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OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 69 (view)

Am I wrong? Posted: 11/12/2009 9:22:33 AM
Yes you are wrong. You chose to bring this kid into the world, YOU owe her every advantage possible, which includes CS (unless you "tricked" the guy, which would make you dispickable

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 72 (view)

MY EX SET ME UP Posted: 10/5/2009 11:53:34 AM
She filed charges after you filed on her for money you felt she owed you? Should not be to hard to show she was retaliating., then you can sue her for filing false charges. Oh come on now, what 35 y/o woman has a grandchild over 7? I think you chase the young immature girls.

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 130 (view)

....i do......but he doesnt Posted: 10/5/2009 11:39:52 AM
He is NOT willing to move to where you are right? Yet he wants you to uproot not only yourself but your son as well....

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 60 (view)

16 yr old Moving in with Dad Posted: 10/5/2009 9:51:31 AM
How is it OP speaks of working part time, at times barely getting by, yet can afford a 20 grand reno for more space for the teen boys? Did it not occure to you that the boys may want to try living with their dad at some point soon? And a 4 year old is not a baby anymore....looks like time for mom to get to work..

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 48 (view)

MY EX SET ME UP Posted: 10/1/2009 1:11:31 PM
Why did you break up with her?

OpieDopey

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Msg: 70 (view)

widow needs advice on custody issue Posted: 9/28/2009 9:21:31 AM
yesterday you said court was this week, then you say tomorrow. Can't even keep your own "story" straight?

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 39 (view)

widow needs advice on custody issue Posted: 9/25/2009 7:16:39 PM
huh, you knew this new guy 2 months, then 6 months? Yep, something is wrong in the State of Denmark. If custody was temp and expired in July, why could you not just get kid back then..?

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 26 (view)

need advice about best friend living wth me Posted: 9/25/2009 10:26:23 AM
Many rental agreements have a clause that states you cannot have a visitor more than a set amount of days. Tell him this and that there have been complaints from other renters about the noise and that action will be taken to evict you if he does not leave. Tell him bye-bye

OpieDopey

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Msg: 26 (view)

What do you teach your daughters about boys and sex? Posted: 9/20/2009 8:53:12 AM
well if these "stupid/idiot" men you speak of who don't protect themselves find that they have knocked up an equally "stupid/idiot" woman (daughter) who didn't protect herself. I would have to tell her don't be even stupider and more idiotic by having a kid with these guys...

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 75 (view)

How much is to much Posted: 9/19/2009 6:21:17 PM
Not only is this NOT too much, it is NOT enough. Calling five times a day isn't much, I think he should call even more often if he wants to prove what a great guy he is... And as for that Halloween party, he needs to cancel that and be with with you in your time of need. But, to really prove himself I think he needs to marry you before you go into the delivery room. To prove to him that you care , you should let him name the baby.

OpieDopey

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Msg: 18 (view)

I am so proud.................. Posted: 9/14/2009 2:25:24 PM
I am so proud never willingly made a child become a product of a single parent situation. Now I am happy and proud to have been able to have retired early in life comfortably.

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 13 (view)

unique divorce problem Posted: 9/14/2009 9:14:19 AM
So umm you will be her Nanny with Benefits? Hope it's a rent free situation...

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 681 (view)

Would you sign a prenuptial agreement? Posted: 9/14/2009 9:06:35 AM
sure I would, I want to have it all about the money in the beginning, get that all out of the way, then it can be all about the Love till the cows come home....

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 101 (view)

Why men run at the first sign of pregnancy? Posted: 9/14/2009 8:20:27 AM
If a couple are using birth control, the implication is that they DO NOT want a kid at this time. If then suddenly the woman find herself PG and says well I changed my mind, then the burden should be solely on her to accept ALL responsibility. The Baseball analogy fails, no smart person bats at an out of bounds ball, and if you do and the ball goes foul, do not pass GO< do not collect $200 and there is no go to Home Plate.

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 31 (view)

Second Weddings Posted: 9/13/2009 10:56:32 AM
My 2nd one, we got the paperwork, it was good for 30 days. Time was running out ( I am such a procastinator) so we just forged the names on paperwork.

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 36 (view)

Shared Parenting Posted: 9/9/2009 1:48:34 PM
So, neither of you could afford a kid. But, you choose to have one anyway. Seems, 50/50 is your best option at this point. I just hope either you get/have tubes tied or do not have sex until you can REALLY take on that responsibility like an adult. As it is now the kid will pay by being shuffled about twixt homes and slapped into daycare too early.

