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Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

Msg: 15 (view)

Breastfeeding on a plane. Posted: 11/22/2006 9:37:46 AM
Marita and Freyja... You make good points. Yes.. breast feeding is good... Yes... it will help with pressure in the ears. We all know the benefits of breastfeeding and the importance of being able to do it... But the woman was not asked to stop breast feeding. She was offered a blanket to simply throw over her shoulder and continue to feed. That is it. I've noticed a lot that this topic quickly becomes some sort of woman's rights fight. It's not. No one is against breastfeeding or said it was wrong. This is the issue of should she have covered up or no. Additionally, to argue that you need to grow up if you are uncomfortable with uncovered breastfeeding is ridiculous. As women we are most definately comfortable. Heck, I could see tits in public that didn't have a child attached and think nothing of it. They are just like mine. But not everyone is like that. You say the sex comment shows stupidity but actually I think your manner of approaching opposition shows a lack of ability to participate intelligently. In other counties sex is considered beautiful and can be displayed freely. Here it is not. But that doesn't neccessarily mean we are childish for not wanting sex in our streets. It just means that is the way were are programmed... Some people are uncomfortable in crowded placed... Are they immature because its normal to have crowds? We all are different and uncomfortable with different things. Some people simply don't know how to act when a woman's breast are exposed in ANY manner. Not only that but some see breast feeding as a very personal matter. AND a lot of woman these days scream harrassment if you so much as look down at their chest. How can a man feel comfortable near an exposed breast knowing that if its the wrong woman she can throw a fit simply for him seeing her in a passing glance. Yes, the actual nipple only shows for a second or two, but say an uptight woman waiting for a lawsuit to start notices that a man was looking in her direction when the nipple was exposed. These things happen. And I don't know about you but that would make me uncomfortable...

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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Breastfeeding on a plane. Posted: 11/22/2006 7:46:43 AM
Last week I was in the car and on the radio they were speaking of a woman who was on a plane (Freedom Airlines running a Delta commuter flight) and was breast feeding her child. A flight attendant came to her and offered a blanket for her to cover up so that there was no possibility of making others uncomfortable. The woman refused the blanket saying it was her right to feed her baby and they asked her to leave the flight. You can read the story at: http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,229390,00.html Now, I asked this on another site and got a HUGE response. Some saying she should have pumped others saying pumping is not practical. Some saying its natural and others saying it makes them uncomfortable. You get the point. My personal opinion is that yes, it is illegal to deny a woman the right to breast feed in public and it is a natural and wonderful thing to nuture your child. However, they did not try to stop her or hinder her. They only asked her to please cover with the blanket. It would have taken two seconds to put the blanket over her shoulder (and her husband was there to help)... She is the one who chose not to comply and had to deal with the consequences. I personally am not uncomfortable with a woman breast feeding without being covered, but many people are. Would it have killed her to be sympathetic to that. It seems to me she was just being complicated. And now that she is filing a complaint against them I'm sure this little stance of hers is going to greatly benefit her. But to me it seems that it is law that she can breastfeed in public, but it says nothing about the nature in which she must breastfeed so can't that be left up to the airports discretion. Now I'm curious to hear the voices of POF. Where do you guys stand?

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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reverse racism... this should probably go on another thread... Posted: 11/17/2006 12:47:59 PM
makingupaname... Do me a favor alright. Read the posts.. Then reply. I can say that they choose to because I am in the same place as them and chose better things. I live in a place of poverty. My father has no money. He worked hard to scrap our bits together. And he did it with hard labor. In fields as a farmer. He didn't decide that welfare was better than hard work. As for harsher punishment for black people. Well hun... Don't commit a crime and you won't get a punishment at all. That is where they choose. Who cares if the cops will get them before me. If they weren't doing it then they wouldn't have to worry

