your kids are part of the package; and your new partner either accepts that or not. And speaking from personal experience, a new partner's ability to accept your role and responsabilities doesn't necessarily happen overnight either - so get moving... ...and best of luck.

NorthShoreGuy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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Finding Mr. Right?!?!?!?!? Posted: 12/25/2006 3:59:34 AM
How do you know if you have found Mr. Right? How do you know if it is just Mr. Right Now? Hmmmm... ...Mr. Right or Mr. Perfect...??? It's been my experience that far too many are seeking Mr. [or Ms.] Perfect. Unfortunately, those poor souls can be their own worst enemy... ...as some great disappointment(s) surely await them.... A good friend once suggested this relevant advice: Should you find someone who fulfills 70% of the qualities you seek - be happy... ...if you're still seeking someone who can fulfill 100% - buy a mirror. I leave off with this quote from Rainer Maria Rilke: Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other.

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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What are some unique approaches to romance? Posted: 10/28/2006 6:44:08 AM
Spoil your partner. Go over the top! Here are some of the "wacky romantic notions" I've previously pulled off: FLOWERS Puchasing the largest bouquet of flowers I could afford at the time, it was delivered right in the middle of a girlfriend's university lecture. [Every other woman in her class turned green, went home and promptly killed their significant other.] MORE FLOWERS (AKA "THE WAR OF THE ROSES") I had a dozen long-stemmed red roses delivered to my ex's workplace after our third date. [With the same result as above. What is it with you women and flowers anyways?] She complained that they should've been yellow roses [red roses are apparently the domain of lovers]. So the next day I commisioned an oil painting of - you guessed it - a dozen yellow roses. A few weeks later, our maitre'd delivered her "pre-ordered dessert" right on queue. The following weekend, she woke up to another dozen red roses... ...delivered bedside... ...with breakfast. PUBLIC DISPLAYS OF AFFECTION ARE TOLLERATED A number of years ago, the civic building across from an ex's place was under renovation, with scaffolding surrounding the building; which also happens to be the perfect location for hanging 6 metre long banners.... My ex was able to read the banner the following morning [on our second anniversary], as she opened her window blinds. The city and construction crew left the banner hanging there for the next three weeks. BEWARE THE EVIL CLOWNS Shocking an ex girlfriend with reservations to the hottest restaurant in town, all very bow tie and fillet mignon - she was even more shocked (along with the rest of the restaurant) - when a clown came strolling up to our table, handed her a dozen hellium ballons and started reading aloud a poetic treatise about love that I penned for her just the day before. The entire place, including the kitchen staff, gave her a standing ovation. In short, I guess what I'm trying to say is... ...BE CREATIVE... ...BE OUTRAGIOUS... ...BE DIFFERENT....

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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1+1=1 Posted: 7/29/2006 11:24:10 PM
Me thinks we all need to be supportive and encouraging of other's happiness... ...after all, who are we to stand in the way of another's happiness? As for blaming Canada... ...go ahead, pile it on - we have broad shoulders. Best of luck to all of you in your search for happiness... ...and I honestly mean that....

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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Are people going mad these days? Posted: 7/29/2006 10:14:37 PM
Beam me up Scotty....

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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trust vs. privacy when is the line crossed ? Posted: 7/29/2006 10:07:26 PM
No, her behavior wasn't acceptable - but then, neither was yours.... I wouldn't necessarily agree that your ex had something to hide - as people often can't see their dual standards (e.g. it's ok for her to look, but not for you to look) until they have been pointed out. Growing up, my mother taught me: a man never goes through a woman purse - and vice-versa - a woman never goes through a man's wallet. It comes down to trust (an essential component of any relationship)... ...if it doesn't exist; neither will your 'relationship' for much longer.... I had an identical experience with an ex [who's previous b/f ran off with another woman], but handled it somewhat differently.... Honestly, the easiest way to address these fears was head-on.... I provided my ex with the passwords and let her search to her heart's content [having absolutely nothing to hide]... ...and attempted to find out what was triggering her fears by talking about them [usually triggered by familiar behaviors (e.g. something I said or did that reminded her of her ex), situations (circumstances similar to those with her ex), places (the place where her ex told her about his affair), etc.]... ...after about a year, my ex finally settled down with the understanding that I wasn't her ex b/f and wasn't about to run off with another woman. It simply took time and understanding.... Cheers and good luck with your fishing

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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Happy? Posted: 7/29/2006 9:38:47 PM
I'm happy with what I've got (myself, being single)... ...that said, I'd probably be much happier yet with someone to share life with.... Good luck with your fishing.

