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jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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finding a girl who enjoys sex Posted: 11/16/2009 11:32:19 AM
If a woman has zero interest in sex, even masturbating (!) and this has remained constant throughout her life, then I think its safe to say its not your fault. Two actionable recommendations: 1) Have sex with many women. Most of them are MUCH more sexually adventurous than that iceberg. Most women love sex. The best way to learn this fact is through that most effective of teachers, experience. 2) If in the course of a future relationship, your future SO exhibits the signs of asexuality, dump her.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Is it a lie if a guy says he is scared? Posted: 11/16/2009 11:23:25 AM
Well, at least you can easily spot a loser. Impart your wisdom on your younger sisters, and perhaps some will learn that lesson the easy way. "You can call me your bf if you want.." is horribly passive. It gives me chills.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Bringing up marriage on the first date? Posted: 11/16/2009 11:20:45 AM
Well perhaps they were looking for women interested in getting married right away, and thus successfully screened you out. Next time, bring a business card for a Russian Mail Order Bride Company.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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North American dating a japanese woman. What do I need to know?? Posted: 11/14/2009 11:16:05 AM
Incorporating Steven Seagal into your dating life is, generally speaking, an excellent idea.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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When is messaging a problem? Posted: 11/14/2009 11:06:04 AM
I am pretty indifferent to texts/SMS/Skype, etc. I know its expected at a certain point in a relationship, so I do it so as not to offend, but I generally don't care much for them. A legitimate email or phone call on a less frequent basis is far superior IMHO.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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holland Posted: 11/14/2009 9:44:48 AM
Oh yeah, also Netherlands has the best public transport of anywhere I've been short of NYC. No need to take a taxi anywhere. That's why they are so expensive.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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holland Posted: 11/14/2009 9:29:53 AM
I love Holland and the Dutch are my Number-One World-Wide Favorite People. But it isn't much of a country for tourists. Flat, crowded and rainy.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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How many times ? Posted: 10/31/2009 6:53:43 AM
I don't have much interest in exchanging text messages, I prefer actual real live humans. After 5 or 6 I am bored and stop, unless there is a really good reason not to. Yes there are crazies out there, and there are a all sorts of control measures you can implement to reduce the possibility of ending up blind folded in trunk somewhere.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Why Do Men Write in Their Profile..FRIENDS FIRST and Then WANT SEX so QUICKLY? Posted: 10/31/2009 6:48:24 AM
Clearly, these men thought that you were just announcing the ritual "I'm not a slut" that all men have heard from women, including those who are, in fact slutty (no judgement here, I have no quarrel with women who sleep around, this isn't the 1950's anymore). Such a pronouncement generally isn't taken very seriously by most men. When it turns out that you are serious, very serious, they leave. Men want sex. If it's off the table, there isn't much you can provide that will make up for it.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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He Has a GF But Still Flirts - ? Posted: 10/28/2009 1:59:02 PM
Marsellus Wallace threw Antwone out the window for giving a foot massage. Flirting is fine, but the foot massage is too far.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Avoiding the friend zone with someone in my circle - an original question Posted: 10/26/2009 11:16:15 AM
"Torture yourself" - I suppose that's the caseif you think this chick is the love of your life and she laughs in your face. If its just attraction or a crush, then there shouldn't be any torturing of anybody. Throw the cards on the table in a non-desperate non-needy but clear way. If she says no, then its not a soul-crushing experience and life goes on.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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How to start things off Posted: 10/26/2009 11:11:38 AM
Well perhaps your negative view of women comes across in your emails. Or why bother with boring/lazy profiles? If you want a response, writing something worth reading.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Quiet guy needs help Posted: 10/26/2009 11:09:58 AM
I suppose there are women out there who want the extremely quiet guy, but there aren't alot of them. Generally people who don't talk much aren't interested in other people, and therefore aren't attractive. I wouldn't be interested in a woman who didn't give a damn what I thought or did with my life.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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What does take care mean? Posted: 10/26/2009 11:04:31 AM
Its a sign off. It means nothing more than "Cheers" or "Peace."