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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reverse racism... this should probably go on another thread... Posted: 11/17/2006 10:40:30 AM
Did you even read all of my two posts. They were not crying about being white... They were in reply to someone who wasn't white saying something regarding a white person raising the issue of racism. Don't come at me without all your information together. As far as your very last statement. It was a summary of my last paragraph. Apparently we have the same view so why debate me. Simply because I'm a white person actually saying something about "reverse racism"?... And who is to say that there aren't white people who are decendants of those who were brought over on boats. As someone of mixed race you can understand how things can get all jumbled up in 400 years. Did you know there have been cases of two black people having white babie and two white people have black babies all because of the bits of genes from the other race that came from times of slavery. There is just no way of telling.. Now as far as white people having an economic and polical strong hold... Whose fault is that. I do not know more than 5 black people in my entire county that even so much as vote. Rather than taking a little responsibility they blame the white man for rigging the polls. Do they even realize that what is affecting the polls is that they aren't voting. No.. They blame others. Not to mention that around 30% of black men have lost their right to vote because THEY got incarcerated. Now don't tell me that this is because of where they grew up and I wouldnt understand. On the contrary... I live in jersey... Not but a hop skip and a jump from Camden which is Americas number one most dangerous city. I doubt Canada even has anything like it. I grew up in poverty and am still working my way. But that's just it.. I'm working my way out. I didn't have two parents or even one parent who gave me guidance. I roamed on my own and did as I pleased like many others blame their problems on. But yet and still I went to school and even took classes at a vocational school on my free time. I mastered a skill. And when it came time to graduate I had worked up the skill and recognition to get me a job within the state. I can't get financial aid because they report both my parents though I haven't seen my mother since I was 11 and yet and still I am finding a way. Now keep in mind I work for the department of labor so I see what goes on. I watch clients come in all day (and yes, they are predominantly black). Welfare sends them to us asking that we help find them jobs. This gives them 3 months additional time to receive money from welfare. Within that time they are impossible to find and we refer them back. Welfare sends them to unemployment services and they get three months at the least to give them the run around also. As long as they keep coming back every three months to sign up for a government program they can recieve welfare for 6 years. THEY DON'T WANT TO WORK. So that is why they stay poor. They choose to. Now I do understand that Canada does not deal with half of the things that we deal with here in the State. My family is actually from Canada but my father moved to the states and I was the first born here. I do go there though and I will tell you this. You guys are a thousand times more wholesome then the states could ever imagine. And minorities are few and far between. So you have very little grasp on the truth of a lot of this.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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white girls being racist Posted: 11/17/2006 9:39:54 AM
brown sugar PtII prattrangergirl did not make that statement. She was quoting me. And I'm not surprised that someone questioned it. Not only is it acceptable to make racial remarks about white people, but it is almost practice. Cracker is ok but let me just so much as utter the word and it is a problem. Heck, sometimes refering to someone as black can get you hurt. My evening job consists of all black people and me... No big deal really because in my neighborhood I am the only white girl. It is fine because I am not bothered by much, but the racism very much exists... I hear constant comments that range from innocent things like our supposed lack of rythym, to more serious matters arguing our lack of ability to live in the real world without the help of our parents and I've even been screamed at for being a republican who voted for Bush (keep in mind that I am Democrat but this occurred simply because I am white). I've watched highly qualified white people lose jobs because if a minority was not hired they would risk dealing with affirmative action. I've even talked to cops who said that they were being put in jeopardy because unqualified minorities were being hired in place of qualified individuals simply to meet a quota. How about scholarships for college. There are no scholarships simply for being white, but there are scholarships for being a minority. There are schools for all minorities, but a school for all white kids is a violation. There are places where white people can't even step foot in a door (and yes it happens... Try being white and visiting club chrome in philly). White people are even beaten down simply for being white. It is assumed we are the man that's bringing everyone down. It doesn't matter if we live in the same place or deal with the same struggles. It doesn't matter if the same circumstances that hold them down are holding us down but we are classified in a group which is considered evil and treated as so. And don't get me started on things like "Black Power". You can stand in front of the entire country and preach of black power and celebrate your race. However people are arrested for ever uttering the words "White Power"... Like I said before. White people are no victim. But these days no one else is either. The fact is that if you want equality then you need to stop seeing color at all. If it is racist for me to do something then it is racist for you to do it in return. Not to justify anyones racism these days, but how can you expect there not to be racists when you have come to except racism against white people as ok. You excuse it because there are a lot of rich white people so they can deal with it. I'm not rich. I work very hard to get where I am going. So the point. Until EVERYONE is ready to let go of their racism and even their own pride for their own race then there will be racism. Until we see each other as the same it will continue. Remember that next time you make a joke which you don't consider racist because it was about white people.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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so long!! Posted: 11/11/2006 12:23:08 PM
I'm a girl but I must chime in. Being more expressive and developing our vocabulary more quickly doesn't mean that we have a bigger vocabulary. It simply means we get it first and are more likely to use it. (Come on ladies, I know we like to think we are superior, but let's try to not bend things in our favor just for the sake of remaining on our pedestals) Either way everything said was based on studies which use only a tiny part of our population and as we all know our population is filled with people who contradict the "norm". There are plenty of men who can shock you with their vocabulary while there are plenty of women who can barely differentiate between most words. That's just how it is. Studies leave a lot of room for interpretation and again, cannot be done on the entire population.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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white girls being racist Posted: 11/9/2006 1:15:20 PM
ok bbdoll would you prefer I add the word negative before prejudice... For gods sake. Lets not be silly. Not wanting to date someone due to a their color, skin, or any other features is fine as a preference. Maybe I'm just not attracted to black people and their physical features. Maybe I just don't find a vagina sexy. Maybe I would prefer to get married in a catholic church.. (Those were all examples).. It doesn't mean I hate those groups of people or that I have any opinions or feelings on their race or sex or anything else. Its just a preference. Now if I were to say I wanted nothing to do with black people or women or non-catholics as people then were are in a different situation. People are always crying over something.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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women not responding thier emails Posted: 11/9/2006 12:07:16 PM
Wait wait wait... I got the perfect answer... Do a thread search on the topic and look at the tons of responses that the females on this forum have already made over and over. You are bound to get the truth!

