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RetroMarilynGeek

Joined: 9/21/2004

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Mother is Bipolar...What do I do? Posted: 2/16/2005 1:47:48 AM
I was diagnosed as bi-polar when I was 16 and hospitalized. Luckily I wasn't so far gone and I agreed to go to the hospital before I tried to hurt myself. The meds DO help treat the symptoms but they are not a cure. Most of these mood swings stem from feelings you can't deal with/ trauma / depression. There is SURELY a chemical reason/malfunction in your brain and bi-polar patients are not intentionally meaning to harm anyone, but they will. The way I looked at my meds was that they helped me deal with the symtoms so that I could calm down and deal with the emotional issues. Now I'm happy to say I've not taken my meds in over five months. I've not had any mood swings, only slight ups and downs but I'm starting to think those are either normal or the best I can hope for. As a former mentally ill person I thank you for your mother for not giving up on her. Even if she can't consciously appreciate you trying to take care of her, it is the right thing to do. I know a 37 year old man that just moved here locally and left behind his parents who are both mentally ill and were relying on him for care. Thank you.

RetroMarilynGeek

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love is a myth Posted: 2/16/2005 1:39:39 AM
It exists. That I feel is certain. Who cares if it's just a chemical reaction? What is anything in our world but a chemical reaction in our brain? "Hey, don't get out of the way of that semi coming towards you. It's just a visual stimulus. Then it will cause you pain. But don't worry, that's all in your head." Our life is only lived by our own perceptions. That's why people are so different. We cannot realize any sort of universal truth because truth in itself is subjective to perception. Keep the faith. Keep open. It does take time but it will happen. Have you ever met an old person that can honestly say "I've never been in love. I've never felt happy with someone else."? Sure it may not happen right now, but life is longer than you think. In fact, IT'S THE LONGEST THING THAT EVER ABSOLUTELY HAPPENS TO YOU! The saying "Life is short" is such a crock. What lasts longer? The universe. Well who cares about that when you're dead?? I mean, if you believe in some sort of afterlife, that's different. But of what we can be certain, life's winning the "Longest Longevity" award is number one. Wow. I love to ramble.

RetroMarilynGeek

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Total heartbreak and fustration....HELP Posted: 2/16/2005 1:32:40 AM
Any time a child is lost to abortion it saddens me. It's especially rough when there is someone that wants the child and it could be saved from death but isn't. Maybe she doesn't feel ready to raise this new baby but there are plenty of couples out there just praying and hoping to get the chance to adopt a child. My parents thought they couldn't have children and adopted my sister when she was born and we were so glad to have found her. About the relationship: If she can't give her heart fully to you then she doesn't need to get married to you. It does hurt, yes, very badly. But it's better to hurt now before you've made this sacred vow to her than afterwards and have built a life with her that you have to dismantle by yourself. I don't understand the whole "I'm not good enough for you" line. I can understand "I'm not RIGHT for you" or "I'm not in love with you" but I thought "good enough" was something we decide about other people.

RetroMarilynGeek

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Need some help in understanding Posted: 2/16/2005 1:26:36 AM
As a child of divorce let me just tell you that your daughter will never forget you helping her at expense to anything else. Right now I'm dealing with the issue of my mom putting her new boyfriend (also my biological father) before me and her other kids. A good way to sum up everyone's arguments: "Don't let someone become your priority when you are only their option." He does not value you and you definitely deserve to be valued. A woman that is completely faithful for 23 years of marriage and then through the separation? You have proven yourself to be a devoted wife. You have proven you love him. If he wants to give up an amazing woman like yourself for some sullen live-in maid/prostitute, that is completely his loss. It sounds cliche but you can definitely do much better. I just wanted to say that I am very touched by your devotion to your daughter. My mom and I have been through rough times where my dad thought she was choosing me over him when really she was just doing what I needed. I thank you as a daughter.