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Why does he have to text/call all the girls from his past? Posted: 10/23/2009 11:44:05 AM
Maintaining friendships with ex-girlfriends is sign that this guy isn't a complete as$hat (ie, the girls that know him best don't hate him). If the idea is to break off all communication with girls, well thats psycho. On the other hand, incessant flirting with other girls is no good.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Males' ability to act affectionately Posted: 10/14/2009 12:34:09 PM
Yes, men can fake it just like women faking an orgasm. And sometimes for similar reasons.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Sexual compatability and timing Posted: 10/14/2009 12:33:02 PM
Its one of the risks of modern dating. Most people's f@cking is in character with the rest of their life (but not always!). Try dancing with them. That is a cliche, but at least 51% true.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Ned some help with conversations Posted: 10/14/2009 12:30:12 PM
How to get game. Two ideas. 1) Talk. To everyone, particularly women. To the grandma in the grocery store. The bored clerk in the post office. Folks at work/school. It does two things a) boosts confidence, b) builds up your conversational skills. After a while, you will naturally be able to transition to fun flirting. 2) The internet, buddy. The internet. There are tons of sites out there that actually offer really sound advice about interacting with women. Not just the Pick Up Artist stuff about how to "FC" but good stuff that the women in your life will be grateful you learned. Google. Its a start and will give you a base, but it does not replace the real world.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Whiplash Posted: 10/12/2009 5:31:56 AM
Its only two days, give it a while. Note: Be suspicious of guys who immediately cannonball into the deep end of the relationship pool. Its a red-flag.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Not such a sweet transvestite! Posted: 10/12/2009 5:28:16 AM
Hmm, I believe the person is question is a cross-dresser, since they are identified with a masculine pronoun. Transvestites are referred to with the feminine, as they identify with the female gender all the time (assuming male-to-female TV). Your friend is a fool. Dump him immediately. The next time she starts dating a super-kinky dude, don't be surprised when he acts super-kinky.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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divorce verses affair...isnt it about time we accepted affairs.. Posted: 10/12/2009 5:22:32 AM
wasabigal: let's be grown-ups. All I am saying is that people across time and cultures have affairs. For many people and in many places affairs are not the earth-shattering marital apocalypse. Having spent most of my adult life in foreign lands (including rural Louisiana), I am often humored when a relationship rule is declared universal and very important, but I see that its really only that way for a certain small cultural group. Doesn't make the rule invalid, but I have fun pointing it out. Anyway, the point about deception is well taken.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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divorce verses affair...isnt it about time we accepted affairs.. Posted: 10/11/2009 11:53:47 AM
That's actually supporting evidence. It was the very demographic I mentioned that got the most riled up about Clinton. Well, if you add "Republican" to my string of adjectives.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Date movie recommendations? Posted: 10/11/2009 11:48:32 AM
Everything Nerd Guy said, I second. Movie + Dinner = Boring

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Is a cancelled date legit?? Posted: 10/11/2009 11:46:38 AM
Might be true. Assume the best about the guy.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Texting/checking phone Posted: 10/11/2009 11:45:45 AM
Yes, checking phone and texting during a date is rude and a violation of the rules. This is not a subtle rule of dating, this is one of the basics, like "be clean" or "don't talk about your horrible family secret on a first date." The guy had no clue and if you aren't in the mood to be a teacher or tolerant of the clueless, then you did the right thing.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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divorce verses affair...isnt it about time we accepted affairs.. Posted: 10/11/2009 11:41:06 AM
I just don't get the nuclear reaction to cheating that many folks have. Affairs have a long tradition in the history of marriage. My speculation that the zero-tolerance movement only began sometime in the 70's amongst well-educated white Americans. I'd be surprised to learn of a similar reaction to affairs (divorce!) amongst any other demographic.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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divorce verses affair...isnt it about time we accepted affairs.. Posted: 10/11/2009 9:05:04 AM
The key is that there are two types of marriages: those with kids, and those without. Few secular folks would argue strongly against divorce for a couple without children. Its when children are in the picture that it gets complicated and one can make a case for staying in a less-than-fairy-tale-bliss marriage.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Negative experiences with trying to date twins?? Posted: 10/11/2009 9:00:55 AM
I am friends with a twin who is extremely close with her sister. Share email accounts, phones, are well into their mid-20s and have always lived together, finish each other's sentences and can communicate complex thoughts without speaking. While I'm not dating her (nor would I ever date her), they are a package deal. Any man is secondary to their relationship.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Is this rude?? Posted: 10/11/2009 8:47:51 AM
It was not rude. I doubt this dude has the same rule book of POF etiquette that you have.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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divorce verses affair...isnt it about time we accepted affairs.. Posted: 10/11/2009 8:44:00 AM
Yes, an affair is probably better than breaking up a marriage in many cases. Particularly sexual incompatibility - like when one spouse decides to not have any more sex, ever or very rarely (once every few months). Marriage is not a sexual suicide pact. Having grown up amongst many divorces, my experience says that when kids are involved a marginal marriage, including affairs, is better than divorce.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Men's attitude/acceptance of women who are more successful Posted: 10/11/2009 6:25:41 AM
Agreed: The majority couldn't stand it. While in theory I wouldn't mind, I suspect that I would, in fact, feel emasculated and resentful. Don't believe the forthcoming responses by men claiming otherwise.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Traveling by jet/Best and Worse Airport Posted: 10/10/2009 2:58:15 PM
In general American airports are cramped, dingy over-priced and nearly impossible to get to via public transportation. They suck. Air Pakistan from Cairo to Paris. The rows were so cramped my knees were pressed into the back of the seat in front of me, with both seats upright. Also, my shoulders extended onto the seats to both my right and left. It reminded me of flying in a yellow school bus. Ridiculous. I know poor people like Pakistanis are small, but come on... The airport Charles De Gualle is widely recognized as the worst airport in the world. I missed a flight there years ago because of confusing signage. To their credit, Air France did get me a different flight at no cost. Apparently, my experience was common.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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what does this mean and what should i do Posted: 10/9/2009 12:00:22 PM
Does anyone else find this type of writing unreadable?