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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white girls being racist Posted: 11/9/2006 11:57:13 AM
canaseal... I wasn't going to get into anything racial... But you just ticked me off.. However I will try and handle this nicely.. Now... What's wrong with a caucasian raising the issue of racism... Do you think that it does not occur in our worlds or something. Do you think white people have never had racist remarks spewed in their direction.. HA! Infact, you saying that was just about as racist as you can get. Sweety... I don't know if you looked around... But caucasians are paying for what our ancestors did... People seem to think it is ok to say rude and mean things about white people... And they do it in full force. Trust me... Do you have any idea how many caucasian people are beat up just for that. If it were the other way around it would be a hate crime. Not to say white people are some kind of victim here... But the truth is that EVERY race deals with racism. And in this day and age, where we are supposed to have equality, people need to stop pulling the race card... I don't owe you anything because of the color of my skin... I'm not bring you down. And I'm not out of tune with the poverty or struggling... Get over it... And here's a hint... history tells us that the races were mixing hardcore back in the day.. You don't know what little bit genes you may have from another race so there really is no way of knowing whose ancestors went through the most struggle..

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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Girls mistaking advances Posted: 11/9/2006 9:54:09 AM
Well I tend to be nieve in the "getting hit on" department... I can never tell for sure until it's said point blank... My friends actually tease me about it because sometimes its obvious and I never pay attention. I just like being friendly and assume everyone else does to so I chit chat and move on. Then when I realize what was going on its usually too late and I'm pissed off because I didn't leave oppurtunity to be asked or to give my number.. lol..

