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krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Long story, I'm not sure what to make out of this all Posted: 11/29/2006 12:25:00 AM
I'm not seeking my family permission. My entire family is already in shreds and we don't talk to each other. I wish I could change that. Point here is that whatever I do they will be actively against it not that I have to ask mommy for permission or anything.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Long story, I'm not sure what to make out of this all Posted: 11/28/2006 5:50:08 PM
The "nice one" vaporized never to be heard from again :(

krabathor

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Long story, I'm not sure what to make out of this all Posted: 11/28/2006 5:30:02 PM
let me start from the beginning. I went on vacation to Poland in July. My brother owns a sailboat, so does his friend. Friend's wife has an older sister. She was there spacing out. I'm 32 she's 37 we are both single. We hit it off right away. We can talk about all topics, we can finish each other sentences. After I was back to US we started e-mailing each other. After 3 months of e-mail exchanges I realized that that she could be the woman I've been looking for all along. We have so much in common, Hobbies, interests, outlook on life. I have asked her straight up what she thinks and she thinks we have a lot on common. I know my family will never accept her as since she's older than me. I'm at the crossroads.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Dating a filler girl, waiting for something better to come along. Posted: 11/12/2006 5:10:40 AM
Thank you guys for your help. I have met the girl yesterday for couple of drinks. We got to a agreement that we are ONLY friends and nothing more. Shae looked little surprised but agreed to the "terms". Now it's up to her to decide if she wants to continue the friendship. PS. Thanks for all the hate mail I got. :)

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Dating a "filler" girl, waiting for something better to come along. Posted: 11/11/2006 2:26:37 PM
Just wondering how many of you have done this. I have met a girl 2 weeks ago on another dating site. She's a very nice girl, great to hang out with. Problem is she's 2 months out of LTR and keeps wining about her EX and stuff. We went to 3 dates so far and I've put her in "friends only zone" withing 10 minutes of first date. Looks like she starts to like me and I don't feel anything for her at all. Do you guys and girls think it's OK to just wait and see what develops or should I just cut her loose. As always, thank you.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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bachelor pad Posted: 10/30/2006 12:59:43 PM
Thank you ladies. You see the best way to learn something is to ask people that know. Only is women would be easy to impress with the size out big screen TV :)

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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What are the first things ladies look for that tells if it's a "man's place" Posted: 10/30/2006 10:09:07 AM
One more question for the ladies here. A man lives by himself, Independent, he's no longer "mamma's boy" He invites you over to his place, you enter the door. What are the first things ladies look for that tells if it's a "man's place" or "boys room". Thank you. Subject Edited to reflect actual contents to aid in thread searches - Please read the Posting Rules, <-- click there. Forum Moderator

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Walking girl home after a date. Posted: 10/30/2006 5:57:07 AM
Question for you ladies. It's a custom in the part of the world I'm from that a gent walks the girl home after a date. I try to do this with all my dates and get mixed reactions. Some like it some don't. Ladies, what you think about this?? I just want to make sure girl gets home safe.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Languages, Posted: 9/24/2006 10:23:37 AM
3 Polish-my native Russian English Working on my Spanish now