RetroMarilynGeek

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Rape victim can't heal Posted: 2/16/2005 1:13:05 AM
"I can tell you it never gets easier. EVER." This is so true. I get so worried when people tell girls that have recently been raped that time will heal them. It won't. Not when our society promotes a man's overly sexual nature as a good thing. Not when men that are respectful of sex and women are insulted as "pansies" or have their sexuality questioned. It has been over 12 years since my first negative experience with a man (verbal, led to slight physical contact) and I still cannot trust them. It used to be fear, and now it is anger and indifference. I went to a performance of The Vagina Monologues and they talked about women in Kosovo being raped all over the country as a systematic tactic of war. Over 70,000 women were raped during this war. What is MORE astounding is that over 500,000 women are raped in the United States EVERY SINGLE YEAR and we are not at war. People need to realize that it is FAR FAR TOO COMMON. It does not happen to the few. It happens to the majority. One in three women are raped or otherwise sexually assaulted/molested by the time they reach the age of twenty-five. These are only REPORTED cases. Nevermind the girls and women that never come forward. People think the damage ends when the rape is over and the body heals. This is not true. The damage, hurt, doubt, anger, helplessness lasts a lifetime. What do most rapists get when they ARE actually charged, convicted and sentenced? A few years at max. They pay a few years out of their lives for robbing a woman of her entire life. This doesn't take into account the fact that only ten percent of REPORTED sexual assaults are ever prosecuted and sent to trial. A fraction of a fraction of these offenders are being punished for a crime so instinctively heinous. If I ever do get married or fall in love, I want to find all the men that ever hurt me and say "This is how much you meant to me. You tried to hurt me so badly and still I've won."

RetroMarilynGeek

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Rape victim can't heal Posted: 2/15/2005 11:10:45 PM
When I was growing up, my father disapproved of everything associated with girls. Girls were dumb, illogical, irrational and overly dramatic. When I was about nine or ten, my grandmother sexually molested me. I told my parents and nothing was done. When I was 13, my 17 year old next-door neighbor raped me anally. I didn't tell anyone for two years. Last October, I met a guy and took him back to my place. After an hour of him making me feel bad for not having sex with him, I finally "gave in" (meaning I spread my legs and let him get off.) How is a girl who has only known emotional, sexual and physical pain from men supposed to trust them? How am I supposed to trust a man enough to be open to loving/marrying one? I do have feelings for women but because of my religious beliefs, I don't practice them. Why would God put me through all this suffering from men and still expect me to date them? I'm so confused and pretty much hopeless. Think I could be a nun, even though I'm not a virgin?

RetroMarilynGeek

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Would you get back with your first love? Posted: 1/14/2005 10:26:10 PM
Freakin yes! I left him and he's still totally awesome.

RetroMarilynGeek

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LET ME SIMPLFY THIS FOR YOU GUYS Posted: 1/10/2005 1:28:26 AM
Once again...Psssssh. I DO have MANY MANY guy friends but most of them ARE interested in me sexually. It just sort of happens. But they know that if things are going to get to that level then we're going to be in a relationship. Are you guys talking about fawning over a woman that isn't interested in you in hopes she'll change her mind? That's seventh grader stuff, hun. Or is this thread just so you men can piss and moan? Whoever said women were the champs of that needs to read this thread.

RetroMarilynGeek

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Stood Up.....Again Posted: 1/10/2005 1:23:50 AM
OoooOoOOh I feel you, girl. This is my number one pet peeve. Especially if the guy has my cell number, knows I have my cell with me and STILL doesn't call. What gives? How can someone be so inconsiderate? I have a TWO strikes rule about this. A guy gets one "Get out of Jail Free" card but if it happens again, forget it. I learned all this from dating a pothead. Don't try em. They're unreliable and generally not gainfully employed.