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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Money & Sex Posted: 11/9/2006 9:47:21 AM
I'm sorry, maybe it's me and I just noticed (oops, should have read all the posts)... But aren't posing nude and having sex for money two COMPLETELY different things. Posing nude can be art. It can be beautiful. And no sex is involved.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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What's the best way to find out a girl's age? Posted: 11/9/2006 9:16:49 AM
Well... With 12 year olds suddeny looking like twenty something supermodels I would definately ask for a driver's license.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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white girls being racist Posted: 11/9/2006 9:13:14 AM
People are allowed to have preferences, right? Why would you turn that into some sort of prejudice? Some people don't date people who are short. Some people don't date people who are fat. Some people don't date people with blond hair. Someone people don't date people from other religions. Does this make them prejudice. No... They are not saying that they dislike these people personally or would not be friends with them or socialize them or even break bread with them. All they are saying is that they simply prefer not to date them... The only way that becomes racist is if their preference is driven by prejudice. For example "I wouldn't touch a cracker with a ten foot pole"... Now see that is racist... What is weird to me though is that you said she thinks its not recist because he is black. I'm guessing your friend is nieve. Does she think that racism is only an issue for or against black people?

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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Money & Sex Posted: 11/9/2006 8:40:26 AM
Well... If you want to get technical, most women already do have sex for money. The man has to dish out cash for dinner, a movie, wine, and anything else he might have gotten for her... heh But as far as actually taking cold hard cash for doing the act.... Well... HELL NO... I just can't fathom being paid for it. Here I thought all along that sex was supposed to mean something...

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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I can see your private parts... Posted: 11/9/2006 7:41:48 AM
I think people should always be told. Yeah it is embarrassing... But isn't it more embarrassing to walk around like that all day and let other people.. But this should also be a rule for character flaws. I am a big one on telling people about themselves (when warranted of course)... If someone else is being a jack ass then I'll tell them before they start being a jack ass in front of other people.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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Can Chicks and Guys be strickly friends? Posted: 11/9/2006 7:36:34 AM
I'm a girl and I only have one female friend really. I mean there are a couple others that I might speak with breifly but of the people I really hang around it's mostly men. And there has never been anything between me or any of them. I'm just one of the guys... I mean, they tease and say somethings at times that may be because of an attraction, but to them and to me its a bit weird imagining sleeping with "one of the boys"

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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more than friends? Posted: 11/9/2006 7:28:44 AM
I think it is fine to take friendship to the next level as long as a few conditions are upheld. 1) You talk about it and decide how it could affect your friendship. Make sure that you two could handle moving to the next step together. 2) You must agree that you will both still respect the friendship while dating. By this I mean that there is always a chance the relationship will fail. Depending on the cause of the downfall you could really ruin a friendship. So if you tend to cheat, disrespect women, lie, be insensitive, or be violent then you might want to think extra hard about it being a friend and not just some other girl. It's a girl whose friendship you value beyond the relationship. 3) ALWAYS take it slow. This is extra important with friends. You would typically think with years of friendship that you have already put in your time and can jump in head first. Nope! Bad idea. You know each other as friends. Not partners... Take the time to figure it all out and find out if this really is a good idea. This will help avoid the chance of a bad break-up too.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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question Posted: 11/9/2006 7:21:01 AM
If a grown man threw a fit like that I would not only not give him another chance but I would run as fast as I could in the other direction. He is either way to spoiled or stunted developmentally and that's not for me... I'll take a man.. Not a child.. That is definately not normal!

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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Sexual Harrassment @ Work Posted: 11/9/2006 7:15:49 AM
I guess you didn't read the whole post because you would see that a lot of my concerns lie in the fact that he doesn't get repremanded and seems untouchable... But I guess you wouldn't have noticed that because you were more interested in insulting me than actually contributing something intelligent or useful to the thread. If there is a problem with me then let's keep this out of the forums please.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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Are You Tired? Posted: 11/9/2006 7:12:55 AM
Yeah, we all wish we had somebody at times... But I actually try to ignore it. It seems to me that when people start wanting to have someone so bad that they start settling. They find someone and fall in love with the idea of having someone rather than falling in love with the person. I know for sure I have made that mistake and vowed never again! Either way, I try and fill my life with good friends and family... And when I am lonely... I do something productive. Something to be proud of. Then relationships seem much less important...

