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 Author Thread: How to tell if a women is in to you?
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
How to tell if a women is in to you?
Posted: 1/17/2007 5:01:25 PM

I wont necessarily accept every invitation to get together, cus I wont cancel my commitments with others, so dont worry if she doesnt say yes to everything. Healthy people maintain thier own individuality that way.


I admire that. Excellent post, as are many here.

God Bless
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Women can be really shallow.
Posted: 12/17/2006 11:25:52 PM
I fail to spot "Shallowness" here **OP**

It would seem to me that by searching for "the one" she has many hidden meanings in that. I.E. The right fit, the right scent, the right attitude and behaviours. The "spark".

As invisible as it may appear, it sounds to me like she knows exactly what she wants without being able to define or express it. I believe she'll know when she finds it.

Interesting to say the least, but most impressive at such a young age.

YOU have what "A" woman wants, just not what "THIS" woman wants. Don't take it so personal.

Best wishes to all




 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Good bye
Posted: 12/17/2006 11:13:58 PM
Prayers are most powerful and you have many coming your way. White light yourself and let the positive energy cleanse.

God Bless You and hurry back.
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
what makes a woman fall in love?
Posted: 12/17/2006 10:43:58 PM
WOW! Once again I am moved and somewhat reassured by the posts here, unfortunately some of the many wonderful things posted from the ladies are natural behaviours to some of us men and are looked down upon and taken for granted.

The great thing is, I won't change for I believe in these behaviours as true expressions of feelings and care, desire and passion, Love and worth.

So many say this is what's appreciated and desired, yet few have shown it to be true.

Best wishes to all
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Do women fantasize about other men they see on the street??
Posted: 12/15/2006 11:58:03 PM
WOW! Great answers ladies!

I myself have no doubt that any woman/man worth their weight in spiritual salts would or COULD fantasize about any other than the one they are making love with....

But that's me for ya!!


Best wishes to all...
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 410 (view)
 
What is your biggest turn on
Posted: 12/15/2006 11:53:07 PM
Hmmmm...Biggest turn on?? I'de have to say attitude followed by eyes.

Yup...In that order!

I think......

 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 128 (view)
 
does anyone still write love letters?
Posted: 12/15/2006 11:15:21 PM
**Borntorescue** Too funny dude!


aaawww a hopeless romantic

unfortunatley you're a dying breed

To be honest I dont think I'd be able to cope with a guy who was a hopeless romantic, a little romantic gesture every now & again would be nice but not all the time, think it'd make me want to throw up .


Now that's sad......

I am a dying breed and you are responsible for that.

 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Am I in the wrong???
Posted: 12/15/2006 10:59:12 PM
Well he managed to answer me on msn rather than completely ignore me.This is what I get.

Can you believe this guy..ugh Im just gettin mad now. Maybe this is for the best.Now its time for the forget this ***hole and move on.


Amazing is me.



Amazing says:
can we please talk

he says:
ill call you later..im steppin out now

Amazing says:
just gimme 5 minutes please

he says:
im listening

Amazing says:
can you at least tell me whats going on with us, its not fair to just ignore the situation and leave me sittin here without a clue

he says:
im not gettin this right now

he says:
im steppin out in a min

Amazing says:
can i call u for a min

he says:
ill talk to you later

Amazing says:
u dont gotta get into anything just simple tell me if we're still together or not

he says:
i honestly dont know

Amazing says:
your really considering throwing what we have away because i was stressed and a lil jealous

he says:
look i jus said i dont wanna get into this right now

He says:
leave it

he says:
ill talk to you later , if not ..ill jus do my thing

Amazing says:
what do u mean

Amazing says:
do your thing

he says:
k i gtg


WOW!! This has "I am not man enough to endure the pain and call it the end for fear of pain and criticism" written all over it.

Somebody toys with my heart like that and I will get quite ill!

Your answer is in your question sweety.

God Bless


P.S. Respect yourself or you won't be able to respect anyone.
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 249 (view)
 
Will you ever get married?
Posted: 12/15/2006 10:34:31 PM
Wow, Thanks Frog......Much appreciation.

Great thread folks, some posts are to say the least, sad.

I know and have always known why I've never been married. But I sincerely can't wait, for it will happen only once.

God Bless
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 10 (view)
 
working it out... still seeing other people... is it ok?
Posted: 12/15/2006 10:29:09 PM
Well now, don't I feel stupid???
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
working it out... still seeing other people... is it ok?
Posted: 12/15/2006 10:28:16 PM
**OP** Consider this a blessing to you, for they will have to deal with a pain that you may merely witness. Consider this a fortunate look into what can and may very well be if we are not open with one another.Learn from it, and sad to say, all you can do is hurt with them.