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Fellow world travelers? Where have you been, and where do you want to go? Posted: 10/7/2009 11:09:42 AM
Canada, Mexico, Guatemala, El Salvador, Belize, Honduras, Peru, Bolivia, Chile, Paraguay, Brazil, Argentina, South Africa, Zambia, Zimbabwe, Mozambique, Malawi, Egypt, Turkey, Kuwait, Iraq, Bosnia, Serbia, Croatia, Hungary, Poland, Slovakia, Austria, Germany, Switzerland, France, Luxembourg, Belgium, Holland. Hmm, maybe some more... Under-rated: Croatia Over-rated: Egypt

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Contrary to Popular Belief!? Posted: 9/26/2009 1:26:55 PM
The men and women thing is a general thing. Its statistical, I suppose. Analogy: Most men are faster runners than women, but Florence Griffith Joyner would kick my ass.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Would this confuse you? Posted: 9/26/2009 1:23:30 PM
This type of indefinite wishy-washiness is only tolerable to young folks. Talk to her man!

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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how much info is too much? Posted: 9/26/2009 1:20:44 PM
Not on a first date. I absolutely do NOT want to hear a rape story on the first date. I want it kept light and breezy. Nor a second date. Possibly on a third date, maybe, but probably not. But at some point I would like to know.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Is this the truth? Posted: 9/26/2009 1:11:36 PM
Lots of people are duplicitous. I am, in fact, a group of Nigerian businessmen, looking to defraud wealthy40 year old divorcees.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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At 32, I am new to this thing calling dating Posted: 9/26/2009 1:05:00 PM
If you want to date other humans, ratchet down the self-absorption alot. Really, tone it down a whole lot.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Do you or don't you? Posted: 9/26/2009 1:03:10 PM
If your guy says he doesn't want to be compared to ex, and then asks you to compare him to your ex, he's contradictory. Thats the deal. I very seldom ask about exes, except indirectly, as in this example: "Jesus Christ, where did you learn to do THAT?"

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Is it bad to blow a guy...more then once, on a first date? Posted: 9/26/2009 12:59:35 PM
"you blow all guys on a first date" She is the White Whale of single guys.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's? Posted: 8/19/2009 10:38:34 AM
I love dating in my 30s. I have the confidence, self-assurance and awareness I was sorely lacking in my 20s. It can be harder to find women to date, I suppose, but that hasn't been my experience at all.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Spain or South America? Posted: 8/19/2009 10:35:03 AM
Do you want first world or third world? Spain is semi-tropical. Panama, Colombia and Brazil are tropical-tropical. Spain, IMHO, has the best cuisine on the planet. Sorry France & Japan. Where ever you go, actually physically go to that location and live there for a few weeks - long enough that the stars wash out of your eyes. Preferably during the off-season. Try January in Panama.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Europe itinerary (Please Review) Posted: 8/9/2009 1:21:09 PM
1) Personally, I think Barcelona is wildly over-rated, especially compared to all the great places to visit in Spain that aren't over-run with drunken Brits and thieves. 2) Prague is a cool town. 3) Its worth getting out of the Gigantic Global Cities and seeing something different, beaches, mountains, small town festivals (which are freaking awesome). 4) Ryan Air doesn't actually fly that much, and its notorious for using airports 1 HR+ from the city. But there are plenty of other budget airlines. And the train, the wonderful train. 5) All the hostel sites work fine. Read the reviews.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Would love him to go down on me, how? Posted: 8/9/2009 1:11:00 PM
Do not leave it alone. Part of sex is getting what you want (with reason, which this certainly is). Oral sex is not some extra - its part of normal sex. Especially if its one of the only ways you can cum, which you are implying. Bring it up again, during a sex talk. Ask him during sex (after having prepared him). Walk him through it - that is both hot, and it will ensure he does what you like. If he straight out refuses, decide whether you want a jerk of a boyfriend.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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It must be a regional thing Posted: 8/9/2009 3:05:56 AM
Alabama is pretty much at the bottom, along with the rest of the Deep South, on all social indicators from literacy, indoor plumbing, to teen pregnancy rates and divorce. Its a whole web of dysfunction.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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do guys ever want to date a slut? Posted: 8/9/2009 2:55:29 AM
I generally think a girl that 'hooks up' right away is a slut, but I don't care that she is one.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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Big or small Posted: 8/9/2009 2:49:09 AM
If small = not fat, then small girls for me. I have had really good sex with a big (aka fat) girl, but in general I am not attracted to big squishy guts, flabby arms, et al.

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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What Keeps You From Approaching A Woman? Posted: 8/2/2009 1:21:47 PM
Body language. Learn about it, make a deliberate effort to present the body language you want to project. Believe it or not, your body language will actually change you emotions to fit what your body is doing (like smiling).

jakeo_germany

Joined: 6/17/2006

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How big is too big of an age difference? Posted: 8/2/2009 1:07:12 PM
Yes, too much head. A family member of mine married (2nd time) in his 50s. He's got three kids. He is mid 60s now and his youngest is 8. He is definitely an old dad, but he is a great dad. Makes up in wisdom what he lacks in energy. I wouldn't worry about it.

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