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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Sexual Harrassment @ Work Posted: 11/8/2006 9:48:26 PM
Oh ok athletic... A question about sexual harrassment just screams attention I'm sure. God forbid people have any real situations they just could be asking about.. Lying about a situation at work is silly. It's all true.. Infact, since the incident there have been numerous complaints against him and the other guy involved quit. So basically both will be gone soon... However if you don't believe me oh well. Don't answer my threads then... Simple... And I wouldn't jump the band wagon with trolls.. Hence why I left this topic alone a while ago..

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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Do you find shy guys a turn on? Posted: 11/8/2006 12:55:14 PM
dark.. I didn't say that they lacked confidence. I said it seemed as though they did. That is how they come off. Whether or not that is true doesn't matter because thats how they can be percieved... As far as not wanting to talk to you.. Well that has nothing to do with this. He is speaking of being shy... In dating terms. Means someone who does have something to say and does want to talk to you but is shy...

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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Do you find shy guys a turn on? Posted: 11/8/2006 12:38:12 PM
Shyness is not for me. I like a guy who is a people person and very much outgoing. Shyness just isn't attractive. To me it seems as though the person is lacking in confidence. Not only that, but my experience with shy guys is that you have to pull teeth to get them to talk.. ICK! I can very easily dominate a conversation... But that doesn't mean I want to.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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The Price of Being Suave... Posted: 11/8/2006 11:58:48 AM
By understand, you mean take what you said about yourself and mark it as the golden truth. That's not how this works sweety. There is this thing about psychology that many of us love. Your demeanor and your actions speak a lot louder than your words. I understand what you want me to see and I also understand what you are actually showing... Regardless... My advice is the same. You have the choice of listening or not, however if you truly believe that the problem is the lack of people at your level at your age then there is no solution for you.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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confident on the net same as out of the net. Posted: 11/8/2006 11:55:03 AM
In my experiences, though people are all different, they seem to deal with 3 levels of confidence: On the internet they will be at their most confident. On the phone they will be at their least confident. And in person they are at their moderate confidence. Each level varying depending on the person but relative to them specifically.. Did that make sense? I guess basically... Regardless of how confident a person is in general they will be more confident online then in person and less on the phone than either of the other two.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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The Price of Being Suave... Posted: 11/8/2006 9:54:10 AM
Excuse me dawn... But you are just another in a whole line of people who seem to think that a discussion forum has nothing to do with discussing things... You also seem to be one of the ones who thinks that kissing someones backside is more help then telling them the TRUTH... With that said... I never once turned this into a discussion of myself. Through all responses I discussed with him his own demeanor and not my own. Even giving actual advice... However, I am much more straight forward and able to tell it like it is because I really don't care if people think I am a ****. I know who I am... I also know that for every closed minded individual who attacks me for my replies simply because they don't understand, there are 3 or 4 more in line to thank me, agree with me, and compliment me... Why.. Because we are not hear to compete.. Simple to give and seek knowledge... Now, what turns these discussions onto myself is people like you who live in your land of perfect where we all should agree. You take the oppurtunity to try and bring me to my knees rather than reply to the poster... Had you kept your mouth shut or rather messaged me in private then I guess we wouldn't be discussing myself would we... Better yet you could focus your energy on the topic at hand... To mominatrix... Again, you mistake my comments. He doesn't have to act like he has no brain. However he can be down-to-earth. Since when does down to earth mean dumb... Also, I'm sure all are aware of the arrogance of his post.. If he comes off as acting better than other people on the computer than he will in person... Don't you think it's better to let him know that rather than just tell him to hold out for the wondergirl who will like being spoken to like she is of a lower class? As far as my last part.. As crude as it may have been it was true... I said that he was probably compensating for something.. Which is often the case with arrogance. I believe he then revealed what he thought his weakness was therefore answering as to what he was compensating for...