OpieDopey

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Msg: 34 (view)

Shared Parenting Posted: 9/9/2009 1:11:09 PM
Of course he would have to return the kid even if you have have 50/50 custody. But why if the ex has medical was the kid not put on his medical before now? Why not wait to do that surgery when that is taken care of... If he is broke now, how is he going to afford child support? Was he paying support for his other kids when you got PG? He may have to go for 50/50 that way no one pays, you share the kid and expenses. But, I doubt you would go for that.. After all, you were the one who claimed you got no gov help but I guess you thought the WIC formula grew on trees that fairies harvested. You education will be paid for by the Jolly Green Giant? And the DR's work for you for free...

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 5 (view)

First Date Ok Second Date Gone Bad... Posted: 9/8/2009 10:24:57 AM
Perhaps he was hoping one of them at 23 had less than 4 kids? Maybe even NO kids.

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

Single Mothers Adopting? Posted: 9/8/2009 10:20:09 AM
Of course you can become a foster parent, some of those cases go on into adoption. Why would you think they would laugh in your face? These are professional people. If it were even possible for that to happen you say it woud break your spirit? Either rather dramatic or I would question your strenght to be raising kids.

OpieDopey

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Msg: 24 (view)

Why men run at the first sign of pregnancy? Posted: 9/7/2009 3:19:18 PM
I would like for men to fight for more reproductive rights laws ( I would gladly sign petitions) Women can option out of unplanned pregnancies, men should be able to as well. I think if it can be proven that a woman has a precription for birth control , that proves that she is not wanting to get PG. If there is a failure the man should be able to say no. Then the women takes all responsibility to have the child if she decides to do so...

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 94 (view)

Child support... Posted: 9/7/2009 11:19:06 AM
Since supposedly the reason the OP and this guy broke up ( after what a few months) was because he wanted kids and she thought she couldn't have any, perhaps he will go after full custody eventually. He is the one who is more financially stable at least. Who knows how Karma will play out this unfortunate mess.

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 77 (view)

Child support... Posted: 9/6/2009 5:57:58 PM
Why did you bother making this thread if you already have checked in to this with local welfare offices? I am not confusing you with someone else. In your other thread you also said you had money to raise this kid. So then why is it that now the taxpayers are going to pick up your legal and social issues? I suppose his money will offset those costs, but I doubt even his income will begin to come close to covering them. Taxpayers get ready to open your wallets a bit wider...

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

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I am looking for a true love, but my heart is still broken in every pieces... Posted: 9/6/2009 12:32:59 PM
Well fix that broken heart first, then learn how to use birth control seeing as you are now PG and need to sort out that problem.

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 60 (view)

Child support... Posted: 9/6/2009 11:31:04 AM
I recall your thread from a few months ago when you found out you were PG. You said the Dr's said you could not get PG. You said you had a "muscle" problem where others had to take care of you and are in a wheelchair, then changed it to you can care for yourself. You said that here was a possiblity you might get better, never said you had MS. You were afraid to tell your family, but miraculously when you did they then agreed to help you raise this kid. There was no ex-wife to be at that point, is this new news? Said he told you to get an abortion. So, I don't get why now you list all the "stuff" he has...no worries, twixt this kid he doesn't want, you and the maybe ex to be...he will soon be quite broke.

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

I burn the salad! how about sharing simple recipes with this single guy Posted: 9/5/2009 5:13:26 PM
Top Ramen, 1/2 a bag frozen mixed veggies, drain, mix in a can of tuna, or don't drain all the water off, crack an egg in, the water will cook it...

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 11 (view)

Too chicken to break up with someone? Posted: 9/5/2009 10:32:58 AM
So you are staying with her even though she is rude and mean to you?

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 22 (view)

how do i get over the hurt and anger? Posted: 9/5/2009 9:49:34 AM
When you two were together had you discussed what would happen were you to become pregnant?

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

baby food Posted: 8/29/2009 7:50:37 PM
WIC here is the thing the OP thinks she is not on gov assistance for.... I guess she thinks they grow baby formula and eggs and things on trees,,, that get magically harvested for her to go get get for free.

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

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Why women want guys to come to THEM Posted: 8/29/2009 7:07:27 PM
lol, ya wow! I scrolled this page...maybe another day when it's raining I might bother to read....

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

When is it okay to start having adult sleepovers? Posted: 8/29/2009 6:52:54 PM
ok, I pondered the "sleepover" quest a bit, but not much as it will never be a prob of mine. I think it depends on all the issues involved in any given situation. No easy answers. As for the accusation of "racism" here, pishah, doesn't bother me a bit...some people take this wayyy too seriously. I get accused of alot of things here, doesn't make them true,, Most often it is the accusers problem. They just want to transfer their own guilt.

