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1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

Is it my destiny to be single??? Posted: 3/18/2007 10:59:32 PM
Do you like a challenge;are they just out to get it as easy and fast as they can? Each guy is different in this area but in general a guy thinks about sex quite often. Is a confident (not stuck up) woman intimidating? sometimes she can be....It is all based on the confidence level of each guy. Are you really interested in what a woman has to say;does her opinion matter? I have learned to try to understand women. they feel better cecause someone listened to them Is it a turn of for a woman to be blunt; while having tact of course. Most guys can't take that kind of abuse. It hurts thier egos. Do you pick women based on looks? I am a very visual creature...therefore looks are important. Is an intelligent woman a turn off or intimidating? I like intelligent women...why I like meeting them in book stores. Do you think all blondes are dumb and easy? Yes...I do. Is it possible for you to stay in a relationship when sex is put on the back burner till way later? Past about the 5th date or so I would split. men need sex...usually not willing to wait. Is it always,"bros b4 Ho's"? LOL... pardon the terminology Yes. If the woman sees that you have put her on a pedestal then she thinks she owns you. Is it all bad when a woman can hang out with you and the boys once in a while and not complain but really enjoy herself? sure this is possible! why do you hotties pick some of the less attractive women? For every beautiful woman out there....some dude is sick of her crap Is an attractive woman intimidating do you think she will be a bad choice in the end mabey turn in to a psycho all of a sudden? Attractive women have so many problems with themselves internally that I would rather not bother. I guess what it all comes down too I am trying to get a glimse of what you think about ?? I think about sex more often than anything else. BJ can be sex so that is second on the list of thoughts. Yes you need to be good in bed or we will split. We do not like to be told what to do. What is the most attractive about a woman is it the way she walks,talks,smells,looks,her hair? I know it depends on the guy and the woman but I guess I can compile answers ans get a general idea of what is goin on in a mans head mabey first thing I do is look for a ring. Then I figure out if she smokes(yuck). If she has kiddos then that is a plus because I know that she knows how to have sex and I really don't have to worry about that. Next I throw attraction out there and see how attracted she is, then I pull back to see if she pushes. I push then pull. I do not tell her everything to keep her interested and to create mystery. Next I need 6 hours of comfort with her which usually involves a timebridge like phone calls. Next is to get her to the seduction location. when resistance is felt it is time for a freeze out and she will try to figure out why I don't want her then she is more attracted and has sex with me. After sex we can figure out if we really want the thing most people call a relationship. Hope this helps. All is true except the last paragraph. Dwayne

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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Any one know about Reiki? Posted: 3/18/2007 10:18:18 PM
Reiki is many things. Put in terms that you can understand....Reiki is using a form of energy called universal energy. I can not explain where the universal energy comes from. One may use the universal energy to help heal others or themselves. One does not heal others so to say rather than use the universal energy and channel this energy to themselves or to others. Yes, some use it for meditation, others for healing. It can be used for something as simple as helping your food digest or as complex as the worst medical complication being cured. One can infuse reiki energy into medicine or other objects to helt those objects heal better. reiki can be used at a great distance also. Reiki is having the ability to channel universal energy to do a wide variety of things. It is not a religion, nor do you have to believe in it. Being the recipient you must allow the energy to help you. You can refuse to allow it to help you. Hope this helps. this information is available in a book called "Reiki Healer" and in various places on the internet. I believe the reason you asked vs. doing a google search was to see how many people believe in it. Yes?

