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footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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need some advice Posted: 10/5/2007 1:58:36 PM
sex is obviously important (to you, therefore to the relationship) or you wouldn't be asking. communicate with him...let him know what you are missing in your relationship. see a counselor. have him see a doctor and check his testosterone level. if nothing else...keep a "man-in-hand" in your nightstand drawer for those lonely nights he's away... ~Football " Penguin ~~~~~~~~

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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do you think glasses are sexy or not ? Posted: 10/5/2007 1:50:52 PM
if the glasses are filled with wine...yeah, can be sexy ~Football "" Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Playing hard to get Posted: 7/26/2007 2:53:17 PM
doesn't apply here. i seldom have pursued anyone. typically, my relationships were initiated by "her," whether on a dating site or out in the real world. if a girl is hard to get, i'll move on with rare exception.

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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why is being a guy and a virgin at 32 so surprising? Posted: 7/16/2007 8:18:52 AM
why is being a guy and a virgin at 32 so surprising? to answer your question in your subject line, because it is unusual and surprising. no magic answer here. you want to stay a virgin until you meet "the one," then great...but accept many will see that as odd, right or wrong, and stop seeing you. that should be a good thing because based on what you say you seek in a partner, they wouldn't be a fit anyway.

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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when is the right time to have sex withthe woman? Posted: 7/16/2007 8:07:09 AM
I used to think its immediatly as one is ever hopeful of calming the needs of the body. oh dear that's funny...excuse me while i wipe the coffee off my monitor from my "spray laugh..."

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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A Question About Favorites Posted: 7/16/2007 7:56:24 AM
you have "Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex" as a mail block. some of the men may not be able to e-mail you because of this restriction, and are hopeful you will see that they added you to favorites in hopes you will initiate contact with them. you may have been added as a favorite because someone enjoyed your forum posts and want to follow your future posts.

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Confusing, confusing... Posted: 7/15/2007 8:48:36 AM
The strange part of all this is that she SAYS one thing, but DOES another, which is why I am so confused. hahahahahahahahahaha...nothing "strange" here. you've entered the friend zone, and once in it's hard to get out. she's knows (1) you like her, (2) you are a good friend (emotionaly intimate), (3) that you aren't going anywhere regardless on where she takes the relationship, and (4) she has the power to sleep with you at anytime (regardless whether she acts on it). she has no fear of loss (losing you to another) because she knows you aren't going anywhere as long as the relationship stays in pergatory. she values your friendship greatly as it seems the two of you share yourselves emotionaly much as a couple would that are "together." she values that...why risk losing that by having sex with you? she is your girlfriend...without the sex and label. call it wha you want... you're stuck in the friend zone until you make something happen. she "has her cake and can eat it to," with no reason for her to change anything. you can either accept it "it is what it is," push for a committed relationship, or get out. no one in this forum knows you well enough to advise which approach is best for you...only you can. good luck.

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Too long? Posted: 7/15/2007 8:36:09 AM
Edit : Also, normally I have no problem reading long profiles. As long as I'm interested. If someone is interested in you, nothing will be "too long". It'll always be "Not enough info". peter####...well said

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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For those with experience -- Does this really work? Posted: 7/15/2007 8:33:07 AM
OP ----> check the forum header TESTIMONIALS yeah, it really works...just not for everyone.

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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do we attract a certain type Posted: 7/12/2007 12:43:08 PM
i'm a gay, stripper, and "please marry me" magnet...though never been proposed to by a gay stripper...yet

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Can a baby solve relationship problems or just make them worse? Posted: 7/12/2007 12:20:47 PM
What can I do to help him without having a baby? you could start by not surfing dating sites advertising yourself as looking for dates as your profile reads...

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Dating a widow? Posted: 7/12/2007 11:56:02 AM
BTW... if I change it to single... people will think that I was never married and I have a kid... and then when they find out my husband died it might look like I was hiding something.... i list SINGLE. I'm divorced...I am also single. I'm not hiding anything...

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Rings Posted: 7/12/2007 11:47:41 AM
if a fake and passed off as real...yeah, that's a problem. what else is he / would he lie about? yes it is a symbol, not "just" a symbol. ~Football Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Maybe im Asexual? Posted: 7/12/2007 9:23:40 AM
I was having sex like all day everyday for 5 years. But we broke up about 4 months ago. Havnt had sex since, and i dont really care if i do or not. I mean i wouldnt turn a good roll in the hay down, but im not out hunting for it. not as weird now that you clarified. your lack of desire is tied to your past relationship. that's actually quite common. if you desired and enjoyed sex before, you will again. your body will tell you (if not, get some counseling).

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Can men have sex if they are impotent? Posted: 7/12/2007 9:09:53 AM
there are support groups and chat lines specific to impotence that may better serve your question than this site. i don't know any specific sites (thank you Jesus), but just Google it...

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Maybe im Asexual? Posted: 7/12/2007 9:06:19 AM
what does that say about me, am i weird? yes ive had sex and it was great, but not great enough to care if i ever do it again. that's weird...