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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IMPORTANT --> Spyware - Popups, Homepage Changing Posted: 7/22/2006 3:09:33 PM
Having worked within the IT industry for about the last 25 years, I'm intimately familiar with viruii, trojans, spyware and the like (collectively: malware).... One of the most innovative products I've seen in the last little while is McAfee's Anti-Spyware Product. Unlike most anti-spyware products, McAfee's Anti-Spyware doesn't just sweep your system periodically... ...it actively monitors all running processes - and using heuristic algorithms, it actively tracks, contains and eliminates any activity that even resembles 'spyware'. In that it doesn't solely rely on signatures or fingerprints of 'known' spyware methods (like the other products), it helps protect you even against 0-day (brand new) threats. I believe McAfee is offering a 30 eval of the product on their website... ...and no, I don't work for or sell McAfee products.... Good Luck

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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internet dates from Hell Posted: 7/20/2006 8:07:07 PM
Might I suggest you direct that person's name to the webmaster... ...and hopefullly prevent other women from suffering a similar fate....

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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shed some light on my problem... Posted: 7/20/2006 7:22:40 PM
OP, While you're still young and have much to learn in life... ...I won't presume to tell you older people have all the answers - experience taught me that some "older people" oft repeat the same mistakes in life... ...over and over.... What I can suggest is that needs, wants, values, character, personality and psyche change and evolve with age and wisdom... ...so why shouldn't their relationships evolve? I submit if you were to ask any couple involved in a commited relationship for the last 10, 20, or 30 years, you'll find all of them telling you pretty much the same thing... ...the person they married is far different than the person they're with today. That's not a judgement thing - it simply means each of those people have evolved with age and wisdom. It means some things that may have been important to them in their 20's may not be as important today. The true question is whether that couple can weather the changes together... ...some values, such as commitment, understanding and compassion certainly help. In your particular case, with this being an "almost 8 months" relationship... ...I submit for your consideration, if your partner is sometimes thinking about other women - things are not looking very promising. While I'm not suggesting that he's about to cheat on you (and neither should you assume such) - both of you need to sit down and have a good heart to heart. This is not necessarily about you... ...or anything that you did wrong... ...or that he doesn't find you interesting or pretty enough. You need to understand - this might be completely within him... ...maybe he's having difficulty with the concept of taking your relationship to the next level (commitment). Talk to him... ...communication is your greatest ally here. ...my two (and a half) cents worth.... I wish the both of you the best of luck.

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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Do you think that showing your forum posts enhance or knock your relationship chances Posted: 7/20/2006 6:55:48 PM
I believe reading other's posts provide better insight into their personality... ...their character makeup... ...their values... ...and, potentially, incompatibilities as well. That said, I've also been around the internet/email long enough (18 years) to know that people's "online" personality can sometimes differs significantly from their "in person" personality. People do relate differently when they can see the other person's facial expressions - rather than an emotionless computer screen... ...just a thought.

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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is getting cheated on 6 times by the same man and still caring about him ridiculous? Posted: 7/15/2006 4:33:49 PM
I would dump the guy as a first order of business. Second, talk to your friends - find out who the best family law firm in town is. Third, talk to your doctor - anyone prepared to keep bringing back the same guy who's been fooling around on them (six times now) needs to talk to someone about self-esteem issues. Just a thought....