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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Womens Magazines. Posted: 11/8/2006 8:23:30 AM
Well Smith... My guess is that even the Ask A Guy area is probably not that reliable. What you post ends up on your profile so it seems that a lot of guys will say what they think the women of the forums want to hear or what women who check their profile will want to hear...

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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Women and Gay Porn Posted: 11/8/2006 8:08:53 AM
Porns good, however i have to admit I spend more time laughing at how cheesy it is than I do being aroused... As far as gay porn.. Well if it was two women than sure... But two men.. Something about that just isn't attractive... And I'm straight.. Go figure... Maybe I'll stick to just straight sex porn.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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Womens Magazines. Posted: 11/8/2006 6:48:19 AM
Women's magazines simply play on all the things women typically concern themselves with and wrap it up into one tidy little package. And yes, it can go back and forth, but they have to be able to reach women who are happy in a relationship and women who have been hurt or are bitter. They have to touch on women of all races, creeds, colors, styles, mindsets, etc. It's marketing sweety... However, they are simply entertainment and can't be taken too seriously. If you ever pay attention they are always different from month to month. One month men like one thing. The next month they like another. One month you are supposed to play hard to get... The next you are supposed to be an assertive lady. One month you are supposed to use liquid eye liner and the next it is pencil... One month you should wear ugg boots and the next they were the worst thing created... They put in what is popular, typical, and the products of vendors who pay top dollar.. It's all about money and making sure that no matter what girl opens the magazine she will find something she relates to...

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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STINKIE.....PU!! Posted: 11/8/2006 6:36:53 AM
Go to the store... Look for the fragrance gift sets... Pick out one that gets you going and buy it for her.. I would go for a gift set that contains hygeine products too because it could very well be something other than her perfume... So just cover all your basis... And just a side note... Women's bodies can react differently with the ingredients in different perfumes. A helpful idea may be to try giving her a body spray rather than a perfume... It's much less harsh. Much more fresh... And very faint... Either way... Wrap it up nice and include a little card that says you just wanted to give her something nice. Maybe even something that would allow her to pamper herself a little... If you got the set with other hygeine products in it then your story will be totally believable... And don't forget to mention how much this new scent turned you on when you sniffed it in the store!

Fieryredhead85

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Rape fantasy Posted: 11/6/2006 11:17:02 AM
Princess Leigh. Sorry I should have specified when I speaking of the person who believed it was actual rape. I was speaking to Sammy.. I was not happy to see someone treat it as an open invitation. Jar... Again... The fantasy doesn't involved actual rape.. Only aspects of it. And yes, rape can scarr you for life however there are those of us who choose to move on and grow stronger from it.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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Rape fantasy Posted: 11/6/2006 10:36:19 AM
The rape fantasy is not about actually being raped. No one wants to be raped. The rape fantasy pertains more to roleplay. Someone you trust who you know wouldn't hurt you.. It's not real... And should always involve a safe word. it's simply playing on the pleasures of being roughed up a little.. I think it can be very erotic but only with someone you trust greatly and with actual consent. I find it odd that you would even think that it is asking for rape. Thats ridiculous.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

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Confidence. Posted: 11/6/2006 9:54:15 AM
Confidence is really just loving and believing in yourself. Why is it so important? First, if YOU can't love you, then why should I? Second, I'm not petting your ego all the time. You should already feel good about yourself. Insecurities are fine... But too many in too needy a manner is just too much for me. Love who you are no matter how **ed up that really is... Now as to where you can get.. From you. Only you can really take who you are and come to grips with it. Now OP I have a bone to pick with you. Just because some girl doesn't reply does not make her a **. It makes you rejected and unable to handle it so you need to belittle her... Get over it...