krabathor

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New Ex= New Problems Posted: 9/21/2006 9:17:28 PM
Let me get this straight. He said that he loves you He said that that he wants to just be friends?? But can not be just friends. Something is missing here.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Renting an apartment in private house Posted: 9/21/2006 8:54:33 PM
"they call renting a bedroom renting a "studio" ???" It's a living room, bedroom, decent size kitchen. It's embarrissing, but I'm going to say it. I was told by a date that she does not date "losers that live with their moms". Plain and simple. And if you were on your one since 16, well may the force be with you. At 16 I was living in Eastern Europe under comunism.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Should I even keep trying? Posted: 9/21/2006 8:14:37 PM
"If you are seriously interested in her, stop acting like you don't care" I was interested in her after first date, now I don't care. Too much games, BS, chases, baggage, and propaganda. She does not answer my emails or text messages so no lunch happened on Wednesday. I'll stop by her desk when I'm in her office and say Hi and act like we just never went out. that's all, we are just friends. What a waste.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Renting an apartment in private house Posted: 9/21/2006 8:00:33 PM
Well she claims that 2 girls lived there for 5 years of college. This is a gift to myself for my 32nd bday. It's f&^$#ing time to move out of my parents place.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Renting an apartment in private house Posted: 9/21/2006 7:17:47 PM
I have a question for you people. I went to look at the one room apartment today. It's one of 4 studios in private house. Now, the owner wants deposit to hold it for me but does not want to sign any lease. She says ahe always rents that way, the tenant pays on the first and she gives tenant the receipt. Is this common. What is your opinion. thank you.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Will she call me? Posted: 9/18/2006 7:10:24 PM
I saw on one of the sites that if the man gives girl a phone number there is only 1-2% chance she will call him. I think you are SOL.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Heart necklace and wedding ring on middle finger. Posted: 9/18/2006 7:06:16 PM
I just start nottining amount of women with the heart shaped nacklaces. Big ones, small ones, with diamonds and just plain. Is this some new fad or I have just not payed attention b4. Also if the wedding ring is on the left hand middle finger, does that mean anything?? Just curious. Thank you.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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If he says I know how men are what does this say about him? Posted: 9/17/2006 4:24:08 PM
Maybe it's little OT but it's on the subject. I've read article about why men cheat, persue sex etc... It said that by nature men are "hardwired" to spread their genes as wide and with as many women as possible. Maybe some can control it better than others but it's in all men.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Should I even keep trying? Posted: 9/16/2006 4:36:58 PM
Saywhat-51. Thank you for all the advice, and i already know all of this. It's really hard for me to act, trying to be someone I'm not. I'm just saying to myself, I'll find a woman that will like me the way i am. If not, well maybe some people are destined to be single forever Anyway, she replied to my text message so i should take it as a good sign. Thank you all

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Should I even keep trying? Posted: 9/16/2006 4:00:55 PM
Too late Saywhat-51. See my previous post. I'm making decisions on the spot and later regret them. I don't think it will make any difference anyway.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Should I even keep trying? Posted: 9/16/2006 3:46:44 PM
And to message #4. Why would i say that? Bacause I'm an dunbass sometime. I type and send and think later.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Should I even keep trying? Posted: 9/16/2006 3:38:26 PM
I'll just text message her today wishing her good weekend. She's saying she got a lot of work from school but I'm sure she's going to the clubs with her girlfriends and will be back at 5AM, and that's why she can't do Sunday date. I know all of this from conversations with her. she's in late 20's and she's still not out of her "party life" stage. Thank you all.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Should I even keep trying? Posted: 9/16/2006 3:16:14 PM
Let me start from the beginning. I'm sorry it's so long. At work I visit a lot of places to do computer work. I have met this girl in one of the places, She works there for last 4 years or so and always seemed to be interested in me. 2 weeks ago, i had another visit at her work site, stopped by her desk and started talking. She was down, since she broke up with her BF and all. I got her number called her up and we went out on Sunday last week. We went to the movie, sat in the park. The whole date lasted 6 hours or so, we had good time. I have walked her home, hug and kiss on the cheek. Since it was midnight she insisted that i should call her when i get home. Now, I saw she was very tired and i got home at 1:30 AM, and did not want to wake her up by calling. Next day (Monday) i have emailed her that I did not want to disturb her late at night. She replied right away, and started talking about going to the concert together that was 2 months from now. At 11PM she send me text message saying "good night, sweet dreams" Tuesday she emailed me and in one of the replies she mentioned she has bad day since her BF called her and all. Well I have replied that if that's the case, why dosn't she get together with her ex BF. She seemed upset that i have said that. Got message at 11:30PM saying : call me I'm just getting home. I go to bed at 11 so i did not call her. On Wednesday I work in the same building as hers, and I have send her message about going to lunch together. She said that she already have plans, and some friend is coming over for lunch with her. She said, we'll meet Sunday since Saturday she goes to school. On Friday I tried to call her cell phone, no answer, Later she emailed me saying That her phone was on silence, and saying that she can not do Sunday date since she's got lots of homework from school, but we can do something during the week. So i'm setup for Wednesday lunch with her. Now, should i even keep any hope that she's just busy, is she playing games or just lost interest. I still want to be able to stop by her desk and say hello without feeling wierd. What you plp think?? thank you. Sorry for super long post

