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Msg: 42 (view)

HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU Posted: 10/22/2006 10:32:41 PM
Sounds like you answered your own questions.Believe me ,any guy that wants his cake and eat it to is not worth all the hurt. Been there done that. You sound like to nice of a person to put up with what you are putting up with. In fact you sound like you are afraid of him. Been there done that too. I have been 5 years without a steady guy in my life and the first 3 were rough. But I made it and so can you. Life is too short to be unhappy. Wipe your tears ,stand your ground and get on with your life. I know that sounds easy to say but hey is it really worth it? You have only one life to live . Mr. right may be already watching you looking for the chance to sweep you off your feet. Are you going to pass that up? Good luck and be careful.

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What Does Long Term Mean? Posted: 9/16/2006 8:07:39 PM
Other relationship? That could mean just companionship. Someone to share expenses ie:living together without ties. Men looking for men or women looking for women. ie: living together as a companion . So what do you think?

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Msg: 46 (view)

What Does Long Term Mean? Posted: 9/16/2006 8:00:35 PM
The phrase "Long Term" is just being honest . I can't think of anyone who likes playing head games. Or at least anyone who likes having head games played on them. The question is what are you looking for? Even if you put long term you still have to"date" or somehow spend time together to get to know one another. As for the lady that wanted to make all kinds of changes in her life to be with you,apparently you answered the wrong one. She probably thought you understood what long term meant. And that was what you wanted also. I respect you for being honest about what you are looking for. Taking your time and getting to know someone is very important. Become best friends first.That also is what I am looking for . Love at first sight is 1 in a million.

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Msg: 45 (view)

What Does Long Term Mean? Posted: 9/16/2006 7:23:32 PM
Hi there 2eyes2ears thanks for your kind response. I didn't mean to make it sound like I wanted someone to feel sorry for me . I really am only on here to converse. Not really looking for a relationship.Or at least not LONG TERM. Long Term, now what does that mean to me? On this site I see it being used as a way to be honest.A way for a person to say they are lonely,they miss not having someone to hold,to share life with and as someone else said "to grow old together". I work with Geriatrics and many of them have told me they only wish when after their first love passed away , they would have had the will to find a new companion. Relatives and friends kept them busy but their lives were still lonely. So I guess long term to me means a partner for life. Thanks again for your kindness.

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Nice Guys? Where? Posted: 9/15/2006 8:23:05 AM
People in general are much more cautious theses days. Old habits are hard to break.All it takes for some is to be hurt once and their "walls" go up. When that happens,it is real hard to learn to trust someone else. Unfortunatly head games have been around since the beginning of time. As for me ,as I get older I am so tired of "head games" it is just not worth it anymore. Because of this attitude ,if a really nice guy would come into my life,I would either feel suspicious and say "Yah right" ! Or just push them away. Do I sound perinoid? Probably,but it would take a pretty extroidinary guy to change my attitude. This will probably never happen because :men my age either want a lady in their 20's or30's or at least look like it. Want the benifits but not the commitments,or are paranoid themselves about someone taking advantage of them. As for me, I am self sufficient . Just would like a friend to hang out with once in a while. If after a while it would turn into more, than that would be great. But if not that would be okay to. I make it a habit to not live in the past. No one has ever been truelly happy living in the past. It is a hard habit to break but it can happen. Unfortunatly when we get into a relationship we tend to judge people by either things that have happened to us in the past or people we have met. The old saying"you act just like ". It amazes me until my picture was put on here all kinds of guys were e-mailing me . But now that has stopped. Why do you think? Also anyone who I have been conversing with has also stopped. Why do you think? I don't have a bad attitude ,I just look at life with an open mind. So I know how you feel. Hey it is their loss. Good luck your knight in shining armor is out there.