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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Pushing for a girl's address or to be invited to her home.. ? Posted: 1/12/2007 10:25:58 PM
How is it that you have dated the needy and clingy types. There is a difference between rude and confident. Are you overly flirtatious? Mabey they got the wrong impression. These men have to be getting some type of cue that it is ok to do this or they are just not very confident men. I am very laid back about the whole going to her house thing. When she invites me and the right signals in body language are there then I will motivate the physical part. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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The unwritten law strictly between men Posted: 1/12/2007 10:19:28 PM
When entering the restroom you look for the urinal that is the furthest away from the other guy until there are no other spare stalls or urinals. A confident dude would never look at another guys package. It is forbidden. It is called RESPECT. It is a good way to get your ass beat down too. Guys don't take kindly to that type of treatment. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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If a girl says she likes you and then hugs you what does that mean? Posted: 1/12/2007 10:06:49 PM
If the words "let's just be friends" or "it is good to be friends" or "can we be friends first" or "I am not ready for a relationship" or "I am gonna see my x BF again" ever comes up during that HUG then the sexual part of the relationship is gone. You have in some way demonstrated lower value or just plain been too nice. Nice does not work. If there is a hug and you thought about kissing her but didn't then it is probably over. She will only give you one or two chances to be assertive. She does not want the guilt of motivating and escalating the physical part of the relationship. It is your job to do it. I know I am a guy but I have been in these situiations and thank God I am not like that any more. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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Compliments, being a gentlemen and other forgotton traits.. Posted: 1/12/2007 9:55:25 PM
Too many compliments in the beginning signal to a woman that the guy really has nothing interesting to talk about. Compliment a woman that you have just met and you get a thank you and the conversation is over. She has heard it 14 times that day. I try to stay outside the box when it comes to being predictable......and that turning into boring. Boring and predictable equals the next relationship......and some guys hit you with so many compliments that they become needy and clingy......bahhhh. Don't you hate that. There is a balance and most dudes don't get the balance. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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What if you really liked the girl but the sex was terrible? Posted: 1/12/2007 9:47:26 PM
All BS aside......SEX is very important to very young men....like ages 70 and younger. After 70 we will take the emotional part of the relationship over the sex....That is all for now. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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WHAT'S THE MOST ORIGINAL PICK UP LINE EVER USED ON YOU....THAT WORKED Posted: 1/12/2007 9:25:50 PM
There are no really good PU lines. Have extreme confidence. Ask opinion type questions that do not involve in any way the subject of religion, politics or death. Do not seek approval from them...it reaks of low self esteem. Maintain the fact that you need to go soon so as not to smother them. Do not be needy and clingy as this demonstrates lower value than the other party involved. Be a very interesting person and learn how to find out what her passions are. Do not be reaction seeking. Ask for her freakin number for crying out loud after you have made a connection and don't take it personal if she dosen't give it to you. If you do not know what a connection is then there is no hope for you. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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How important is religion to you? Posted: 11/11/2006 5:32:08 PM
IMHO, Never bring up religion or politics or cars. That is a NO NO. Especially on a first date. First dates are to learn a little about them and show them that you are comfortable to be around. What do I know....Im a dude lol

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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what is the common mistakes men make with women? Posted: 11/11/2006 5:21:11 PM
I was curious wether it was before or after you have attracted her. I will assume that you have already attracted her enough to have dates with you. Operate in your frame. If you operate in her frame too much then you will be considered weak. Being too nice is translated in woman language to weak.(it is crazy because they say they want a nice guy all the time) Confidence is key to success. Unfortunately to gain confidence you have to date and get good results....total catch 22. Women have congruency tests. They will not tell you this. It is a way of finding out if what you convey on the outside is congruent with what is on the inside. You will not know it is a congruency test until it is too late. Women have had lots of experience with many men, it is in thier nature to test us to see if we are who we say we are. For instance, if she tells you to do something and you immediately do it then you have failed her test and you are a wuss in her eyes....she can control you. Another thing is becoming boring and or predictable. When you become predictable she becomes bored and not sexually attracted to you. Stop doing the same things the same way all the time. Mix it up a bit. Kiss her and pull her close......later if she sits on your lap push her away. It works on her emotions and she has to wonder "does he like me" Always keep her guessing......this it what creates attraction. Make her miss you. Don't call her all the time. Wait a few days to create that missing him factor. Give her time to miss you. If you are constantly bugging her or up her ass then she will know that you have no real life and will see you as a wuss. Weak=wuss=no attraction from her. There is so much to keep track of. Manintain eye contact with her often. Eye contact will get major attraction points because most men will not do it. It says a lot about you if you do this. You stand out. Hope this helps even though I am a guy. Women.....tell this stuff is important. You know deep down it is. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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Best way to show interest in a girl? Posted: 11/11/2006 4:49:30 PM
I usually use one of two methods. The three second rule will not work in your case. Sounds like you have seen her a few times in this store. Use the make a connection method. Be very careful with body language on the approach. Body language is 55% of our communication with others. Your voice tone is another 38% of the conversation. Only 7% of your words mean anything to her. Don't believe it? Look it up. It is true. Don't lean into the conversation too much because it conveys too much interest up front and you will be blown out. Too much interest up front conveys neediness to a woman and she sees it as a demonstration of lower value and as a weakness. Keep your hands at your side and do not fidget, it conveys nervousness. Do not put your hands in front of your stomach, it conveys that you are shielding yourself. Ask her an opinion question to get the conversation going(something like "my friends and I were talking today....dental floss.....before or after you brush?) Let her know that you do not have much time and you have to go soon, this sets her at ease and lets her know that you will not be there all night. Body rock out of the conversation a few times to convey that you need to go. Your goal is to get her number and or email. Number is preferred. Do not talk to her like you are seeking her approval, this demonstrates lower value and she will never be sexually attracted to you. Leave the conversation on a high note and take two steps away from her.....then turn around and ask her if she has email. When she says yes, take that as a yes that she will give you her info. When she is writing down her email make sure that you ask her for her phone number also. Be sure to ask if it is a number you will be able to reach her at. Making a connection with her is very important. Listen when she talks to find words that lead to something that she likes. Remember that women love to talk about themselves. I know that it seems like a lot to keep up with but it is all VERY IMPORTANT. There is lots more but I already have a small novel going here. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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she says she doesnt shit Posted: 11/11/2006 4:14:52 PM
It would not be real attractive and I would know that she was full of shit for saying that she did not shit. I would use NLP and boyfriend doestroy her until she sleeps with me