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Dating a widow? Posted: 7/12/2007 8:17:09 AM
By the way I hate being called a widow.., I am a single adult who's husband died. then choose "SINGLE" as your Marital Status on your profile instead of "WIDOWED" there are over 6 billion people on this planet and about half are male...yeah, I'm sure out of that there are some that think what you fear above.

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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What Do You Expect??? Posted: 7/11/2007 3:07:05 PM
mystic77 type colon, the number 11, then another colan like this... :##: and you'll get you licking smiley face.

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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What Do You Expect??? Posted: 7/11/2007 2:56:13 PM
i expect the person i date to have a vagina...even though i don't have one. Football "" Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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ladies, how much older would you date? Posted: 7/11/2007 2:47:41 PM
I'm 36...since i was in my early twenties, my dating history with girls they have usually been around age 21-26. i don't target that age, just know when i'm attracted to someone and that's the age they usually are. i have dated several women in their 30's but they have typically looked younger than their age. i'm not having a mid-life crisis as referenced above...simply my taste hasn't changed. why date girls at that age?...same reason a dog licks his balls...because i can Football "" Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Who is Charismatic and Why? Posted: 7/11/2007 2:38:35 PM
jesus hitler apostle paul they could all carry a crowd...

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Why guys are not happy with one women Posted: 7/11/2007 1:51:25 PM
not bulshit...study after study after study after study...i'm not making this up. Most guys are perfectly happy to settle for one good woman. you put a beautful woman in front of a man, and he knows nobody would ever find out, most men are going to screw her.

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Why guys are not happy with one women Posted: 7/11/2007 1:30:48 PM
most men cheat...period. most women too. is what it is. i stopped trying to figure out why because it really boils down to "because they can." not everyone cheats. i have never as much held hands with another when i was in an agreed monogomous relationship with someone (but the times in between...that's different) . i don't have a desire to cheat if i feel close enough to someone to commit, but i believe this the minority (if my past partners' history is an indicator).

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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how intellegent do you have to be? Posted: 7/11/2007 1:17:55 PM
you have the option of restricting incomming IM requests to those only on your favorites list. ~Football " " Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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girlfriend? Posted: 7/9/2007 8:51:33 AM
chinese proverb... "women are like a shadow. walk towards it and it will elude you. walk away and it will follow you." don't be over the top...give her some space. ~Football "aka Confucius" Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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I always wonder how.... Posted: 7/6/2007 10:18:05 AM
I never understood this about men.. ...because what you seek is permanant/long term. Not everyone (women included) are wanting a "ready for marriage" relationship but still enjoy the company of a companion. Many reasons for this, whether career, children, or may be just not emotionaly ready, etc... ~Football Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Dating a Divorced Man Posted: 7/6/2007 9:02:58 AM
How does a divorce, in this case, a second divorce, and a child from each one, affect a man when it comes to dating again? every man is different...every situation different. I don't mix dating and my daughters, so my dating schedule is limited to half the week (teh time my girls and I are not together). That takes patience from my partner and isn't for everyone...I understand. How long do men usually wait or need before dating again after going through a second divorce? Some men started dating before the divorce (that's why they got divorced) hahaha. Again, every situation is different. Depends how attached they were to their spouse and more specifically how attached to their marriage. Would a man feel he has too much baggage? I don't feel I have too much baggage though maybe some women do. Is what it is... My girls aren't baggage, they are a part of me and contributed to who I am, as all life experiences do. If this is the case would it prevent him from believing he can have a normal relationship with someone new even if he cared about them? If this is the case, he has more issues than being divorced... Also if a man is still depressed or suffering from low self esteem because of a second divorce, how would that affect him? Depends if he blames himself, among other factors. I was depressed at first, more because of the break-up of my family unit and the effect it would have on my daughters. I'm fine now...my girls adjusted as well as could be expected. What would someone have to deal with or do to make this man feel whole again and is it possible or even worth pursuing him? Same you would do to a man that wasn't divorced... Another question is can a man lose his sexual confidence if he hasn't been with a woman in a while, say a couple of years? Could...try plenty of practice

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Do you have a type? Posted: 7/6/2007 7:48:31 AM
didn't think i had a type, but now looking back... ...seems my type is psychos ~Football "" Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Have you ever considered becoming romantically involved with a friend ? Posted: 6/29/2007 12:44:20 PM
general rule...difference between men and women... women have men friends who they are not sleeping with. men have women friends who they are not sleeping with...yet. ~Football "" Penguin ~

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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I saw his NUDE pic posted on POF Posted: 6/28/2007 12:17:21 PM
being he is on POF, and you are initiating a thread in his honor, I don't believe you will have to tell him you saw it...you just did. ~Football "trix are for kids" Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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easiest way of dumping someone Posted: 6/27/2007 3:37:58 AM
sneak up behind them and hit them in the head with something heavy...then hide the body under the floorboards and sell the house before it smells...their feelings aren't hurt and you usually don't hear from them again. ~Football "just here to help" Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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I wonder the percentage of married people playing on POF Posted: 6/27/2007 3:31:15 AM
there are married cheats you can meet on POF...there are married cheats you can meet on paid sites. there are married cheats you can meet at the grocery store. there are married cheats you can meet at work. there are married cheats you can meet at church. there are married cheats you can meet at...(fill in the blank) ~Football "that won't change" Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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pay versus free? your experiences please... Posted: 6/25/2007 10:40:07 AM
i'm off the pay sites...didn't notice much difference