Fieryredhead85

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how long before you have your boy friend meet your parents? Posted: 11/6/2006 9:32:43 AM
I tend not to make it a very formal type thing... Typically they meet when said boyfriend (or guy I'm just dating) comes over at a time my dad happens to be home. At that point it's a simple hello and move on... I don't really make much more out of it than that unless I get to some point where I am actually serious. Then my daddy who is my bestest friend tells me what he thinks and we may actually have dinner or something some night. But really my family is too laid back for anything more formal than that.

Fieryredhead85

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I'm just trying to understand Posted: 11/6/2006 9:23:07 AM
why do 'adult' women sometimes post a pic with a finger in their mouth in what seems to be a sort of 'little girl' pose? I doubt it's little girl. I believe it's more just the fact that she is sucking on something. Draws attention to the mouth and make guys think of other things being in place of said finger... Why.. Well... To attract men.. why can't some women set the phone down for a few seconds while their being photographed? Maybe, just maybe... Someone else took the picture while they were on the phone and they thought they looked cute so they kept it.. Or.. maybe the phone is just that important to them and they want you to know. why do some women post a photo and then proceed to tell you how beautiful they are? This is especially confusing when their photo so obviously refutes their words. All these threads where guys talk about confidence and then a girl actually has some and you rip her down for not being beautiful in YOUR eyes... Maybe she is beautiful to herself and many others... You are not the end all.. People can love thermselves without your approval. why post a photo of you standing next to your better looking friend? Is she available? Is it a 2fer special like pizza? Friends are a part of our lives. Why not show them off.. Not only that, but maybe we actually like the way we look in the picture and are not intimidated by having a more attractive friend with us... Either way... Look and drool all you want, but I can guarantee you will not get either girl if you ask if she is single or if you can have both... If a woman uses sexappeal to 'market' herself, why are they so often shocked and appalled when some degenerate only interested in sex shows up only looking for...you guessed it, sex? and promptly disappears when it's not forthcoming? Maybe they just are proud to be sexy. This doesn't mean they want sex. They just simply want to be sexy and be looked at as sexy... This is not an invitation for sex... And most women get propositioned for sex ANYWAY.. So we really don't get upset. We reject them and move on.... With all that said... I have a question for you.... How is it that a man who DOESN'T EVEN HAVE A PICTURE can be so concerned with the pictures of others?

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

Msg: 36 (view)

how many women will e-mail a guy 1st? Posted: 11/6/2006 8:16:28 AM
When it comes to emails, I am always sending them out... You get nothing sitting around waiting so I make sure to let people know I'm around.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

Msg: 27 (view)

The Price of Being Suave... Posted: 11/3/2006 3:49:12 PM
Wow a change in story. First we can't afford pictures. Now we are scared.. Amazing.. Either way I will give you the benefit of the doubt.. And I already stated how to deal with the problem. Stop trying so hard to be the 24/7 intellectual and try a good 50/50 mixture of intellectual and down-to-earth. You will get much better results...

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

Msg: 25 (view)

The Price of Being Suave... Posted: 11/3/2006 3:34:21 PM
Sweety.. I don't have problems with big words. I am very intelligent.. I also know about a simple word called appropriate. Yes.. Sometimes we need only speak in certain ways when appropriate... Not all the time... As far as me saying you are compensating. Well you are.. Plain and simple. I never said what it could be. I only gave speculation that it could be one of those two things... What you are actually over compensating for only you know.. And explain all you want why you don't have a picture. Those excuses are a dime a dozen. There is absolutely NO reason to not have a photo. walmart picture disc $3... Look into it.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

Msg: 15 (view)

The weight issue??? Posted: 11/3/2006 1:21:43 PM
psssst.. Stop it! I've spit on my screen twice now! (Girl.. Thank you for being honest when I can't find a nice way to do it myself...)