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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Stroking it.... Posted: 11/11/2006 4:09:38 PM
Nice subject line...it gets attention. If I have barely known a woman and I get a lot of compliments I question it in my mind. If I have been seeing her for a while then I think of it as more sincere. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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Show it off or Cover it up? Posted: 11/4/2006 2:00:01 PM
I get the best results when I tell her to wear what she wants when she wants to. No Restrictions. When you box her up and put restrictions on her.....a guy like me shows up and your boyfriend status turns to borefriend status. Let her do her thing with clothes to express herself....she is going to do it when whe breaks up anyway? LOL. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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would you go to the store for her Posted: 11/4/2006 1:54:16 PM
I see this kind of stuff as a congruity test. If you go to the store then you are supplicating to her and jumping through her hoops. I will go if she rides in the car with me. I would buy a case of them so they last a very long time. This is really a frame game to see how far you will supplicate to her. I am not being mean by asking her to ride with me......I am just tossing my hoop out there to get her to supplicate. I am keeping the frame true. If any of you dudes experience this often.....not just tampons..many other congruency games....it is important to make her jump through your hoop first or you will find that she controls the relationship soon and you will not have a relationship even sooner. I really don't care what you really have to say. I know about these test. Ask a woman you are not in a relationship with in confidence and she might tell you what I am talking about. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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Have you ever changed from a no spark zone to spark....? Posted: 11/4/2006 1:40:32 PM
The real problem with this is that many guys have no idea what it means to make a connection with a woman. Meeting someone is easy.....making the connection is an art. Attraction is really not a choice. Remember back to a night that you were so attracted to a guy that you did not want the night to end? Did he hae a million bucks or look like Brad Pitt? Hell no, he just turned on so many attraction triggers in you that you felt a deep desire to spend time with him. No amount of money or propositions of sex can evoke attraction from a guy if he is not interested. The same rings true for women. The more you pine for him or her....the more you are repelled. I have seen this with my friends many, many times. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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Approaching women in bars Posted: 10/26/2006 6:05:04 PM
50% of the women you come in contact with will not be looking. Watch your body language on the approach. This is 55% of your communication with them. Approach after you have seen her for only three seconds.(don't lurk and get the guts up to approach....they know you are lurking) Don't be so friggin nice. Compliments up front usually say that you are not interesting enough to have a great conversation with her. Ask her opinion questions.....ones that require thought........then frickin LISTEN to HER. The LISTENING is KEY. This provides more valuable nuggets in the future. Don't lean into the conversation....it signifies too much interest up front. Ask her opinion. Give a time constraint so she does not think you are gonna hang with her all night and bore her to death. Display some valuable conversation. At some time ask how everyone knows each other. Don't talk just to her....keep conversation with everyone in her group.......Do not seek approval from her. Do not seek her reactions. Unless you have a friend near do not approach a set of only two girls, you will never be able to isolate her to build rapport or get a phone number to see her later because her friend will be all alone. Wait for the point where you can tell she is interested in you.(you might not know if she is very, very beautiful...these women know guys well....they have lots of practice because they are beautiful) Then and only then can you seek rapport with her. If you seek rapport with her too soon she will blow you out and it will be on to the next girl. I have many more nuggets but I have learned over a long period of time. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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Elements of allure............ Posted: 10/26/2006 5:46:22 PM
I think about being with someone who just wants to be excellent. To continue to learn things and not stagnate and hit some form of comfort zone in life. I like her eyes to be lit up like they are full of life. A smile will help. An emotional connection is great too. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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You've figured out its over.. what do you do now? Posted: 10/26/2006 5:40:21 PM
You could look at it another way.. For every beautiful Woman (Man) out there.... Some dude (Chic) is sick of her (his) sh*t. It works in both directions. It is best to talk about it with him and learn from it if he can be honest. He needs to know you will not blast him for telling you......this the key to get honesty.