Keep out girl, dangerous territory and NOT for you to tread.

God Bless

Scott
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Love conquers all
Posted: 12/15/2006 10:25:18 PM
ABSOLUTELY!!!

Love conquers all but the context in which you are asking is merely a facet of love. Not unconditional.

Love is a force, an aspect of spirit that can and WILL lead us in the proper direction and with all the power necessary to overcome any and every trial and tribulation.

I believe that with the deepest empathy and soul.For all that I am worth.

"But take not love for granted, it requires cultivation like any other living thing while still in the physical realm."



God Bless

 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 120 (view)
 
does anyone still write love letters?
Posted: 12/15/2006 10:17:33 PM
I wrote my honey a loveletter on the back of what she believed to be a map. Several days later she found it and finally read it, she told me and we were both moved by it.

Love letters in the sand or otherwise have nothing but positive and everlasting impact.

Write to your hearts content.

Scott
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 119 (view)
 
does anyone still write love letters?
Posted: 12/15/2006 10:14:54 PM

I doubt it...

why mess with that when you have a keyboard anyway?



WOW!!

**carinacarina** Yup, there is where the truth is revealed in love letters for they exist and always will.
Part of the "Unconditionalism" of Love, wouldn't ya think???
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 119 (view)
 
Have your past relationships made you wiser or more skeptical
Posted: 12/15/2006 10:11:19 PM

they say that which doesnt kill you will make you stronger, and i guess failed relationships do kill you a little bit on the inside, but, you can also learn from your mistakes. Try to recognize what went wrong, and if it happens again, and you value having the person in your life, do something proactive to fix the situation. Dont wait for the bomb to go off, and do damage control. You do get wiser, for sure.


Awesomely put!!
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 246 (view)
 
Will you ever get married?
Posted: 12/15/2006 10:01:39 PM
^^^^^Spinsterhood???

Could someone please elaborate? I am confused.....Damn i'm stupid!!

Is this referring to a profession of the cloth?

If it is a joke...WHOAH am I STUPID!!

 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 122 (view)
 
Talk about fast...
Posted: 12/15/2006 8:46:47 PM

True-At-Heart you know that I know that you know that we all know k?



Ummm......Me thinks me needs a tylenol now!!


JK! Great post inevitably!

Best wishes all
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 120 (view)
 
Talk about fast...
Posted: 12/15/2006 8:41:53 PM
WOW! Some really awesome views here, very nice people.

I however am compelled to follow my heart and beilieve whatever comes our way is to be and to be overcome ultimately. Love succeeds all.

With the trueness of desire that shows in your heart, I believe also that you will succeed and not without learning and perils. God has a plan and all you must do is remain focused on that which you have been blessed with. My prayers are with you this moment.



well, my parents got engaged on thier second date......they have been married for over 30 years. So im not one to judge. My mom always said "i take longer picking out a pair of shoes then i did my husband" and it worked, so to each thier own.


How noble and spritually just, I'd gamble to say that your parents would think little of a website for dating. I see a high value and principle here that is unbeknownst to todays culture. Sad to say.

I envy this about your parents. An awesome notion and excellent example.

God Bless
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
What profile adjectives get your interest?
Posted: 12/15/2006 7:42:47 PM

In my opinion, it's not what adjectives tend to catch the eye but rather how words demonstrate the intended adjectives. If you want to describe "intelligent", show that you are through your profile presentation (spelling, grammar, etc.). For "fun", show what it is you mean by fun through little stories or activities you do. For "caring", "compassionate", "kindness"..., show that you are through your dealings with others...

Almost anyone can come up with a list of descriptors. Listing them just as one of many other ordinary profiles; describing them will make a profile stand out .


Yup! That pretty much says it rite there^^^^^^^!!

Best wishes to all

 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Wouldja have a look at my profile?
Posted: 12/15/2006 7:39:56 PM
**OP** A simple notion of condensation here. Great profile, but mine was long too and I found my perfect match. Don't be stereotyped into keeping things hidden. If she's worth it, she'll gladly read until the cows come home. (Respectfully)

Great advice from others here, a most enjoyable atmosphere.

God Bless
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 167 (view)
 
When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 12/15/2006 7:26:00 PM
**Clikit** **Bronze Gourmet** and
**Curious Mouse**

This is priceless!!!!! You folks are great, much fun.

God Bless y'all!
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Manly & Sensitive?
Posted: 12/15/2006 7:17:52 PM
**Paulchino II**

Excellent point made. I have oftentimes wondered if it were true when people who suppossedly cared would say that I was "too sensitive". I've oftentimes been insulted by this but now I am seeing it in a light unforknown to me.