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

female love Posted: 11/3/2006 1:16:31 PM
I think I'll have to go with Hottest of The Hot's post. Yeah I experimented (and took it much much farther than I should have.. OOPS).. But in the end it will never match up to that of a man.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

5 girls to every guy? Posted: 11/3/2006 11:37:18 AM
DANP.. I gotta love your posts... Glad to see people who don't sugar coat every little flippin thing and tell people the truth..

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

The Price of Being Suave... Posted: 11/3/2006 11:33:46 AM
Smiling... A Confident person doesn't need to state to the world how great they are.. If someone is telling you that their shit don't stink then it is because they are insecure. They want to tell you they are the best because they think you can't determine that yourself. This is not confidence. Confidence is never spoken.. Arrogance however is...

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

Shutting out the world... or just your love? Posted: 11/3/2006 11:31:21 AM
My guess if she isn't checking her emails at all is that she is dealing with something way beyond you in which case just let it be for a while. If it gets to be too much time then you have to lay it on the line.. Another possibility.. Maybe she's afraid to tell you she's ready to end it.. I hope thats not the case.. But it's possible. Either way.. Just lay low and spend as much time as you can keeping busy so you don't drive yourself nuts.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

Msg: 33 (view)

Shutting out the world... or just your love? Posted: 11/3/2006 11:19:28 AM
Well she has POF.. So why not just take the time and write her out a message spilling all the beans and asking all the questions... Then just relax until you hear from her...

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

The average female! Posted: 11/3/2006 10:45:32 AM
Exactly Smith!

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

Msg: 20 (view)

What do you think about a guy who has HIV? Posted: 11/3/2006 10:43:37 AM
it is in the eys of the law for all intents and purposes RAPE. Shaking my head ... I just don't know where you guys come up with this stuff. It's not RAPE. In the eyes of the law ... probably more like Grievous Bodily Harm ... but not actual RAPE. I believe it's actually reckless endangerment.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

Msg: 151 (view)

Women, do you think they're attractive or ugly? Posted: 11/3/2006 10:31:36 AM
They are ugly as hell. but its not about the look.. It's the function.. And just so you know. putting them in our mouth is mostly for you (though getting a guy off does really turn me on)... We could stop though if you would prefer.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

Msg: 7 (view)

What's the difference? Posted: 11/3/2006 9:39:17 AM
Why do we need to compare wrongs... Does it make you feel better to know she did something wrong too? It's like this.. You messed up. Deal with it move on. What she has done with other friends is between them... None of your business...

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

Msg: 14 (view)

The Price of Being Suave... Posted: 11/3/2006 9:23:45 AM
Well here's the thing.. Being articulate is one thing... Using as many big words as you can and talking as if you have a stick implanted in your butt is completely different. Intelligence is great... But when not discussing intellectual things lets try and just talk like a down to earth person... Seems to me that you are trying to come off as a very mature young man. Which is great... Teenage girls always talk about finding a guy with some maturity... But every girl just wants to have fun.. And listen to you talk like jeeves all the time isn't so much fun.. Again... Down-to-earth and intelligent is the key.. And don't tell me you don't have your nose up in their air... Look at the last line.. "my problematic advantage".. Which basically means that you are the greatest but no one else appreciates it so it's a problem for you... Oh and I love the lines about being too good to be true... I'm sure thats all you ever hear... Maybe this is an attention seeking post just a bit? My biggest conclusion. You are lacking somewhere... And the lack of picture tells me its probably in the looks area... Maybe even more in the crotch area... So hey... Just stop overcompensating.

Fieryredhead85

Joined: 6/19/2006

Msg: 18 (view)

some women say... Posted: 11/3/2006 9:13:12 AM
Of course it is true.. Though not all the time... Like I have said many of times.. I love discussion, debate, and learning. I want a man who can stand his ground and not only bring enormous amounts of information and insight to a conversation, but to also be willing and eager to recieve information. A man on a quest for knowledge is absolutely sexy.. Just remember that life can't be serious all the time. Sometimes I want to be goofy or playful or just plain stupid too.. So there has to be a balance between intellectual and light hearted...

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