RetroMarilynGeek

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What are you really like???? Posted: 1/10/2005 1:11:16 AM
I feel guilty when I turn the radio from the Christian station my mom was listening to before I got in the car and then listen to a song about dirty sex. I actually have quite a low sex drive. I don't exactly know who I am yet. I'm about five different people. I hate it when my mom has a good time without me. I wish that things would work out very easily for me without any effort on my part. I promise myself I'm going to diet and exercise but it rarely ever happens so I've sort of given up on fooling myself. I fantasize about married men. I spend too much money on clothes that are too expensive. I'm superficial. I won't date a guy unless I find him physically attractive. I don't mind my gut or my stretchmarks at all even though society tells me I should. I genuinely find bigger women to be more beautiful. I sometimes don't shave my legs to keep myself from having sex with the guys I meet. I meet too many guys off the internet. The last time I was picked up by a guy was at Blockbuster at 1130 at night. I use movies as my standard for reality. I have a deep and abiding hatred for most Republicans in general. The stereotypical ones at least. I condemn myself for any sexual behavior I exhibit or any good feelings I might want to have. I'm probably a lush. I'm a pothead. DAMN! Too much. Must stop.

RetroMarilynGeek

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Being pleased or pleasing ???? Posted: 1/10/2005 1:00:54 AM
Well since only one man has ever pleased me I'm going to take being pleased. I've pleased enough in my time. It's time I get some action back, please.

RetroMarilynGeek

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what kind of sexy are you? Posted: 1/10/2005 12:59:09 AM
You Are Independent Sexy You drive men crazy with your "playing hard to get act" Except, it's really not an act at all. You're a strong, sexy woman with her own life and interests. And makes men even more interested in you! This is really true I've just realized. I don't go on dates very easily but I talk to guys that are interested in me all the time. ego inflates

RetroMarilynGeek

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Does THIS interrupt your orgasm??? Posted: 1/10/2005 12:43:30 AM
As a fertile young thing ... when I started regularly having sex with my first boyfriend I told him to wear a condom AND pull out. Why did he put up with me? Probably cause I give phenomenal head, but that's another story. If the guy isn't wearing a condom (which is extremely rare with me) then he is required to pull out. The only time a guy has cum inside of me without a condom I didn't really feel it. In fact I kept going (I was on top). Facials: Not for me. Just eh..not my cup of tea. On my chest and stomach? Sure. Fun times. Guys get a kick out of it and I sorta like it too. Can't say I've worn it all day. All night, yeah. In fact, one of my bras still smells like my ex....

RetroMarilynGeek

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what do you consider sex? what makes you not a virgin? Posted: 1/10/2005 12:35:45 AM
i think the only opinion that matter is your own Hrrrm well if you're having an intimate conversation with a new bf/gf and they ask "Are you a virgin?" it's a good idea to know what they mean. I consider a person causing another person to orgasm to be sex. (If that grammatically made sense) But of course after you lose your virginity this becomes acceptable. But if you are a virgin then nothing is sex until you are actually penetrated. Technically what makes a woman not a virgin is her hymen being broken. That's what doctors mean when they ask if you're a virgin. But hmm...I would recommend you all watch the scene from Chasing Amy where they're discussing lesbian sex and virginity on the swings. I've personally had sex with my ex-fiancee without penetration. It was about both intimacy and personal satisfaction but it was considered sex because ... well cause we'd actually done the real thing before. It all depends on context!!! gives up

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what's your type? Posted: 1/10/2005 12:25:38 AM
Before I forget! e f g a little h I'm definitely a C with a bit of c and f in me. Definitely h, too. Come get me, boys.

RetroMarilynGeek

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THOSE DAYS Posted: 1/9/2005 11:57:59 PM
A dose of reality may be what she needs, but I've had these days, too. It's hard to see outside of your own perceptions if they're so dark. Humans are very emotional creatures and sometimes reality matters very little to us.