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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Is It Posible ??? Posted: 7/3/2006 12:24:43 PM
Possible: yes - with the right person. Speaking from personal experience, it's not like falling in love all over again... ...it's more like a resumption of love where the two of you left off... ...including any outstanding differences... ...if commitment issues remain - chances are good the relationship will falter again... ...both of you need to set realistic expectations up front... ...be prepared to bring in a relationship consellor (if necessary)... ...and set a time frame on how long you're both prepared to work on the issues. Can people learn and change from their mistakes: yes - but not overnight. Understand that walking back into a relationship after two years... ...allows you to see the other person with a new set of eyes... ...having had space to more fully appreciate their better qualities. Also understand that everyone's values and needs gradually change in life... ...with age and experience, each appreciates different qualities in a partner... ...that's why it's oft said that people 'grow' in love - it's a learning process... ...it's also why people are often 'growing apart' in relationships. It's not until we've lost those who we've taken for granted... ...that we can more fully appreciate their finer qualities... ...sometimes - with luck and hard work - you can reignite that spark... ...it also helps if you aren't trying to light soggy paper.... Good luck

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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What kind of cologne do women like? Posted: 6/28/2006 5:34:33 PM
I usually wear Armani (citrus scent) or Gucci (spicey scent)... ...and I'm oft complemented on them.

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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6 year old jealous that I am no longer single- advice? Posted: 6/28/2006 5:14:10 AM
Children, like adults, are slow [and/or adverse] to change.... Sorry, I don't mean to sound clinical here, but... ...change needs to be gradual... ...change needs to be researched... ...change needs to be bought into by everyone involved... ...and change needs to be communicated.... It doesn't matter if it's a billion dollar company... ...or the family unit... ...the above guidelines still apply.... Any new partner in your life should be introduced gradually... ...dropping a bombshell on your child isn't going to help anyone.... There are a multitude of books devoted to the family dynamics subject... ...the public librarian is a good first stop in this process... ...the better you arm yourself with knowledge [and options]... ...the smoother the transition will be.... Where your intent is to change the family dynamics... ...your child[ren] and your new partner need to understand... ...and buy into what your "common vision" for a family will be.... Children need to understand the new "family member" isn't replacing dad [or mom]... ...they're "augmenting" [adding to] the family.... Optimally, your child should have already "bought into" the changes... ...and be looking forward to them.... If your child is still angry... ...then communicaiton is in order.... If your child believes they're slowly losing you over to your new partner... ...help them understand that your new partner means lots of good changes too... ...they'll have one more person to snuggle up with and give them even more love.... Also help your child to understand things from their own perspective... ...ask them if they would be happy if one of their playmates was missing from their life... ...would they be happy without their friend coming over to play...??? Well the same is true with you - you too are entitled to have friends in your life... [...albeit, the games played are a little different... wink] Hope this helps....

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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Bertuzzi traded! Posted: 6/28/2006 2:40:29 AM
Born and raised here in Vancouver (one of the 3%)... ...and have never been a Canucks fan.... BTW, you heard they're changing the Franchais name right? ...to the Vancouver Tampons... ...they only have one string... ...and they're only good for one period.

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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What's your poison.. Posted: 6/23/2006 2:58:04 AM
A Wyndham Shiraz or Rupert & Rothschild Chardonnay with dinner... ...I typically unwind with a Vodka Crantini, shaken and dry, after a long week... ...occassionally, I'll kick back with a fine Islay (e.g. Bowmore)... ...and if beer is in order, my preference is usually Okanagan Springs 1516.

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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Dodgeball in Vancouver Posted: 6/23/2006 2:19:48 AM
A group of us from work played in a benefit tournament for breast cancer research a few weeks back... ...and we had a blast! You can find more information about the Vancouver Dodgeball League here: http://www.vdldodgeball.ca/

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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Stupidest question Posted: 6/22/2006 10:00:09 PM
>What is the stupidest question you have ever gotten from someone who has replied to your ad? <-- ...the question that never gets asked....

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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New Technology Posted: 6/22/2006 9:22:41 PM
"TXT SEX" (North America) and "SMS SEX" (Europe) are the commonly accepted terms.