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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He's Short. I Don't Care, But He Does Posted: 9/16/2006 1:43:06 PM
OK, let me respond to this one as I have some "real world" experience. First I'm 5'6" just like the man you are going out with. I have only ever dated women that were either my height or 2-3 inches shorter. Personally I find tall women (6'+) intimidating, nothing wrong with you tall ladies, just my opinion. I'm sure that I'm missing a lot of fun by not aproaching taller women, but the fear of being looked as "not man enough" is too great. The way I think is: "she won't give me time of the day anyway, why even bother", "tall chicks want tall dudes". In man to man interaction height is also an issue. Men always have this hardwired way of thinking: "I'm bigger than him" "I can beat his ass any time I want" It's part of the macho thing. Now, there is a way you can make him feel like king. Wear heals that will make you an inch taller than him. Give him a passionate kiss and tell him: "look at the shoes I had to wear just to be your height". It works, A girl i was dating did exactly that to me and i have never looked at my height (or lack of) in the same way. Good luck.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Men's fashion magazines. Posted: 9/13/2006 4:54:23 AM
What magazines are are you guys reading for up to date man's fashon? Thanx

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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How would you rate your dating life? Posted: 9/11/2006 6:44:33 PM
6 out of 10. It's not bad but can be way better.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Just met, long term plans. Need advice. Posted: 9/11/2006 6:37:21 PM
It's some famous Latin singer. Don't remember the name but a coworker told me he's good. And no, she ain't suggar mama, just a regular date. What kinda made me thinking is either she's considering me a "long term" material or playing with my head. My ex gf did that long term planning thing and then I got my ass dumped. It hurt so bad for so long, that's why I don't put my heart out this time. Just whatever happens, let it flow if you know what I mean.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Just met, long term plans. Need advice. Posted: 9/11/2006 5:57:41 PM
Ok, so here is the story. Met a girl at work, went on the first date yesterday. In the morning I have send her an email saying "had great time etc." She replied, I replied to that, Next email she sends she's asking if i want to go to the concert with her and should she buy tickets. Well nothing wrong with that but the concert is in November! Now, i'm not sure what to think of that. We just went out once and she's making plans for 2 months from now.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Has anyone ever been dumped via email? Posted: 9/4/2006 6:59:40 AM
Does being dumped over SMS count??

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Don't know what to do. Should I contact EX. Posted: 8/5/2006 12:01:18 PM
Well the whole situation cleared up yesterday. I had to visit my EX's workplace yesterday to fix some equipment. As soon as I entered the place, I saw the girl. It was like: Hi, how are you?? good, how bout yourself?... It was COLD reaction, kinda wierd feeling. Anyway, my mutual friend, said she's having hard time, acts kind depressed and keeps saying "she lost an opportunity" At least I know where I stand and it's waste of time to even contact her in the future. Time to move on, chapter closed. If someone still bother to read this wish me luck.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Men Suck.. Posted: 7/30/2006 4:39:52 PM
"I don't understand what is SO wrong with me that Good guys dont wanna date me" I'm going to be killed by someone here for what I'm about to say. Lexxie, if you meet the "good guy", he'll talk to you on the phone for hours, go out of his way to make you happy, support you etc. And after few dates you will tell him that: 1) he is awesome listener trying to help you. 2) he's such a catch 3) he's so sensitive etc. 4) you just "want to be friends" with him and "you are not ready for relationship" 5) He will cry like a baby in bed and slowly overtime turn into *hole and jerk. Been there done that, got my heart broken by few women. All women out there say they need to find the good guy. When they find him, they treat him like crap, and dump him for holes and jerks. Thank you.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Don't know what to do. Should I contact EX. Posted: 7/28/2006 2:59:42 AM
I have send her short SMS message. It's up to her now. If she wants to be a "hang out" friend, she'll contact me, if not, it's her choice. Some poster asked: "what if she start dating other guys"?? well, more power to her, I'm going to date other women, nothing to do with being just friends. Also a female poster asked "why we broke up" It was a failure on my part. I broke the "3rd date" rule. She was ready for sex on third date, I was not. Maybe some will call me nuts but for me it's a longer process at slower pace. For me sex is an extension of one's feelings not an animal reaction to reproduce. She just lost interest in me, that's all. Thank you all.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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Don't know what to do. Should I contact EX. Posted: 7/27/2006 7:39:38 PM
A month ago I was told by a girl that she "just wanted to be friends". We just broke up that day and I was suffering from broken heart for 3 weeks. Today I went to a client (place where she works) and talked to friend of mine there. He's also a friend of the girl. Well he was the one who introduced me to the girl in the first place. Long story short He told me that she mentioned few times to him that "she would do anything to still be friends with me and hang out with me". Now here are my questions: 1) should I even bother to try contact her and try to get together at least on friendly basis. Or it would make me look like a total desperate/looser/second quality/crybaby. 2) Her birthday is in couple of weeks. Sould I send her flowers or it's waste of my money. what you guys/girls think. I would really like to see what females have to say. I saw her today (she did not see me) and I realized how much feeling I still had for her even sfter she hurt me badly. Thanx