RetroMarilynGeek

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Seperated and dating Posted: 1/9/2005 11:43:53 PM
MHereFL: That's my big thing. When my mom slept with my bio dad I felt really betrayed and like she had cheated on my dad because technically that's what she did. Also, when do you all think that it's over in God's eyes? Or is that another thread?

RetroMarilynGeek

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An arranged marriage is not an alliance...it is changing ownership....... Posted: 1/9/2005 9:28:02 AM
Maybe she was a girl with half a brain in her head and realized arranged marriages mostly don't work out. There's no love involved and that's what makes a marriage work. Hmmm you would treat your wife like a burden and you wonder why you're still single. I'm thinking this girl isn't dumb and knows you have this view about women. What girl WOULD want to get into a situation like that? I'd be a nun just to get out of it. You say pre-marital sex is frowned upon? What about the prostitution you were talking about? I guess that's all right. Not only is that ILLEGAL where I live but it is HIGHLY frowned upon. Goodness gracious this is all too much. If you ARE looking for an arranged marriage and are sort of modern about it (not like brraman) I'd recommend thiswebsitewillchangeyourlife.com. They do modern arranged marriages and I would seriously consider one. Visit the website anyway! Me

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going on a friendly date Posted: 1/9/2005 9:18:17 AM
The whole "meeting his mates" thing sends off danger signals in my brain. "Danger, danger Will Robinson!" does crazy robot arms If he's around just you and his guy friends, chances are he's not going to be too nice. Guys act completely different around their friends compared to how he'd act when you're alone. Still if things aren't too serious between you two and you don't really care about him being nice to you then the whole group thing might be nice. It would create some good memories most likely. Another good idea would be bringing some of your girlfriends with you. Maybe they'll find themselves a lad to lust after as well.

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The Posted: 1/9/2005 9:15:24 AM
The old attage Nice guys finish last will always ring true I think. Pssh. Not for me, hun. I'm over the whole bad boy scene. They're unreliable and mostly untrustworthy. I know it's every girl's fantasy to tame a wild one, but it very very rarely happens and the heartbreak you'll most likely end up with isn't worth the nights of drunken sex. The "nice guy" thing is a requirement in my book.

RetroMarilynGeek

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The Posted: 1/9/2005 9:13:03 AM
Of course, typical, single mother using the kid as an excuse. Not that I'd know but I'd imagine it could come in handy. But I'm a kid of a single parent and you've got to understand that her kid will always come first. At least if she's the type of woman worth having. As for the whole "date as friends" thing. I've not done that in a while. Usually guys express sexual interest in me when they ask for a date. Hehe however there's this one guy that I'm working on right now that I really like and mostly the reason I like him is because he won't date me. I figure he's worth having if he's got standards that high, right?

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Things aren't what they used to be sigh Posted: 1/9/2005 9:06:29 AM
I'm sorry. Maybe I'm too feminist but I personally would never be fulfilled that way. But that's just who I am. I'm a very independent woman and I've never based my life plans on getting married and having kids and all that rot. The only way an arrangement like that could work was if the couple really and truly loved each other. This is similar to the Christian doctrine that wives should submit to their husbands but the Bible also says the man should cherish his wife. Submitting to your husband can only turn out for the good if he has your best interests in mind, too. "What he has been through all day" Puh-lease! ANY stay at home mom has a tougher job than any office gig. A man goes to work, sits at a desk all days and is brought coffee by his secretary? Meanwhile the wife is at home cleaning up after sick kids (puke, changing diapers), cleaning up the house, making everyone nutritous meals, making sure they learn good social habits. The list goes on and on! And now today's modern woman is expected to do SO much more. Some have jobs, some do the PTA, some volunteer or do work in their churches! But hey, let's put everything on hold because he may have had a stressful day. Malarkey in my opinion. "Never question his integrity." It's this kind of blind obedience that led to so many unsatisfied housewives in suburbia in the fifties. Most women weren't satisfied living that kind of life. I've only known a few that were. SIGH Okay I'm calming down now. Bottom line: If this sort of life makes you happy, then that's awesome. More power to you. But independent and modern women shouldn't have to follow the same strictures simply because "that's the way it's done." I for one am glad for women's lib. After all, why would God have given us such great capacity for intellect if all He meant for us to do was birth children and maintain a home? Tell all this to Condoleeza Rice, Maya Angelou and other famous women.