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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You've figured out its over.. what do you do now? Posted: 10/26/2006 5:36:51 PM
If you want to be the adult AND learn why, it is best to call him and ask him why. First tell him that your feelings will not be hurt, and don't blast his as* for telling you the truth. Emailing can also work because he has the shield of the internet to protect himself. Take what he says and learn from it. If it is bullsh*t then you will know. If you can take the CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM then just do it and learn from it..... D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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Body Language Posted: 10/26/2006 5:28:25 PM
Lets take a look at what the most common mistakes are when somebody tries to pick up a girl: • Talking too fast (being nervous) • Talking too much (trying to impress her) • Not knowing what to say next (not enough practice) • Drinking (to become comfortable) • Asking too many questions (you create rapport too soon, but she doesn’t want your rapport unless you have attracted her first) • Body language wrong (hands connected, feet too close, shoulders down, leaning in) • Buying her drinks (trying to buy her over, or even worse, trying to get her drunk) • Not being comfortable talking with strangers (social anxiety) Does any of this radiate with any confidence??? Hell no!! Take a look and see that every action here projects INSECURITY!! Ok, let’s correct this poor body language together. Here is list of things that you must FIX… • Keep your hands out of your pockets. • Stand with you feet wider apart. • Never look down when you walk, look above the horizon • Stand with your chest pushed outwards • Keep your shoulders relaxed and back • Walk confidently and slowly with bigger steps • Take up lots of space, no matter where you are • Pay attention to how you dress • Always lean back. • Touch people when you talk with them (non-sexual), because you must create conversation on all levels, not just verbal. (Later she is going to be used to your touch, and that is perfect for the pre-sex stage!) • All your body language should be comparable in speed. For instance, moving with confidence is good, but it looks incongruent if you talk fast at the same time. Hope all of this helps dude. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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Best Prank Ever Posted: 10/26/2006 5:15:22 PM
I live in south carolina and the gay thing on his vehicle is the greatest. A huge pink bow with magnetic #24 Nascar. Then a few gay pride stickers on the back windshield. Take pictures and post on internet to his friends the same day. Will stop a true redneck in his tracks. They are sooooo homophobic. He will be so freakin pissed....you got him. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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The mystery of men.... Posted: 10/26/2006 5:07:54 PM
Are you pushed aside because you don't have sex or is your self limiting belief that you will not get along unless you have sex? Is this for guys that you meet online only? I do not want to trample on the wrong grounds.........but........can it be that you are being pushed aside for reasons other than sex? Look at every interaction you have and learn from it. Be very honest before meeting someone and be very careful of any expectations you might have from the guy. Every guy is different. Work on yourself in the process of finding someone. Know that for every guy you date......you are closer to knowing what you really want from a guy. You are not going to find him on guy number three.(possible but not realistic) Have fun dating. Get the guy to tell you the real truth when you are done with each other. Tell him you can handle the truth. Don't be pissed at him for telling you. He might have more to tell you later if you don't burn the bridge. It is tough but you will learn quickly. You may need to put your shield up to listen to his accusations or presentation. If there is a pattern with the presentation.......you know you need to change from that pattern. Learn from it and change accordingly. If it is something you will not be able to change...........you will have to find some way. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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HELP! Posted: 10/26/2006 4:52:02 PM
First date sex for me has only given a relationship based on sex. I will respect her in the morning but I will wonder.... Is she always like that on the first date? Is there some hidden agenda that I need to know about? Sex is great, but if you really like him......wait at least a week or so or He will think of you as a F*** Buddy. (FB)

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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What does a man in uniform look for??? Posted: 10/26/2006 4:46:59 PM
The person that we are is not described by the position that one has. I ahve washed dishes, been a Navy Nuclear Electrician and now I repair machines in a major tire factory. This does not change the way I am when I am not at work. Work does not define me as a being. In fact, ask me about work within 10 minutes of meeting me and I will be gone. FAST. If you are bringing up work then you must not be very interesting. I do not mean to blast you.....these are the facts. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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Do guys just move on?? Posted: 10/26/2006 4:40:12 PM
If you didn't gain a hundred pounds in the last year and he didn't somehow turn to being gay.....then he is still interested on a lower level. He would need to know that you are interested in him. D Rock