I've always based my sensitivity on that of Jesus Christ and felt that my happiness was unimportant for the father will provide. I have lost a lot in this realm of thought and behaviour.

Is there really such a thing as too sensitive??? Your post has given me boo-koodles to think about, Thank You.

Merry Christmas and God Bless everyone.
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 43 (view)
 
Manly & Sensitive?
Posted: 12/15/2006 7:12:50 PM

I am a woman, and I have two children. An insensitive man would cause friction in my family, and would be most unwelcome. Manly and sensitive is a very appealing blend for a harmonious, communicative relationship with a woman.
Scarlett


WOW! Like a lioness with cubs!! But nicely vocalized. TY

God Bless
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 39 (view)
 
do women like shy men?
Posted: 12/15/2006 7:08:30 PM
**Heart Bandit** You have or had the same emotions going on that **OP** does/did. Sounds like you've harnessed them well, great for you. I can recall these feelings when I was younger. Funny thing is, shaving my head seemed to have opened the door for me.

Well, that and becoming a father......



God Bless
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 1203 (view)
 
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/15/2006 6:59:31 PM
Oh....BTW!!-Anybody wants/needs my pic just ask. I am not here to meet anyone for this purpose, I have all that I need and could ever want in a woman.(Respectfully)

God Bless
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 1202 (view)
 
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/15/2006 6:57:41 PM
After seein some really great posts and feeling overwhelmed by some of you, I must say that by far, *Briteeyes* post has sincerely moved me.

I hope you and he keep in touch, I feel a promising encounter between you.

Best wishes to all
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 1197 (view)
 
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/15/2006 3:09:12 PM
Would posting my pic get my point across any further???


Didn't think so.....

 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 1196 (view)
 
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/15/2006 3:06:24 PM
WOW! That's a bit harsh lulu. Maybe we don't show a pic because we feel no need or desire to flaunt or advertise. Maybe we're just here to learn and see no need in a pic.

But I understand your point. Good post girl.

 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 35 (view)
 
do women like shy men?
Posted: 12/15/2006 3:00:46 PM

Whats toastmasters




Thanks, I feel better now, so glad I didn't have to ask...LOL!


 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Manly & Sensitive?
Posted: 12/15/2006 2:58:04 PM

Good question and I'd like to know why more people don't understand that not everyone is going to react the expected or desired way. Just because a man doesn't cry does not mean that they are emotionally unavailable or insensitive. Whether it's a learned behaviour or not, I have no idea, but I don't really cry. Does that mean I don't feel? No, of course not. It just means I react to situations differently.


Nicely said....
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Manly & Sensitive?
Posted: 12/15/2006 2:56:12 PM
Hmmm. A paintbrush????


Gimme!!


I can paint without a brush! Gimme that!!

I'll paint with hersheys if I hafta!!!


I'm a lil lost here, was that meant to be mean?

DAMN I am so stupid sometimes!! Wheres my pssst when I need her??? :(
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Manly & Sensitive?
Posted: 12/15/2006 2:40:47 PM
Hmmmm.....Is it over-sensitive to beget tears when you've met someone who rocks your world? Ya know, when you want to express the very depths of your soul? Like telling them how much you adore them and love your time with them.....Are tears in this instance not valid?
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 161 (view)
 
When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 12/15/2006 2:36:08 PM
**HORSESH**__**

Flirting is NOT harmless behaviour and is NOT done with ease. If you flirt, you are expressing something of yourself with demeanor and intention, and to do so while in a loving,committed relationship is infidelic in my eyes.

BAD bad post...I need to go lay down....Oooooh this steams me!!
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Is this her making a move or am I just being taken for a ride?
Posted: 12/15/2006 10:02:20 AM
**OceansBeauty**

You FLOW girl!!

Great post!!
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Is this her making a move or am I just being taken for a ride?
Posted: 12/15/2006 9:19:15 AM
Did you just call me a bad name???



Not nice and it does NOT "JUST HAPPEN" and you are forgiven!

Get over it!
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Six Degrees of Separation - Last Night on Basic Instincts: The Human Chain
Posted: 12/15/2006 9:14:17 AM
**Trevor**

Relax dude! Just because we have an open line to those of the opposite sex doen't disdain them.

I have met 3 people on POF and fallen in love with one. No sex or negative inuendo involved, making the first 2 my dearest in friendship.

It is an "OUT" and WE are responsible for the forthcomings.




God Bless
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 159 (view)
 
When is flirting cheating?
Posted: 12/15/2006 9:07:42 AM
Why is it that every time I comment on a forum, the end is read? I need to post my own questions obviously for I get no response.