RetroMarilynGeek

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to cyber sex or not is the question?? Posted: 1/9/2005 8:54:20 AM
Don't worry gab I get it all the time. I have a regular friend and every time he IMs me he wants me to watch him jerk off. The thing is for guys is that they love their dicks and they love being watched even more. It's a really intimate act and guys want that, too. Even though they won't admit it. Yeah, manners are what it's all about. When guys IM me wanting me to watch I politely decline. I'm just not into that sort of thing with strangers. With guys I know and lust after? That's a completely different subject. wink

RetroMarilynGeek

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Where would a guy find a deep thinking light hearted poet? Posted: 1/9/2005 8:48:50 AM
I prefer the groupie route myself. There are plenty of local bands here in Knoxville and once you get to know one person, you're in. Bookstore idea: AWESOME! I've done that before. I was in the horror section or whatever and I noticed this guy was following me. A purple-spike haired cutie. ANYWAY! Enough of that. I would definitely recommend the open mic nite. Do you write poetry yourself? Bring some along with you that isn't incredibly personal but thought-provoking. The "Borrowing" idea is good, too. Especially if the poet isn't that popular. It shows you have a real deep interest in the subject instead of just skimming the surface. Just my humble opinions. PS I write poetry...

RetroMarilynGeek

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Seperated and dating Posted: 1/6/2005 10:51:37 PM
Boy do I have something to say about this. My mom is separated from my dad and the divorce IS going to happen. However, she recently hooked back up with my biological father (douche that he is) and slept with him when he came to town for my graduation (so glad I could facilitate that for them.) I felt extremely dirty about the whole situation since she took it upon herself to tell me about it. I feel that legally they are still married and she could have at least had enough respect for the sanctity of marrige to wait a few months. I feel like I have no reason to respect the holiness of marriage in God's eyes anymore. I'm sort of actually broken hearted about it. cries in a corner ANYWAY! I would think it would be best to wait to have any sort of romantic relationship until everything is official. Then move in for the kill!!!!

RetroMarilynGeek

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Has this happend to you? Posted: 1/6/2005 10:43:10 PM
Oh this happens to me all the time. Psycho guys. I went out with this one guy and it got to "that point" in the night and he got really really mad looking when I turned him on. Still, you'd have a problem keeping calm if a young lovely like me came out of the bathroom and threw her gstring at you, would you not? Guys get on here and lie to me and think I won't figure it out. This one guy just IMed me that I talked to about a year ago (I guess he forgot but I don't forget faces) and he told me it was his roommate talking to me on his SN. I caught him in his lie and he still wanted to meet up. Some guys... I wouldn't give up on dating sites though. I've met at least two really nice guys off of this one and I've only been on it for a few months... Keep the faith.

RetroMarilynGeek

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Saggy Boobs Posted: 1/6/2005 10:37:45 PM
Just do what giggle? I'm at your command. ;) Yeah...the old knockers are feeling a bit neglected. Anyone want to keep them company?

RetroMarilynGeek

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Dealbreakers Posted: 1/6/2005 10:28:59 PM
Hunting and eating the meat = totally hott. Hunting and stuffing the kill and hanging it over your mantle to feel more manly = dumb. Don't you love my bogus math equations?

RetroMarilynGeek

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women are more logical then men...... Posted: 1/6/2005 10:18:39 PM
Gah...don't ever ask guys what they're thinking. You probably don't want to know. I onl do that to be cute.