1fixitman

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Shaving...... Posted: 10/26/2006 4:36:32 PM
I don't go down if she is not shaven. I kinda like for her to take the time to be shaven on legs and at least trimmed downstairs. I can take the underarm for a time or two. Please shave for him. He will like it/ you more for taking the time to do it. JUST DO IT! D Rock

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Ladies that heve pics of themselves with other guys.. Posted: 10/26/2006 4:30:01 PM
If you have a picture with a girl in it friggin post it. It social proofs you. Women want you because you have other women. They want what they can not have. I really don't care if a guy is in the picture with her or not. It is clear that she is now looking, maybe he became boring and predictable. I know that other guys want her too. No jealousy factor here. It is social dynamics at work. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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how do you keep a relationship spicy? Posted: 10/26/2006 4:23:45 PM
You know when things become boring and predictable that it is over soon. You can tell him that you want something different. Dress up in a miniskirt with heels and " do a little dance" for him. Tell him that there will be some sex going on tonight wether he is there or not. Have him blindfold you. Don't let him tie you up on monday night, he might go watch football for 2 hours. Have you ever shared your deepest fantasy with him? Let him act out your deepest of all fantasies. If that one works, tell him another. Me....I can lick, pinch, touch, tease, suck, flick, rub, press, seduce you every way you thought possible then do everything in a not so random order 35 minutes later and you will not know where you are. The fact is that if he gets too boring for you there are many men out there that can and will give you the sediction of a lifetime. Communicate with him or a great guy like me will show up and it will be too late. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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What to do when there is no SEX Posted: 10/26/2006 3:55:52 PM
Find a psych that knows about Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) This stuff if very, very, very powerful. It can help you or someone you love or know to get past ANY obstacle. It is absolutely amazing. It changes the patterns and ways that your brain thinks. It can help him form an anchor for his sex drive. Every time he is in the mood for sex(him, not you forcing it some way) have him rub his left index finger with his right hand. Have him do this every single time HE is in the mood and you did not leverage it in some way. This will form an anchor for him so that when he rubs his left index finger with his right hand his brain will think "it is sex drive time" and he will pour on the sex so much that you will beg him form a "settle down anchor." Forming this anchor can be over a period of a few times or a dozen times. Talk to him about when he was last very aroused by you, elicit the visions he saw, sounds he heard, feelings he felt......now have him magnify these visual things, audible things and feelings. Then if he is aroused again......set the anchor again. You can replay this many times for him in a day or a week to set the anchor and you will be amazed. Beware! There may be something that happened to him in his childhood that he has not let out yet that is causing the problems(he will have strong feelings and visualizations for this timeframe)....these feelings can be minimized so well that he will never think the same way about them again. D Rock You know what to do if you want more.

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

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Ok guys answer this question for me Posted: 10/26/2006 3:34:29 PM
All guys have approach anxiety. For some it is not much, for others it can pull them to thier knees it hurts so bad. Approaching a guy is great and all but it is always great when a guy contacts you first. You know without a doubt that he is interested in your profile and picture and possibly you on the first meet. Guys that contact women are very, very, very confident. Hell, I contact women just to be friends and I tell them this. I would rather make the approach. It continues to build my confidence every time I approach:) A guy can never have too much confidence, it completely shows in my body language. D Rock

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What Am I Doing Wrong? Posted: 10/21/2006 9:07:37 PM
Ever thought about changing your messages to women. Like....instead of kissing thier a*s and being nice all the time, which shows weakness, being funny and** and don't compliment her until your second date. Women are soo sick of the nice guy and they don't give him 30 seconds much less a message back. Don't shower her with compliments and gifts up front. That is sooo typical of guys. Make your first message to them fun and exciting. Ask them what they want to be when they grow up? What ever you are doing......change it and just be different. If it don't work.....dont do what you are doing two times harder. Don't be boring and predictable. Don't kiss her at the end of the night, do it 20 minutes into the second meeting. Just do things very different from the way you have been programmed thus far in life to do. I know I am a dude.....but I speak the truth. Work on your confidence and go meet women in person. Get over your shyness with women and just be calm around them. Now..........go meet some women! D Rock

1fixitman

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why do woman say Posted: 10/21/2006 8:40:32 PM
Dude, Women think that they want the looks. Go meet a woman in public and display some value to her, she will become attracted because attraction is not a choice. Do not escalate keno too fast and give her about 7 hours of comfort. She is yours. Women are less forgiving about looks in the real world because of attraction not being a choice. When they are behind the walls of the internet they have soooo much time to look at your picture and make judgements. Stop being to f*****g nice and meet women for real in real life and get over your fear of the approach and gain some confidence and get away from this internet crap where they have all the time they want to pick and choose. Meet ....Attract ....Comfort .....you get the idea. If what you have been doing for 48 years dosen't work for you....then do something different. duh. Handle it man. D Rock