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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My first post. Another just friends post Posted: 6/26/2006 7:51:33 PM
She send me SMS saying: "sorry wll not talk to you again" OK by me, at least i know where I'm standing. Now back to work, I'm sure there is a great woman waiting for me out there Correction, I started talking to one very nice lady at work already, she seems interested. And to my 33YO girl who dumped me: Gracias chica, you changed my life, I'm twice the man I was before :)

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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My first post. Another just friends post Posted: 6/24/2006 3:26:19 PM
thank you all for help. And thanx to all girls that posted what they think. I'll just let it go, if she wants to my friend, fine, We'll hang out. if not, there is more fish out there. She helped me a lot to get over my problem with talking to women. I'm in no way a pro but at least I don't "lock up" as soon as I see the girl. There is the song by "New York City" "twice the man I was" That's what she made me. Twice the man I was before I met her. I'm sorry if I sound pathetic, I just have to vent and found this wonderful forum. Thank you people.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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My first post. Another just friends post Posted: 6/24/2006 2:45:58 PM
Thank you for advice. Well the plan is that we will go out on Sunday to hang out. i have tickets to the zoo and that was the plan. I'm not sure how she received my reaction after she told me that she's just friends with me. I was a little pissed and she was like "I'm sorry I do this to you". I have to wait untill tomorrow to see what her reaction is, if she still wants to hang out, well I'll continue this relationship, if she does not call me again, then it's over and it's her decision. She told me yesterday that she enjoy my company and wants to hang out, and is willing to split the costs.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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My first post. Another just friends post Posted: 6/24/2006 2:21:19 PM
She was the first girl i really "liked very much" since high school. I have dated many women but never felt like that with any of them.

krabathor

Joined: 6/24/2006

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My first post. Another "just friends" post Posted: 6/24/2006 2:09:34 PM
I met this girl a 6 weeks ago. I'm 31 male she's 33. I was introduced to her by coworker of her. I've dated before but all my relationships were short few week encounters. From the first date she started taking about starting a family, finding the right guy, etc. For 4 weeks it was great, we talked on the phone a lot, dated on weekends. Last friday i got my balls together and kissed her. It was just short kiss and it just did not feel "right". She was calling me all weekdays, all seemed allright, sweet and all. This Friday/yesterday we went to eat and started walking after that. Now, that's when she told me that "she's not ready for anything long term" and "let's just be friends". I told her that I really love her and she's breaking my heart. I have walked her home and she hugged me, again it all just did not feel "right". As far as i know, she had at least two long term relationships, one for 11 months (guy dumped her for her roommate) and one that lasted 4 years (she dumped the guy, he did not want to go into serious relationship). I have talked with her friend/female coworker. Her friend told me she's telling what a wonderfool man she met ang that I'm a gent and all that. She also mentioned that she wants to keep her "freedom" and "independence" since ending her 4 year relationship in November 2005. First of all, i think i have made couple of fatal mistakes: I was listening to all her problems and trying to help her resolve them. She started to treat me as another chick friend that she can open to. i think I lost it right there, and beacame "such good listener" and "I can tell you anything and you will try to help me". Second I was myself, I'm a "good guy" in general, a gentleman, and was all sweet and soft and carying. She seemed to be really happy for at least 4 weeks untill the first kiss event. Now, I'm in position where I don't know what to do. Should i even bother trying to fix the "going out relationship" or should i meet her and tell her that it's over since i'm looking for long term relationship not friends. What it looks like that she's scared of being "used" by another guy and dumped. she's got a lot of "mental leftovers" from prevoius relationships, and is really scared. I kind like her a lot, I would even say it would be love. Thanx in advance.

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