RetroMarilynGeek

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is it just me or are many people realy bitter on this site??? Posted: 1/6/2005 9:42:33 PM
I know what you guys mean. Sometimes I post things and I go back and I'm like "daaaaang I wouldn't message me either." Hopefully someone will catch me on one of my few good days. Today is a good day despite all the crap that has happened

RetroMarilynGeek

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Saggy Boobs Posted: 1/5/2005 8:28:05 PM
I asked my friend what to name mine and she said "Princess Sophia" I didn't get that til later. Giggleparts....mmm....what parts make YOU giggle? PS I know that story. What a HOLLYWOOD ENDING!

RetroMarilynGeek

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Re: What Turns You Off?? Posted: 1/5/2005 8:25:23 PM
I can understand the appeal of boobs. I want to feel some just for fun...sht..now I'm turned on. thinks about Jesus suffering on the cross*

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Saggy Boobs Posted: 1/5/2005 7:33:14 PM
I got you beat. I named my vagina. twiddles thumbs innocently

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Saggy Boobs Posted: 1/5/2005 7:11:33 PM
I feel like a little young whelp of a tart.... But my boobs don't change when I take my bra off. 38C and perky in and out. I guess if they got bigger (and I wish they would) I guess they'd get saggier. waits for inbox to fill up

RetroMarilynGeek

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Back Hair.. Posted: 1/1/2005 6:32:56 PM
I'm sort of a Southern belle myself...when I need to be. Yankees and their newfangled grooming idears.

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Opinion ===- Mailing a Poem, to do or not? Posted: 1/1/2005 6:30:07 PM
DragonRider>>Wisdom from such a lovely package. How rare. "Carpe diem" "Just do it" "Life is short" "Get this weasel off my face." Send it! Take a chance!

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dating for dumbys like me...)-; Posted: 1/1/2005 6:26:11 PM
More mainstream in his look? Not hardly. You dress all nice and proper and the girl is going to get the wrong impression. I dress the way I want to all the time ... unless I'm just with one guy. But see, the guy I want wouldn't want me to change the way I look, he'd be entranced with it. Don't forget, that bad boy image is hott.

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The Option Is On The Table.. Take or Leave It? Posted: 1/1/2005 6:22:06 PM
Of course you're always going to think of her. She was a huge part of your life and you had a child together. But thinking of someone and throwing your life away over them are two different things. You need to be straight with this new girl. Unless she has been through something similar she probably does not understand what this ex means to you and probably thinks you're exaggerating. Luckily enough I got my heart broken (or broke it myself) very young.

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Back Hair.. Posted: 1/1/2005 6:08:09 PM
It seems the more modern we get the less hair we want. Used to be...(hey do you guys remember?) chest hair was a sign of masculinity. I like a little bit, especially if it leads down into a happy trail. Back hair? Uhm..not generally a problem though too much is gross. I dated a guy once that had it and bah. He was still a hottie. But if the dirtiness of the hair leads to body odor. Turnoff.

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How to meet someone on Plentyoffish Posted: 1/1/2005 6:04:13 PM
What I do: Use complete sentences. This way if the guy is scared by "intellectual" girls, I'll weed them out. :) I post a pic on my profile and try to add some of the more attractive ones as I go along. I sort of go with a no-pressure style so they don't think I'm a stalker....little do they know....jk. What they can do: Use complete sentences. It really shows intelligence and effort on the guy's part. I will respond to a guy without pics in his profile but his profile would have to be pretty interesting. Even the "hey good, lookin. wanna get luckee?" messages get a polite "no" from me. In general just tell us all a little about what you do, what you like, your little quirks.

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What'd I do?? Posted: 1/1/2005 5:56:37 PM
All right so my plans with my main squeeze fell through and I was getting restless anyway so I called my friend Seth to see if he would come get me. So I go to list of recent calls and hit the number for my date instead of the number for Seth. Let's get this clear, honeys. Seth is gay. So I say into the phone "Hey you still want to come get me?" Yeah...the confusion ensues. Did I do anything wrong? Was I supposed to stay in just because my date wasn't able to see me? Just wondering.