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callin the guy the first few weeks Posted: 10/21/2006 8:33:13 PM
If you call/pursue him then he will know you are interested....the way I play ball is to always call her but like NOT every day. Maybe once or twice a week. She will have a chance to "Miss me" and the attraction will grow. If you call him all the time then you will never know if he is actually interested in you.....Here is a tip....If he is not running away real fast....he is still interested. Don't sweat the small s**t. Guys are like rubberbands. They spring away then bounce back. Each time the bounce back will be less time. You need to give a guy room and not smother him. If you call too often and bug him to death then you will give him buyers remorse and he will be done with you. The key here is that the one that cares less about the relationship is always in control of the relationship. Read it, process it, read it again. It is soooooo true. D Rock

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did women kill chivalry? what do we need to do to bring it back? Posted: 10/21/2006 8:20:34 PM
What you are asking for is the nice guy. The problem is that men's roles have changed over the years. Women no longer require men to be providers or protecters. Men have no idea what to do anymore. But they don't know that a woman will drop everything for a man that knows how to seduce a woman....I don't mean this in a bad way. This is in a very good way. Women associate nice with weak. They say that they want nice but thier unconscious minds will not let a nice guy near them long enough. When a guy is too nice too soon the b!%&h shield goes up and it is on to the next piece of sausage. Women do not give it a second thought. Women are hardwired to replicate only with men of higher value than themselves and men that are higher value than other men that she has come in contact with. Our goals are to survive and replicate. If there is a fear of our replication partner to be weak then it is.......exactly........on to the next piece of sausage. Try next time a regular guy gives you a compliment.....actually speaking with him and getting to know him. You may be surprised at the type of chivalry you will receive....you may need to deal with the wuss thing in the future but you will get mr. nice guy and he will indeed be nice.....don't expect him to make the first move with you because he has been rejected his entire life and has little to no confidence with women due to that. Nuff said. Want more. You know what to do. D Rock

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Joined: 6/22/2006

Msg: 143 (view)

Why cant women get picked up anymore Posted: 10/21/2006 8:02:12 PM
Guys get approach anxiety on every single approach. Women really don't understand it because they are approached so often. On the back end, no pun intended, women get Last Minute Resistance just before sex and men do not understnd it. If we could just compromise and trade the approach anxiety for LMR then we would be better off. For me....I feel the anxiety and just push through it. The shorter period of time I wait before I approach, the less time I experience the bad feeling. Boom...I have broken the ice and it is smooth sailing from there provided there is not a huge b&%h shield up and anti s&t defense going, and resistance to hand holding and anything keno and you get my point. Guys have been rejected so many times that they are sick of approaching. What they truly do not know is that the problem is thier game. The guy is the problem 99.9% of the time....Attraction for a woman is not a choice. GUYS, just get past your insecurities and figure what to do at each step. Chunk every little thing into your game and the women will love you for it. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

Msg: 10 (view)

dating a recovered sex addict Posted: 10/21/2006 7:47:45 PM
Where are thier meetings. I would wear a T-shirt that read free sex here, get some now.....lol You gotta cut up once in a while. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

Msg: 122 (view)

Why is it when women are on top, it seems like men come almost immediately? Posted: 10/21/2006 7:44:46 PM
Hun, If he is not stacking orgasms on you before you climb on top....ehem.....we need to talk. Get your pleasure first. After he is spent he loses half of his sex drive... For me personally her on top is great and long lasting for me. Some guys are very visual and to see you on top of him might be just enough to send him through the roof. He gets to watch you slowly or quickly stroke him. Yummy. I love that sight, it is soooo sexy. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

What date is sex okay? Posted: 10/21/2006 7:35:22 PM
Most women are OK with sex after 7 hours of time spent with each other. This can be addative time. 1.25 hours on the first meet. .5 hours on the phone. 2.5 hour date. .25 hour phone call three days later. 3 hour date in future. When the comfort is there then she is ready. She just has to know that he will be around for a while after sex. If not then he has to deal with a lot of Last Minute Resistance before sex......Comfort building is key. Also you might have sex with a guy A after two dates........then it will take 12 dates for guy B because he has somehow said in many different ways that he is long term material.....in that case women tend to hold back on the sex for 99 forevers and eventually lose him. Funny how that works. COMFORT is the answer here. Some guys just suck at building comfort with women. I am quite different. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