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Msg: 19 (view)

If a man lets you go, should you take him back? Posted: 7/24/2006 9:59:55 PM
Hill22 and Kajabla, The way I always dealt with anyone that liked to play head games ,is to just cop a matter of fact attitude. It helps to keep you sane and kind of puts things in prespective. Maybe when you give them the feeling it really does not matter anymore and possably their "safety net" may be gone you may see some changes. No one likes rejection. If you start living your lives and not show them anymore that what they are doing bothers you , you may get your answer. Believe me you have to be strong and stick by your new attitude,no matter what they say.Remember it is actions that count and not just a week or two. They have done without you for what ever amount of time ,now if they really want things to work than they will do what ever it takes. If not than salavee more fish in the sea. I have been there done that more than once. My attitude is : If I can't be in a friendship or a relationship with out head games ,then I don't need it. I am who I am take it or leave it. I am sorry if this sounds like a bad attitude ,but it sure has kept me sane . It has given me strengh when I have felt weak. A new outlook on life.

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Michigan, A very FRIENDLY place Posted: 7/20/2006 11:04:03 PM
I am sorry you were offended by my thread. The first one I wrote the second one my daughter wrote. Everyone has a right to their own opinion.Just because the topic is friendly state does not mean someone cannot voice their opinion on the topic. I am new at this and thought that the person I was responding to was the person that would get my reply. Instead I get a response from a lady with a major attitude that obviously cannot deal with constructive critisizem . Friendly? I did say their are friendly people in Michigan it just depends where you are . I am a nurse and deal with friendly and Un friendly people on a dailey basis . So to say Michigan is a friendly state Hmmm !

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Drownings in Michigan Posted: 7/19/2006 10:30:00 PM
I totally understand how you feel. Drowning is one of my greatest fears,mainley because I myself do not know how to swim. There are some schools that have pools and teach swiming . My daughter learn't in Plainwell Mi.I now have a 4 year old grandson ,fortunatly he is not attracted to water but my daughter is going to have him take swimming lessons . Ialso think that schools should provide swimming lessons and water safety as a physical ed. class. Even if parents would have to help pay for it. My being in the medical field I have to deal with a lot of liability issues and maybe that is why the hesitation for schools to have such a program. They may also feel it should be the responsibility of the parent.

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Michigan, A very FRIENDLY place Posted: 7/18/2006 10:03:24 PM
Let me tell ya people who don't care about what go's on around them, or they think they know leds them to think all is well. Well living in mich and as a farm girl there is nothing harder then the goverment taking over your land and crop to make you out of all ends. Also in Mich it doesn't matter how much schooling you have or try to get the goverment or should I say whom ever it may be that put's there 2 sence in on wages in any work feild is good enough they read there state wrong. It's not a matter of leaving here it's a matter of what has changed over the last few yers that makes me not care for this lovely state any more. So for anyone to say if I dont like it then leave! Well let me guess the only thing that people like that care about is them and NO others.. No hard feelings just life facts!!!

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Michigan, A very FRIENDLY place Posted: 7/18/2006 1:55:55 PM
This morning I read all the notes on defending our beautiful state. Some I agreed with and some welllll! I to am from so. west Mi. Born and raised here on a farm . Back then farmers used the barter system. A wagon of hay for a calf or maybe just helping a neighbor just because. We were all like family. we all worked together to make things work. As I grew up I had met people from the south . They all said the northern people had attitudes. I did not understand what they meant until I lived in Ark. for three years. Of course in the south you still have those that still live back in cival war days "the south will rise again" but then you also meet people that say "ya'll come back now" and mean it. Then I moved back to Mi. and now I understand what those southern folks really meant. We truelly are not the friendliest people in the world. That is not to say we do not have friendly people here I just think it all depends on where you are . These days the whole world is in a turmoil. Lets talk about our country. Afew years back I had met a gentleman from Africa. I will never forget the story he told me . When he first arrived in the U.S. he flew into New York. As he looked out the window of the plane he turned and asked the person sitting next him ,while it was snowing and blowing,what is that laying beside that fence? The person's response 'with no emotion in their voice, stated ' "oh it is probably some homeless person" . The gentleman from Africa said " homeless in America,the richist country inthe world"? Then he said so who are these people? Response ,probably veterans from VietNam. I am in the medical field and think that our gov. could do more for the mentally ill than they do. Instead of shutting down all the institutions. Esp. V.A. campisis.

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