 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 33 (view)
 
polite rejection--how to do it?
Posted: 12/15/2006 8:54:05 AM
Kitten and Ragoosh....Not all of us have the ability to feel as though we are competing or trying to meet a quota.
Great opinions and much appreciated. But I for one would prefer a little sentiment.
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 32 (view)
 
polite rejection--how to do it?
Posted: 12/15/2006 8:51:15 AM
*pssst*

I Love you and I would NEVER think of disputing you, but I disagree. It is only proper to diminish a quaint feeling of past doubt.

I don't see that in you.....You are NOT being pssst.
C'mon girl, let go and emit. For you are wonderous to me.

(Respectfully)

Scott
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Manly & Sensitive?
Posted: 12/15/2006 8:43:53 AM
**Mostlykitten** but not ALL kitty I presume.

That was a bit out of realm. He cried in a pub to the bands spiritual influnce???

Hmmmm.....

That's a bit much, I agree.

What was the song? And what look did you give him??? What was the glow you know you emit?

Maybe a bit much, but then again, not ALL facts are given in your post.....I believe your power in the situation is being misread by you.

JMO

 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Is this her making a move or am I just being taken for a ride?
Posted: 12/15/2006 7:49:24 AM
**Sunnied247**
The one's that I have been interested in that were friends if something happened it just happened.


NOTHING just HAPPENS!! Bullshit!! We are responsibe and God answers....
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 30 (view)
 
do women like shy men?
Posted: 12/15/2006 7:45:33 AM
**DancingQueen**
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 29 (view)
 
do women like shy men?
Posted: 12/15/2006 7:41:00 AM
**OP** I would have to say that your shyness is a result of demeanor and lack of knowledge. You are weary of that which permeates your heart and soul, that is a good thing. Do what is right and honour her and let God influence everything between you. This is what I believe a very "impressionable" stage for you and your soul.

Stay focused and make it right. Let not evil into the equasion, for that begets that.

White light with you, from all and above, God Bless.....
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Is this her making a move or am I just being taken for a ride?
Posted: 12/15/2006 7:30:11 AM
Hey **Beach**
I know you are looking for a womans input but if I may, would like to share mine with you.

Sounds to me like her spirit and yours have spent the last five years weeding out that which you prefer to refrain from in a true love.

In essence, I think you should try and cultivate that which has been brought before the two of you and take nothing for granted.

I see a heavenly match here. Tread with thine own spiritual worth.

God Bless you both. I hope to come back here some day and answer your next question, "Real diapers or cloth?" LOL!

Take care my friend. All will be.

 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 28 (view)
 
do women like shy men?
Posted: 12/15/2006 7:22:08 AM
Somebody SLAP me!! Why Am I so offended here??? I need re-assurance.
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
 
do women like shy men?
Posted: 12/15/2006 7:20:20 AM
No, in general.!! Great, now I know why I am not a GENERAL!! Do I smell stereotype here?
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 26 (view)
 
do women like shy men?
Posted: 12/15/2006 6:06:52 AM
OK!! Now im pissed!! What the hell is wrong with blushing??? I don't think blushing makes or breaks a man nor defines one, on the contrary, what makes, breaks or defines a woman is one who can MAKE me blush!!

I'm offended a little and my feelings are adjusted on that note....WOW!

I despise the notion of "stereotype"!! DAMMIT!!

Too early in the AM to feel this way....God Bless everyone.

 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
do women like shy men?
Posted: 12/14/2006 12:16:29 PM
**OP** I readily must agree with SunnyTexas for once you learn to Love yourself and the man you know resides within you will then learn to crack the shell and come out, it will take time but will be a growing and most pleasant experience while boosting self confidence also.

Worry not what others think nor lose yourself in the impressions you make on others, just be yourself and like spirited others will flock to bask in the glow you are emitting.

Let your spirit shine!

Best wishes to all
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Manly & Sensitive?
Posted: 12/14/2006 12:07:43 PM
*OT* Yes, they can and are. It is simply a matter of self-worth,ego and pride, which drowns out the true sensitive man within most.

Best wishes to all
 windsofchange69
Joined: 6/16/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
 
polite rejection--how to do it?
Posted: 12/14/2006 11:56:24 AM
Excellent thread!

**OP** I would act naturally and find their most obvious qualitie(s) and reply with a let down that way.

i.e.-Wow! I'm flattered and you are very attractive,etc etc (their qualities go here) but simply don't feel the connection or attraction here.

You know where I'm coming from, something to help stroke the ego while handling her sensitivity and emotions with the highest regard and empathy.

Just be yourself and CARE about her feelings and be honest, like you've known her all of your life.

JMO, Thanks.

Best wishes to all
 
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