Msg: 27 (view)

Phone numbers in the first message! Posted: 10/18/2006 6:27:09 AM
No different than a guy meeting you in real life and asking or giving info. Sounds confident and like he does not want to waste three weeks on the internet. I like to meet people in person to see if I am interested. The more you message back and forth the more likely you are not to meet. In my experience, anything more than four or five messages......you will not meet. I usually get a phone number from her on the third message or so. Messaging after that is ok but not required. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

re premarital sex Posted: 10/16/2006 6:40:07 PM
Ahhh, sex.....yummmy. Back to reality....it is different for each guy. You know what I am talking about. You will end up in bed with the ones that turn enough of your attraction switches on and keep them on quickly. Vs a guy that turns those attraction switches on slowly over a period of time. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

Msg: 23 (view)

Dazed & confused...so WTF??? Posted: 10/16/2006 6:23:39 PM
Guys are like rubberbands. We will see you then we want some space. Each time we see you we want less space and the bounceback time is sooner and sooner. If you slept with him while you were there and he did not feel 100% about you guys being in a relationship then it is over. I don't want to sound bitter but this is how it works. Give him time to feel attracted to you in the future. Meet for coffee at the halfway point. Hope this makes sense to you and I am glad you had the balls.....well whatever you want to call it to post about this situiation. Happy searching D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

a new side on women? Posted: 10/16/2006 6:09:25 PM
Dude, You replied too soon. Always wait 2-3 days before you reply. If you reply same day it says without words that you have nothing better going on in your life. Get some hobies and have some interest other than women. Don't get real needy and clingy or bee toooooo nice early. Women see this as needy. Show them that you can wait a few days.....it amps up the attraction. It gives them time to miss you. If they don't want to get to know who you are because of a picture then she just disqualified herself......really you should rejoice that she did that. You don't have to deal with a high maintenance woman who only cares about how you look. On another note. If you know how to make a woman feel attraction for you it is better to just find a few in the real, live world and see them. Don't take it personal. She said no to a picture,,,,,,not to you. Shrug it off like it didn't happen and get out there in the real world and meet some real women. Do not go seeking approval or being needy and clingy....women will drop you like a bad habit cold turkey style and run in the opposite direction. Nuff said. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

A question for the Spiritual (not religious) Posted: 10/16/2006 5:31:10 PM
If there is a unitarian church in your area you can check that out. Most of my pagan/spiritual friends go to that type of church...Just a chance for you to get out and meet some new peeps. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

Msg: 7 (view)

Beware webcam scams Posted: 10/13/2006 8:13:43 AM
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1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

Beware webcam scams Posted: 10/13/2006 8:04:18 AM
If the site has a way to contact them....they are usually very good at removing the address. Unfortunately they do not share the info with other singles sites to Black List these addresses. The scammers can also get new email addresses like they are going out of style. Don't be lazy. Take the time to report EVERY FRIGGIN ONE OF THE SCAMMERS OR WEBCAB BIYATCHES. Can you tell I hate them too? I feel what you are feeling Dude. L8r D Rock

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Joined: 6/22/2006

Msg: 3 (view)

how long must i wait before i have sex with a guy? and is it ok for me to be myself? Posted: 10/13/2006 7:54:47 AM
None of my male friends would date long term with a woman who has sex with them on the first date nor would I. I have only done this with two women....I indeed had buyers remorse the next day, though we had a great time. I really like to wait a few dates and let her build some attraction. I like to make her miss me inbetween dates. It fires up the attraction level and the sex is better and she is long term material. All depends what you want out of the relationship. Are you just seeking fun for now....or is this a long term search? Always be yourself and don't worry what most other people think. My whole life changed when I made this decision 4 years ago. Have you sat down by yourself and gone through all the things you want from a man? Define it and put it in your head....you will start attracting these kind of men in your life. The sex thing...If you feel that you are having a great time and you want the sex then make the decision and have fun. Just know that you may have buyers remorse the next day if you do not reframe it in your mind. You need to sit down and define what you want....it will come to you if you think about it enough. D Rock