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 18 (view)

Single Moms in this economy? How are you doing it? Tips to share? Posted: 8/29/2009 4:14:40 PM
ya, why did you spend all that $$$ on the guy in a "bind" if you are as well?

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

Single Moms in this economy? How are you doing it? Tips to share? Posted: 8/29/2009 4:12:06 PM
well, it is coming off as a bit fishy. How can child care be that much if the kid just started school? And what Co. that is making such huge cutbacks agrees to fire you when then they have to pay into your unemployment? This is not a "support" forum. The only thread that is supposed to be for "advice" is the one with that in the title. You didn't bother adressing those who did offer ideas, but instead are too busy defending yourself...

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 109 (view)

4 months and I still have not seen his home Posted: 8/29/2009 3:34:35 PM
annie, annie, where are you??? Hopefully not with him again this weekend?

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 31 (view)

When is it okay to start having adult sleepovers? Posted: 8/29/2009 2:08:14 PM
Not sure how I feel about the sleepover issue, but come on people Shaniqua is a black woman being descriptive, how the hell is that being racist? I am part Pollack and laugh at Polish jokes.

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

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Single Moms in this economy? How are you doing it? Tips to share? Posted: 8/29/2009 9:48:55 AM
a month of so ago I saw OP say she lived in an upscale neighborhood. Sounds like it's time to scale down and move yet again. Shopping in Thrift Stores is fun, kind of like "mining" you never know what you might find, it's always 1 of a kind stuff.

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 7 (view)

Single Father of Four - May take a While Posted: 8/28/2009 6:58:41 PM
well, I will at least give you credit for realizing you may never find what you are seeking until the kids are grown. That is a bit refreshing, most of the single parents think they deserve someone to take on their lil rug brats. Being a step parent can be a real bithch!

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 43 (view)

Birth Control Pills...PLEASE NEED PEOPLE OPINIONS Posted: 8/28/2009 5:20:17 PM
Has she dumped this guy yet? If not, I call BS on the whole story, or else she is an idiot.

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 52 (view)

Problems in the bedroom :( Posted: 8/27/2009 2:54:26 PM
Oh and I don't believe you made a profile for a "friend" it is probably for you to find someone to get you off....

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 51 (view)

Problems in the bedroom :( Posted: 8/27/2009 2:53:17 PM
This guy seems like a selfish, inconsiderate azz to me. How the hell can you have let this go on for a year and call this an almost "perfect" relationship? What is he doing while you are getting yourself off? Snoozing?

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

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Eight year age gap ok? Posted: 8/26/2009 6:09:01 PM
forget the years, does she even want a family? You're getting a bit ahead of yourself.

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

How to cope with missing partner? Posted: 8/26/2009 1:45:55 PM
or perhaps, he is going "up the creek (prison) without any paddles? " Just use those calling cards he is sending you...maybe bake him a cake with a file in it?

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

Why do extreme career-driven couples/singles have kids? Posted: 8/26/2009 10:24:45 AM
It's part of the "pretty picture" they want to paint, of having it all. They think their DNA is so special. The kids get to grow up paying the price of these selfish parents.

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 31 (view)

Googling Before a Date ? Posted: 8/25/2009 12:58:25 PM
^^ my thoughts...you would date a Lawyer? I pronounce the word Lawyer as Liar..

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 3 (view)

How to handle cursing Posted: 8/25/2009 12:41:06 PM
Let him watch you wash your mouth out with soap? Head Start is a gov agency for low income kids. So much for all your talk of being self supporting...

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 32 (view)

What do you think? Posted: 8/25/2009 12:05:18 PM
he's (they) is just not that into you.

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

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Would you heed another’s woman warning about her ex (your new bf) or just persume she is bitter? Posted: 8/24/2009 4:15:10 PM
She is an idiot! Be glad it's not you going down "Stupid Street" yet again...

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

What to do,What to do? Posted: 8/24/2009 3:54:01 PM
The fact that he would have you wait outside his place for 3 hrs because you "distract" him??? The fact that you would do this...yikes!

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 46 (view)

Timetable for a relationship. Posted: 8/24/2009 12:45:17 PM
wow OP this seems way too anal , at what point in your "timeline" can she expect you to be accepting of her putting on the strap-on dildo?

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

I need advice regarding my daughter... Posted: 8/24/2009 11:49:15 AM
time for OP to grow up and become a responsible mom!

OpieDopey

Joined: 6/16/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

A Friend's Pregnancy Posted: 8/22/2009 6:34:21 PM
If I were you, I would feel great relief that it was not me in this fiasco... they are both fools that a poor kid will pay the piper for their stupidity edit: I would even doubt the kid is his..

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