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shaving Posted: 12/31/2004 8:49:03 PM
It always piques my interest to know that a guy is. I wonder why he would want to and ... I don't know. It honestly seems a little gay to me. Like a manly man would be all hairy and expect you to deal with it. But then again, it is REALLY nice to not have to pick hairs out of your teeth. Annnnyway...I should be quiet now.

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Endurance Posted: 12/31/2004 8:45:23 PM
Tay: Your response caused a bit of warmth down below. Yeah, I'm thinking with this new guy (he's much older and probably more experienced) there's a better chance of this working out. This is sort of why I've been toying with the idea of older men for a while. Still, maybe I'm just not sensitive enough to appreciate what they do. I was with a guy 8 years older than me recently and I assumed he would be better at it. Still no luck. What's wrong with me???

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dating for dumbys like me Posted: 12/31/2004 8:33:03 PM
I'm totally into guys that are themselves. Especially if that "themself" is really unusual or just sort of out there. Guys that like me for me, that's what's hot. Yeah, flashy things are nice I guess and they're fun but I don't require that my man have them. It was sort of cool when I was dating a more wealthy guy though. I sort of got bragging rights.

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So, what IS the sexiest thing about the opposite sex?Opionions anyone? Posted: 12/31/2004 8:30:11 PM
Guys: hair (I'm a hair freak), hands and voice. MmmMMmmm I don't care HOW huge Barry White (RIP) was, he could turn on any lady with his deep soulful voice. paws through CDs Girls: hair once again, any punk/goth/emo status (I fiend for the weird chicks) and the way they dress. If I look at a girl's wardrobe and say "Hey I wish I had that!" I'll probably be attracted to them. Intellectually though, if someone of either gender can make me think or make me laugh, they're a shoe-in. Or if they're a Jack Black clone...they're mine!

RetroMarilynGeek

Joined: 9/21/2004

Msg: 3 (view)

Endurance Posted: 12/31/2004 8:25:46 PM
Most women can't orgasm through vaginal stimulation I've heard that's true but I was wondering if there was any way to make it more likely that I would.

RetroMarilynGeek

Joined: 9/21/2004

Msg: 85 (view)

WHO HERE LOVES IT WET! Posted: 12/31/2004 8:24:17 PM
Yeah I've got a male friend who is obsessed with this. I thought it was a myth. I used to think I was able to do it ... then I discovered it wasn't cum coming out....THAT was embarassing. hides under a rock "And I never saw him again..."

RetroMarilynGeek

Joined: 9/21/2004

Msg: 1 (view)

Endurance Posted: 12/31/2004 8:21:14 PM
My new main squeeze and I were talking about endurance during sex. Like a man being able to do it for a long time. The problem is ... I've heard it before from other guys and when we get in the sack they're minute men. WHY?? Also, I have yet to orgasm from vaginal intercourse. Me being so young and all I don't see this as being a problem but I was wondering if you guys thought prolonged intercourse could be the answer. Tell me all, you so much older and wiser than I!

RetroMarilynGeek

Joined: 9/21/2004

Msg: 7 (view)

What women are looking for on POF Posted: 12/31/2004 8:17:27 PM
I agree with indigorose. A lot of guys are looking for a short-term thing so I put the same. I'm not ready to settle down and get married yet, but I would like to be with someone for a while. Get that whole "in the groove" thing going on.

RetroMarilynGeek

Joined: 9/21/2004

Msg: 15 (view)

Dating Politics Posted: 12/31/2004 8:13:41 PM
End the politics, everyone! Any guy I know can tell you I'm not into those. I call...sometimes too much. But I hardly let that stop me. Do not despair, PoP. There are still warrior princesses out there to sweep you off your animated feet. "I have Napoleon Dynamite on Dvd..." "+2 for favorable conditions"

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