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Joined: 6/22/2006

Msg: 25 (view)

why guys avoid and always busy? Posted: 10/13/2006 7:36:56 AM
If you have noticed that when a guy tries to set something up and he is nice and provides you schedule items and works with you to be nice,,,,,,he gets shot down! Duh...he feels needy and clingy and he does not have anything else going on in his life except you. On the other hand if he has things going on in his life and he is genuinely busy then he is more likely to get the date. This dynamic is true for me in every single instance. I am truly busy. I am restoring a boat, work 60 hrs a week, fence project in back yard..and keeping up with the yard seems cumbersome. Every time I have "opened up my schedule" I have been shot down. That is the nice guy. Women associate NICE with WEAK. Women do not want to replicate with those of less value than themselves....therefore....no date for the nice guy. It is strange but completely true. Women always say that they want the nice guy.....If they really wanted the nice guy all they would have to do is ask one of the guys that they told "Lets Just Be Friends". What the guy you are speaking about is doing is probably just living his life....he is genuinely busy. It is the guy's responsibility to ask you out. If he does not.....he is not interested or he doesn't have the ballz to ask you. Guys get approach anxiety and they have no idea how to make it go away. Believe me....if you chase a guy and he does not give you genuine indicators of interest then he is not interested and you will hate the fact that you wasted your time with a guy that did not pursue you. D Rock

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Joined: 6/22/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

How to keep it slow when everyone is racing to find love? Posted: 10/12/2006 7:40:44 PM
You need to study the body language of guys you meet. You are looking for a guy who is calm and relaxed. This kind of guy will not fidget or fumble with his hands much(if he does he is nervous or insecure) Please humor these nervous guys for a few minutes to help them with your First Minute Resistance...at least he had the balls to approach you. Tell him what he is doing wrong if you feel that his little heart can take the input. Watch his eye contact from the very first time he sees you. The strong framed man will maintain eye contact until YOU smile or say hi. Eye contact during conversation is also key. Know that your eye contact between each other will escelate your attraction for each other. Look for a guy that talks slow and enunciates slowly. Also look for the voice tone to be medium to low. (This is not a show stopper....but women love a low voice tone...it is so manly) If he talks fast, then he is trying to say something that he does not believe in or wants to get the conversation completed as soon as possible due to nervousness or some other insecurity. Look for him to not always be leaning towards you. Don't get me wrong here, when he is leaning in to your conversation...he is trying to hear what you have to say, that is a good sign. Always leaning towards you can mean clingy and needy and insecure tendencies. If he is going kino(touch) anywhere on your body, arm, leg, waist, shoulder, hair...this shows confidence......needy and clingy guys will rarely touch you early in a first meeting or a second or a third...you get my point. When you shake his hand at the first meeting and it is spongy or light.....hummmm....nevermind about the handshake...most guys are scared of hurting a womans hands.... Can he walk away from you in situaitions like shopping for groceries or books to look at what he wants...If you find yourself going to find him when he is out with you then he is not smothering you to death and once again needy and clingy.... Do congruity tests.....you know what I am talking about.....you do them all the time to men...they just don't know you are doing it. Start whining about something to try to get him to react in a non manly way. If he is a below average guy then he will kiss your ass and do everything you want him to do. If he is true and congruent with the rest of his body language then he will say something like " I don't know what your last boyfriend was like but he didn't spank you enough for you behavior" Or something that elates to the fact that if you keep up your whining that he is willing to not pay attention to you and have an adult conversation when you are done. You get what I am talking about:) Body language is key to a woman. You know this as you have sized guys up within the first few seconds of interaction using this information. You know wether you want to sleep with him in this time frame also..strange but true..Women are great at body language:) I have just brought this to light for you and you will pay more attention in the future. These guys are naturals at dating and being with wiomen. This is the kind of guy that you want for the relationship you are talikng about. I don't know all of it and when you meet someone online you can not know this info until you meet the first time. Hope this helps you. Guys blast me all you want because you don't know near as much about this as I do. I have put many hours into this subject and it works every time. In fact, you guys should take notes on this one. D Rock

1fixitman

Joined: 6/22/2006

Msg: 25 (view)

How do you make a hard headed guy understand? Posted: 10/12/2006 7:01:56 PM
I am 5'6" and I dated a gal that was 6'1" We had great times together....it didn't last more than 6 months, I broke it off for reasons other than physical. I thought at first that dating a woman that was taller than me would hinder the relationship......guess what.....i tried it to see if it makes a difference and I liked her and things went well. Lose your self limiting beliefs about guys that are shorter than you and you may be pleasantly surprised with the outcome.......just don't date someone like the chump you described that is all needy and clingy and insecure. You know how to read them. Lose the self limiting beliefs about shorter guys. Oh, I forgot....do not message the guy you described or initiate any type of conversation with him in the future. Do not reply if the picture is obscured. You will basically perform a "freeze out" and he will go away. I use the freeze out skills for other reasons. Best regards, Dwayne

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