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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Things you may not have known about me..... Posted: 6/16/2006 5:09:03 AM
A) 4 jobs I have had in my life (seriously, I've done all of these): 1. Bartending at a ski resort... ...before I was even old enough to drink legally 2. Appeared in numberous TV series / movies (stunts and SSE), including The X-Files 3. Worked in a underground nuclear bunker (could tell you more, but then I'd have to kill you) 4. Suspended underneath a helicopter, flying just above treetops and buildings B) 4 movies I would watch over and over: 1. The Great Race 2. To Sir with Love 3. Apocalypse Now 4. Finding Forrester C) 4 Places I have lived: 1. Camp Ziouani, United Nations' Area of Seperation, Golan Heights (Israeli-occupied Syria) 2. Lincoln, Nebraska (Go Cornhuskers!) 3. Alert, NWT (450 nautical miles from the geographic North Pole) 4. The best city in the world (Vancouver's has been repeatedly ranked #1 for years) D) 4 TV Shows I love to watch: 1. The National (CBC evening news) 2. This Old House 3. 24 (the series) 4. Just for Laughs (comedic pranks) E) 4 places I have been on vacation: 1. London (England) 2. Sydney (Australia) 3. Larnaca (Cyprus) 4. Nandi (Fiji) F) 4 Websites I visit daily or often: 1. www.cbc.ca 2. www.groklaw.com 3. www.google.com 4. vancouver.craigslist.org G) 4 of my favourite foods: 1. Appy - Escargots à la bourguignonne 2. Entrée - Fillet Mignon (Italian Style) 3. Desert - Tiramisu Cheesecake, lightly glazed with maple syrup 4. Comfort Food - Poutine Montréal (with St. George Curds, not Mozerella!) H) 4 places you would rather be right now: 1. San Antonio (Ibiza), Spain 2. Netanya, Israel 3. Boca Grande (Cartegena), Colombia 4. Back in bed (it's 5:00am)

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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Correct ways of saying someone is stupid Posted: 6/14/2006 9:14:35 PM
A magnificent intellect that's exceeded only by the collective wisdom of... ...a rock pile. Single-celled organisms achieved higher GED/SAT scores. Last year's poster-child for Pro Choice. Not the brightest lightbulb on the Christmas Tree. Big like tank, smart like jeep. A synaptically challenged individual. Body by Nautilus, brain by Mattel. Somebody shoot it quick... ...before it multiplies.... Starting their new job next week... ...landfill. Lost in Antarctica, with a map of Chicago. Dye their roots and call it Artificial Intelligence.

northshoreguy

Joined: 6/13/2006

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angry 10 year old Posted: 6/14/2006 6:40:54 AM
Caveat: I am not a child psychologist. That said, I've raised both my kids as a single parent (AKA Mr. Mom) - and given both are adults now, I can certainly empathise with your struggles here. I sincerely hope the following can help you better understand what it is that your child is feeling / experiencing. Anger within a child is often a manifestation of futility on their part. Children will often lash out because they feel frustrated and helpless with respect to one [and usually multiple] negative events going on in their life [e.g. at home, at school, etc.]. Children can feel overwhelmed by these events, helpless with respect to what's happening within their lives, so they attempt to lash out as a defensive mechanism... ...in effect, they're pushing others away, in an attempt to regain control within their lives. Your greatest ally here is communication [with your child]. I concur with the others here, a behavioural counsellor is probably your best option at this juncture. Additionally, many school districts provide "Anger Management" programs. Speak to the school administrators, as they can further assist and/or refer you. This all said, counsellors and programs are no substitute for a parent's love. Constantly remind your children that you love them, that you care about them, care about what's bothering them, and that you'll always be there, if they ever need to talk about their problems or feelings. While I don't dismiss outright the use of corporal punishment with younger children; by the age of 10, it has very limited value. At that age, children are already developing the capacity to understand and reason... ...use these qualities to your advantage. Preposition your discussions as questions - and let your child draw their own conclussions, based on their own deductive reasoning. If you find them floundering in unfamiliar territory, attempt to help them understand and navigate these "emotional waters" by asking them leading questions. In short, help them to recognize and understand for themselves what it is that they're feeling. Many parent's attempt to treat inappropriate behavior by banishing a child to their bedroom, by restricting their recreations, etc., without first understanding the underlying cause as to why their child acted out the way they did. Don't fall into this trap. Even more disturbing is your son's choice of vocabulary... ...usage of the term "whore" by a 10 year old would imply that your son has previously heard the term used by an adult. Chances are pretty good he doesn't understand the meaning of the term; he's simply using it to lash out at you [and not necessarily due to anything you may have said or done]. You could simply be a "target of opportunity" here. I've always had an open door policy with my children - regardless the nature of their problems... ...there are no tabboo subjects or problems too big for us to handle as a family. I've never claimed to have all the answers... ...but both of my kids also knew that if I didn't have the answer, I probably knew someone who did. Good luck and hope this can help you get things turned around with your son....

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