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Co-workers... and compliments... Posted: 6/25/2007 10:37:51 AM
UR4ME? got it right...don't over complicate. tell him how you feel (or more importantly, how you don't feel). If he continues, kick him in the Jimmy. ~Football "the field goal is good" Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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How Can We Avoid Becoming Set in Our Ways? Posted: 6/22/2007 11:49:26 AM
How Can We Avoid Becoming Set in Our Ways? OE...try changing ~Football "no need to complicate things" Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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A rant about not ready to date yet Posted: 6/22/2007 11:45:08 AM
RAZ49...my point was assuming she truely is still hung up on her ex and doesn't feel ready to date, then she is being honest with you. she wasn't honest to herself. eventually, she will be ready, but she's not going to wake up one day and "be ready." she's going to meet someone and be able to move forward. you, at this time, wasn't it. best to move on...may be she'll look you up later. don't pursue her though or you'll end up a "spare tire...," someone she knows she can have as a security blanket. bad position to be in. would it have been better for her to continue to dialogue with you and date, knowing she couldn't give you her all because she still has tehse feelings for her ex? consider yourself lucky in that she bailed now and not later. throw your pool back in the water... ~Football "they all crazy" Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Is meeting more than one on the same day acceptable behavior? Posted: 6/22/2007 9:12:28 AM
is it reasonable behavior to accept more than one invitation on the same day or is that considered poor form? yes...this is reasonable. you're dating... Each one is informed of the other either during the meet or if possible beforehand. no...this is "poor form." no need to add more pressure for your date. no good can come of this. ~Football "no need to state the obvious" Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Advice needed from girls and guys... Posted: 6/22/2007 9:04:07 AM
if you are having this kind of difficulty in this relationship before it even IS a relationship...you finish the sentence gamble1212... put your pool back in the water and keep fishing... ~Football "" Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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ARE U A SCREAMER :devil: Posted: 6/22/2007 8:51:42 AM
i scream...you scream...we all scream for ice cream!!!!!

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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A rant about not ready to date yet Posted: 6/22/2007 8:18:55 AM
Never give up never surrender. I always liked that line from Galaxy Quest. codeout...dude...quoting from Galaxy Quest might be part of your problem...that's only one rung up the ladder from a Star Trek line, which...no matter how good, won't impress your young lady friends. RAZ_49...sorry man. she's ready to date, just not ready to date you. if true and she really doesn't feel "she's ready yet because not over her ex," its likely only because she hasn't met the guy that makes her forget about her ex...yet. ~Football "Captain & Commander" Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Are people willing to date people who work shift work? Posted: 6/19/2007 11:15:28 AM
Are people willing to date people who work shift work? depends what they are shifting... ~Football "" Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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What does he want?? Posted: 6/19/2007 11:10:00 AM
If he was really trying to start a thing with this other woman, why would he come over here and make things like they use to be?? because he wanted laid... I know he still loves me..I could see it, and feel it. what you feel is your desire to be with him, not his love for you. do you think the other woman "sees & feels" his love too? ...move on ~Football "" Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Dating after a 10 year relationship! Posted: 6/19/2007 11:01:34 AM
How would you go about it bearing in mind that everything seems to be so different since the last time you had a crack at it?? dating hasn't changed..you have.

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Why do women find sex on a first date so weird? Posted: 6/19/2007 10:51:27 AM
Why do women find sex on a first date so weird? perhaps its your approach BC_Dream... when I have sex on the first date women don't find it weird...i save the weird stuff for the second date ~Football "" Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Married and Looking? Posted: 6/19/2007 10:43:14 AM
The problem with justifying cheating is that every transgression and crime can be justified. You could steal from the local church and find some way to justify it. If someone is going to cheat, then just do it, and don't even bother with a justification. ...well said man_ad you're either in or out...pick one ~Football "i cheat only at twister" Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Why Can't I meet someone Posted: 6/19/2007 10:24:19 AM
"I've been signed up at dating websites since I was in 8th grade (96) and I have yet to have any success." maybe you're spending too much time in front of the comp...go outside Football "there's a world out there" Penguin

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Adjust topic - How many dates expected to be kissed on the first date? Posted: 10/3/2006 2:36:38 PM
...depends what you're kissing...~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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First Date Posted: 10/2/2006 6:17:01 PM
you are 41. ask him.

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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does my son have ADD or ADHD? Posted: 9/27/2006 7:32:26 PM
ADD or ADHD....hmmmmmmm...watches TV for 30 minutes no problem? Does he have HDTV?

footballpenguin

Joined: 6/23/2006

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Where would you rather have sex in a public place or in the bedroom Posted: 9/27/2006 7:01:41 PM
does sex by yourself count?

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